Upset as Opportunity

Fuming over what you don’t like and the people you hold responsible for it may let off steam, but it burns up your precious life force energy and it doesn’t change anything! 

I suggest that you as quickly as possible accept that what happened, and is now history. Fuming doesn’t change history. The question is

What do you want to do about it?

How can you use it constructively?

Can you turn it into a blessing?

As I have said in previous posts, deliberately choose to look for a way to turn every experience especially the upsetting ones into a blessing. This will happen if you grow, if you learn something positive, if you take constructive action on things that previously you neglected or let slide, and if you finally turn your attention to dealing with wounds and issues long past but never resolved.

When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, miracles of positive change can occur!

You can train yourself to use upset as a powerful

  • catalyst for healing yourself and
  • as motivation to create something better.

Here’s how.

Write the answers to the questions below. If you have trouble identifying them, brainstorm possible answers on paper and dowse them out. If you don’t know how to dowse, brainstorm anyway. Then close your eyes and ask yourself the question again. Or just write and write until you get to the core issue.

  • What’s happening that I don’t want?
  • What’s not happening that I do want?
  • What’s the key issue here?
  • What are my thoughts about what’s happening?
  • What are my emotions about it?
  • What do I want to happen instead?
  • What’s the essence of what I want?
  • What’s stopping me from getting it?
  • Is there another way to get the essence of what I want?
  • When were other times that something similar happened?
  • When was the earliest time that something similar to this happened?

Work your way through all of these questions, addressing them as you go.

Then ask some further questions:

  • How did I contribute in any way to what happened?
  • What positive steps can I make or what changes need to occur so this doesn’t happen again?
  • How can I improve my ____ (communication, follow-through, systems, etc.) so that my _____ (business, relationships) are actually better as a result of what happened?

Doing all of the above will move you forward.

Heal yourself rather than trying to change someone else!

Recently I spoke with someone who was upset because he had been unable to get someone else to change. He had tried talking to the person, but wasn’t getting anywhere. I suggested that he first identify and then address his own emotions and his thoughts around it before speaking to the person again so that they would not cause the person to tune him out.

In other words, if you are emotionally upset, you will make the other person defensive, and less likely to even consider changing their behavior and do what you want. You need to find a way to speak to the person from a neutral place, or better yet, from a place of common ground.

One way of starting that process is to detach your worth, your self-esteem from what someone else is doing. Each person acts out of who they are, not from who you are. And incidentally, people never change for you. They may moderate their behavior somewhat if the negative consequences are great enough. But they never change for you.

Eliminate the ‘shoulds and shouldn’ts’

Another initial step to reduce your upset is to eliminate the idea that people should or shouldn’t be any certain way or do anything according to your standards. Those self-righteous judgment calls are responsible for a great deal of stress. However, once you clarify the behavior you don’t want and the behavior you do want, you will be able to clearly communicate it to the other person.

As he labeled the other person as controlling, I suggested that he could turn this situation into a blessing if he could identify and then heal all similar experiences starting with the first time he was upset because of controlling behavior. In other words, this annoying current event might be viewed as positive by alerting him to a host of unresolved similar events festering in his unconscious not only causing him stress but setting up a negative repeating pattern.

My own experience

Years ago I was being constantly hit with the energy of jealousy. I could always tell when the conference brochures hit the mailboxes, because I could feel the red hot feverish flames blasting in my face, and it made me jittery and hard to focus. Once in giving a presentation of how and why to integrate Reiki with hypnosis, I could feel the arrows coming from 3 distinct locations in the room. So I asked the Reiki Masters present to stand, and guess what? They were sitting in the very same locations. These weren’t bad people, they just must have thought that they could or should have been the ones speaking on the topic I had chosen.

While I had previously worked diligently to heal my distress because of other people’s jealousy of me, it had not stopped the negative pattern until I dealt with the root cause.  As I thought about the first time this issue had occurred , I turned my attention to the lifelong problematic relationship with my sister that started in early childhood. Only after I healed that, did the negative pattern stop. I have not been affected since.

Whether any one is or has been jealous of me since, I don’t feel it anymore. I am not impacted. My energy is no longer drained.

Moral of the story:

Heal the root cause to stop the pattern.

Make positive changes going forward.

And if you do that, it will have been a blessing.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

 

Problem Solving with Dowsing

Someone just asked me how to use dowsing to deal with autism. The basic principles of dowsing on health follows the same rules of dowsing for solution for anything with the understanding that the stakes are higher, there are laws regulating this,  you need to work on a can’t hurt basis, or for educational or research purposes only.

First, take a piece of paper and write down the objective. In this case, the objective could be healing or reversing the condition, lessening a particular symptom, or improving a particular functionality. Then do an internet search. Has anyone healed from this, reversed it, improved and if so, how? List things everything you already know about it including what your doctor has said.

You can also list and then dowse out categories of health professionals as to who to consult. Besides talking to different categories of professionals of different types, do your own research. Brainstorm initially without censoring any additional thing to search that might be relevant to your objective, and add them to your list. Include the word ‘other’. 

Dowse out any of your appropriate questions, such as:

  • What is the most important thing I can do to ____ (reverse this condition of ___/ lessen this symptom of___/ improve my ability to ____, etc.)? Please indicate.
  • On a scale of 0-100%, what is the degree that this will help ____?
  • What is the next most important thing I can do to ____ (reverse this condition of ___/ lessen this symptom of___/ improve my ability to ____, etc.)? Please indicate.
  • On a scale of 0-100%, what is the degree that this will help ____?

Keep going until you know some basic things that you can do yourself to improve matters. If the pendulum points to the word ‘other’, then brainstorm some more, and see if you have a complete idea upon which to design your own COMMON SENSE, HEALTHY SELF CARE ON A CAN’T HURT BASIS.

Also write a list of things that cause or are related to your illness or condition. Your objective can be to identify your own vulnerabilities or behaviors that were at cause. Once identified, you can then take greater care to avoid or stop doing what you can from worsening the situation.

Your possible dowsing checklist/chart can be

  • What are the causes of _____?
  • What things worsen the condition of ___?
  • What things make the symptom of ____ worse?

Dowsing on health challenges is not to claim to ‘treat’ disease or any medically or psychologically diagnosed condition for someone else. But as all health conditions are caused or worsened by beliefs, judgments, emotions and trauma, other stress, diet, environmental conditions, and habits, these issues, which are not part of the legislatively protected area of practicing medicine or psychotherapy, are within the scope of what you can safely do. You can suggest that others might want to investigate ____, discuss with their doctor about the possible benefit of ____. You can provide information of certain books or websites or modalities that claim to be helpful. But when it comes to your own body, it is your right to do whatever you want.

Furthermore, by listing various allopathic or alternative treatments, a high dowsing rating of potential benefit could be the starting point for a conversation with your health professional.

That is not to imply that dowsing can’t do more. It can do a lot more. But the above is where I suggest that you start. As dowser/radionics professional Marty Lucas says, everything is energy and information. Dowsers fall into the category of energy healers. As such, we can add energy and provide information to the system. As such, you can dowse out exactly what information should be supplied and through strongly held intention project that. But that is a topic for much later discussion.

Follow the creed: Above all, do no harm.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

Civilizing Children to Civilize the World!

During times of staying with my son and family, and from the safe perspective of being a grandparent, I have watched my grandchildren from infancy to their current ages of 10, 7 and 5. I have witnessed how these children and their playmates learn to get what they want and how they deal with frustration and anger when they don’t. I have observed the efforts of my son and his wife as well as other parents of young children in curbing the aggressive, greedy, self-serving tendencies of their offspring. I have seen a progression of the parents struggling with telling their children: “no”, “don’t touch”, “don’t hit your brother/sister”, “you have to share”, “wait your turn”, “put your toys away”, “clean up your own mess”, “you’re in ‘time-out until you learn ___“, etc.  And I have reflected that all of this has interesting parallels to adult life and the world of politics.

A child’s first instinct is to grab for whatever they want whether it is good for them or not, whether it belongs to someone else, whether in grabbing it, it will be destroyed for everyone including themselves, or whether in doing it/taking it, it will be dangerous both for themselves and others. If they want it, they want it and go after it without much thought to consequences.

If they don’t succeed in getting what they want, or if another child wants it too, there can be a fight, a grab and run, a temper tantrum, or a lot of crying. There can be a real hissy fit–“if I can’t have what I want, then I am going to destroy whatever is nearby.” Or here is one also prevalent amongst grownups in neighborhood subdivisions: “If I can’t have it/do it, I am going to make sure you can’t either.”

I watched one child spend a lot of time building a very elaborate lego structure when a younger sibling innocently or without any thought took away a piece of the tower his older brother just built, whereupon the first child was so upset that he destroyed his own creation. I have witnessed the children lie about their wrongdoing to avoid punishment, maintain parental approval, or avoid diminishment of their own ego. I have also witnessed them trying to shift blame for their misdeeds onto a sibling. I have watched one child repeatedly trying to play off one parent with another–the classic divide and conquer strategy that is being used in identity politics today on both national and global levels. “If I can get those people to fight, they will be so busy that I’ll avoid punishment and get what I want.”

On the other hand, I have also noticed random acts of kindness, compassion, loving acts. I have seen one sibling sticking up for another, and fighting against perceived injustice.

But in the face of such aggressive and greedy natural proclivities, and surrounded by so much violence in movies, video games, and our culture, can parents really teach children to outgrow such tendencies to become adults that really think through the consequences of their actions, and to be able to avoid war and instead cooperate to solve the massive problems we face as a species?

The World Peace Game

Yesterday, I watched a documentary “World Peace and Other 4th Grade Achievements” on what one Charlottesville, Virginia teacher, Mr. John Hunter, is doing to teach children to think through dealing with the tough challenges of life. He does this through a game he designed 40 years ago called World Peace. Instead of attempting to protect children from the harsh realities of life (as if you really could), this game teaches children the importance of thinking through the consequences of their actions rather than just screaming in protest, rushing to attack, or retreating in fear. While teaching the importance of protecting and looking out for the common good of their ‘country’ and preserving their own resources, this five-day game also teaches negotiating skills, forming alliances to come together to solve common problems, the real cost of war and the value of finding other less costly and bloody solutions. 

In the film this award-winning educator and his 4th Grade students at Venable School in Charlottesville participate in an educational exercise he developed called “The World Peace Game,” now offered in 33 countries around the world. The film follows these nine- and ten-year-old students as they assume roles as world leaders responding to an ongoing series of real world military, economic, and environmental crises.

I recommend watching Hunter’s TED talk here: https://www.ted.com/talks/john_hunter_on_the_world_peace_game#t-302954

Other interviews and articles including how children can go through the game or how teachers can take the training to offer it themselves are on his website at http://worldpeacegame.org

See also an interview with Temple here. John Hunter also spoke this year at Unity Church, Charlottesville in their Jan.14th Sunday service. You can listen to it here https://www.unitycville.org/podcast

 

 

German New Medicine & the Mind-Body Connection

Recently, I was introduced to the work of Dr. Ryke Geerd Hamer, M.D., who explored the connection between specific diseases and even the specific types of diseases ( lung versus breast versus prostate cancer) and the specific emotional traumas experienced by his patients. Even which side of the body was affected was found to be relevant to emotional issues. As he studied his patient’s brain scans and their histories, not only did he find patients with particular cancers has emotional issues in common with each other but that these issues were different from other cancers and other diseases. Further, he found markers on specific areas of the brain scans for each disease. This allowed him later to diagnose what was going on in the body from the CT scans alone. 

iu  Originally studying cancer patients, he went on to catalog the mind-body connection for a host of other diseases as well. He found that an unexpected emotional shock and the subjective internal conflict it caused in the patient determines which illness manifests and where.  You can find more on his work here and here. Another article briefly summarizing his work and from I took the photo is here.

A very interesting feature in the first above link is a listing of diseases and the emotional conflict it represents. See it here. Understand that there is no harm to do inner work (meditation/hypnosis/dowsing) to clear a possible non-beneficial emotion or conflict. The moment you change your mind, interpret something different about what happened, the emotional impact upon you changes. This is necessary to free up energy for your body to heal.

Below is a sample wording. But you might contact me for more assistance.

“If I have any iota or residue of _____ (conflict) on any level or dimension of my being, from any point in time, I command that it be resolved, transmuted, healed fully and completely in a way that I am able to rapidly be restored to abundant good health now. I command that any unresolved emotional trauma responsible or related in any way for the health condition of ___ be clarified, resolved, released, or healed. I release all blocks known and unknown to my full healing now.”

Marilyn Gang, President of Toronto Dowsers has given me permission to reprint a portion of their January/February 2017 Newsletter that includes information of Dr. Hamer’s work. It is part of a 4-part series on “The Politics of Health.” While I will reprint it separately, you can view it now here

The Tangled Web of Choices that Create Our Reality

Introduction

So often we ascribe simplistic reasons to why things happen. Maybe we just blame someone else without considering that we might have played a role. Perhaps we think we’re a victim of circumstances or Mercury Retrograde. Maybe we look for some reason within our consciousness that attracted the problem. But what if ‘the cause’ was not one thing, not created or attracted by one person, but was rather a web of choices, decisions, actions to which both we and others all contributed? And what if (at least on occasion) the intention was not to punish, not to stress us out, but to teach us something?

In an earlier article, Why Shit Happens (or doesn’t) , I list the 34 other Laws of Mind (taken from Your Unlimited Potential) that in addition to the Law of Attraction create our reality. To this list, Tom Campbell in the quote below adds that our reality can be created by the larger consciousness system as a learning opportunity for ourself or others.

If a particular occurrence is determined to be an effective learning opportunity for someone or everyone, the probability of it happening is increased. The system is designed to automatically deliver timely custom-fit individual learning opportunities — the presentation of such opportunities to individuals or groups is part of the feedback one receives relative to the choices one makes. Because the point of the system is to overcome fear (about you – high entropy) and replace it with love (about others – low entropy), if you have fear, the feedback system will manifest that fear in PMR [physical reality] to force you to deal with it (learn) or suffer the consequences.”

In this article I hope to illustrate and number the multiple choices/decisions (some with  immediate and some with long-term consequences) that we individually make that are intertwined with the choices/decisions that others make. All are part of the overall Law of Cause and Effect. All contribute to our experience. The accumulation of actions and choices of everyone involved, even those seemingly miniscule or innocuous, add up over time, building in consequences. Here is a real life example.

The Case of the Missing Luggage

In June of 2016, I was to fly to California to teach at the West Coast Dowsers Conference being held in Santa Cruz. There I was also to be a vendor and sell my many books and other products. Such trip was going to involve three flight changes. As my books were very heavy and would have cost a lot to ship cross country, and as I had previously had the experience of shipped books not arriving at a conference in time, I made a decision to cram as many as I could into my carry on and checked baggage. (#1)   Each piece of luggage was at the ultimate weight limit.

Before packing, I evaluated various luggage options. I had the choice between a more roomy duffle bag that I would have to hand carry but which could hold more, or a smaller piece with wheels. I chose the duffle bag. (#2) Had I been better with planning, I might have evaluated the consequences of this way in advance and possibly bought a bigger wheeled option. (#3)

I called ahead and told the airport that I needed transportation from the long-term parking area. They assured me that they would be able to help me. However, I had not allowed enough time to to get ready to leave the house. (#4) And because I now had a heavy duffle bag with my books, I waited at the car (#5) instead of attempting to haul both my suitcase and the duffle bag up the hill. The shuttle never came (#6), nor was the dispatcher answering the phone at that early hour. (#7) So I had to walk, but the delay meant that I was just 3 minutes past the cut-off time for check-in. Even though the flight was still 30 minutes off, they refused to let me board, and put me on another flight. (#8)

Next, I was asked if I wanted to check my carry-on bag for an extra expense, but I declined. (#9) A little voice in my head asked “are you sure?” I declined again. (#10)  I again heard that voice repeat the question, and I still did not change my decision. (#11)

At security, I took out my computer, jewelry, cosmetics out of my computer bag to be screened, but because of the rush to get to the gate, I threw everything into my roomier duffle bag, thinking that I would have time to reorganize everything neatly at the gate. (#12) 

However, as soon as I got to the gate and before I could reorganize my valuables, I had to quickly hand over my carry on duffle bag to an airline attendent at the first leg of the trip. (#13) I was able to personally retrieve it o.k. when we landed. But now I had to really struggle to physically carry my book bag throughout a very big terminal. (#14) 

Because of the fight changes that made a super tight window to make next connection, I had to literally run to make my next flight. This was extremely difficult, exhausting, but some young man helped carry things part way or I would not have made the connection at all. (#15)

When I got to the gate, the airline attendant would not let me board with my duffle bag that still had my computer, jewelry and cosmetics in it. (#16) She rapidly took it from me and checked it in telling me that I would retrieve it at the next stop. However, she was rushed (#17) with many other people trying to board, and unknown to me, she put the wrong final destination on my bag. (#18) 

I arrived at the 3rd airport, but was told that my luggage were already being sent to my final destination. But when I finally arrived in California, my suitcase was there, but not my duffle bag. I spent a couple of hours checking to see if it was late getting off the plane, (#19) and then filed out forms for lost luggage. (#20) The airline after several calls had no record of my duffle bag (#21) and told me I would just have to keep checking back with them. Then I had to yet wait a further hour because my flight changes had caused an issue with the previously scheduled shuttle service. (#22)

I finally got to the conference. However, the books that I was hoping to sell to pay for this trip were not there so I made no sales. (#24) I spent the next three days anxiously calling the airline for information as to where it was. (# 25)

I was blessed to have a conference attendee drive me into town to buy new toiletries, hair curler, etc. that had been in the duffle bag. (#26). But this was an additional expense. (#27) Another attendee lent me a jacket (#28) because my only warm wrap for the 50 degree weather was also in the duffle bag. (#29)

I was very stressed out (#30) not just about the books and decrease in sales that their loss and even time delay represented (#31), and the potential loss of my good jewelry, but most of all because of my computer. Since I had not been in the habit of backing up my files (#32), losing my computer back would mean that I would lose all of my documents including book manuscripts. (#33) 

Eventually, the duffle bag showed up at an airport in Osaka, Japan. One day before the conference was over, the duffle bag was returned with everything intact — thanks to lots of prayers from many people (#34) and the honesty of those involved on two continents and 4 airports (#35). 

Moral of the Story

This was a lesson that multiple actions, choices and decisions by both me and others led to both creating, alleviating, and solving this problem. Had I been regularly backing up my computer, had I made a different luggage choice, had I listened to the small voice within me to check the additional bag, had I allowed more time to get to the airport, had I immediately walked to the terminal instead of waiting for the shuttle, had I put my valuables back into the computer bag, everything would have been different. So the screw up was as much my fault as that of the airlines. But it was also a lesson that there are good people everywhere who help just because that’s who they are, and honest airline luggage handlers in 4 airports and two continents who returned everything in good shape.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.