Derailing the Train to Negative Emotions

How to Recognize and Interrupt the Downward Spiral!

Emotions follow thought. As you notice your thoughts, you can predict their emotional outcome, and deliberately shift them to get to a more desirable emotional end result. Thought substitution is an easy way to do this because you cannot think of two things at once.

Thought substitution is NOT to deny your ‘negative’ thoughts or feelings. It is not being a Pollyanna or sticking your head in the sand. But it is a shift in focus to what you can do, to what you do want to create, and on the priorities of the moment. It is a shift to possibility thinking. And it can start off as simply holding a question or statement in mind.

WHY DO THIS?
1. Some, perhaps many, of your thoughts, beliefs, judgments as well as those of others can be unsubstantiated, unchallenged, and quite possibly untrue. So why stress yourself out if you don’t know for sure?

2. You may not really know your true limits. Your beliefs and the beliefs of others that you listen to can be stopping you before you really test those limits.

3. You may not be harnessing your inner resources without which you can never know what can or cannot be achieved.

4. The negative opinion of others (even that of experts) can be wrong. Remember that people thought that the earth was flat, and that you would drop off if you sailed too far. Remember also that it was thought that it was impossible to run a mile under 4 minutes. Then Roger Bannister came along.

5. Finally, you understand the precious quality of your mind to create reality, and choose not to squander it’s energy, but to work to create only a life, world that you want, instead of what you don’t want.

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The Measure of a Life

This past week I attended the funeral of my sweet brother-in-law. Such events call to mind not only the life of the person involved, but other persons we have known that have died especially those related to or connected to the most recently deceased.

Being a witness to a person’s life can teach you a lot especially where you are aware of the choices they made–the road taken and the roads not taken. As you think about what you admired, and respected or didn’t about the person, on how they expressed their own uniqueness, their talents, or not, and how they handled their challenges, it is a real life example you might want to follow or to avoid.

In any event, the death of another can trigger you to evaluate how you are living yourself. If death were to come soon, are you pleased with how you have lived? Would you have done anything differently? Did you accomplish what you wanted in the time you have had so far? What are you taking with you in terms of knowledge, experience, personal growth and soul development, in terms of the lives you have touched? Did your life make a difference to anyone or anything in the world? What is the legacy you leave behind?

I know of, listened to and have read many near death testimonies. Several experiencers who went through the Life-Review were not asked what they accomplished in worldly terms, but

  1. What did you learn?
  2. How did you express love?

Many years ago I had a lucid dream in which I was in the ‘beyond’ with my guides and spiritual group (those team mates that stay behind while one goes in (incarnates). In this dream I was jumping up and down shouting “we did it, we did it. I had a wonderful life!” The part of me that was aware that I was sleeping was aghast. “What do you mean I had a wonderful life?” As I was going through a divorce at the time, life was not definitely not fun and had not been for a very, long time. Then the dream continued, “and I’ve learned so much!” And indeed, I had to agree that I had learned a great deal as a result of my many, painful experiences–pain usually experienced because I was naive, suffering from low self-esteem, or just plain stupid. Unfortunately, it seemed that all too often I had to learn the hard way. But I did learn something even though I had to repeat some lessons multiple times.

I have often said that it was important to live without regret, to make choices you could live with so you could sleep at night. For myself, I have had to do a lot of work years after upsetting events because either I didn’t know how or neglected to deal effectively in the moment. Hence, the importance to “Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him;.” (Bible: Matthew 5:25)

Regrets are both what we did and what we didn’t do, what we said or didn’t say. For example, when my grandmother told me she was dying, I poo-pooed her concern rather let her talk about her fears of facing the end of her life. I regret that. I didn’t spend nearly enough time with people that mattered to me, but rather wasted my time on less important matters. I spent time building my own career or pursuing romance instead of paying more attention to raising my own son and giving him more opportunities. I didn’t streamline my life to be able to handle both my responsibilities and important relationships. I missed out on a lot of rich experiences. All too often I shied away from activities or arenas that would have stretched me beyond my comfort zone. I have been haunted by a few, poorly chosen words. No doubt you have your own list as do, I am sure, the very people you admire and respect.

It is difficult to evaluate the life of another. We see only from our own perspective, our other experiences, our relationship to the person and interaction with them. We may never see how they are with others. Those bosses or employees that cause us grief may be devoted partners and loving parents. They may be loyal friends and good neighbors.

For example, to my sister and I, my mother was a hard taskmaster who through a few careless remarks cut us to the core. To the neighborhood children, however, she was the sweet, old lady that showed real interest in them and fed them milk and cookies. To my son, she was his best friend. To my father, she was the beautiful woman he married.

On the other hand, we may never know how we affect others for good or ill. I have had people angry at me without any idea why. I have also had people tell me how much I meant to them, and how I helped them. Again, I had no idea that what I had taken for granted, some small, forgotten act or few words had made such positive impact upon someone else.

So what is the measure of a life, my life, your life?

For my brother-in-law, it seemed to be about expressing love – love to God, love to his wife and children, love and caring to others in general. That is a legacy worth copying.

Please add your comments.

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Accessing More — Tapping Into the Wisdom & Resources Within

THE INFINITE INTELLIGENCE PROCESS

20170516_AccessingMoreCoverI have personally experienced and witnessed, and I have heard about other people also tapping into MORE–more than they are aware of knowing or being able to do consciously. And this MORE allowed both me and them the ability to accomplish the difficult with ease and grace, and sometimes even to achieve the ‘impossible’. 

Whether it is suddenly being able to solve problems that had previously defied solution, having creative breakthroughs, superhuman strength to save the life of another, or responding protocol perfect to a never before encountered emergency, people have amazed themselves and others when they have spontaneously accessed this greater wisdom, intelligence, strength, ability or knowledge. Sometimes it has come as a result of a necessity or out of nowhere during an emergency, and sometimes it has come in quiet moments after working on it for a prolonged period of time through normal conscious means and then letting their mind relax.

For example, I was awakened one morning with noise coming from my master bathroom. I found my five cats surrounding a copperhead snake that had gotten up into the ventilation system from the crawl space and pushed up the floor grate to get into the room. The snake was coiled up ready to attack, and kept rotating its head to watch each of the cats. What could I do? I had to protect my cats, prevent the snake from getting back down the floor grate and having access from the ventilation system to other parts of the house. I had to be sure to get it, dead or alive, completely out of the house without myself or my animals getting hurt. The way I responded turned out to be protocol perfect even though I had never been trained. How did I just naturally do everything right?

Another time, I found myself caught in a rip tide and rapidly pulled out to sea. I tried swimming to shore, but it didn’t work and I quickly got exhausted. I tried yelling and waving my arms for help, but those on shore didn’t notice and couldn’t hear me over the surf. I was getting wiped out with the waves and getting water in my mouth. Again, it seemed that I tapped into that something More to stay calm and focused on what I could do to stay alive.

Like a cat with nine lives, I have had many experiences starting from childhood that could have been dangerous, even fatal. I have also had many overwhelming responsibilities or pressures through which I sailed calmly. I have accomplished some amazing things with ease. You probably have done or know others who have done the same. [For examples just of superhuman strength, see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hysterical_strength%5D

While necessity does motivate us to look deeper for ideas and strength, it certainly does not guarantee being able to do so as so many people blank or numb out, freeze or just panic. The questions for all of us are:

  • How do we tap into that greater knowing, wisdom, ability or resources without it having to be an emergency, life or death situation?
  • How can we tune into whatever it is that allows us to handle life with greater ease and grace on a regular basis?
  • How can we routinely tune in and save ourselves a lot of time and energy, worry and frustration, fear and anger on or about upsetting events as well as ordinary everyday things–our job, relationships, daily life and responsibilities?

While some people may automatically jump to religious causation for all beneficial outcomes, even ‘miracles’, my personal opinion is that believing that all help comes from outside of us can actually limit the natural flow and development of what may inherently be an inside but undeveloped part of us. By believing that we are more than we think we are allows us to connect to the More that we truly are. I do not know or need to know where the demarcation ends of what is ‘Me’ at my highest and best and what is not ‘Me’ at the ultimate best.

I think that accessing More starts by adopting the open minded attitude that it is possible–that you are able to harness greater resources, wisdom and ability that go beyond the limitations of the ego and conscious mind, beyond the subconscious, to the spiritual dimension of the self that is further linked to an even greater consciousness. Start with a positive attitude and set an intention to do so.

Whatever ultimate consciousness is responsible for the 100 to 200 billion of galaxies that astronomers calculate exist is, in my opinion, way beyond our human comprehension to know or describe, and, therefore, beyond any religion to explain or hold the patent.

Accessing More of both what is within and without is done below the level of conscious awareness. Simply quiet your mind, and go inside to the peaceful part of you, affirm your intention, and allow that inner something to do its work. This approach  circumvents the ego, the mind games, circuitous thinking, internal and external blocks, and inhibiting energies that have prevented previous solution to the issue of concern. The process works to solve practical problems, relieve stress, and heal from long-standing issues–even  sometimes those that have previously defied resolution. All aspects of your life can be addressed–mental, emotional, relationship, physical, financial, business, and spiritual.

This process can be used anytime, anyplace as a self-help tool by the ordinary person to help himself in real life situations. It can also be used for meditation, constructive self-programming, and in conjunction with other modalities.  But professionals of many types (hypnotherapists, dowsers, teachers, counselors, life coaches, energy healers, mental health practitioners, and others) can also employ it as a full-fledged therapy. It draws upon the principles and practices of hypnosis, Neural Linguistic Programming, dowsing, meditation, prayer and many energy healing methods.

So what exactly is this More?

While it includes your subconscious mind that regulates all of your body functions, automatic behavior, physical, mental and emotional habits, directives and injunctions, beliefs, judgments, and memory, it goes beyond that. I believe that this More is primarily the eternal, infinite intelligence within you that is intrinsically linked to the ultimate consciousness behind all that is as in“The Kingdom of God is within.” (Luke 17:20-21)  Using this system increases your awareness that you are  More than your ego,  More than your body and local mind, More than the individual, spiritual self that people call the soul, to something beyond.

Traditional religious circles say that this More is God, and exists totally outside and apart from the self, and is reachable through prayer or petition. Unfortunately, all too often prayers beg, whine, or plead in fear without really believing that help will come, and by such, sometimes nullifying such help.

Labeling or identifying this More is not important to access the benefits.

In fact, it can get you stuck and mired in mankind’s perpetual argument over who or what the subconscious mind is, what the soul is, “God” is, etc.–all philosophical and religious discussions that are, in the final analysis, unprovable and come down to a matter of beliefs.  However, as beliefs and the attitudes behind them impact the results you get, it is most helpful to adopt a curious, open mind to try out this approach.

Having a helpful attitude when you desire to solve a problem or achieve a goal is crucial to your success.

Whether right or wrong, true or false, your attitude does affect you. It can make things easier or harder. Beliefs that make things more difficult can be changed.  So if you think you can do something, that it lies within the realm of possibility, then you might try to do it. You’ll keep on looking for solutions when challenges come, which they always will. If you maintain an attitude of curiosity, such as “If it could work, how would it work?”, that too will keep your mind open to possible solutions. [Look up James Rouse, pioneering real estate developer of planned communities, urban planner]

Whereas, if you think that you can’t, that it is impossible, or if you don’t know that you already have that ability, you probably won’t exert yourself to even try, you won’t see solutions or ideas or opportunities right in front of you, and you won’t push through the blocks that always come, no matter how worthy the goal, or how exciting the possibility. And yet, all goals have challenges and require that continual effort to break through.

I am proposing that you try adopting an attitude of possibility thinking, what if  ____.

  • What if I did have resources to deal with this problem?
  • What if I do have resources already to address this?
  • What if I could achieve this goal?
  • What if I can take action, no matter how small, right now to go after what I want?
  • What if I could resolve this ____ (issue, condition, relationship, or upset)?
  • What if I can do something to resolve this _____ (issue, condition, relationship, or upset) right now?

Finally,

  •  If it could work, how would it work?

You might start by allowing the first part to roll around in your mind, “What if I could”,  and then proceed with the present tense, “What if I can.”. Make an assumption that something in you does know how to do it, and claim it. Until you push your limits, you’ll underperform.

  What I practice and teach are specific question or statement formats that assist in tapping into internal resources. It is a three pronged approach and subject of my latest book, Accessing More — Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process. 

1. “There is a part of me that knows ___ and is ____ now.”

Examples:
“There is a part of me that knows how to handle this situation in the most effective way, and is doing so now.
    There is a part of me that knows how to accomplish all that I have to do today with grace and ease and is doing so now.
    There is a part of me that knows the best use of my time and energy today and is guiding me now to make most effective use of all my resources.”

2. “From the perspective of my High Self, process and ___ (resolve/heal/clear)  ___ so that I can ____. Go.”

This works by first installing a hypnotic or dowsing program, and then triggering the running of such mental program with the key words “process” and “go”.

Example:
“From the perspective of my High Self, process all the events, and all that I seen, heard, thought about today so that I can keep what is useful and true, and let go of the rest, and enjoy a good night’s sleep. Go.”

    “From the perspective of my High Self, process and heal all my upset regarding ___ so that I can learn and move on. Go.”

3. Claim dominion of your own mind and declare what is to be in your own life.

Example:
 “I release all blocks known and unknown to my full healing now.”

If you want to order the New Edition, 117 page manual, Accessing More — Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process (just $24.95) to learn the whole process, call 434-263-4337 or order online at my website
Or if you want training on how to use the Infinite Intelligence for your own personal concerns, or  if you would like to organize a live or on-line class, call us to discuss.

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