When You Lose Everything

The devastating fires in California that destroyed the entire town of Paradise, and destroyed thousands of homes, businesses and neighborhoods in multiple other locations throughout the state, brings up the question, what do you do when you lose everything–your home, your livelihood, your community, all of your possessions, everything you worked so hard over the years to create, your way of life, and, in some cases, even the lives of your loved ones?

Whether because of storms, natural disasters or war, illness, collapse of the economy or infrastructure, many throughout the world have faced this question. The shock and the grief can be so overwhelming that it can be immobilizing precisely when swift action is required. Such shock can set up more problems including illness later on, but severely impedes the clarity of mind to know how to move forward now and the will to do so.

So what do you do?

The  immediate issues are clear:

  • find and remove yourself and loved ones from immediate danger
  • secure the basic necessities of food, water and shelter
  • gather your family, friends and neighbors around you to hold and support one another
  • find out about community resources
  • organize with others to deal with the immediate emergency
  • salvage what is left and assess what is gone
  • cleanup the debris

But then what?

An important component to moving beyond the devastation, is your interpretation of the events. If you accept it as a force of nature that you could have done nothing to prevent, you will much more easily be able to move on from the loss. But if you blame yourself, that guilt or self-condemnation will drain your energy making responding effectively harder and calling for you to punish yourself further. If you blame someone else, your resulting anger, rage and possible hatred, while mobilizing you to take action, will have a punishing effect upon your health and relationships. And if you wallow in grief, it also will consume you. And then, you may vacillate among all of the above in soup of emotions that is hard to process.

Accepting what cannot be changed helps

Acceptance does not mean that you like the situation. It does mean that you realize that you cannot afford to squander your time, energy or momentum hoping that it is all a bad dream and you will open your eyes and everything is back the way it was. All the tears and wishing it were not so will not change anything. Stay focused.

“Since this has happened, what do I want to do now?

What is my next step?”

You do not need to know the answer. You have only to hold the question in mind and then do something, anything. 

Something helpful is to affirm that you have inner resources and wisdom, creativity and problem solving ability beyond your conscious awareness. You have an internal guidance system, your personal GPS, that gives you hunches, and sets up synchronicities. I believe you have a spiritual guidance system as well. You can relieve stress by turning your predicament over to your internal and spiritual guidance with affirmative statements such as:

“There is a part of me that knows how to ____ and is doing so now.

There is a part of me that knows the next, right step to take and how to proceed. And that part is guiding me now with grace and ease.”

You can as did the character Scarlett O’Hara in Gone With The Wind shake your fist at heaven and make a vow that somehow you will never experience anything like this problem again. I prefer to yell at the beneficial heavenly forces:

“Turn this into a blessing!”

Glass may be half empty, but glass is still half full!

You may think that you have lost everything. But if you are alive, that is not true. Assess what you have left – friends or family, your health or important parts of it, intelligence, skills, creativity, problem solving ability, network of who to call for help, and your very life itself. Maybe you can find a scrap of humor – what we call black or dark humor – that which comes out of the depths of despair. For example, before this happened, did you want to de-clutter? Well, now you have done it! If you were thinking of moving, now you are going to! If you wanted to remodel, well now is the time!

Thomas Edison, inventor of the light bulb, phonograph, and many other things lost over half of the buildings in his West Orange, New Jersey laboratory after an explosion and resultant fire. Damages in 1914 reached seven million dollars, with only two million covered by insurance.

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Edison vowed, “Although I am over 67 years old, I‘ll start all over again tomorrow.”   

When a reporter asked him how he felt, he responded that there was value in a fire in that it lets you start again. Not only that, but in watching the fire, Edison was inspired to create a new invention.

within two days, Edison had also finalized design of a portable searchlight whose three million candlepower beam would be visible for miles. In the midst of the catastrophe, Edison had noticed how the firefighters were hampered by the loss of power and light.  He puzzled over the problem and came up  with the battery driven light source idea and design. At age 67, Edison’s pace of work and inventions had slowed, but they could hardly be described as declining years. Within six months, Edison was demonstrating his latest invention in a nearby park,  attracting curious onlookers who wondered where the bright light was coming from!  The old adage that “every cloud has a silver lining” certainly applies here.”

Many times our lives, job or relationships run the full distance and we reach a place where no more growth can made. It is time that change course. But sometimes we are lazy or stubborn and cling to what is safe known although it is a rut. Cataclysmic events sometimes come along to catapult us out of the rut and into unknown territory where we have no recourse but to reinvent ourselves and begin again. Hidden in the ruins is an opportunity to ask “where my soul want to take me?”

In an earlier blog entitled “Blessings in Disguise”, I provided examples of how a major loss can turn out to be a blessing. They can set us on another path – one that is more fulfilling or allows us to grow.

I am not making light of tragedy, or claiming that growth is the reason behind the loss or the justification for it. Nor am I advocating that you ‘buck up’, adopt a ‘stiff upper lip’ or deny your grief. What I am saying is that the only long-term constructive response to loss is to deliberately look for some good to come out of it, and to work to make it so both for yourself and others.

Focus on where you are going, on solution, to making your life or world better in some way. If you focus on what you had and lost, you will like Lot’s wife in the ancient Biblical story of Sodom and Gomorrah, be consumed.

At every moment, you are creating your life story. What do you want your epitaph to read? 

“Here lies John Doe. He had everything and lost it all. Unable to move on, he became morose, angry and bitter, turning to drink for comfort. He died alone having alienated his remaining friends and family “.

Or ….

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Every challenge calls us to rise up and dig down deep inside to find the strength and courage to take action having no guarantees of success, no assurance that the ground will rise up to greet us as we take those first steps.

Courage is facing the fear and doing what is needed anyway. It is being knocked down and standing up again. We are called to trust that small voice within, and follow its subtle lead. If others have suffered as well, we are called to help. Together we are stronger.

Find a reason

Heroes are born on the front lines precisely because it is hard. Many never rise to the occasion, or they stumble and fall never to get back up. Working to overcome devastating loss is a daily choice assisted by a belief in oneself, or a belief that it is worth the effort.

It the Mama Bear that finds her strength to rescue her cubs, or the fireman that rushes into danger to save others. It is born from a belief that life is worth saving, that it is worth living, that there is much good and beauty in the world. A vision of that better world or a big enough reason mobilizes the will to start again.

Find your reason to rise and then rise again, and gather others around you to support your resolve.

Copyright 11/2018 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

 

 

 

 

 

Healing Meditation

LISTEN HERE: Healing Meditation – 12 minutes

The key to receiving healing energy is to be in a receptive state. This you do by by relaxing, letting go of tension and upsetting emotions such as fear, and to elevate your mind and emotions into a state of gratitude, love, joy, and awe.

Start with taking a few deep breaths. With each exhale intend to let go of any muscular tension, and allow your body to sink into the furniture. 

Next focus on those things for which you are grateful. These can be simple things – food, shelter, a hot shower or a cup of hot tea. Besides feeling grateful for all of those things that you have now, you can also think about those things for which you had in the past providing that the emotion arising from those memories make you feel that you were blessed instead of making you sad. Sadness, guilt and shame drain your energy. And anger, resentment, blame block it. But gratitude, love, joy, humor, and especially awe, increase it.

Image two giant hands cradling your body, supporting you, infusing you with love and life-giving energy. And as these hands lift you up, let all unnecessary stress drain away.

Further information: see our other articles at UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com .

Listen also to Podcast: “Dowsing for Mind-Body Healing”

 

When You Are Triggered…

With todays highly charged politics and a media that panders to fear and sensationalism, it is easy to get triggered. Already stressed out with the pressures of your own life, and overwhelmed with everything you need to do to keep your life afloat, you may find yourself emotionally worked up over someone else’s life or problem because it resonances with something deep inside of yourself.

Because of your own history and sensitivities, you may automatically sympathize with one person, group, issue or cause you think is a victim of injustice, and get violently angry with another you prejudge as aggressor frequently before you know all the facts and even despite the ‘facts’. That is because your emotions are really about you and something similar that has happened to you, your loved ones, ancestors or tribe in this lifetime or the distant past that was never resolved, healed and put to rest. 

Whether you are particularly sensitive to the slightest hint of racial, religious, gender, tribal, national or ethnic prejudice, the trauma and injustice of the past may be hard wired into your DNA. You may have absorbed and taken upon yourself the injustices done to your ancestors long since dead (even generations or centuries dead) as if it happened to you personally.  

A sure hint that the root cause of your upset lies within yourself is when your emotional reaction is excessive to the current situation, when you can’t let it go, when it doesn’t really effect your personal life, and when it happened long ago, perhaps even before you were born.

Every emotional reaction you experience, every evil and type of  injustice that exists today, has occurred before, many times over, and often, many times worse. But because it is occurring again, you suffer much more than perhaps the current situation warrants. If you can heal the prior occasions, your reaction will be only to what is happening now, not added on top of what happened years, generations or lifetimes ago. 

What to do about it

When you are triggered by events whether personal, local, national or global, try to:

  • Identify the issue or type of event. Name it.

List some possibilities on paper. If you know how to dowse, then ask if you have any stuck energies on that issue, and the percentage or the degree to which you do. If you don’t know how to dowse, then quiet your mind, and in meditation start asking some questions. Suggestions are below.

  • What is underneath this upset?
  • Where did it come from?
  • Did it originate with me or with my family, my ancestors, my tribe?.
  • Show me the root cause.
  • What wisdom can I extract from it?
  • What positive things can be gleaned?
  • How can I use this situation to grow, to be a better person?
  • How can I turn it into a blessing for myself or others?
  • How can I look at this situation so it doesn’t bother me nearly as much?
  • What is the big picture here?  

Hold a willingness to look honestly at yourself. Intend to extract some wisdom or value from both the current event and any experiences of a similar nature. That learning can include an understanding the underlying dynamics, why something may have happened, and perhaps an idea to prevent it from happening again or lessen that possibility. It might mean noting that changes need to be made within yourself even if changes are needed within the larger community.

  • Rather than immediately assigning blame of who is wrong and needs to be punished, consider that what you judge may also reflect a quality inside yourself.

Doreen Virtue taught me to say: “I recognize and forgive in myself what irritates me about you.”

This is related to ‘the shadow self explained at length by psychiatrist, Dr. Carl Gustav Jung and author Debbie Ford. The ego avoids self loathing by denying the existence of faults within the self while projecting those same faults onto someone else. There is a theory that when internal faults that are hidden, ignored, or denied, that this will attract people who share these faults as the soul’s attempt to get you to look at yourself. As you admit your own faults and forgive yourself, you will have greater tolerance of others. Even better, as you heal those faults, you will more likely attract others who have likewise worked on healing their own issues.

The ancient Hawaiians had a practice of forgiveness and reconciliation called Ho’oponopono.  This practice was later simplified by Dr. Hew Lin and popularized by Joe Vitale. In the original practice, a shaman and members of the family or community would gather around a person and take responsibility for what had happened to or by that individual, and ask for his forgiveness. While he was a  prison psychiatrist, Dr. Lin would sit with the file folders of various inmates and repeat “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.” This was done over a period of time without actual inmate contact. Yet this simple practice resulted in such improvement in these prisoners that they were later released.

If practicing Ho’oponopono without relaying that information to an individual still has a positive effect upon that person, it may because of quantum entanglement. While the idea taken from physics of quantum entanglement refers to the interaction of particles at a distance, some think that this interaction extends to humans as well – that everyone and everything is somehow intertwined. Is it too far a stretch to think that what happens to you effects me and vice versa, and maybe even what I think and feel effects you and vice versa? If so, then if you want to change the world, start with changing yourself.

However, if you also believe that changes have to be made within the community and it’s systems or the larger systems outside your locale, take some constructive action because it will go a long way to healing your upset.

  • Focus on what you can do of a positive, practical nature locally to start the process. 
  • And, again remember that the changes you would like to see in the world involve making changes within yourself.
  • Meditate or dowse to transmute any trauma or upset you personally suffered recently.
  • Clear any other experiences you remember from your past.
  • 20170516_acc-morecover.jpgHold the intention to clear any other experiences you do not remember whether in this lifetime or another.

You can do this through hypnosis, meditation, the Emotion Code, or the Infinite Intelligence Process that I developed. See my book, Accessing More for instructions on how to do this.   

  • Clear those upsets/issues of a similar nature of your ancestors in this lifetime or another, and that experienced by your tribe.


Again, you can do this through the Infinite Intelligence Process, the Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson, or through dowsing (see my pendulum dowsing manual, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing).

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    efocus on the positive opposite that you would like instead.
  • Finally, take action no matter how small to move towards what you would like to see in the real world.  

Recent Example

Let’s take the high emotional charge attached to the Kavanaugh proceedings. I bring it up only because it was recent and because I found myself being triggered. I will not discuss the politics or merits of either side, but rather illustrate how to take any triggering event to recognize and clear non-beneficial or stuck energies within yourself. This is important because if you are being triggered, you cannot be objective or think clearly,  sleep easily, enjoy peace of mind or anything else until you do heal, transmute, rebalance, or clear it.
There were multiple possible issues here. If you were triggered, you might ask yourself, if you are carrying any unresolved, stuck energies of your own from this or any other lifetime, or if you are carrying those of an ancestor, loved one, or tribe.
Ask the following questions one at a time starting with “have I ever …..?” After you are finished, repeat the same questions with ” have any of my loved ones..?” Next, ask “am I carrying any trauma from my ancestors regarding….?”
  • Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) ever been assaulted or lived in fear of same?
  • Have  ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) suffered sexual abuse, rape, or fear of same?
  • Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) been a victim of violent crime?
  • Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) suffered greatly because of not being believed, but rather ridiculed or punished for speaking up about some wrongdoing?
  • Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) suffered greatly because of not being heard or fear of not being heard because ____ (I ___ am/was), they ____ (are/were) ___ a (man/woman, member of lower standing caste/group/tribe)?
  • Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) ever suffered after being falsely accused of some misdoing, crime or serious violation?
  • Has ____ (my, my loved one’s, ancestor’s) reputation, business, standing in the community been destroyed because of false accusations perhaps through politics or someone else’s dislike or personal agenda? 
  • Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) received threats or  ___ (suffered, been captured, imprisoned, tortured, or killed) because of false accusations?
If so, then in  meditative state, hold the clear intention as follows. If you know how to dowse,  then work with a pendulum to indicate your progress. 
  •  “There is a part of my being that knows what positive learning I can extract from any this experience of ____ that ___ (I/they) have suffered (or was afraid of suffering). Take action now, and let me know when that is done.
  • “There is a part of my Being that knows if I or anyone close to me in this or another incarnation have ever suffered _____ or lived in fear of suffering ____. And that part is extracting the positive learning from each and every one of those experiences so that it is unnecessary to ever experience it again. Take action now, and let me know when that is done.” dowsing cover front
  • There is a part of my Being that can transmute, heal, and clear all trauma attached to each of these experiences that I and my ancestors have had, so that there is no longer any need to attract more of these experiences. Take action now, and let me know when that is done.”
  • Envision the positive opposite in the future as if it already exists. Follow this with powerful affirmations statements while meditating or dowsing.

 

  • There is a part of my Being that knows what is mine to do to create a world where _____(there is trust and mutual respect) and is guiding and motivating me to take appropriate steps now.
  • or “There is a part of my Being that chooses to create a world where _____. And that part is working on it. Take action now, and let me know when that is firmly in process.”
  • “There is a part of my Being that knows who else might benefit from any of the healing we have done today and is reaching out to their High Self to duplicate whatever is useful in the way it is helpful and only helpful. Take action now, and let me know when that is done.”

Copyright 11/2018 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

 

You can dowse!

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Dowsing is the art of quieting the mind and turning inward to deliberately seek very specific information, which while not known consciously is nonetheless available in the vast sea of consciousness in which all information is already known and everyone is connected. 

Sometimes called water witching, rhabdomancy or radiesthesia, it is an natural form of divination to which everyone can learn to develop. The body reacts to the answers of questions asked with subtle body sensations or movements, which are clearer when using tools such as L or Y rods, bobber or pendulum.

Your body already senses and knows things unconsciously 

Perhaps you remember a time when you had strong gut feelings that correctly warned you of potential danger, or encouraged you to take action and proceed. Perhaps you have been somewhere that had strong good or bad vibes without knowing the history or the people of that place. Maybe you walked into a room and felt immediately uncomfortable although you were completely unaware that an argument had just taken place or that the occupants hated one another. 

I remember visiting the home of Jiddu Krishnamurti, an Indian philosopher and writer, in Ojai, California. Now while I was aware that he practiced meditation and wrote books, I knew very little about him. And while I am by nature a serious person, I could not help smiling broadly throughout the site. The house and grounds exuded enormous joy. 

My point is that your body has been sensing things right along, and that inborn ability with training and practice can give you good information upon demand with or without a tool such as an L or Y rod, bobber, pendulum or forked stick. 

Body Dowsing – the Sway Test

The body itself can be used as a dowsing tool. Here’s how.

First drink some water as dowsing works best when you are hydrated. Stand up and separate your feet comfortably apart. Hold an intention of your body moving in a particular direction when the answer to a question that you ask is ‘yes’. Close your eyes. Without being rigid and stiff, but without deliberately moving either, allow your body to show you it’s ‘yes’ response. Internally say “show me ‘yes’ “. Keep repeating until your body moves and note the direction. Then ask your body to indicate the direction for ‘no’. “Show me ‘no’ “ Unless their polarity is reversed, ‘yes’ for most people is indicated by leaning forward, and ‘no’ by leaning backwards. It may be subtle. Practice until it is a clear response.

When you have a distinct direction for each response, then ask simple questions to which you know the ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer. For example, “my name is ___ .” “I live at ____.” From there you can go on to simple other things for which you can verify after dowsing. For example, “how many quarters are in my wallet?” Then ask “how many nickels? “How many dimes?

dowsing cover frontNext, sign up for a dowsing class, read books on it, and look into dowsing chapters or meet-up groups. If you are in the greater Charlottesville, Virginia area, I run a free monthly dowsing group, Central Virginia Dowsers. I have written an entire pendulum dowsing course book, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing. Also, I run two free teleconferences per month through the American Society of Dowsers, and speak at their annual conference as well at other dowsing events.

 

Uses of Dowsing

While dowsing is an ancient practice to find water, oil, ore or minerals such as gold, it can also be applied to health, agriculture, business, relationships, forensics, military, and problem solving of all kinds. It can be used to find missing persons, pets, objects, unexploded bombs, unmarked graves, the best location for a home or office, an effective marketing or business strategy, and the best use of your time, energy and resources. It can be used to develop a comprehensive self-care program. It can locate the root cause of issues or problems and determine the best way to address them. However, like everything else, it requires training and practice to do skillfully. But the benefits are well worth the investment.

 

Central Virginia Dowsers Newsletter 10/3/18

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Contents:

1. Next Central Virginia Dowsers Meeting, Charlottesville, Sunday, October 14 “Dowsing for Lost Objects” with Ginette Matacia Lucas

2. Three Free Monthly Teleconferences sponsored by the American Society of Dowsers – all 8 PM Eastern time

  • Dowsing Support and Continuing Education, October 9 (2nd  Tuesday of the month), Wayne Hoff and Roxanne Louise on “Energy Clearing”

  • Water Dowsing, October 15 (3rd Monday)

  • Discover Dowsing, October 16,(3rd Tuesday), Gladys McCoy, 

3. Recording Available for a limited time: Susan McNeill Spuhler, Dowsing for Missing Persons, Pets and Objects, ASD Discover Dowsing Series.Listen here.

Central Virginia Dowsers Meetings 

  • Held on the 2nd Sunday of the month at 1:15 PM – 3:30 or 4 PM
  • Mark your calendar: October 14, November 11 (no meeting in December)
  • Meetings are free and open to all but we ask you to advise us that you are coming in case of weather or other cancellation. 
  • Location: Senior Center, Charlottesville, VA 22901
  • NOTE that street name has changed from 1180 Pepsi Place to 491 Hillsdale Drive (same building)

October 14 Meeting: ““Dowsing for Missing Objects” with Ginette Matacia Lucas

At about age 7, Ginette Matacia Lucas learned dowsing from her father, Louis Matacia, well known as having taught dowsing to the military and government officials. On a particular day in 1967, Louis was teaching staff members of the US Marine Corps from the Pentagon in his northern Virginia backyard.  General McMasters, his staff, and Marines could not comprehend the process of dowsing until Louis’ two children, Tom and Ginette, came out to show the soldiers that even kids can utilize the “L” rods to dowse for water.

Ginette in later years became a professional dowser and psychic.  She is noted for locating missing persons, such as Chandra Levy in Washington, DC for the FBI and DC Police, Caylee Anthony in Florida, Elaine Piersen in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, and more than 20 others.  She has been interviewed on various TV shows now Youtube like CNN, Nancy Grace, NBC, Fox, etc., on missing persons. Some of her favorite work is on locating missing objects and mysteries.

Ginette works with Psychic Angela Ford, a former Gov. Psychic / Analyst, and Peter Marks an Astrologer, as a team member on her varying projects like Treasure Hunting, Archeological Digs, and missing, etc.  Recently, Ginette was written about in the Huffington Post, Feb. 2018, and a couple of authors, interviewed her for their books on the subject of her near death experiences, and working for the Government. She can be heard on Youtube about various work, along with fun radio shows, i.e., Iheart radio Heidi Hollis of the show “Downunder”, or Gary “Tombstone”Anderson’s radio show. Ginette is presently working on a radio development and program with Iheart radio.

Additionally, Ginette has been written about in the Smithsonian Mag., 1996, by author Jack Hope, about locating 2 missing objects, The Blue Sense, by Dr. Marcello Truzzi (Psychics and Crime), the Washington Post, the California Sun which is an insert to the Los Angeles Times (about a homicide and missing person case).  Her class on missing objects is also being given in DC, for the DC Metro Nov. 4, 2018.

Media links: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=khj6bW3ivCc

 

 

 

 

 

Free American Society of Dowsers Teleconferences –

New Dial-in number for live call: 1-646-876-9923, enter 984-952-3909#. At the next prompt, please just press # again.

All calls are recorded and put online the following day. Look for the archived recording in the Members Only section of www.dowsers.org. 

1.  Dowsing Support & Continuing Education Teleconference, every second Tuesday at 8 PM Eastern Time (US). 

Each month Roxanne Louise assisted by 1-2 other dowsers picks a dowsing topic and then takes questions on any aspect of dowsing. For beginners to advanced.

  • October 9, “Energy Clearing Techniques” with Wayne Hoff
  • November 13, “Why the Devil Won’t My Dowsing Work?” with Keith Smythe
  • December 11, TBA.  

2. Discover Dowsing,   every 3rd Tuesday at 8 PM Eastern Time (US) 

  • October 16, Gladys McCoy
  • November 20, Ginette Matacia Lucas, “Finding Missing Persons and Objects”
  • December 18, Barbara Stone, “Soul Detective Protocol”

 

Memories – True or False

(The topic of Memory is prescient because of Dr. Christine Blasey Ford who is accusing Brett Kavanaugh of sexual abuse 36 years ago. This article was originally written in 2000 and presented since at various hypnosis conferences including the National Guild of Hypnotists. I refer to a wave of lawsuits against therapists implanting false memories especially having to do with sexual abuse back in 1990’s and since. I do not cite later lawsuits beyond the date of publication. )

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What is A False Memory and False Memory Syndrome?

“It’ll Only Take a Moment!”

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How many times have I thought those words to my regret!

It started for me many years ago. In the early days after buying this big house, I put water on the stove for tea while I went downstairs to fetch something. But somehow I got distracted with something there that needed doing. When I returned upstairs, the water had boiled away and the bottom of the metal pot had melted all over the stove. Still not learning the lesson to NEVER leave the room when something is on the stove, I have gone on to burn several meals since although I never again melted another pot. However, my son tells me my late mother melted one or two pots on the stove as well. 

Anyway, yesterday, it was my worker. He removed the chain around the boards on the front wooden gate. It was there to prevent my big Maremma sheep dogs from escaping should they open the latch — a new trick that their mother had just taught them a few days before. “I’ll only be a moment,” he thought as he walked across the driveway to get feed for the farm animals in the garage. So he did not take the mere second of extra time to replace the chain. Quickly, my two big Maremma pups unseen to him, unlatched the gate and took off, and were out of sight by the time he filled up the feed buckets and came back. As a result, I spent an hour and a quarter driving around a 3 mile radius calling for them before I finally found them and got them home. But the results could have been different as these dogs are unfamiliar with trains, traffic, or the acres of woods around. And people do steal valuable, pure breed animals.

How quickly taking a moment to do something or not do something by ignoring or discounting potential negative consequences can have unpleasant or painful results. Whether you get distracted and lose your focus, take your eyes off what you are doing, or turn your back on someone or something, it can bring enormous stress, aggravation, money, and time consuming extra work. It can mean the difference between getting on the plane or not, between owning something, or it being stolen or lost forever. But sometimes the results are even tragic – leaving a child or animal in the car on a hot summer day, for example. A moment can mean the difference between between health and injury, life and death. 

Many years ago, I combined walking my dog with going to the grocery store to buy just a few items. I tied him up outside and went in to do my shopping. When done, I found that someone had stolen my dog. Signs and calling throughout the Boston neighborhood brought no response. Only through great good fortune and timing a couple of weeks later did I happen to again be walking the same route and saw some young people sitting with my dog on the stoop of their apartment building across the wide boulevard. I was lucky to get him back.

Another time, I drove to the train station to pick up my husband. I left the windows open because my teenage son was in the back seat. As the train was late, I got out to wait for my husband on the track. It took just a moment of me being gone for a man to jump into the driver’s seat to try to steal the car. Only my son thinking to hold up his boy scout knife as he addressed the thief made the man flee, and kept my son safe. 

Every day we have to make countless quick decisions to do or not do this or that and how or what instead. Nonetheless, there also has to be awareness of potential negative consequences of those decisions and not discount the downside because “it’ll only take a moment!”

Copyright 9/2018 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

 

 

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