Using Humor to Defuse Anger!

Unless you’re a psychopath, you are not going to kill somebody while you are laughing. And when you are done laughing, the original anger that made you want to kill, will have almost certainly lessened or be gone. Humor lessens tension so that better communication or constructive action can take place. So use humor to defuse!

Years ago when my son was a teenager and giving me a lot of ‘lip’, we had lots of arguments. I was completely frustrated, and constantly upset by his defiance. On this particular occasion, we (my husband, son and myself) were at the dinner table when my son started in. I was just about to serve the mashed potatoes. The big spoon with a heaping amount of vegetable was in my hand ready to dish out. Something in me clicked, and I pulled back on the spoon and catapulted it’s contents into my son’t face. My son responded by dipping his bare hand into the mashed potatoes and dumping them on top of my head. With that, my husband leapt up yelling “food fight!” And the fight was ON! All three of us threw mashed potatoes, pillows, anything non-breakable and non dangerous at one another, running all over the house.

IT WAS WONDERFUL!

It turned out to be the best thing we did because it totally cleared the air of tension between my son and I that had been building since I remarried. While we had to redecorate the hallway afterwards, that was no loss as the wallpaper was 50 years old and needed to go. My coat, which someone had used as a shield, also suffered, and had to go to the dry cleaner. But otherwise, everything else was fine.

At a later time, when my marriage was ending, I was extremely depressed (depression is the flip side of anger).  At the office and unable to concentrate on doing any work, I wandered next door to a neighbor’s office. Finding him alone, I asked him to tell me a joke because I badly needed to laugh. He remembered one, we both laughed, and I proceeded to someone else’s office. “I have a joke for you,” I said. I repeated the joke, laughed again, and asked him to tell me one. With this, I continued down the hall, repeating each of the jokes I learned and asking for more. Each time I told or heard one, I laughed and they laughed. This went on for weeks. The entire floor became engaged in joke telling and it boosted the spirits for us all.

Humor can be a healthy way of coping with strong emotions such as anger, depression, frustration and emotional pain. It allows you to keep your sanity so you can survive whatever is going on. The laughter brings oxygen to your brain so that you can think more clearly. As tension is released, it allows you to become more rational and make better decisions and to take constructive action.

At an earlier time and another divorce, my son (then in grade school) and I both had a lot of anger at his step-father, who had not only been emotionally abusive to us both, but had been physically rough with my son. My son truly hated this man and was prepared to hurt him if he came back into the house. So I had him play mental games with me of what practical jokes we could play on this man – things that would be an affront to his dignity, but not physically hurt him in any way.

For example, we would imagine giant birds or animals flying overhead and pooping on him, or sending dog too-doo to him in the mail, etc. We would imagine him as animal/bird/critter, and come up with insulting but funny names to call him. These mental games helped him, and are similar to a Neural Linguistic Programming technique called ‘Carnival’. I have written several visualizations to turn anger into humor in Chapter 6 my self-hypnosis course book, Your Unlimited Potential (see link here).

When things are really tough, sometimes the only thing you can do is to laugh. And if you are able to laugh on a regular basis, you probably will not get so angry or as often. So look for the funny side of things!

0  I will be presenting a seminar on Using Humor to Defuse Anger in Your Practice at the upcoming National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists Conference occurring November 3-8 in Virginia Beach, Virginia. And I also will be giving a full-day workshop on Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone on Wednesday, 11/8. See NATH.world for information.

Help Yourself & Others Release Anger without Killing Anyone!

Have you ever thought of ANGER AS OPPORTUNITY? or TEACHER? or MOTIVATOR? or CHOICE?

Understanding the underlying dynamics of your upset helps you to harness anger so it actually accomplishes some good and, hopefully, does no harm to you or others.

Over a lifetime, I have had the ‘opportunity and motivation’ pushing me to learn something about unconscious forces, and mental and emotional healing.
“Necessity is the Mother of invention.” 
Some of what I have learned has been compiled in a 154 page content rich manual, Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone, to assist you personally, and to assist you to help others. Whether you are a spouse, parent, employer, employee, mental health practitioner, I feel strongly that there is something in this book for you that can assist to make your conversations more productive, your relationships more harmonious, your life more effective, your sleep more restful and your health improved, all leading to overall greater inner resources and peace of mind. I know that this information works because I use it regularly to help myself, my friends, my clients and students.
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While you can learn all of this information right out of the book and teach it to others, you  also have the opportunity of spending a full day with me in Virginia Beach, Virginia on Wednesday, November 8 at the National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists 22nd Annual Conference. For information, see www.NATH.world. This would allow you to have all of your questions answered on how to apply it to various situations, do lots of practical exercises, and learn new skills and therapeutic interventions.

This is some of what the book covers and that will be dealt with in depth in the workshop.

  • Become aware of underlying beliefs, judgments, faulty assumptions or perceptions that cause anger!
  • Learn more effective communication skills to both avoid unnecessary problems and to address the ones you have!
  • Learn to maintain and regain balance and perspective quickly!
  • Set better boundaries!
  • Learn to fight clean and stop conversations from spiraling downwards!
  • Learn more effective coping skills!
  • Take effective action without the baggage of the past!
  • Use anger to grow in maturity and cast off leftovers of childhood!
  • Allow anger to locate and address your own unhealed wounds!
  • Understand the underlying dynamics of anger!
  • Learn to deal with what is instead of wasting precious energy in resistance!
  • Notice negative patterns and screw them up!
  • Understand and dissolve triggers!
  • Nip anger in the bud by noticing and taking action at the first warning signs!
  • Understand physical reasons for anger so you can address them!
  • Use anger as motivation for much needed healing and change!
  • Make your adversaries help you!
  • Learn the benefits of anger
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TEACH RIGHT OUT OF THE BOOK!

Teleconference: Dowsing for Mind-Body Healing

American Society of Dowsers

Discover Dowsing Series

Free Teleconference, Tuesday, October 17 at 8 PM EST. 

“Dowsing for Mind-Body Healing” with Roxanne Louise

Call 712-775-7035, then with prompt, access code is 436564#. You will be able to ask questions on the live call. A recording will be posted the following day at https://dowsers.org/tuesday-open-meetings/. For background information, you might read the articles on Roxanne’s blog, but especially those below. See UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com 

First of all, all illness has a stress component that weakened the system and interfered with it’s ability to maintain homeostasis. And, in addition, those same stressors may be siphoning off vital energy that is required for healing now. This stress can be physical including chemical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Anything that consumes more energy than it supplies can be considered a ‘stressor’ including ‘good’ or ‘happy’ things like moving into a new home, getting married, having a baby, starting a new job.

While illness may have a genetic component, biologist Dr. Bruce Lipton maintains that each gene can have multiple possible expressions. The environment determines how it is expressed. So why this expression, and why now?

Illness can also have a pathogen component. Yet it has been found that people can be exposed to the same bug, yet not everyone gets sick. Why? 

Dowsing can assist you in pinpointing your own vulnerabilities and brainstorm possible ways of addressing them in a can’t hurt way. Roxanne has written an entire book of charts and checklists to assist in locating both in her book, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing.

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She also has written another book for accessing internal resources in solving problems and releasing stress in her book ACCESSING MORE – Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process

This is NOT about diagnosing or treating disease. It is about establishing a wholistic approach to health and good self-care, and covering the bases not taken into consideration by the allopathic or pharmaceutical establishments. 

Listen in this Tuesday, October 17 at 8 PM Eastern Standard Time or go to dowsers.org any time after to listen to the recording. Call Roxanne Louise at 434-263-4337 or email at RoxanneLouise2@gmail.com for further information.

Central Virginia Dowsers Newsletter, 9/27/17

Not just local news!

image This newsletter contains:

1. Free Teleconference, Tuesday, October 17 at 8 PM EST. Roxanne Louise, “Dowsing for Mind-Body Healing” 

This is part of the American Society of Dowsers, Discover Dowsing Series. Call 712-775-7035, then with prompt, access code is 436564#. You will be able to ask questions on the live call. A recording will be posted the following day. For background information, you might read the following article “Dowsing for Health“. See also other related articles on Roxanne’s blog, UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com.

2. Discover Dowsing Series–Recordings available of past speakers, American Society of Dowsers. 

The information on the calls is interesting, but on some there is a lot of background noise as listeners pick up the phone. See https://dowsers.org/tuesday-open-meetings/

3. Basic Trouble Shooting for Dowsers Chart

I came across this wonderful chart on trouble shooting put out by Waverley Dowsers, UK. I strongly recommend printing it out. Here is another chart on dowsing questions by them. Note that in any long occupied house/land/country such as the United Kingdom, such places are saturated with the thoughts, emotions, energies of the many, many previous inhabitants and the events that happened there. Therefore, awareness of these energies and how to clear the non-beneficial ones are good to know.

 4. Starting January 9, 2018: “Dowsers Support & Continuing Education Program”

In January the America Society of Dowsers will begin a monthly teleconference call each 2nd Tuesday at 8 PM EST to provide some basic instruction in dowsing, answer your questions, and share information. Facilitated by Roxanne Louise with a panel of  other experienced dowsers, this is intended for all levels of dowsing prowess. Calls will be recorded and available online the following day. Have something to share? Want to brainstorm how dowsing can help with a project you are working on? Need some help to advance your skills? Call in or contact the facilitator at 434-263-4337, or roxannelouise2@gmail.com. Put Dowsers Support in subject line.

5. Central Virginia Dowsers Meeting Agenda October 8, 1:15 PM 

Free. Senior Center, 1180 Pepsi Place, Charlottesville, VA 22901. RSVP to RoxanneLouise2@gmail.com or call 434-263-4337 .

  • Video & live presentation: “Dowsing for Solution” with Roxanne Louise

October’s meeting is on Dowsing for Solution, a talk given at ASD Convention this past June by Roxanne Louise. Roxanne will show clips of her video plus address how you can use dowsing for yourself. Do you have a problem you want to solve? A goal you want to reach? Let’s design a chart or checklist for you!

  • Networking & quick pendulum instruction: 1:15 PM with meeting officially starting at 1:30 PM. We will close down no later than 5 PM.
  • Dowsing Tools – Simple Show & Tell of basic dowsing tools for beginners with quick demonstration. Further help can be given at the end of the meeting.
  • Practice Time: (before or after video)
  1. Simple yes/no questions for you to dowse out.
  2. Dowse what’s in the container? Simple game to dowse out what is inside using multiple choice. Then move the containers around and try again.  

General Information:

Meetings are now on the 2nd Sunday of the Month, September through November, January through June (no meetings in December, July or August).  Meetings are free and open to all!   Location: Senior Center, 1180 Pepsi Place, Charlottesville, VA 22901•

OTHER DATES: November 12, 2017, then resuming in 2018 on January 14. 

Topics to be announced before each meeting. Either an ASD Conference Video followed by Q & A, or Speaker. Please share with us how you are using dowsing today, and your results. Receive help available on the various dowsing tools. And maybe have some dowsing practice.

 

Dowsing for Mind-Body Healing

When a person is ill, they typically go to a doctor for a diagnosis. But the diagnosis, even if accurate, is not the root cause of the problem. The disease may only manifest after years of the body being abused, of other things being unbalanced or neglected, of the mind or body being overworked, overwhelmed, stressed out, of the spirit disconnected from joy, purpose, fulfillment or loving relationships. The cause may stem from years of unresolved upsets and issues, detrimental beliefs, habits or lifestyle.

In this way, disease is an opportunist taking advantage of some weak spot. And while a person may be good about taking good care of himself in certain ways, he may ignore or even abuse himself in others. For example, he may eat right or exercise but still smoke. It is in the neglected or abused area where the body and health will break down. At the time, he may think he is invincible, that his body will always bounce back, or that for any reason that he has to push himself beyond sensible limits. He may think that his ego, sense of self image, job or family responsibilities or finances depend upon it. He may feel that life is about having fun but then interpret ‘fun’ in some self-destructive way. He may think that he has plenty of time to get serious about his health in some far distant tomorrow. Then tomorrow comes and the piper wants to be paid.

Think of it this way: a house may be burglarized because it was easy— by all appearances, no one was home, the door was unlocked, or a window was left open. And while there was an alarm system, it may not have been turned on. Closing the window now does not bring back what was stolen, but it is still important to do so anyway because it can stop another burglary.

So if you are dealing with a poor health condition, what window of opportunity did you leave open that made it possible? What important nutritional supplements did you have in the house but were not taking? What stress management tools do you know that you were not practicing? What common sense principles or practices or habits that you already know about were you ignoring?

Even when the health problem is obvious as with a broken bone from an accident, that accident may have only occurred because the person was not centered, paying attention or distracted, perhaps because of worries, or lack of sleep. Maybe he was partying late, burning the candles at both ends, or upset about something.

In short, health can never be separated from the other aspects of a person’s life. And healing always needs to consider the bigger picture, not only regarding good basic self care but also mental, emotional and spiritual issues as well.

Dowsing can help locate what is out of balance, what habit, diet or lifestyle changes need to be made. It can pinpoint what mental and emotional issues need to be addressed, and where, when and with whom they arose. Dowsing can set up a priority list of where to start, and which actions/modalities will have the most beneficial effect. It can through intention remove blocks to healing including detrimental beliefs and judgments. It can indicate the degree of progress in resolving problems and stuck energies. 

In short, dowsing has phenomenal potential in identifying underlying issues and tracking their resolution. It uncovers what is hidden and infinitely speeds up the process leading to faster healing time.

Free Teleconference Call, Tuesday, October 17 at 8 PM, Eastern.

On October 17 at 8PM EST, Roxanne Louise will discussDowsing for Mind-Body Healing” in a free teleconference call that is part of the American Society of Dowsers Discover Dowsing Series. Call in instructions are : 1-712-775-7035, followed by the code at the prompt, 436564#. Call will be recorded and can be heard the following day at ASD’s website, www.dowsers.org

Roxanne is a Dowser, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, and Stress Management Expert specializing in mental/emotional issues. She has been a frequent presenter both at ASD as well as regional conferences and chapter meetings, and multiple national hypnosis conventions. She has received 5 national awards in hypnosis including a Lifetime Achievement Award. She founded and runs Central Virginia Dowsers in Charlottesville, and is author of several books on self hypnosis, therapeutic dowsing, Reiki (including mind-body healing), stop smoking, healing anger, and the Infinite Intelligence Process. In addition to her blog, UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com, see her website at www.RoxanneLouise.com or call 434-263-4337.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

 

Appointed to Hypnosis Advisory Board

I am honored to have been appointed to the Honorary Board of Advisors of the National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists. I was part of the organization’s very beginnings in 1995, and indeed, have been a presenter at most of their conferences since. I was also honored to have been:

  • Recipient of their 2008 “Most Unique Contribution Award” 
  • Recipient of their 2003 “Outstanding Transpersonal Achievement Award” for work in integrating hypnosis with other modalities.

NATH’s founders, Dee and Allen Chips, became very close friends as well as respected colleagues, so much so that they lured me from New Jersey to Virginia. Now five years after Allen’s death, Dee has passed the direction of the organization to Lisa Thunberg-Dobson.

This year’s National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists 22nd Conference will take place in Virginia Beach, VA from November 3-9.

I will be presenting a half day workshop on The Infinite Intelligence Process, Friday morning. Then on Saturday afternoon at 4, I will be teaching “Using Humor to Defuse Anger in Your Practice“. On Sunday morning, I will doing a group hypnotic session “Hypnosis for Your Soul” to help you connect with your higher guidance. Finally, on Wednesday, I am doing a full day workshop on “Releasing Your Anger Without Killing Anyone!“.

For more information about the conference, see www.NATH.world or call 855-772-0459. It is always a lovely conference with good information, good people, right on the boardwalk overlooking the ocean and dolphins at play. 

Central Virginia Dowsers Newsletter, 8/29/2017


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Written by Roxanne Louise. Please distribute.

This newsletter contains:

1. Discover Dowsing Series, recordings available of past speakers, American Society of Dowsers. 

The information on the calls is interesting, but there is a lot of background noise as listeners pick up the phone. See https://dowsers.org/tuesday-open-meetings/

2. Free Teleconference, Tuesday, October 17 at 8 PM EST. Roxanne Louise, “Dowsing for Mind-Body Healing” 

This is part of the American Society of Dowsers, Discover Dowsing Series. Call 712-775-7035, then with prompt, access code is 436564#You will be able to ask questions on the live call. A recording will be posted the following day.

3. Article on Space Clearing: “Quick Ways to Clear a Space of ‘Bad’ Energy” 

4. Central Virginia Dowsers Meeting Agenda September 10, 1:15 PM 

Free. Senior Center, 1180 Pepsi Place, Charlottesville, VA 22901. RSVP to RoxanneLouise2@gmail.com or call 434-263-4337 .

  • Networking: 1:15 PM with meeting officially starting at 1:30 PM. We will close down no later than 5 PM.
  • Dowsing Tools – Simple Show & Tell of basic dowsing tools for beginners with quick demonstration. Further help can be given at the end of the meeting.
  • Video: “Yes! You Really Can Trust Your Dowsing” with Cynthia Brush-Pires

Want to know how to trust in your dowsing responses without doubt creeping in? It is a matter of using intent, well-defined perimeters and remaining clear. Cynthia will share the techniques she uses with you and you can further refine them for your use. In these uncertain times, trusting your dowsing is essential. Want to use your dowsing skills to work on others without harm or karma coming to yourself? Learn about the Three Gates that she uses. Video is 1 hr. 20 min. followed with your questions.

  • How to increase your accuracy? Discussion of what works for you.
  • Practice Time: (before or after video)
  1. Simple yes/no questions for you to dowse out.
  2. Dowse what’s in the container? Simple game to dowse out what is inside using multiple choice. Then move the containers around and try again. 

General Information:

Meetings are now on the 2nd Sunday of the Month, September through November, January through June (no meetings in December, July or August).  Meetings are free and open to all!  New Location Senior Center, 1180 Pepsi Place, Charlottesville, VA 22901• September 10, October 8 & November 12, 2017, then resuming in 2018. 

 

Topics to be announced before each meeting. Either an ASD Conference Video followed by Q & A, or Speaker. Plus tell us how you are using dowsing today, and your results. Plus help available on the various dowsing tools. And maybe some dowsing practice.

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