The Tangled Web of Choices that Create Our Reality

Introduction

So often we ascribe simplistic reasons to why things happen. Maybe we just blame someone else without considering that we might have played a role. Perhaps we think we’re a victim of circumstances or Mercury Retrograde. Maybe we look for some reason within our consciousness that attracted the problem. But what if ‘the cause’ was not one thing, not created or attracted by one person, but was rather a web of choices, decisions, actions to which both we and others all contributed? And what if (at least on occasion) the intention was not to punish, not to stress us out, but to teach us something?

In an earlier article, Why Shit Happens (or doesn’t) , I list the 34 other Laws of Mind (taken from Your Unlimited Potential) that in addition to the Law of Attraction create our reality. To this list, Tom Campbell in the quote below adds that our reality can be created by the larger consciousness system as a learning opportunity for ourself or others.

If a particular occurrence is determined to be an effective learning opportunity for someone or everyone, the probability of it happening is increased. The system is designed to automatically deliver timely custom-fit individual learning opportunities — the presentation of such opportunities to individuals or groups is part of the feedback one receives relative to the choices one makes. Because the point of the system is to overcome fear (about you – high entropy) and replace it with love (about others – low entropy), if you have fear, the feedback system will manifest that fear in PMR [physical reality] to force you to deal with it (learn) or suffer the consequences.”

In this article I hope to illustrate and number the multiple choices/decisions (some with  immediate and some with long-term consequences) that we individually make that are intertwined with the choices/decisions that others make. All are part of the overall Law of Cause and Effect. All contribute to our experience. The accumulation of actions and choices of everyone involved, even those seemingly miniscule or innocuous, add up over time, building in consequences. Here is a real life example.

The Case of the Missing Luggage

In June of 2016, I was to fly to California to teach at the West Coast Dowsers Conference being held in Santa Cruz. There I was also to be a vendor and sell my many books and other products. Such trip was going to involve three flight changes. As my books were very heavy and would have cost a lot to ship cross country, and as I had previously had the experience of shipped books not arriving at a conference in time, I made a decision to cram as many as I could into my carry on and checked baggage. (#1)   Each piece of luggage was at the ultimate weight limit.

Before packing, I evaluated various luggage options. I had the choice between a more roomy duffle bag that I would have to hand carry but which could hold more, or a smaller piece with wheels. I chose the duffle bag. (#2) Had I been better with planning, I might have evaluated the consequences of this way in advance and possibly bought a bigger wheeled option. (#3)

I called ahead and told the airport that I needed transportation from the long-term parking area. They assured me that they would be able to help me. However, I had not allowed enough time to to get ready to leave the house. (#4) And because I now had a heavy duffle bag with my books, I waited at the car (#5) instead of attempting to haul both my suitcase and the duffle bag up the hill. The shuttle never came (#6), nor was the dispatcher answering the phone at that early hour. (#7) So I had to walk, but the delay meant that I was just 3 minutes past the cut-off time for check-in. Even though the flight was still 30 minutes off, they refused to let me board, and put me on another flight. (#8)

Next, I was asked if I wanted to check my carry-on bag for an extra expense, but I declined. (#9) A little voice in my head asked “are you sure?” I declined again. (#10)  I again heard that voice repeat the question, and I still did not change my decision. (#11)

At security, I took out my computer, jewelry, cosmetics out of my computer bag to be screened, but because of the rush to get to the gate, I threw everything into my roomier duffle bag, thinking that I would have time to reorganize everything neatly at the gate. (#12) 

However, as soon as I got to the gate and before I could reorganize my valuables, I had to quickly hand over my carry on duffle bag to an airline attendent at the first leg of the trip. (#13) I was able to personally retrieve it o.k. when we landed. But now I had to really struggle to physically carry my book bag throughout a very big terminal. (#14) 

Because of the fight changes that made a super tight window to make next connection, I had to literally run to make my next flight. This was extremely difficult, exhausting, but some young man helped carry things part way or I would not have made the connection at all. (#15)

When I got to the gate, the airline attendant would not let me board with my duffle bag that still had my computer, jewelry and cosmetics in it. (#16) She rapidly took it from me and checked it in telling me that I would retrieve it at the next stop. However, she was rushed (#17) with many other people trying to board, and unknown to me, she put the wrong final destination on my bag. (#18) 

I arrived at the 3rd airport, but was told that my luggage were already being sent to my final destination. But when I finally arrived in California, my suitcase was there, but not my duffle bag. I spent a couple of hours checking to see if it was late getting off the plane, (#19) and then filed out forms for lost luggage. (#20) The airline after several calls had no record of my duffle bag (#21) and told me I would just have to keep checking back with them. Then I had to yet wait a further hour because my flight changes had caused an issue with the previously scheduled shuttle service. (#22)

I finally got to the conference. However, the books that I was hoping to sell to pay for this trip were not there so I made no sales. (#24) I spent the next three days anxiously calling the airline for information as to where it was. (# 25)

I was blessed to have a conference attendee drive me into town to buy new toiletries, hair curler, etc. that had been in the duffle bag. (#26). But this was an additional expense. (#27) Another attendee lent me a jacket (#28) because my only warm wrap for the 50 degree weather was also in the duffle bag. (#29)

I was very stressed out (#30) not just about the books and decrease in sales that their loss and even time delay represented (#31), and the potential loss of my good jewelry, but most of all because of my computer. Since I had not been in the habit of backing up my files (#32), losing my computer back would mean that I would lose all of my documents including book manuscripts. (#33) 

Eventually, the duffle bag showed up at an airport in Osaka, Japan. One day before the conference was over, the duffle bag was returned with everything intact — thanks to lots of prayers from many people (#34) and the honesty of those involved on two continents and 4 airports (#35). 

Moral of the Story

This was a lesson that multiple actions, choices and decisions by both me and others led to both creating, alleviating, and solving this problem. Had I been regularly backing up my computer, had I made a different luggage choice, had I listened to the small voice within me to check the additional bag, had I allowed more time to get to the airport, had I immediately walked to the terminal instead of waiting for the shuttle, had I put my valuables back into the computer bag, everything would have been different. So the screw up was as much my fault as that of the airlines. But it was also a lesson that there are good people everywhere who help just because that’s who they are, and honest airline luggage handlers in 4 airports and two continents who returned everything in good shape.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

 

 

 

 

Dowsing for Mind-Body Healing

When a person is ill, they typically go to a doctor for a diagnosis. But the diagnosis, even if accurate, is not the root cause of the problem. The disease may only manifest after years of the body being abused, of other things being unbalanced or neglected, of the mind or body being overworked, overwhelmed, stressed out, of the spirit disconnected from joy, purpose, fulfillment or loving relationships. The cause may stem from years of unresolved upsets and issues, detrimental beliefs, habits or lifestyle.

In this way, disease is an opportunist taking advantage of some weak spot. And while a person may be good about taking good care of himself in certain ways, he may ignore or even abuse himself in others. For example, he may eat right or exercise but still smoke. It is in the neglected or abused area where the body and health will break down. At the time, he may think he is invincible, that his body will always bounce back, or that for any reason that he has to push himself beyond sensible limits. He may think that his ego, sense of self image, job or family responsibilities or finances depend upon it. He may feel that life is about having fun but then interpret ‘fun’ in some self-destructive way. He may think that he has plenty of time to get serious about his health in some far distant tomorrow. Then tomorrow comes and the piper wants to be paid.

Think of it this way: a house may be burglarized because it was easy— by all appearances, no one was home, the door was unlocked, or a window was left open. And while there was an alarm system, it may not have been turned on. Closing the window now does not bring back what was stolen, but it is still important to do so anyway because it can stop another burglary.

So if you are dealing with a poor health condition, what window of opportunity did you leave open that made it possible? What important nutritional supplements did you have in the house but were not taking? What stress management tools do you know that you were not practicing? What common sense principles or practices or habits that you already know about were you ignoring?

Even when the health problem is obvious as with a broken bone from an accident, that accident may have only occurred because the person was not centered, paying attention or distracted, perhaps because of worries, or lack of sleep. Maybe he was partying late, burning the candles at both ends, or upset about something.

In short, health can never be separated from the other aspects of a person’s life. And healing always needs to consider the bigger picture, not only regarding good basic self care but also mental, emotional and spiritual issues as well.

Dowsing can help locate what is out of balance, what habit, diet or lifestyle changes need to be made. It can pinpoint what mental and emotional issues need to be addressed, and where, when and with whom they arose. Dowsing can set up a priority list of where to start, and which actions/modalities will have the most beneficial effect. It can through intention remove blocks to healing including detrimental beliefs and judgments. It can indicate the degree of progress in resolving problems and stuck energies. 

In short, dowsing has phenomenal potential in identifying underlying issues and tracking their resolution. It uncovers what is hidden and infinitely speeds up the process leading to faster healing time.

Free Teleconference Call, Tuesday, October 17 at 8 PM, Eastern.

On October 17 at 8PM EST, Roxanne Louise will discussDowsing for Mind-Body Healing” in a free teleconference call that is part of the American Society of Dowsers Discover Dowsing Series. Call in instructions are : 1-712-775-7035, followed by the code at the prompt, 436564#. Call will be recorded and can be heard the following day at ASD’s website, www.dowsers.org

Roxanne is a Dowser, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, and Stress Management Expert specializing in mental/emotional issues. She has been a frequent presenter both at ASD as well as regional conferences and chapter meetings, and multiple national hypnosis conventions. She has received 5 national awards in hypnosis including a Lifetime Achievement Award. She founded and runs Central Virginia Dowsers in Charlottesville, and is author of several books on self hypnosis, therapeutic dowsing, Reiki (including mind-body healing), stop smoking, healing anger, and the Infinite Intelligence Process. In addition to her blog, UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com, see her website at www.RoxanneLouise.com or call 434-263-4337.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

 

Appointed to Hypnosis Advisory Board

I am honored to have been appointed to the Honorary Board of Advisors of the National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists. I was part of the organization’s very beginnings in 1995, and indeed, have been a presenter at most of their conferences since. I was also honored to have been:

  • Recipient of their 2008 “Most Unique Contribution Award” 
  • Recipient of their 2003 “Outstanding Transpersonal Achievement Award” for work in integrating hypnosis with other modalities.

NATH’s founders, Dee and Allen Chips, became very close friends as well as respected colleagues, so much so that they lured me from New Jersey to Virginia. Now five years after Allen’s death, Dee has passed the direction of the organization to Lisa Thunberg-Dobson.

This year’s National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists 22nd Conference will take place in Virginia Beach, VA from November 3-9.

I will be presenting a half day workshop on The Infinite Intelligence Process, Friday morning. Then on Saturday afternoon at 4, I will be teaching “Using Humor to Defuse Anger in Your Practice“. On Sunday morning, I will doing a group hypnotic session “Hypnosis for Your Soul” to help you connect with your higher guidance. Finally, on Wednesday, I am doing a full day workshop on “Releasing Your Anger Without Killing Anyone!“.

For more information about the conference, see www.NATH.world or call 855-772-0459. It is always a lovely conference with good information, good people, right on the boardwalk overlooking the ocean and dolphins at play. 

Mental Entrapment

Your Belief System as a Cage

Throughout my adulthood, I have pondered the power of a group to entrap the minds of those who belong by allowing someone else–a living leader or a dead one or even a group as a whole–to do their thinking and decision making  for them, and to tell them how to live their lives and what action to take on anything. This applies not just to cults, but to religions, politics, philosophical ideologies of all stripes, social media and identity politics (race, gender, sexual identification and orientation, vegan or not, victim of ___, 12 step member, etc). 

Group think goes beyond what to believe and how to act. The group can become your very identity and your ‘family’. Consequently, it becomes very threatening if you start to have any questions or doubts. A warning sign of group think is that you are not only told what to believe but honest questions or debate are ridiculed, disallowed or even punished.
A belief by definition is something that is not or cannot be proven, but which is just accepted on faith. It is one thing to accept unimportant things on faith from what you consider a good source until such time as you find a better source. But it is another thing to accept important things on faith without extensive research and thought, and it is even worse to defend such unexamined beliefs by attacking those that do not agree with you. 
Another warning sign of group think is that you are told who is’ good’ and who is ‘bad’, who to love and follow, and who to hate or censor, who and what to support, and who and what to protest or punish. Such group is oppressive to personal growth and evolution even if it claims to be spiritual or take the moral high ground. The leaders that endorse group think are into ego, control and manipulation. You might consider the teachings of any such group as propaganda or mind-control. Especially is this true if fear is used to discipline and control members. 
It can be comforting to feel certain about things, and for someone else tell you what to do instead of making the hard decisions yourself. It is also very seductive to feel that you are on the ‘right’ side, that you are ‘enlightened’, ‘progressive’, ‘spiritual’ or in any way morally superior to those that have different beliefs or group affiliation. Your ego can get caught in a trap that mistakes your beliefs or group affiliation for your core identity. At that point, it becomes progressively harder to examine and move past those beliefs or to find your core self.

The truth of who you are is separate and apart from your beliefs and the group that shares them!

I was reading an article about a particular religious group. I am not interested in debating the merits of this group or the veracity of this critic, so I have deleted it’s name. But do feel that the comments of this person could well apply to ANY GROUP. Consider his observations when you think about the increasing polarization in our society.
“The problem is that the longer you’re in something …. you start to form your identity around your belief system. Your ego can keep you from undoing this to the point wherein you can’t divorce yourself even from something that is bad for you. It even becomes near impossible to think clearly enough to ask yourself “Am I still a truth seeker, or am I now just blinded by my own beliefs to the point wherein I can’t be objective?” Which is it for you?
 
The hardest thing for most people is to question …[their group] once they’ve committed to it, especially after a number of years. You’ve got too much invested — friendships, habits, ways of thinking, belief systems and even part of your personal lexicon. Your identity becomes attached to these ideas that are adopted as your own. Thus, you can be a part of a big lie and self deception because your ego just won’t let go. You’re too close to the problem to recognize it. You become entirely defensive. You defend the lies, the plagiarisms, the accusations, the contradictions and the injustices of … [_____] as if they are all an attack on you personally. In the long run this is bad for you because you are being controlled by two forces: 1. the … [_____] organization and 2. your own set of beliefs.
To look at the truth about … [____], including the good and the bad, you have to check your ego at the door. This is way too much for many people to do. But if you’re brave and open-minded and are really a truth seeker, you’ll do it for your own good and the good of others. If not, you’ll continue to be in denial and to live a lie. It’s your own choice.”
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While everyone needs teachers and guidance, in the final analysis, each of us has take personal responsibility and go inside to that still, small voice for the big issues. It is only there that we will find the answers for ourselves.
 

Central Virginia Dowsers Newsletter, 8/29/2017


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Written by Roxanne Louise. Please distribute.

This newsletter contains:

1. Discover Dowsing Series, recordings available of past speakers, American Society of Dowsers. 

The information on the calls is interesting, but there is a lot of background noise as listeners pick up the phone. See https://dowsers.org/tuesday-open-meetings/

2. Free Teleconference, Tuesday, October 17 at 8 PM EST. Roxanne Louise, “Dowsing for Mind-Body Healing” 

This is part of the American Society of Dowsers, Discover Dowsing Series. Call 712-775-7035, then with prompt, access code is 436564#You will be able to ask questions on the live call. A recording will be posted the following day.

3. Article on Space Clearing: “Quick Ways to Clear a Space of ‘Bad’ Energy” 

4. Central Virginia Dowsers Meeting Agenda September 10, 1:15 PM 

Free. Senior Center, 1180 Pepsi Place, Charlottesville, VA 22901. RSVP to RoxanneLouise2@gmail.com or call 434-263-4337 .

  • Networking: 1:15 PM with meeting officially starting at 1:30 PM. We will close down no later than 5 PM.
  • Dowsing Tools – Simple Show & Tell of basic dowsing tools for beginners with quick demonstration. Further help can be given at the end of the meeting.
  • Video: “Yes! You Really Can Trust Your Dowsing” with Cynthia Brush-Pires

Want to know how to trust in your dowsing responses without doubt creeping in? It is a matter of using intent, well-defined perimeters and remaining clear. Cynthia will share the techniques she uses with you and you can further refine them for your use. In these uncertain times, trusting your dowsing is essential. Want to use your dowsing skills to work on others without harm or karma coming to yourself? Learn about the Three Gates that she uses. Video is 1 hr. 20 min. followed with your questions.

  • How to increase your accuracy? Discussion of what works for you.
  • Practice Time: (before or after video)
  1. Simple yes/no questions for you to dowse out.
  2. Dowse what’s in the container? Simple game to dowse out what is inside using multiple choice. Then move the containers around and try again.  

General Information:

 

Meetings are now on the 2nd Sunday of the Month, September through November, January through June (no meetings in December, July or August).  Meetings are free and open to all!  New Location Senior Center, 1180 Pepsi Place, Charlottesville, VA 22901• September 10, October 8 & November 12, 2017, then resuming in 2018. 

Topics to be announced before each meeting. Either an ASD Conference Video followed by Q & A, or Speaker. Plus tell us how you are using dowsing today, and your results. Plus help available on the various dowsing tools. And maybe some dowsing practice.

Quick Ways to Clear a Space of ‘Bad’ Energy

We may all may have experienced an uneasy ‘vibe’ or energetic residue that lingers in a space after strong unhappy or tragic events. Perhaps it stems from a death or divorce and what led up to it, long-standing illness or financial problems, strong dislikes or disputes in the house or neighborhood, an act of violence, arguments or sadness that seem to linger on in the very walls. While our conscious knowledge or personal memory of what took place there may be causing discomfort, it is sometimes an unconscious awareness of events that we feel. 

When the energy feels uncomfortable and stems from emotional residue, there are simple things you can do to shift it. Even if it is coming from another source and requires professional help beyond these simple fixes, doing these things may help. What you do depends upon the extent of oppressive energy that you feel. Start with something quick and simple, and work your way up until you get the results that you want depending upon the intensity of the emotional debris.

Space Clearing

Usually, you do this automatically when moving into a new space. Space clearing is always indicated then and at any subsequent time that either your own negative emotions or that of others have polluted the home or property. Historically, some of this was also done as part of spring and fall cleaning, and before major religious holidays. While everyone seems so busy today, it might be a good idea to bring this tradition back.

  • If the problem is inside the house, open the doors and windows, pull away any curtains or blinds, and let in the sun and fresh air. 
  • Clean — this can include inside closets, cabinets, and under the bed. Wash the windows and glass surfaces. Energy clings to things and dusting, polishing, washing and moving them around helps to clear stuck energies away. Clean with the intention of clearing away any anger, upset, grief, sadness in that space.
  • Clean up also applies to affected outside areas.
  • Smudge with sage, cedar or sweet grass
  • Do a light clearing exercise — imagine holy white or white golden light filling every corner of the space. If it is a house, imagine this light extending down into the basement, into the walls, up to the attic.
  • Use aromatherapy with pure sage, cedar, or rose oils
  • Place fresh flowers or eucalyptus in the area. Or if it is outside, plant colorful, blooming plants.
  • Make noise with drums, bells, gongs, bang pot lids together throughout the entire space. Open closet and cabinet doors, and bang noise into every corner of the house.
  • If it is outside, hang some wind chimes and ring them yourself if there is no wind.
  • Diffuse flower essences
  • Sprinkle holy water around and say some prayers
  • Burn epsom salts with a cap of 100% wood grain alcohol in a pie pan. Carry this burning pan around the room. I prefer this over smudging which stinks up the room with smoke which then must be cleared away before working inside. 
  • Burn purifying incense such as gum mastic, frankincense or myrrh, or protection incense
  • Burn a protection candle made with intention and the addition of special herbs
  • Perform or play holy chants. Prayers should focus on divine love, gratitude, connection to the divine.
  • Play or sing holy or inspirational music – perhaps set up a tape player to repeat continuously and saturate the walls of the house with a more harmonious frequency
  • Sing, dance and play happy music
  • Host a party or get together with happy, positive people to deliberately change the atmosphere and the mental/emotional associations with the space. Wholesome laughter is extremely helpful.
  • Draw Reiki symbols in the air and projecting throughout all walls and corners of each room. I use Cho Ku Ray and Harth.
  • Use specific energy clearing pendulums. These include Spellbreaker, Mace, Releaser, Golden Hue, Isis. Contact me for more information.
  • Get rid of clutter – clutter creates stuck energy
  • Get rid of objects that strongly remind you of painful events
  • Rearrange or change the furniture or ornaments so it looks different and you relate differently to the space
  • Paint the walls of the effected area a different color

Let me know additional ways that you use for space clearing inside or out, and your experiences.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

FOR MORE INFORMATION: see our main website: www.roxannelouise.com or call 434-263-4337

How to Deal with Overload

Start by reading Dealing with Overload if you haven’t done so first.

Where do you start?

The short answer is —ANYWHERE YOU CAN!

I like to start with deep breathing because it is instant stress relief. Taking deep breaths will start to release fear, paralysis, and clear the mind. To think straight on how to solve a problem, you have first to get oxygen to the brain. Even a few, slow, deep breaths will help. Any physical exercise, singing, dancing, heavy duty housework, chopping wood, laughing– all make you breathe.

Add music as it will instantly change your mood. If you need to accomplish physical work, combine it with energizing/happy music. Whereas, if you need to accomplish mental work, then combine it with soothing, relaxing music.

My top picks are to 

  • meditate for a few minutes to clear my mind and affirm that I have access to internal resources to do what is needed
  • do some needed task, no matter how small

Sometimes I need to get totally away from things, and just do something relaxing or fun. This is the point of vacations — rest and renewal. This clears out the paralysis and gives me energy that I can then harness to address important issues. Make sure that any ‘fun’ item is not just mindless, time wasting like t.v./internet, but something like being with people you love and care about, or singing, dancing, laughing, sports, etc. that makes you breathe, releases stuck energy out of the body, and shifts your mood. Give yourself a time limit.

Then move to the current problem. Write down various things that have to be done to resolve whatever is overwhelming you, and do whatever you can that you can tackle it immediately. This might as simple as making some phone calls, setting an appointment, scheduling for some help. You do not have to know everything you need to do, just the next step. Do that!

If you don’t know what to do to resolve the issue that is overwhelming you, do other tasks that will be then out of the way for when you do know what to do with the area of concern. This could be your everyday needed tasks like washing the dishes, doing the laundry, food shopping, cooking, etc. I have found that getting your energy moving in any direction, relieves the paralysis in other areas. 

Get help

Find someone who likes solving your type of problem and is good at it. For example, if your house is a mess and that is draining your energy just to look at it, find someone to come in and help you. If you can afford it, hire someone and delegate it. If not, barter, trade with a friend. In other words, I’ll trade you two hours with you coming to my house and helping me do ____ on Saturday, and I’ll come to help you do whatever you want help with for two hours the following week.

Just as two heads are better than one in solving a problem, four hands make the work go faster. When I hire someone to clean, I normally work with them doing those things that are best left to me. This might mean cleaning out a drawer or closet. If you work along with someone else, not only are you doubling the progress, but the other person will keep you on track, and the socialization while you work can even be fun. 

Again, if money is an issue, find some other way to make it work. For example, I had some extra bedrooms in my house and at one time used the rent to pay for needed help. At other times, I traded a room for their labor in my house or farm. I bartered hypnosis for massage. I registered with a local Time Bank to use my skills to get help I needed. Many years ago, I traded babysitting with a couple of other mothers. Ask yourself, how can I get the help I need with ____? What do I have to sell/barter/share? Who can help me with ___? 

Goal Setting 

Lessening overload will always entail goal setting and ordinary problem solving. As mentioned, get the energy moving any way you can by doing something. Then do the next easiest task, and the next. For example, when I have to clean house, I start with the smallest, easiest room. This is usually the bathroom. Then I move on to the next easiest room, and so on. By the time, I get to the hardest room, I am already feeling better by seeing so much of the house looking good that I am in a more hopeful, better mood to take on the bigger job whether that day or the next.

However, some people like to tackle the hardest thing that they are avoiding first. What works for me in tacking whatever I find overwhelming is to get someone to work with me. It bypasses procrastination and generates tremendous energy that persists even after they leave. Having someone work with you is tremendously helpful because they are not emotionally invested in your problem. They may also have the skills you need and enjoy using them. They see solution where you just see problem. They are energized by your challenge, and you are drained. Their approach and possibility thinking can be positively contagious.

Be accountable to someone for taking action.

A client wanted help in getting rid of procrastination so that she could complete a writing project. So besides doing hypnosis, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) on procrastination and non-beneficial beliefs, I made a contract with her. She made a commitment to do  x_ pages and/or _x_  time writing, and I would rewrite/edit one chapter of a book I was working on. At the end of each day we were to email each other on what we had done. She submitted her short stories for a competition, and I completed a rewrite of my self-hypnosis book. It helped us both. You can make a similar contract with a friend.

Develop a do-able strategy or plan of attack.

Make lists and prioritize. Put it on the calendar. Then start checking off as you accomplish each thing. Make a note each night on what you have accomplished. Seeing progress as things are crossed off will make you feel better. If you don’t know how to set up a strategy, ask someone else. There are many forums, meet-ups, business organizations that offer help.

Can you make it fun?

Perhaps you can listen to something interesting as you work. For example, I used to put the Saturday Matinee broadcast of the Metropolitan Opera on while I was working in the kitchen. During that broadcast, not only did the kitchen get cleaned, but I did my major food preparation/ cooking for the week. That cooking made sure that I was going to eat right –important if you are to maintain a high level of energy. Because I was so mesmerized by the heavenly music, I was not caught up in “woe is me,” or “I hate doing this”, etc. I follow the same strategy with other mundane tasks.

If you have to go out and do something you have been avoiding, can you go with a friend or meet up afterwards? For example, I have friends who take a friend to their doctor visits. I know others who join a gym together, or go for a regularly scheduled walk. They get their exercise done and socialize at the same time. Make a commitment, and you will get it done. 

Pay attention to basic self-care

Sleep, good nutrition, contact with others that care about you, fun and humor all provide the energy you need to solve problems and get out from under. Positive energy has to be coming in both to the physical body and to the spirit so that burnout does not occur. Find a way to get more coming in than is going out. 

Pay attention to your self-talk

Your thoughts will help or hinder you. They will make it easier or harder. Become aware and shift from the negative ones quickly. Here are some: “Sooner or later, I figure it out.” “I find a way that works for me.” “I get the help I need to do this.” “I take it one step at a time.”

More Ways of How to Deal With Overload 

There are a thousand ways to get rid of being overwhelmed. My favorite way is my own Infinite Intelligence Process. See Accessing More–Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process . Another book, Your Unlimited Potential will teach you self-hypnosis, stress management, Walking Mantras, and goal setting. The Emotional Freedom Technique is also very helpful, and I teach it to ALL my students and clients. 

Questions? 

Call me: Roxanne Louise at 434-263-4337 or email me at RoxanneLouise2@gmail.com. 

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