Releasing Anger Example

Applying what you know (or think you do!)

This is a rewrite of an article originally written and posted July 9, 2017

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The bad news is that when you write a book on anything, especially mine entitled Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone, the time of sustained focus required to write a book may bring about an experience to apply what you know (or think you do).

(Don’t you just love the Law of Attraction!)

The good news is that you do know (or should know) something to harness that energy constructively and then move it out of your system more quickly than you did in the past.

Think of it as the universe giving you AN EXAM. 

Here is an OPPORTUNITY to prove:

  • Do you know what you are talking about?
  • Or have you just been spouting nice sounding platitudes, airy-fairy nothings, intellectual but useless, impractical, untested, unproven ideas and information? 
  • Do your techniques actually work and make a positive difference?
  • Is there more yet to learn?
  • How can you set things up to avoid similar problems in the future?

So on June 29, 2017, a tenant, as she was moving out of my house, left water running in the upstairs bathroom. Gallons of water poured down from the second floor to the first floor living room, and down to the basement below. Rugs including a large Oriental, a mattress, books, furniture and other things got wet. Almost half of the living room ceiling had to be replaced, and as repairs were later made, drywall dust was everywhere. Most everything  had to be boxed up and moved out of the living room along with the furniture.

Likewise, two basement rooms were disrupted in order to mop up the water and get things out of harm’s way. So not only was my living room unusable for more than a month but so was the dining room and hall, and those two basement rooms as well. 

Immediately taking a long view of the problem, I knew that regardless of how much time, energy, work and out-of pocket expense would be involved, regardless of the bad timing and other demands upon me both health wise and financially, the problem would be eventually fixed, and the house would be restored to it’s former beauty. In other words, the problem was temporary. That tenant is now fully gone from my house, and I have a new, wonderful person living here. I had workmen who would help me clean up the mess.

fullsizeoutput_2cI knew that I needed to harness the anger into constructive action. So I called the appropriate people to get the help and advice I needed, and start and supervise the work.

In the meantime, I did a lot of the Infinite Intelligence Process that I wrote about in my book Accessing More to both dump stress and access my internal guidance and wisdom within.

I did EFT tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique), dowsing for emotional healing, and meditation because I did not want the anger to poison me or cause my health to further deteriorate. Plus, I wanted any and all possible contributory factors resolved.

I also did not want to project my anger back to my former tenant as it would then be a curse on her head. Because I believe that we are all connected, the corollary is that what I send out comes back to me.

To help shift my attention, I focused on what I had to be grateful for. What was left? What was good? 

  • Well, certainly the damage could have been much worse.
    • Luckily, I was only away from the house for an hour. Many other precious items in my living room and basement were not ruined even if some got wet, but would have been otherwise.
  • Help was immediately available. 
    • Two farm workers were here that day who immediately came in and helped move furniture, mop up the water, take the worst of the ceiling down, and set up fans to dry everything out to lessen the chance of mold.
    • I quickly located and hired a drywall laborer to reinstall new sheetrock and to paint.
    • A friend put me in touch with a cleaning lady who came after the ceiling was repaired. She helped me take down, wash and rehang all curtains in the living and dining room, wash, dust and vacuum everything on the ground floor and upstairs hallway. The net result was that I ended up with a much cleaner house.
    • My insurance agent came quickly, and although I did not file a claim for various reasons, I got the information I needed. 

Throughout the process, I asked myself:

  • What could I learn and how could I grow from this experience?
  • How I could prevent something like this happening in the future?
  • What I might have done differently that might have prevented it?

In other words, I was actively looking to pull a blessing out of the experience. 

To get all my anger and everything off of my chest I wrote a letter to my tenant. But after writing and rewriting it, I read it to a close friend who is also a lawyer for her input. What upset me most was that my tenant took no responsibility for her actions. Instead she was just blaming me. I felt it necessary that she understand the ramifications of her negligence so she be more careful elsewhere. This stopped the imaginary conversations of what I wished I said to her from continuing to loop in my head.

I learned long ago that:

  1. writing letters that you do not send acts as if you did. It allows you to get everything off of your chest as if you really did say what you wanted to say to them.
  2. pause before sending anything in writing, and then only if you must. Less is better. The written word lasts forever, where spoken ones are quickly forgotten.
  3. Groaning over damage done and what cannot therefore be changed (what’s done is done) is a waste of precious energy. You need to conserve that energy in order to stay healthy and to address the problem.
  4. Complaining to people who cannot help you is an immediate, very short term vent, but counterproductive otherwise.

In fact, complaining or venting beyond the immediate time frame can just be a

  • ploy for sympathy as the ‘victim‘.
  • It can be revenge by getting other people to hate your adversary as well.
  • It can be a substitute for any real action–an excuse not to do anything.
  • It can be justification for your own mistakes and
  • avoidance of any responsibility for what happened, and
  • avoidance of the need to change personally.

Best to talk only to those that can offer some good information and advice while remaining detached emotionally from your issue. And then listen with an open mind.

Only clear eyed, detached processing of everything that happened and why without jumping to attaching blame is helpful. Then accept what can not be changed, create an action plan, and get to work immediately. As you see progress, the quicker your rage will die down.

Personally, I would have loved to had someone just hold me. But since I don’t have a partner, I grabbed a cat and snuggled with him. I sat with my piggies. I hugged my dogs. I looked up at the sky. I picked up and talked to the toads. I noticed some of the abundant sweetness that is on my farm. I remembered that I am loved, that I have meaning and purpose in this world, that this is a beautiful place, and I am choosing to be alive and present. 

At other times and places, I may have made love, watched funny movies, gone dancing or done something nice with friends just to discharge energy and regroup. But what is important is that you actively do something.

There is always something still left to enjoy and appreciate—even a memory to lift your spirit. 

  • Did I pass? I think so.
  • Will I do things differently in future? Absolutely!
  • Will I forget the lessons? No.
  • Can what I learned help someone else? Yes, I know so.

Copyright 8/2018 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

Central Virginia Dowsers Newsletter 8/18/18

EDUCATOR of the YEAR’ Award

presented to Roxanne Louise from the American Society of Dowsers at their June, 2018 conference at New Paltz, New York. Roxanne was also accepted as a Member of the Board of Trustees.

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1. Free Water Dowsing Teleconference, sponsored by the American Society of Dowsers, every 3rd Monday of the month at 8 PM Eastern time each with a different expert water dowser. Recording available to members afterwards at dowsers.org. Next call is August 20, then September 17, October 15, November 19, December 17. To listen in on the call dial 641-715-0866, then enter passcode 175681#. 

2. Free  “Discover Dowsing Teleconference”, Tuesday, August 21 at 8 PM. Recording available to members afterwards at dowsers.org. Roxanne Louise will interview Susan McNeill Spuhler on “Dowsing for Missing Persons, Pets and Items”.  Other speakers/topics for September 18, October 16, November 20, and December 18 to be announced later. Dial (712) 775-7035, then enter Participant Code  436564#.

3. Free Central Virginia Dowsers MEETING in Charlottesville, Sunday, September 9 from 1:15-4 PM. Presentation by Roxanne Louise “Hypnosis for Dowsing”Future topics to be announced for October 14 and November 11 (no meeting in December). 

LOCATION: Senior Center, 491 Hillsdale Drive (street name change – was Pepsi Place) at the corner of Greenbriar (Rt. 29 Northbound), Charlottesville VA 22901. 

Experience hypnosis with multiple suggestions for dowsing successfully and releasing limiting beliefs that interfere. Then learn to quickly go in and out of hypnosis YOURSELF to center, clarify your dowsing intention, and get into a productive dowsing frame of mind. Hypnotically have an anchor installed that triggers the right dowsing of mind every time you pick up your dowsing tools. 

4.  Free Dowsing Support & Continuing Education Teleconference, through the American Society of Dowsers. Every second Tuesday at 8 PM Eastern Time (US). Tuesday, September 12, 8 PM, October 9, November 13, and December 11.  Each month Roxanne Louise assisted by 1-2 other dowsers provides basic dowsing instruction followed by answering questions on any aspect of dowsing. For beginners to advanced. Dial (641) 715-0873, then enter Participant Code 335033#.

20180629_NF:EG award.jpgDECADES of Dedicated Service Award to the West Coast Dowsers 

Our own Elizabeth Gaines and Nicolas Finck won this prestigious award at the July West Coast Dowsers Conference .

I am thrilled that both are now in Virginia helping to run the Central Virginia Dowsers. Nicolas Finck was the originator of the San Francisco dowsing chapter for ASD many years ago. They both have done yeoman work, especially Elizabeth this year at West Coast, all as volunteers. Congratulations! Very well deserved!!!

RECORDINGS AVAILABLE:

American Society of Dowsers Conference, June 13-17, New Paltz, New York. Video and audio recordings avaIlable for purchase of seminars but not workshops afterwards. Call 802-684-3417 or contact www.dowsers.org.

West Coast Dowsers Conference, June 29-July 3, Santa Cruz, California. Video and/or audio recordings avaIlable for purchase of seminars but not workshops afterwards. Contact http://www.dowserswestcoast.org/about-us.html

PLEASE LIKE OUR FACEBOOK PAGE Central Virginia Dowsers 

ROXANNE LOUISE is the Founder and Director of Central Virginia Dowsers. She is aided in large part by NICOLAS FINCK and his wife, ELIZABETH GAINES.

Roxanne acts as Facilitator for the Dowsing Support calls as well as the Discover Dowsing Teleconference Calls. In addition to being a dowser specializing in mental/emotional healing, mind-body issues, habit change, and general problem solving, she is a hypnotherapist who has received 5 national awards including a lifetime achievement from the largest hypnosis organization in the world. She speaks at several hypnosis and dowsing conferences yearly, and has written 8 books on hypnosis, dowsing, Reiki, and self-help. She runs Central Virginia Dowsers based in Charlottesville. Her website is www.RoxanneLouise.com. Her blog with over 118 articles on dowsing, mind-body connection, stress/anger management, and more is UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com. You can reach her at 434-263-4337

 

National Guild of Hypnotist Convention

I have been attending this convention (the largest in the world) every year since 1989, and have yearly been included as a presenter since 1991!!! This year I presented the following: a workshop on “Hypnosis for Mind-Body Healing–Finding and Eliminating the Mental and Emotional Drivers of Disease”, and also a seminar on “Pendulum Dowsing or Hypnotists –Powerful Investigative/Healing/Business Tool!” For information on how you can purchase recordings of any of the talks, contact 603-429-9438, or ngh@ngh.net. 

NGH 2018 photo This photo was taken at the Banquet Photo Shoot. You see me wearing a metal indicating that I was inducted into the Order of Braid, named after James Braid. It is a prestigious Lifetime Achievement Award that I received in 2011. 

James Braid was a surgeon from Scotland (1795-1860), who became one of the earliest and most important figures in the field. Some even call him the ‘father of hypnosis’ because he “removed hypnosis from the occult shadows of mesmerism, through his insights into the nature of trance.” (http://www.historyofhypnosis.org/james-braid)

Braid is also responsible for coining the term ‘hypnosis’ after Hypnos, the Greek god of sleep, because hypnotized persons may look as if they are asleep. Later, Braid realized that hypnosis is not sleep but actually very powerful, focused attention. 

I was also a Vendor at the Convention, selling my books: a complete self-hypnosis course and primer on professional hypnotherapy, stop smoking (one version for the layman, and another for the hypnotherapist to help smokers), releasing anger, therapeutic dowsing (an entire pendulum dowsing course geared to locating and clearing stuck energies and practical problem solving), Reiki (3 volumes integrating Reiki, hypnosis, pain management, and the best of mind-body healing), the Infinite Intelligence Process and more. For a full list and description see https://www.roxannelouise.com/all-books-list.html.  It is always gratifying when so many people tell me that my books are very comprehensive, extremely helpful, and some even consider them the best of their kind. Now that is thrilling!!!