Central Virginia Dowsers Newsletter 8/18/18

EDUCATOR of the YEAR’ Award

presented to Roxanne Louise from the American Society of Dowsers at their June, 2018 conference at New Paltz, New York. Roxanne was also accepted as a Member of the Board of Trustees.

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1. Free Water Dowsing Teleconference, sponsored by the American Society of Dowsers, every 3rd Monday of the month at 8 PM Eastern time each with a different expert water dowser. Recording available to members afterwards at dowsers.org. Next call is August 20, then September 17, October 15, November 19, December 17. To listen in on the call dial 641-715-0866, then enter passcode 175681#. 

2. Free  “Discover Dowsing Teleconference”, Tuesday, August 21 at 8 PM. Recording available to members afterwards at dowsers.org. Roxanne Louise will interview Susan McNeill Spuhler on “Dowsing for Missing Persons, Pets and Items”.  Other speakers/topics for September 18, October 16, November 20, and December 18 to be announced later. Dial (712) 775-7035, then enter Participant Code  436564#.

3. Free Central Virginia Dowsers MEETING in Charlottesville, Sunday, September 9 from 1:15-4 PM. Presentation by Roxanne Louise “Hypnosis for Dowsing”Future topics to be announced for October 14 and November 11 (no meeting in December). 

LOCATION: Senior Center, 491 Hillsdale Drive (street name change – was Pepsi Place) at the corner of Greenbriar (Rt. 29 Northbound), Charlottesville VA 22901. 

Experience hypnosis with multiple suggestions for dowsing successfully and releasing limiting beliefs that interfere. Then learn to quickly go in and out of hypnosis YOURSELF to center, clarify your dowsing intention, and get into a productive dowsing frame of mind. Hypnotically have an anchor installed that triggers the right dowsing of mind every time you pick up your dowsing tools. 

4.  Free Dowsing Support & Continuing Education Teleconference, through the American Society of Dowsers. Every second Tuesday at 8 PM Eastern Time (US). Tuesday, September 12, 8 PM, October 9, November 13, and December 11.  Each month Roxanne Louise assisted by 1-2 other dowsers provides basic dowsing instruction followed by answering questions on any aspect of dowsing. For beginners to advanced. Dial (641) 715-0873, then enter Participant Code 335033#.

20180629_NF:EG award.jpgDECADES of Dedicated Service Award to the West Coast Dowsers 

Our own Elizabeth Gaines and Nicolas Finck won this prestigious award at the July West Coast Dowsers Conference .

I am thrilled that both are now in Virginia helping to run the Central Virginia Dowsers. Nicolas Finck was the originator of the San Francisco dowsing chapter for ASD many years ago. They both have done yeoman work, especially Elizabeth this year at West Coast, all as volunteers. Congratulations! Very well deserved!!!

RECORDINGS AVAILABLE:

American Society of Dowsers Conference, June 13-17, New Paltz, New York. Video and audio recordings avaIlable for purchase of seminars but not workshops afterwards. Call 802-684-3417 or contact www.dowsers.org.

West Coast Dowsers Conference, June 29-July 3, Santa Cruz, California. Video and/or audio recordings avaIlable for purchase of seminars but not workshops afterwards. Contact http://www.dowserswestcoast.org/about-us.html

PLEASE LIKE OUR FACEBOOK PAGE Central Virginia Dowsers 

ROXANNE LOUISE is the Founder and Director of Central Virginia Dowsers. She is aided in large part by NICOLAS FINCK and his wife, ELIZABETH GAINES.

Roxanne acts as Facilitator for the Dowsing Support calls as well as the Discover Dowsing Teleconference Calls. In addition to being a dowser specializing in mental/emotional healing, mind-body issues, habit change, and general problem solving, she is a hypnotherapist who has received 5 national awards including a lifetime achievement from the largest hypnosis organization in the world. She speaks at several hypnosis and dowsing conferences yearly, and has written 8 books on hypnosis, dowsing, Reiki, and self-help. She runs Central Virginia Dowsers based in Charlottesville. Her website is www.RoxanneLouise.com. Her blog with over 118 articles on dowsing, mind-body connection, stress/anger management, and more is UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com. You can reach her at 434-263-4337

 

National Guild of Hypnotist Convention

I have been attending this convention (the largest in the world) every year since 1989, and have yearly been included as a presenter since 1991!!! This year I presented the following: a workshop on “Hypnosis for Mind-Body Healing–Finding and Eliminating the Mental and Emotional Drivers of Disease”, and also a seminar on “Pendulum Dowsing or Hypnotists –Powerful Investigative/Healing/Business Tool!” For information on how you can purchase recordings of any of the talks, contact 603-429-9438, or ngh@ngh.net. 

NGH 2018 photo This photo was taken at the Banquet Photo Shoot. You see me wearing a metal indicating that I was inducted into the Order of Braid, named after James Braid. It is a prestigious Lifetime Achievement Award that I received in 2011. 

James Braid was a surgeon from Scotland (1795-1860), who became one of the earliest and most important figures in the field. Some even call him the ‘father of hypnosis’ because he “removed hypnosis from the occult shadows of mesmerism, through his insights into the nature of trance.” (http://www.historyofhypnosis.org/james-braid)

Braid is also responsible for coining the term ‘hypnosis’ after Hypnos, the Greek god of sleep, because hypnotized persons may look as if they are asleep. Later, Braid realized that hypnosis is not sleep but actually very powerful, focused attention. 

I was also a Vendor at the Convention, selling my books: a complete self-hypnosis course and primer on professional hypnotherapy, stop smoking (one version for the layman, and another for the hypnotherapist to help smokers), releasing anger, therapeutic dowsing (an entire pendulum dowsing course geared to locating and clearing stuck energies and practical problem solving), Reiki (3 volumes integrating Reiki, hypnosis, pain management, and the best of mind-body healing), the Infinite Intelligence Process and more. For a full list and description see https://www.roxannelouise.com/all-books-list.html.  It is always gratifying when so many people tell me that my books are very comprehensive, extremely helpful, and some even consider them the best of their kind. Now that is thrilling!!!

Why should Hypnotherapists learn pendulum dowsing?

Pendulum Dowsing locates issues very fast. It allows you to quickly grasp the broader dynamics so you become more comprehensive and effective!

This translates into greater productivity and client satisfaction, and enhanced reputation, more referrals, and greater job satisfaction for you.

Benefits of Dowsing for the Hypnotherapist:

  • Rapidly locate the root cause and other factors involved in any issue even before a client walks in the door!
  • Pinpoint what needs to be addressed before the intake interview! This can guide the intake process itself by knowing what questions to ask!
  • Establish priorities and a treatment plan!
  • Track client acceptability of various hypnotic interventions and proper pacing!
  • Set up a strategy for problem solving of any kind – personal or professional!
  • Clear causative factors or determine a strategy to do so!
  • Determine the client’s subconscious motivation to solve his problem/reach his goal, do his part to help himself!
  • Quickly determine where a client is stuck and use dowsing to clear it!
  • Use for marketing strategies, finding an office, and a host of other practical business matters!
Dowsing whether done using a forked stick, L-rods, bobber or pendulum is a wonderful way to tune into the vast information stored in the unconscious and superconscious mind. While historically been used to locate water, gold and ores, and more recently applied to locating missing persons, pets, objects such as unexploded bombs, it can be used for literally everything INCLUDING every aspect of your client work, business and personal matters.
As a hypnotherapist, I use it extensively to locate and clear stuck energies, both for myself on a regular basis, and for my clients. Stuck energies include mental and emotional issues and upsets that have piled up and make dealing with current issues, staying healthy or healing if you are ill, achieving your goals, and living your life with enthusiasm and abundant vitality much more difficult. So freeing up this energy is vital to all areas of your life. It includes not just the unpleasant memories but also the negative beliefs and judgments about those events that continue to color your world and limit you in multiple ways including resolving it effectively.

How does energy get stuck?

Basically, energy gets stuck when it is unprocessed. Perhaps when an upset occurred, you or your client didn’t know how to deal with it and, therefore, didn’t. Perhaps you were too young. Perhaps you didn’t have the skills, or the awareness of what you were registering on an unconscious level. Perhaps your family, culture or religion taught you to deny and not express your thoughts and the resulting emotions. So you may have stuffed your feelings instead of quickly resolving them thereby avoiding future issues.
On the other hand, even if you had the awareness of the importance of resolving issues and even the therapeutic skills, you may have had neither the time or energy to do so. This frequently happens during a crisis, ill health, or overwhelm. By the time the emergency passes, you may be so busy on catching up on other needed tasks, that you lack any interest in going back to dealing with past unpleasantries.

The Unpleasant Wake-Up Call

As you are aware, unprocessed negative emotions and the non-beneficial thoughts have a way of surfacing as illness, insomnia, nightmares, relationship issues, increasing irritation, explosive bursts of anger, depression, malaise, and problems of all types. Consequently, it is important process them as quickly as possible. However, many times what you think is resolved does not stop the negative repeating pattern. This indicates that you never addressed the root cause or other important factors.

Dowsing can help!

This is where dowsing is profoundly helpful to locate what you missed. Yes,  you can do hypnotic regression work, or unconscious healing modalities, but all are very time consuming and require the assistance of someone else (if it is for yourself). Here is where you can do powerful self-healing as well as cut to the chase with your clients as well.

dowsing cover frontUpcoming SEMINAR at the National Guild of Hypnotists Convention being held in Marlborough, Massachusetts, August 10-12, 2018: 

On Saturday, 8/11 at 2 PM, I will be presenting “Pendulum Dowsing for Hypnotists–Powerful Investigative/Healing/Business Tool”. Here, not only will I outline the benefits, but give you a demonstration, answer your questions, and, hopefully, motivate you to learn this incredible helpful tool!

For more information see https://new.ngh.net/seminars-workshops-glance/

 

 

On Being Acknowledged

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Educator of the Year Award

At the June, 2018 American Society of Dowsers Convention held in New Paltz, New York, I was honored with the Educator of the Year Award.

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This is not the first time I have been given a National Award. I have five from hypnosis organizations (the list is here). And while I regularly teach at national and regional dowsing conferences, run Central Virginia Dowsers, monthly Dowsing Support Teleconference Calls, and have written 9 books and over 118 articles on hypnosis, dowsing, self help, mind-body healing, etc, NONETHELESS it means a great deal to be recognized, not just for me, but for anyone.

The importance of recognition

Being seen, heard, appreciated, publicly acknowledged for whatever contribution we make in life is one of the best gifts we can receive and give to another. Many people go through life feeling invisible, and that their work, loyalty, dependability, kindness and consideration, their going the ‘extra mile’ are taken for granted. That is devastating to the human spirit, causing resentment, bitterness, anger or great sadness. Worse, it causes people to sometimes give up instead of continuing to do their work. The world suffers then as a result.

It doesn’t matter if that work is Mom reliably making your meals, washing your clothes, getting you to school on time. Or it is someone that opens the store every day on time, comes and feeds your animals so you can go away, takes you to the airport, does favors large or small, or fills in the countless gaps where we need and count upon others to help us. Everyone needs to be acknowledged for what they do.

How wonderful if we each could notice and thank others – not just with a superfluous ‘thank you’, but by gripping of the person’s hands, looking them in the eyes, and really conveying genuine appreciation. Let them feel your heart. Being seen and heard and appreciated are vital to the human spirit. Indeed, it is vital for health and life itself. Feeling valued, feeling that we are important, and an integral part of the group is the glue that holds all meaningful relationships together — families, friendships, neighborhoods, communities, businesses, organizations and more. 

Recognition does not mean giving a trophy to every participant, or an award where there was no meaningful effort. Such plaques are empty, even insulting. But it does mean  acknowledging in appropriate ways for the degree of service that is provided or effort made. The best award is one in which others agree that ‘you deserved it’ and can celebrate with you for a job well done. Yet, even small acts of kindness, good manners or common civility should be acknowledged. Someone who has just opened the door for you deserves to be looked in the face when saying ‘thank you‘. Shake the hand of the person who has carried your groceries or loaded your car. Because…

Gratitude blesses the giver as well as the receiver. 

And as to the person who receives the acknowledgment, it is a testament to their rising to the occasion whether there was rain or snow, whether they were tired or having a bad day themselves, whether it was difficult or not. They showed up that day and the next, and the next, to do their part. They noticed a need and fulfilled it. They stepped up to the plate. Yet…

Each of us stands on the shoulders of those that have gone before.

Awards not only honor those that receive them, but to the countless others who taught , mentored or coached them in developing character, discipline, responsibility, skills and expertise, and most important, humanity.

Behind every successful person are dozens of others that helped them along the way.

There is a saying that ‘behind every successful man is a woman’. But in truth, each of us is the person we are today because of others teaching, guiding, inspiring, supporting, and believing in us. No one achieves anything on their own. And in thanking that person, you are also thanking their parents and elders, their teachers, their pastor, their supporters and heroes.

This awareness helps to balance the ego. Yes, the one recognized can be rightfully proud of their achievements and what it took to get there. They can and should honor their own personal dedication and decision to be of service in any way they could, large or small. And at the same time, they should turn around to thank those who made it possible.

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So, in addition to countless others who have helped me including my spiritual team, I want to thank my father, William Erwin Wackenhuth, for what I have achieved and the person I am still in process of becoming. He was a man who dropped out of high school at 16 to go to work as a draftsman. Yet he finished Newark’s Arts High School, then college at Newark College of Engineering and all but the final part of his Master’s Degree, all by going nights and walking miles each day just to save the trolley car fare.

He was a highly intelligent man, lifelong mechanical engineer, inventor, teacher at General Motors, ham radio operator, Sunday school teacher, devoted son, brother, husband and father. He was a Christian who lived by an examined (not blind) faith, and a man of enormous integrity, and dedication to his family. As many have said of him, ‘they broke the mold’ after he died. Yet, I see his legacy being passed on through my son. And I witness others who also were molded by men and women of strong character that are making an impact in their world. It is my hope that these traits become dominant in the American people once more.

 

Blessings in Disguise

All of us can probably think of things like romances, houses, jobs, relocations and more that seemed great at the beginning, but then proved not so great. Maybe even after the luster wore off, we may have hung in there because of our investment in time and money, or not wanting to ‘rock the boat’,  security, or because ‘the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t know.’ Perhaps we tried to hang on because of embarrassment, or not wanting to admit that we were wrong or made a mistake.

We probably also know of those sudden change of fortune — breakups, job or business losses, disappointments or rejections — that seemed to be so horrible at the time, but which led eventually to something much better, and to much needed growth. 

We never know how things will turn out

There is an oft told Sufi story about a farmer whose son found a wild horse. “How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed, “that your son has this new horse!” “Maybe yes, and maybe no,” said the farmer.

Then the son as he was ‘breaking’ this horse, was thrown off it’s back and broke his leg. “How awful,” said the neighbors, “that your son broke his leg.” Again, the farmer replied, “Maybe yes, and maybe no.” 

Then war came to the region and all the young men in the village were rounded up to go into battle. “How wonderful,” said the neighbors, “that your son doesn’t have to go to war.” And once again, the farmer replied, “Maybe yes, and maybe no.” 

A true story

My friend, Nelson was told by his boss on a Friday to take his department of 40 people out to lunch and deliver the bad news that because of the Japanese buyout of their firm, that the entire department was being let go.

So after lunch, the security guards walked everyone back to their desk to pick up a 2-week severance check and their personal items before being escorted out the door.

On Friday, they were all in shock and thinking it was something terrible that just happened to them. But on Tuesday, all those not dismissed were dead because they worked on the very floor of one of the Twin Towers in Lower Manhattan where one of the planes came through. The date was 9/11.

Sometimes what looks like the worst thing that could have happened to you turns out to be the best thing that could have happened!

 

Perhaps we can acknowledge that the job, business, home or relationship we lost had it’s downsides. There may have been things about it that we didn’t like, that we barely tolerated, that were highly stressful, that hemmed us in, that limited our ability to grow or explore as we grew. We may recognize that what we had and once wanted was no longer so, and that we were moving, or about to move, or needed to move in a different direction. 

Sometimes, what we lost might have been okay or even good while it lasted, but sudden events caused us to move on to something that was even better and more fulfilling. It might have opened up many new experiences, and to explore other parts of ourselves in wonderful ways that otherwise would not have happened.

Another true story

A couple living in California lost their home and all of their possessions in one of the wild fires that came through their canyon. Totally stressed and not knowing what to do next, they left their jobs, and decided to take six months off while they considered their options.

Deciding to buy and move into a small RV, they started wandering the many national parks. They enjoyed it so much that they started writing a blog, and then went on the speaking circuit to motorhome enthusiasts discussing various aspects of living in a motorhome full time, nice places to visits, and how to make money on the road. It became their new livelihood. They were very happy in their new life and considered the house fire a blessing.

I followed them for a few years while I was doing a small bit of the same after a divorce. 

And another true story

A friend of mine in Ohio was woken up by her cat who would just not let her spend a minute more in bed. As she came into consciousness, she smelled smoke. And indeed, the house was on fire. Both she and the cat got out safely. Luckily, the kids had already gone to school and her husband was at work.

The back of this 19th century farm house burnt down. But the rest of the entire house and all the possessions were either soaked and destroyed from water from the firemen’s hoses, or saturated with smoke. All the clothes, rugs, upholstery, and many other belongings had to be trashed. 

The family had a trailer brought onto the property as they too decided what to do next. They knew that they wanted to stay there and rebuild as they had friends and roots. But how to rebuild? 

My friend gave everyone a sheet of paper. She, her husband and each of the three kids all wrote out their wish list for a ‘dream house’, ideal bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, etc.

Knowing their budget from the insurance, they devised plans on the most important wish list items. The kids got their own bedrooms, and a bath with double sinks and a shower. My friend got a large working area of the kitchen with a large center island open to a dining area of the kitchen big enough for company. She wanted and got a sewing room. Her husband got a comfortable t.v. room and a recliner. 

In short, they end up with a wonderful, beautiful, totally renovated and updated ‘new’ house, along with new clothes, new furniture that they couldn’t have afforded ANY OTHER WAY!

My story

More than two decades ago, I was praying to fulfill my purpose or mission in life. Immediately, my marriage fell apart. One day my husband said that he didn’t know if he wanted to be married anymore. I was devastated. Yes, I knew we had problems, but I am one that hangs in there always hoping that things will improve even though I was also not satisfied in the relationship. 

Soon after I had a dream about a dilapidated but once beautiful house. It needed tons of work – work that was daunting. Everything had to be renovated even though the house ‘bones’ were good. I was so discouraged and not sure that I was really wanted to go through what it would require to be beautiful again. It could be better for sure, but was it going to be worth it?  Would enough get done so that I would be happy with it?

Then I found out that he was being unfaithful. That was the final straw and was the one thing that would allow me permission to file for divorce. Indeed, it pushed me to do so and move on with my life. And it turned out to be the best possible thing that could have happened. Today, I am grateful for his bad behavior, because it freed me from a toxic situation full of constant lies and distrust. 

Conclusion

While like the Sufi farmer, we may not know where life is leading us when hit with what appears to be a sudden loss of good fortune. But we can make a decision that we are going to learn from and grow through it. And that one way or another, we are going to make these sudden changes work for us – even bless us and others.

As I have written about in previous blog articles, you might ask:

  • If it could work, how might it work?
  • If something good can come out of this, what might that be?
  • How can I turn this into an opportunity? 
  • How can I grow through this experience?
  • What can I learn from this that not only helps me, but helps someone else?

In short:

  • How can I turn this into a blessing?

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Copyright 6/2018 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

 

 

 

Central Virginia Dowsers Newsletter 6/5/18

 

CONTENTS:

1. Free Central Virginia Dowsers MEETING in Charlottesville, Sunday, June 10 from 1:15-4 PM. Video with Sandi McKenzie:  “Reactivating Ancient Sites”

2.  Free Dowsing Support & Continuing Education Teleconference, Tuesday, June 12, 8 PM Eastern.  “Increasing Dowsing Accuracy with Verifiable Dowsing Projects”. Recording avaIlable to members afterwards at dowsers.org.

3. American Society of Dowsers Conference, June 13-17, New Paltz, New York

Video and audio recordings avaIlable for purchase of seminars but not workshops afterwards. Contact www.dowsers.org.

4. West Coast Dowsers Conference, June 29-July 3, Santa Cruz, California

Video and/or audio recordings avaIlable for purchase of seminars but not workshops afterwards. Contact http://www.dowserswestcoast.org/about-us.html

5. Facebook Dowsing Sites: while there are other private groups, these are all public that you can at least read freely. Some have an admin. who needs to approve what is posted, however. Lots of interesting information.

The American Society of Dowsers, Inc. Discussion Group 

Dowsers West Coast 

Central Virginia Dowsers 

Global Dowsing Hub 

Dowsing: The Rod and Pendulum

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1. Central Virginia Dowsers MEETING in Charlottesville, Sunday, June 10  from 1:15-4 PM.  

 LOCATION: Senior Center, 491 Hillsdale Drive at the corner of Greenbriar (Rt. 29 Northbound), Charlottesville VA 22901. 

Video with Sandi McKenzie:  “Reactivating Ancient Sites”.

This talk was presented at the American Society of Dowsers Conference in 2015, and is extremely interesting. She shows photos of multiple locations with the energy coming off the stones as clearly visible. Sandi lives most of the year in England, making access to trips to European sacred sights such as that to Bosnia as shown here, much easier. She summers in New Hampshire. Sandi also likes to try out interesting dowsing tools, and I will bring mine that I purchased from her in a fall meeting for ‘show and tell’.

While Roxanne is leaving early for ASD Conference, Nicholas Finck aided by his wife, Elizabeth Gaines, will be conducting the meeting.

This is our last meeting until fall. Then September 9, October 14 and November 11 (no December meeting)

PLEASE LIKE OUR FACEBOOK PAGE Central Virginia Dowsers 

2. American Society of Dowsers hosts Dowsing Support & Continuing Education Teleconference, each second Tuesday of the month at 8 PM Eastern. The next is June 12. Free and open to all to listen in. However, only members can listen the recording after that date. The panelists that include Greg Storozuk, and Roxanne Louise. 

The opening topic is “Increasing Dowsing Accuracy with Verifiable Dowsing Projects” followed by whatever Greg or Roxanne want to talk about.

This will be followed by addressing your questions on any area of dowsing.

Dial 641-715-0873 and then enter 335033# at the prompt.

It is helpful if you email your dowsing questions in advance to roxannelouise@verizon.net and put ‘dowsing’ in subject line.

GREG STOROZUK has been a full-time professional dowser for over 30 years. He has served as president of the American Society of Dowsers and is founder of the Mile High Dowsers Chapter based in Denver. In addition to working for commercial clients, Greg uses dowsing to locate toxic energy grids, to rid houses of ghosts, for entity clearings and, of course, to locate water. In addition to teaching dowsing courses from California to Maine and in Canada, Greg has written numerous articles, booklets and reports, and given lectures and demonstrations. 

His four booklets for beginning dowsers: “Asking Questions,” “Geopathic Zones and the Iron Stake Method,” “Getting Started,” and “How To Dowse a Water Well” are considered classics in the dowsing field. Check out this article on him. You will find more on him on the web.

ROXANNE LOUISE acts as Facilitator for the Dowsing Support calls. In addition to being a dowser specializing in mental/emotional healing, mind-body issues, habit change, and general problem solving, she is a hypnotherapist who has received 5 national awards including a lifetime achievement from the largest hypnosis organization in the world. She speaks at several hypnosis and dowsing conferences yearly, and has written 8 books on hypnosis, dowsing, Reiki, and self-help. She runs Central Virginia Dowsers based in Charlottesville. Her website is www.RoxanneLouise.com. Her blog with over 118 articles on dowsing, mind-body connection, stress/anger management, and more is UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com. You can reach her at 434-263-4337. 

She is teaching again both at ASD Conference in New Paltz starting with her all day workshop on 6/13 “Locating & Clearing the Mental/Emotional Drivers of Disease” and “Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing”on July 3 in Santa Cruz West Coast Dowsing Conference.

SUGGESTIONS/COMMENTS? – If you have questions, or would like a topic covered in upcoming calls or future local meetings, please send your suggestions to RoxanneLouise@verizon.net. Put ‘dowsing’ in the subject line.

What if illness was a choice?

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TO BE OR NOT TO BE — SICK 

Putting forth the premise that illness is a choice may sound harsh. But think about it this way:

Long before you got sick, you were entrenched for years in hundreds of little habits–habits of eating, exercise, work, lifestyle, smoking, drinking, and habits of how you handled stress, conflict and negative emotions. Even your thinking has been largely a matter of habit. And because thoughts determine emotions, which in turn create different biological chemicals in your body, emotional states and body chemistry are the results of thoughts, beliefs, judgements, and habits of mind. And that involves choice – both conscious and unconscious.

Regardless of what habits or beliefs were installed in childhood by family or culture, upon reaching adulthood, it becomes a choice to continue those habits and to hold those beliefs without question, or not. It comes down to whether they work for you or whether negative consequences appear that call for change.

Choices become habits, and habits create destiny

All habits come about through little decisions made again and again, perhaps multiple times daily until they become an automatic program that starts to run your life. Allowing thoughts to continually be held in mind is a choice, and this choice then becomes part of your attitude and personality [see work of biologist Bruce Lipton, Ph.D.]. 

Further, your beliefs, judgments, and interpretations of events and experiences collect evidence to prove you right. Left unchallenged (a choice), they will either attract more similar experiences or you will tend to feel and react as if they were similar even though they were not.

These mental habits will guarantee what emotional and physical consequences you experience both immediate and long term including illness. For example, if you interpret a situation as ‘this is scary’, you will activate the stress hormone of cortisol, which shuts off the biological functions of growth, digestion, repair and immune functioning. Whereas if you interpret the very same event as ‘this is exciting’, ‘this is an opportunity’, or ‘what a fun challenge’, your internal chemistry will be very different.

Routinely interpreting what is happening around you as threatening will over time damage your health.  However, you can choose to interpret or judge a situation differently, to react differently. Following a decision to do so, and then practicing over time to retrain your mind, might make the difference you need to heal.

Consequences

So there are consequences to all of your choices and the habits they become. And these consequences include your health, mental and emotional well-being, or lack of same.

However, at the time that the choices were made, you may have been unaware of those consequences or you lived in denial. After all, when you picked up your first cigarette were you really paying attention to the health risks? Did you think that you were invincible? Did you think you could outrun the bullet, and that the health warnings didn’t apply to you? Did you just figure on having just a few, and quitting tomorrow? Were you bargaining, “please, God, just let me have this one ___ (cigarette/drink/ice cream sunday) and then I’ll stop and be good!

Now, years later you may become aware that it has come time to pay the piper. What do you do when you don’t like the negative consequences of your choices? How do you unravel bad habits, bad decisions, limiting beliefs or judgments for which you are now paying dearly?

Making different choices

Healing requires change, and change can be scary.

If a health problem is a result of long standing habits and patterns, healing will always require changing those habits and patterns. The necessary changes may be all pervasive, even drastic, and can be just as scary as the illness itself.  Carolyn Myss in Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can, says that

“many of us are almost as afraid of healing as we are of illness.”2 

Even though a person may be aware of the risks, and their doctor may have recommended dietary, habit or lifestyle changes over the years,

only when there is a clear cause and effect relationship of certain habits and choices with the negative consequences do most people begin to make even the smallest, yet alone the big changes, that may be necessary.

This follows the Law of Inertia, a body at rest tends to stay at rest, and a body in motion tends to stay in motion.

It takes more energy to shift direction than to continue to do what you have always done.

And it will take dedication on a daily basis to overcome the years of negative programming. However, each day you choose to practice new habits, it will gain in power.

How committed are you to heal?

Are you willing to do whatever it takes? And if you aren’t, can we then say that you are choosing to remain sick? Myss asks the following:

“If healing required moving to another part of the country, changing your attitudes toward others and yourself, changing all your physical habits, such as diet and exercise, being alone for a long period of time, or going on a retreat to confront your shadow, experiencing illness as a way of healing mentally, emotionally and spiritually, or losing everything familiar to you — home, spouse, job–would you do it?” 3

John Harrison, MD, in Love Your Disease–It’s Keeping You Healthy says that

Anybody prepared to make fearless decisions in their best interests will avoid all major illness and most minor ones as well.”

Illness provides benefits called secondary gains

There may be positive payoffs to being sick. For example, illness may get you out of a job, activity, situation, relationship, or a responsibility that you hate. It can provide an excuse not to do, or not to go where you don’t want, or to do something that you do, for example, to stay home and watch television. It may provide financial awards, temporary or ongoing income, medical benefits, and time off from work. [See article “Secondary Gain – a Gain from Pain”

Illness may get people off your back. It may provide an excuse, and special considerations or privileges such as handicapped parking. It may allow you to avoid responsibility for yourself or others. It may cast the die–letting the disease or condition make a decision for you when you are too indecisive or weak to do it on your own.

Illness may pull a family or relationship together, or provide a way to check on the feelings of others. It may let others know that you need them, providing them with an important role, and helping them to feel good about themself for helping you. Illness can be a way to get people to come to visit, and to obtain desired attention, emotional assistance, concern, sympathy, demonstrations of caring or love. It can be a way to get people to do things for you, even getting waited on hand and foot as in hospitalization. Finally, a health problem can be a form of self-punishment, a way to atone or pay yourself back for guilty thoughts, feelings, behavior.

Because of all of the above, a person on an unconscious level may choose to become ill, or to do things that make him liable to get sick. Once sick he may obstruct healing, or do all the wrong things such as a diabetic eating sweets, to sabotage getting better. 

As Myss says, 

Illness can…become a powerful way to get attention you might not otherwise receive”, and “as a form of leverage, illness can seem almost attractive.”

Benefits to illness can be secondary or primary to the condition. They can be conscious or unconscious (below the level of awareness). As in which came first, the chicken or the egg, did the person get sick in order to get his needs met? Or did he get sick as a result of bad habits or some other reason, and then notice that there were some payoffs in being ill?

Harrison says that

The person is needy, rather than sick….People get ill to get what they want… People do not get what they want…so they become ill.”5

Basic needs,  such as attention, solitude, caring, must be met one way or the other. And if illness is providing those needs, the person must feel secure in meeting those same needs, just as easily as before, but now in a healthy, constructive way. Otherwise, he will resist getting well, or he will get sick again to get his needs met.

A Wake Up Call + Hope

To break the negative cycle, both the pain of the illness needs to be great enough for the person to be motivated to change, and the person must have hope that making changes will make a positive difference in his health.

Without hope or positive expectancy, why bother to even try?

Harrison further states that

“Disease is both self-created and self-cured…. Illness is the physical and psychological result of unresolved needs, not a malfunction of a machine caused by unknown or external factors….We give ourselves illnesses in order to ‘take care of ourselves’ psychologically.”

Harrison and Stephen Parkhill, author of Answer Cancer, refer to an unspoken contract between doctor and patient that says the following. The doctor, in exchange for money, will remove unpleasant symptoms for the patient without upsetting the patient’s chosen lifestyle or habits, attitudes or feelings, judgments or beliefs. The doctor will participate in the illusion that the patient is a victim and not responsible for either the disease or its removal and return to health. The doctor will take over responsibility for the patient’s health and all decisions relevant to his health care.

Harrison puts it this way:

“I have consulted you to have my need recognized, my suffering validated, my pain removed and my disease retained. In return, I will support you financially and give you status commensurate with the powers I ask you to exercise.”6 

As Harrison further states,

“It’s this need to be taken care of by people more powerful than ourselves that leads us into taking some decisions that are damaging to us in the long term.”

This agreement between doctor and patient may eradicate symptoms, but miss the cure. It has all the dysfunctional psychodynamics of the Victim-Rescuer-Persecutor Triangle7 –the patient being the Victim, the doctor/therapist being the Rescuer, and the disease/condition being the Persecutor. Roles can switch if compliance in the game is unsatisfactory.

Patients need to get out of the game and take back responsibility for their illness, and take back their power to heal. But in doing so, they need to understand the role that not just their physical habits and lifestyle play, but the all important component of their thoughts and emotions.

What emotional states cause illness?

Parkhill believes that ailments in general come from an unconscious need for self-punishment, self-mutilation, or limitation. He also feels that guilt, blame, criticism, fears, such as the fear of abandonment, or the fear of not surviving because essential needs are not well met, play a role.

To his list, I would add that many other emotions and internal conflicts could be involved depending upon the illness and where it is located. German New Medicine outlines a number of emotional shocks that if are not quickly resolved lead to very specific diseases. [See article “German New Medicine & the Mind-Body Connection”]

Louise Hay, author of You Can Heal Your Life, thinks that thoughts of being not good enough, self-hatred or criticism, resentment and guilt are the most destructive to our health. Conversely, she feels that forgiveness, self-acceptance, love and releasing the past are key for healing.

Unraveling Bad Choices and Making Better Ones

Postulating that illness is a choice, even if it is an unconscious one, implies that there is a different choice or choices that could potentially be made that would leading to a different outcome–one of health, vitality, and overall well-being. Once clear about the negative consequences of all of your habits and patterns, you may be motivated to change. This will include making changes in your thinking, beliefs, attitude, how you deal with stress, as well as diet, lifestyle. 

Make a commitment to take positive action. Start with making the most obvious and the most do-able changes, and the changes most likely to make the most difference.

There are many ways of tackling the various mental, emotional and habit components.

  • Self-hypnosis really helps to focus on priorities, increase motivation to do what you need to do, change negative thinking, and to release stress. 

The modalities or techniques listed below are also invaluable in releasing stress, self-sabotage, and healing issues. Dowsing, Emotion Code, Hypnosis, and NLP have the additional benefit of being able to locate the source/s of the problem.

  • Thought Stopping and Switching 
  • Emotional Freedom Technique
  • Emotion Code
  • Tapas Acupressure Technique 
  • Hypnosis
  • Neural Linguistic Programming 
  • Pendulum Dowsing 
  • my own Infinite Intelligence Process8 [see article “Accessing More”] 
  • Through hypnosis or Time Line Therapy you can go back in time to a choice point and make a healthier, more constructive choice that leads to health. I like the unconscious healing modality that I call “Change Decision”9 that taught to me by A.L Ward, but those of other hypnosis mentors such as E. Arthur Winkler or Walter Sichort and his protege James Ramey, who did something similar.
  • Next, you can imagine traveling into the future to a time when the problem has been satisfactorily resolved, find out how that was done, and bring that solution back to the present moment along with the resources to do it. This is called Future Pace, or Crystal Ball, or Magic Wand — all hypnosis and NLP techniques.
  • Or again with hypnosis, you can imagine going into a parallel universe in order to change direction to an alternate reality more of your liking. Go the station platform and change trains.

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FOOTNOTES:

1. First published in 5/2007

2. Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can, page i x.

3. Ibid, page 138-139.

4. John Harrison, M.D., Love Your Disease, page 51

5. page 46-7

6. Love Your Disease, page 59

7. The Victim-Rescuer-Persecutor Triangle is typically seen with alcoholics, drug addicts, gamblers, and many of the chronically ill. The Victim uses his problem to manipulate and control others into taking over responsibility for him, bailing him out of problems, and meeting his emotional and perhaps financial needs. The Rescuer initially feels good to be of help, but later comes to feel as if he, himself, is being victimized by the very person he is trying to help, who has takes on the role of Persecutor. Rescuers are caught in this trap because they do not feel good about themselves unless they are helping those they consider more unfortunate than they. Most people in the helping profession as well as nurses and others in the healing arts start out as Rescuers. Hence, they are vulnerable to being used and abused by others. Awareness helps, but the biggest cure for this is high self-esteem and healthy boundaries.

8. ACCESSING MORE – Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process by Roxanne Louise

9. Change Decision is included in the Visualization Chapter of my book, Your Unlimited Potential, a complete self-hypnosis course and introduction to professional hypnotherapy.

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