“Dowsing to Dump Bad Habits – Part 1”

28 Feb 2019 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in American Society of Dowsers, Dowsing, habits

I have been a creative problem solver all of my life. But since becoming a hypnotherapist in 1989, I have been helping people professionally to get rid of smoking, overeating, procrastination, and a host of bad habits as well as detrimental mental and emotional patterns. In 1990, I added dowsing to my hypnosis, counseling and other skills for a comprehensive approach to dumping bad habits. 

20190411_dowsing coverBecause I understood the dynamics of smoking and addiction in general, I created dowsing charts for typical conscious reasons why people started smoking as well as both the conscious and unconscious reasons that keep the habit/addiction alive. I then created charts and checklists on interventions, visualizations, modalities, and strategies that would most likely work with any individual client. I made dowsing charts on secondary gain (a benefit obtained from a problem), defense mechanisms, coping skills, emotions, beliefs, judgments, and much more. These charts eventually became the book, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing.

As I studied all the reasons for overweight and what to do about them, I created dowsing charts for the physical reasons for weight gain and difficulties in losing. I had other charts for the emotional and psychological reasons for weight including the reasons why people binge or eat when they are not hungry. And I had many charts on various traumas, issues, and typical life events as well as the people and ages at which they may have originated.

The most important parts of getting rid of any problem behavior are:

  • A decision and commitment

Nothing happens until you do this.

  • Having a big enough reason—your why. 

What’s the downside if you don’t change? Be very clear about this. Then you can dowse the key issue/s. 

What’s the upside if you do? Clarify this as well. Dowse out the most important.

What do you want more than ___ (the cigarette, ice cream/potato chips, beer, etc.)?This is all part of your clarity of purpose. 

Anthony Robbins says that all motivation is carrot and stick. A donkey can be motivated to move forward if he wants to get the carrot held in front of him, or he can move because someone is hitting him on the rump with a stick and it hurts enough. 

Do you go to work because you love your job and can’t wait to get there? Or do you grudgingly get out of a warm, comfortable bed because you don’t want to be fired and end up homeless?

Increase the appeal of moving forward to make the change, as well as increasing the distaste for the negative ramifications of not doing so.

  • Clearing, healing, resolving any resistance to change

Dowse out the percentage of resistance to getting rid of the bad habit. Perhaps your unconscious mind thinks it is helping you in some way by maintaining it. If so, use dowsing, EFT, or hypnosis to re-educate the unconscious of a constructive way to achieve the higher intention, and to agree to release the negative habit.

  • Increasing the allowance, even excitement for change

Dowse out this percentage as well. Then ask if you can increase it to the highest level possible at this time, and do so.

  • Knowledge of the issue at hand

Do some research on the habit you want to change. Then you can design your own dowsing checklists/charts. For example, overeating can be triggered by food cravings stemming from allergies, metabolic issues, fungal overgrowth, as well as psychological or emotional issues, particularly anger and guilt. If physical causes elicit a positive dowsing response, it would make sense to consult a physician. 

Smoking can start as a desire to be grown-up, rebel against authority, seek acceptance by the ‘in crowd’. Unconsciously the person is still the kid trying to fulfill those original desires. List the possible reasons and dowse out what is relevant to you.

Knowing that addictions are filling a void will help you to look for what it is that is trying to be filled and address that. Is there an emotional or psychological wound that has to be healed? Dowse.

  • Substitution of a positive or constructive alternative

What are you going to do instead? 

Understanding that overeating, taking drugs or alcohol, and smoking are coping strategies for many emotional states (boredom, loneliness, upset, depression), will make you aware of the need to learn healthy ways of coping with stress and emotional lows. 

  • A well designed strategy. 

Again by doing research on what has helped others will allow you to design your own program. List the possibilities and dowse out what will work for you. Having a buddy or someone to whom you place yourself accountable is helpful. Do a 30 day challenge with a friend.

  • Focus

This is needed to stay on track as it takes time of consciously doing things in the new way until it becomes routine and comfortable. But be aware that if you slouch off, the old behavior will resurface. Ask any person who despite years of not smoking picked up one cigarette as to just how quickly they reverted to full scale smoking habit again. Any habit that is also an addiction (smoking, drinking, gambling, etc) must be totally permanently eliminated.

  • Consistent action

The desired habit must be maintained through frequent, repeated action or it will not become internalized and automatic. The more you repeat the behavior, the stronger it becomes. The less you repeat it, the weaker.

So if I want set a new habit of cleaning the kitchen every night before bed, I have to make a point to do it, tired or not. I tell myself how little time it will take, and how good it will feel to wake up to a clean kitchen. It also helps to check it off on a calendar. I write down my goals and accomplishments for each day. Noting what I have done, even if many things on my list did not get done, is a reward in itself. Noting what I didn’t do creates greater urgency to do it the next day. I focus on making progress to avoid getting discouraged.

  • A positive attitude and belief in one’s ability to succeed. 

If you don’t think it is possible, you won’t even try. This is what stops more smokers from quitting – they tell themselves they ‘can’t quit’. You will also need a positive attitude to deal with setbacks, challenges, delays, etc.

If you find yourself with a negative mindset, you can dowse, do EFT, or hypnosis to counter it. Hold a strong intention to let the negative belief go, and the belief you want to hold instead. “I release any belief, perception or judgment that ___ (negative belief). I now choose to believe that ___ (list at least 3 strong beliefs).”

WANT MORE INFORMATION?

Central Virginia Dowsers Meeting, Sunday, March 10 at 1:15 PM.

At our next CVD Meeting in Charlottesville, Virginia, Roxanne Louise will teach you how to use dowsing to succeed in dumping bad habits and installing good ones instead. Contact us for further information at 434-263-4337 or email at roxannelouise2@gmail.com.

American Society of Dowsers is holding a free teleconference, on Tuesday, April 9, at 8 PM Eastern (US). Roxanne Louise will be discussing this topic of Dowsing on Habits with Margaret VanLaanMartin

Want to Learn Pendulum Dowsing?

I will be teaching an all day Pendulum Workshop for Hypnotherapists, Monday, April 29. at the HEARTLAND HYPNOSIS CONFERENCE in St. Louis, MO See here :  Therapeutic Dowsing & Telepathic Healing  

Copyright 2/28/19 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.  

Making Your Dreams Come True

06 Feb 2019 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, Cause and Effect, ethical business models, Ethics, goal setting, Law of Attraction, life purpose, personal achievement, prayer, The Infinite Intelligence Process

Mitch Horowitz on Goals and Manifestation 

mitch-horowitzRecently I have been listening to a lot of Mitch Horowitz, speaker, author of The Miracle Club and many other books on New Thought, positive thinking, and the occult. He references many of the authors I have read over decades, reiterating what I have been practicing and teaching on goal setting and achievement including creating miracles in your life. But he says it so well, that I am going to summarize his bullet points here with my own commentary.

Basically, in order to manifest your goals and create miracles in your life:

  • You must have a very NARROWLY DEFINED CHIEF AIM.

This chief aim may be expressed multiple ways with smaller goals as part of the overall direction.

For example, my chief aim is to use my voice to uplift, inspire and facilitate mental and emotional healing. I do this through organizing and running teleconferences, teaching, speaking, writing, and making products. I also belong to professional organizations where I can share, develop and express my chief aim. Years ago, I followed this same chief aim through being a professional classical singer.

  • Your goal needs to be PASSIONATE. You need to want it MORE than other distractions. 

It is this passion that will mobilize your energies to do the work and overcome challenges.

  • In addition to being very SPECIFIC, this goal needs to be held with SINGLE MINDED FOCUS. This will give you greater energy and stamina to push through to do what is needed. 

One way to keep your focus is through visualization. Imagine any scene that would imply achievement of your goal.

  • You need to make a DECISION to pursue this goal now. It is not a ‘someday’.
  • For a goal to be authentic, it must be ACTIONABLE. You have to be able to take concrete steps in the direction of it’s achievement. It is cannot be a daydream for which you can do nothing to promote.
  • Your goal must be ETHICAL and in keeping with your CORE VALUES. Furthermore, if you have any partners and collaborators, everyone needs to be in alignment both with your goal and values.

If your goal is in conflict with your values and ethics, you will experience problems in achieving them or will achieve them at a price such as in health or relationships.

  • You need to INTELLEGENTLY PERSERVERE.

See my earlier blog “Under, Over, Around and Through” as an example of bulldog perserverence and yet also knowing when to shift direction.

  • PRAY for what you want. This can be a request, but it can also be a demand or even be waving your fist.

Jean Slatter calls this Hiring the Heavens and describes it in her book by same title. I write about this in my own book Accessing More – Tapping Into the Eternal Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process. The act of prayer summons both internal resources and the something to which we are all linked – that greater sea of consciousness and the Great Intelligence behind all that is.

  • Manifestation has a gestation period. This is the Sabbath, and a time of exercising PATIENCE and REST.

Do what work you can, and then do something to lift and renew your spirit in some way. This will give you fresh energy to bring to your goal later.

  • While you are waiting, STRIVE FOR EXCELLENCE.

This continual application and learning prepares you for whatever opportunities do come your way. It also keeps your goal in focus, adding more and more energy to attract what you want.

LIMITS to Mental Causality:

Mitch acknowledges that we live under many laws and forces that effect mental causality. Results are not guaranteed by just following the Law of Attraction. By thinking it so, by visualizing and feeling you can direct miracles into your life. But you cannot always make what you want happen the way you want, when or how. Nonetheless, these are things you can do to increase the odds in your favor.

Copyright 1/2019 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

Under, Over, Around and Through

03 Feb 2019 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in goal setting, Law of Attraction, life purpose, personal achievement, problem solving

Many people give up too easily on their dreams. Don’t!!!

If something is important to you, if you have a dream, if you have a talent that demands development, then you MUST PURSUE IT any way you can going under, over, around and through whatever obstacles or challenges are presented. Only in that way will you satisfy the deep, inner calling of your heart.

When I first entered college, I wanted to have a dual major of music and social science. These dual interests were apparent from early childhood. Like the “Lucy” Peanut cartoon strip character, I was giving out my two cents of advice to playmates starting at age 4. But at the same time I also fantasized musical numbers and would sing and dance for whoever came into the house. I was fantasizing Gene Kelly and Judy Garland song and dance routines. I was in church choir, school orchestra and band, every talent show, and later in All State Chorus. My vocal talent was recognized very early by professional classical singers including two former Metropolitan Opera soloists.

However, my college felt that music was too all encompassing and I needed to make it both my major and minor or not at all. I picked music with voice being my major. My mother was aghast thinking it would lead to couch auditions and an immoral lifestyle. I was told that I would be disowned and cast out of the family, Even after an interview with Metropolitan Opera star and head of the Voice Department who tried to intervene on my behalf was unable to dislodge my parents adamant refusal.

As I lacked the courage to venture completely out on my own, and more importantly, did not want to cut all ties with my family, I majored in social sciences instead. But both while in school, and after graduating, I took private lessons as money would allow, went to the library to check out opera recordings while following along with the score and librettos, went to concerts, and sang in churches that put on oratorios and even was Mezzo-Soprano soloist for Handel’s Messiah while in college.

The turning point came when as a young woman and living in Boston my husband went to speak with Re Koster, the head of the voice department at New England Conservatory of Music. He convinced her to listen to me and if satisfactory, accept me as a private student, something she had always refused before. However, she did take me, and within 6 months of this Dutch mezzo’s tutelage, I had learned all of the mezzo solos in the oratorio repertory, and most of the Bach cantatas as well. This I did while holding my infant son in my arms during my lessons. Soon after she retired and moved leaving me to go on to another teacher. I then also talked my way into being able to audit music theory classes at Boston University even though I was only enrolled for voice lessons. 

Not having a piano of my own, I rented time on a neighbor’s to learn my music. Again, I would hold my infant on my lap while playing the music with one hand. Then I talked my way into ushering for the Metropolitan Opera performances when they visited Boston. Such opportunity was only open to New England Conservatory students, but I signed up anyway. Then before each performance, I went up to the soloists and musicians and interviewed them, the famous bass Justino Diaz being one of them. I actually met the orchestra leaders that later hired me as Executive Secretary for the Met years later, and some of the musicians for whom I later worked. 

While living in Boston, I then auditioned for and was accepted into an all professional choir that put on Bach cantatas with professional orchestra every Sunday. While I was not good enough to be paid as were the others, they did pay for my babysitting. My son, now a toddler, was enrolled in the church nursery, and went with me to all the rehearsals where he crawled under the chairs of the musicians when he got away from the nursery. During one church service, the congregation was startled with the two gigantic wooded doors at the rear of the sanctuary banging open, and one little guy striding very triumphantly up the aisle to come visit me in the choir stalls up front.

When the family moved to Portland, Maine, I enrolled as a voice major at University of Maine, and joined a major choral society. Again, I ushered when Boston Opera came to town taking my young son with me to pass out programs in the balcony. I took him backstage with me to meet some of the singers. My voice teacher decided that I needed more professional training than he could provide and so we drove together from Portland down to Boston regularly for us both to study with a prominent voice teacher there. My voice lessons represented half of my food budget for the week. When I could not continue to afford to pay for membership in the choral society, an anonymous donor came along and paid it for me.

I auditioned for the professional choir in the episcopal cathedral Portland, and while not paid, was able to get free piano lessons from the Director.

When the family moved again, this time back to New Jersey, I was determined to get ANY job that I could at the Metropolitan Opera. I was willing to scrub toilets. So I made the rounds of all the employment agencies in Manhattan each time asking for a job at the Met. The answer was always the same – no openings. Finally, I took the bull by the reins and went to the stage door and inquired of the personnel department. The woman on the house phone asked if I took short hand. When I replied ‘no”, she hung up the phone.

So, I was determined to find a way to be able to take dictation. I found that my old high school was giving a summer course on ‘speed writing’. I took it, and soon after was hired as Executive Secretary to the Orchestra Manager at the Met!!! This gave me free rein to walk backstage, visit the various departments where they make and manage everything – wigs, costumes, sets, staging, and more. I was able to hear all the rehearsals over the loud speakers while working, and get free standing room passes to performances, and free dress rehearsal tickets for my family. This allowed me to educate my parents into the magical world of opera and give my son exposure to it as well.

I found a voice teacher across the street from Lincoln Center, and on lunch hours if there were no rehearsals taking place in house, and after work, I would sit and listen to other people’s voice lessons. This gave me a fantastic musical education. I also took yoga and exercise classes, language classes, acting lessons, and speed reading. 

I then auditioned for and was accepted into Aspen Music Festival Chamber Choir. As the Met orchestra was off in the summer and the house operated on skeleton crew, it was possible for me to do this. Aspen provided housing for singles or money for housing for me since the dorms would not take my son. So my son from 8 to 10 years old, traveled with me and was enrolled in day camp while I rehearsed. Then he came with me to all performances. During one year, I wrote to all the churches in town inquiring about a cheap place to stay in this very expensive resort town. We got a room in exchange for me cleaning. Another year, we drove out and lived in a VW bus. Again, as being able to find a place to park legally at night was a hassle, I asked the churches around, and found one that would allow me to do so. I sang there for 3 seasons.

49897687_782012838813911_6915629389375864832_nWith this background, I was able to secure work as a professional singer in Manhattan, join the union, and work not just as now a church and temple soloist, and privately sing for weddings and funerals, but singing with recognized national and international groups such as Joffrey Ballet, NYC Ballet, American Ballet Theatre, Netherlands Ballet, NJ Opera, Ars Musica,  Clarion Musical Society, Friends of French Opera, and more. This also meant that I had to quit my secretarial job at the Met, but then got into NYC Opera Chorus, first part-time, then full-time, then part-time again for a total of ten years. I taught private voice students as well and wrote a small primer on vocal technique. I also started and ran a weekly Women in the Arts support group at my alma mater at Montclair State University.

Reality sets in

I had worked very hard against tremendous odds and had achieved a lot in a very difficult field. But I also had a son that I needed to support. NYC Opera went on strike three times in ten years and I scrambled to make the rent with temporary work as a secretary. I was consistently stressed for money – not just for the rent, etc., but to pay for the necessity of continual voice lessons and coaching lessons if I was going to make it as a soloist and not just remain as a union chorister. I had problems with high notes, problems in memorizing, problems with foreign languages, and problems with the politics of music.

The icing on the cake was tearing the cartilage connecting my sternum to my ribs. This happened within two weeks of starting to date someone new. This man represented the choice between potentially having a happy, ‘normal’ family life or living on the road as a singer after dropping my son off with my parents. The injury indicated that I was literally torn in two between two conflicting goals. My subconscious had cast the die and chose marriage and family. 

Even after I was sufficiently healed to be able to get in and out of bed on my own, and get up and off the floor onstage, I was nolonger able to breathe as I once was, and this not only ended my ambitions for a solo career but any likelihood in being hired as a permanent chorister in the only classical singing job in the nation that provided financial stability – the Metropolitan Opera. 

So unwilling to only be a part-time chorister with the precariousness that that entailed, and during a music union strike in 1989, I trained in hypnosis, a second interest. And I immediately started lecturing, teaching self-hypnosis, and seeing clients as time allowed between my singing jobs. 

But then I came to a point of decision.

Eventually, the schedule became too difficult to straddle both fields, and I had to choose.  Considering the real limits I now faced in music in addition to family responsibilities, I decided to venture out on my own as a hypnotherapist and be in charge of my schedule without a limit on what I could accomplish in using my voice to uplift, inspire and heal (my chief aim that was underneath both desires to work in music and hypnosis). Again, I went after my new profession just as vigorously as I had with music.

Since that time I have been a regular presenter at many hypnosis and dowsing conventions yearly, have written ten books, received six national hypnosis awards including two lifetime achievement awards, and one in dowsing. I host two national teleconferences for the American Society of Dowsers, I sit on the Board of Directors for two national organizations, and have been on the Board of others, founded and run a local dowsing group,  founded and used to run a local professional hypnotherapy organization for many years, set up speakers and wrote a newsletter for another hypnosis chapter, and have trained many people – professional and layman alike – in hypnosis, stress management, dowsing, and Reiki.

Do I regret all the time and energy pursuing a field that I later left? Absolutely not! 

I had amazing experiences that few others have had. I have been part of creating glorious moments in musical history that transported those in the audience as well as the performers to spiritual heights that only heavenly music can do. I went after my dreams and tested my limits in a very challenging field, achieving a certain level of success that was profoundly satisfying. 

So what is my point?

  • If something is important to you, if you have a passion to do something or a big enough why, you can overcome tremendous odds and achieve a significant amount of success. 
  • Regardless of the outward worldly recognition you are able to achieve, relentlessly going after the inner calling of your heart will bring enormous satisfaction to your soul. You would have answered your calling.
  • If you can’t go through normal channels to reach your goal, you have to get creative and find another way. 
  • If one door is closed to you, you find a window. You go

OVER, UNDER, AROUND or THROUGH!

Copyright 2/3/19 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.