Saying Goodbye

Recently I was informed of the death of two more of my high school classmates. While I have not seen most of my classmates for more than 50+ years, it saddened me. To sound hopelessly maudlin, high school was and indeed is for many people a special time of our lives, perhaps more so than college, as we moved through the last gawky caterpillar stage of adolescence to finally emerge at graduation as butterflies flying off in the infinitely different directions of our adulthood. 

Some of us had been together since early childhood to elementary school, junior high and all through high school. We shared a special bond going through all those awkward years together – those years of braces or acne, of unequal growth spurts and hormonal changes. We huddled together to giggle over the cute boys or girls of the opposite sex. We felt an urgent need for acceptance and ‘fitting in’. There was the yearning for a relationship but fear of rejection, the excitement of our first date, the awkwardness of first kiss, the nervousness of waiting for the phone to ring for, hopefully, another date, another kiss and a ‘real’ boyfriend or girlfriend. 

For many of us, high school provided the last bit of stability and continuity in our lives that would soon be lost. Many of us would leave shortly, some for the military, some for colleges far away. Many never returned home except for brief visits to families over holidays. While a few would start full-time employment nearby, or see each other periodically elsewhere, the tight bonds of youth were loosened to allow room for new people and new experiences. We were changing.

Looking back, the saying ‘you can’t go home again’ is very true. The composition of the town changed as our parents moved away after retirement or died. Newcomers moved in to raise their families. Even the few that stayed local during employment mostly moved away later to pursue a warmer climate or lower taxes or to be closer to children or grandchildren who had scattered to the far corners of the country.

As we were sitting in caps and gowns so many years ago out in the football field waiting to receive our diplomas, I was very aware of the bittersweet nature of the moment. We were dispersing out into the world to pursue our individual paths not knowing what was in store, not knowing when or if we would meet again, embarking upon our own ‘great adventure’.

When I now hear about one of us who has died, I wonder what kind of life they had. Were they happy with the way it turned out and how they faced whatever challenges came their way? Was it a life of which they themselves were proud? Did they marry and was it good? Did they have children and grandchildren, and were they close? 

And then I ask these questions of myself. Am I living the life that at the end I can say it was a good life? Did I accomplish what I wanted? Did I leave a positive legacy? Did I touch the lives of others? Did I make a positive difference? And most of all, did my life matter to ANYONE?

To all my remaining classmates of James Caldwell High School, I have not kept in touch with any of you, but I remember you all fondly. You left an indelible mark of upon my soul. I wish you the best of everything life has to offer. Until we meet again…. 

My love. Roxanne 

The Power of Thoughts, Emotions & Politics

Thoughts and emotions are things that can create or destroy, enhance or interfere, make things easier or harder, heal, harm or even kill. The clearer the thought, the more that thought is focused, directed, sustained, and then energized with strong emotion, the greater the impact will be upon both sender and receiver.

When thoughts are directed with love or gratitude, forgiveness and compassion, even to people you dislike or you consider your enemies, you are assisting both friend and foe to show up in the world from their higher nature.

Lynne McTaggert’s Power of Eight intention groups have shown that offering positive intention to another has a powerful blessing for the sender as well. Blessing others blesses you . It also helps your adversaries to heal and stop doing the very things that distress you. The caveat is that it needs to be done repeatedly.

Clinical Psychologist, Dr Ihaleakala Hew Len demonstrated this clearly by applying his practice of Ho’oponopono with the criminally insane at Hawaii State Hospital. Instead of responding with fear or revulsion towards his dangerous patients, he instead directed love, compassion and forgiveness towards them on a continuous basis. As a result, the inmates so improved that the ward was closed in just a few years. Dr. Len accomplished by simply holding his patient’s file while continuously repeating

“I’m sorry, Please forgive me, I love you, Thank you.”

I have modified this as follows for my own use:

I’m sorry.

“I am sorry or whatever is within me, my relatives, progeny or ancestors in this or any other lifetime that caused or contributed to this ____ (illness, condition, state, feeling, tendency, behavior, situation, problem, event, experience or issue).

Please forgive me. 

“Please forgive me. Please forgive all of us.” 

“Divine Creator, please correct any erroneous thoughts in my consciousness and/or our shared consciousness that is responsible in any way.” 

I love you.

“I love that part of you that is a part of me. I recognize that we are all a part of the same consciousness. I may not like what you do, but you are my brother and we are family.”

Thank you 

“Thank you for bringing to my attention what needs to heal within myself.”

“Thank you, divine Creator, for bringing love, healing, harmony and balance into this for the Highest Good of all.” 

“Thank you, Creator, for healing any resonance with the problem within me, and correcting any errors in my consciousness and humanity’s shared consciousness.”

Dr. Len in repeating his mantra was taking responsibility for his patient’s behavior. He considered it his creation and therefore, his responsibility do something about although it was not his fault. But what if we applied this practice or something similar to the unsavory people and events in our lives?

What if we applied this to politics?

It doesn’t matter if you are talking about the politics within families, churches and spiritual circles, subdivisions, professional or civic groups, the office, and of course, politics on a state, national and global level. Egos, desires for power and control, greed, money interests, private agendas, shadow issues, fears, insecurities, and unhealed wounds create conflicts everywhere. Responding to them constructively is not just about taking what you consider appropriate action. For long-term change, it must also include healing yourself of any resonance with the behavior or personality trait of the person you dislike, or the issue, problem or condition that upsets you.

As Physicist, Tom Campbell, has said,

Unless WE change, real, permanent change will not happen. But as we grow and evolve in consciousness, our leaders and systems will reflect that.”

Quantum Entanglement

The theory of Quantum Entanglement within the field of physics explains the effect that one particle can have on another even though separated by huge distances. However, the psychological implications are that individuals have a very real effect on one another  as well. Your thoughts and feelings not only guide your action but also effect mine. Campbell says that the thoughts, emotions, and consciousness of each individual are felt by the whole. Consciousness is made up of thoughts, beliefs, and judgments which generate emotions, mood and behavior. The consciousness of even one person effects others, who in turn effect many more. This works for good or ill. 

There is only one of us here.

Some scientists are saying that we not only effect one another, but that we are the other – we are all one consciousness. The implication of this is that in hating another, I am actually hating a part of myself. The opposite is also true.

Right now, tensions within the US are ratcheting up to remove the sitting President by any means possible. As we get closer to election, I am once again concerned about the extreme level of anger and even hatred so rampant in our society before and after the last one. Unrelenting anger and hatred not only makes real, long term, positive change much, much more unlikely, but it poisons our health, our relationships, and well-being on every level. I know. I personally got ill after the last election, and I am still suffering the painful aftereffects three years later.

There has to be way to be aware without being obsessed, to listen to and possibly consider the other person’s point of view, to create positive change without destroying what is good, of informing/educating others without then transferring your hatred onto them if they do not understand or agree with you. 

Consequently, I am advocating applying the Ho’Oponopono in some fashion to your daily or weekly routine. Look for and address any old wounds that are being triggered by current events. Forgive yourself and recognize your common humanity with others (all of them). 

Copyright 2019 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.                                                                                                                     

Fabulous Manhattan Dowsing Weekend!

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Friday-Saturday, October 18 -19

(Midtown east near Grand Central Terminal)

Small class size for maximum individual attention with Hypnotherapist & Dowser,

Roxanne Louise

Four Classes!

Friday, October 18:

1. REVIEW of June’s Class: “CREATING FLOW”, 5:00-6:00 PM, Free

2. “DEALING WITH DETRIMENTAL ENERGIES”, 6:00 – 9 PM

Saturday, October 19:

3. “ACCESSING MORE!” How to Harness Inner Resources for Problem Solving and Stress Relief with the Infinite Intelligence Process, 10 AM – 4:00 PM

4. “HEAL YOURSELF TO HEAL YOUR WORLD!”, 4:30 – 6 PM

LIMITED SPACE: Enroll with Roxanne by phone or on the donation box at www.RoxanneLouise.com. In comments, identify the class for which you are enrolling. Questions? Call Roxanne below.

CONTACT: 

  • Roxanne Louise: 434-263-4337, Roxanne@RoxanneLouise.com
  • Host: Glendy Yeung, 917-669-2884, glendy@glendyyeung.com

INVESTMENT:

  • Full Weekend of everything: just $265!

Friday Only: 

  • Review of “Creating Flow” Class: Free
  • Dealing with Detrimental Energies: $60 includes handouts and drinks

Saturday Only: Full day: $220 (manual extra) or separately:

  • Accessing More, $220 includes lunch, drinks and snacks. Manual is $24.95 additional.
  • Heal Yourself to Heal Your World, $30 separately, or Free with “Accessing More” Class

BRING TO CLASS:

  • Pendulum or purchase one in class. Any weight with a sharp point on a chain or string will do. 
  • Manual: 117 page manual: ACCESSING MORE , $24.95. Bring or purchase in class.

BIO:

Roxanne Louise is the current President of the American Society of Dowsers. She is a longtime Dowser, Hypnotherapist and Reiki Master, who has presented many times at most national hypnosis conferences throughout the US, as well as ASD and their, West Coast Conference, Southern Dowsing Conference, as well as US Psychotronics. She has taught at several national conventions yearly since 1992. She won seven top national awards in hypnosis including two for Lifetime Achievement and the 2019 Hallmark Hypnotism Award. She received ASD’s “Educator of the Year” and“Special Achievement Award”. She founded and directs Central Virginia Dowsers in Charlottesville, runs two ASD monthly teleconferences. Roxanne is author of ten books on dowsing, hypnosis, Reiki, and self-help. Seewww.RoxanneLouise.com, and her blog at UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com

2. “Dealing with Detrimental Energies”

How to Keep Yourself & Your Space Clear!

Sensing Energy

Have you ever walked into a room that just didn’t feel right and then found out that the occupants had just been arguing? Or you felt uncomfortable in a place for no obvious reason and then found out that it was the site of a tragic event? Perhaps you’ve been around a particular person and felt drained as if someone sucked all the air out of your balloon? Or have you suddenly been bombarded with thoughts or emotions that didn’t seem to be your own? Have you been unable to get a good night sleep in your own bed but have no trouble sleeping elsewhere or vice versa?

In my article, “Picking Up Vibes”, I talk about different kinds of energies – some feel good, and some don’t . Energy has a profound effect upon our health, mood, and overall functioning. So keeping it high is critically important. This class addresses the many types of detrimental energies and what to do about them.

We will discuss:

  • geopathic zones,
  • mental and emotional residue, frequency and imprint from current or previous inhabitants/owners has upon an object or space,
  • psychic cords, traumatic residue, wounds, objects and implants in the body or field,
  • vows and agreements,
  • psychic attack, projection of negative thoughts and emotions,
  • ghosts, entities and inter-dimensional beings, and attachments,
  • mind-control and detrimental radionics,
  • black magic, curses including those that follow you and your relatives through time,
  • elementals and nature spirits,
  • portals, doorways and more!We will go through multiple methods used by dowsers and energy healers throughout the country. A necessary part of this to heal any vulnerability to such detrimental energies or they come back. This class is not intended to train you as an exorcist, but it will assist you to stay out of harm’s way, be proactive in basic self-care, address your own vulnerabilities so that while you may notice detrimental energies, they do not stick to you, and you will know immediate remedies tos take. You will also know when to call for professional assistance instead of trying to tackle something yourself. Roxanne has had training classes on spirit releasement from Rev. Robert E. Detzler, William Baldwin, Irene Hickman, Father Marty Patton, with shorter programs from many others since 1989.

3. Accessing More!

How to Easily & Effectively Harness Inner Resources for Problem Solving and Stress Relief with the

Infinite Intelligence Process

  • What if a part of you already knows everything about you, your challenges and issues, why you are the way you are, and how to help you in a way in which you are really pleased?
  • And what if that same part could be tasked to help you to solve any problem and achieve any goal with grace and ease even while you sleep or go about your day?
  • What if that part could also quickly discharge unnecessary stress, negative beliefs and judgements quickly and effectively any time, any place below the level of conscious awareness?

And what if you could quickly process all the events of the day, the challenges, the upsets,and the nightly news so that you could sleep more peacefully through the night?

Would it be worth your time to come and learn how?

The Infinite Intelligence Process is an easy way to

  • Access unlimited resources and the wisdom within to solve practical problems, relieve stress, and heal from even long-standing issues
  • Assign tasks to your High Self to work behind the scenes to harness those inner resources to find or create the ideal solution even while you sleep or are busy with other things
  • Install a hypnotic or dowsing program that you deliberately trigger with a cue word and set up phrase to resolve and clear the root cause and other factors involved in even long-standing detrimental beliefs and emotions, patterns and issues.
  • Assert your authority as creator and sovereign being to declare what you want to manifest in your life with greater speed, efficiency and ease.

The Infinite Intelligence Process that is a 2-prong modality has been synthesized by Roxanne Louise from traditional hypnosis and dowsing methods with newer, short-cut energy healing techniques to by- pass the limitations of the conscious mind. It circumvents the ego, any internal and external blocks, and inhibiting energies to get the job quickly and painlessly.

It can be combined with the Emotional Freedom Technique, Ho’Oponopono, Emotion Code, Spirit Releasement, Spiritual Committees, and the Law of Attraction. It can be used also for mental, emotional, physical and spiritual healing, releasing guilt and shame and the need for punishment, and clearing blocks and underlying causes behind any issue or problem. It can also be used to clarify and align with the meaning or purpose for your life. It meshes completely with the class “Creating Flow” that Roxanne taught in June, and Roxanne’s book Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing.

The Infinite Intelligence Process is easy to learn, works very fast, can be done anytime, anyplace, and is adaptable by ordinary people to real life issues and situations. Use it yourself daily to make your life easier and less stressful. And teach it to others!

Based on her book, Accessing More, Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self.

 

Bonus Class!

4. Heal Yourself to Heal Your World!

“Before you can help make the world right, you must be made right within.”

John Miller

 

What’s wrong?

It is very easy to compile a lengthly list of what is wrong in the world. Society has traditionally tried to address those wrongs through a top down approach of rules and regulations, and the legal and judicial system. Whether through political movements & elections, or marches, protests, petitions, and ever more rules, regulations, laws enforced by police, court system, prisons, any improvements have historically been temporary and partial. And the hope that the problems will go away by changing the laws or the politicians has been very disappointing all around the globe.

But more laws cannot and has not stopped bad behavior.

People will and have found a way around them. Furthermore, a top down approach makes you dependent upon others to write and execute new laws and enforce them. And if those people are themselves corrupt, new laws, new systems, will not change the underlying evil and abuses. This can make you feel hopeless and powerless, which drains the very energy you need in order to take effective action to stop such abuse. Consequently, the problems continue.

Physicist, Tom Campbell says that

Simply replacing the leaders or the system will not result in real, long-term improvement unless the consciousness of the populace changes. One dictator or set of crooks will be replaced by others until the population no longer supports them.

Unless WE change, real, permanent change will not happen. But as we grow and evolve in consciousness, our leaders and systems will reflect that.

Because as Stephan A. Schwartz says“we are in this matrix of consciousness where all life and all consciousness is interconnected, we cannot really design the solutions” [to world problems unless we recognize that] “working with consciousness is one of the ways we can achieve not only personal well being but social well-being” as well. …there is no greater power than the collective intention of a large group of people. It can change politics. It can change physical reality. It can effect healing….Consciousness is the fundamental we are dealing with…You have the power through your intention to literally alter the circumstances of your physical surroundings…and the structure of reality.”

Come learn some simple ways to get started including how to use your very irritations as a framework for healing both self and the planet of any resonance.

Central Virginia Dowsers Newsletter, 9/3/19

Not just local news!

A lot has happened over the summer. Contents below:

1. Free Meeting in Charlottesville, Sunday, September 8, 491 Hillsdale Ave. 1:15 – 3:30 PM. 

We will listen to a conference audio of Gayla Yates  on “The 3 Secrets to Trustworthy Dowsing” followed by discussion. Then we will look at Susan Fox’s protocol for weather dowsing using prayer. Can we really mitigate the onslaught of major storms? 

2. Free American Society of Dowsers Teleconferences

8 PM Eastern, listen live but members can access the recordings on our Members Page at dowsers.org

Tuesday, September 8: Dowsing Support & Continuing Education. Panel Discussion with Roxanne and prominent dowsers, Leroy and Diane Bull, Bess Cutter, Leedra Yablonsky and Sandi Isgro  on the topic “Why Dowse? How has dowsing changed you and your life?” Dial (646) 876-9923, enter Participant Code# 443-333-280, & press # at next prompt.

Jeanne GerringerTuesday, September 17: Discover Dowsing. Roxanne will interview of Jeanne Gerringer on the topic “An Apple A Day “ – keeping your energy field clear. Dial (646) 876-9923, enter Participant Code# 126-360-394, & press # at next prompt

3. New President, American Society of Dowsers!

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At the June convention held in Plymouth, New Hampshire, CVD’s founder and organizer, Roxanne Louise was made the new President of the American Society of Dowsers! Then at the awards ceremony, she received this Special Recognition Award for her work for the previous year in running two teleconferences/ month, which have been very well received over the past two years. These calls are listened to by our members all over the world, both live and over the internet . Last year Roxanne received “Educator of the Year” Award. This is her second award for dowsing.

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4. Another Award:

Hallmark Hypnotism Award

Later in August, at the National Guild of Hypnotists Convention in Marlborough, Massachusetts (the largest hypnosis organization) , Roxanne also received one of their highest awards, the Hallmark Hypnotism Award for  “a member who carries on the legacy by teaching and sharing knowledge.” They  mentioned I have been at this since 1989 (30 years)! This is Roxanne’s 7th national award in hypnosis, which include two for Lifetime Achievement!Two

Central Virginia Dowsers Meeting in Charlottesville, Sunday, September 8 

Coming back from our summer hiatus, we are holding our first meeting for the fall this Sunday at the Senior Center, 491 Hillsdale Drive (off Greenbrier, which is off of Rt. 29 northbound). Gather at 1:15 for some announcements, with program beginning at 1:30 and ending approximately 3:30 PM, followed by optional instruction in dowsing tools. Free. Led by Roxanne Louise with Nicolas Finck and Elizabeth Gaines. Please RSVP, 434-263-4337 or email.

Two items are on the agenda:

  1. We will listen to the audio presentation of The 3 Secrets to Trustworthy Dowsing” with Gayla Yates given at the West Coast Dowsing Conference in 2014
  2. Followed by information and discussion on weather modification through dowsing & prayer – the protocol by Susan Fox.
Yates, G. 2014.jpegThe 3 Secrets to Trustworthy Dowsing — An experienced dowser automatically steps back from her/his conscious mind so as to not influence dowsing with preconceived opinions, desires, or ideas.  The conscious mind is full of ideas, many of them conflicting and confusing… Have you noticed?   · Nervousness, insecurities, blocks and fears about “correct” dowsing come from your sub-conscious mind.  · Intuitive/wise/trustworthy answers, come via your “high self,” which always operates for the highest good.  · Imagine having direct access to your high self every time you dowse.  · Imagine having total confidence in your dowsing abilities.  · Imagine living your life with inspired certainty!  · This class can enhance your dowsing (and your life!).  Forever.  

Gayla Yates-Gordon began dowsing in 1968.  She is a master Feng Shui shaman, who begins every consultation with dowsing to discover and identify positive and/or noxious Qi (energies) in the environment.  Read her amazing Dowsing Story, MAHA’ULEPU atwww.DowsingWisdom.com.  Gayla is the author of the DVD, Amazing Feng Shui in Action and How to Eliminate Your Clutter with Feng Shui and Dowsing, a CD.  She teaches dowsing and Feng Shui, and is a Feng Shui consultant in North Bay, CA, in person or by Skype.   

Clearing Non-Beneficial Energy Patterns in Your Timeline

Clearing an event of upset by itself does not heal an issue, stop a negative repeating pattern, or solve a problem. Nor does it really eliminate the type of upset you are experiencing. While you may feel better about a current situation, you can still hold the same underlying beliefs and feelings such as that of abandonment, betrayal, not being good enough, etc. Consequently, these unhealed feelings, and the beliefs or judgments underlying them will set up future problems. To really heal, your consciousness across all points in time has to heal.
 
In non-local reality the past, present and future exist simultaneously. Energetic patterns affecting us in this life can have their origin in any one of these realities. Recent scientific studies with both humans and rodents have shown that issues such as specific fears can be carried on the DNA. But we also know that issues of our family members can be picked up in the womb or assimilated after birth from both family and society. The origins of societal beliefs even without considering the possibility that we may have had past lives can go back to the earliest days of mankind.
 
In the hypnosis world, we call the origin of a problem the root cause. Dowsing colleague, Marty Lucas, calls it the inception point, the point of disruption from wholeness. I like Marty’s term is better in that it takes in the broader spiritual dimension spanning centuries.
 
To be complete in any healing work you must change the consciousness responsible for the problem you wish to heal, going back and forward throughout all of time to change the underlying beliefs or judgments whether they started with you or your ancestors. Then the consciousness responsible for all similar subsequent events up to the present moment have to be corrected. Because your consciousness is and has been in setting up future problems of a similar nature, those non-beneficial patterns have to be also healed in your future. And because you bear karmic responsibility for your progeny, clear them as well in all of your lifetimes past, current and future.

Copyright 2019 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.                                                                                                                     

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Mark Your Calendar

On Tuesday, August 13 at 8 PM Eastern time, Roxanne Louise will be joined by Gale West on the American Society of Dowsers Dowsing Support & Continuing Education Teleconference to discuss their own approaches to clearing the timeline. The live call is free. Dial (646) 876-9923, enter Participant Code# 443-333-280, & press # at next prompt.

 

This teleconference series is held every second Tuesday at 8 PM Eastern Time (US). Future 2019 dates are 9/10, 10/8, 11/12, 12/10. Each month Roxanne Louise is joined by 1-2 other dowsers to provide continuing education of interest to most dowsers. Calls are recorded and archived for ASD members. To join, see www.dowsers.org

 

American Society of Dowsers

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Elected as New President!

At the recent 2019 American Society of Dowsers Conference held at Plymouth State University, Plymouth, New Hampshire, Roxanne Louise was elected President of the Society, now in it’s 59 year. And she further received “Outstanding Service Award” for conducting two teleconferences monthly for the Society for the past two years. In Discover Dowsing, Roxanne interviews  one prominent dowser each month on their specialty. Whereas for the Dowsing Support and Continuing Education call, Roxanne picks a topic appropriate for most dowsers, invites a different dowser to come on the call each month and talk about the subject matter. The calls are recorded and available for Members.

Such teleconferences are a popular benefit for members. See www.dowsers.org. 

On Grief and Suffering

32348Years ago I saw the movie Shadowlands – the story of Oxford professor, C. S. Lewis (most known for his children’s book, The Chronicles of Narnia: The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe), and his American Jewish wife, Helen Joy Davidman.

At the point where Lewis has to face that Helen is dying, he realizes how much he loves her. But her illness makes him question his devout Christian faith. How can God allow such suffering? How could God bring him love so late in life only to snatch it away?

If you shut your heart to pain, you shut it to love as well.

Helen responds that you cannot shut down your heart to avoid feeling pain or you will shut down your heart to feeling love as well. She says that the pain that you know will be experienced later IS part of the happiness now. It makes each moment more poignant. You have to be willing to experience it all. You have to keep your heart open.

Helen’s attitude is a recognition that everything is transitory – both our lives and our time together with loved ones. It is a way it is seizing the moment to appreciate everything now especially because we know such moments are finite. And when such time is over if they die before us, we can be comforted in that we had those moments together, that we experienced their love and our friendship and happiness together.

“Carpe diem”: Seize the day

Perhaps in the case of an on-going or painful, terminal illness, knowing that their suffering was ended can also be a comfort.

And then there is the grief of witnessing the suffering of others that we do not know. How could a loving God allow such evil? Why do bad things happen to good people?

Why does suffering exist?

I don’t believe there is an answer to this age-old question although there are theories. In a specific individual case we may have a hunch as to why. Certainly the consciousness of the individual has a lot to do with the personal internalization or how they experience the suffering whether or not it changes the outward situation.

Some think that there is karma – that bad things happen to pay someone back for the bad things they have done in the past. Then guilt plays a part. Guilt always looks for punishment.

But some of my hypnosis colleagues have found that suffering can be part of a soul contract. In other words, that a soul has voluntarily taken on a specific challenge in order to learn something – maybe humility, patience, or compassion for others with similar challenges. There are many people who have credited their childhood poverty, abuse, or trauma as the motivating force to work hard to change things and do something with their life. Some were even be the ones responsible for pulling the family group as a whole out of their dire situation. If learning is the reason for the suffering, speed up the learning process and then ask the universe to be released from the condition.

Maybe the soul has chosen it’s challenges as a way to grow personally. Or maybe the soul has willingly taken on a challenge to help others to grow, to teach them something, or at least, to give them the opportunity to do so. Maybe their suffering is to inspire others to take action and remove or heal the cause of the problem so that others benefit, or to come up with a solution, an invention, a therapy, or legislation to address that problem that brings much needed change or improvement. Maybe it is to teach compassion and give others an opportunity to minister to their needs.

I remember years ago listening to one of the most arrogant, elitist, wealthy man talking about the problems of being a parent to a severely disabled young child. And when I heard it, I thought that his son might be a heaven sent gift to soften and open this father’s heart to love, and teach him compassion for others. Right or not, that was a blessing  that could potentially arise from the situation.

What can you do when you are grieving or suffering in some way?

Deliberately find a way to notice what is still good. Savor the love and friendship that is available. Open your heart to those who come or call. Reconnect. Pull your loved ones and pets close to you. If you don’t have a pet but love animals, get one or volunteer at an animal shelter. As you open your heart to give love in any area possible, you will receive it back abundantly.

Connect with nature and appreciate the natural rhythms and cycles of life. Death is part of that cycle. After every winter comes spring, then summer, fall and winter again. But then spring returns yet another time. Think of the the spring flowers, the young ones, the baby birds and animals just being born. Take time to be with them, to notice and appreciate whatever is around you. Go feed the ducks, hatch some chicks, hug a tree. And I don’t mean to be trite in the face of real suffering, but just focus on being, really being present with any evidence of LIFE in any of its forms, including what may seem to be inanimate like rocks and streams– all of these bring healing.

Look for beauty. Look for any evidence of goodness and joy. Look for evidence of things that have been around much longer than a human’s lifespan, and for evidence of things that die and are reborn.

When my son was born, my neighbor’s daughter just died. So as soon as I was out of the hospital, I went over to her and let her hold my baby. I wanted her to still know that life goes on, and that this new life can be a great comfort. Holding the soft bundle of a newborn melts the heart, and in the melting comes the healing.

Any person for whom you grieve lives on through you not just in your memory, but also in how they touched or changed your life. The love you had for them lives on, and I believe that their love for you does as well. I have personally experienced my whole being filled with love multiple times as my deceased father’s made his presence known. Same thing happened for months with a very special cat. I have had visits from deceased clients, students, colleagues. So I am convinced that the soul lives on independently of my memory of them.

And something of you will live on through friends and family – your legacy to the world of how you made a difference perhaps just in being in the right place at the right time to give encouragement, a helpful perspective, a simple act of kindness. Cherish the good memories. Put up any photos that bring a smile to your face and make you laugh. And if you have them, hug their pillow, their clothes with their smell still on them.

Then connect to the spiritual dimension, the greater cosmos beyond the solar system, the galaxy to an even bigger beyond in all it’s majesty. Go out and watch the sun rise and set. Look up at the stars and visit any awe inspiring vistas where you can gain a higher perspective beyond your day to day life.

And go every day to that place within your soul that is still okay and loves you very much. Remember, know and allow yourself to feel that

you are loved.

 

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