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Thinking about Prosperity

04 Jun 2019 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in American Society of Dowsers, attitude, clearing non-beneficial energies, Dowsing and Self-Help, energy work, gratitude, healing your past, Law of Attraction, mental/emotional healing, problem solving, Prosperity

More than Money

“Prosperity is more than just money and things. It is first of all a feeling of wealth inside—an awareness of the vast abundance that is everywhere in nature, in your life and within yourself that you can draw upon. And this recognition provides some measure of confidence in being able to meet whatever challenges that come your way.

Prosperity includes love, friendships, networks and personal connections, as well as your own personal qualities that engender trust, respect, cooperation and help from others. While it includes your talents, skills, work experience , it also includes your unpaid life experience, the way you think and approach a challenge. It includes your creativity, your belief in yourself and your ability to learn new things and solve problems. And finally, it includes your health, sense of humor, joy, fun, appreciation and gratitude. All these things together generate a sense of fullness, satisfaction, security within yourself, and, therefore, a measure of peace of mind.

The recognition that you do have something to work with relieves stress, which is vital to being able to connecting to your inner guidance from which to generate ideas of what to do and where to start. Then the attitude of gratitude provides the energy conducive to good fortune as does love and enthusiasm for your work.

Creating prosperity is MORE than what specific actions you take or don’t take – vital as that piece is.

It requires a consciousness that is open to wealth in all its forms.

This means becoming aware of and then healing any discomfort, negative beliefs, judgments or fears about money, wealth or yourself so that there is a willingness to receive, hold, invest and expand upon what you have. It requires feeling worthy. It requires a compelling vision of a better future that motivates you into needed and sustainable action, and a belief that you can learn whatever is necessary and overcome any problems to bring it forth. And it includes a willingness to share or give something in return so that there is a flow instead of a blockage of energy.

Some people are good at part but not all parts of the equation.

They may generate money, but then squander it and lose it as quickly perhaps out of fear, guilt or unworthiness. Others are very frugal and careful in spending, but seem almost allergic to receiving, asking for a fair return for their services or seeking out better income-making opportunities. Perhaps there was trauma around money, or past life vows of poverty, or a belief that wealthy people are evil, or a belief that it is dangerous to have money, that someone will try to take it away from you, or that having more than your friends and loved ones would cost you their love and acceptance.

Some people are so fixated on their problems that they don’t see possibilities, they don’t see that it just might be a growth opportunity. The energy they need to solve their current problems is drained from any number of emotions, some of which have been held for things that happened (or didn’t) many years prior— grief, blame, shame, anger, guilt remorse, hopelessness, or feeling like a victim. Not seeing hope, they are not proactive in seeking whatever help they need or in taking effective action.

Dowsing can assist to find and resolve the root cause of prosperity issues.

This may be in the areas of generating, retaining, investing or increasing money, giving and sharing wisely. It can be in healing trauma, negative beliefs, judgments, fears and other energetic blocks. Dowsing can also assist to set up a strategy for action and overcoming challenges.

Free American Society of Dowsers Teleconference “Dowsing Support & Continuing Education”, Tuesday, June 11 at 8 PM Eastern

Dial (646) 876-9923, enter Participant Code# 443-333-280, & press # at next prompt.

On the American Society of Dowsers Dowsing Support Teleconference scheduled for Tuesday, June 11, Dick Tippett and Gale West are going to address various aspects of creating prosperity and how dowsing can assist us to both generate prosperity and use our resources wisely.

In particular, Gale will talk about her connection with money as a consciousness and share how we hold money affects not only ourselves, but the energy field around us. She believes that healing our relationship with money is one of the most powerful things we can do to affect change in the world. She will give practical tools to identify energetic alignment and misalignment with money.

Dick Tippett will (as time allows) talk about clearing non-beneficial energies, emotions, thought forms, story lines, attitudes, beliefs, judgments and other prosperity blockers that include money allergy, cords, promises and vows, past lives, generation frequencies or genetic memory, and beliefs absorbed from others.

The live call is moderated by Roxanne Louise and is open to everyone to listen. There is time for Q & A at the end. It is recorded and available on the Members Only page at dowsers.org usually on the following day.

GALE WEST is an internationally known artist, entrepreneurial coach, and intuitive who brings more than 35 years of experience in human potential and as a transformational change agent. A midwife to magnificent businesses, careers and lives, she is passionate about empowering clarity of vision, right action and actively co-creating with the Divine.

She specializes in transforming personal and collective relationships to money and success through workshops, retreats, classes and breakthrough coaching. Additionally, she is certified as a consultant and teacher in the Akashic Records.

She has taught business, entrepreneurship and leadership both in China and the U.S. Her soon to be published book, “Money Come Dance with Me,” was in inspired by her communication in the Akashic records of money. It invites a new paradigm of money as the expression of Divine love in the marketplace, a guide and loving friend, and an agent for a generous and collaborative world. She has been dowsing since the early 80’s.

For a free video on money mastery and meditation on prosperity, see her website at www.sacredmoneymastery.com.

Gale can be reached at gale@sacredmoneymastery.com, 773-494-4300 USA.

RICHARD “DICK” TIPPETT has been a business manager and a consultant for most of his professional life. An Honors Program graduate of Kings Point, he holds degrees in engineering and management. He first learned to dowse from Master Dowsers Harold McCoy and Raymon Grace. Dick brought his dowsing skills into the business world, where he quickly learned that they make him more efficient, his business more profitable and his clients happier and better served.

For many years, Dick has been an active part of the West Coast Dowsing Conference. In 2018 he served as the Speaker and Special Event Coordinator for the conference and, in partnership with Gladys McCoy, again led the very successful all-day Beginning Dowsers’ School.

Dick is also the Chair of the Golden Gate Dowsers. Dick has spoken on various topics at the West Coast Dowsing Conference, at several ASD chapters, at The Ozark Research Institute and at the New Jersey Healers’ Retreat. He teaches beginning and advanced water and energy dowsing, a prosperity workshop, works to clear non-beneficial energies and heal disincarnate beings. He and his late wife, Karen Ashley, have a fine workbook that goes along with the prosperity workshop they led together.

Making Your Dreams Come True

06 Feb 2019 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, Cause and Effect, ethical business models, Ethics, goal setting, Law of Attraction, life purpose, personal achievement, prayer, The Infinite Intelligence Process

Mitch Horowitz on Goals and Manifestation

mitch-horowitz Recently I have been listening to a lot of Mitch Horowitz, speaker, author of The Miracle Club and many other books on New Thought, positive thinking, and the occult. He references many of the authors I have read over decades, reiterating what I have been practicing and teaching on goal setting and achievement including creating miracles in your life. But he says it so well, that I am going to summarize his bullet points here with my own commentary.

Basically, in order to manifest your goals and create miracles in your life:

You must have a very NARROWLY DEFINED CHIEF AIM.

This chief aim may be expressed multiple ways with smaller goals as part of the overall direction.

For example, my chief aim is to use my voice to uplift, inspire and facilitate mental and emotional healing. I do this through organizing and running teleconferences, teaching, speaking, writing, and making products. I also belong to professional organizations where I can share, develop and express my chief aim. Years ago, I followed this same chief aim through being a professional classical singer.

Your goal needs to be PASSIONATE. You need to want it MORE than other distractions.

It is this passion that will mobilize your energies to do the work and overcome challenges.

In addition to being very SPECIFIC, this goal needs to be held with SINGLE MINDED FOCUS. This will give you greater energy and stamina to push through to do what is needed.

One way to keep your focus is through visualization. Imagine any scene that would imply achievement of your goal.

You need to make a DECISION to pursue this goal now. It is not a ‘someday’.
For a goal to be authentic, it must be ACTIONABLE. You have to be able to take concrete steps in the direction of it’s achievement. It is cannot be a daydream for which you can do nothing to promote.
Your goal must be ETHICAL and in keeping with your CORE VALUES. Furthermore, if you have any partners and collaborators, everyone needs to be in alignment both with your goal and values.

If your goal is in conflict with your values and ethics, you will experience problems in achieving them or will achieve them at a price such as in health or relationships.

You need to INTELLEGENTLY PERSERVERE.

See my earlier blog “Under, Over, Around and Through” as an example of bulldog perserverence and yet also knowing when to shift direction.

PRAY for what you want. This can be a request, but it can also be a demand or even be waving your fist.

Jean Slatter calls this Hiring the Heavens and describes it in her book by same title. I write about this in my own book Accessing More – Tapping Into the Eternal Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process. The act of prayer summons both internal resources and the something to which we are all linked – that greater sea of consciousness and the Great Intelligence behind all that is.

Manifestation has a gestation period. This is the Sabbath, and a time of exercising PATIENCE and REST.

Do what work you can, and then do something to lift and renew your spirit in some way. This will give you fresh energy to bring to your goal later.

While you are waiting, STRIVE FOR EXCELLENCE.

This continual application and learning prepares you for whatever opportunities do come your way. It also keeps your goal in focus, adding more and more energy to attract what you want.

LIMITS to Mental Causality:

Mitch acknowledges that we live under many laws and forces that effect mental causality. Results are not guaranteed by just following the Law of Attraction. By thinking it so, by visualizing and feeling you can direct miracles into your life. But you cannot always make what you want happen the way you want, when or how. Nonetheless, these are things you can do to increase the odds in your favor.

Copyright 1/2019 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

Under, Over, Around and Through

03 Feb 2019 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in goal setting, Law of Attraction, life purpose, personal achievement, problem solving

Many people give up too easily on their dreams. Don’t!!!

If something is important to you, if you have a dream, if you have a talent that demands development, then you MUST PURSUE IT any way you can going under, over, around and through whatever obstacles or challenges are presented. Only in that way will you satisfy the deep, inner calling of your heart.

When I first entered college, I wanted to have a dual major of music and social science. These dual interests were apparent from early childhood. Like the “Lucy” Peanut cartoon strip character, I was giving out my two cents of advice to playmates starting at age 4. But at the same time I also fantasized musical numbers and would sing and dance for whoever came into the house. I was fantasizing Gene Kelly and Judy Garland song and dance routines. I was in church choir, school orchestra and band, every talent show, and later in All State Chorus. My vocal talent was recognized very early by professional classical singers including two former Metropolitan Opera soloists.

However, my college felt that music was too all encompassing and I needed to make it both my major and minor or not at all. I picked music with voice being my major. My mother was aghast thinking it would lead to couch auditions and an immoral lifestyle. I was told that I would be disowned and cast out of the family, Even after an interview with Metropolitan Opera star and head of the Voice Department who tried to intervene on my behalf was unable to dislodge my parents adamant refusal.

As I lacked the courage to venture completely out on my own, and more importantly, did not want to cut all ties with my family, I majored in social sciences instead. But both while in school, and after graduating, I took private lessons as money would allow, went to the library to check out opera recordings while following along with the score and librettos, went to concerts, and sang in churches that put on oratorios and even was Mezzo-Soprano soloist for Handel’s Messiah while in college.

The turning point came when as a young woman and living in Boston my husband went to speak with Re Koster, the head of the voice department at New England Conservatory of Music. He convinced her to listen to me and if satisfactory, accept me as a private student, something she had always refused before. However, she did take me, and within 6 months of this Dutch mezzo’s tutelage, I had learned all of the mezzo solos in the oratorio repertory, and most of the Bach cantatas as well. This I did while holding my infant son in my arms during my lessons. Soon after she retired and moved leaving me to go on to another teacher. I then also talked my way into being able to audit music theory classes at Boston University even though I was only enrolled for voice lessons.

Not having a piano of my own, I rented time on a neighbor’s to learn my music. Again, I would hold my infant on my lap while playing the music with one hand. Then I talked my way into ushering for the Metropolitan Opera performances when they visited Boston. Such opportunity was only open to New England Conservatory students, but I signed up anyway. Then before each performance, I went up to the soloists and musicians and interviewed them, the famous bass Justino Diaz being one of them. I actually met the orchestra leaders that later hired me as Executive Secretary for the Met years later, and some of the musicians for whom I later worked.

While living in Boston, I then auditioned for and was accepted into an all professional choir that put on Bach cantatas with professional orchestra every Sunday. While I was not good enough to be paid as were the others, they did pay for my babysitting. My son, now a toddler, was enrolled in the church nursery, and went with me to all the rehearsals where he crawled under the chairs of the musicians when he got away from the nursery. During one church service, the congregation was startled with the two gigantic wooded doors at the rear of the sanctuary banging open, and one little guy striding very triumphantly up the aisle to come visit me in the choir stalls up front.

When the family moved to Portland, Maine, I enrolled as a voice major at University of Maine, and joined a major choral society. Again, I ushered when Boston Opera came to town taking my young son with me to pass out programs in the balcony. I took him backstage with me to meet some of the singers. My voice teacher decided that I needed more professional training than he could provide and so we drove together from Portland down to Boston regularly for us both to study with a prominent voice teacher there. My voice lessons represented half of my food budget for the week. When I could not continue to afford to pay for membership in the choral society, an anonymous donor came along and paid it for me.

I auditioned for the professional choir in the episcopal cathedral Portland, and while not paid, was able to get free piano lessons from the Director.

When the family moved again, this time back to New Jersey, I was determined to get ANY job that I could at the Metropolitan Opera. I was willing to scrub toilets. So I made the rounds of all the employment agencies in Manhattan each time asking for a job at the Met. The answer was always the same – no openings. Finally, I took the bull by the reins and went to the stage door and inquired of the personnel department. The woman on the house phone asked if I took short hand. When I replied ‘no”, she hung up the phone.

So, I was determined to find a way to be able to take dictation. I found that my old high school was giving a summer course on ‘speed writing’. I took it, and soon after was hired as Executive Secretary to the Orchestra Manager at the Met!!! This gave me free rein to walk backstage, visit the various departments where they make and manage everything – wigs, costumes, sets, staging, and more. I was able to hear all the rehearsals over the loud speakers while working, and get free standing room passes to performances, and free dress rehearsal tickets for my family. This allowed me to educate my parents into the magical world of opera and give my son exposure to it as well.

I found a voice teacher across the street from Lincoln Center, and on lunch hours if there were no rehearsals taking place in house, and after work, I would sit and listen to other people’s voice lessons. This gave me a fantastic musical education. I also took yoga and exercise classes, language classes, acting lessons, and speed reading.

I then auditioned for and was accepted into Aspen Music Festival Chamber Choir. As the Met orchestra was off in the summer and the house operated on skeleton crew, it was possible for me to do this. Aspen provided housing for singles or money for housing for me since the dorms would not take my son. So my son from 8 to 10 years old, traveled with me and was enrolled in day camp while I rehearsed. Then he came with me to all performances. During one year, I wrote to all the churches in town inquiring about a cheap place to stay in this very expensive resort town. We got a room in exchange for me cleaning. Another year, we drove out and lived in a VW bus. Again, as being able to find a place to park legally at night was a hassle, I asked the churches around, and found one that would allow me to do so. I sang there for 3 seasons.

49897687_782012838813911_6915629389375864832_n With this background, I was able to secure work as a professional singer in Manhattan, join the union, and work not just as now a church and temple soloist, and privately sing for weddings and funerals, but singing with recognized national and international groups such as Joffrey Ballet, NYC Ballet, American Ballet Theatre, Netherlands Ballet, NJ Opera, Ars Musica, Clarion Musical Society, Friends of French Opera, and more. This also meant that I had to quit my secretarial job at the Met, but then got into NYC Opera Chorus, first part-time, then full-time, then part-time again for a total of ten years. I taught private voice students as well and wrote a small primer on vocal technique. I also started and ran a weekly Women in the Arts support group at my alma mater at Montclair State University.

Reality sets in

I had worked very hard against tremendous odds and had achieved a lot in a very difficult field. But I also had a son that I needed to support. NYC Opera went on strike three times in ten years and I scrambled to make the rent with temporary work as a secretary. I was consistently stressed for money – not just for the rent, etc., but to pay for the necessity of continual voice lessons and coaching lessons if I was going to make it as a soloist and not just remain as a union chorister. I had problems with high notes, problems in memorizing, problems with foreign languages, and problems with the politics of music.

The icing on the cake was tearing the cartilage connecting my sternum to my ribs. This happened within two weeks of starting to date someone new. This man represented the choice between potentially having a happy, ‘normal’ family life or living on the road as a singer after dropping my son off with my parents. The injury indicated that I was literally torn in two between two conflicting goals. My subconscious had cast the die and chose marriage and family.

Even after I was sufficiently healed to be able to get in and out of bed on my own, and get up and off the floor onstage, I was nolonger able to breathe as I once was, and this not only ended my ambitions for a solo career but any likelihood in being hired as a permanent chorister in the only classical singing job in the nation that provided financial stability – the Metropolitan Opera.

So unwilling to only be a part-time chorister with the precariousness that that entailed, and during a music union strike in 1989, I trained in hypnosis, a second interest. And I immediately started lecturing, teaching self-hypnosis, and seeing clients as time allowed between my singing jobs.

But then I came to a point of decision.

Eventually, the schedule became too difficult to straddle both fields, and I had to choose. Considering the real limits I now faced in music in addition to family responsibilities, I decided to venture out on my own as a hypnotherapist and be in charge of my schedule without a limit on what I could accomplish in using my voice to uplift, inspire and heal (my chief aim that was underneath both desires to work in music and hypnosis). Again, I went after my new profession just as vigorously as I had with music.

Since that time I have been a regular presenter at many hypnosis and dowsing conventions yearly, have written ten books, received six national hypnosis awards including two lifetime achievement awards, and one in dowsing. I host two national teleconferences for the American Society of Dowsers, I sit on the Board of Directors for two national organizations, and have been on the Board of others, founded and run a local dowsing group, founded and used to run a local professional hypnotherapy organization for many years, set up speakers and wrote a newsletter for another hypnosis chapter, and have trained many people – professional and layman alike – in hypnosis, stress management, dowsing, and Reiki.

Do I regret all the time and energy pursuing a field that I later left? Absolutely not!

I had amazing experiences that few others have had. I have been part of creating glorious moments in musical history that transported those in the audience as well as the performers to spiritual heights that only heavenly music can do. I went after my dreams and tested my limits in a very challenging field, achieving a certain level of success that was profoundly satisfying.

So what is my point?

If something is important to you, if you have a passion to do something or a big enough why, you can overcome tremendous odds and achieve a significant amount of success.
Regardless of the outward worldly recognition you are able to achieve, relentlessly going after the inner calling of your heart will bring enormous satisfaction to your soul. You would have answered your calling.
If you can’t go through normal channels to reach your goal, you have to get creative and find another way.
If one door is closed to you, you find a window. You go

OVER, UNDER, AROUND or THROUGH!

Copyright 2/3/19 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

No Easy Answers

26 Sep 2018 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, Cause and Effect, Law of Attraction, problem solving

Personally, I get frustrated when people pontificate their personal beliefs as to why they think something ‘bad’ happens, not just to themselves, but generalized across the board to everyone. It doesn’t matter that the ‘bad’ thing is an injury, an illness, the breakup of a relationship or a job, a school shooting, terrorist attack or war. The reasons that led up to that may be as multiple as there are people.

Even if you get positive results by correcting what you think may be the reason, it remains a theory until your correction completely resolves the problem. Otherwise, it may only be a part of the picture. But just because it appears true for you in that specific instance, and even if it is helpful for you does not mean that it is true or going to prove beneficial for everyone.

I have noted that the reasons cited as responsible for any particular problem change over time and over cultures. To me this proves that such explanations are beliefs or theories rather than truth. Some are more popular than others during a particular decade with particular groups – national, regional, ethnic, economic, educational, religious, or political subcultures. Some come straight out of the teaching of a particular movement, guru, book or even a fad. Popularity can never be a criteria for truth.

For example, in the past, it was actively taught that bad genes were responsible for many diseases. But thanks to the work of biologist, Dr. Bruce Lipton, we now know that almost all given genes can be expressed in a number of different ways, and it is the environment (or the perception of it) that determines whether a specific gene with that disease as one of many possibilities will ever express itself in that way.

Dr. Ryke Geerd Hamer, MD proved that specific unexpected, emotional shocks are responsible for specific diseases developing in particular parts of the body at the specific point in time when such shocks occurred. So instead of the person creating the illness, they didn’t have the emotional or other resources at the time to prevent it because they didn’t know how to handle something very upsetting happening outside of them, not of their own creation.

It’s very popular in the New Age Movement to think that you attract or create everything that happens to you. This is more helpful, perhaps, than thinking that you are victim, or that it is God’s will and that you just have to suffer instead of taking active measures to change things. But if you are creating your reality, what about the possibility that everyone else is doing so at the same time, and that these various creations are crossing paths? If according to a theory that everyone is interconnected, what you do effects me and vice versa.

Example:

Perhaps you were hit by a car as crossing the road. Perhaps the hospitalization gives you time to reconsider your life and it’s direction, your relationships, what’s important, etc. That can lead to important changes. Maybe you become more appreciative of others. Perhaps you have to learn patience, tolerance, and compassion for others who also suffer. You may as a result become a better or more pleasant person. It may force you to grow. But does that mean that God or your soul set it up, or that it was destined to happen as a part of your life script? Maybe yes, but maybe no.

Such introspection and positive changes might be your chosen response to the situation, not the reason for it.

You could have responded by becoming angry, hostile to caretakers, impatient, and, consequently, destroying your relationships. You could have become a worse, not better person.

Perhaps the accident teaches you to remember to look both ways before crossing the street, or to not burn the candle at both ends so that you can stay alert to potential danger. Maybe you learn that you need to focus on what you are doing, or to resolve that issue that is disturbing your sleep. Maybe you should not be trying to use the cell phone or text when entering the intersection.

On the other hand, maybe the driver needs also to keep his eyes on the road instead of trying to text as well. Maybe he needs to not burn the candle at both ends, or not drink before driving. Maybe he needs to resolve those issues that are distracting him from paying attention. Maybe he needs an anger management class so that he slows down and is less aggressive while driving.

Maybe there needs to be a traffic light at that busy intersection but the mayor has been slow to address a dangerous situation already known to him.

But does any of this mean that God or the universe set it up, or that you volunteered to get hit so that other people would learn?

You get my point.

That being said,

if there is a reason (and there may be) and you do not get it,
if there is something for you to learn (and there probably is) , and you do not,
if it was intended for you to grow, and you don’t,

my belief is that you will get another opportunity to do so later. In my experience, the universe comes in with a 2 X 4 next time.

Physicist Tom Campbell, author of My Big Toe has a theory, which while very interesting, cannot be reduced to the cause for all problems:

“If a particular occurrence is determined to be an effective learning opportunity for someone or everyone, the probability of it happening is increased. The system is designed to automatically deliver timely custom-fit individual learning opportunities — the presentation of such opportunities to individuals or groups is part of the feedback one receives relative to the choices one makes. Because the point of the system is to overcome fear (about you – high entropy) and replace it with love (about others – low entropy), if you have fear, the feedback system will manifest that fear in PMR [physical reality] to force you to deal with it (learn) or suffer the consequences.”

Yes, I believe things happen for a reason or multiple ones, but such may be more complicated or different than what you think. The causation may be unknowable. Hence, I advise being open minded to other explanations until you fully resolve the issue. And still the answers might be elusive or incomplete. You may get results without understanding why.

The reasons may be such a composite of the environment, the stress and or psychological milieu of multiple other people, the society and the times, so that they cannot be brought down to a single, simple explanation. It can be similar to a recipe – a little of this, a little of that, add in other people, stir it up, wait awhile. The buildup can take lifetimes. The causes can be multigenerational.

In short, I don’t believe in easy answers.

Asking ‘why’, then has only marginal value.

Should you ask it? Of course, because you might well find answers. But also consider that you may be either wrong or incomplete in your analysis. The reasons why might be multiple. Leave room in your mind to be open to additional possibilities that might help.

After asking “why did this happen”, ask:

What positive learning can I gain from this?
What do I want to do to make things better moving forward?
How can I turn this into a blessing for me or someone else?

Copyright 9/2018 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com areincluded with the content.

Releasing Anger Example

22 Aug 2018 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in anger management, attitude, clearing non-beneficial energies, gratitude, Law of Attraction, stress management, The Infinite Intelligence Process

Applying what you know (or think you do!)

This is a rewrite of an article originally written and posted July 9, 2017

The bad news is that when you write a book on anything, especially mine entitled Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone, the time of sustained focus required to write a book may bring about an experience to apply what you know (or think you do).

(Don’t you just love the Law of Attraction!)

The good news is that you do know (or should know) something to harness that energy constructively and then move it out of your system more quickly than you did in the past.

Think of it as the universe giving you AN EXAM.

Here is an OPPORTUNITY to prove:

Do you know what you are talking about?
Or have you just been spouting nice sounding platitudes, airy-fairy nothings, intellectual but useless, impractical, untested, unproven ideas and information?
Do your techniques actually work and make a positive difference?
Is there more yet to learn?
How can you set things up to avoid similar problems in the future?

So on June 29, 2017, a tenant, as she was moving out of my house, left water running in the upstairs bathroom. Gallons of water poured down from the second floor to the first floor living room, and down to the basement below. Rugs including a large Oriental, a mattress, books, furniture and other things got wet. Almost half of the living room ceiling had to be replaced, and as repairs were later made, drywall dust was everywhere. Most everything had to be boxed up and moved out of the living room along with the furniture.

Likewise, two basement rooms were disrupted in order to mop up the water and get things out of harm’s way. So not only was my living room unusable for more than a month but so was the dining room and hall, and those two basement rooms as well.

Immediately taking a long view of the problem, I knew that regardless of how much time, energy, work and out-of pocket expense would be involved, regardless of the bad timing and other demands upon me both health wise and financially, the problem would be eventually fixed, and the house would be restored to it’s former beauty. In other words, the problem was temporary. That tenant is now fully gone from my house, and I have a new, wonderful person living here. I had workmen who would help me clean up the mess.

fullsizeoutput_2c I knew that I needed to harness the anger into constructive action. So I called the appropriate people to get the help and advice I needed, and start and supervise the work.

In the meantime, I did a lot of the Infinite Intelligence Process that I wrote about in my book Accessing More to both dump stress and access my internal guidance and wisdom within.

I did EFT tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique), dowsing for emotional healing, and meditation because I did not want the anger to poison me or cause my health to further deteriorate. Plus, I wanted any and all possible contributory factors resolved.

I also did not want to project my anger back to my former tenant as it would then be a curse on her head. Because I believe that we are all connected, the corollary is that what I send out comes back to me.

To help shift my attention, I focused on what I had to be grateful for. What was left? What was good?

Well, certainly the damage could have been much worse.
- Luckily, I was only away from the house for an hour. Many other precious items in my living room and basement were not ruined even if some got wet, but would have been otherwise.
Help was immediately available.
- Two farm workers were here that day who immediately came in and helped move furniture, mop up the water, take the worst of the ceiling down, and set up fans to dry everything out to lessen the chance of mold.
- I quickly located and hired a drywall laborer to reinstall new sheetrock and to paint.
- A friend put me in touch with a cleaning lady who came after the ceiling was repaired. She helped me take down, wash and rehang all curtains in the living and dining room, wash, dust and vacuum everything on the ground floor and upstairs hallway. The net result was that I ended up with a much cleaner house.
- My insurance agent came quickly, and although I did not file a claim for various reasons, I got the information I needed.

Throughout the process, I asked myself:

What could I learn and how could I grow from this experience?
How I could prevent something like this happening in the future?
What I might have done differently that might have prevented it?

In other words, I was actively looking to pull a blessing out of the experience.

To get all my anger and everything off of my chest I wrote a letter to my tenant. But after writing and rewriting it, I read it to a close friend who is also a lawyer for her input. What upset me most was that my tenant took no responsibility for her actions. Instead she was just blaming me. I felt it necessary that she understand the ramifications of her negligence so she be more careful elsewhere. This stopped the imaginary conversations of what I wished I said to her from continuing to loop in my head.

I learned long ago that:

writing letters that you do not send acts as if you did. It allows you to get everything off of your chest as if you really did say what you wanted to say to them.
pause before sending anything in writing, and then only if you must. Less is better. The written word lasts forever, where spoken ones are quickly forgotten.
Groaning over damage done and what cannot therefore be changed (what’s done is done) is a waste of precious energy. You need to conserve that energy in order to stay healthy and to address the problem.
Complaining to people who cannot help you is an immediate, very short term vent, but counterproductive otherwise.

In fact, complaining or venting beyond the immediate time frame can just be a

ploy for sympathy as the ‘victim‘.
It can be revenge by getting other people to hate your adversary as well.
It can be a substitute for any real action–an excuse not to do anything.
It can be justification for your own mistakes and
avoidance of any responsibility for what happened, and
avoidance of the need to change personally.

Best to talk only to those that can offer some good information and advice while remaining detached emotionally from your issue. And then listen with an open mind.

Only clear eyed, detached processing of everything that happened and why without jumping to attaching blame is helpful. Then accept what can not be changed, create an action plan, and get to work immediately. As you see progress, the quicker your rage will die down.

Personally, I would have loved to had someone just hold me. But since I don’t have a partner, I grabbed a cat and snuggled with him. I sat with my piggies. I hugged my dogs. I looked up at the sky. I picked up and talked to the toads. I noticed some of the abundant sweetness that is on my farm. I remembered that I am loved, that I have meaning and purpose in this world, that this is a beautiful place, and I am choosing to be alive and present.

At other times and places, I may have made love, watched funny movies, gone dancing or done something nice with friends just to discharge energy and regroup. But what is important is that you actively do something.

There is always something still left to enjoy and appreciate—even a memory to lift your spirit.

Did I pass? I think so.
Will I do things differently in future? Absolutely!
Will I forget the lessons? No.
Can what I learned help someone else? Yes, I know so.

Copyright 8/2018 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

Getting to the Root of It

24 May 2018 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in American Society of Dowsers, Cause and Effect, clearing non-beneficial energies, Dowsing, Dowsing and Self-Help, energy work, healing your past, Hypnosis, Law of Attraction, National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists, National Guild of Hypnotists, problem solving, self-hypnosis, stress management, The Infinite Intelligence Process, West Coast Dowsing Conference

Anyone who has dealt with weeds knows that unless you can dig up the taproot, the weed comes back. And anyone who has gotten a splinter, knows that until you get it all out, the pain continues. Get only part of it out, and it becomes inflamed and perhaps infected. Thinking positive, ignoring it, or trying not to think about it only prolongs the problem and make it worse.

And so it is with negative repeating patterns. Any time there is a negative pattern of any kind, you can bet that the root cause has not been addressed. The only way to change things and stop the same problem occurring over and over again is to find and clear the original issue, which will be the unhealed trauma and the negative belief or judgment about the experience.

If you are successful, you will probably not get any more such experiences, or at least, less of them. But should something similar happen again, it’s effect upon you will be greatly mitigated, and you will much more quickly, and with greater effectiveness, grace and ease handle it in a better way. While the annoying people in your life may not have changed, you will have. Therefore, your experience of it will be different. Because you think differently about things that used to bother you, you feel and respond differently.

Getting to the bottom of issues can be tricky and time consuming.

The original event and the interpretations about it may be unknown, long forgotten or repressed. And instead of just one traumatic event, it may be a layering of multiple events, each reinforcing the detrimental judgment that with a self-fulfilling prophecy that tends to

- either attract more experiences of like kind,
- Or you just react and feel as if they are the same type of event even if they are not. In other words, you perceive and feel ____(slight, insult, prejudice, etc.) because you are sensitized, not necessarily because it was intended or actually happened.

Healing requires not only taking corrective action in the moment, but learning from the experience. Through strong intention, you can decide that the very experience that upsets you will enhance your personal and professional growth, adding to your wisdom, your maturity, and your greater value to others as a leader, counselor, mentor and role model. I call this ‘finding the blessing’.

It is not enough to just neutralize the negative emotions.

Learn and grow through them as well.

But then go further.

Ask yourself, “has anything like this happened before?”

If you get a ‘yes’, then your current problem is alerting you to the need to heal these earlier issues now, and perhaps other related additional ones that you don’t remember. If you do find and heal the root cause, the negative pattern will stop. And if that happens, then go and personally thank the person who is your current ‘pain in the butt’, the one that brought the issue to your attention and motivated you to address it.

Layering of memories

We are hard wired as part of our survival mechanism to put meaning to experience – to interpret it as good or bad, threatening or not. It is the interpretation, not the event itself, that determines the emotion that follows. Perhaps you had an upsetting experience and then made a judgment about it, an interpretation of what it meant to you that you forgot or repressed. Perhaps it was never verbalized, or didn’t register consciously because it happened at a young age, in the womb, or in a past life.

We now have scientific evidence from studies done with mice and children of Holocaust survivors that issues and emotions such as fear are being passed on the DNA to the generations that follow. This may be part of the survival mechanism for the species.

But not only can you pick up things up unconsciously from your ancestors in that way, any vividly imagined events especially those with high emotion can register on an unconscious level as if they actually happened to you even if they did not. This includes the stories you hear from your family, your culture, group, or witness in the media. It can include those experiences of book or movie characters that make a deep impression. All of these elements become part of the soup making up your beliefs and judgments, which go on to create or at least influence your future experiences and it’s impact upon you.

Regardless of where or when it originated, it and others like it are stored internally and can effect you until you process or reframe them. Reframing is changing your interpretation of the event.

For example, after a bad accident, you might continue to shake with fear thinking “I almost died”, but you could also interpret it as “if I’m still here, I must have a purpose,” or “I survived and I’m going to celebrate every day because you never know how long you have”, or ”I was protected” or “help was there precisely when I needed it.”

As more and similar experiences occur over time, they are added to the previous ones making the event, the emotions and judgements around them more pronounced like a toe that keeps getting stepped on until it becomes very sensitized and you become over zealous in protecting it. The one-time judgment about someone stepping on your toes then becomes a generalized global judgment, such as “everyone keeps stepping all over me”, or a sensitivity or issue as in “I have constantly be on the alert that no one steps on me again.”

Triggers and other factors

But along with the experience that is logged into your memory bank, so are the various elements of that experience – the sounds, colors, location, season, date, and the various people and other things present. Each element is capable of triggering the entire memory and the emotion connected to it. Such elements are labeled triggers. But in addition to the elements present at the time of the experience, you can also react to other things not involved in the bad experience itself, but merely associated with the person, places or things that were involved.

For example, if you have a bad breakup with your boyfriend, you can understand why you to feel uncomfortable should you bump into him again. But now you may very well experience discomfort upon seeing one of his friends or relatives, or hearing one of the bands that both of you enjoyed, your favorite song, or being in a place that you used to go to together. Everything you associate with that boyfriend can awaken all the painful emotions and reasons for the break up. These are triggers too.

With some triggers, you clearly know where the emotion such as the fear comes from. But with other emotions, fears, tension or uneasiness, you may not remember the connection. These are more properly labeled as phobias. The fear seems irrational because the connection to the event that caused it has been lost. So it is not just the upsetting event that needs to be cleared, but also all of the triggers, many of which you may be unaware of until they are activated.

Multiple modalities help to find and process the issue.

1. Meditation

One way a person can get clues is through meditation. Just still your mind and let a question roll around in your mind. For example:

“where does this ____ (emotion/ issue/ problem of ____) come from?”
Or, “what do I need to know or let go of to heal this issue fully and completely now?”
Or, “how can I look at this experience so that it doesn’t bother me nearly as much?”
Or, “why does this problem/issue of ___ keep happening over and over again?”

2. The Infinite Intelligence Process

The Infinite Intelligence Process is a 3-prong modality that I developed. It can be used with meditation, formal hypnosis, self-hypnosis, or dowsing. I use it daily to clear my mind so that I have a restful sleep, quickly process the events of the day, relieve stress, chip away at issues, access internal resources, and, in general, speed up problem solving and make life go smoother. You can learn it through my book Accessing More – Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process.

You could utilize phrases like:

“There is a part of my Being that knows where this ___ (emotion/ issue/ problem of ____) comes from and is bringing everything that I need to know into my awareness so that it can be healed/resolved now.”

Or “There is a part of me that knows how to heal/resolve this in a way in which I am really pleased, and is doing so now.”

Or after installing the Process Program that is activated with trigger words of process followed by go, you could say:

“From the perspective of my High Self, process and resolve everything to do with the problem of ____ in a way in which I am really pleased. Go.”

3. Hypnosis

Hypnosis has multiple methods of regressing to cause and then resolving the issue. In age regression, the information is brought up into awareness, verbalized in the hypnosis. The client is then guided in reframing or otherwise resolving the issue until it seems complete. My favorite hypnotic techniques are called ‘unconscious healing modalities’ because they operate below the level of conscious awareness and do not involve any verbalization by the client. The hypnotherapist creates depth of trance, establishes an ideomotor response, gets the agreement of the unconscious mind to locate and resolve the issue by itself. The instructions include to resolve the issue “in a way in which ___ (name) is ‘really pleased”.

4. Neural Linguistic Programming (NLP)

Time Line Therapy outlined in a book by the same title is a specific technique within NLP developed by Tad James and Wyatt Woodsmall. It is very helpful to quickly clear issues for which you don’t know the origin. It works below the level of conscious awareness. The instructions include “find the positive learning and release the upset.”

5. The Emotion Code

This method was developed by Dr. Bradley Nelson and works with muscle testing. But I use pendulum dowsing instead to locate the issue and determine the degree to which it is involved. Even if I use a magnet or running my fingers along the governing meridian as he suggests, I will also use dowsing to clear it further, and then check the degree to which I was successful.

6. The Emotional Freedom Technique

Tap on the issue and everything around it including “Even though I may not know where this _____ (issue, emotion, problem of ___) comes from, I deeply love and accept myself.”

There are other energy modalities as well to change beliefs.

7. Dowsing

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Pendulum dowsing using charts and checklists specially created for this purpose can quickly find the root cause and related factors of any issue. You can learn to do on your own, anytime day or n

ight. No appointment and no wait time is necessary. It can find information that is not accessible either at all or not as easily found another way. It is extremely helpful in all problem solving, but especially helpful when the original cause is unknown, unconscious, forgotten, repressed, picked up in the womb or from the culture or tribe, or even stemming from past lives.

See Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing, available on my website.

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4 Upcoming Workshops

This year, I will be addressing finding and resolving root causes of issues from different angles. They are listed below.

Workshop at the Grace Wellness Center, Meredith, New Hampshire, Saturday, April 4, 2020. An all day class, “Therapeutic Dowsing & Telepathic Healing”, teaching you pendulum dowsing for locating and clearing stuck mental/emotional issues, as well as practical problem solving for anything. Click here for details.

Workshop at the White Mountain Dowsers in Plymouth, New Hampshire, Sunday, April 5, 2020. A 3+hour workshop on “Discovering Your Unlimited Potential with Hypnosis, Dowsing & Healing Intention”. Click here for details.

Presenting at the HypnoExpo, Orlando, Florida, April 24-26, “Memory- Staying Out of Legal Problems” Seminar, and “The Shadow Knows”. Click here for details.

Presenting at HypnoBiz New York, May 29-31, “Healing Anger Without Killing Anyone!” . Click here for details

Half-Day Workshop at the American Society of Dowsers Convention, Plymouth, New Hampshire, “Heal Yourself to Heal Your World”. See Click here for details.

Presenting at the West Coast Dowsers Conference, University of California, Santa Cruz, July 2-7. Half day Workshop . Details to follow. See http://www.dowserswestcoast.org

Presenting at the National Guild of Hypnotists Convention, Marlborough, Massachusetts, August 7-9. “Heal Yourself to Heal Your World” and“Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone!”. Click here for details.

More classes are scheduled elsewhere but with pandemic issues in 2020, things are in flux.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

Upset as Opportunity

13 Apr 2018 2 Comments

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, Cause and Effect, clearing non-beneficial energies, healing your past, Law of Attraction, problem solving, self help

Fuming over what you don’t like and the people you hold responsible for it may let off steam, but it burns up your precious life force energy and it doesn’t change anything!

I suggest that you as quickly as possible accept that what happened, and is now history. Fuming doesn’t change history. The question is

What do you want to do about it?

How can you use it constructively?

Can you turn it into a blessing?

As I have said in previous posts, deliberately choose to look for a way to turn every experience especially the upsetting ones into a blessing. This will happen if you grow, if you learn something positive, if you take constructive action on things that previously you neglected or let slide, and if you finally turn your attention to dealing with wounds and issues long past but never resolved.

When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, miracles of positive change can occur!

You can train yourself to use upset as a powerful

catalyst for healing yourself and
as motivation to create something better.

Here’s how.

Write the answers to the questions below. If you have trouble identifying them, brainstorm possible answers on paper and dowse them out. If you don’t know how to dowse, brainstorm anyway. Then close your eyes and ask yourself the question again. Or just write and write until you get to the core issue.

What’s happening that I don’t want?
What’s not happening that I do want?
What’s the key issue here?
What are my thoughts about what’s happening?
What are my emotions about it?
What do I want to happen instead?
What’s the essence of what I want?
What’s stopping me from getting it?
Is there another way to get the essence of what I want?
When were other times that something similar happened?
When was the earliest time that something similar to this happened?

Work your way through all of these questions, addressing them as you go.

Then ask some further questions:

How did I contribute in any way to what happened?
What positive steps can I make or what changes need to occur so this doesn’t happen again?
How can I improve my ____ (communication, follow-through, systems, etc.) so that my _____ (business, relationships) are actually better as a result of what happened?

Doing all of the above will move you forward.

Heal yourself rather than trying to change someone else!

Recently I spoke with someone who was upset because he had been unable to get someone else to change. He had tried talking to the person, but wasn’t getting anywhere. I suggested that he first identify and then address his own emotions and his thoughts around it before speaking to the person again so that they would not cause the person to tune him out.

In other words, if you are emotionally upset, you will make the other person defensive, and less likely to even consider changing their behavior and do what you want. You need to find a way to speak to the person from a neutral place, or better yet, from a place of common ground.

One way of starting that process is to detach your worth, your self-esteem from what someone else is doing. Each person acts out of who they are, not from who you are. And incidentally, people never change for you. They may moderate their behavior somewhat if the negative consequences are great enough. But they never change for you.

Eliminate the ‘shoulds and shouldn’ts’

Another initial step to reduce your upset is to eliminate the idea that people should or shouldn’t be any certain way or do anything according to your standards. Those self-righteous judgment calls are responsible for a great deal of stress. However, once you clarify the behavior you don’t want and the behavior you do want, you will be able to clearly communicate it to the other person.

As he labeled the other person as controlling, I suggested that he could turn this situation into a blessing if he could identify and then heal all similar experiences starting with the first time he was upset because of controlling behavior. In other words, this annoying current event might be viewed as positive by alerting him to a host of unresolved similar events festering in his unconscious not only causing him stress but setting up a negative repeating pattern.

My own experience

Years ago I was being constantly hit with the energy of jealousy. I could always tell when the conference brochures hit the mailboxes, because I could feel the red hot feverish flames blasting in my face, and it made me jittery and hard to focus. Once in giving a presentation of how and why to integrate Reiki with hypnosis, I could feel the arrows coming from 3 distinct locations in the room. So I asked the Reiki Masters present to stand, and guess what? They were sitting in the very same locations. These weren’t bad people, they just must have thought that they could or should have been the ones speaking on the topic I had chosen.

While I had previously worked diligently to heal my distress because of other people’s jealousy of me, it had not stopped the negative pattern until I dealt with the root cause. As I thought about the first time this issue had occurred , I turned my attention to the lifelong problematic relationship with my sister that started in early childhood. Only after I healed that, did the negative pattern stop. I have not been affected since.

Whether any one is or has been jealous of me since, I don’t feel it anymore. I am not impacted. My energy is no longer drained.

Moral of the story:

Heal the root cause to stop the pattern.

Make positive changes going forward.

And if you do that, it will have been a blessing.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

I AM…so happy and grateful…

03 Mar 2018 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, Hypnosis, Law of Attraction, mind-control, self help, self-hypnosis

“In the beginning was the word.” Genesis

Hypnotists understand the power that words have to powerfully impact upon your life. The most important words being “I am” followed by anything else. “I AM” has incredible creative power.

Hypnosis teaches that the subconscious mind, which controls all habits and automatic behaviors, is constantly listening to everything that you say. Through repetition, words program the subconscious, and that subconscious programming leads you to be inclined to do or not do, to notice or not, to just happen to be in the right time and place for whatever you have programmed into your inner mind to occur for better or worse.

Yet how often instead of deliberately helping yourself, you identify with the negative by saying anyway “I am ___ (sick, broke, tired, burnt out, overwhelmed)” etc. And even though I know better, I catch myself doing it too.

I have found a helpful antidote through the phrase

“I AM so happy and grateful that ___.”

The moment I say that I am happy and grateful I notice that it truly starts to shift my mood. Then I follow with more statements, quickly listing a bunch of things that do, in fact, make me happy, or for which I am genuinely grateful. I start with statements that I honestly believe. In starting with the easy things, it sets up the right frame of mind for me then to shift gears on those areas that need help or in which I need to manifest a positive outcome. It is important, however, to state these other things in a way in which you can believe them. Saying something you think is impossible will only backfire.

First, I start with anything is easily true for me:

“I AM so happy and grateful that it’s a beautiful day.

“I AM so happy and grateful that the sun is shining.

“I AM so happy and grateful that the flowers are starting to bloom.

“I AM so happy and grateful to live in this beautiful place.

Then I make statements to shift my attitude in a positive way on a challenge I need to resolve:

“I AM so happy and grateful that I have reliable, capable help to ____ at a price I can easily afford.

“I AM so happy and grateful that I quickly attract the very best tenants into my property at ____ Street.

Finally, I visualize it as done and soak up the good feelings of that happy completion.

Personal Story

Years ago I was sponsored to teach throughout India. On a day off I went to a botanical park. The cab driver dropped me off at the entrance and said that I should walk straight through the park and he would meet me at the exit. Fine.

So I walked through this delightful but huge gated park. When I had enough, I went out the exit upon which the gate locked behind me. However, there was no cab driver. So I had to walk all around the outside of the park back to the entrance and try again.

This time I saw a fork in the path, and took it. Sure enough, there was another exit, and out I went. Again the gate locked behind me, and, you guessed it – no cab driver. So for the second time I walked around the fence back to the entrance, again looking for yet another exit. Found it, and hooray – lots of cabs. Unfortunately, not mine. The cabbies said that my driver got tired of waiting and left. So, once more I walked around the perimeter back to the entrance whereupon they kind attendant who luckily spoke English called my hotel and sponsor.

While I was angry, tired, hot and thirsty, depressed, and just fed up, I gritted my teeth and focused on anything for which I could be grateful. “I’m glad I have feet. I’m grateful I can walk. I am glad to be here in India instead of Newark, New Jersey right now.”

The Tangled Web of Choices that Create Our Reality

14 Sep 2017 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in American Society of Dowsers, Cause and Effect, Law of Attraction, West Coast Dowsing Conference

Introduction

So often we ascribe simplistic reasons to why things happen. Maybe we just blame someone else without considering that we might have played a role. Perhaps we think we’re a victim of circumstances or Mercury Retrograde. Maybe we look for some reason within our consciousness that attracted the problem. But what if ‘the cause’ was not one thing, not created or attracted by one person, but was rather a web of choices, decisions, actions to which both we and others all contributed? And what if (at least on occasion) the intention was not to punish, not to stress us out, but to teach us something?

In an earlier article, Why Shit Happens (or doesn’t) , I list the 34 other Laws of Mind (taken from Your Unlimited Potential) that in addition to the Law of Attraction create our reality. To this list, Tom Campbell in the quote below adds that our reality can be created by the larger consciousness system as a learning opportunity for ourself or others.

In this article I hope to illustrate and number the multiple choices/decisions (some with immediate and some with long-term consequences) that we individually make that are intertwined with the choices/decisions that others make. All are part of the overall Law of Cause and Effect. All contribute to our experience. The accumulation of actions and choices of everyone involved, even those seemingly miniscule or innocuous, add up over time, building in consequences. Here is a real life example.

The Case of the Missing Luggage

In June of 2016, I was to fly to California to teach at the West Coast Dowsers Conference being held in Santa Cruz. There I was also to be a vendor and sell my many books and other products. Such trip was going to involve three flight changes. As my books were very heavy and would have cost a lot to ship cross country, and as I had previously had the experience of shipped books not arriving at a conference in time, I made a decision to cram as many as I could into my carry on and checked baggage. (#1) Each piece of luggage was at the ultimate weight limit.

Before packing, I evaluated various luggage options. I had the choice between a more roomy duffle bag that I would have to hand carry but which could hold more, or a smaller piece with wheels. I chose the duffle bag. (#2) Had I been better with planning, I might have evaluated the consequences of this way in advance and possibly bought a bigger wheeled option. (#3)

I called ahead and told the airport that I needed transportation from the long-term parking area. They assured me that they would be able to help me. However, I had not allowed enough time to to get ready to leave the house. (#4) And because I now had a heavy duffle bag with my books, I waited at the car (#5) instead of attempting to haul both my suitcase and the duffle bag up the hill. The shuttle never came (#6), nor was the dispatcher answering the phone at that early hour. (#7) So I had to walk, but the delay meant that I was just 3 minutes past the cut-off time for check-in. Even though the flight was still 30 minutes off, they refused to let me board, and put me on another flight. (#8)

Next, I was asked if I wanted to check my carry-on bag for an extra expense, but I declined. (#9) A little voice in my head asked “are you sure?” I declined again. (#10) I again heard that voice repeat the question, and I still did not change my decision. (#11)

At security, I took out my computer, jewelry, cosmetics out of my computer bag to be screened, but because of the rush to get to the gate, I threw everything into my roomier duffle bag, thinking that I would have time to reorganize everything neatly at the gate. (#12)

However, as soon as I got to the gate and before I could reorganize my valuables, I had to quickly hand over my carry on duffle bag to an airline attendent at the first leg of the trip. (#13) I was able to personally retrieve it o.k. when we landed. But now I had to really struggle to physically carry my book bag throughout a very big terminal. (#14)

Because of the fight changes that made a super tight window to make next connection, I had to literally run to make my next flight. This was extremely difficult, exhausting, but some young man helped carry things part way or I would not have made the connection at all. (#15)

When I got to the gate, the airline attendant would not let me board with my duffle bag that still had my computer, jewelry and cosmetics in it. (#16) She rapidly took it from me and checked it in telling me that I would retrieve it at the next stop. However, she was rushed (#17) with many other people trying to board, and unknown to me, she put the wrong final destination on my bag. (#18)

I arrived at the 3rd airport, but was told that my luggage were already being sent to my final destination. But when I finally arrived in California, my suitcase was there, but not my duffle bag. I spent a couple of hours checking to see if it was late getting off the plane, (#19) and then filed out forms for lost luggage. (#20) The airline after several calls had no record of my duffle bag (#21) and told me I would just have to keep checking back with them. Then I had to yet wait a further hour because my flight changes had caused an issue with the previously scheduled shuttle service. (#22)

I finally got to the conference. However, the books that I was hoping to sell to pay for this trip were not there so I made no sales. (#24) I spent the next three days anxiously calling the airline for information as to where it was. (# 25)

I was blessed to have a conference attendee drive me into town to buy new toiletries, hair curler, etc. that had been in the duffle bag. (#26). But this was an additional expense. (#27) Another attendee lent me a jacket (#28) because my only warm wrap for the 50 degree weather was also in the duffle bag. (#29)

I was very stressed out (#30) not just about the books and decrease in sales that their loss and even time delay represented (#31), and the potential loss of my good jewelry, but most of all because of my computer. Since I had not been in the habit of backing up my files (#32), losing my computer back would mean that I would lose all of my documents including book manuscripts. (#33)

Eventually, the duffle bag showed up at an airport in Osaka, Japan. One day before the conference was over, the duffle bag was returned with everything intact — thanks to lots of prayers from many people (#34) and the honesty of those involved on two continents and 4 airports (#35).

Moral of the Story

This was a lesson that multiple actions, choices and decisions by both me and others led to both creating, alleviating, and solving this problem. Had I been regularly backing up my computer, had I made a different luggage choice, had I listened to the small voice within me to check the additional bag, had I allowed more time to get to the airport, had I immediately walked to the terminal instead of waiting for the shuttle, had I put my valuables back into the computer bag, everything would have been different. So the screw up was as much my fault as that of the airlines. But it was also a lesson that there are good people everywhere who help just because that’s who they are, and honest airline luggage handlers in 4 airports and two continents who returned everything in good shape.

Disease, Language & Metaphysics

26 May 2017 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in blocks to healing, body language, Cause and Effect, Law of Attraction, metaphysical meaning of disease, mind-body healing, physical healing

Louise Hay & You Can Heal Your Life

Many years ago, Louise Hay wrote Heal Your Body, and then rewrote and expanded upon it in 1984 with a new title, You Can Heal Your Life. These extremely popular books which are still in print after more than 30 years greatly popularized the belief that you create your own reality, including sickness or health through your thoughts, language and emotions, and that there is a metaphysical connection to problems of all kinds including ill health. By changing your thoughts, correcting your language, and healing your emotions, Hay claims that you can heal your life as well as your body. as she did from cancer.

My Agreement & Disagreement with Hay et al

As a Hypnotherapist, I am well aware of the mind-body connection, and the havoc caused by unresolved emotions and detrimental suggestion. And I know how information gets into the subconscious mind, which includes repetition, strong emotion, authority figures, subliminal messages, and going into a state of trance which occurs naturally many times a day to everyone. And so, I am in agreement with much of Hay’s philosophy, which stems from New Thought Christianity.

Language, emotions, beliefs and judgments form a powerful influence of upon what happens to us in life. I have also noticed that some people with particular health conditions appear to share many similar traits and issues. And I have noticed that many times the body metaphors that we use in our specific language can have a negative effect upon us. Nonetheless, I argue that:

1. The root cause or contributors to any problem, including illness, are not always knowable or fixable.

However, it is still important to investigate and continue to work towards a resolution. There are many therapeutic interventions that can be done on a ‘can’t hurt’ basis. Even if they do not solve the problem or cure the illness, they can reduce stress, make a positive difference in quality of life and increase peace of mind.

2. While illness may stem from or be aggravated by internal factors of mind or emotion that can be changed by the individual, it may also come from external factors that are outside of their knowledge, influence or control.

3. Addressing emotional issues and cleaning up one’s self talk is always advisable, and is helpful in improving many, perhaps most situations, but it may not necessarily fix or cure any specific problem.

4. It is arrogant and offensive to take these beliefs and push them onto someone else as if it is truth. And it is short-sighted to close the door on other possibilities even for yourself. Beliefs, no matter how treasured, should be considered as OPINIONS.

They may have some validity for some people, even many. They may even be the key in solving the problem for one or more persons, but necessarily all. Beliefs are theory, not universal law.

5. Explanations as to why things happen and what to do about them, no matter how widely shared, and regardless if they are claimed to come from a divine revelation, are not necessarily correct.

There has been an age old search for meaning to explain life, why things happen, how we should live, how we fit into the world, and what man can do to survive and obtain health, wealth and other good fortune since the beginning of history. All such explanations change over time. Bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people all the time.

The Importance of Language

“In the beginning was the Word.” Genesis

Words are powerful. As the quote from the first book of the Old Testament above, creation starts with language. If you desire to have greater dominion over your life, to create more of what you want, and dismantle what you do not such as illness, it is critical to pay attention to your

language
thoughts especially the unspoken ones
feelings
beliefs and judgments

Thoughts, feelings, beliefs and judgments are revealed through language.

Listen to yourself

Be scrupulous with statements that start with “I”. The “I” takes ownership of whatever comes afterwards. “I am ___,” affirms your identity. “I can’t ___” strengthens that inability. “I have ___“, owns it. Listen carefully to yourself, even your inner dialog. If you don’t want to reinforce it, don’t say it. Change the words. For example, Hay suggests changing “I should ___” (self judgment/criticism) to “If I really wanted to, I could ___” (awareness of choice).

Likewise, stop putting anything negative (especially a disease) after the word “my”, such as “my cancer/arthritis/diabetes.” The word ‘my’ takes ownership, holding it close to you. Think of a little kid clutching a toy and yelling “that’s mine! Don’t you take it away from me!”

A way to tell the truth about a problem without making things worse is to change from using present tense to past or past progressive tense. For example, I advise clients to switch from saying “I can’t___”, to “I had or I’ve been having a problem with ___. And what I really want now is to be able to ___” [your positive objective]. Put problems in past tense, and goals in present tense.

Continual repetition of anything becomes part of your subconscious programming. It has a cumulative effect upon your life, positive, negative or mixed. Watch out for body metaphors, figures of speech, expressions in your language that if accepted literally by your unconscious mind could possibly create an undesirable outcome.

Your unconscious is literal and will try to deliver to you according to your words. It doesn’t have a sense of humor or appreciation for colorful language. So it doesn’t understand that you really didn’t mean it when you said that “my head is exploding”,'”I ate so much I could just burst”, or “my time is up”. Likewise, it is unhelpful to say “it takes a long time to heal,” “I just have to live with it,” “there’s nothing I can do.”

Better to switch to curiosity or possibility. “I wonder if ___,” or “If there was something I could do that would help me ___, what might it be?” “If I could___ (heal/get better/do ___), how would be helpful?”

Always task your unconscious with finding a solution, answers, or help in any area of concern. But it must be done without being frantic or desperate about it. Maintain a relaxed attitude of mind.

Delegate to the wisdom within and let go of it.

Body Metaphors

Consider what effect the following expressions (thought or vocalized) might have with prolonged use on your health:

he/she/it is a real pain in the neck,
I can’t stomach it,
I could just die for__,
this job is giving me a real headache.\
I can’t live with ___ (or I can’t live without ___).

If a that thought or judgment is highly emotionally charged, it can, especially if negative, have an immediate and lasting impact. Repetition is not necessary if it is internalized.

Metaphysical Meaning of Illness

Hay has done a valuable service in cataloging the metaphysical connections to many health conditions. However, such catalog should be read only as a partial, not definitive list, and as a possibility. Explore it as something to be ruled out on a “can’t hurt” basis, not to be taken as necessarily the true and only cause of the problem. It might apply to you, but then again, it might not. Or it might be partially applicable, but there might be another or much bigger issue or cause/s behind the condition.

Recently, a client of mine was told by her doctor that her breast cancer represented a fear of mothering. This client had been a mother, but that was decades ago. How could it have caused cancer now at 80 years old?

I find this type of pronouncement problematical. For a start, you cannot find “fear of mothering” on any X-ray or lab test. It’s not like a broken bone sticking out of the skin, but rather a very subjective interpretation. Subjective interpretations or opinions are often wrong. That’s why patients are advised to “get a second or third medical opinion”.

Now, in referring to Hay’s listing of the metaphysical meanings of disease, it would make sense for this client or me as her therapist to use the references listed regarding to both breast and cancer AS A STARTING POINT FOR INVESTIGATION OR DISCUSSION– NOT A PRONOUNCEMENT OF TRUTH OR DIAGNOSIS. Determine if there is any relevance or truth to it and rule it out.

Her doctor might better have said, “sometimes breast cancer relates to issues with mothering, such as to how a woman felt that she was mothered, or about how she felt about taking care of herself or others.” He may have then asked:

How do you feel about how you were you mothered?
How did you feel about being a mother and raising your children?
How do you feel you did as a mother?
How do you feel about your children now?
How do you mother yourself? Do you feel you nurture yourself well?
What feeds your spirit and are you doing it now?”

Then if any unresolved issues were uncovered in the discussion, various techniques could be employed to address them on a “can’t hurt basis”. I teach all of my clients the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) because it is both easy and effective for self-use.

Any stress that is released (even if it does not refer to the main issue) frees up energy for the body to heal.

In this client’s case, I started teaching her EFT and will on her next visit make a point to clear any possible links Hay lists. For a start, it can’t hurt and it helps to be thorough. But I also told her that the breast refers also to nourishing or feeding anything that she is/has/or could give birth to. This could be her creativity, her writing, or some other very personal expression of the self. So if she, as a writer, made a point of writing on a daily basis, even for just 30 minutes, it could be a part of her healing journey. This could be done just because it makes her feel good.

Anything that feeds the spirit brings in energy that helps the body to heal or to stay healthy if already well.

Detective Work–Looking for a Possible Motive

It is important to consider that Hay’s catalog, or indeed, anyone else’s, is only helpful as a beginning guide in searching for clues as a medical detective. Just as a police detective might want to look to see if anyone had a motive for the crime, who could benefit from it, you could ask if the illness or condition is doing anything for the patient. In hypnosis, we call that benefit secondary gain. Secondary gain can include love, sympathy and attention, an excuse to get out of what you don’t want, or to get permission to do what you want, and a way to atone for wrongs –real or imagined, etc. For more information on this see another of my blog articles entitled Secondary Gain – a Gain from Pain.

In my experience both personally and professionally as a Hypnotherapist, the contributor to any problem can be THIS AND THAT, and THAT, and THAT TOO. So I have a problem with anyone telling someone else with authoritarian conviction WHY they are sick, or have any particular problem based upon their own (not the sick person’s) personal belief system. The client’s beliefs about their own life are very relevant to explore. Your beliefs about their problems are not.

A friend is having pain in her foot and heel, and assumes that anything with the feet is related to be”fear of moving forward in life”. While this belief can be traced right back to Louise Hay’s book, and even if she is right in her own case, there are many other things related to the feet and heel. For example, we have expressions like “crushed under foot, ground underfoot, feel like a heel, feel like kicking myself, feel like someone just kicked me, grinding in my heels”.

For example, years ago I went to a rental house that I owned in order to get it ready to re-rent. As soon as I walked into the kitchen I banged my toe on the kitchen table leg. It really hurt and I had to sit down, and wanted then to just go home. My experience had nothing to do with fear of moving forward, rather my thought was “I could just kick myself for buying this stinking house with all of it’s problems.” So I tapped a few minutes on my resentment, and did what I needed to do.

Hay’s Background

Hay was a trained as a minister in the Church of Religious Science. Religious Science like Unity School of Christianity developed out of the teachings of Mary Baker Eddy, founder of Christian Science. And Mary Baker Eddy in turn was influenced and healed by Phineas Quinby, a Mesmerist (an early form of hypnosis after the work of Franz Mesmer). As such, the power of the mind, and of suggestion to heal or hurt are taken seriously. There is a lot of cross over between New Thought and hypnosis. For example, New Thought works a lot with positive affirmations. Hypnosis implants positive suggestions directly into the unconscious mind, and removes negative ones.

Hay says that we create our own reality, including disease, through our thoughts. Certainly, hypnotists would agree that our thoughts have a huge impact both upon what and how we experience in our life. And mental and emotional stress plays a part in almost all diseases. But I disagree that our thoughts are the only or even the cause necessarily.

Freud talked about cigars being a phallic symbol. But he also said that sometimes a cigar was just a cigar. Well, sometimes it appears that shit just happens! The oft repeated New Age statements that “things happen for a reason,” “you create your own reality,” “you’re 100% responsible for everything that happens to you,” and “there are no accidents” are all unprovable philosophical beliefs.

Can we ever really know WHY?

Even if there is a reason, we may not know or cannot discover what it might be. The reason made have been caused by someone or something else, not you. Otherwise, everyone and everything would be at your mercy. They would be powerless to take action or make choices or decisions independent of your thoughts and creative power.

However, it is true that you do create much of your life through your mental, emotional and physical habits. You do effect how you experience your life by how you interpret your experiences as good or bad, as punishment or blessing, etc. You do make things easier or harder for yourself by your attitude.

Illness as a Learning Opportunity or Gift

In an earlier blog post entitled What the Law of Attraction Misses or “Why Shit Happens (or doesn’t), I quoted Tom Campbell, author of My Big Toe. Campbell says we attract our experiences this way:

“If a particular occurrence is determined to be an effective learning opportunity for someone or everyone, the probability of it happening is increased. The system is designed to automatically deliver timely custom-fit individual learning opportunities — the presentation of such opportunities to individuals or groups is part of the feedback one receives relative to the choices one makes. Because the point of the system is to overcome fear …and replace it with love…, if you have fear, the feedback system will manifest that fear in PMR [physical reality] to force you to deal with it (learn) or suffer the consequences.”

Overcoming fear and increasing love, which according to Campbell is the point of the experience, would then, according to my understanding, reduce or eliminate the need for that ‘learning opportunity’ (unpleasant experience), but not necessarily stop it, heal the disease, etc. It may bring healing, or just improve the situation. It may allow the person to live with it with equilibrium but without improvement. Or it may bring closure, allowing the person to die with peace of mind.

Over the years, I have heard various people say that their disease or health issue was a gift. Indeed, it is helpful for all problems or challenges to be viewed as such. Doing so instantly reduces some of the stress, refocuses the mind on problem solving and taking constructive action. Ask yourself:

What can I learn from this?
How can this experience help me grow, get better?
Is there a message here for me?

Agreement Between Campbell, Hay and EFT

Hay thinks that thoughts of being not good enough, self-hatred or criticism, resentment and guilt are the most destructive to our health. In her current edition of You Can Heal Your Life, she references the channeled work Course in Miracles that claims that all disease comes from lack of forgiveness. And that if a person is ill, they need to look at who or what they need to forgive, focusing on forgiving whatever is the hardest to forgive. Whether or not forgiveness is the key or just one of the keys to healing, certainly it plays a major role.

To forgiveness, Hay adds self-acceptance, love and releasing the past as the most healing. Perhaps this is part of the power of the Emotional Freedom Technique wording, “Even though I [feel]____, I deeply love and accept myself.”

Unforgiveness can be considered a form of ‘stuck’ energy. The philosophy behind many forms of Oriental medicine such as acupuncture, acupressure, is to remove blockages and allow the energy to flow easily throughout all parts of the body system thereby enhancing health. The Emotional Freedom Technique combines tapping or rubbing specific acupressure points, while admitting our darkest thoughts and feelings, and ending with affirming self acceptance and love.

Agreement Between Campbell, Hay and the Infinite Intelligence Process

I like the Introduction to Hay’s seminal work in which she says:

“In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete. I believe in a power far greater than I am that flows through me every moment of every day. I open myself to the wisdom within, knowing that there is only One Intelligence in this Universe. Out of this One Intelligence comes all the answers, all the solutions, all the healing, all the new creations. I trust this Power and Intelligence, knowing that whatever I need to know is revealed to me, and that whatever I need comes to me in the right time, space, and sequence. All is well in my world.”

This paragraph sums up a good deal of the philosophy behind the Infinite Intelligence Process that I teach and write about in my own book, Accessing More–Tapping Into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process. available through my website www.RoxanneLouise.com and link above.

The moment you trust that you have access to a greater wisdom and resources within you and can rely upon to solve any problem, there is a profound inner peace.

If you, like Campbell, believe that the core of your being exists outside of this body with all of its experiences, then you are More than any physical or other limitation. As Campbell says the real you exists beyond this computer simulation that we call life, and continues beyond whatever happens to the character that occupies your current body and has your current name.

I believe that there is a part of you that is always o.k.

This attitude gives me great comfort.

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