Man Meant It for Evil but God Meant It for Good.

“But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.” Joseph addressing his brothers in Genesis 50:20

Bad things in life can sometimes result in unexpected, good outcomes.

In this biblical story, Joseph was sold into slavery by his brothers. Although his brothers meant to harm him, Joseph ended up in Egypt where he became second in command under the Pharaoh because he was able to interpret the Pharaoh’s disturbing dreams and advise him on what to do. The dreams foretold of a coming famine that led Joseph to be put in charge of a mass grain storage that enabled the Egyptians and and it’s neighbors to survive a prolonged food collapse. Joseph’s brothers were among those that traveled to Egypt to buy food unknowingly from Joseph himself. Amazingly, Joseph was able to forgive his brothers’ treachery as he saw their action as God’s plan to save many people. 

Examples

You may have heard me speak about Nelson, who was fired on a Friday along with his entire department of 40 people. On Tuesday, those not fired were killed as a plane flew into their very floor of the World Trade Center on 9/11. Or about Carolyn, fired from her job in NYC Opera Chorus, who used it to ramp up her vocal training, and got hired in the Metropolitan Opera Chorus at twice the salary, security and prestige a few months later. Or Irene whose house and contents were severely damaged by fire, but who totally rebuilt her home, greatly improving it in a way that only the insurance money made possible.

What we see as a bad, awful, or even tragic event, can have within it the seed of an equal or greater benefit for us or others depending upon how we handle the situation and the choices we make in response to our problems.

Ty & Charlene Bollinger, who founded The Truth About Cancer that has helped so many people get well, did so because of losing a number of family members to the disease. Candace Lightner and Cindi Lamb, whose children were victims of drunk drivers, started MADD – Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. America itself was founded largely by people oppressed because of their religion, ethnicity, or political views. The New School for Social Research in New York City was founded by  refugees escaping Nazi Germany. 

Our response matters!

I am convinced that the proper attitude and an open and alert mind to deliberately look for the benefit or to find way to create one is essential to: 

Turn It Into a Blessing!

For many years I have adopted this attitude as my immediate response to adversity. While I may mouth the phrase, the emotional shift doesn’t always happen right away, but it helps. Like anyone, I get angry or depressed or wonder what I can do. But this attitude, this single-minded determination to use every experience to grow or get better in some way even though I may not have a clue as to how something good could possibly come out of the current situation or what I can do, leads me out of an emotional cesspit into appropriate action and positive change.

Finding the blessing is necessarily coupled with the questions:

What Can I Learn from This?

How can I, you, or how can we use our difficult or upsetting situation to be better in some way?

How can it make my, yours, or our ___ (business, relationship, life, health or community) better?

And right now with the crises from Covid 19, all of us can ask:

How can we use our experience with this global pandemic and shutdown to make

  • our countries stronger and better?
  • our business and economies more resilient?
  • our immune system and overall health better?
  • our supply chains more crises proof?
  • the information upon which we base serious decisions more accurate?
  • our food supply less dependent upon non-local sources?
  • our supply of critical items no longer totally dependent upon foreign nations?
  • our source of  personal income less dependent upon only one source?
  • our neighborhoods more supportive?
  • our governments – local, state and national – more responsive to the wishes of it’s ordinary citizens not just the big monied interests?

And how can we make sure others do not take unfair advantage of this or any crises to take away our our health, livelihoods, or our freedoms to enrich themselves and advance their private agendas at our expense?

 

Copyright 5/4/2020 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links are included to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com .

Dowsers Can Make a Difference!

As Past President of the American Society of Dowsers, I send this message to dowsers everywhere, members and non-members alike, to inspire and empower you to use what you know to make a difference in the world!

FDR’s Words Are Most Appropriate Today:

In 1933 during the Great Depression Franklin D. Roosevelt said this in his first inaugural address. I believe it is pertinent to what we face today with the corona virus:

“let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.” 

And then he adds:

“…we have still much to be thankful for.…”

“…our true destiny is not to be ministered unto but to minister to ourselves and to our fellow men.”

His full speech can be found here: http://historymatters.gmu.edu/d/5057

FDR’s words sum up how we might respond constructively to this pandemic:

  1. Stay out of fear.
  2. Refocus on gratitude.
  3. Instead of looking for someone to fix things for us, do what we can to take care of ourselves and to help others. 

Dowsers can be part of the solution both with this and other world problems.

As dowsers, we are powerfully blessed with the ability to tap into the greater field of consciousness directly to obtain needed information to help ourselves and others. 

Dowsers practice grounding. Deliberately tuning into the life giving energy from the earth helps us to be fully here and present, and renews our vital life force at the same time. 

We practice centering and quieting the chatter in our heads so we can hear our higher guidance. Dowsers deliberately practice letting go of preconceived ideas, ego, hopes and fears, and of connecting firmly to that great field of consciousness to increase accuracy to the questions we ask. 

Through intention, dowsing can lessen the detrimental effect of mass consciousness, especially important today as the mass contagion of fear is so assiduously promoted by the media. By seeking answers directly from Source, dowsing can mitigate mass marketing, propaganda, mind control and other unwanted influence from others that would push us in the direction of their agenda and away from the truth and from what is in our highest good.

Dowsing develops our gut level instincts, our awareness of what is right and true, and increases our discernment.

As dowsers, we know how to draw up a list of possibilities to any question we might ask, and dowse out a realistic plan to solve any problem we might wish to solve: the best course of action, the priorities, and the timing in which to put that plan of action into place.

We dowsers fully understand the power of clear, focused intent, and how to project that intention to affect positive change and to heal. As we can band together in groups, we can multiply that power of intention to correct the very problems we face in the world today.

In my opening talk at last year’s American Society of Dowsers Convention, I quoted from Stephen A. Schwartz, a consciousness researcher, and former Keynote Presenter. He said:

“we are in this matrix of consciousness where all life and all consciousness is interconnected, we cannot really design the solutions” to world problems unless we recognize that “working with consciousness is one of the ways we can achieve not only personal well being but social well-being” as well. 

He further stated that “As far as I can see, there is no greater power than the collective intention of a large group of people. It can change politics. It can change physical reality. It can affect healing….Consciousness is the fundamental we are dealing with…” 

“You have the power through your intention to literally alter the circumstances of your physical surroundings…and the structure of reality.” 

I believe that especially at this time dowsers are being called to use what they know to help both themselves and others.

Dowsing Protocols

Heather Wilks of Melbourne, Australia (www.dowsingheals.com) and I have each written protocols for the Corona virus. The links to both transcripts and a recording of both can be found here (DOWSING on the Corona Virus) .

One of the most important things to dowse upon right now is to “neutralize the detrimental effect of mass consciousness of fear.” Fear drains the life force. It depresses the immune system. It attracts or makes you vulnerable to the very thing of which you are afraid. It interferes with clear thinking, wise decisions and accurate dowsing. So clear fear first.

Physicist Tom Campbell, author of My Big Toe – The Theory of Everything, has said that the thoughts, emotions, and consciousness of each individual are felt by the whole. Consciousness is made up of thoughts, beliefs, and judgments which generate emotions, mood and behavior. And the consciousness of even one person affects others, who in turn affect many more. As you through your dowsing ground, center and connect to Source and reduce your own fear, you help others also to do the same.

Perhaps these protocols might inspire you to write your own. You may want to 

  • scramble the frequency of ___,
  • neutralize the detrimental effect of ___,
  • increase the life force/ability to ___,
  • remove the spirit/life force of ___,
  • install the spirit of ___,
  • delete any __, and replace it with ___, etc.
  • access, download and activate a blueprint/program for ____ (a vibrantly, healthy body, a speedy recovery)

Possible Dowsing Charts or Checklists to Create

Doctors have said that most of those who died from the corona virus were already severely ill and immune compromised. So why not write a dowsing chart on “Ways to Boost the Immune System”? Make a list of what health experts are already advocating, include the word ‘other’ on your list, and then dowse out what you might want to add, increase, decrease, or eliminate from your diet, supplements, lifestyle, etc. Use the same dowsing chart or checklist to help your family members. 

Fear paralyzes the breathing mechanism. Feelings of uncertainty and confusion sets up paralysis of action. Get your energy moving by focusing on a solution to anything whether improving your health or some other area of your life. For example, you might want to create dowsing charts/checklists on: 

  • 201806 awardASD:me.crop copyHow to Reduce Inflammation
  • How to Detoxify my Body
  • How to Reduce Stress
  • What is the Best Dietary Plan for Me?
  • Plan of Action to ___
  • Ways to Prosper in Spite of ___
  • Alternate Sources of Income
  • What Can I/We Learn from This?
  • How Can I Turn This Into a Blessing?
  • How Can I Add More Fun Into My Life on a Regular Basis?
  • How Can I Improve My Relationships?
  • The Best Exercise Program for Me
  • How Can I Best Use This Down Time to My Advantage?

Dowsing Focus Groups

Groups generate positive energy, enthusiasm, ideas, comradery and support. They encourage their members to take action and stay on track to complete projects. Why not set up a dowsing group to focus on combating any of the many problems we face in the world? Many of these problems such as pollution in the air and water, depleted soil, pesticides contribute to disease both directly and indirectly. Dowsers can commit themselves to working to mitigate any of these problems. Just as radionic practitioners can broadcast minerals to the soil, pesticides to crops, and medicines to animals, so can dowsers through clear, focused intention. 

Consider assembling a dowsing intention group whether as a one-time event or an on-going project. Perhaps model yourselves along the lines of Lynn McTaggert’s ‘Power of Eight’ groups. They work best when they meet every week whether online or in person even for as little as ten minutes. Don’t neglect this powerful tool for healing and creating positive change!

Use intention also to create and energetically transmit healing and project a joyful image of people – yourself, your friends, family and community, and people around the world smiling, happy, healthy, living meaningful lives, cooperating and helping one another. In other words, create an image of a world you want to live in, one that supports life on this planet with clean air, clean water, nourishing food, healthy people, plants and animals and dowse for that. One of my favorite intentions is turn it into a blessing.”

The list is endless of what constructive action you can take with dowsing. 

Convert your worry and uncertainty into dowsing action!

Each person can make a difference!

As Raymon Grace says, 

“you don’t know if you can do something until you try.”

 

Copyright 2020 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

Clearing Non-Beneficial Energy Patterns in Your Timeline

Clearing an event of upset by itself does not heal an issue, stop a negative repeating pattern, or solve a problem. Nor does it really eliminate the type of upset you are experiencing. While you may feel better about a current situation, you can still hold the same underlying beliefs and feelings such as that of abandonment, betrayal, not being good enough, etc. Consequently, these unhealed feelings, and the beliefs or judgments underlying them will set up future problems. To really heal, your consciousness across all points in time has to heal.
 
In non-local reality the past, present and future exist simultaneously. Energetic patterns affecting us in this life can have their origin in any one of these realities. Recent scientific studies with both humans and rodents have shown that issues such as specific fears can be carried on the DNA. But we also know that issues of our family members can be picked up in the womb or assimilated after birth from both family and society. The origins of societal beliefs even without considering the possibility that we may have had past lives can go back to the earliest days of mankind.
 
In the hypnosis world, we call the origin of a problem the root cause. Dowsing colleague, Marty Lucas, calls it the inception point, the point of disruption from wholeness. I like this term as it takes in the broader spiritual dimension spanning centuries.
 
To be complete in any healing work you must change the consciousness responsible for the problem you wish to heal, going back and forward throughout all of time to change the underlying beliefs or judgments whether they started with you or your ancestors. Then the consciousness responsible for all similar subsequent events up to the present moment have to be corrected. Because your consciousness is and has been in setting up future problems of a similar nature, those non-beneficial patterns have to be also healed in your future. And because you bear karmic responsibility for your progeny, clear them as well in all of your lifetimes past, current and future.

Copyright 2019, updated 4/2020 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.                                                                                                                     

 

Thinking about Prosperity

More than Money

“Prosperity is more than just money and things. It is first of all a feeling of wealth insidean awareness of the vast abundance that is everywhere in nature, in your life and within yourself that you can draw upon. And this recognition provides some measure of confidence in being able to meet whatever challenges that come your way.

Prosperity includes love, friendships, networks and personal connections, as well as your own personal qualities that engender trust, respect, cooperation and help from others. While it includes your talents, skills, work experience , it also includes your unpaid life experience, the way you think and approach a challenge. It includes your creativity, your belief in yourself and your ability to learn new things and solve problems. And finally, it includes your health, sense of humor, joy, fun, appreciation and gratitude. All these things together generate a sense of fullness, satisfaction, security within yourself, and, therefore, a measure of peace of mind. 

The recognition  that you do have something to work with relieves stress, which is vital to being able to connecting to your inner guidance from which to generate ideas of what to do and where to start. Then the attitude of gratitude provides the energy conducive to good fortune as does love and enthusiasm for your work.

Creating prosperity is MORE than what specific actions you take or don’t take – vital as that piece is.

It requires a consciousness that is open to wealth in all its forms.

This means becoming aware of and then healing any discomfort, negative beliefs, judgments or fears about money, wealth or yourself so that there is a willingness to receive, hold, invest and expand upon what you have. It requires feeling worthy. It requires a compelling vision of a better future that motivates you into needed and sustainable action, and a belief that you can learn whatever is necessary and overcome any problems to bring it forth. And it includes a willingness to share or give something in return so that there is a flow instead of a blockage of energy. 

Some people are good at part but not all parts of the equation.

They may generate money, but then squander it and lose it as quickly perhaps out of fear, guilt or unworthiness. Others are very frugal and careful in spending, but seem almost allergic to receiving, asking for a fair return for their services or seeking out better income-making opportunities. Perhaps there was trauma around money, or past life vows of poverty, or a belief that wealthy people are evil, or a belief that it is dangerous to have money, that someone will try to take it away from you, or that having more than your friends and loved ones would cost you their love and acceptance.

Some people are so fixated on their problems that they don’t see possibilities, they don’t see that it just might be a growth opportunity. The energy they need to solve their current problems is drained from any number of emotions, some of which have been held for things that happened (or didn’t) many years prior— grief, blame, shame, anger, guilt remorse, hopelessness, or feeling like a victim. Not seeing hope, they are not proactive in seeking whatever help they need or in taking effective action.

Dowsing can assist to find and resolve the root cause of prosperity issues.

This may be in the areas of generating, retaining, investing or increasing money, giving and sharing wisely. It can be in healing trauma, negative beliefs, judgments, fears and other energetic blocks. Dowsing can also assist to set up a strategy for action and overcoming challenges.

Free American Society of Dowsers Teleconference “Dowsing Support & Continuing Education”, Tuesday, June 11 at 8 PM Eastern

Dial (646) 876-9923, enter Participant Code# 443-333-280, & press # at next prompt.

On the American Society of Dowsers Dowsing Support Teleconference scheduled for Tuesday, June 11, Dick Tippett and Gale West are going to address various aspects of creating prosperity and how dowsing can assist us to both generate prosperity and use our resources wisely.

In particular, Gale will talk about her connection with money as a consciousness and share how we hold money affects not only ourselves, but the energy field around us. She believes that healing our relationship with money is one of the most powerful things we can do to affect change in the world. She will give practical tools to identify energetic alignment and misalignment with money. 

Dick Tippett will (as time allows) talk about clearing non-beneficial energies, emotions, thought forms, story lines, attitudes, beliefs, judgments and other prosperity blockers that include money allergy, cords, promises and vows, past lives, generation frequencies or genetic memory, and beliefs absorbed from others.

The live call is moderated by Roxanne Louise and is open to everyone to listen. There is time for Q & A at the end. It is recorded and available on the Members Only page at dowsers.org usually on the following day. 

galewest pict (1)GALE WEST is an internationally known artist, entrepreneurial coach, and intuitive who brings more than 35 years of experience in human potential and as a transformational change agent.  A midwife to magnificent businesses, careers and lives, she is passionate about empowering clarity of vision, right action and actively co-creating with the Divine. 

She specializes in transforming personal and collective relationships to money and success through workshops, retreats, classes and breakthrough coaching. Additionally, she is certified as a consultant and teacher in the Akashic Records. 

She has taught business, entrepreneurship and leadership both in China and the U.S.  Her soon to be published book, “Money Come Dance with Me,” was in inspired by her communication in the Akashic records of money. It invites a new paradigm of money as the expression of Divine love in the marketplace, a guide and loving friend, and an agent for a generous and collaborative world. She has been dowsing since the early 80’s.

For a free video on money mastery and meditation on prosperity, see her website at www.sacredmoneymastery.com

Gale can be reached at gale@sacredmoneymastery.com, 773-494-4300 USA.

Dick TippettRICHARD “DICK” TIPPETT has been a business manager and a consultant for most of his professional life. An Honors Program graduate of Kings Point, he holds degrees in engineering and management. He first learned to dowse from Master Dowsers Harold McCoy and Raymon Grace. Dick brought his dowsing skills into the business world, where he quickly learned that they make him more efficient, his business more profitable and his clients happier and better served. 

For many years, Dick has been an active part of the West Coast Dowsing Conference. In 2018 he served as the Speaker and Special Event Coordinator for the conference and, in partnership with Gladys McCoy, again led the very successful all-day Beginning Dowsers’ School. 

Dick is also the Chair of the Golden Gate Dowsers. Dick has spoken on various topics at the West Coast Dowsing Conference, at several ASD chapters, at The Ozark Research Institute and at the New Jersey Healers’ Retreat. He teaches beginning and advanced water and energy dowsing, a prosperity workshop, works to clear non-beneficial energies and heal disincarnate beings. He and his late wife, Karen Ashley, have a fine workbook that goes along with the prosperity workshop they led together.

 

Pendulums and Hypnosis

The Historical Connection Between Hypnosis and Pendulums

 

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The Swinging Pocket Watch — Creating Trance with Eye Fixation

The 19th century Scottish physician who coined the term ‘hypnosis’, Dr. James Braid,  found that staring creates a hypnotic state. Hence, many old-time hypnotists used a swinging pendulum (sometimes a pocket watch on a chain) for that purpose.

The object would be held slightly above the client’s eye level so he had to look up at an angle. The client would be asked to stare while suggestions were given for eye fatigue, closure and hypnosis. For example, “as you stare at the pendulum moving back and forth,  your eyes are getting sleepier and sleepier, you’re becoming more and more relaxed, and your eyes want to close right down. That’s right, closing right down now. Sleep!”

Ideomotor Response

My first introduction to a pendulum came with my initial hypnosis training with Dick Harte in 1989. He called it Chevreul’s Pendulum after the 19th century French scientist, Michel Eugene Chevreul, who found that it was a way to elicit an ideomotor response –those small unconscious movements that are caused in response to our thoughts. Thought alone could cause a small weight on a string to move. If the mind could be programmed to cause the pendulum to move in one direction when the answer was ‘yes’, and another direction when the answer was ‘no’, then information below the level of conscious awareness could be obtained. While kinesiology is another way to solicit unconscious information with a ‘yes’ and ‘no’ response, using a pendulum is much easier on the body.  

Today, hypnotists are less likely to create an ideomotor response with a pendulum. Instead, the more frequent method used is to induce hypnosis and then program the client to indicate his response to questions with finger movements instead. Once hypnotized, it is suggested to the client that he lift a specific finger when the answer is ‘yes’, another to mean ‘no’, and perhaps a third finger lifting to mean ‘I don’t know’. The advantage of this finger method is that the client does not have to continue to hold the pendulum throughout the hypnosis, which can last a long time.

Whereas the advantage of the pendulum is that the client does not have to be hypnotized or to even close his eyes to signal the true feelings of his subconscious mind. And further, that the client can do it on his own to get answers for himself. And as you already read , the hypnotist can easily transition from eye fixation with the pendulum to trance induction.

Uncovering the Buried Origins of Problems in the Subconscious Mind

It is extremely important to develop a way to determine your true beliefs and inner feelings. All too often you don’t know. You may repress them, or lie to yourself. And while some of the root cause of issues can be recovered through hypnotic age or past life regression, the negative judgments and trauma causing a problem may be so buried in time, may have been absorbed in the womb from someone else, and the resulting fears so deep that it was passed on from our ancestors along with the DNA–all things that you can never discover consciously. Talk therapy will never reach it. Other methods have to be employed, and dowsing is one way to do so.

Dowsing is the fastest way to tap into the subconscious mind for answers!

Learning to dowse (the art of tapping into your subconscious and Higher Guidance with a tool such as a pendulum as the read-out device) is perhaps the easiest way to develop your intuition and self awareness, your inner wisdom and other resources for guidance and resolution of issues. Not only can you find out why you repeatedly procrastinate or self-sabotage, but you can then do something about it by correcting erroneous ideas, internal fears, conflicts, and traumas.

Talking to the Subconscious Mind with the Pendulum

If you learn to dowse with a pendulum, you could ask, “On an subconscious level, how committed am I to ____ (stop smoking, follow through with ____)?” You could turn to a percentage chart such as the one below, and ask, “On a scale of 0 to 100, to what degree is my subconscious willing to _____?” 

YesNoLangChrtHere is a chart from Dale Olson that you can download free from his website, getintuitive.com. [Dale has written a number of dowsing chart books that are available for purchase.]

What questions can the hypnotist ask while the client is holding the pendulum?

Once the client has ‘yes’ and ‘no’ response movements established, the hypnotist could follow with questions to find out the extent of unconscious resistance or cooperation, and more. He could even turn it into the full therapy, which is precisely what dowsers do. For example,

  • “Unconscious mind, do you know the cause of _____’s (name) problem of ____?”
  • “Is there only one cause? Are there two? three or more?”
  • “Do we need to know what caused this problem of ___ in order to ____ (heal, resolve or release it)?” [If you get a ‘yes’, then you will have to ask a lot more questions in or out of hypnosis.]
  • “Are you, unconscious mind, willing to assist (name of client) to ____ (heal, resolve, or release any further need for that problem of _____)?
  • “Are you, unconscious mind, willing to assist (name of client) to do _____ instead?
  • Can you, unconscious mind,  _____ (heal/resolve/release any further need for that problem)?
  • “Are you willing to do so now?”
  • “Then close your eyes and do so, and don’t reopen them until you are done. Start now.”

Using the Pendulum as a Suggestibility Test. 

At the beginning of the first meeting with a client, the hypnotist might want to know how amenable to suggestion or resistant (fearful) that client is. This will effect the type of approach used with that client. Is an authoritarian (telling the client what he will experience) or permissive (suggesting possible things he may or may not experience) approach going to work better? Does the client have a need to be in control out of fear that has to be addressed up front? 

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How to Do the Suggestibility Test

Place a picture of a large circle with a vertical and a horizontal line crossing in the middle similar to the one above from my colleague Cal Banyon’s website, hypnosis center.com. Have the client sit or stand directly over the paper, and hold a pendulum a couple of inches off the center of the crossing point. Ask him to stare at the diagram and move his eyes up and down the line. Then say as you move your finger up and down “As your eyes move up and down the line, ____ [choose one of below]

Permission Approach: “you may find that there is a tendency for the pendulum to begin to move up and down the line as well.”

Authoritarian Approach: “the pendulum will begin to move up and down the line as well.” 

 Once the pendulum is moving from either approach, switch to moving the eyes side to side along the horizontal line. Either way, movement indicates the client’s openness to suggestion by the hypnotist. If the pendulum does not move at all, he is ‘resistant’, which only means that he possibly being so analytical that he is getting in the way, that he is saying it is humbug, or that he needs to be in control and work against any suggestion given to him.

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If you want to learn Pendulum Dowsing, I  have an entire pendulum training manual, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing, that will provide the information and materials to develop this into a very sophisticated art to help yourself and others.

All day workshop coming up at the

Grace Wellness Center

Saturday, April 4, 2020 in Meredith, NH

for further information, click here: 

Copyright 3/23/2019 and updated 3/9/2020 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

 

The Infinite Intelligence Process

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For the past several years, I have been teaching others how to tap into the wisdom within both to solve problems with ease and grace, and to relieve stress in minutes with a modality that I developed and call The Infinite Intelligence Process. It can be used anytime, anyplace by ordinary persons to help themselves as well as by hypnotherapists and mental health professionals with sometimes profound results. Yet it is easy to both learn and apply through one of my short workshops or even right out of my book, Accessing More–Tapping Into the Wisdom Within with the Infinite Intelligence Process

What is this inner wisdom and how can you access it?

    • Have you ever had the experience of tapping into something More–more than you are aware of knowing or being able to do consciously? 
    • And has this More allowed you the ability to accomplish the difficult with ease and grace? 
    • Did it allow you to succeed even though success was considered unlikely or even impossible? 
    • Was it there just when you needed it? 
    • And did it solve a problem in the most perfect way?

fullsizeoutput_1d6Certainly, I have on multiple occasions, and I have heard the stories of others as well. Whether it is suddenly being able to solve problems that had previously defied solution, having creative breakthroughs, superhuman strength to save the life of another, or responding protocol perfect to a never before encountered emergency, people have amazed themselves and others when they have spontaneously accessed this greater wisdom, intelligence, strength, ability or knowledge. Sometimes it has come as a result of a necessity or out of nowhere during an emergency, and sometimes it has come in quiet moments after working on it for a prolonged period of time through normal conscious means and then letting their mind relax.

For example, I was awakened one morning with noise coming from my master bathroom. I found my five cats surrounding a copperhead snake that had gotten up into the ventilation system from the crawl space and pushed up the floor grate to get into the room. The snake was coiled up ready to attack, and kept rotating its head to watch each of the cats. What could I do? I had to protect my cats, prevent the snake from getting back down the floor grate and having access from the ventilation system to other parts of the house. I had to be sure to get it, dead or alive, completely out of the house without myself or my animals getting hurt. The way I responded turned out to be protocol perfect even though I had never been trained. How did I just naturally do everything right?

Another time, I found myself caught in a rip tide and rapidly pulled out to sea. I tried swimming to shore, but it didn’t work and I quickly got exhausted. I tried yelling and waving my arms for help, but those on shore didn’t notice and couldn’t hear me over the surf. I was getting wiped out with the waves and getting water in my mouth. Again, it seemed that I tapped into that something More to stay calm and focused on what I could do to stay alive.

Like a cat with nine lives, I have had many experiences starting from childhood that could have been dangerous, even fatal. I have also had many overwhelming responsibilities or pressures through which I sailed calmly. I have accomplished some amazing things with ease. You probably have done or know others who have done the same. Just google feats of superhuman strength and you will find many real life examples.

While necessity does motivate us to look deeper for ideas and strength, it certainly does not guarantee being able to do so as so many people blank or numb out, freeze or just panic. The questions for all of us are:

• How do we tap into that greater knowing, wisdom, ability or resources without it having to be an emergency, life or death situation? 

• How can we tune into whatever it is that allows us to handle life with greater ease and grace on a regular basis? 

• How can we routinely tune in and save ourselves a lot of time and energy, worry and frustration, fear and anger on or about upsetting events as well as ordinary everyday things–our job, relationships, daily life and responsibilities?

Some people may automatically jump to religious causation for all beneficial outcomes, and I do not dispute that miracles may occur. But it is my personal opinion that believing that all help comes from outside of us can actually limit the natural flow and development of what may inherently be an inside but undeveloped part of us. Instead, if we can consider that we are MORE than we think we are, we may be able to connect to the More that we truly are. I do not know or need to know where the demarcation ends of what is me at my highest and best and what goes beyond ‘me’.

Accessing More starts by adopting the open minded attitude that it is possible–that you are able to harness greater resources, wisdom and ability that go beyond the limitations of the ego and conscious mind, beyond the subconscious, to the spiritual dimension of the self that is further linked to an even greater consciousness. Start with a positive attitude and set an intention to do so.

Accessing More of both what is within and without is done below the level of conscious awareness. Simply quiet your mind, and go inside to the peaceful part of you, affirm your intention, and allow that inner something to do its work. This approach circumvents the ego, the mind games, circuitous thinking, internal and external blocks, and inhibiting energies that have prevented previous solution to the issue of concern. The process works to solve practical problems, relieve stress, and heal from long-standing issues–even sometimes those that have previously defied resolution. All aspects of your life can be addressed–mental, emotional, relationship, physical, financial, business, and spiritual.

This process can be used anytime, anyplace as a self-help tool by the ordinary person to help himself in real life situations. It can also be used for meditation, constructive self-programming, and in conjunction with other modalities. But hypnotherapists, dowsers, teachers, counselors, life coaches, energy healers, mental health practitioners, and others can also employ it as a full-fledged therapy. It draws upon the principles and practices of hypnosis, Neural Linguistic Programming, dowsing, meditation, prayer and many energy healing methods.

So what exactly is this More?

While it includes your subconscious mind that regulates all of your body functions, automatic behavior, physical, mental and emotional habits, directives and injunctions, beliefs, judgments, and memory, it goes beyond that. I believe that this More is primarily the eternal, infinite intelligence within you that is intrinsically linked to the ultimate consciousness behind all that is. Using this system increases your awareness that you are More than your ego, More than your body and local mind, and More than the individual, spiritual self that people call the soul, to something beyond.

Traditional religious circles say that this More is God, and exists totally outside and apart from the self, and is reachable through prayer, petition, ritual or sacrifice. Unfortunately, all too often prayers beg, whine, or plead in fear without really believing that help will come, or make things worse by focusing on the negative. Consequently, such practices can nullify such help.

Labeling or identifying this More is not important to access the benefits.

In fact, it can get you stuck and mired in mankind’s perpetual argument over philosophical and religious discussions that are, in the final analysis, unprovable and come down to a matter of beliefs. Whether right or wrong, true or false, your beliefs and attitude do make things easier or harder. So adopting a helpful attitude, a curious mind that holds a window of possibility when you desire to solve a problem or achieve a goal is crucial to your success.  

The Infinite Intelligence Process is one way to tap into what I call More.

It helps you to adopt an attitude that will make things easier and flow more readily. It makes a big difference in processing overload and releasing stress, and it does so in a very simple way that you can do anytime, any place. Let me show you how you can quickly and easily tap into that incredible wisdom and resources within you on a regular basis! 

Accessing More — Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process is available at https://www.roxannelouise.com/accessing-more-tapping.html for just $24.95 plus shipping.

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This is a rewrite of an article originally done in 9/21/17. New copyright 3/20/19 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.  

Harness your anger to get better!

  • Have you ever thought of anger as an OPPORTUNITY to learn and grow?
  • Have you thought that it can prod to do something different and potentially find a better way?
  • That it can push you to go after a better relationship, job, location, home or car?
  • That in getting fed up you make a decision – a decision to change, to do something about your drinking or smoking or other habits, your health, your weight, your lifestyle, or to do a thousand other things you already know you need to do?
  • That it can impress upon you that you need to set better boundaries, to learn to communicate more clearly, to think before you speak or act, to not settle for less, to stand up for yourself, to ask questions instead of making assumptions?
  • That it can alert you to what needs to heal within yourself, old buried wounds, things from childhood, things you thought you got over long ago but didn’t, and motivate you to do something about it now?
  • And that it can cause you to take a good look at yourself and see what other people see in how you effect people, how you ignore, or upset them, how you take them for granted or give them the impression that they can take you for granted?
  • Have you considered that anger can be your TEACHER, your COACH?  
  • That it can nudge you off the couch and motivate you into taking much needed and long overdue action to create a life that is meaningful and satisfying? 

And have you considered that by using anger in this way, your life will get better?

Learn to harness your anger to help you to become a better person and improve your life.

Over a lifetime, both personally and professionally, I have had the ‘opportunity’ that pushed me to learn about the unconscious forces driving emotional reactions, choices, behavior, issues, and interpersonal problems. And because I like to sleep at night and did not like experiencing negative repeating patterns myself, I was motivated to learn, change and grow.

“Necessity is the Mother of invention.” 
 

What I did learn in order to help myself, helped others as well, and some profoundly so. I compiled much of it in a 154 page content rich manual, Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone, to assist in facilitating clear communication, resolving internal and external conflicts, enhancing personal growth, and improving relationships of all kinds. Using this material, I have gained greater perspective and maturity. I am seldom triggered, and if I am, I immediately work to heal the causative factors. My sleep is greatly improved, and I have developed inner resources, resiliency and peace of mind. My clients and students also report positive results.

 

You can learn and teach much of this information right out of the books.

This is some of what the book covers.

  • ReleasingAngerCoverpngBecome aware of underlying beliefs, judgments, faulty assumptions or perceptions that cause anger!
  • Learn more effective communication skills to both avoid unnecessary problems and to address the ones you have!
  • Learn to maintain and regain balance and perspective quickly!
  • Set better boundaries!
  • Learn to fight clean and stop conversations from spiraling downwards!
  • Learn more effective coping skills!
  • Take effective action without the baggage of the past!
  • Use anger to grow in maturity and cast off leftovers of childhood!
  • Allow anger to locate and address your own unhealed wounds!
  • Understand the underlying dynamics of anger!
  • Learn to deal with what is instead of wasting precious energy in resistance!
  • Notice negative patterns and screw them up!
  • Understand and dissolve triggers!
  • Nip anger in the bud by noticing and taking action at the first warning signs!
  • Understand physical reasons for anger so you can address them!
  • Use anger as motivation for much needed healing and change!
  • Make your adversaries help you!
  • Learn the benefits of anger
      TEACH RIGHT OUT OF THE BOOK!

Under, Over, Around and Through

Many people give up too easily on their dreams. Don’t!!!

If something is important to you, if you have a dream, if you have a talent that demands development, then you MUST PURSUE IT any way you can going under, over, around and through whatever obstacles or challenges are presented. Only in that way will you satisfy the deep, inner calling of your heart.

When I first entered college, I wanted to have a dual major of music and social science. These dual interests were apparent from early childhood. Like the “Lucy” Peanut cartoon strip character, I was giving out my two cents of advice to playmates starting at age 4. But at the same time I also fantasized musical numbers and would sing and dance for whoever came into the house. I was fantasizing Gene Kelly and Judy Garland song and dance routines. I was in church choir, school orchestra and band, every talent show, and later in All State Chorus. My vocal talent was recognized very early by professional classical singers including two former Metropolitan Opera soloists.

However, my college felt that music was too all encompassing and I needed to make it both my major and minor or not at all. I picked music with voice being my major. My mother was aghast thinking it would lead to couch auditions and an immoral lifestyle. I was told that I would be disowned and cast out of the family, Even after an interview with Metropolitan Opera star and head of the Voice Department who tried to intervene on my behalf was unable to dislodge my parents adamant refusal.

As I lacked the courage to venture completely out on my own, and more importantly, did not want to cut all ties with my family, I majored in social sciences instead. But both while in school, and after graduating, I took private lessons as money would allow, went to the library to check out opera recordings while following along with the score and librettos, went to concerts, and sang in churches that put on oratorios and even was Mezzo-Soprano soloist for Handel’s Messiah while in college.

The turning point came when as a young woman and living in Boston my husband went to speak with Re Koster, the head of the voice department at New England Conservatory of Music. He convinced her to listen to me and if satisfactory, accept me as a private student, something she had always refused before. However, she did take me, and within 6 months of this Dutch mezzo’s tutelage, I had learned all of the mezzo solos in the oratorio repertory, and most of the Bach cantatas as well. This I did while holding my infant son in my arms during my lessons. Soon after she retired and moved leaving me to go on to another teacher. I then also talked my way into being able to audit music theory classes at Boston University even though I was only enrolled for voice lessons. 

Not having a piano of my own, I rented time on a neighbor’s to learn my music. Again, I would hold my infant on my lap while playing the music with one hand. Then I talked my way into ushering for the Metropolitan Opera performances when they visited Boston. Such opportunity was only open to New England Conservatory students, but I signed up anyway. Then before each performance, I went up to the soloists and musicians and interviewed them, the famous bass Justino Diaz being one of them. I actually met the orchestra leaders that later hired me as Executive Secretary for the Met years later, and some of the musicians for whom I later worked. 

While living in Boston, I then auditioned for and was accepted into an all professional choir that put on Bach cantatas with professional orchestra every Sunday. While I was not good enough to be paid as were the others, they did pay for my babysitting. My son, now a toddler, was enrolled in the church nursery, and went with me to all the rehearsals where he crawled under the chairs of the musicians when he got away from the nursery. During one church service, the congregation was startled with the two gigantic wooded doors at the rear of the sanctuary banging open, and one little guy striding very triumphantly up the aisle to come visit me in the choir stalls up front.

When the family moved to Portland, Maine, I enrolled as a voice major at University of Maine, and joined a major choral society. Again, I ushered when Boston Opera came to town taking my young son with me to pass out programs in the balcony. I took him backstage with me to meet some of the singers. My voice teacher decided that I needed more professional training than he could provide and so we drove together from Portland down to Boston regularly for us both to study with a prominent voice teacher there. My voice lessons represented half of my food budget for the week. When I could not continue to afford to pay for membership in the choral society, an anonymous donor came along and paid it for me.

I auditioned for the professional choir in the episcopal cathedral Portland, and while not paid, was able to get free piano lessons from the Director.

When the family moved again, this time back to New Jersey, I was determined to get ANY job that I could at the Metropolitan Opera. I was willing to scrub toilets. So I made the rounds of all the employment agencies in Manhattan each time asking for a job at the Met. The answer was always the same – no openings. Finally, I took the bull by the reins and went to the stage door and inquired of the personnel department. The woman on the house phone asked if I took short hand. When I replied ‘no”, she hung up the phone.

So, I was determined to find a way to be able to take dictation. I found that my old high school was giving a summer course on ‘speed writing’. I took it, and soon after was hired as Executive Secretary to the Orchestra Manager at the Met!!! This gave me free rein to walk backstage, visit the various departments where they make and manage everything – wigs, costumes, sets, staging, and more. I was able to hear all the rehearsals over the loud speakers while working, and get free standing room passes to performances, and free dress rehearsal tickets for my family. This allowed me to educate my parents into the magical world of opera and give my son exposure to it as well.

I found a voice teacher across the street from Lincoln Center, and on lunch hours if there were no rehearsals taking place in house, and after work, I would sit and listen to other people’s voice lessons. This gave me a fantastic musical education. I also took yoga and exercise classes, language classes, acting lessons, and speed reading. 

I then auditioned for and was accepted into Aspen Music Festival Chamber Choir. As the Met orchestra was off in the summer and the house operated on skeleton crew, it was possible for me to do this. Aspen provided housing for singles or money for housing for me since the dorms would not take my son. So my son from 8 to 10 years old, traveled with me and was enrolled in day camp while I rehearsed. Then he came with me to all performances. During one year, I wrote to all the churches in town inquiring about a cheap place to stay in this very expensive resort town. We got a room in exchange for me cleaning. Another year, we drove out and lived in a VW bus. Again, as being able to find a place to park legally at night was a hassle, I asked the churches around, and found one that would allow me to do so. I sang there for 3 seasons.

49897687_782012838813911_6915629389375864832_nWith this background, I was able to secure work as a professional singer in Manhattan, join the union, and work not just as now a church and temple soloist, and privately sing for weddings and funerals, but singing with recognized national and international groups such as Joffrey Ballet, NYC Ballet, American Ballet Theatre, Netherlands Ballet, NJ Opera, Ars Musica,  Clarion Musical Society, Friends of French Opera, and more. This also meant that I had to quit my secretarial job at the Met, but then got into NYC Opera Chorus, first part-time, then full-time, then part-time again for a total of ten years. I taught private voice students as well and wrote a small primer on vocal technique. I also started and ran a weekly Women in the Arts support group at my alma mater at Montclair State University.

Reality sets in

I had worked very hard against tremendous odds and had achieved a lot in a very difficult field. But I also had a son that I needed to support. NYC Opera went on strike three times in ten years and I scrambled to make the rent with temporary work as a secretary. I was consistently stressed for money – not just for the rent, etc., but to pay for the necessity of continual voice lessons and coaching lessons if I was going to make it as a soloist and not just remain as a union chorister. I had problems with high notes, problems in memorizing, problems with foreign languages, and problems with the politics of music.

The icing on the cake was tearing the cartilage connecting my sternum to my ribs. This happened within two weeks of starting to date someone new. This man represented the choice between potentially having a happy, ‘normal’ family life or living on the road as a singer after dropping my son off with my parents. The injury indicated that I was literally torn in two between two conflicting goals. My subconscious had cast the die and chose marriage and family. 

Even after I was sufficiently healed to be able to get in and out of bed on my own, and get up and off the floor onstage, I was nolonger able to breathe as I once was, and this not only ended my ambitions for a solo career but any likelihood in being hired as a permanent chorister in the only classical singing job in the nation that provided financial stability – the Metropolitan Opera. 

So unwilling to only be a part-time chorister with the precariousness that that entailed, and during a music union strike in 1989, I trained in hypnosis, a second interest. And I immediately started lecturing, teaching self-hypnosis, and seeing clients as time allowed between my singing jobs. 

But then I came to a point of decision.

Eventually, the schedule became too difficult to straddle both fields, and I had to choose.  Considering the real limits I now faced in music in addition to family responsibilities, I decided to venture out on my own as a hypnotherapist and be in charge of my schedule without a limit on what I could accomplish in using my voice to uplift, inspire and heal (my chief aim that was underneath both desires to work in music and hypnosis). Again, I went after my new profession just as vigorously as I had with music.

Since that time I have been a regular presenter at many hypnosis and dowsing conventions yearly, have written ten books, received six national hypnosis awards including two lifetime achievement awards, and one in dowsing. I host two national teleconferences for the American Society of Dowsers, I sit on the Board of Directors for two national organizations, and have been on the Board of others, founded and run a local dowsing group,  founded and used to run a local professional hypnotherapy organization for many years, set up speakers and wrote a newsletter for another hypnosis chapter, and have trained many people – professional and layman alike – in hypnosis, stress management, dowsing, and Reiki.

Do I regret all the time and energy pursuing a field that I later left? Absolutely not! 

I had amazing experiences that few others have had. I have been part of creating glorious moments in musical history that transported those in the audience as well as the performers to spiritual heights that only heavenly music can do. I went after my dreams and tested my limits in a very challenging field, achieving a certain level of success that was profoundly satisfying. 

So what is my point?

  • If something is important to you, if you have a passion to do something or a big enough why, you can overcome tremendous odds and achieve a significant amount of success. 
  • Regardless of the outward worldly recognition you are able to achieve, relentlessly going after the inner calling of your heart will bring enormous satisfaction to your soul. You would have answered your calling.
  • If you can’t go through normal channels to reach your goal, you have to get creative and find another way. 
  • If one door is closed to you, you find a window. You go

OVER, UNDER, AROUND or THROUGH!

Copyright 2/3/19 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.      

 

Finding Your Why!

The end of December and beginning of January are traditional times to reflect on the year past and set goals for the year ahead. People think about getting rid of bad habits and accomplishing a long list of things that they have never been able to do before. Yet unless they do something different, it is likely that these goals will not get done this year either.

New Year’s Resolutions tend to wither on the vine before February rolls around. Setting goals, making ‘to do’ lists, and having the best of intentions are simply not good enough. You have to have a big enough reason, a reason to get off the couch, a reason to do a bunch of things you don’t like or are outside of your comfort zone especially when you are tired, stressed, or there is a good movie on Netflix. This is what I call finding your ‘why’. 

Why New Year’s Resolutions and Goals Fail

In an earlier blog article “When Goals Lack Luster”I addressed part of why people do not achieve what they would like. Here they are:

  1. The goals are not really your goals. They sound good but really belong to someone else, hence, they don’t inspire you to take action. 
  2. Internal conflicts – there is a part of you that wants it, but also a part that doesn’t. Until you resolve it, you are literally fighting yourself.
  3. You either do not have a big enough reason or cannot see the connection to your core values or soul path to do the work necessary and overcome whatever challenges are involved.
  4. Negative beliefs, assumptions, and judgments
  5. Not knowing how to achieve these goals, who to turn to for help, the first steps to take, and not having faith that you can figure these things out as you go along.

But here, I would like to address #3 — finding the underlying reason why you want what you want especially focusing on your core values and primary life direction. This reason, which I call your ‘Why’ also relates to ‘Relevant’ in SMART goals listed below.

What are SMART goals?

SMART is an acronym for each element that needs to be in place for goal achievement:  

  • Specific (clear, concise goals writen down and described in detail),
  • Measurable (allowing you to track your progress with end date in mind ),
  • Achievable (challenging yet doable),
  • Relevant (fit in with your core values, overall life plan or purpose), and
  • Time-based (with dates for each part of the process).

To Achievable listed above, I would add that you need to BELIEVE that this goal is achievable even if no one has done it before, and you don’t have a clue yet how to do it yourself.

Setting SMART goals is commonly talked about in business circles because it takes goal setting out of the realm of fuzzy thinking into a clear action plan enhancing the likelihood of results.

A recent example of finding your WHY:

Right after Thanksgiving I took a train from Charlottesville, Virginia to New Jersey, picked up my son’s van and most essential belongings and drove about 3200 miles or 8 hours/day most days for 8 days to get them out to California in time for my son to start work at a job that he had only just gotten only a couple of weeks before. I had to hustle to schedule, organize, instruct caretakers for my farm, get animal houses cleaned, feed purchased, and everything ready, including getting my other businesses taken care of to make this happen.

Now, I should tell you that I hate driving and dislike leaving home especially when I don’t know where I am going and have to set up my own travel arrangements and accommodations along the way. I procrastinate endlessly when I have to go somewhere, usually waiting until the last moment. I worry incessantly about other people taking good care that my pets and farm animals are kept safe, well fed and sheltered appropriately, greenhouse and other plants watered, doors locked, etc. There are enough problems and emergencies that come up when I am here all day for me to tell you that these fears are based in reality.

And yet I offered to do this. Why? I had a big enough reason. I saw it as the only realistic solution that would allow my only child to start his wonderful new job on time, a job that would enhance the well-being of his entire family and fulfill their cherished dreams. And because of that reason, I put everything aside and got it done.

As a hypnotherapist, I work with a lot of smokers. Most important to their success is in having them identify their ‘why’. What do they want more than a cigarette? No one stops smoking because it is a good or healthy thing to do, or it costs too much, or other people are nagging them. No one stops even if doctors tell them that they have to stop. Lots of people continue to smoke after heart attacks, getting emphysema or cancer.  They only stop when they want something MORE.  

When your reason is clear and big enough, anything is possible. You will amaze yourself and others with what you can do. 

So as you look at your year ahead and what you would like to see happen this year, ask yourself

What is my ‘Why’?

 

Once you know that, then ask

And if it could work, how would it work?

 

Copyright 1/2019 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

 

 

When Goals Lack Luster

Confronting Your Malaise

Sometimes knowing what you want is fuzzy. Perhaps you have a vague feeling of wanting something more. Maybe you feel bored, stuck,  dissatisfied, restless or uneasy in your present situation, job, relationship, home, location. While some people just ‘suck it up’ and push forward with their normal routine anyway, thereby keeping their job and relationships intact, others self-medicate with food, booze, entertainment, etc. Some quit their jobs, leave their spouse, and go off to ‘find’ themselves and explore different options without any serious thought or destination in mind.

But staring your malaise in the face to clarify what is going on, and what you authentically want as opposed to what your family, society and the advertisers always hungry for your wages have programmed you to want, is something every adult needs to address in order to achieve real life satisfaction. Next follows the need to develop and follow a plan to make it happen.

External versus Internal Goals–what do you want?

Many times a person doesn’t achieve or follow through with their goals because they are not excited or inspired sufficiently to undertake the long-term and sustained action required for real achievement. Such goals may sound good. They may bring the approval of friends and family. While such goals may fall into the category of  being ‘practical’, ‘realistic’, socially respected, and lead to financial security, it is still important to tie anything to which you are going to be spending a lot of time, money, effort on doing to ultimately lead to deep, internal satisfaction for you. And while the road to your goal might involve learning and mastering a lot of things that do not interest you, it is doable IF you

keep your WHY in central focus.

For example, when I decided that I wanted to become an opera singer, the training required not only voice lessons, but piano lessons, music theory, learning foreign languages, dance and movement classes, memorization, and practicing vocal scales – the most boring of all. But I had supportive friends that sent me a card that inspired me. The card started with a fund-raising brochure put out by the Metropolitan Opera in NYC. The front pictured a legendary fat soprano with the words “The MET needs you!” To this, my friends put my name. So the card now read “The MET needs you, Roxanne”. This sat on my piano music stand encouraging me to do those ‘stupid’ scales. Oh, as postscript, I did go later to work at the MET first as Executive Secretary to the Orchestra Manager, and later singing onstage in the chorus multiple times with visiting reknown ballet companies. 

What Mama (or Dad) Wants

Many parents insist that their offspring follow goals that they have chosen for them – doctor, lawyer, Indian Chief. These include academic, sports, or creative as well as professional pursuits.

For example, in my youth, many children were unwillingly pushed into music lessons and the daily practice. But even though the goal was external to the child, that child may have later developed their own joy of making music and pursued it willingly, developing enough skill to please themselves and others. And whether music became a professional pursuit later on or not, that forced musical education had multiple benefits in teaching self-discipline, striving for excellence, appreciation for music and creating something of beauty. It might have also become a satisfying hobby or part-time way of making additional money. The same can be true of other externally applied goals.

But long term, trying to live out someone else’s dream or goals for you tends to lack passion and backfire even if on the surface it sounds laudable and your head says that you should want it. Like so many New Year’s Resolutions, the work towards such goals peters out unless it is clearly seen as a means to an end you really want for yourself.

If the driving motivation of ‘nice’ or ‘should goals’ is external and not coming from inside your core self, knowing then how to communicate with your core self is hugely helpful to clarify the direction of your long-term and soul satisfying path.

Obstacles, or why don’t you have what you want already?

Perhaps, after embarking upon your own goals, you run into a problem or conflict you didn’t know you had. For example, in a hypnosis seminar, the instructor asked us all to visualize a personal goal as if we already had achieved it. Mine was to be able to buy a big, beautiful house. Initially thrilled imaging that this house was mine, I then noticed that I was quickly disquieted. Who was going to clean it? I have always disliked housework. I would have to hire people to help me, and this brought up an uncomfortable feeling of having ‘servants’, of being the employer, boss, of being on elevated position over others, telling others what to do. Where did this come from? Had resentment against the ruling class, of master versus slave, boss versus worker, lord versus peasant somehow creeped into my DNA from ancestors past? Had I identified from characters in books, history class or had I had unpleasant experiences in possible past lives? 

Whatever the source, internal conflicts will always sabotage your efforts and have to be resolved.

But even once you know what the conflict is, you may not know how to resolve it. There may be aspects to achieving your objective that involve learning new things, developing knowledge or skills in which you have no interest or actively dislike. You may lack belief in yourself to overcome them. Such challenges may bring up past humiliation or pain.

You have to have a big enough reason to overcome challenges. Why do you want what you want?

Without a clear, driving vision of the end goal and the belief in yourself that you can overcome whatever challenges that come up, you will lose momentum. Obstacles have the potential of putting your dreams into the closet where they gather dust and die if you don’t have the tools, the belief in yourself, the motivation and vision to get through the challenge. Knowing how to brainstorm for solution is a big help here with dowsing being of major assistance.

Journaling for Goal Setting and Problem Resolution

Writing forces you to clarify things. Write down one question at a time and then attempt to answer it. If you don’t know how to dowse, journal. In journaling, write as if you were speaking bluntly with a trusted friend without any self-censorship. Then go back and reread everything you have written, rewriting it ever more concisely until you can sum up the essence into a short paragraph or sentence and you feel comfortable that you have ‘nailed it’. If not, keep writing until you do. 

Challenge negative beliefs

Where you find negative beliefs or judgments, worry or fear, challenge them. Who says you can’t ____? Who says that it’ll never work? Instead, ask the question:

If it could work, how would it work?

Every goal has challenges, and every challenge is a call for you to rise to the occasion and grow. Going through the process leads to increased abilities, confidence, self-esteem and a real feeling of accomplishment.

fullsizeoutput_2cAnother way to resolve your malaise is to just focus on a question in meditation or self-hypnosis and let it roll around in your mind without needing an immediate answer. I do this through the Infinite Intelligence Process, which is a modality I have put together in a book entitled Accessing More – Tapping Into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process.  

Under the section called ‘Connect’, there is the opening phrase, “There’s a part of me that knows _____, and that part is _____ (guiding me now, bringing that information into conscious awareness, assisting me to do this in a way in which I am really pleased, etc.).” Here again, just allow yourself to drift into a meditative/self hypnotic state. Hold the question in mind without needing an answer. Over time, your subconscious mind will bring things to your attention, and synchronicities will occur.

Below are some sample questions to ask: 

  • Why am I feeling ____ regarding ____?  
  • What is underneath this feeling of _____?
  • If I could support myself anywhere, where would I want to live?
  • How could I support myself living in ____ (name of location)?
  • How could I support myself doing ____ while living in ____?
  • If I could support myself doing anything I like, what would be most satisfying to my soul? 
  • What does my spirit want to do ____ (now, short term, long term, as my life’s work)?
  • What kind of work can I do right now that would help me to eventually be able to do/become ____ in the future?
  • What kind of work is most in keeping with my soul desired life’s path?
  • What kind of work combines my main interests and abilities?

Writing Dowsing Charts and Checklists

Finding the right answers starts with asking the right questions. 

In my opinion, dowsing is the fastest way to gather information, determine the underlying dynamics, and solve problems of any sort. Start with writing down your question on the top of a page. Next, brainstorm possible answers in a list format or spread out in a fan or circle format. Include the word ‘other’. 

If you are working with a list, then turn the page to the side so the widest part of the page is on the horizontal line. Without looking at the words, but either with relaxed eyes staring into space, or focused at the bottom of the page, hold the pendulum in your hand and let it pull your hand in the direction of the appropriate line. Then look, and read what it says.

For example, if you were trying to figure out your emotions, you would list possible emotions, including the word other. Then you would ask:

  • What is the main reason I am feeling ____ about ____?
  • What is the next main reason I am feeling ____ about ____?

Continue, until there are no more emotions indicated. 

Next, because emotions come from beliefs, judgments or thoughts, write a list of possible ones, such as “people should (or shouldn’t) do ____”. Then dowse:

  • What is main thought or judgment underneath this feeling of _____?
  • What is next main thought or judgment underneath this feeling of _____?

Keep brainstorming and dowsing until you have a complete picture. Then work on addressing/healing any issues uncovered. Some of this work will entail straight forward problem solving, such as the below:

  • Who can help me with ____?
  • What are my next steps? (dowse out priorities)
  • Is anything preventing me from moving forward with this?
  • How motivated am I to do what it takes to accomplish this goal? 
  • Do I have any fears or limiting beliefs that ___ (are likely to, could) sabotage me in achieving this? If you get a ‘yes’, brainstorm what they might be and dowse out.
  • How can I make this required task easier, interesting or even fun?

Working below the level of conscious awareness

In some cases, you will not identify the cause of your malaise or failure. I then suggest  turning over the healing/resolution to what some call the ‘healer within’ or one’s spiritual dimension. I do this again with the Infinite Intelligence Process as listed earlier, “There’s a part of me that knows… and is doing so now.”

But there is another part to that process that is called “Process”. It installs a stress management program either with dowsing, meditation or hypnosis and then turns the healing over. For example, “From the perspective of my High Self, process and ____ (heal, clarify, release, resolve) ____ in a way in which I am really pleased.” If I am doing this with dowsing, I add “Take action now with the pendulum, and let me know when it is complete.” Both techniques are fully described in my book Accessing More–Tapping Into the Wisdom Within with the Infinite Intelligence Process.

In conclusion,

Overcoming malaise and obstacles in reaching your goals is made infinitely easier when you have a big enough ‘why’, when they are your goals, and you work with your inner resources every step of the way. I look forward to hearing about your own journey.

Copyright 1/9/2019 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

 

 

 

 

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