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Dowsing on Goals – Big and Small

23 Jan 2019 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in American Society of Dowsers, goal setting, personal achievement

Goals come in all categories, big and small, short and long-term, internal and external, and dowsing can help with all of them.

Added to what is already known about successful goal setting like SMART goals from business coaches and motivational speakers, and manifesting principles from the New Thought Movement, is the importance of tapping into and listening to the voice within to identify:

your core values,
your direction in life (this is your core intention also called your ‘why’), and to
develop and receive on-going guidance and support in following that path from the inner voice of wisdom within.

This allows for amazing things to happen that are also deeply soul satisfying.

On the mundane side

You can write down your short term goals (daily or weekly). This is your ‘to do’ list that is a reminder of both what has to be done right now and what you would like to accomplish today. You can then dowse out your priorities of what to focus upon, and the order in which to tackle them. You can dowse over the yellow pages, a Google listing, Angie’s List, to determine who to call for help. As problems come up to be solved, you can write down a list of possible reasons and another on possible solutions, and dowse these lists out.

Identifying and Clearing Resistance

If you encounter inner resistance on attending to important tasks, or goals that you say you want or need to do, you can use dowsing charts and checklists to locate the reasons for self-sabotage or procrastination: negative beliefs, judgments, doubt and fear, bad memories, and unresolved upsets or trauma. Should you find any of these inner underlying reasons for being stuck, you can then dowse with clear intent to heal, clear or otherwise to resolve them.

You can also dowse for your level of allowance versus level of resistance for accomplishing any given task or goal. This is done using a percentage chart. With dowsing you can both ask to raise your motivation or level of acceptance of that goal, or lower your resistance to it doing the work – providing that doing so is acceptable on the ‘soul’ level.

Why you need to find your ‘Why’

Whatever your goal, you cannot ignore your soul desires or push against your ‘prime directive’. After a prolonged time of being severely off course and ignoring all the warning bells, your soul can revolt, perhaps setting up ‘accidents’, illness and other serious problems as an ‘opportunity’ for you to reconsider what you are doing and correct.

Dowsing medium to long-range goals

List what you would like to achieve in the major areas of your life: health, love, relationships, family, home, community, fun/recreation, travel, work, financial, personal growth, spiritual, etc. These would include those things that you want to achieve this year, over the next 5, 10 or lifetime goals. Then go inside and dowse out the strength of strong motivating energy each goal has for you consciously, subconsciously, and finally on a soul level. Focus your efforts on those with the biggest energetic pull.

Goals fall into categories:

internal or external – you decide what you want or need to do, or someone else sets them and requires you to comply.
have deadline dates for completion or are open ended.
have strong negative consequences for not doing them or are without sufficiently clear negative consequences
have strong positive payoffs that motivate you towards action or lack sufficient rewards
clearly relate strongly to your core values or don’t
clearly relate strongly to your core purpose/mission/direction in life or don’t
relate to just everyday, routine needs (your ‘to do’ list) or deal with the bigger picture for your life
relate strongly to resolving your on-going issues, negative repeating patterns or not
relate to resolving a crisis or emergency situation or not
relate to creating balance in all areas of life or are just focused on one area

One reason that New Year’s Resolutions fail is when they are often just things that ‘would be nice’ if they happened. They may sound good, but lack real strategy, a deadline to finish, or a burning desire to see it to the end. They may sound like things your mother would like you to do like ‘clean up your room’.

What’s your passion?

Goals that tend to get done even when they require tremendous effort are those for which you are committed. You have burning desire – like getting married, or moving into your own home.

I have lots of examples of this from my own life. So watch for an upcoming blog coming soon called “Under, Over, Around and Through”.

Dowsing the Big Picture

Dowsing can also assist you to assess your skills, talents, personality traits, preferences, likes and dislikes, and narrow down your interests to help you identify your life path and primary goals. This is the part that Mark Hurwich and I will spend most of our time discussing on a free teleconference call February 12.

COMING UP: Free Teleconference sponsored by the American Society of Dowsers.

On Tuesday, February 12, Mark Hurwich, who helps people discover their Core Intention, and I will be discussing an expanded version of goal setting applied to dowsing that includes “Finding Your Why” . The time is 8 PM Eastern. While anyone can listen live, the recording will be available for Members only.

Call information:

Dial (646) 876-9923, enter Participant Code# 443-333-280, & press # at next prompt.

Copyright 1/2019 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

Finding Your Why!

18 Jan 2019 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, goal setting, habits, personal achievement, problem solving

The end of December and beginning of January are traditional times to reflect on the year past and set goals for the year ahead. People think about getting rid of bad habits and accomplishing a long list of things that they have never been able to do before. Yet unless they do something different, it is likely that these goals will not get done this year either.

New Year’s Resolutions tend to wither on the vine before February rolls around. Setting goals, making ‘to do’ lists, and having the best of intentions are simply not good enough. You have to have a big enough reason, a reason to get off the couch, a reason to do a bunch of things you don’t like or are outside of your comfort zone especially when you are tired, stressed, or there is a good movie on Netflix. This is what I call finding your ‘why’.

Why New Year’s Resolutions and Goals Fail

In an earlier blog article “When Goals Lack Luster”, I addressed part of why people do not achieve what they would like. Here they are:

The goals are not really your goals. They sound good but really belong to someone else, hence, they don’t inspire you to take action.
Internal conflicts – there is a part of you that wants it, but also a part that doesn’t. Until you resolve it, you are literally fighting yourself.
You either do not have a big enough reason or cannot see the connection to your core values or soul path to do the work necessary and overcome whatever challenges are involved.
Negative beliefs, assumptions, and judgments
Not knowing how to achieve these goals, who to turn to for help, the first steps to take, and not having faith that you can figure these things out as you go along.

But here, I would like to address #3 — finding the underlying reason why you want what you want especially focusing on your core values and primary life direction. This reason, which I call your ‘Why’ also relates to ‘Relevant’ in SMART goals listed below.

What are SMART goals?

SMART is an acronym for each element that needs to be in place for goal achievement:

Specific (clear, concise goals writen down and described in detail),
Measurable (allowing you to track your progress with end date in mind ),
Achievable (challenging yet doable),
Relevant (fit in with your core values, overall life plan or purpose), and
Time-based (with dates for each part of the process).

To Achievable listed above, I would add that you need to BELIEVE that this goal is achievable even if no one has done it before, and you don’t have a clue yet how to do it yourself.

Setting SMART goals is commonly talked about in business circles because it takes goal setting out of the realm of fuzzy thinking into a clear action plan enhancing the likelihood of results.

A recent example of finding your WHY:

Right after Thanksgiving I took a train from Charlottesville, Virginia to New Jersey, picked up my son’s van and most essential belongings and drove about 3200 miles or 8 hours/day most days for 8 days to get them out to California in time for my son to start work at a job that he had only just gotten only a couple of weeks before. I had to hustle to schedule, organize, instruct caretakers for my farm, get animal houses cleaned, feed purchased, and everything ready, including getting my other businesses taken care of to make this happen.

Now, I should tell you that I hate driving and dislike leaving home especially when I don’t know where I am going and have to set up my own travel arrangements and accommodations along the way. I procrastinate endlessly when I have to go somewhere, usually waiting until the last moment. I worry incessantly about other people taking good care that my pets and farm animals are kept safe, well fed and sheltered appropriately, greenhouse and other plants watered, doors locked, etc. There are enough problems and emergencies that come up when I am here all day for me to tell you that these fears are based in reality.

And yet I offered to do this. Why? I had a big enough reason. I saw it as the only realistic solution that would allow my only child to start his wonderful new job on time, a job that would enhance the well-being of his entire family and fulfill their cherished dreams. And because of that reason, I put everything aside and got it done.

As a hypnotherapist, I work with a lot of smokers. Most important to their success is in having them identify their ‘why’. What do they want more than a cigarette? No one stops smoking because it is a good or healthy thing to do, or it costs too much, or other people are nagging them. No one stops even if doctors tell them that they have to stop. Lots of people continue to smoke after heart attacks, getting emphysema or cancer. They only stop when they want something MORE.

When your reason is clear and big enough, anything is possible. You will amaze yourself and others with what you can do.

So as you look at your year ahead and what you would like to see happen this year, ask yourself

What is my ‘Why’?

Once you know that, then ask

And if it could work, how would it work?

When Goals Lack Luster

09 Jan 2019 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in American Society of Dowsers, attitude, Dowsing, Dowsing and Self-Help, goal setting, problem solving, self help

Confronting Your Malaise

Sometimes knowing what you want is fuzzy. Perhaps you have a vague feeling of wanting something more. Maybe you feel bored, stuck, dissatisfied, restless or uneasy in your present situation, job, relationship, home, location. While some people just ‘suck it up’ and push forward with their normal routine anyway, thereby keeping their job and relationships intact, others self-medicate with food, booze, entertainment, etc. Some quit their jobs, leave their spouse, and go off to ‘find’ themselves and explore different options without any serious thought or destination in mind.

But staring your malaise in the face to clarify what is going on, and what you authentically want as opposed to what your family, society and the advertisers always hungry for your wages have programmed you to want, is something every adult needs to address in order to achieve real life satisfaction. Next follows the need to develop and follow a plan to make it happen.

**External versus Internal Goals–what do you want?**

Many times a person doesn’t achieve or follow through with their goals because they are not excited or inspired sufficiently to undertake the long-term and sustained action required for real achievement. Such goals may sound good. They may bring the approval of friends and family. While such goals may fall into the category of being ‘practical’, ‘realistic’, socially respected, and lead to financial security, it is still important to tie anything to which you are going to be spending a lot of time, money, effort on doing to ultimately lead to deep, internal satisfaction for you. And while the road to your goal might involve learning and mastering a lot of things that do not interest you, it is doable IF you

keep your WHY in central focus.

For example, when I decided that I wanted to become an opera singer, the training required not only voice lessons, but piano lessons, music theory, learning foreign languages, dance and movement classes, memorization, and practicing vocal scales – the most boring of all. But I had supportive friends that sent me a card that inspired me. The card started with a fund-raising brochure put out by the Metropolitan Opera in NYC. The front pictured a legendary fat soprano with the words “The MET needs you!” To this, my friends put my name. So the card now read “The MET needs you, Roxanne”. This sat on my piano music stand encouraging me to do those ‘stupid’ scales. Oh, as postscript, I did go later to work at the MET first as Executive Secretary to the Orchestra Manager, and later singing onstage in the chorus multiple times with visiting reknown ballet companies.

What Mama (or Dad) Wants

Many parents insist that their offspring follow goals that they have chosen for them – doctor, lawyer, Indian Chief. These include academic, sports, or creative as well as professional pursuits.

For example, in my youth, many children were unwillingly pushed into music lessons and the daily practice. But even though the goal was external to the child, that child may have later developed their own joy of making music and pursued it willingly, developing enough skill to please themselves and others. And whether music became a professional pursuit later on or not, that forced musical education had multiple benefits in teaching self-discipline, striving for excellence, appreciation for music and creating something of beauty. It might have also become a satisfying hobby or part-time way of making additional money. The same can be true of other externally applied goals.

But long term, trying to live out someone else’s dream or goals for you tends to lack passion and backfire even if on the surface it sounds laudable and your head says that you should want it. Like so many New Year’s Resolutions, the work towards such goals peters out unless it is clearly seen as a means to an end you really want for yourself.

If the driving motivation of ‘nice’ or ‘should goals’ is external and not coming from inside your core self, knowing then how to communicate with your core self is hugely helpful to clarify the direction of your long-term and soul satisfying path.

Obstacles, or why don’t you have what you want already?

Perhaps, after embarking upon your own goals, you run into a problem or conflict you didn’t know you had. For example, in a hypnosis seminar, the instructor asked us all to visualize a personal goal as if we already had achieved it. Mine was to be able to buy a big, beautiful house. Initially thrilled imaging that this house was mine, I then noticed that I was quickly disquieted. Who was going to clean it? I have always disliked housework. I would have to hire people to help me, and this brought up an uncomfortable feeling of having ‘servants’, of being the employer, boss, of being on elevated position over others, telling others what to do. Where did this come from? Had resentment against the ruling class, of master versus slave, boss versus worker, lord versus peasant somehow creeped into my DNA from ancestors past? Had I identified from characters in books, history class or had I had unpleasant experiences in possible past lives?

Whatever the source, internal conflicts will always sabotage your efforts and have to be resolved.

But even once you know what the conflict is, you may not know how to resolve it. There may be aspects to achieving your objective that involve learning new things, developing knowledge or skills in which you have no interest or actively dislike. You may lack belief in yourself to overcome them. Such challenges may bring up past humiliation or pain.

You have to have a big enough reason to overcome challenges. Why do you want what you want?

Without a clear, driving vision of the end goal and the belief in yourself that you can overcome whatever challenges that come up, you will lose momentum. Obstacles have the potential of putting your dreams into the closet where they gather dust and die if you don’t have the tools, the belief in yourself, the motivation and vision to get through the challenge. Knowing how to brainstorm for solution is a big help here with dowsing being of major assistance.

Journaling for Goal Setting and Problem Resolution

Writing forces you to clarify things. Write down one question at a time and then attempt to answer it. If you don’t know how to dowse, journal. In journaling, write as if you were speaking bluntly with a trusted friend without any self-censorship. Then go back and reread everything you have written, rewriting it ever more concisely until you can sum up the essence into a short paragraph or sentence and you feel comfortable that you have ‘nailed it’. If not, keep writing until you do.

Challenge negative beliefs

Where you find negative beliefs or judgments, worry or fear, challenge them. Who says you can’t ____? Who says that it’ll never work? Instead, ask the question:

If it could work, how would it work?

Every goal has challenges, and every challenge is a call for you to rise to the occasion and grow. Going through the process leads to increased abilities, confidence, self-esteem and a real feeling of accomplishment.

Another way to resolve your malaise is to just focus on a question in meditation or self-hypnosis and let it roll around in your mind without needing an immediate answer. I do this through the Infinite Intelligence Process, which is a modality I have put together in a book entitled Accessing More – Tapping Into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process.

Under the section called ‘Connect’, there is the opening phrase, “There’s a part of me that knows _____, and that part is _____ (guiding me now, bringing that information into conscious awareness, assisting me to do this in a way in which I am really pleased, etc.).” Here again, just allow yourself to drift into a meditative/self hypnotic state. Hold the question in mind without needing an answer. Over time, your subconscious mind will bring things to your attention, and synchronicities will occur.

Below are some sample questions to ask:

Why am I feeling ____ regarding ____?
What is underneath this feeling of _____?
If I could support myself anywhere, where would I want to live?
How could I support myself living in ____ (name of location)?
How could I support myself doing ____ while living in ____?
If I could support myself doing anything I like, what would be most satisfying to my soul?
What does my spirit want to do ____ (now, short term, long term, as my life’s work)?
What kind of work can I do right now that would help me to eventually be able to do/become ____ in the future?
What kind of work is most in keeping with my soul desired life’s path?
What kind of work combines my main interests and abilities?

Writing Dowsing Charts and Checklists

Finding the right answers starts with asking the right questions.

In my opinion, dowsing is the fastest way to gather information, determine the underlying dynamics, and solve problems of any sort. Start with writing down your question on the top of a page. Next, brainstorm possible answers in a list format or spread out in a fan or circle format. Include the word ‘other’.

If you are working with a list, then turn the page to the side so the widest part of the page is on the horizontal line. Without looking at the words, but either with relaxed eyes staring into space, or focused at the bottom of the page, hold the pendulum in your hand and let it pull your hand in the direction of the appropriate line. Then look, and read what it says.

For example, if you were trying to figure out your emotions, you would list possible emotions, including the word other. Then you would ask:

What is the main reason I am feeling ____ about ____?
What is the next main reason I am feeling ____ about ____?

Continue, until there are no more emotions indicated.

Next, because emotions come from beliefs, judgments or thoughts, write a list of possible ones, such as “people should (or shouldn’t) do ____”. Then dowse:

What is main thought or judgment underneath this feeling of _____?

What is next main thought or judgment underneath this feeling of _____?

Keep brainstorming and dowsing until you have a complete picture. Then work on addressing/healing any issues uncovered. Some of this work will entail straight forward problem solving, such as the below:

Who can help me with ____?
What are my next steps? (dowse out priorities)
Is anything preventing me from moving forward with this?
How motivated am I to do what it takes to accomplish this goal?
Do I have any fears or limiting beliefs that ___ (are likely to, could) sabotage me in achieving this? If you get a ‘yes’, brainstorm what they might be and dowse out.
How can I make this required task easier, interesting or even fun?

Working below the level of conscious awareness

In some cases, you will not identify the cause of your malaise or failure. I then suggest turning over the healing/resolution to what some call the ‘healer within’ or one’s spiritual dimension. I do this again with the Infinite Intelligence Process as listed earlier, “There’s a part of me that knows… and is doing so now.”

But there is another part to that process that is called “Process”. It installs a stress management program either with dowsing, meditation or hypnosis and then turns the healing over. For example, “From the perspective of my High Self, process and ____ (heal, clarify, release, resolve) ____ in a way in which I am really pleased.” If I am doing this with dowsing, I add “Take action now with the pendulum, and let me know when it is complete.” Both techniques are fully described in my book Accessing More–Tapping Into the Wisdom Within with the Infinite Intelligence Process.

In conclusion,

Overcoming malaise and obstacles in reaching your goals is made infinitely easier when you have a big enough ‘why’, when they are your goals, and you work with your inner resources every step of the way. I look forward to hearing about your own journey.

Copyright 1/9/2019 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

When You Lose Everything

10 Dec 2018 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, gratitude, mindfulness, problem solving

The devastating fires in California that destroyed the entire town of Paradise, and destroyed thousands of homes, businesses and neighborhoods in multiple other locations throughout the state, brings up the question, what do you do when you lose everything–your home, your livelihood, your community, all of your possessions, everything you worked so hard over the years to create, your way of life, and, in some cases, even the lives of your loved ones?

Whether because of storms, natural disasters or war, illness, collapse of the economy or infrastructure, many throughout the world have faced this question. The shock and the grief can be so overwhelming that it can be immobilizing precisely when swift action is required. Such shock severely impedes the clarity of mind to know how to move forward now and the will to do so. And it can set up more problems including illness later on.

So what do you do?

The immediate issues are clear:

find and remove yourself and loved ones from immediate danger
secure the basic necessities of food, water and shelter
gather your family, friends and neighbors around you to hold and support one another
find out about community resources
organize with others to deal with the immediate emergency
salvage what is left and assess what is gone
cleanup the debris

But then what?

An important component to moving beyond the devastation is your interpretation of the events. If you accept it as a force of nature that you could have done nothing to prevent, you will much more easily be able to move on from the loss. But if you blame yourself, that guilt or self-condemnation will drain your energy making responding effectively harder and calling for self-punishment. If you blame someone else, your resulting anger, rage and possible hatred, while mobilizing you to take action, will have a punishing effect upon your health and relationships. And if you wallow in grief, it also will consume you. And then, you may vacillate among all of the above in soup of emotions that is hard to process.

Accepting what cannot be changed helps

Acceptance does not mean that you like the situation. It does instead recognize that you cannot afford to squander your time, energy or momentum by hoping that it is all a bad dream and you will open your eyes and everything is back the way it was. All the tears and wishing it were not so will not change anything. You must conserve your energy and stay focused.

“Since this has happened, what do I want to do now?

What is my next step?”

You do not need to know the answer. You have only to hold the question in mind and then do something, anything.

Something helpful is to affirm that you have inner resources and wisdom, creativity and problem solving ability beyond your conscious awareness. You have an internal guidance system, your personal GPS, that gives you hunches, and sets up synchronicities. I believe you have a spiritual guidance system as well. You can relieve stress by turning your predicament over to your internal and spiritual guidance with affirmative statements such as:

“There is a part of me that knows how to ____ and is doing so now.

There is a part of me that knows the next, right step to take and how to proceed. And that part is guiding me now with grace and ease.”

You can as did the character Scarlett O’Hara in Gone With The Wind shake your fist at heaven and make a vow that somehow you will never experience anything like this problem again. I prefer to yell at the beneficial heavenly forces:

“Turn this into a blessing!”

The glass may be half empty, but the glass is also half full!

You may think that you have lost everything. But if you are alive, that is not true. Assess what you have left – friends or family, your health or important parts of it, intelligence, skills, creativity, problem solving ability, network of who to call for help, and most important – your very life itself.

Maybe you can find a scrap of humor – what we call black or dark humor – that which comes out of the depths of despair. For example, before this happened, did you want to de-clutter? Well, now you have done it! If you were thinking of moving, now you are going to! If you wanted to remodel, well now is the time!

Thomas Edison, inventor of the light bulb, phonograph, and many other things lost over half of the buildings in his West Orange, New Jersey laboratory after an explosion and resultant fire. Damages in 1914 reached seven million dollars, with only two million covered by insurance.

Edison vowed, “Although I am over 67 years old, I‘ll start all over again tomorrow.”

When a reporter asked him how he felt, he responded that there was value in a fire in that it lets you start again. Not only that, but in watching the fire, Edison was inspired to create a new invention.

“within two days, Edison had also finalized design of a portable searchlight whose three million candlepower beam would be visible for miles. In the midst of the catastrophe, Edison had noticed how the firefighters were hampered by the loss of power and light. He puzzled over the problem and came up with the battery driven light source idea and design. At age 67, Edison’s pace of work and inventions had slowed, but they could hardly be described as declining years. Within six months, Edison was demonstrating his latest invention in a nearby park, attracting curious onlookers who wondered where the bright light was coming from! The old adage that “every cloud has a silver lining” certainly applies here.”

Many times our lives, job or relationships run the full distance and we reach a place where no more growth can be made. It is time to change course, but we resist. Sometimes we are lazy, don’t want to do the work, or just stubbornly cling to what is safe known although even if we recognize that it is a rut. Then a cataclysmic event can come along to catapult us out of the rut and into unknown territory where we have no recourse but to reinvent ourselves and begin again. Hidden in the ruins is an opportunity to ask “where does my soul want to take me?”

In an earlier blog entitled “Blessings in Disguise”, I provided examples of how a major loss can turn out to be a blessing. They can set us on another path – one that is more fulfilling or allows or demands that we grow.

I am not making light of tragedy, or claiming that growth is the reason behind the loss or the justification for it. Nor am I advocating that you ‘buck up’, adopt a ‘stiff upper lip’ or deny your grief. What I am saying is that the only long-term constructive response to loss is to deliberately look for some good to come out of it, and to work to make it so both for yourself and others.

Focus on where you are going, on solution, to making your life or world better in some way. If you focus on what you had and lost, you will like Lot’s wife in the ancient Biblical story of Sodom and Gomorrah, be consumed.

At every moment, you are creating your life story. What do you want your epitaph to read?

“Here lies John Doe. He had everything and lost it all. Unable to move on, he became morose, angry and bitter, turning to drink for comfort. He died alone having alienated his remaining friends and family “.

Or ….

Every challenge calls us to rise up and dig down deep inside to find the strength and courage to take action having no guarantees of success, no assurance that the ground will rise up to greet us as we take those first steps.

Courage is facing the fear and doing what is needed anyway. It is being knocked down and standing up again. We are called to trust that small voice within, and follow its subtle lead. If others have suffered as well, we are also called to help them. Together we are stronger. As we work together, we are healed.

Find a reason

Heroes are born on the front lines where it is hard. Many never rise to the occasion, or they stumble and fall never to get back up. Overcoming devastating loss is a daily choice to action and attention to attitude. It is assisted by a faith that life can be better and that you can do something to make it so and that it is worth the effort.

It is the Mama Bear that finds her strength to rescue her cubs, or the fireman that rushes into danger to save others. Such actions are born from love, from a belief that life is worth saving, that life is worth living, and that despite the pain, cruelty and evil, that there is much good and beauty in the world. A vision of that better world or a big enough reason mobilizes the will to start again.

Find your reason to rise and then rise again, and gather others around you to support your resolve.

Copyright 11/2018 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

Healing Meditation

17 Nov 2018 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in blocks to healing, gratitude, health, mental/emotional healing, mind-body healing, physical healing

LISTEN HERE: Healing Meditation – 12 minutes

The key to receiving healing energy is to be in a receptive state. This you do by by relaxing, letting go of tension and upsetting emotions such as fear, and to elevate your mind and emotions into a state of gratitude, love, joy, and awe.

Start with taking a few deep breaths. With each exhale intend to let go of any muscular tension, and allow your body to sink into the furniture.

Next focus on those things for which you are grateful. These can be simple things – food, shelter, a hot shower or a cup of hot tea. Besides feeling grateful for all of those things that you have now, you can also think about those things for which you had in the past providing that the emotion arising from those memories make you feel that you were blessed instead of making you sad. Sadness, guilt and shame drain your energy. And anger, resentment, blame block it. But gratitude, love, joy, humor, and especially awe, increase it.

Image two giant hands cradling your body, supporting you, infusing you with love and life-giving energy. And as these hands lift you up, let all unnecessary stress drain away.

Further information: see our other articles at UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com .

Listen also to Podcast: “Dowsing for Mind-Body Healing”

When You Are Triggered…

14 Nov 2018 2 Comments

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in anger management, clearing non-beneficial energies, Dowsing, healing your past, mental/emotional healing, self help, stress management, The Infinite Intelligence Process

With todays highly charged politics and a media that panders to fear and sensationalism, it is easy to get triggered. Already stressed out with the pressures of your own life, and overwhelmed with everything you need to do to keep your life afloat, you may find yourself emotionally worked up over someone else’s life or problem because it resonances with something deep inside of yourself.

Because of your own history and sensitivities, you may automatically sympathize with one person, group, issue or cause you think is a victim of injustice, and get violently angry with another you prejudge as aggressor frequently before you know all the facts and even despite the ‘facts’. That is because your emotions are really about you and something similar that has happened to you, your loved ones, ancestors or tribe in this lifetime or the distant past that was never resolved, healed and put to rest.

Whether you are particularly sensitive to the slightest hint of racial, religious, gender, tribal, national or ethnic prejudice, the trauma and injustice of the past may be hard wired into your DNA. You may have absorbed and taken upon yourself the injustices done to your ancestors long since dead (even generations or centuries dead) as if it happened to you personally.

A sure hint that the root cause of your upset lies within yourself is when your emotional reaction is excessive to the current situation, when you can’t let it go, when it doesn’t really effect your personal life, and when it happened long ago, perhaps even before you were born.

Every emotional reaction you experience, every evil and type of injustice that exists today, has occurred before, many times over, and often, many times worse. But because it is occurring again, you suffer much more than perhaps the current situation warrants. If you can heal the prior occasions, your reaction will be only to what is happening now, not added on top of what happened years, generations or lifetimes ago.

What to do about it

When you are triggered by events whether personal, local, national or global, try to:

Identify the issue or type of event. Name it.

List some possibilities on paper. If you know how to dowse, then ask if you have any stuck energies on that issue, and the percentage or the degree to which you do. If you don’t know how to dowse, then quiet your mind, and in meditation start asking some questions. Suggestions are below.

What is underneath this upset?
Where did it come from?
Did it originate with me or with my family, my ancestors, my tribe?.
Show me the root cause.
What wisdom can I extract from it?
What positive things can be gleaned?
How can I use this situation to grow, to be a better person?
How can I turn it into a blessing for myself or others?
How can I look at this situation so it doesn’t bother me nearly as much?
What is the big picture here?

Hold a willingness to look honestly at yourself. Intend to extract some wisdom or value from both the current event and any experiences of a similar nature. That learning can include an understanding the underlying dynamics, why something may have happened, and perhaps an idea to prevent it from happening again or lessen that possibility. It might mean noting that changes need to be made within yourself even if changes are needed within the larger community.

Rather than immediately assigning blame of who is wrong and needs to be punished, consider that what you judge may also reflect a quality inside yourself.

Doreen Virtue taught me to say: “I recognize and forgive in myself what irritates me about you.”

This is related to ‘the shadow self‘ explained at length by psychiatrist, Dr. Carl Gustav Jung and author Debbie Ford. The ego avoids self loathing by denying the existence of faults within the self while projecting those same faults onto someone else. There is a theory that when internal faults that are hidden, ignored, or denied, that this will attract people who share these faults as the soul’s attempt to get you to look at yourself. As you admit your own faults and forgive yourself, you will have greater tolerance of others. Even better, as you heal those faults, you will more likely attract others who have likewise worked on healing their own issues.

The ancient Hawaiians had a practice of forgiveness and reconciliation called Ho’oponopono. This practice was later simplified by Dr. Hew Lin and popularized by Joe Vitale. In the original practice, a shaman and members of the family or community would gather around a person and take responsibility for what had happened to or by that individual, and ask for his forgiveness. While he was a prison psychiatrist, Dr. Lin would sit with the file folders of various inmates and repeat “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.” This was done over a period of time without actual inmate contact. Yet this simple practice resulted in such improvement in these prisoners that they were later released.

If practicing Ho’oponopono without relaying that information to an individual still has a positive effect upon that person, it may because of quantum entanglement. While the idea taken from physics of quantum entanglement refers to the interaction of particles at a distance, some think that this interaction extends to humans as well – that everyone and everything is somehow intertwined. Is it too far a stretch to think that what happens to you effects me and vice versa, and maybe even what I think and feel effects you and vice versa? If so, then if you want to change the world, start with changing yourself.

However, if you also believe that changes have to be made within the community and it’s systems or the larger systems outside your locale, take some constructive action because it will go a long way to healing your upset.

Focus on what you can do of a positive, practical nature locally to start the process.
And, again remember that the changes you would like to see in the world involve making changes within yourself.
Meditate or dowse to transmute any trauma or upset you personally suffered recently.
Clear any other experiences you remember from your past.
Hold the intention to clear any other experiences you do not remember whether in this lifetime or another.

You can do this through hypnosis, meditation, the Emotion Code, or the Infinite Intelligence Process that I developed. See my book, Accessing More for instructions on how to do this.

Clear those upsets/issues of a similar nature of your ancestors in this lifetime or another, and that experienced by your tribe.

Again, you can do this through the Infinite Intelligence Process, the Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson, or through dowsing (see my pendulum dowsing manual, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing).

Refocus on the positive opposite that you would like instead.
Finally, take action no matter how small to move towards what you would like to see in the real world.

Recent Example

Let’s take the high emotional charge attached to the Kavanaugh proceedings. I bring it up only because it was recent and because I found myself being triggered. I will not discuss the politics or merits of either side, but rather illustrate how to take any triggering event to recognize and clear non-beneficial or stuck energies within yourself. This is important because if you are being triggered, you cannot be objective or think clearly, sleep easily, enjoy peace of mind or anything else until you do heal, transmute, rebalance, or clear it.

There were multiple possible issues here. If you were triggered, you might ask yourself, if you are carrying any unresolved, stuck energies of your own from this or any other lifetime, or if you are carrying those of an ancestor, loved one, or tribe.

Ask the following questions one at a time starting with “have I ever …..?” After you are finished, repeat the same questions with ” have any of my loved ones..?” Next, ask “am I carrying any trauma from my ancestors regarding….?”

Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) ever been assaulted or lived in fear of same?
Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) suffered sexual abuse, rape, or fear of same?
Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) been a victim of violent crime?
Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) suffered greatly because of not being believed, but rather ridiculed or punished for speaking up about some wrongdoing?
Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) suffered greatly because of not being heard or fear of not being heard because ____ (I ___ am/was), they ____ (are/were) ___ a (man/woman, member of lower standing caste/group/tribe)?
Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) ever suffered after being falsely accused of some misdoing, crime or serious violation?
Has ____ (my, my loved one’s, ancestor’s) reputation, business, standing in the community been destroyed because of false accusations perhaps through politics or someone else’s dislike or personal agenda?
Have ____ (I, my loved ones, ancestors) received threats or ___ (suffered, been captured, imprisoned, tortured, or killed) because of false accusations?

If so, then in meditative state, hold the clear intention as follows. If you know how to dowse, then work with a pendulum to indicate your progress.

“There is a part of my being that knows what positive learning I can extract from any this experience of ____ that ___ (I/they) have suffered (or was afraid of suffering). Take action now, and let me know when that is done.“
“There is a part of my Being that knows if I or anyone close to me in this or another incarnation have ever suffered _____ or lived in fear of suffering ____. And that part is extracting the positive learning from each and every one of those experiences so that it is unnecessary to ever experience it again. Take action now, and let me know when that is done.”
There is a part of my Being that can transmute, heal, and clear all trauma attached to each of these experiences that I and my ancestors have had, so that there is no longer any need to attract more of these experiences. Take action now, and let me know when that is done.”
Envision the positive opposite in the future as if it already exists. Follow this with powerful affirmations statements while meditating or dowsing.

“There is a part of my Being that knows what is mine to do to create a world where _____(there is trust and mutual respect) and is guiding and motivating me to take appropriate steps now.
or “There is a part of my Being that chooses to create a world where _____. And that part is working on it. Take action now, and let me know when that is firmly in process.”
“There is a part of my Being that knows who else might benefit from any of the healing we have done today and is reaching out to their High Self to duplicate whatever is useful in the way it is helpful and only helpful. Take action now, and let me know when that is done.”

Copyright 11/2018 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

You can dowse!

10 Nov 2018 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in American Society of Dowsers, Central Virginia Dowsers, Dowsing, Dowsing and Self-Help, problem solving

Dowsing is the art of quieting the mind and turning inward to deliberately seek very specific information, which while not known consciously is nonetheless available in the vast sea of consciousness in which all information is already known and everyone is connected.

Sometimes called water witching, rhabdomancy or radiesthesia, it is an natural form of divination to which everyone can learn to develop. The body reacts to the answers of questions asked with subtle body sensations or movements, which are clearer when using tools such as L or Y rods, bobber or pendulum.

Your body already senses and knows things unconsciously

Perhaps you remember a time when you had strong gut feelings that correctly warned you of potential danger, or encouraged you to take action and proceed. Perhaps you have been somewhere that had strong good or bad vibes without knowing the history or the people of that place. Maybe you walked into a room and felt immediately uncomfortable although you were completely unaware that an argument had just taken place or that the occupants hated one another.

I remember visiting the home of Jiddu Krishnamurti, an Indian philosopher and writer, in Ojai, California. Now while I was aware that he practiced meditation and wrote books, I knew very little about him. And while I am by nature a serious person, I could not help smiling broadly throughout the site. The house and grounds exuded enormous joy.

My point is that your body has been sensing things right along, and that inborn ability with training and practice can give you good information upon demand with or without a tool such as an L or Y rod, bobber, pendulum or forked stick.

Body Dowsing – the Sway Test

The body itself can be used as a dowsing tool. Here’s how.

First drink some water as dowsing works best when you are hydrated. Stand up and separate your feet comfortably apart. Hold an intention of your body moving in a particular direction when the answer to a question that you ask is ‘yes’. Close your eyes. Without being rigid and stiff, but without deliberately moving either, allow your body to show you it’s ‘yes’ response. Internally say “show me ‘yes’ “. Keep repeating until your body moves and note the direction. Then ask your body to indicate the direction for ‘no’. “Show me ‘no’ “ Unless their polarity is reversed, ‘yes’ for most people is indicated by leaning forward, and ‘no’ by leaning backwards. It may be subtle. Practice until it is a clear response.

When you have a distinct direction for each response, then ask simple questions to which you know the ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer. For example, “my name is ___ .” “I live at ____.” From there you can go on to simple other things for which you can verify after dowsing. For example, “how many quarters are in my wallet?” Then ask “how many nickels? “How many dimes?

Uses of Dowsing

While dowsing is an ancient practice to find water, oil, ore or minerals such as gold, it can also be applied to health, agriculture, business, relationships, forensics, military, and problem solving of all kinds. It can be used to find missing persons, pets, objects, unexploded bombs, unmarked graves, the best location for a home or office, an effective marketing or business strategy, and the best use of your time, energy and resources. It can be used to develop a comprehensive self-care program. It can locate the root cause of issues or problems and determine the best way to address them. However, like everything else, it requires training and practice to do skillfully. But the benefits are well worth the investment.

My passion is in using pendulum dowsing for mental and emotional healing both for myself and my clients. I have adapted it to the hypnotherapy practice and will be teaching hypnotherapists as well as other mental health professionals how to apply it for that purpose an all-day workshop, “Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing” on Monday, April 29 at the upcoming Heartland Hypnosis Conference, in St. Louis, Missouri.

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OTHER RESOURCES:

If you are in the greater Charlottesville, Virginia area, I run a free monthly dowsing group, Central Virginia Dowsers.
Other dowsing groups are listed online. Check out www.dowsers.org.
I have written an entire pendulum dowsing course book, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing.
Listen to the free teleconferences per month through the American Society of Dowsers . I run two – the 2nd and 3rd Tuesdays of the month at 8 PM Eastern (US)
Attend the ASD annual conference, or a regional one as well at other dowsing events.

Memories – True or False

02 Oct 2018 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in brainwashing, Ethics, false memory, Hypnosis, mind-control

(The topic of Memory is prescient because of Dr. Christine Blasey Ford who is accusing Brett Kavanaugh of sexual abuse 36 years ago. This article was originally written in 2000 and presented since at various hypnosis conferences including the National Guild of Hypnotists. I refer to a wave of lawsuits against therapists implanting false memories especially having to do with sexual abuse back in 1990’s and since. I do not cite later lawsuits beyond the date of publication. )

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What is A False Memory and False Memory Syndrome?

False Memory is not just a memory that is without factual base, because indeed it is normal for all of us have problems remembering with historical accuracy, especially of things that happened long ago. It is a false memory of such magnitude that grips the mind of the individual with an intensity that all other personality aspects and indeed the life revolve around it, and the quality of that life suffer enormously. It is an artificially created artifact created out of emotional distress.

As Psychiatrist Paul McHugh states, it is “built out of a personality of mental distress and a cultural idiom that the doctor agrees to and gives a new explanation to the life story that gives justification to the distress.” (Paul McHugh at the 1997 FMS Conference.) He further says that the emotionally disturbed comply with the role because it makes sense to their emotional turmoil. The more patients comply, the more medical authority believe in it, the more medical attention it gets, the more groups support compliance of the social trend. It is “a social trend driven by politics, religious and philosophical ideas that drive it along.”

What is generally called the False Memory Syndrome generally refers to individuals believing with great fervency that they were sexually abused, satanically ritually abused, or abducted by aliens, without any factual evidence that it occurred, and in the face of contrary evidence that it did not occur. Like members of a cult, the mistaken beliefs of a person suffering from False Memory Syndrome are difficult to dissuade. Believers tend to seek out those who confirm their beliefs, and to cut off contact with those who disagree.

A false memory dictates the individual’s identity.

It causes havoc in a person’s life creating nightmares, loss of sleep, indigestion, loss of concentration, breakdown of families and other relationships. It tends to dominate every waking minute of the day. And the more the person dwells upon it, or goes to support groups for other ‘survivors’, or finds others who support them in their mistaken beliefs, the worse the person gets, sometimes to the point of becoming institutionalized and unemployable, and the more their relationships deteriorate. Indeed, any ability of the individual to cope, solve problems, and deal effectively with life severely suffers.

To the degree that therapists aid in creating or maintaining false memories of any kind that cause suffering to their clients or to the family and others effected by that false memory, that therapist is liable.

Those with False Memory Syndrome appear to suffer more and dwell on their past problems more than survivors of true, documented abuse, i.e. the Holocaust or other victims such as Cambodian survivors of the Khmer Rouge atrocities, do. (Victims of Memory, page 522-523) They do not obsessively talk about the painful past even to strangers. Instead, they focus on moving on with their lives, and they seem to laugh more than 12-step groups. True incest survivors keep their experiences as private, and have no desire to think about or relive such memories.

While some people might think that traumatic experiences are responsible for all their problems in life, studies of the impact of child sexual abuse reviewed by sociologists, Linda Williams and David Finkelhor “overall indicate that early abusive trauma and adult functioning have no simple relationship.” (Victims of Memory, page 524.)

Legal Considerations:

Question: “What did the judge say to the therapist dressed in a three-piece business suit?” Answer: “Would the defendant please rise?” (Page 95, Hypnosis and False Memories. How False Memories are Created by Ronald L. Stephens, published by Ziotech.)

During the 1980’s-1990’s, recovered memory therapists urged their clients to sue their parents and others of sexual abuse. However, by the late 1990’s, those accused and the therapists of the accusers were being brought into court. One organization, the False Memory Foundation, is now arguing in Amicus Briefs that the severe injury to patients from scientifically unproven methods, i.e., of memory retrieval, merit malpractice suits. They also argue that therapists employing methods of recovered memory which lead to criminal allegations have a duty to the accused individual. The methods they dispute in memory retrieval are hypnosis, guided imagery, journaling, dream work, body work, & drugs such as sodium Pentathal.

$2.4 Million Out-of Court Settlement in Cool v. Legion Insurance Co., Kenneth C, Olson, et al, Wisconsin, 1997. “Nadeen Cool sued her former psychiatrist for malpractice alleging he induced false memories through hypnosis, was negligent in diagnosing multiple personality disorder, and engaged in dangerous treatment including an exorcism and prescribing drugs that caused her to hallucinate.” (“Legal Corner”. page 8. FMS Foundation Newsletter, April 1997. (“Legal Corner”. page 8. FMS Foundation Newsletter, April 1997.)

$100,000 Out of Court Settlement Paynter v, Septon, Circuit Court, Multnomah Co., Oregon, February 1997:
Former patient Amy Paynter alleged against her therapist, unlicensed social worker Jennifer Septer, ‘failure to recognize and control transference and counter-transference, failure to conduct a reasonable investigation of the facts, and failure to obtain informed consent to use various suggestive techniques, including journaling, dream work, inner child work, verbal suggestion and group therapy…negligently and falsely diagnosed that she had repressed memories of childhood sexual abuse by family members… despite… that she had no memory of such abuse before seeking treatment. Paynter was also falsely diagnosed as having sexually abused her own infant son and other children and was told to report this supposed abuse to her employer, which resulted in an immediate layoff from her job. (“Legal Corner”. page 9. FMS Foundation Newsletter, April 1997)

South Dakota woman, Marine Berry, suing her former therapists and hospital staff for false memories of sexual and physical abuse. Two Pennsylvania therapists will not be allowed to practice therapy for at least a year for using “harmful and dangerous methods” in their therapy practice. New Hampshire Supreme Court, Hungerford v. Jones, No. 97-657, May 6, 1998. Court is considering whether a mental health care provides owes a legal duty to the father of an adult patient to diagnose and treat the patient with requisite skill and competence of the profession when the diagnosis is that the father sexually abused or assaulted the patient, and whether said provider owes a duty to act with reasonable care to avoid foreseeable harm to the father of an adult patient resulting from treatment or other action taken in relation to mental health conditions arising from said diagnosis.

Many courts are now failing to admit repressed memory evidence saying that it is quite controversial, the methods of extracting such memories also questionable, the memories lacking verifiable and objective evidence warranting the discovery rule. They are requiring the substantiation of recovered memories before being admissible. (See FMS Foundation Newsletter, 12/98, pages 12-14 for others) State of New Hampshire v. Hungerford, 7/1/1 997. Engstrom v. Engstrom, 6/18/97. Hunter v. Brown, 11/10/97.

FMS Foundation Newsletter, 12/98, vol. 7 no, 10. “Certainly a person can have a strong emotional reaction to a nightmare, even though no one contends that the dream reflected a factual event. Moreover, paranoids are convinced of the truth of their conspiracy theories and act in accordance with their suspicions. Indeed, a common feature of paranoia is a consistency and durability in the belief of a perceived persecution. The fact that plaintiff firmly believes and emotionally reacts To a perceived memory does not prove the existence of such repressed memory, nor does it show she reliability reported the events she supposedly recalled by plaintiff… the durability of the plaintiffs alleged memory, one of the internal corroborating factors identified by Dr. Whitfield, may be the result of support plaintiff has received from others following her report of sexual abuse… The court finds and concludes chat the so-called “internal corroborative ” evidence does not have sufficient scientific reliability to establish either the validity of the phenomenon of repressed memory or the accuracy of alleged recovered memories of childhood sexual abuse.”

The court now contends that the “Internal Corroboration” claimed by Charles Whitfield, M.D. to be “evidence of veracity” are not. In other words, the following DO NOT PROVE ACCURACY OF MEMORY :

plaintiffs credibility
abreaction or strong emotional reaction to the memory
the consistency of the story
the durability of the memory

The court further ruled that self-reports alone are insufficient to prove the validity of the phenomenon of repression. Also that just because a diagnosis exists in the DSM-IV (the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual used for classifying diagnosis) may indicate some degree of acceptance but not necessarily general acceptance in the relevant scientific community. The manual cannot be considered a scientific manual, either fully complete, or completely valid.

Recall is influenced by degree of attention given it at the time, ie. passing observation or careful scrutiny, volume of stimuli rapidity of experience of stimuli degree of fatigue at the time level of distraction environmental & psychological (cognitive-emotional context in which something was learned and later recalled state dependent learning & retrieval) “in either a hypo- or hyper- aroused state of consciousness is bound to that level of arousal… unless that level of arousal is reactivated, the individual will have only partial recall or even total amnesia for the original experience.” studies with alcohol, amphetamine and barbiturate induced states. State bound information is accessed also with associated symbol–image, melody, or taste. The more similar the context, the greater the recall.

“Unconscious bias is more dangerous than conscious bias. In every witness there is an empire of subconscious loyalties, like and dislikes, preferences and hatreds, some conscious, others unconscious, but all.., affecting what we perceive, how we perceive it, and … how we recall it…. It is not uncommon for an honest and sincere witness to confuse his recollection of what actually occurred with what he has persuaded himself to have happened ..imagination and suggestion co-operating will rewrite the perceptual truth until it is unrecognizable.” (page 274 Forensic Hypnosis)

In many instances they are actually stronger in that they usually operate below our level of conscious awareness, hence beyond conscious control. Suggestions from the press, acquaintances, and interviewing law enforcement officers or attorneys, can all acquire easily and inadvertently alter the person ‘s memory, which he may unknowingly incorporate as his own at a later date. Experienced trial lawyers are often masters of suggestion, even if unknowingly, and can subtly influence a jury as well as a witness.”

These suggestions are routinely used in hypnosis through a process of parts therapy. Parts Therapy, which is an effective technique in dealing with internal conflict, says that laymen understand that there already exists different ‘parts’, ie. the part of them that wants to stop smoking, the part that doesn’t; the part of them that is an effective in one setting, and ineffectual in another. Parts therapists claim that the technique does not create pathological dissociation as they always integrate ‘the parts’ before hypnotic arousal. And yet if a therapist is working with a highly suggestible subject, it is crucial to be especially careful of everything that you say.

Is the client less happy, less effective, less successful in his everyday life because of the therapy he engaged in? If so, then the therapist responsible may have to legally answer for such results.

Bibliography & Resources:

False Memory Syndrome Foundation, 3401 Market Street, Suite 130, Philadelphia, PA 19104-3315 (215)387-1865 or (800)568-8882/ FAX (215) 387-1917. Pamela Freyd, Ph.D., Executive Director. This organization publishes a newsletter listing recent court cases involving false memory. It can provide a recommended reading list. It has videos of prior conferences. It works towards education and changes in the laws to prevent recovered memory testimony. Especially recommended in the 1997 2-day conference videos include Elizabeth Loftus, Ph.D., describing how to install false memories, and Paul McHugh, M.D., John Hopkins.

Victims of Memory. Incest Accusations and Shattered Lives by Mark Pendergrast. 1995. 549 pages. $24.95. Available for a discounted price of $20 through Unlimited Potential.

Hypnosis and False Memories. How False Memories are Created! by Ronald L. Stephens, Msc.D., C.Ht. Published by Ziotech International, 617 High Street, Freeport, PA. 1996.

Making Monsters. False Memories, Psychotherapy and Sexual Hysteria by Richard Ofshe and Ethan Watters. 1994.

Hypnosis. Questions and Answers by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., M. Gerald Edelstien, M.D., Daniel L. Araoz, Ed.D., editors. Published by W.W. Norton & Co., NY. 1986. See “Fabrication in Hypnosis” by Helmut Relinger, Ph.D.; “The Validity of Memories Retrieved in Hypnosis” by Martin T. Orne, M.D., Ph.D., “Past Lives Regression” by Campbell Ferry, Ph.D., Jean-Roch Laurence, Ph.D., Robert Nadon, M.A., and Louise Labelle, B.A., “Age Regression” by M. Gerald Edelstien, M.D.

Forensic Hypnosis. The Practical Application of Hypnosis in Criminal Investigations by Whitney S. Hibbard, M.A., and Raymond W. Worring, M.A., Published by Charles C. Thomas, 1981.

“It’ll Only Take a Moment!”

29 Sep 2018 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Cause and Effect, mindfulness

How many times have I thought those words to my regret!

It started for me many years ago. In the early days after buying this big house, I put water on the stove for tea while I went downstairs to fetch something. But somehow I got distracted with something there that needed doing. When I returned upstairs, the water had boiled away and the bottom of the metal pot had melted all over the stove. Still not learning the lesson to NEVER leave the room when something is on the stove, I have gone on to burn several meals since although I never again melted another pot. However, my son tells me my late mother melted one or two pots on the stove as well.

Anyway, yesterday, it was my worker. He removed the chain around the boards on the front wooden gate. It was there to prevent my big Maremma sheep dogs from escaping should they open the latch — a new trick that their mother had just taught them a few days before. “I’ll only be a moment,” he thought as he walked across the driveway to get feed for the farm animals in the garage. So he did not take the mere second of extra time to replace the chain. Quickly, my two big Maremma pups unseen to him, unlatched the gate and took off, and were out of sight by the time he filled up the feed buckets and came back. As a result, I spent an hour and a quarter driving around a 3 mile radius calling for them before I finally found them and got them home. But the results could have been different as these dogs are unfamiliar with trains, traffic, or the acres of woods around. And people do steal valuable, pure breed animals.

How quickly taking a moment to do something or not do something by ignoring or discounting potential negative consequences can have unpleasant or painful results. Whether you get distracted and lose your focus, take your eyes off what you are doing, or turn your back on someone or something, it can bring enormous stress, aggravation, money, and time consuming extra work. It can mean the difference between getting on the plane or not, between owning something, or it being stolen or lost forever. But sometimes the results are even tragic – leaving a child or animal in the car on a hot summer day, for example. A moment can mean the difference between between health and injury, life and death.

Many years ago, I combined walking my dog with going to the grocery store to buy just a few items. I tied him up outside and went in to do my shopping. When done, I found that someone had stolen my dog. Signs and calling throughout the Boston neighborhood brought no response. Only through great good fortune and timing a couple of weeks later did I happen to again be walking the same route and saw some young people sitting with my dog on the stoop of their apartment building across the wide boulevard. I was lucky to get him back.

Another time, I drove to the train station to pick up my husband. I left the windows open because my teenage son was in the back seat. As the train was late, I got out to wait for my husband on the track. It took just a moment of me being gone for a man to jump into the driver’s seat to try to steal the car. Only my son thinking to hold up his boy scout knife as he addressed the thief made the man flee, and kept my son safe.

Every day we have to make countless quick decisions to do or not do this or that and how or what instead. Nonetheless, there also has to be awareness of potential negative consequences of those decisions and not discount the downside because “it’ll only take a moment!”

Copyright 9/2018 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

No Easy Answers

26 Sep 2018 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, Cause and Effect, Law of Attraction, problem solving

Personally, I get frustrated when people pontificate their personal beliefs as to why they think something ‘bad’ happens, not just to themselves, but generalized across the board to everyone. It doesn’t matter that the ‘bad’ thing is an injury, an illness, the breakup of a relationship or a job, a school shooting, terrorist attack or war. The reasons that led up to that may be as multiple as there are people.

Even if you get positive results by correcting what you think may be the reason, it remains a theory until your correction completely resolves the problem. Otherwise, it may only be a part of the picture. But just because it appears true for you in that specific instance, and even if it is helpful for you does not mean that it is true or going to prove beneficial for everyone.

I have noted that the reasons cited as responsible for any particular problem change over time and over cultures. To me this proves that such explanations are beliefs or theories rather than truth. Some are more popular than others during a particular decade with particular groups – national, regional, ethnic, economic, educational, religious, or political subcultures. Some come straight out of the teaching of a particular movement, guru, book or even a fad. Popularity can never be a criteria for truth.

For example, in the past, it was actively taught that bad genes were responsible for many diseases. But thanks to the work of biologist, Dr. Bruce Lipton, we now know that almost all given genes can be expressed in a number of different ways, and it is the environment (or the perception of it) that determines whether a specific gene with that disease as one of many possibilities will ever express itself in that way.

Dr. Ryke Geerd Hamer, MD proved that specific unexpected, emotional shocks are responsible for specific diseases developing in particular parts of the body at the specific point in time when such shocks occurred. So instead of the person creating the illness, they didn’t have the emotional or other resources at the time to prevent it because they didn’t know how to handle something very upsetting happening outside of them, not of their own creation.

It’s very popular in the New Age Movement to think that you attract or create everything that happens to you. This is more helpful, perhaps, than thinking that you are victim, or that it is God’s will and that you just have to suffer instead of taking active measures to change things. But if you are creating your reality, what about the possibility that everyone else is doing so at the same time, and that these various creations are crossing paths? If according to a theory that everyone is interconnected, what you do effects me and vice versa.

Example:

Perhaps you were hit by a car as crossing the road. Perhaps the hospitalization gives you time to reconsider your life and it’s direction, your relationships, what’s important, etc. That can lead to important changes. Maybe you become more appreciative of others. Perhaps you have to learn patience, tolerance, and compassion for others who also suffer. You may as a result become a better or more pleasant person. It may force you to grow. But does that mean that God or your soul set it up, or that it was destined to happen as a part of your life script? Maybe yes, but maybe no.

Such introspection and positive changes might be your chosen response to the situation, not the reason for it.

You could have responded by becoming angry, hostile to caretakers, impatient, and, consequently, destroying your relationships. You could have become a worse, not better person.

Perhaps the accident teaches you to remember to look both ways before crossing the street, or to not burn the candle at both ends so that you can stay alert to potential danger. Maybe you learn that you need to focus on what you are doing, or to resolve that issue that is disturbing your sleep. Maybe you should not be trying to use the cell phone or text when entering the intersection.

On the other hand, maybe the driver needs also to keep his eyes on the road instead of trying to text as well. Maybe he needs to not burn the candle at both ends, or not drink before driving. Maybe he needs to resolve those issues that are distracting him from paying attention. Maybe he needs an anger management class so that he slows down and is less aggressive while driving.

Maybe there needs to be a traffic light at that busy intersection but the mayor has been slow to address a dangerous situation already known to him.

But does any of this mean that God or the universe set it up, or that you volunteered to get hit so that other people would learn?

You get my point.

That being said,

if there is a reason (and there may be) and you do not get it,
if there is something for you to learn (and there probably is) , and you do not,
if it was intended for you to grow, and you don’t,

my belief is that you will get another opportunity to do so later. In my experience, the universe comes in with a 2 X 4 next time.

Physicist Tom Campbell, author of My Big Toe has a theory, which while very interesting, cannot be reduced to the cause for all problems:

“If a particular occurrence is determined to be an effective learning opportunity for someone or everyone, the probability of it happening is increased. The system is designed to automatically deliver timely custom-fit individual learning opportunities — the presentation of such opportunities to individuals or groups is part of the feedback one receives relative to the choices one makes. Because the point of the system is to overcome fear (about you – high entropy) and replace it with love (about others – low entropy), if you have fear, the feedback system will manifest that fear in PMR [physical reality] to force you to deal with it (learn) or suffer the consequences.”

Yes, I believe things happen for a reason or multiple ones, but such may be more complicated or different than what you think. The causation may be unknowable. Hence, I advise being open minded to other explanations until you fully resolve the issue. And still the answers might be elusive or incomplete. You may get results without understanding why.

The reasons may be such a composite of the environment, the stress and or psychological milieu of multiple other people, the society and the times, so that they cannot be brought down to a single, simple explanation. It can be similar to a recipe – a little of this, a little of that, add in other people, stir it up, wait awhile. The buildup can take lifetimes. The causes can be multigenerational.

In short, I don’t believe in easy answers.

Asking ‘why’, then has only marginal value.

Should you ask it? Of course, because you might well find answers. But also consider that you may be either wrong or incomplete in your analysis. The reasons why might be multiple. Leave room in your mind to be open to additional possibilities that might help.

After asking “why did this happen”, ask:

What positive learning can I gain from this?
What do I want to do to make things better moving forward?
How can I turn this into a blessing for me or someone else?

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