When Shit Happens, Part 2

I have been writing about THE WHY behind problems and suffering for a long time, such as this blog post, “When Manifestation Doesn’t Work: https://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com/2016/03/17/why-shit-happens-or-doesnt/ . (See also the many more relevant blog posts in the links listed at the end.) 

Tenants from Hell

Yet, here I am forced to revisit this topic once more because I have been dealing with a very stressful situation for the past year with tenants living on my 68 acre farm. Initially, I thought that this couple was an answer to my prayers for tenants that would be “better than the best I could possibly imagine” . I was praying to manifest renters that would have a variety of useful skills, a willingness to help me on the farm and commit to work a minimum of 10 hours per week at an agreed rate. I wanted tenants who would share my desire to create a somewhat self-sustaining and supportive mini community for these highly unstable times. 

This couple presented themselves to be the ideal fit by claiming to have the skills, the willingness and enthusiastic agreement with both my voiced vision and the desire to share in projects that I wanted to accomplish over the next year. Yet, instead of a dream come true, it turned into nightmare as their facade, their voiced intentions, their background turned out to be a total sham. Communication was very difficult. Agreements were broken.

Very quickly after moving in, this couple tried to usurp my authority as landlord, violating multiple terms of the lease and pre-established policies. The man frequently did not show up for work nor call to tell me why. Both parties rarely answered their phones or returned phone calls, emails, text messages. Through continuous harassment, they tried to prevent myself, workmen or tenants from walking or driving down my own farm road that bordered on their rental space. They even tried to insist upon a buffer zone that would allow them privacy from even eyesight of their cabin. What were they hiding?

Reason, logic, and respectful dialog with them was impossible, and I was completely baffled by their behavior. They refused to accept my wishes or attempts to explain the lease and policies. I was confused, frustrated about being unable to get through to them, and they were causing chaos, increasing tension and division on the farm.

Things came to a head when only six months in, they built a wooden ‘glass blowing’ shed and attached it to the 1880’s log cabin they were renting – a shed in which they would be using an open flame torch. This was a massive insurance risk, fire code violation, and in direct opposition to my instructions. Unfortunately, I was unable to address this as I had to fly out on an extended trip in a few days. When I returned a month later, I discovered that they had started erecting a two-story addition onto the home. And although I absolutely did not want ANY construction on my property, they proceeded not just without my permission, but without the permit that would have been required, and in violation of building codes and insurance. They incessantly lied that I had given them permission to erect both additions on to my house.

When I objected to what they had done, myself and my workmen were subjected to intense intimidation and threats requiring the intervention of the Sheriff. Finding their behavior and actions intolerable, I served them with an eviction notice. Both tenants were dishonest, in complete defiance of my wishes, emotionally unstable, unpredictable and potentially dangerous. When they refused to move three months later, I turned to the court with a hearing scheduled for the following month. Their response was to hire a lawyer and countersue me for thousands of dollars based totally on lies. So I then needed to hire a lawyer, and things were further delayed.

That’s when I found out that they both had a criminal background. Suddenly their extreme need for privacy and threats of physical violence if I or my workmen entered their rental space made sense. Were they still involved in some criminal activity and doing so on my property?

Things got increasingly ugly to where the Sheriff had to be called again recently because another workman and myself were threatened with physical violence when we were on my own farm road – not their rental space – in order to cut away a tree blocking the road and look at the entrance gate. Their lawyer filed an injunction against me, which fortunately, the judge knocked down. However, the eviction hearing won’t be heard for another few weeks.

So here I am a full 6 1/2 months after first serving them notice to move out. My time and energy has been consumed with research and documentation for such court proceedings. And it has been expensive. The emotional drain has been the worst finding that as a landlord you have less rights than the tenant, and can be powerless to control what you own while you still hold all the financial responsibilities.

So how or why did this happen? What made my manifestation efforts go so horribly wrong?

  • Did I have bad karma? Or did I have a karmic relationship with one or both of these people?
  • Did I fail to do due diligence by not getting a background check?
  • Was I too gullible? 
  • Was I too confident in my own instincts to know a good person from one who is not?
  • Was I still carrying left over baggage from some previous tenants that had not worked out?
  • Was I so smitten because they said everything I wanted to hear, that I did not take sufficient time to find out who they actually were?
  • Was I vulnerable because I had never met malicious narcissists before and did not recognize the signs?
  • Was I too much in a hurry to re-rent the place and get much needed income?
  • Was my lease current and hole proof?
  • Was this part of a soul contract to hold them accountable?
  • Was this part of a soul lesson for me?
  • Was this scripted into my life plan?

While there is some merit to the Law of Attraction and “you create your own reality”, to reduce all causation to what you were or were not thinking or feeling is not only blaming, but massively simplistic. It misses the bigger picture. All the positive thoughts in the world do not eliminate other factors – factors such as inexperience, ignorance, the will, agenda or intention of others, the community in which you live, the higher intention of Divine Spirit, and the problem of evil.

Another perspective is that of Panache Desai, who says that

“everything you’ve gone through you’ve gone through to help another human being, to be of service to the world ….it is not personal.” 

While I don’t believe that service to others is the reason why shit happens, deliberately turning your personal misfortune into helping someone else either avoid a similar problem, or to help him deal with it in an easier, faster way is a powerful way of healing your own pain. Turn the trauma of drama into a blessing for someone else, and it will bless you as well. Wring some good out of it. My skill as a hypnotherapist and dowser specializing in mental/emotional healing is a direct result of what I have learned of value from my own painful or stressful experiences.

In a scene from the movie, Gone With The Wind, Scarlett O’Hara frantically goes out to the garden to find something, anything to eat. She finds a carrot and rips it out of the ground, and then shakes her fist at Heaven to declare that she will never be hungry again. She uses her hunger to declare what she wants to experience and fuels it with forceful energy, thus fulfilling the basics of manifestation: clear thought + strong emotion.

Make a decision that a blessing or gift is going to come out of your problem. You then will be looking for it or deliberately create one. Or as the saying goes,

when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”

Painful experiences push us to seek help. They may be precisely what we need to change course in our life – to stop what we are doing, or to start what we are not doing (get off the couch). The 12-Step Programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous, say that is in ‘hitting bottom’ that the road out of addiction begins. And it precisely those who struggled with addiction and became clean and sober that can be the most help to others wanting to do the same. Pain is a powerful motivator to heal. But the personal growth that occurs as a result goes way beyond the resolution of a particular problem, but spills over into many other areas as well.

Recently, I was listening to a sermon by Dean Wolfe, Rector of St. Bartholomew’s Church in Manhattan on the topic of suffering. Rev. Wolfe quotes St. Paul as saying that

”suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope. And hope does not disappoint us because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit.”

According to St. Paul God does not test us, or allow us to be tested beyond our endurance, but provides a way out for us. St. Peter even says that

“persecution is a kind of testing to develop a deeper belief in Christ, to strengthen character, and to deepen commitment to God.” 

Over the past two weeks I was so stressed out that I felt that I was at my breaking point. I have NEVER been brought so low. Besides being threatened again by my tenants, they initiated an emergency hearing for a Court Injunction based totally on lies in an effort to ban me off my own road, and extract significant financial damages from me. But out of it, I dug down much deeper within myself to anchor firmly on the truth of who I am (“a powerful, spiritual Being endowed with dignity, direction and purpose”). This is along the lines of the hymn ‘My Hope is Built on Nothing Less’, (https://my.hymnary.org/song/dynamic/36/my_hope_is_built_on_nothing_less?toolkit=veroviostatic  :

“On Christ the solid rock I stand. All other ground is sinking sand.”  

This saying is not just for Christians, but for all people to find the rock, the truths, the things of substance upon which they can rely and which support them to weather severe emotional storms. Jordan Peterson asks “where do you derive your values?” 

Peterson also says that the predator is calling the prey to be a better version of itself. What must you become? He says that you should and can be more than you are. In my own case, I was called to reclaim my power, my authority as landlord, and forcefully to declare ownership of what is rightfully mine. I am also being called to be a prayer warrior. 

Courtney Brown, Director of the Farsight Institute in their Farsight Intelligence Briefing March 2022: How to REALLY Create Your Own Reality TRAILER ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8IUTzRS2eNk ) points out yet another value to shit happening. He says that is is only by clearly seeing the negative that you can know what you want to create instead.

You have to know what you don’t want to know what you do want.”  

He claims that just ignoring the negative and thinking only positive thoughts keeps you a slave to those who are doing bad things. You can only navigate through life when you clearly see reality – the good and the bad. It is the contrast between them that is essential to creating the reality you want. 

Indeed,it is the awareness of things that could go wrong that leads engineers to design better, safer, more reliable products, that has parents teaching their children to look both ways before they cross the street, and that requires training for people wanting to drive a vehicle or fly a plane. And it was precisely because of experiencing the abuses of power that our Founding Fathers built certain protections and limitations on government when they constructed our own Constitution and Bill of Rights. Awareness of problems in the past and the potential for negative to happen again when joined with alertness and prudent care or action is protective.

So while we each may wish to avoid problems and just have a pleasant life with everything ‘coming of roses’, such a life will never push us to reach our full potential, develop our character, and grow in wisdom and strength, and be a beacon of hope and a role model for our children. 

So should we be grateful for our problems?

Well….I might not go that far, at least not until after the matter has been resolved and we are on the other side of the blessing. Then, we just maybe will see how much we grew as a result and have perspective.

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