Saying Goodbye

Recently I was informed of the death of two more of my high school classmates. While I have not seen most of my classmates for more than 50+ years, it saddened me. To sound hopelessly maudlin, high school was and indeed is for many people a special time of our lives, perhaps more so than college, as we moved through the last gawky caterpillar stage of adolescence to finally emerge at graduation as butterflies flying off in the infinitely different directions of our adulthood. 

Some of us had been together since early childhood to elementary school, junior high and all through high school. We shared a special bond going through all those awkward years together – those years of braces or acne, of unequal growth spurts and hormonal changes. We huddled together to giggle over the cute boys or girls of the opposite sex. We felt an urgent need for acceptance and ‘fitting in’. There was the yearning for a relationship but fear of rejection, the excitement of our first date, the awkwardness of first kiss, the nervousness of waiting for the phone to ring for, hopefully, another date, another kiss and a ‘real’ boyfriend or girlfriend. 

For many of us, high school provided the last bit of stability and continuity in our lives that would soon be lost. Many of us would leave shortly, some for the military, some for colleges far away. Many never returned home except for brief visits to families over holidays. While a few would start full-time employment nearby, or see each other periodically elsewhere, the tight bonds of youth were loosened to allow room for new people and new experiences. We were changing.

Looking back, the saying ‘you can’t go home again’ is very true. The composition of the town changed as our parents moved away after retirement or died. Newcomers moved in to raise their families. Even the few that stayed local during employment mostly moved away later to pursue a warmer climate or lower taxes or to be closer to children or grandchildren who had scattered to the far corners of the country.

As we were sitting in caps and gowns so many years ago out in the football field waiting to receive our diplomas, I was very aware of the bittersweet nature of the moment. We were dispersing out into the world to pursue our individual paths not knowing what was in store, not knowing when or if we would meet again, embarking upon our own ‘great adventure’.

When I now hear about one of us who has died, I wonder what kind of life they had. Were they happy with the way it turned out and how they faced whatever challenges came their way? Was it a life of which they themselves were proud? Did they marry and was it good? Did they have children and grandchildren, and were they close? 

And then I ask these questions of myself. Am I living the life that at the end I can say it was a good life? Did I accomplish what I wanted? Did I leave a positive legacy? Did I touch the lives of others? Did I make a positive difference? And most of all, did my life matter to ANYONE?

To all my remaining classmates of James Caldwell High School, I have not kept in touch with any of you, but I remember you all fondly. You left an indelible mark of upon my soul. I wish you the best of everything life has to offer. Until we meet again…. 

My love. Roxanne 

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The Power of Thoughts, Emotions & Politics

Thoughts and emotions are things that can create or destroy, enhance or interfere, make things easier or harder, heal, harm or even kill. The clearer the thought, the more that thought is focused, directed, sustained, and then energized with strong emotion, the greater the impact will be upon both sender and receiver.

When thoughts are directed with love or gratitude, forgiveness and compassion, even to people you dislike or you consider your enemies, you are assisting both friend and foe to show up in the world from their higher nature.

Lynne McTaggert’s Power of Eight intention groups have shown that offering positive intention to another has a powerful blessing for the sender as well. Blessing others blesses you . It also helps your adversaries to heal and stop doing the very things that distress you. The caveat is that it needs to be done repeatedly.

Clinical Psychologist, Dr Ihaleakala Hew Len demonstrated this clearly by applying his practice of Ho’oponopono with the criminally insane at Hawaii State Hospital. Instead of responding with fear or revulsion towards his dangerous patients, he instead directed love, compassion and forgiveness towards them on a continuous basis. As a result, the inmates so improved that the ward was closed in just a few years. Dr. Len accomplished by simply holding his patient’s file while continuously repeating

“I’m sorry, Please forgive me, I love you, Thank you.”

NOTE:  you might want to address the meditation to yourself as in

“I’m sorry, ___(your own name). “Please forgive me (for putting you through this). I love you. Thank you (for being there for me).”

The words of any mantra or words in meditation have to be in alignment with your own belief system.  Dr. Len considers himself responsible for the behavior or condition of others, which is why he can use his 4 phrases. As I disagree, I have had to modify the words in accordance with my own beliefs, which are that as I am human, the seeds of every evil that humanity has done lie within me, and that under the right circumstances, I could perhaps commit the same wrong, want to do so, or my ancestors or I myself in another lifetime may have already done. Here is my version:  

I’m sorry.

“I am sorry or whatever is within me, my relatives, progeny or ancestors in this or any other lifetime that attracted, allowed, caused or contributed to this ____ (illness, condition, state, feeling, tendency, behavior, situation, problem, event, experience or issue).

Please forgive me. 

“Please forgive me. Please forgive all of us.” 

“Divine Creator, please correct any erroneous thoughts in my consciousness and/or our shared consciousness that is responsible in any way.” 

I love you.

“I acknowledge, ____(name), that the Divine created us both, and as such, we are part of the same human family. I look for and love the Creator’s spark within you.”

Thank you 

“Thank you, ____(name), for bringing to my attention what needs to heal within myself.”

“Thank you, divine Creator, for bringing love, healing, harmony and balance into this for the Highest Good of all.” 

“Thank you, Creator, for healing any resonance with the problem within me, and correcting any errors in my consciousness and humanity’s shared consciousness.”

Dr. Len in repeating his mantra was taking responsibility for his patient’s behavior. He considered it his creation and therefore, his responsibility do something about although it was not his fault. But what if we applied this practice or something similar to the unsavory people and events in our lives?

What if we applied this to politics?

It doesn’t matter if you are talking about the politics within families, churches and spiritual circles, subdivisions, professional or civic groups, the office, and of course, politics on a state, national and global level. Egos, desires for power and control, greed, money interests, private agendas, shadow issues, fears, insecurities, and unhealed wounds create conflicts everywhere. Responding to them constructively is not just about taking what you consider appropriate action. For long-term change, it must also include healing yourself of any resonance with the behavior or personality trait of the person you dislike, or the issue, problem or condition that upsets you.

As Physicist, Tom Campbell, has said,

Unless WE change, real, permanent change will not happen. But as we grow and evolve in consciousness, our leaders and systems will reflect that.”

Quantum Entanglement

The theory of Quantum Entanglement within the field of physics explains the effect that one particle can have on another even though separated by huge distances. However, the psychological implications are that individuals have a very real effect on one another  as well. Your thoughts and feelings not only guide your action but also effect mine. Campbell says that the thoughts, emotions, and consciousness of each individual are felt by the whole. Consciousness is made up of thoughts, beliefs, and judgments which generate emotions, mood and behavior. The consciousness of even one person effects others, who in turn effect many more. This works for good or ill. 

There is only one of us here.

Some scientists are saying that we not only effect one another, but that we are the other – we are all one consciousness. The implication of this is that in hating another, I am actually hating a part of myself. The opposite is also true.

Right now, tensions within the US are ratcheting up to remove the sitting President by any means possible. As we get closer to election, I am once again concerned about the extreme level of anger and even hatred so rampant in our society before and after the last one. Unrelenting anger and hatred not only makes real, long term, positive change much, much more unlikely, but it poisons our health, our relationships, and well-being on every level. I know. I personally got ill after the last election, and I am still suffering the painful aftereffects three years later.

There has to be way to be aware without being obsessed, to listen to and possibly consider the other person’s point of view, to create positive change without destroying what is good, of informing/educating others without then transferring your hatred onto them if they do not understand or agree with you. 

Consequently, I am advocating applying the Ho’Oponopono in some fashion to your daily or weekly routine. Look for and address any old wounds that are being triggered by current events. Forgive yourself and recognize your common humanity with others (all of them). 

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