Interview with Dowser, Diane Bull

Recently, I interviewed Dowser, frequent presenter and former Trustee of the American Society of Dowsers, Diane Bull, regarding what she thinks is important that new dowsers understand especially on the topic of Ethics and Etiquette. This is the topic that was addressed in the last Dowsing Support and Continuing Education Teleconference Call earlier this month, but for which Diane could not personally participate as she had a previous commitment. Nonetheless, her input is important on this topic. And so I offer it more fully here.

Diane first directed me to the older version of the ASD Preamble upon which concepts the Society was founded. I quote in part: 

“Dowsing is a faculty employed with intent to expand the perceptive abilities of its practitioner beyond three-dimensional limitations. It is a most ancient, varied craft, as ancient and varied as humanity itself. Dowsing has roots, among all manner of peoples, lands, and epochs. There seems to exist an ageless natural knowledge, that enables us to identify ourselves with an unknown source of being and becoming; it is of primary significance, joining Earth, sea, and stars.” [my emphasis]

Spiritual pride is to be avoided by the dowser. Psychic powers, intellectual aptitudes, or physical skills are useless unless applied for the benefit of allThese may properly be expressed only in an increasing awareness of the oneness of all life and in greater love for the whole of humanity….the power generated in and by a group of interested persons is greater by far than the sum of its numbers.”

The primary point is that dowsing is first of all a spiritual connection. It is a receptivity to the source of being that underlies all. And Diane says that dowsing requires a pure heart and an intention of being of service for the highest good. As it is a receiving function, it cannot be pressured. It is helpful to take a deep breath, stop, center, and connect with your own core. She urges us to maintain a childlike wonder at both the process and the answers. 

Dowsing requires a balancing of humility with strength of conviction. When presenting your responses to others, do so as your ‘opinion’.

While new dowsers tend to want to take care of everybody, they need to check first if they should dowse for someone or about a particular topic. Refer out when you get a ‘no‘. You should not feel pressured to dowse for anyone or anything if you feel uncomfortable. Instead, politely decline.

Young dowsers need to rein in their excitement to want to help the whole world until they are ready. If you think that someone needs your help, find a way instead to offer love that is neither marketing nor interfering.

Diane advises seeing everyone as whole and complete, but cautions in changing another person’s energy field, especially if the energy field is already weakened. Clear the energies in the room, not in the people.

There is strength in numbers when people dowse together as it brings in each person’s strengths. Partner dowsing is also helpful. Agree to work together on the etheric level.

Yet each person’s dowsing responses should still be considered ‘opinion’, not fact. Suspend judgment, and accept one another’s differences. Remember that everyone’s truth is only their opinion. Have compassion for others. If you disagree in the group, find a separate venue to present your opinion instead of attacking the person with whom you disagree.

And above all, in all ways do no harm.

Diane lives with her husband and dowser, Leroy Bull, who also has played a prominent part in the American Society of Dowsers. They now reside in Stamford, Connecticut. Both are most skilled in a multitude of dowsing applications.

 

 

Locating & Clearing the Mental & Emotional Drivers of Disease

Chicken or Egg – Which came first?

Both physicians and alternative healing practitioners acknowledge the major role that stress has in breaking down the body’s ability to defend itself against disease. Some such as Dr. Deepak Chopra are particularly insistent that mental and emotional stress plays a part of every health challenge.

While illness causes stress whether through worry, financial expenditures, loss of income while ill, inability to do the things you used to do, time expenditures to figure out and address the problem, etc.,  stress causes or contributes to illness by robbing the body of precious resources such as energy and nutrients to deal with issues that it otherwise would have had for digestion, detoxification, growth, defense and repair.

Sudden emotional shock

Some stress such as the death of a loved one, the loss of one’s home, homeland, livelihood is so devastating that there is a clear connection to physical breakdown.

German oncologist, Dr. Ryke Geerd Hamer, after exhaustive study of 20,000 cancer patients with different kinds of cancer, as well as studying patients with other diseases, found that people with the same diagnosis experienced a similar emotional shock. The results of his work became German New Medicine. His work is extremely interesting and can assist in the resolution of health conditions not addressed any other way. A listing of the emotional shock related to specific diseases is found here. An interesting article an chart of how an emotional shock can lead to cancer is found here.

Slow wearing away of body resources

But while a sudden emotional shock can cause illness, frequently the stress is a slow, steady, cumulative effect of unresolved issues that wear away the body’s resources so that it can no longer muster the strength to protect itself. It may involve beliefs, attitudes, issues, or coping strategies for stress that cause a person to not do what he or she knows to be wise, or to do what he knows to be destructive or risky to health such as smoking.

Genetic factors

While some health issues or vulnerabilities are thought to be genetic, Bruce Lipton, PhD, biologist and author of The Biology of Belief, says that each gene has a dozen or so possible expressions, of which disease may only be one. Rather, Lipton says that it is the environment that determines how a gene will be expressed. And by environment he means how the cell or the individual interprets his environment. For example, is the environment considered dangerous or upsetting? Is it threatening in any way? 

Where do fears come from?

  • Some fears come from direct experience, or more precisely from the interpretation or judgment made about that experience. 
  • Some are promoted by the media
  • Some are adopted from or taught by your culture, family or group with which you closely identify.
  • Some are absorbed in the womb.

For example, if your mother was pregnant with you when your father was away at war, if your parents were young and worried about financially being able to support you, if they were fighting a lot, if your mother was raped or abandoned and going to have to raise you without the love and support of others, these emotions could have been absorbed in the womb. Hypnotic regression has shown this over and over again.

  • Some fears are inherited.

Scientists are now finding that emotions such as fears can be inherited. For example, Scientists at Emory University were able to demonstrate that fear could be deliberately created in a group of mice and then passed down to future generations of offspring. In this study, researchers repeatedly exposed a group of mice to the smell of acetophenone and then subjected them to an electric shock. They then tested two future generations of their offspring and found that they ‘inherited’ a fear response to the smell alone. 

This has implications for humans. As Emory Psychiatry Department Dr Brian Dias has said: “We have begun to explore an underappreciated influence on adult behaviour – ancestral experience before conception.

“From a translational perspective, our results allow us to appreciate how the experiences of a parent, before even conceiving offspring, markedly influence both structure and function in the nervous system of subsequent generations.

“Such a phenomenon may contribute to the etiology and potential intergenerational transmission of risk for neuropsychiatric disorders such as phobias, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder.”

A new field called epigenetics involves studying the biological marking of the DNA as a result of personal experiences. This marking can be passed down through future generations.

In a recent article published by The Telegraph, Marcus Pembrey, professor and paediatric geneticist at University College London, said that the Emory study provided ‘compelling evidence’ for the biological transmission of memory. “It addresses constitutional fearfulness that is highly relevant to phobias, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorders, plus the controversial subject of transmission of the ‘memory’ of ancestral experience down the generations.”

study published in the Journal of Neuroscience used MRI to show that brain patterns inherited from both parents have an impact on anxiety, autism, addiction, dyslexia and other conditions, and that babies born to moms who are depressed during pregnancy are more likely to become depressed as adolescents. New York’s Mount Sinai Hospital discovered that genetic changes stemming from trauma suffered by Holocaust survivors can be passed on to their children.

Before emotion comes experience. And it is the interpretation or judgment about that experience that determines which emotion is felt. For example, the same ski slope can evoke fear in some or exhilaration in others.  It is the interpretations or judgments about the world (safe or scary), about the group (nurtured and protected or not), about the self (worthy or not, loved and wanted or not), that have everything to do with supporting health or disease.  This has been revealed in multiple past life hypnotic regressions.

Hypnotic regression has also found that physical conditions and weaknesses can be carried over from past lives. However, once the relevant traumatic event or events were processed and resolved hypnotically, long-time physical pain or ailments sometimes have melted away.

In Summary

Mental and emotional issues of both the patient and possibly his ancestors, of this lifetime and possibly others, need to be addressed in healing. While a person may know or suspect what stressors are implicated in his illness, a great deal of what caused or contributed to the problem, or is interfering with healing now, may well be unknown or unconscious.

Both hypnosis and dowsing excel in locating and clearing the stuck energies, the related negative beliefs or judgments, and the unhealed trauma (both yours and that of your ancestors). Chiropractor Dr. Bradley Nelson has also developed an excellent method of locating and clearing stuck negative emotions. He calls his system the Emotion Code, and has written a book by that title explaining the process.

3 Summer Workshops Addressing This Subject

At the American Society of Dowsers Conference taking place at the State University of New York (SUNY) in New Paltz, New York, I will be giving a full day Workshop “Locating & Clearing the Mental/Emotional Drivers of Disease” on Wednesday, 6/13. See www.dowsers.org.

Here, we will look at the shocks and internal conflicts that trigger many specific health conditions, the metaphysical meanings of disease, secondary gain, and multiple other ways to dowse out and resolve the major stressors that once complete can free up energy for the body to move back towards health. 

 At the West Coast Dowsers Conference, University of California, Santa Cruz, I will be giving a full day Workshop “Therapeutic Dowsing & Telepathic Healing – Dowsing for Mental & Emotional Issues” on Tuesday, 7/3.  See http://www.dowserswestcoast.org

In this workshop, we will work with a large number of charts and checklists to identify and release stuck energies, extract the positive learning from experiences, and enhance positive energy. This frees up energy that can be applied to physical healing, personal goal achievement, and living your life with greater enthusiasm, joy and vitality.

We will investigate the various ages of your life including the future, key relationships, typical life events, beliefs, judgments, prejudices, addictive thinking, fears and other emotions, repeating negative patterns and habits. While covering all this may seem a formidable task, I will show you a shortcut to cut to the chase of the matter. Not only will you learn how to do all of the above for yourself, but to do so telepathically with others who have requested your assistance.

Lastly, at the National Guild of Hypnotists Convention in Marlborough, Massachusetts, August 10-12, I will be giving a shorter Workshop: “Hypnosis For Mind-Body Healing—Finding And Eliminating The Mental And Emotional Drivers Of Disease”, and a Seminar “Pendulum Dowsing For Hypnotists—Powerful Investigative, Healing, and Business Tool!” ​See https://ngh.net

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

Central Virginia Dowsers Newsletter, 5/4/18

Contained within:          gold pendulum

1. American Society of Dowsers, free Dowsing Support Teleconference Tuesday, 5/8, Dowsing Do’s & Don’t – Etiquette & Ethics”8 PM Eastern. 

2. Central Virginia Dowsers MEETING in Charlottesville, Sunday, May 13  from 1:15-4 PM.  “Creating & Using Your Own Dowsing Charts & Checklists”

3. RESOURCES for TELECONFERENCE:  “Dowsing Do’s & Don’ts”

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1. American Society of Dowsers hosts Dowsing Support & Continuing Education Teleconference, Tuesday, May 8, 8 PM Eastern.

The opening topic is Dowsing Do’s & Don’t – Etiquette & Ethics”This will be followed by addressing your questions on any area of dowsing. The panelists that include Sandi Isgro, Lee Ann Potter, and Roxanne Louise. 

Dial 641-715-0873 and then enter 335033# at the prompt.

As this topic is huge, it is suggested that you see links to related articles below #3.

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2. Central Virginia Dowsers MEETING in Charlottesville, Sunday, May 13  from 1:15-4 PM.  

LOCATION: Senior Center, 491 Hillsdale Drive at the corner of Greenbriar (Rt. 29 Northbound), Charlottesville VA 22901. 

Topic is Creating & Using Your Own Dowsing Charts & Checklists”. 

We will use a pendulum to work with a few prepared charts and checklists, but then make our own to problem solve on anything of personal interest. Bring a pendulum or borrow or buy one at the meeting. You can also use any pendant that has a point. The Meeting is Free and open to all, but if possible, let us know if you are coming.

May 13 is Mother’s Day. So if (jokingly) you should have any ‘mother’ or ‘mother-in-law’ issues, etc, you will learn a way to draw up dowsing charts and checklists to dowse on them.  We apologize for this date conflict but felt that we should keep the meetings to the 2nd Sunday of the month anyway.

FUTURE MEETINGS: Next meeting will be June 10, during which we will watch a dowsing video. No meetings in July or August, and then begin September 9, October 14, and November 11. No meeting in December.

At the end of our formal meeting, Nicolas Finck and Roxanne Louise will be available to answer questions on dowsing, or provide quick mini-instruction on how to use various dowsing tools.

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3. RESOURCES FOR TELECONFERENCE:  “Dowsing Do’s & Don’ts – Etiquette and Ethics”

As background information, check out 
  • Lee Ann Potter’s article, “When Is It Not Acceptable to Dowse” on page 6-7 of The American Dowser, Winter 2017/18. 

https://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com/2016/02/02/dowsing-ethics-above-all-do-no-harm/

  • The American Society of Dowsers Code of Ethics and Preamble to the By-Laws at the back of each American Dowser Digest.

What is Therapeutic Dowsing ?

 

While dowsing can be used for literally everything, I use it extensively to locate and clear stuck energies, both for myself on a regular basis, and for my clients.
Stuck energies include mental and emotional issues and upsets that have piled up. This makes dealing with current issues, staying healthy (or healing if you are ill), achieving your goals, and living your life with enthusiasm and abundant vitality much more difficult. So freeing up this energy is vital to the optimization of all areas of your life. Stuck energies are not just the unpleasant memories but also the negative beliefs and judgments about them. These continue to negatively color your world and limit you in multiple ways including being able to resolve issues effectively.

How does energy get stuck?

Basically, energy gets stuck when it is unprocessed. Perhaps when an upset occurred, you didn’t know how to deal with it and, therefore, didn’t. Perhaps you were too young. Perhaps you didn’t have the skills, or the awareness of what was registering in your unconscious mind. Perhaps your family, culture or religion taught you to deny and not express your thoughts and the resulting emotions. So you may have stuffed your feelings instead of quickly resolving them. Consequently, these feelings along with their associated judgments set up future problems.
But even if you knew the importance of resolving issues quickly, and you had the therapeutic skills, you may have had neither the time or energy to do so. This frequently happens during a crisis, ill health, or overwhelm. By the time the emergency passed you may have been so busy on catching up on tasks that were neglected during the crisis, that you lacked any interest in going back to deal with past unpleasantness. After all, it just doesn’t feel good to think about them .

A Wake-Up Call

My experience shows that after a prolonged time, the continual build-up of unprocessed non-beneficial thoughts with their negative emotions, makes it difficult to indefinitely keep these memories and feelings from resurfacing and contaminating the present. They may surface as illness, insomnia, relationship issues, increasing irritation, explosive bursts of anger, depression, malaise, feeling victimized, looping thoughts, etc. In short, it can demonstrate as sensitivities and issues in any area of life.

Dowsing can help!

When I first learned dowsing in 1990, I was given about a dozen half-circle charts and checklists. These included a chart for positive emotions that could be blocked or needed to be increased, and another for negative emotions that needed to be cleared. It included checklists with names of key relationships (mother, father, brother, sister, etc) with instructions to identify the percentage of positive and negative energy attached to each.

Since I was already a hypnotherapist, I went home and within the year made hundreds of more charts and checklists for my clients and myself. This included an extensive listing of typical events (birthdays, holidays, first day of school, etc.), and activities (public speaking, driving a car, balancing a checkbook, etc.). I listed fears, defense mechanisms, addictive thinking, negative beliefs and judgments, attitude, and issues. I included secondary gain, shadow issues, archetypes, traumas, reasons for smoking, and the physical and psychological reasons for overeating, and much more. This material eventually was published in a complete pendulum course manual, Therapeutic Dowsing & Telepathic Healing available through my website, www.RoxanneLouise.com

Once I identified what needed to be addressed, I extracted the positive learning or wisdom,  healed or cleared the upset or limiting belief, and then finished with installing the positive opposite through dowsing. And if needed, I also had charts to dowse for other beneficial therapies, modalities or activities that could be additionally employed.

To process the issue, I formed a very strong, clear intent of what I wanted done, and held it while the pendulum was spinning. Then I checked with the pendulum that it was in fact done, or the degree to which I had been successful.

If the problem was not yet fully resolved, I investigated for blocks or other aspects of the problem. An aspect could be other emotions, beliefs, judgments, associations that were involved. For example, if I were angry at someone, I could also be angry and ashamed of myself, as well as humiliated in front of others. I might have had similar experiences with that same person or with others in the past. I may be projecting more of the same type of thing occurring in the future. I may be avoiding seeing anyone involved lest it bring up the emotions with the memory, or I may start avoiding people in general thereby creating isolation.

Benefits

This practice of dowsing to locate and clear mental and emotional issues has over time resulted in me experiencing much greater peace of mind. Things don’t upset me as easily and I deal with them much more effectively. I am triggered less. Dramas have receded into the past. I have overcome major challenges with some grace. And I have helped others do the same. Consequently, I fully recommend that others learn how to do this for themselves. This is so empowering as well as healing. You will be able to quickly deal with things, anytime – day or night, anyplace, on your own. And if you need additional help beyond this, you will also be able to know who and what to seek out or research.

WORKSHOP: Tuesday, July 3, 2018. West Coast Dowsing Conference, University of California, Santa Cruz, California.

“Therapeutic Dowsing & Telepathic Healing: Dowsing for Mental & Emotional Issues”

WORKSHOP DESCRIPTION: Dowsing is phenomenally fast at locating and then resolving the root and related causes of mental and emotional issues. In this workshop, we will work with a large number of charts and checklists to identify and release stuck energies, extract the positive learning from experiences, and enhance positive energy. This frees up energy that can be applied elsewhere – physical healing, personal goal achievement, and living your life with greater enthusiasm, joy and vitality. We will investigate: each year of your life including the future, key relationships, typical life events, beliefs, judgments, prejudices, addictive thinking, fears and other emotions, repeating negative patterns and habits. While covering all this may seem a formidable task, Roxanne will show you a shortcut to cut to the chase of the matter. Not only will you learn how to do all of the above for yourself, but to do so telepathically with others who have requested your assistance.
Enroll here. 

Dowsing Ethics, Part 2: What Not to Do!

NOTE: everything I report below could just as easily be applied to comments delivered by a psychic, spiritual healer, etc.

See earlier article, Dowsing Ethics – Above All Do No Harm

A real life example of what not to do!

In my first dowsing class (a week long course in 1990) some people were uncomfortable with a fellow classmate. They asked the teacher about it, and he responded that this individual had killed them in a past life. The students quickly spread this information to other students and even to those outside the class in an organization and local church to which they all belonged until many others both in and outside of the class were shunning this student.

The teacher’s irresponsible comment created an atmosphere of fear and distrust towards this person where before there had only been a vague feeling of unease from something they didn’t understand—unease that could have come from a host of multiple other factors including what was going on personally in her life that had nothing to do with the classmates whether in this life or any other.

The end result was that this individual’s reputation was ruined both in the group and the larger community on something that could neither be proved or disproved, money due her for hosting the event was withheld, and relationships and good will in the greater community were ruptured irreparably and permanently.

This incidence illustrates ethical violations to be avoided when dowsing. These ethical violations were caused by:

  • failure to remove ego, arrogance, spiritual pride, or personal agenda 
  • failure to consider a multitude of other factors potentially involved in the subject of investigation
  • failure to consider the limits of what we can, cannot or should not dowse upon
  • failure to consider that dowsing even among the most skillful is not 100% accurate, and that any particular dowsing results can be wrong
  • failure to consider the consequences of how others will interpret and do with the dowsing results reported
  • dowsing on what cannot be verified and which can have negative consequences.

The problem of dowsing what cannot be verified

On the one hand, dowsing can provide information, guidance, suggestions that are difficult, more time consuming, or impossible to obtain another way. But that does not mean that such information can be considered accurate until later proven with successful results or through testing by other means. Dowsing is an art gained slowly through training and mentorship, experience, and learning through your mistakes. It is not always right.

If acting on such information can have serious consequences, it should not be reported and no action should take place until it can be thoroughly researched and tested. While creative breakthroughs can occur on what starts out as a hunch, unverifiable dowsed information is speculation or theory until you prove it. Especially in the area of the area of personal relationships, reporting such unverifiable information is unethical, slanderous, and opens up the possibility of a lawsuit.

Dowsing past lives is frivolous entertainment. Dowsing issues is not.

I personally believe in past life, and consider that certain of my ‘memories’, talents and relationships stem from there. But I cannot prove it, nor think it important to do so. As a hypnotherapist, I have experienced, been trained in and guided many people through past life regressions. Nonetheless, I do not take past life scenarios seriously as they can only rarely be verified.

Nonetheless, past life regression is helpful in identifying issues even if the events reported are totally fictitious. The material can be metaphorically true and helpful providing it is understood as a metaphor or dream material by a mature, mentally and emotionally balanced client. It can be therapeutic in the hands of a skillful regressionist who uses the storyline to focus on healing the issues uncovered, and applying the positive learning to present life challenges. But in thinking of it as an actual, factually correct lifetime, it can be counterproductive. I found that not all clients are willing or able of doing the healing work, letting go of such stories and previous identities, and moving on. Consequently, I no longer conduct them. 

While dowsing charts can also pin-point past life cast and characters, I only rarely have used them for myself, but not for clients.

The real focus on dowsing should be on healing, improving or practical application for what is going on or needed now.  

If trauma has occurred, find the positive learning, the wisdom, and release all stuck emotions from things real or imagined. Locate and clear any limiting beliefs or judgments whether justified by the facts or not. This allows to work in a ‘can’t hurt’ way. Stick to healing issues, working towards solving practical problems, and being of service.

Keep dowsing focused on helping yourself and others in the life today.

If you are dowsing (or using any psychic art) out of curiosity rather than healing your own issues, solving practical problems, being of service to someone else, you are misusing it.

The problem of interpretation

In my example, the students accepted the teacher’s opinion that they had been killed by a classmate as accurate. After all, how are brand new students going to have the discipline to be neutral when dowsing such highly emotional material, and the experience to know when they are really tapping into universal consciousness and divine truth or not? Then they further assumed that the teacher’s words of having been “killed” to mean that they had been murdered. But were they? What were the circumstances around their untimely death if it happened because circumstances and motive makes all the difference even in a court of law as to guilt or not. 

People can be killed through multiple means—accident, ignorance, superstition, negligence, laziness, self-defense, misunderstanding, poor communication, mistaken identity, perceived wrongdoing, or set-up. Deliberately caused deaths can be authorized, ordered or sanctioned by the larger community as an act or casualty of war, in the service of cultural, political, ideological or religious beliefs, or because the individual himself committed some serious violation of a community rule.

My fellow students may have assumed that they did not participate, cause or bring upon themselves what may have happened to themselves. They may have assumed that they were blameless when they may actually have been criminals and sentenced to death by their group as punishment. 

Faulty interpretations

When I dowsed on the teacher’s pronouncement, my interpretation was different. I felt that the “killing” was not a physical death, but rather a psychological dismissal. In other words, this student did not respect or take these certain classmates seriously. She judged them as much too gullible and not exercising common sense — something borne out by their behavior. Perhaps, the students were feeling uncomfortable because they felt judged, but didn’t understand it. Or they may have been picking up bad vibes because this woman was going through both financial and marital trouble with her husband, who was also in the class!

Consider all the ramifications of what you say, how you say it, and to whom.

  • This teacher failed to consider the effect his comment would have on the class and on the accused student both inside and outside of class.
  • He had not considered the maturity and understanding of those to whom he was speaking.
  • He had not considered their awareness that in the context of multiple lifetimes, a soul is thought to swing between being victim and victimizer.
  • He had not considered that that these students, like most people, might think of themselves as the innocent victim in their interactions, and deny their own part in whatever happened to them, and the harm they have done (or wanted to) to others in any point in time.
  • He had not considered that no matter what anyone may have done in the past, each person has the ability to learn and turn their life around.
  • Nor had he considered that his students understood the underlying oneness of all humanity – that like it or not, we are all connected, all brothers on the same planet.

What this teacher should have done – an opportunity missed 

Besides the gross ethical violations, this teacher missed a precious opportunity to teach the entire class how to use dowsing to heal uncomfortable feelings and a relationship in the present moment. Healing always involves starting with healing the self. These students missed out from learning how to turn their stuck emotions into a blessing.

This is something of which I know much, and I will address in another post.

This topic will be taken up on the free American Society of Dowsers Dowsing Support and Continuing Education Teleconference, Tuesday, May 8, 2018 at 8 PM Eastern US. Call 641-715-0873 and enter participant code 335033. A recording will be available the next day for ASD members.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content. This is rewrite of a 2/21/16 blog article.

Upset as Opportunity

Fuming over what you don’t like and the people you hold responsible for it may let off steam, but it burns up your precious life force energy and it doesn’t change anything! 

I suggest that you as quickly as possible accept that what happened, and is now history. Fuming doesn’t change history. The question is

What do you want to do about it?

How can you use it constructively?

Can you turn it into a blessing?

As I have said in previous posts, deliberately choose to look for a way to turn every experience especially the upsetting ones into a blessing. This will happen if you grow, if you learn something positive, if you take constructive action on things that previously you neglected or let slide, and if you finally turn your attention to dealing with wounds and issues long past but never resolved.

When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, miracles of positive change can occur!

You can train yourself to use upset as a powerful

  • catalyst for healing yourself and
  • as motivation to create something better.

Here’s how.

Write the answers to the questions below. If you have trouble identifying them, brainstorm possible answers on paper and dowse them out. If you don’t know how to dowse, brainstorm anyway. Then close your eyes and ask yourself the question again. Or just write and write until you get to the core issue.

  • What’s happening that I don’t want?
  • What’s not happening that I do want?
  • What’s the key issue here?
  • What are my thoughts about what’s happening?
  • What are my emotions about it?
  • What do I want to happen instead?
  • What’s the essence of what I want?
  • What’s stopping me from getting it?
  • Is there another way to get the essence of what I want?
  • When were other times that something similar happened?
  • When was the earliest time that something similar to this happened?

Work your way through all of these questions, addressing them as you go.

Then ask some further questions:

  • How did I contribute in any way to what happened?
  • What positive steps can I make or what changes need to occur so this doesn’t happen again?
  • How can I improve my ____ (communication, follow-through, systems, etc.) so that my _____ (business, relationships) are actually better as a result of what happened?

Doing all of the above will move you forward.

Heal yourself rather than trying to change someone else!

Recently I spoke with someone who was upset because he had been unable to get someone else to change. He had tried talking to the person, but wasn’t getting anywhere. I suggested that he first identify and then address his own emotions and his thoughts around it before speaking to the person again so that they would not cause the person to tune him out.

In other words, if you are emotionally upset, you will make the other person defensive, and less likely to even consider changing their behavior and do what you want. You need to find a way to speak to the person from a neutral place, or better yet, from a place of common ground.

One way of starting that process is to detach your worth, your self-esteem from what someone else is doing. Each person acts out of who they are, not from who you are. And incidentally, people never change for you. They may moderate their behavior somewhat if the negative consequences are great enough. But they never change for you.

Eliminate the ‘shoulds and shouldn’ts’

Another initial step to reduce your upset is to eliminate the idea that people should or shouldn’t be any certain way or do anything according to your standards. Those self-righteous judgment calls are responsible for a great deal of stress. However, once you clarify the behavior you don’t want and the behavior you do want, you will be able to clearly communicate it to the other person.

As he labeled the other person as controlling, I suggested that he could turn this situation into a blessing if he could identify and then heal all similar experiences starting with the first time he was upset because of controlling behavior. In other words, this annoying current event might be viewed as positive by alerting him to a host of unresolved similar events festering in his unconscious not only causing him stress but setting up a negative repeating pattern.

My own experience

Years ago I was being constantly hit with the energy of jealousy. I could always tell when the conference brochures hit the mailboxes, because I could feel the red hot feverish flames blasting in my face, and it made me jittery and hard to focus. Once in giving a presentation of how and why to integrate Reiki with hypnosis, I could feel the arrows coming from 3 distinct locations in the room. So I asked the Reiki Masters present to stand, and guess what? They were sitting in the very same locations. These weren’t bad people, they just must have thought that they could or should have been the ones speaking on the topic I had chosen.

While I had previously worked diligently to heal my distress because of other people’s jealousy of me, it had not stopped the negative pattern until I dealt with the root cause.  As I thought about the first time this issue had occurred , I turned my attention to the lifelong problematic relationship with my sister that started in early childhood. Only after I healed that, did the negative pattern stop. I have not been affected since.

Whether any one is or has been jealous of me since, I don’t feel it anymore. I am not impacted. My energy is no longer drained.

Moral of the story:

Heal the root cause to stop the pattern.

Make positive changes going forward.

And if you do that, it will have been a blessing.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

 

Problem Solving with Dowsing

Someone just asked me how to use dowsing to deal with autism. The basic principles of dowsing on health follows the same rules of dowsing for solution for anything with the understanding that the stakes are higher, there are laws regulating this,  you need to work on a can’t hurt basis, or for educational or research purposes only.

First, take a piece of paper and write down the objective. In this case, the objective could be healing or reversing the condition, lessening a particular symptom, or improving a particular functionality. Then do an internet search. Has anyone healed from this, reversed it, improved and if so, how? List things everything you already know about it including what your doctor has said.

You can also list and then dowse out categories of health professionals as to who to consult. Besides talking to different categories of professionals of different types, do your own research. Brainstorm initially without censoring any additional thing to search that might be relevant to your objective, and add them to your list. Include the word ‘other’. 

Dowse out any of your appropriate questions, such as:

  • What is the most important thing I can do to ____ (reverse this condition of ___/ lessen this symptom of___/ improve my ability to ____, etc.)? Please indicate.
  • On a scale of 0-100%, what is the degree that this will help ____?
  • What is the next most important thing I can do to ____ (reverse this condition of ___/ lessen this symptom of___/ improve my ability to ____, etc.)? Please indicate.
  • On a scale of 0-100%, what is the degree that this will help ____?

Keep going until you know some basic things that you can do yourself to improve matters. If the pendulum points to the word ‘other’, then brainstorm some more, and see if you have a complete idea upon which to design your own COMMON SENSE, HEALTHY SELF CARE ON A CAN’T HURT BASIS.

Also write a list of things that cause or are related to your illness or condition. Your objective can be to identify your own vulnerabilities or behaviors that were at cause. Once identified, you can then take greater care to avoid or stop doing what you can from worsening the situation.

Your possible dowsing checklist/chart can be

  • What are the causes of _____?
  • What things worsen the condition of ___?
  • What things make the symptom of ____ worse?

Dowsing on health challenges is not to claim to ‘treat’ disease or any medically or psychologically diagnosed condition for someone else. But as all health conditions are caused or worsened by beliefs, judgments, emotions and trauma, other stress, diet, environmental conditions, and habits, these issues, which are not part of the legislatively protected area of practicing medicine or psychotherapy, are within the scope of what you can safely do. You can suggest that others might want to investigate ____, discuss with their doctor about the possible benefit of ____. You can provide information of certain books or websites or modalities that claim to be helpful. But when it comes to your own body, it is your right to do whatever you want.

Furthermore, by listing various allopathic or alternative treatments, a high dowsing rating of potential benefit could be the starting point for a conversation with your health professional.

That is not to imply that dowsing can’t do more. It can do a lot more. But the above is where I suggest that you start. As dowser/radionics professional Marty Lucas says, everything is energy and information. Dowsers fall into the category of energy healers. As such, we can add energy and provide information to the system. As such, you can dowse out exactly what information should be supplied and through strongly held intention project that. But that is a topic for much later discussion.

Follow the creed: Above all, do no harm.

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