Healing Meditation

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The key to receiving healing energy is to be in a receptive state. This you do by by relaxing, letting go of tension and upsetting emotions such as fear, and to elevate your mind and emotions into a state of gratitude, love, joy, and awe.

Start with taking a few deep breaths. With each exhale intend to let go of any muscular tension, and allow your body to sink into the furniture. 

Next focus on those things for which you are grateful. These can be simple things – food, shelter, a hot shower or a cup of hot tea. Besides feeling grateful for all of those things that you have now, you can also think about those things for which you had in the past providing that the emotion arising from those memories make you feel that you were blessed instead of making you sad. Sadness, guilt and shame drain your energy. And anger, resentment, blame block it. But gratitude, love, joy, humor, and especially awe, increase it.

Image two giant hands cradling your body, supporting you, infusing you with love and life-giving energy. And as these hands lift you up, let all unnecessary stress drain away.

Further information: see our other articles at UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com .

Listen also to Podcast: “Dowsing for Mind-Body Healing”

 

What if illness was a choice?

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TO BE OR NOT TO BE — SICK 

Putting forth the premise that illness is a choice may sound harsh. But think about it this way:

Long before you got sick, you were entrenched for years in hundreds of little habits–habits of eating, exercise, work, lifestyle, smoking, drinking, and habits of how you handled stress, conflict and negative emotions. Even your thinking has been largely a matter of habit. And because thoughts determine emotions, which in turn create different biological chemicals in your body, emotional states and body chemistry are the results of thoughts, beliefs, judgements, and habits of mind. And that involves choice – both conscious and unconscious.

Regardless of what habits or beliefs were installed in childhood by family or culture, upon reaching adulthood, it becomes a choice to continue those habits and to hold those beliefs without question, or not. It comes down to whether they work for you or whether negative consequences appear that call for change.

Choices become habits, and habits create destiny

All habits come about through little decisions made again and again, perhaps multiple times daily until they become an automatic program that starts to run your life. Allowing thoughts to continually be held in mind is a choice, and this choice then becomes part of your attitude and personality [see work of biologist Bruce Lipton, Ph.D.]. 

Further, your beliefs, judgments, and interpretations of events and experiences collect evidence to prove you right. Left unchallenged (a choice), they will either attract more similar experiences or you will tend to feel and react as if they were similar even though they were not.

These mental habits will guarantee what emotional and physical consequences you experience both immediate and long term including illness. For example, if you interpret a situation as ‘this is scary’, you will activate the stress hormone of cortisol, which shuts off the biological functions of growth, digestion, repair and immune functioning. Whereas if you interpret the very same event as ‘this is exciting’, ‘this is an opportunity’, or ‘what a fun challenge’, your internal chemistry will be very different.

Routinely interpreting what is happening around you as threatening will over time damage your health.  However, you can choose to interpret or judge a situation differently, to react differently. Following a decision to do so, and then practicing over time to retrain your mind, might make the difference you need to heal.

Consequences

So there are consequences to all of your choices and the habits they become. And these consequences include your health, mental and emotional well-being, or lack of same.

However, at the time that the choices were made, you may have been unaware of those consequences or you lived in denial. After all, when you picked up your first cigarette were you really paying attention to the health risks? Did you think that you were invincible? Did you think you could outrun the bullet, and that the health warnings didn’t apply to you? Did you just figure on having just a few, and quitting tomorrow? Were you bargaining, “please, God, just let me have this one ___ (cigarette/drink/ice cream sunday) and then I’ll stop and be good!

Now, years later you may become aware that it has come time to pay the piper. What do you do when you don’t like the negative consequences of your choices? How do you unravel bad habits, bad decisions, limiting beliefs or judgments for which you are now paying dearly?

Making different choices

Healing requires change, and change can be scary.

If a health problem is a result of long standing habits and patterns, healing will always require changing those habits and patterns. The necessary changes may be all pervasive, even drastic, and can be just as scary as the illness itself.  Carolyn Myss in Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can, says that

“many of us are almost as afraid of healing as we are of illness.”2 

Even though a person may be aware of the risks, and their doctor may have recommended dietary, habit or lifestyle changes over the years,

only when there is a clear cause and effect relationship of certain habits and choices with the negative consequences do most people begin to make even the smallest, yet alone the big changes, that may be necessary.

This follows the Law of Inertia, a body at rest tends to stay at rest, and a body in motion tends to stay in motion.

It takes more energy to shift direction than to continue to do what you have always done.

And it will take dedication on a daily basis to overcome the years of negative programming. However, each day you choose to practice new habits, it will gain in power.

How committed are you to heal?

Are you willing to do whatever it takes? And if you aren’t, can we then say that you are choosing to remain sick? Myss asks the following:

“If healing required moving to another part of the country, changing your attitudes toward others and yourself, changing all your physical habits, such as diet and exercise, being alone for a long period of time, or going on a retreat to confront your shadow, experiencing illness as a way of healing mentally, emotionally and spiritually, or losing everything familiar to you — home, spouse, job–would you do it?” 3

John Harrison, MD, in Love Your Disease–It’s Keeping You Healthy says that

Anybody prepared to make fearless decisions in their best interests will avoid all major illness and most minor ones as well.”

Illness provides benefits called secondary gains

There may be positive payoffs to being sick. For example, illness may get you out of a job, activity, situation, relationship, or a responsibility that you hate. It can provide an excuse not to do, or not to go where you don’t want, or to do something that you do, for example, to stay home and watch television. It may provide financial awards, temporary or ongoing income, medical benefits, and time off from work. [See article “Secondary Gain – a Gain from Pain”

Illness may get people off your back. It may provide an excuse, and special considerations or privileges such as handicapped parking. It may allow you to avoid responsibility for yourself or others. It may cast the die–letting the disease or condition make a decision for you when you are too indecisive or weak to do it on your own.

Illness may pull a family or relationship together, or provide a way to check on the feelings of others. It may let others know that you need them, providing them with an important role, and helping them to feel good about themself for helping you. Illness can be a way to get people to come to visit, and to obtain desired attention, emotional assistance, concern, sympathy, demonstrations of caring or love. It can be a way to get people to do things for you, even getting waited on hand and foot as in hospitalization. Finally, a health problem can be a form of self-punishment, a way to atone or pay yourself back for guilty thoughts, feelings, behavior.

Because of all of the above, a person on an unconscious level may choose to become ill, or to do things that make him liable to get sick. Once sick he may obstruct healing, or do all the wrong things such as a diabetic eating sweets, to sabotage getting better. 

As Myss says, 

Illness can…become a powerful way to get attention you might not otherwise receive”, and “as a form of leverage, illness can seem almost attractive.”

Benefits to illness can be secondary or primary to the condition. They can be conscious or unconscious (below the level of awareness). As in which came first, the chicken or the egg, did the person get sick in order to get his needs met? Or did he get sick as a result of bad habits or some other reason, and then notice that there were some payoffs in being ill?

Harrison says that

The person is needy, rather than sick….People get ill to get what they want… People do not get what they want…so they become ill.”5

Basic needs,  such as attention, solitude, caring, must be met one way or the other. And if illness is providing those needs, the person must feel secure in meeting those same needs, just as easily as before, but now in a healthy, constructive way. Otherwise, he will resist getting well, or he will get sick again to get his needs met.

A Wake Up Call + Hope

To break the negative cycle, both the pain of the illness needs to be great enough for the person to be motivated to change, and the person must have hope that making changes will make a positive difference in his health.

Without hope or positive expectancy, why bother to even try?

Harrison further states that

“Disease is both self-created and self-cured…. Illness is the physical and psychological result of unresolved needs, not a malfunction of a machine caused by unknown or external factors….We give ourselves illnesses in order to ‘take care of ourselves’ psychologically.”

Harrison and Stephen Parkhill, author of Answer Cancer, refer to an unspoken contract between doctor and patient that says the following. The doctor, in exchange for money, will remove unpleasant symptoms for the patient without upsetting the patient’s chosen lifestyle or habits, attitudes or feelings, judgments or beliefs. The doctor will participate in the illusion that the patient is a victim and not responsible for either the disease or its removal and return to health. The doctor will take over responsibility for the patient’s health and all decisions relevant to his health care.

Harrison puts it this way:

“I have consulted you to have my need recognized, my suffering validated, my pain removed and my disease retained. In return, I will support you financially and give you status commensurate with the powers I ask you to exercise.”6 

As Harrison further states,

“It’s this need to be taken care of by people more powerful than ourselves that leads us into taking some decisions that are damaging to us in the long term.”

This agreement between doctor and patient may eradicate symptoms, but miss the cure. It has all the dysfunctional psychodynamics of the Victim-Rescuer-Persecutor Triangle7 –the patient being the Victim, the doctor/therapist being the Rescuer, and the disease/condition being the Persecutor. Roles can switch if compliance in the game is unsatisfactory.

Patients need to get out of the game and take back responsibility for their illness, and take back their power to heal. But in doing so, they need to understand the role that not just their physical habits and lifestyle play, but the all important component of their thoughts and emotions.

What emotional states cause illness?

Parkhill believes that ailments in general come from an unconscious need for self-punishment, self-mutilation, or limitation. He also feels that guilt, blame, criticism, fears, such as the fear of abandonment, or the fear of not surviving because essential needs are not well met, play a role.

To his list, I would add that many other emotions and internal conflicts could be involved depending upon the illness and where it is located. German New Medicine outlines a number of emotional shocks that if are not quickly resolved lead to very specific diseases. [See article “German New Medicine & the Mind-Body Connection”]

Louise Hay, author of You Can Heal Your Life, thinks that thoughts of being not good enough, self-hatred or criticism, resentment and guilt are the most destructive to our health. Conversely, she feels that forgiveness, self-acceptance, love and releasing the past are key for healing.

Unraveling Bad Choices and Making Better Ones

Postulating that illness is a choice, even if it is an unconscious one, implies that there is a different choice or choices that could potentially be made that would leading to a different outcome–one of health, vitality, and overall well-being. Once clear about the negative consequences of all of your habits and patterns, you may be motivated to change. This will include making changes in your thinking, beliefs, attitude, how you deal with stress, as well as diet, lifestyle. 

Make a commitment to take positive action. Start with making the most obvious and the most do-able changes, and the changes most likely to make the most difference.

There are many ways of tackling the various mental, emotional and habit components.

  • Self-hypnosis really helps to focus on priorities, increase motivation to do what you need to do, change negative thinking, and to release stress. 

The modalities or techniques listed below are also invaluable in releasing stress, self-sabotage, and healing issues. Dowsing, Emotion Code, Hypnosis, and NLP have the additional benefit of being able to locate the source/s of the problem.

  • Thought Stopping and Switching 
  • Emotional Freedom Technique
  • Emotion Code
  • Tapas Acupressure Technique 
  • Hypnosis
  • Neural Linguistic Programming 
  • Pendulum Dowsing 
  • my own Infinite Intelligence Process8 [see article “Accessing More”] 
  • Through hypnosis or Time Line Therapy you can go back in time to a choice point and make a healthier, more constructive choice that leads to health. I like the unconscious healing modality that I call “Change Decision”9 that taught to me by A.L Ward, but those of other hypnosis mentors such as E. Arthur Winkler or Walter Sichort and his protege James Ramey, who did something similar.
  • Next, you can imagine traveling into the future to a time when the problem has been satisfactorily resolved, find out how that was done, and bring that solution back to the present moment along with the resources to do it. This is called Future Pace, or Crystal Ball, or Magic Wand — all hypnosis and NLP techniques.
  • Or again with hypnosis, you can imagine going into a parallel universe in order to change direction to an alternate reality more of your liking. Go the station platform and change trains.

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FOOTNOTES:

1. First published in 5/2007

2. Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can, page i x.

3. Ibid, page 138-139.

4. John Harrison, M.D., Love Your Disease, page 51

5. page 46-7

6. Love Your Disease, page 59

7. The Victim-Rescuer-Persecutor Triangle is typically seen with alcoholics, drug addicts, gamblers, and many of the chronically ill. The Victim uses his problem to manipulate and control others into taking over responsibility for him, bailing him out of problems, and meeting his emotional and perhaps financial needs. The Rescuer initially feels good to be of help, but later comes to feel as if he, himself, is being victimized by the very person he is trying to help, who has takes on the role of Persecutor. Rescuers are caught in this trap because they do not feel good about themselves unless they are helping those they consider more unfortunate than they. Most people in the helping profession as well as nurses and others in the healing arts start out as Rescuers. Hence, they are vulnerable to being used and abused by others. Awareness helps, but the biggest cure for this is high self-esteem and healthy boundaries.

8. ACCESSING MORE – Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process by Roxanne Louise

9. Change Decision is included in the Visualization Chapter of my book, Your Unlimited Potential, a complete self-hypnosis course and introduction to professional hypnotherapy.

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Disease, Language & Metaphysics

Louise Hay & You Can Heal Your Life

Many years ago, Louise Hay wrote Heal Your Body, and then rewrote and expanded upon it  in 1984 with a new title, You Can Heal Your Life. These extremely popular books which are still in print after more than 30 years greatly popularized the belief that you create your own reality, including sickness or health through your thoughts, language and emotions, and that there is a metaphysical connection to problems of all kinds including ill health. By changing your thoughts, correcting your language, and healing your emotions, Hay claims that you can heal your life as well as your body. as she did from cancer.

My Agreement & Disagreement with Hay et al

As a Hypnotherapist, I am well aware of the mind-body connection, and the havoc caused by unresolved emotions and detrimental suggestion. And I know how information gets into the subconscious mind, which includes repetition, strong emotion, authority figures, subliminal messages, and going into a state of trance which occurs naturally many times a day to everyone. And so, I am in agreement with much of Hay’s philosophy, which stems from New Thought Christianity.

Language, emotions, beliefs and judgments form a powerful influence of  upon what happens to us in life. I have also noticed that some people with particular health conditions appear to share many similar traits and issues. And I have noticed that many times the body metaphors that we use in our specific language can have a negative effect upon us. Nonetheless, I argue that:

1. The root cause or contributors to any problem, including illness, are not always knowable or fixable.

However, it is still important to investigate and continue to work towards a resolution. There are many therapeutic interventions that can be done on a ‘can’t hurt’ basis. Even if they do not solve the problem or cure the illness, they can reduce stress, make a positive difference in quality of life and increase peace of mind.

2. While illness may stem from or be aggravated by internal factors of mind or emotion that can be changed by the individual, it may also come from external factors that are outside of their knowledge, influence or control.

3. Addressing emotional issues and cleaning up one’s self talk is always advisable, and is helpful in improving many, perhaps most situations, but it may not necessarily fix or cure any specific problem. 

4. It is arrogant and offensive to take these beliefs and push them onto someone else as if it is truth. And it is short-sighted to close the door on other possibilities even for yourself. Beliefs, no matter how treasured, should be considered as OPINIONS.

They may have some validity for some people, even many. They may even be the key in solving the problem for one or more persons, but necessarily all. Beliefs are theory, not universal law.

5. Explanations as to why things happen and what to do about them, no matter how widely shared, and regardless if they are claimed to come from a divine revelation, are not necessarily correct. 

There has been an age old search for meaning to explain life, why things happen, how we should live, how we fit into the world, and what man can do to survive and obtain health, wealth and other good fortune since the beginning of history. All such explanations change over time. Bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people all the time. 

The Importance of Language

In the beginning was the Word.” Genesis

Words are powerful. As the quote from the first book of the Old Testament above, creation starts with language. If you desire to have greater dominion over your life, to create more of what you want, and dismantle what you do not such as illness, it is critical to pay attention to your

  • language
  • thoughts especially the unspoken ones
  • feelings
  • beliefs and judgments

Thoughts, feelings, beliefs and judgments are revealed through language.

Listen to yourself

Be scrupulous with statements that start with “I”. The “I” takes ownership of whatever comes afterwards.  “I am ___,” affirms your identity.  “I can’t ___”  strengthens that inability. “I have ___“, owns it. Listen carefully to yourself, even your inner dialog. If you don’t want to reinforce it, don’t say it. Change the words. For example, Hay suggests changing “I should ___” (self judgment/criticism) to “If I really wanted to, I could ___”  (awareness of choice).

Likewise, stop putting anything negative (especially a disease) after the word “my”, such as “my cancer/arthritis/diabetes.” The word ‘my’ takes ownership, holding it close to you. Think of a  little kid clutching a toy and yelling “that’s mine! Don’t you take it away from me!” 

A way to tell the truth about a problem without making things worse is to change from using present tense to past or past progressive tense. For example, I advise clients to switch from  saying “I can’t___”, to “I had or I’ve been having a problem with ___. And what I really want now is to be able to ___” [your positive objective].  Put problems in past tense, and goals in present tense.

Continual repetition of anything becomes part of your subconscious programming. It has a cumulative effect upon your life, positive, negative or mixed. Watch out for body metaphors, figures of speech, expressions in your language that if accepted literally by your unconscious mind could possibly create an undesirable outcome.

Your unconscious is literal and will try to deliver to you according to your words. It doesn’t have a sense of humor or appreciation for colorful language. So it doesn’t understand that you really didn’t mean it when you said that “my head is exploding”,'”I ate so much I could just burst”, or “my time is up”. Likewise, it is unhelpful to say “it takes a long time to heal,” “I just have to live with it,” “there’s nothing I can do.” 

Better to switch to curiosity or possibility. I wonder if ___,” or “If there was something I could do that would help me ___, what might it be?” “If I could___ (heal/get better/do ___), how would be helpful?”

Always task your unconscious with finding a solution, answers, or help in any area of concern. But it must be done without being frantic or desperate about it. Maintain a relaxed attitude of mind.

Delegate to the wisdom within and let go of it.

Body Metaphors

Consider what effect the following expressions (thought or vocalized) might have with prolonged use on your health:

  • he/she/it is a real pain in the neck,
  • I can’t stomach it,
  • I could just die for__,
  • this job is giving me a real headache.\
  • I can’t live with ___ (or I can’t live without ___).

If a that thought or judgment is highly emotionally charged, it can, especially if negative, have an immediate and lasting impact. Repetition is not necessary if it is internalized.

Metaphysical Meaning of Illness

Hay has done a valuable service in cataloging the metaphysical connections to many health conditions. However, such catalog should be read only as a partial, not definitive list, and as a possibility. Explore it as something to be ruled out on a “can’t hurt” basis, not to be taken as necessarily the true and only cause of the problem. It might apply to you, but then again, it might not. Or it might be partially applicable, but there might be another or much bigger issue or cause/s behind the condition.

Recently, a client of mine was told by her doctor that her breast cancer represented a fear of mothering. This client had been a mother, but that was decades ago. How could it have caused cancer now at 80 years old? 

I find this type of pronouncement problematical. For a start, you cannot find “fear of mothering” on any X-ray or lab test. It’s not like a broken bone sticking out of the skin, but rather a very subjective interpretation. Subjective interpretations or opinions are often wrong. That’s why patients are advised to “get a second or third medical opinion”.

Now, in referring to Hay’s listing of the metaphysical meanings of disease, it would make sense for this client or me as her therapist to use the references listed regarding to both breast and cancer AS A STARTING POINT FOR INVESTIGATION OR DISCUSSION– NOT A PRONOUNCEMENT OF TRUTH OR DIAGNOSIS. Determine if there is any relevance or truth to it and rule it out.

Her doctor might better have said, “sometimes breast cancer relates to issues with mothering, such as to how a woman felt that she was mothered, or about how she felt about taking care of herself or others.” He may have then asked:

  • How do you feel about how you were you mothered? 
  • How did you feel about being a mother and raising your children?
  • How do you feel you did as a mother? 
  • How do you feel about your children now?
  • How do you mother yourself? Do you feel you nurture yourself well? 
  • What feeds your spirit and are you doing it now?”

Then if any unresolved issues were uncovered in the discussion, various techniques could be employed to address them on a “can’t hurt basis”. I teach all of my clients the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) because it is both easy and effective for self-use. 

Any stress that is released (even if it does not refer to the main issue) frees up energy for the body to heal.

In this client’s case, I started teaching her EFT and will on her next visit make a point to clear any possible links Hay lists. For a start, it can’t hurt and it helps to be thorough. But I also told her that the breast refers also to nourishing or feeding anything that she is/has/or could give birth to. This could be her creativity, her writing, or some other very personal expression of the self. So if she, as a writer, made a point of writing on a daily basis, even for just 30 minutes, it could be a part of her healing journey. This could be done just because it makes her feel good.

Anything that feeds the spirit brings in energy that helps the body to heal or to stay healthy if already well.

Detective Work–Looking for a Possible Motive

It is important to consider that Hay’s catalog, or indeed, anyone else’s, is only helpful as a beginning guide in searching for clues as a medical detective. Just as a police detective might want to look to see if anyone had a motive for the crime, who could benefit from it, you could ask if the illness or condition is doing anything for the patient. In hypnosis, we call that benefit secondary gain. Secondary gain can include love, sympathy and attention, an excuse to get out of what you don’t want, or to get permission to do what you want,  and a way to atone for wrongs –real or imagined, etc. For more information on this see another of my blog articles entitled Secondary Gain – a Gain from Pain. 

In my experience both personally and professionally as a Hypnotherapist, the contributor to any problem can be THIS AND THAT, and THAT, and THAT TOO. So I have a problem with anyone telling someone else with authoritarian conviction WHY they are sick, or have any particular problem based upon their own (not the sick person’s) personal belief system. The client’s beliefs about their own life are very relevant to explore. Your beliefs about their problems are not.

A friend is having pain in her foot and heel, and assumes that anything with the feet is related to be”fear of moving forward in life”. While this belief can be traced right back to Louise Hay’s book, and even if she is right in her own case, there are many other things related to the feet and heel. For example, we have expressions like “crushed under foot, ground underfoot, feel like a heel, feel like kicking myself, feel like someone just kicked me, grinding in my heels”

For example, years ago I went to a rental house that I owned in order to get it ready to re-rent. As soon as I walked into the kitchen I banged my toe on the kitchen table leg. It really hurt and I had to sit down, and wanted then to just go home. My experience had nothing to do with fear of moving forward, rather my thought was “I could just kick myself for buying this stinking house with all of it’s problems.” So I tapped a few minutes on my resentment, and did what I needed to do.

Hay’s Background

Hay was a trained as a minister in the Church of Religious Science. Religious Science like Unity School of Christianity developed out of the teachings of Mary Baker Eddy, founder of Christian Science. And Mary Baker Eddy in turn was influenced and healed by Phineas Quinby, a Mesmerist (an early form of hypnosis after the work of Franz Mesmer). As such, the power of the mind, and of suggestion to heal or hurt are taken seriously. There is a lot of cross over between New Thought and hypnosis. For example, New Thought works a lot with positive affirmations. Hypnosis implants positive suggestions directly into the unconscious mind, and removes negative ones.

Hay says that we create our own reality, including disease, through our thoughts. Certainly, hypnotists would agree that our thoughts have a huge impact both upon what and how we experience in our life. And mental and emotional stress plays a part in almost all diseases. But I disagree that our thoughts are the only or even the cause necessarily.

Freud talked about cigars being a phallic symbol. But he also said that sometimes a cigar was just a cigar. Well, sometimes it appears that shit just happens! The oft repeated New Age statements that “things happen for a reason,” “you create your own reality,” “you’re 100% responsible for everything that happens to you,” and “there are no accidents” are all unprovable philosophical beliefs. 

Can we ever really know WHY?

Even if there is a reason, we may not know or cannot discover what it might be. The reason made have been caused by someone or something else, not you. Otherwise, everyone and everything would be at your mercy. They would be powerless to take action or make choices or decisions independent of your thoughts and creative power.

However, it is true that you do create much of your life through your mental, emotional and physical habits. You do effect how you experience your life by how you interpret your experiences as good or bad, as punishment or blessing, etc. You do make things easier or harder for yourself by your attitude. 

Illness as a Learning Opportunity or Gift

In an earlier blog post entitled What the Law of Attraction Misses or “Why Shit Happens (or doesn’t), I quoted Tom Campbell, author of My Big Toe. Campbell says we attract our experiences this way: 

If a particular occurrence is determined to be an effective learning opportunity for someone or everyone, the probability of it happening is increased. The system is designed to automatically deliver timely custom-fit individual learning opportunities — the presentation of such opportunities to individuals or groups is part of the feedback one receives relative to the choices one makes. Because the point of the system is to overcome fearand replace it with love…, if you have fear, the feedback system will manifest that fear in PMR [physical reality] to force you to deal with it (learn) or suffer the consequences.”

Overcoming fear and increasing love, which according to Campbell is the point of the experience, would then, according to my understanding, reduce or eliminate the need for that ‘learning opportunity’ (unpleasant experience), but not necessarily stop it, heal the disease, etc. It may bring healing, or just improve the situation. It may allow the person  to live with it with equilibrium but without improvement. Or it may bring closure, allowing the person to die with peace of mind.

Over the years, I have heard various people say that their disease or health issue was a gift. Indeed, it is helpful for all problems or challenges to be viewed as such. Doing so instantly reduces some of the stress, refocuses the mind on problem solving and taking constructive action. Ask yourself:

  • What can I learn from this?
  • How can this experience help me grow, get better?
  • Is there a message here for me? 

Agreement Between Campbell, Hay and EFT 

Hay thinks that thoughts of being not good enough, self-hatred or criticism, resentment and guilt are the most destructive to our health. In her current edition of You Can Heal Your Life, she references the channeled work Course in Miracles that claims that all disease comes from lack of forgiveness. And that if a person is ill, they need to look at who or what they need to forgive, focusing on forgiving whatever is the hardest to forgive. Whether or not forgiveness is the key or just one of the keys to healing, certainly it plays a major role.

To forgiveness, Hay adds self-acceptance, love and releasing the past as the most healing. Perhaps this is part of the power of the Emotional Freedom Technique wording, “Even though I [feel]____, I deeply love and accept myself.”

Unforgiveness can be considered a form of ‘stuck’ energy. The philosophy behind many forms of Oriental medicine such as acupuncture, acupressure, is to remove blockages and allow the energy to flow easily throughout all parts of the body system thereby enhancing health. The Emotional Freedom Technique combines tapping or rubbing specific acupressure points, while admitting our darkest thoughts and feelings, and ending with affirming self acceptance and love.

Agreement Between Campbell, Hay and the Infinite Intelligence Process

I like the Introduction to Hay’s seminal work in which she says:

“In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete. I believe in a power far greater than I am that flows through me every moment of every day. I open myself to the wisdom within, knowing that there is only One Intelligence in this Universe. Out of this One Intelligence comes all the answers, all the solutions, all the healing, all the new creations. I trust this Power and Intelligence, knowing that whatever I need to know is revealed to me, and that whatever I need comes to me in the right time, space, and sequence. All is well in my world.”

This paragraph sums up a good deal of the philosophy behind the Infinite Intelligence Process that I teach and write about in my own book, Accessing More–Tapping Into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process. available through my website www.RoxanneLouise.com and link above. 20170516_AccessingMoreCover

The moment you trust that you have access to a greater wisdom and resources within you and can rely upon to solve any problem, there is a profound inner peace.

If you, like Campbell, believe that the core of your being exists outside of this body with all of its experiences, then you are More than any physical or other limitation. As Campbell says the real you exists beyond this computer simulation that we call life, and continues beyond whatever happens to the character that occupies your current body and has your current name.

I believe that there is a part of you that is always o.k.

This attitude gives me great comfort.

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Dowsing for Solutions

My father’s influence

I born into an engineering family. My father, who was a mechanical engineer, inventor of roller bearings for General Motors, and occasional instructor for Hyatt GM, taught me early on to work out my problems on paper. He told me to “think negatively towards a positive solution.” In other words, consider your design from all possible angles including things that could go wrong. And if things are already going wrong, redesign to counteract those non desired effects in order to get your desired outcome. 

Inventors like my late father are both highly analytical and highly creative—a perfect blend of left and right brain thinking, rational and psychic, logical and artistic, head and heart. This is true with dowsers as well. Dowsing is a balancing of both hemispheres of the brain. The analytical and logical left brain helps you to research the subject at hand—both to clarify exactly what is desired, and the elements that may be causing or sustaining a problem, and those that may lead to a possible solution. 

Resolving problems starts first with a recognition that there is a problem and knowing what that is.

My father’s way of thinking applies perfectly to dowsing for solutions to problems and for goal achievement of any kind. Although you may have a clear positive intent of what you want to create, you should also check for and eliminate whatever could sabotage or negatively impact upon that intent. To ignore or deny the negative factors is like putting ice cream (your affirmations and positive desires) on top of horse manure. 

Factors to be considered include among others, your gut level belief in yourself, and in your ability to learn and to solve each phase of the project, your belief in the viability of your project, and your allowance of it versus any doubt or fear. Other factors include conflicts, motivation, commitment, endurance, and anything that could be sap your strength, energy, or your ability to follow through.

Determine the likely causative factors to resolve or clear, and any challenges or conflicts that will need to be addressed. Dowse out your priorities and the order in which to tackle them. Set up a strategy for the best course of action to follow. Your analytical mind will assist you to fine tune your dowsing questions. In fact, you can dowse “is this question now worded correctly?”

For any problems you are likely to encounter again, develop dowsing charts and checklists. These are especially useful and time saving in future.

The real problem may not be apparent.

There can be a problem beneath the problem. For example, you may think that the problem is that you ___ (drink/smoke/eat too much). And while that may be true, there can be an unconscious need or wound that is driving it, for example, trauma, pain, boredom, feeling unloved/not good enough/angry/hurt, etc., unable to set healthy boundaries or express your needs to others, difficulty communicating with others, poor stress management skills, ad infinitum.

So the first task is to write out what you think the problem is. Then dowse out: 

Is this the real problem? If you get a ‘no’, brainstorm on paper until you find it.

Is there a problem underneath that is either creating or aggravating the problem of ___? If you get a ‘yes’, brainstorm what that might be. Always include the word ‘other’ on your list, and dowse out.

You may want to know when the problem first began, and if it originated with you in this or another lifetime, or if you inherited it from an ancestor. For example, author Dr. Bradley Nelson of The Emotion Code as well as others has found that we frequently carry issues that are passed down on our DNA. [Nelson, by the way, has a helpful chart of non-beneficial emotions that can be located with kinesiology. I use his chart with dowsing instead.]

With dowsing, you may ask if you need to research a particular issue. If you get a yes, it may be helpful to know what players are involved as this can help to refresh your memories and emotions and focus on forgiveness or understanding. You can make or purchase dowsing charts for this purpose. Here is mine, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing. 

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What do you want instead?

Hint—it is NOT to not have that problem on ____. Clarify the positive opposite of what that problem would look/feel like. How would it show up? How would anyone know without you telling them that you solved that problem?

How motivated are you on a subconscious level?

On a scale of 1-10 how much do you want to resolve that problem and achieve your objective on a subconscious level? Is that problem serving a need or secondary gain? Is it protecting you? To what degree will your subconscious mind permit you to solve the problem? I call this your level of allowance. To what degree will it resist? This is your level of resistance.

Dowse this one at a time and get the percentage for each. Ideally, you want to get the resistance (probably a fear) down to zero and the allowance up to 100%. The way to do this is ask your subconscious mind to review everything to do with that problem, and extract the positive learning first. Then ask if you can heal/transmute any fear or resistance. If you get a ‘yes’, then go and do so.

Secondary gain is a benefit that you get out of a problem that the unconscious mind considers of greater importance than the problem itself. For example, an illness can serve to protect you from something that is painful, upsetting or threatening. Or it can provide attention, acts of love and kindness that you crave. [See the article, “Secondary Gain – A Gain From Pain”]

You might also state “I release any belief, perception or judgement that _____” (belief causing the resistance). “I now choose to believe that ___ (positive opposite belief).” Check with the pendulum again on the levels of resistance, and of acceptance. 

Is anything else blocking you?

Dowse if you have any other blocks to resolving the problem or achieving your goal. Some people have multiple goals that require more time and energy than are possible to achieve all at the same time. Priorities should be dowsed out. Perhaps all goals can be met in some measure with one being the main focus and another as a hobby or a one time event. Again, you can dowse out the percentage of time to devote to each. Perhaps, all can be met in some measure over a lifetime, or achieved sequentially instead of together. Some people have goals that conflict and will need to set up a hierarchy of values, and do some deep soul searching. If you are consciously motivated, but have unconscious blocks, those blocks will have to be addressed first.

What needs to happen?

Next, determine what has to occur to solve that problem and achieve a real transformation. Once you have clarified what you want, identified the problem and elements to be addressed, and brainstormed possible solutions, it is time for action. This may be through dowsing alone as in mental or emotional healing, or through physical or other action. 

Manifesting

Manifesting is the act of creation through joining strong clarity of intent with strong emotion. Positive creation will require an elevated emotion such as love, joy, gratitude, bliss.

Quiet your mind, and drop down into the deepest part of your inner being with clear focused desire to connect with Source — that universal sea of consciousness behind all that is. This is the repository of information, ideas, wisdom and guidance linking all minds throughout time and space. This is the place of pure creation, healing and manifestation where it is possible to alter reality and create miracles. Stay there until you feel a sense of completion – this can be seconds or much longer.

Conclusion

Dowsing is phenomenally valuable in all aspects of problem solving: clarifying intent, aligning with that intent, removing any blocks to such alignment, raising one’s frequency, and connecting with universal consciousness and divine creation to bring about the results you want with greater ease, grace and speed. 

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ILLNESS as CHOICE ?

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TO BE OR NOT TO BE — SICK 

Putting forth the premise that illness is a choice may sound harsh. But think about it this way: Long before you get sick, you are entrenched in hundreds of little habits–habits of eating, exercise, work, lifestyle, smoking, drinking, and habits of how you handle stress, conflict and negative emotions. Even how you think is largely a matter of habit. And because thoughts determine emotions, emotional states and attitude are a result of habits of mind.

Choices become habits, and habits become destiny

All habits come about through choice–little decisions made again and again, perhaps multiple times daily until they become automatic and start to run your life. Thoughts are a choice as are attitude, beliefs, judgments, and decisions about how to interpret events and experiences.

Consequences

There are consequences to your choices, consequences that include your health, mental and emotional well-being, or lack of same. However, at the time that the choices were made, you may have been unaware of those consequences or you lived in denial. After all, when you picked up your first cigarette were you really paying attention to the health risks? Did you think you could outrun the bullet, and that the health warnings didn’t apply to you? Did you just figure on having just a few, and quitting tomorrow? Were you bargaining, “please, God, just let me have this one ___ (cigarette/drink/ice cream sunday) and then I’ll stop and be good!

Now, years later you may become aware that it has come time to pay the piper. What do you do when you don’t like the negative consequences of your choices? How do you unravel bad habits, bad decisions, limiting beliefs or judgments for which you are now paying dearly?

Making different choices

Healing requires change, and change can be scary.

If a health problem is a result of long standing habits and patterns, healing will always require changing those habits and patterns. The necessary changes may be all pervasive, even drastic, and can be just as scary as the illness itself.  Carolyn Myss in Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can, says that

“many of us are almost as afraid of healing as we are of illness.”2 

Even though a person may be aware of the risks, and their doctor may have recommended dietary, habit or lifestyle changes over the years, only when there is a clear cause and effect relationship of certain habits and choices with the negative consequences do most people begin to make even the smallest, yet alone big changes, that may be necessary. This follows the Law of Inertia, a body at rest tends to stay at rest, and a body in motion tends to stay in motion. It takes more energy to shift direction than to continue to do what you have always done.

How committed are you to heal?

Are you willing to do whatever it takes? And if you aren’t, can we then say that you are choosing to remain sick?

Myss asks the following:

If healing required moving to another part of the country, changing your attitudes toward others and yourself, changing all your physical habits, such as diet and exercise, being alone for a long period of time, or going on a retreat to confront your shadow, experiencing illness as a way of healing mentally, emotionally and spiritually, or losing everything familiar to you — home, spouse, job–would you do it?3

John Harrison, MD, in Love Your Disease–It’s Keeping You Healthy says that

Anybody prepared to make fearless decisions in their best interests will avoid all major illness and most minor ones as well.”

Illness provides benefits called secondary gains

There may be positive payoffs to being sick. For example, illness may get you out of a job, activity, situation, relationship, or a responsibility that you hate. It can provide an excuse not to do, or not to go where you don’t want, or to do something that you do, for example, to stay home and watch television. It may provide financial awards, temporary or ongoing income, medical benefits, and time off from work. [See article “Secondary Gain – a Gain from Pain”

Illness may get people off your back. It may provide an excuse, and special considerations or privileges such as handicapped parking. It may allow you to avoid responsibility for yourself or others. It may cast the die–letting the disease or condition make a decision for you when you are too indecisive or weak to do it on your own.

Illness may pull a family or relationship together, or provide a way to check on the feelings of others. It may let others know that you need them, providing them with an important role, and helping them to feel good about themself for helping you. Illness can be a way to get people to come to visit, and to obtain desired attention, emotional assistance, concern, sympathy, demonstrations of caring or love. It can be a way to get people to do things for you, even getting waited on hand and foot as in hospitalization.

Finally, a health problem can be a form of self-punishment, a way to atone or pay yourself back for guilty thoughts, feelings, behavior. As Myss says, 

Illness can…become a powerful way to get attention you might not otherwise receive”, and “as a form of leverage, illness can seem almost attractive.”

Benefits to illness can be secondary or primary to the condition. They can be conscious or unconscious (below the level of awareness). As in which came first, the chicken or the egg, did the person get sick in order to get his needs met? Or did he get sick as a result of bad habits or some other reason, and then notice that there were some payoffs in being ill?

Harrison says that

The person is needy, rather than sick….People get ill to get what they want… People do not get what they want…so they become ill.”5

Basic needs,  such as attention, solitude, caring, must be met one way or the other. And if illness is providing those needs, the person must feel secure in meeting those same needs, just as easily as before, but now in a healthy, constructive way. Otherwise, he will resist getting well, or he will get sick again to get his needs met.

To break the negative cycle, both the pain of the illness needs to be great enough for the person to be motivated to change, and the person must have hope that making changes will make a positive difference in their health. Without hope or positive expectancy, why bother to even try?

Harrison further states that

“Disease is both self-created and self-cured…. Illness is the physical and psychological result of unresolved needs, not a malfunction of a machine caused by unknown or external factors….We give ourselves illnesses in order to ‘take care of ourselves’ psychologically.”

Harrison and Stephen Parkhill, author of Answer Cancer, refer to an unspoken contract between doctor and patient that says the following. The doctor, in exchange for money, will remove unpleasant symptoms for the patient without upsetting the patient’s chosen lifestyle or habits, attitudes or feelings, judgments or beliefs. The doctor will participate in the illusion that the patient is a victim and not responsible for either the disease or its removal and return to health. The doctor will take over responsibility for the patient’s health and all decisions relevant to his health care.

Harrison puts it this way:

“I have consulted you to have my need recognized, my suffering validated, my pain removed and my disease retained. In return, I will support you financially and give you status commensurate with the powers I ask you to exercise.”6 

As Harrison further states,

“It’s this need to be taken care of by people more powerful than ourselves that leads us into taking some decisions that are damaging to us in the long term.”

This agreement between doctor and patient may eradicate symptoms, but miss the cure. It has all the dysfunctional psychodynamics of the Victim-Rescuer-Persecutor Triangle7 –the patient being the Victim, the doctor/therapist being the Rescuer, and the disease/condition being the Persecutor. Roles can switch if compliance in the game is unsatisfactory. Patients need to get out of the game and take back responsibility for their illness, and take back their power to heal.

Parkhill believes that cancer is created because of an unconscious need for self-mutilation and self-punishment. He believes that ailments in general come from an unconscious need for self-punishment, self-mutilation, or limitation. While I think it is more to it than this, I do agree with his belief that guilt, blame, criticism, fears, such as the fear of abandonment, or the fear of not surviving because essential needs are not well met, set up later illness. And to this list, I would add many other emotions and internal conflicts could be involved depending upon the illness and where it is located. 

Unraveling Bad Choices

Postulating that illness is a choice, even if it is an unconscious one, implies that there is a different choice or choices that can be made that will leading to a different outcome–one of potential health, vitality, and overall well-being. Once clear about the negative consequences of what you have been doing in diet, lifestyle, holding onto negative emtions, etc., you may be motivated to change.

Make a commitment to take positive action, start with making the most obvious and the most doable changes, and the changes most likely to make the most difference.

There are many ways of tackling this.

Self-hypnosis really helps to focus on priorities, increase motivation to do what you need to do, change negative thinking, and to release stress. Thought Stopping and Switching is a powerful tool to mental and, therefore, emotional control. Emotional Freedom Technique, Emotion Code, and Tapas Acupressure Technique also are invaluable in releasing stress, self-sabotage, and healing issues. Hypnosis, Neural Linguistic Programming, dowsing, my own Infinite Intelligence Process [see here], are all powerful in both locating and resolving issues.

Through hypnosis or Time Line Therapy you can go back in time to a choice point and make a healthier, more constructive choice that leads to health. I like the unconscious healing modality taught to me by A.L Ward, but those of other hypnosis mentors such as E. Arthur Winkler or Walter Sichort and his protege James Ramey, did something similar.

Then, you can imagine traveling into the future to a time when the problem has been satisfactorily resolved, find out how that was done, and bring that solution back to the present moment along with the resources to do it. This is called Future Pace, or Crystal Ball, or Magic Wand — all hypnosis and NLP techniques.

Or again with hypnosis, you can imagine going into a parallel universe in order to change direction to an alternate reality more of your liking. Go the station platform and change trains.

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FOOTNOTES:

1. First published in 5/2007

2. Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can, page i x.

3. Ibid, page 138-139.

4. John Harrison, M.D., Love Your Disease, page 51

5. page 46-7

6. Love Your Disease, page 59

7. The Victim-Rescuer-Persecutor Triangle is typically seen with alcoholics, drug addicts, gamblers, and many of the chronically ill. The Victim uses his problem to manipulate and control others into taking over responsibility for him, bailing him out of problems, and meeting his emotional and perhaps financial needs. The Rescuer initially feels good to be of help, but later comes to feel as if he, himself, is being victimized by the very person he is trying to help, who has takes on the role of Persecutor. Rescuers are caught in this trap because they do not feel good about themselves unless they are helping those they consider more unfortunate than they. Most people in the helping profession as well as nurses and others in the healing arts start out as Rescuers. Hence, they are vulnerable to being used and abused by others. Awareness helps, but the biggest cure for this is high self-esteem and healthy boundaries.

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