Rearrange the Furniture to Rearrange Your Life

There is great value in moving things around.

I started early. My family moved next to the Seymours when I was three and Mrs. Seymour welcomed me onto her enclosed front porch to play with one or more of her four children. But what I found most fun was not the toys but rearranging the furniture and everything else there. I did this almost every day for several years. God rest her most tolerant soul.

What was I doing?

Rearranging the furniture is about seeing other options or possibilities, trying out new solutions, new relationships between you and the environment. It is not necessarily about making anything prettier, more functional, although it may do that. Beyond the benefits of feng shui or getting rid of clutter, simply moving the furniture and decorations makes you relate differently to the things in your space. And this possibly may support your desire to be different, to change, grow or relate differently to the larger world.

It calls upon and develops your spatial perception, which is the ability to be aware of your relationships with the environment around you and with yourself,  “to situate yourself, move around, orient yourself, make multiple decisions, analyze situations and representations of our surroundings and the relationship our body has with it.” CogniFit)

Changing things around helps to make (or when desiring to make) other changes.

For example, when working with smokers to break their habit, I advise that they change all their routines associated with the unwanted behavior because those routines act as a trigger. So, I suggest that they sit in a different chair than the one in which they used to smoke, eat and take their work breaks away from their smoking haunts, drive a different way to and from work, etc.

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“You associate your outer, familiar world with who you think you are, by remembering yourself in this dimension, this particular time and space.” Your routines and all your sensory reminders, which include your environment, keep you plugged into your old self that is tied to the conditions that you want to change. He says “we remain plugged into this past self by following a highly routine, unconscious set of automatic behaviors. For example, you probably wake up on the same side of the bed, slip into your robe the same way as always, look into the mirror to remember who you are, and shower following an automatic routine. Then you groom yourself to look like everyone expects you to look, and brush your teeth in your usual memorized fashion. You drink coffee out of your favorite mug,” etc.

However, what he doesn’t mention is that should you change where the bed is located, you automatically have to get up differently. Move your favorite chair, and you are now viewing the room from a different perspective. You are changing the flow of energy not just in your space, but in your life.

Change something to change something else.

When ending a relationship, I found getting a hair cut was an appropriate symbolic act to let go of the old. Getting new clothes, a new look was part of the new me, the me separate from being identified as part of a couple, that was going to venture out again. Likewise, moving, going someplace new, traveling to a different culture where people have their own ways of relating to life, helps you to reevaluate your own values, priorities, lifestyle, etc. It is helpful as a separation from the old way of life and what you hope to be the new one. Then there is an old Jewish folk saying:  “Change your location, change your luck.”

But for right now, for those unable or unwilling to move or travel in order to get a fresh perspective, a new take on their life, the immediate, easy solution is just to rearrange the furniture.

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Mistakes, Regrets & Moving On

I was listening to Oprah Winfrey saying that “there are no mistakes because you have a supreme destiny.. There is a supreme moment of destiny, of calling on your life. Your job is to feel that, to hear that, to know that ….Sometimes when you are not listening you get off track…but it’s all leading to the same path. There are no wrong paths.…you learn as much from your losses as you do from your victories.”

When you are overwhelmed with a challenge,

“get still and ask what is the next right move, and from that space, ask what is the next right move, and the next right move…You are not defined by what someone says is a failure for you. Failure is just there to point you in a different direction.”iu-2
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Personally, I have regrets.

I have made lots of mistakes, some really, really stupid, unwise, disastrous, painful, expensive mistakes. Sometimes overconfident of my abilities, I have thrust myself full into relationships, careers, relocations, obligations, purchases, financial matters without really understanding what it would mean–the ramifications of it and whether I was capable not just at that moment to handle it, but whether it would be sustainable and desirable long term.

On the other hand, sometimes reeling from the pain of previous mistakes or regrets, I might have been under confident, and did not take the leap of faith to track down and seize a new opportunity, relationship or experience. Sometimes I didn’t think I was good enough, worthy, capable, and so held back. Or that the carrot dangling in front of me was just a tease and would be snatched away at the last moment causing me more pain at rejection or failure. Sometimes I just needed time to lick my wounds before risking again.
BUT I have learned from all of my mistakes, although, unfortunately, not right away. Some  I made over and over again until it became obvious that I needed to do something different, that it wasn’t a matter of trying harder or tweeking my approach.

The value of your mistakes

Mistakes, failures all teach you a lot. All of the wisdom I gained from my own has gone into helping others. They have caused me to be more empathetic to others, to understand what they are going through, and how they can move out of it. I can now provide the candle of hope for them that there is  life on the other side of even major mistakes precisely because I have been there, done that. And so can you.

As a small child, I sat at the feet of my amazing and wise grandmothers and listened to their stories. By age 4, I decided that above all I wanted to achieve wisdom in my life. However, wisdom comes from experience, and that includes mistakes and failure, and sometimes regrets.

Learning and moving on

My new mantra is “I turn everything into a blessing”. Or sometimes, I just say “how can I turn this into  a blessing?” I look for something I can learn regardless of how I feel or felt about what happened. This means that I get far less stressed or aggravated about new unpleasantries than before. I bounce back faster. As my outside ages, I get better on the inside. And so can you.
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Staying Balanced in Midst of Chaos & Conflict

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Getting Sucked Down the Rabbit Hole

Realizing that I was definitely off center with the intense emotions before and after the 2016 US Presidential Election, I had to regain my equilibrium. I had gotten lost in a litany of distressing events and obsessed with surfing the internet for news to try to understand what was happening and why. As a result, I was vacillating in the emotional sea of worry, upset, depression and gloom.

Reconnecting with My Core

I needed to practice what I preach as a stress management expert. While I think it is imperative to be informed about current events, the forces that are guiding those events, and the big picture of overall trends, there has to be a balance between awareness with detachment and then action if appropriate. A long view of history shows continuous conflicts. Yet mankind has continued and some progress has been made. While there are global and national issues to be addressed, there are also local and personal issues as well. One still has to carry water and chop wood, but being aware of myself as a soul, as a spiritual being and consciousness beyond time and space, helps me immensely. 

Basic Self Care

Balancing the mind and emotions has to start with adequate sleep as the foundation along with wholesome food and exercise. I practice Donna Eden’s 5 minute exercise routine, which helps balance the brain and body so I can think better, raises vitality and gets the body’s energy to flow properly. I also drink Source Energy Medicine (energized water). Besides hydrating the system, it is intended to raise your vibration while it deals with health issues. 

Stress Management

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“From the perspective of my High Self, process and resolve everything I have read and heard on the news and internet today. Keep only what is true, relevant and important, and discard the rest. Release any unnecessary fear or worry so that I can sleep peacefully through the night. Go.”

What is mine to do?

If I am going to pick a battle to fight, an issue to address, and a way of making a difference, I need to prioritize. What is my job to do? Where can I make a difference? Perhaps all that I can do quickly is to make others aware of what is going on. Perhaps I can sign a petition, send an email to appropriate parties. A colleague advocates getting involved in town meetings. And I agree that locally is where most of our power lies. But it comes back to asking where I want to focus my energy.

To help me make better choices, I use another part of the Infinite Intelligence Process, which is to affirm that I already have an inner wisdom that is resourceful and capable of meeting any challenge and making decisions. I start out with “there is a part of me that knows____ and that part is ___.” I let the words sink in without having to consciously know the answers. Rather, I trust that by just saying/thinking it with assurance that some divine wisdom is accessible to me, something is initiated to make it true. In the best sense of the word, it is a statement of faith that activates change on an unconscious level. For example,

“There is a part of my being that knows the best use of my time, energy and resources today. And that part is making that information conscious now in a way that ever more efficiently guides my actions. I am surrounded with whatever I need to use those resources wisely and effectively. I know what to do and how to proceed.”

The Importance of Setting Meaningful Goals

Goal setting is not about having a ‘to do’ list, although specific action designed to move you closer to achieving major goals will be on that list. I am talking about setting goals as objectives that inspire you to achieve things truly meaningful to you. Having meaningful goals helps me to focus my energies in a positive direction and to use my time and energy wisely. However, in between projects, I can get sidetracked just as I was recently. So I need to set new goals as I just finished with my classes and conferences for the year. Without clear objectives and meaningful goals, I can wallow in non-productive rumination and activities. I am reminded of the folk saying

“Idleness is the devil’s playground.”

Looking for the Good

Keeping a keen awareness of all the good, the beautiful and the love that is the world creates balance. I need to hear some good news, and physically connect with people and hug them. This helps me to maintain hope and keep my concern about the bad things happening and worry about the future in check.

Years ago when I was going through separation and a divorce, I would ask people to tell me a joke. I really needed to laugh. And as they rattled through a joke or two, I did laugh. Then as I retold that joke to the next person, I laughed again. They laughed, and we all built up a repertoire that kept our spirits bouncing despite whatever challenges any of us were facing.

Random Acts of Kindness

Probably the fastest way to feel better and get out of your own head and put your problems aside for a while is to do something for someone else. It always helps me and just feels good to help others. I think I am sometimes the guardian angel for all those turtles trying to cross the road. So on my list of things to regularly do to keep myself grounded and centered, I am going to deliberately look for more ways to help somebody else.

Count Your Blessings

While I periodically count my blessings, I now commit to make it an essential part of my daily routine. Some people already do this as part of their evening prayers, or when offering a prayer before a meal. When stressed, it helps to remember that regardless of what is upsetting me or might happen in the future, for today I have a roof over my head, food to eat, running water and electricity. For today, I have many blessings. Then I just do what I can for that day. Planning helps. Action helps. Worry doesn’t.

Write a Letter of Appreciation

Recently, I came across the name of Martin Seligman, psychologist, former president of the American Psychological Association, author of the classic books Learned Optimism and Authentic Happiness, and founder of the Positive Psychology movement. He advocates writing a letter of appreciation to someone who has touched your life. This is not a new idea, but a very powerful one. I can tell you for myself, that receiving a sincere compliment or heartfelt thank you totally makes your day. And especially if it is written down where you can reread it, the message touches your heart again and again. Such a letter blesses the author as well as the receiver.

Gratitude

Seligman also recommends that you practice daily remembering  Three Good Things, also called the Three Blessings. Basically, in the evening, you write down three good things that happened that day. But this is more than a simple inventory of things for which you are grateful. He asks you to think of why that happened, or what traits about yourself allowed you to appreciate or enjoy those things. Thinking of good things increases your well-being and lifts depression. But thinking of what you did, or what it was that allowed you to notice or appreciate those things, makes you will recognize that you have the ability to bring happiness to yourself and others.  

“Go to where the problem isn’t.” 

I remember the quote above by Deepak Chopra. Deliberately move yourself physically or at least mentally to a place devoid of the problem. This is the point of a vacation. But at home, you might take yourself for a walk. Or just look around and focus on any good thing you see. It might a squirrel going after nuts, or a pair of them chasing one another up a tree. It could be the mist coming up off the low ground, or a brilliance of the fall leaves, or playing with your pets or children. I know someone who regularly buys flowers. Staring at a bouquet can be a meditation in itself. For me, I might just hang out with the piggies or the new born bunnies.

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Spend a moment of ABSOLUTE ATTENTION on something/anything else.

Break the pattern. Distract the mind. Do something fun or interesting.

Maybe you visit a friend or loved one or do something fun. Comedies help as does reading an interesting book, doing meditation, having a hot bath, or getting bodywork. I know someone who bounces on a trampoline. My son surfs. Skiing, mountain climbing, tennis and other sports force you to be totally focused in the moment. 

But wherever you are, day or night, there is some place you can go to at least in your mind. Think of any place or anyone that makes you feel good. Do you have photos handy? Are they hung up where you see them regularly? Take a moment to stare at the photo, and get in touch with the love that is there, the happy memory as if it is happening all over again.

 Use Music

Music is an instant state changer so keep handy both calming music and happy, upbeat ones to help you. The power of this is that when you go back to addressing issues, you are re-energized, able to make better decisions, and more effective action.

Celebrate

Lastly, life is about celebration and sharing of life with one another. Sing, dance, have a party. Or as a Yiddish toast goes, L’Chaim, which means:

TO LIFE! 

If you think I can help you, here is my offer of  a free 30 minute phone session during the Months of December and January on any question relevant to hypnosis, stress management, mind-body healing, Reiki or dowsing. Call 434-263-4337.

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Hypnosis Conference Starts 11/4

I am off to teach at the NATIONAL ASSOCIATION OF TRANSPERSONAL THERAPISTS to be held at the Barclay Hotel, Virginia Beach, Virginia! The conference starts Friday, November 4 and goes through Sunday, November 6 with additional classes continuing through next week.  I am teaching:
  • “Hypnosis for Cancer and Other Diseases: Make a Powerful Healing Difference!”
  • “Teaching Self-Help Classesthe #1 way to build and expand your business!”
  • “Hypnosis for Soul Healing”
  • “Hypnosis for Personal Empowerment”

For more information, see the brochure here or contact the National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists or call 800-296-6463.

Business Models

Finding a business model that feels right to you

Today, one after another blog, podcast, newsletter that arrive at my inbox all vie for my business by proclaiming that they know best how I can make a 6 and 7 figure income as an entrepreneur even in the healing/helping/coaching business, and that this is why I (and therefore you) should listen to them. This approach to business, particularly in my profession really turns me off.

While a business cannot survive unless it does make a profit,  and everyone is entitled to be compensated fairly for their knowledge, skills, time and energy, I feel that the emphasis/focus of a business model especially in the healing/helping/coaching world but also in other businesses as well cannot be primarily about making money first. Money is NOT the real measure of success. Value to customers and their loyalty and repeat business that results from this is. Quality of life that you help to create for both yourself and others is. Mental/emotional and spiritual growth and healing is. Loving, supportive relationships and connection to the larger community is.

Everywhere in the corporate world we see the destruction that focusing on money over the long-term value and genuine well being of people is causing. And it is a part of the service to self mindset rather than service to others that is ultimately detrimental and unsatisfying even to the very self that has spent its life pursuing profit.

I think that it’s time to change the business paradigm.

My belief is that if the focus is instead on being of service, making the world a better place, creating something that will really improve the lives of others, whether through a healing intervention, a business, product, new modality or invention, this will bring the customers, sales, and good will that can lead to a viable business with long-term loyalty and repeat income. I think that it will also bring investors who want to be part of a business that is focused first on doing good in the world.

Perhaps this means that funding from some other source may need to be an initial and maybe ongoing part of the business plan. I am not suggesting that service to others is all that is necessary, nor that success invariably follows from service. And while I am still working on finding the answers for myself in my own business, I am arguing that the focus of a business needs to be first and foremost on service, not profit, even while working on profitability.

After all, most of your time will be spent working. And you will have to live in the world you helped to create through that work. Is it a world you want to live in? Is it one you want your children and grandchildren to live in? Whether you run your own business or work in one owned by someone else, can you and that business really contribute to making a positive difference in your world?

One business role model I like is Gary Craig of emofree.com. While he made money teaching and selling videos of his training, his manual and introductory videos of the Emotional Freedom Technique was put up free on the internet so that it became quickly known, learned and utilized by perhaps millions of people worldwide. Tapping is commonly recognized and practiced everywhere. There is no way he would have had that global impact if he was charging big bucks for his training.

To me at this stage in my life it is more important to leave a legacy as Gary has. If you really want to make rapid, positive change in the world, doing a portion of it free or low cost is the quickest way to go. Get the information out there.

Another example of a business model I can follow is that of George Kao. George now puts his best information free of charge on the internet, but charges for private clients and a subscription for small groups. I recommend his video of his latest newsletter here outlining his philosophy. George says “If I had one year left to live, what are the most important lessons I would teach?”

Another role model is Stephen Pollitt of Source Energy Medicine. Stephen charges a modest amount for live training, his book, and private consultations. But again you can learn and download most everything you need online free of charge or by donation to use his system that turns good quality water into medicine. Yet in giving so generously, he draws hundreds of people to his training. Stephen feels that in helping others he is really helping himself.

There are also many internet sites that do the same. The content rich but free information creates an audience that then may become private clients, come to paid events, buy books and other products. Want to get people to trust you? Give something of real value at fair or low cost or even free.

Even if you make a product that must cover research, labor and material costs, how can you make it affordable to the general population? Can you make it so it has real value, perhaps lasting much longer, being more reliable than that of the competition?

At the end of the day, each of us has to feel good about what we did with our life. That includes what we did for a living and how we did it. I want first of all to leave a legacy and succeed at making a powerful, positive difference in the world. How about you? What kind of business model is both good for you and your customers?

Teaching at NATH Conference

The National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapy Conference takes place at the Barclay Hotel in Virginia Beach, Virginia this November 4-10. Once again as I have done since their inception in 1995, I will be presenting. Call to register, 800-296-6463. Here are the topics:

“Hypnosis for Cancer and Other Diseases: Make a Powerful Healing Difference!”

Friday, November 4 from 9-11:30 AM. 

Most major diseases such as cancer, diabetes, heart disease, and a host of chronic diseases come about after a long period of stress, bad habits, unbalanced lifestyle, overall abuse or neglect of one’s health or needs—all things not addressed by allopathic medicine. Regardless of undergoing any needed surgery, medical treatment or drug protocol, longterm healing also requires addressing what weakened or overloaded the system in the first place.

Dealing with stress, both current stressors and past unresolved emotional trauma, is always indicated because it is stress that robs vital energy needed for the body’s defense and healthy cell regeneration and repair. Here, Hypnotherapists are the experts and can be a vital part of a well rounded treatment protocol.

During this workshop, you will learn multiple ways of becoming a powerful asset in your client’s healing journey. Expect to leave this workshop much better prepared to help not just cancer patients but those of many other serious health issues as well.

“Hypnosis for Soul Healing”

Saturday, November 5 at 8 AM

Refresh mind, body and spirit with a morning group hypnosis session designed to assist you to tap into your eternal, unlimited self. Whether desiring healing, objectivity, a paradigm shift, internal guidance, Roxanne will guide you into that still, quiet place that allows you to access the More of you than you are consciously aware, More than your incarnational self, to the More some people call your soul, High Self and perhaps beyond to the Source. This loosely guided hypnosis session will allow time for you to process at your own pace and receive the help you personally desire.

“Hypnosis for Personal Empowerment”

Sunday, November 6 at 8 AM

Start your day with a  group hypnosis session designed to assist you to tap into inner resources to get ideas, make creative breakthroughs, or just a clear away psychic debris and stress so that you can better fulfill your dreams. This loosely guided hypnosis session will allow time for you to process at your own pace and receive the help you personally desire.

“Teaching Self-Help Classesthe #1 way to build and expand your business!”

Saturday, November 5 at 2:45 PM

This is the easiest way for new hypnotherapists to internalize information, build a business and perfect their skills. It is also a great way for well established hypnotherapists to expand their client and referral base. Some people will never sign up for a private session, but will take a class, especially if it is easily affordable. And they will, if they like and trust you, refer others to you who will sign up for private sessions. It then becomes free marketing that can go on for years!

I started out teaching Self Hypnosis classes, and later added Healing Anger without Killing Anyone, Tap Your Troubles Away with the Emotional Freedom Technique, Finding True Love, Understanding Illness from the Stress Connection, It’s Not What You’re Eating—It’s What’s Eating You!, Preparing for Childbirth, Stop Smoking, Introduction to Pain Management, and more. You could do something on sports, test taking and study skills, public speaking. The possible topics are endless. It is fun and generates phenomenal energy into your practice. 

Come learn a framework for multiple classes. Whether done live or online, whether in your office, adult center, or community college, they will help you receive customer recognition, and become the expert in your community. Here is a class that will put money into your pocket!

For more information, see the National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists or call 800-296-6463. .

Reiki Clinic Resumes

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If so, you may be interested in receiving a free Reiki treatment . If you already do Reiki, this is a good way to maintain your skills and connect with others that love this modality as much as you do. Yet, the Clinic is open to all with a RSVP at 434-263-4337.

 
Roxanne Louise is resuming the REIKI CLINIC at Unlimited Potential Healing Center located just 20 minutes south of Charlottesville on Rt. 29. However, we are switching to a new schedule.

Our Fall dates are Tuesdays from 1-4 PM: October 25, November 15, and December 13.)

The 1st visit is free, with a donation after that, but always free if you are sharing your healing work (Reiki/ other energy healing or feet or hand massage skills). Other Reiki Masters/Practitioners as well as the general public are welcome. RSVP required as sometimes things happen.
 
If you want instruction or a review in Reiki, call us to discuss (434)263-4337
 
LOCATION: Unlimited Potential is located at 98 Gormes Drive at Rt. 29 Northbound, in Faber 22938, just 20 minutes south of Charlottesville, or 8 miles south of Plank Rd in North Garden, 20 minutes west of Scottsville, 1 mile north of Rt. 6 (Irish Rd and Rt. 29), 10 min. west of Afton, 35 minutes south/east of Waynesboro. We can send more complete directions.
 

Want to know more about Reiki? See the article here. 

 

bc4f2cf86e01c7d1c4f639193a48733f Roxanne Louise has written 3 volumes on Reiki—Path to Transformation. See here.

Roxanne Louise has taught how to integrate Reiki with hypnosis and the best of mind-body healing since 1992 at national hypnosis conventions and also throughout India.

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