Unlimited Potential Healing Center

In times when you are already experiencing trauma or prolonged stress, it is not unusual for one more small thing (the ‘straw that broke the camel’s back’ ) to come along and cause you to cross over the line from ‘dealing with it’ in some fashion to going into full melt-down, panic, collapse or just giving up. As the Universe has offered me many challenges in my life, I have had to dig down deep within myself to find a way to dig myself out of the hole in which I found myself. It was the stimulus that had me study psychology, hypnosis, dowsing, EFT, and a wide variety of other modalities. In the process, I found ways that helped me and helped my clients. I use as many techniques as relevant or necessary.  

What can you do to head it off when you feel it coming? What can you do once it happens?

I asked this question of a combat veteran, “what do you do when you get really stressed out?” His way of putting things into perspective was 

“if they’re not shooting at you, it’s not serious.” 

And then he said that he does something physical to work off the energy.  

So the first remedy to regain your balance is 

1. DO SOMETHING PHYSICAL, EXERCISE, or DO DEEP BREATHING

Anything that makes you breathe deeply (working in the garden, shoveling snow, raking leaves, scrubbing the tub, cleaning out the garage, going on a brisk walk or run, singing, dancing, shooting baskets or a golf ball) flushes the stress out of your body, brings oxygen to your brain so that you can think more clearly, and gets your energy moving to offset paralysis and depression. If you choose an activity that brings you joy or a sense of accomplishment, that is a double bonus.

The second remedy is to 

2. CHANGE THE FOCUS OF YOUR ATTENTION.

Turn your head, or look up in a different direction. Look up at the sky or out to the horizon.  Look for something beautiful, awe inspiring, funny, cute – flowers, pets, animals, children, a sunrise or sunset.

“I will lift up my eyes to the hills from whence cometh my help. 

My help comes from the Lord which made heaven and earth….”  Psalm 121

What do you have in your life that warms your heart or makes you smile or laugh or feel peaceful, safe or protected? You may have photos of loved ones or a place that you visited that was wonderful, or filled with peace and joy. Look at those photos and feel the love of these others, and happy memories. 

The third remedy is to 

3. CONNECT WITH & HUG SOMEONE YOU LOVE – even your pets!

If you can’t physically hold them, call them. And if they are deceased, close your eyes and imagine them with you, holding you, lifting you up, loving you. I firmly believe we are always connected to those we love.

Years ago, I was performing in Manhattan and getting off the bus in Jersey around midnight. I was so exhausted that I literally had to think “Put one foot in front of another.”  Yet I still had a 90 pound dog that had to be walked when I got home or there would be a pile of mess on the carpet. So I imagined my two deceased grandmothers  as my guardian angels holding me up under each arm pit helping me to walk. That prayer and image indeed gave me strength to do what I had to do. 

The fourth remedy is to

4. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS 

What do you have to be grateful for today? Do you have a roof over your head, do you have food in the pantry, running water, a hot shower, clothes to wear today? Is the sun shining? Are you breathing, able to walk, able to see? Regardless of what may be happening tomorrow, for today you have life, you have or have had people and things and conditions for which you can be grateful. 

The fifth remedy is to

5. INVENTORY YOUR STRENGTHS – YOUR ABILITY TO LEARN, SURVIVE, & ACHIEVE

Think about all the things you have already learned and overcome – learning to walk/talk/read & write & do arithmetic/ride a bike/drive a car, etc. Think about your talents, your ability to learn, experiment and improve, teach yourself things, and start something totally new and get good at it in time. Or think about how you may have moved into a new neighborhood, new job and learned your way around and made new friends, etc.

The sixth remedy is to

6. SWITCH FROM A NEGATIVE THOUGHT TO ONE THAT WILL HELP YOU

Affirmations only work if you can believe what you are saying. If you don’t, they will backfire! Memorize some positive suggestions that resonate with you  and repeat them over and over until you calm down. I have a standard affirmation that I use when discouraged:

“I AM THAT I AM A POWERFUL, SPIRITUAL BEING ENDOWED WITH WISDOM, DIRECTION & PURPOSE. 

I HAVE SOMETHING OF VALUE TO OFFER.”

Another affirmation that I frequently use because I believe in reincarnation and have what I believe are memories of many past lives, some of which ended horribly, is

“ON SOME LEVEL, I’M ALWAYS OKAY.”

In other words, whether I am a little Jewish girl living in Munich in early 1940’s, or the best prepubescent teen in a Mayan village during the times of human sacrifice to the gods, or a victim of jealousy or hatred by the priest training me in ancient Egypt, my soul will survive even if they kill my body, and I will be reborn in another one.

 Others affirmations that help me are:

“Sooner or later I figure it out.
“I learn and move on.”

“I do what I can. I let go of the rest.”

“I can do this. I can do anything I make up my mind to do.”

“There is a part of me that knows ____, and that part is helping me now to ____ in a way in which I am really pleased.”

“Breathe. Just breathe.”

The seventh remedy is to

7. SWITCH FROM FOCUSING ON THE PROBLEM TO THE SOLUTION

Go from “I can’t” or “it’ll never work” to “If it could work, how would it work”, or “Who do I know that could help me with solving this so that I can create ___  instead?” , or “Who has experience dealing with this before?” Or “who is able to create ____ easily?  What do they know or what do they do to be successful?” 

The eighth remedy is to

8. TURN THE  PROBLEM INTO A GAME, CHALLENGE, OR A POSITIVE GROWTH EXPERIENCE

“What can I learn from this?” “How can this experience help me to grow?” “Who do I need to be, and what do I need to think or do to experience ___ instead?”

The ninth remedy is to

9. MAKE A DECISION, A FIRM DECLARATION THAT YOU ARE GOING TO TURN YOUR PROBLEM ISSUE, SITUATION or CONDITION  INTO A BLESSING.

Ask the question: “How can I turn this into a blessing?” Or  make a declaration: “I turn this into a blessing!” Or demand it of Universe or the cosmic forces: “Turn this into a blessing!”

The tenth remedy is to

10. DISTRACT YOURSELF 

What can you do to totally take your mind off your problems? Make love? Watch a good movie, or comedian, or something else that captures your full attention? Preferably, it should be something that doesn’t just distract you, but which actually makes you feel better, calmer, happier, more resourceful or energized.

The eleventh remedy is to

11. GO TO WHERE THE PROBLEM ISN’T

If the problem is in your house, go outside. If it is in the city, get out to nature. If it is with work, go to lunch with friends, or visit friends after work. Take a vacation or travel to a place with good memories. After you regroup, then go back and tackle whatever you need to do. 

The twelfth remedy is to

12. LAUGH

Yes, listen to comics, watch funny things online, and laugh at yourself for getting so stressed out. I sometimes imagine a fat, clown balloon character that flops down at the waist and says:

“Ha, ha, ha, ha, I’ve created more drama. It’s part of the karma I now choose to heal.” (Repeat until you start laughing yourself.)

Years ago I was going through the tremendous stress of a divorce. Unable to function in my office, I went next door to a neighbor on my floor and said “tell me a joke.” He then told me one. I laughed, and with that went to another office on our floor and said “I have a joke for you.” I repeated the new joke, and we both laughed, and then he told me one as well, and I laughed again. I did this over and over again developing a repertoire of jokes that kept me laughing as I couldn’t repeat one without doing so. It got me through.

And thirteenth and fourteenth remedies are related, and so bunched together

13. ASK QUESTIONS & 14. ASK FOR HELP

You don’t have to do anything all alone. Perhaps you know someone, or you know someone who knows someone, or you know how to get physical help, advice, or information online or in a library or from a company or an agency. When I am stuck, I start asking questions. If relevant and if my budget allows, I hire someone. 

For example, I have a list of people that can help with various things on a task or an hourly basis whether housework, farm chores, repairs, handyman stuff, strong back lifting, bookkeeping, internet, etc. And what I found is that I get a ton of work done both setting up for my helper, working while they are there, and continuing after they leave. Extra hands don’t just add to your productivity, they multiply it many times over.  They build energy.

Short of funds? Perhaps consider a high school student or barter or a mentoring program. What can you give in exchange? My area has a TIMEBANK program where people donate their services and in receive services on an hour for hour basis. This is a organized form of “I scratch your back, and you scratch mine.”

NOTE: Getting help in ANY area of your life will free up time for you to work in ANOTHER AREA especially those that only you can do.

Finally, the fifteenth remedy is to

15. PRAY & GIVE THANKS

This is the spiritual side of Ask for Help. But only pray for what you want, not what you don’t. Pray for help in dealing with or resolving a problem. Pray for guidance, understanding, clarification, insight, strength, personal character traits, skills, ideas, wisdom, healing, the right kind of assistance for anything. Focus not on the problem as if it is huge as this will manifest more of the same and delay forward movement. Focus instead on that problem either moving towards resolution or being already resolved. Give thanks for it already being completed. 

One time when I felt completely betrayed by a neighboring store that was openly attempting to take over my business, I prayed “how can I look at this in a way that doesn’t hurt quite so much?” And I received an analogy that immediately shifted me from grieving to taking appropriate action. I then prayed for another office in a location closer to home, with many things that would make it much better than the office I had. And that happened. 

Another time I was again betrayed by a ‘friend’ and colleague who plagiarized a significant portion of one of my books without giving me any credit for the pages of word for word heist. I prayed for understanding, and received a message that it was a pre-birth agreement that would teach each of us something important. This immediately dissolved both my anger and grief over what she had done and allowed me to sever the relationship and take action to notify the professional organizations of which we were both members of this ethical breach.

When my husband told me he didn’t know if he wanted to remain married to me or not, I was so devastated that I prayed to die. Spirit said “not now, later you will have a chance.” So with that I asked, “does that mean that I have to get up off the floor?”  With death now closed as an option, I said that I needed to feel that I was still loved if I was to have the strength to continue living. And love from Spirit did flow into my being and I healed.

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