The Value of DEAD- lines

09 Jun 2017 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

Two people I know just died last week. Three notable colleagues, two of whom were mentors, died in the past few months. Many I know are facing health challenges.

There comes a point in our lives where we have a wake-up call. It might be the death of a friend, classmate, or someone else our age. We could be facing a serious illness or fear of one, or have a close call with an accident–some visceral reminder of our own mortality. And if we have important things undone, we are reminded to get about doing it. If there is still music in us, we had better make it now.

Awareness of limited time is your ally!

While no one knows how long we will live or how it will end, at some point, we ask ourself what do we want to do in the time we have left.

What is going to be our legacy?

What have we done, or learnt or experienced that will have made it all worthwhile?

What can we yet do, learn or experience that will give us meaning and joy?

What do we need to heal that will allow us to pass in peace?

What’s on our bucket list?

I was listening to Stephen Cope, psychotherapist and senior yoga teacher at Kripalu, talk about finding your true purpose and leading a passionate life. Cope works with the teachings of the Bhagavad Gita and dharma. Dharma is about finding your true calling and purpose in life found by discovering your unique gifts. 

Cope says that your dharma or calling gives you meaning, purpose and passion thereby ‘saving’ your life. But it damns you if you do not answer the call. I know this well as a former classical singer.

Gifts are a blessing if you use them, and a curse if you do not.

They are meant to be used, whether full time or avocationally, whether at one phase life or another. But they gnaw on your spirit until you do something about it. 

Following your calling has a sense of ‘rightness’ about it. It allows a feeling of flow, a connection with something deep inside of you, a feeling of fully being your authentic self. Not doing so, whether out of fear or self-doubt, or whether you are prevented from doing so by outside force, nags unceasingly at you.

Finding your authentic self

A calling is not necessarily just what you are good at, but what feeds your spirit. It is what makes you feel alive, in the flow. It gives you purpose.

Dharma can change in different stages of your life. And while it might be sensible or even necessary to stick with something because you have amassed some success, seniority, pension and continuing along those lines is easy, you do so at a price of growth, satisfying challenge, and engagement with your own life force.

There have been people throughout history that have in their spare time, followed their passion after-hours. For example, Charles Ives, the first American composer of international stature, worked in the insurance field during the day. 

Some were already successful in one field and switched temporarily or permanently to another. For example, Sir Isaac Newton worked in the British Royal Mint, reorganizing England’s coinage, and then Scotland’s. Charles Lindbergh stopped flying for a while to do successful biomedical research, and developed a perfusion device that kept organs alive and healthy without infection thereby allowing certain surgeries to be done. “Big Bill” Lear of aircraft building fame later invented eight-track tapes and co-designed the first car radio.

What do you feel is yours to do?

Cope says that once you discover your calling, you need to go all in. This will mean a clear commitment, and cutting off of other options. Burning the boats for your escape when things get tough takes great courage. But it will also force you to go forward, and cut out distractions in your day  to day life. This focus is a requirement for your path to flourish.

But rather than being focused on end results, Cope says to turn it over to something bigger than yourself. Let go of small egoic self, get out of the way and let God within shine through you.

Sometimes nature can provide a model. Whether dandelion or rose, gardenia or black eye Susan, flowers know enough to be their authentic self, and hold their head up high, and bloom. I think we can learn from them.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

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Anatomy of My Own Illness

29 May 2017 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

And how it may apply to you.

In early January of 2017, I came down with a severe case of Shingles and have been suffering the debilitating effects of post herpetic neuralgia ever since. While the rash and blisters are now gone, the nerve damage includes a numbness and constant burning sensation on the entire left side of my torso (front and back) from scapula to groin, severe back ache, hard chest wall, bloated abdomen, and the inability to stand, sit upright, or walk for long including just to be able shop. This is despite being very proactive with proper diet, vitamins and other supplements, and 6 different homeopathic remedies, as well as massive work to reduce stress and clear mental and emotion issues. Still, there has been no improvement.

Now I have had an abiding interest in Mind-Body healing for decades and actually am knowledgable enough to speak on this topic at various conferences. But I would prefer not to learn more about it from first hand experience. This health challenge is appears to be some sort of a diabolical research project dumped in my lap with a exam to boot. But in being a detective with my own health history, it may possibly be helpful to you.

There is always something more to understand on this puzzle of 

• what causes illness, when, and to whom

• what provides immunity and good health

• what leads to healing and, hopefully, cure

While I had chicken pox at age 4 (decades ago), I knew nothing about Shingles, it’s evil twin. Consequently, I didn’t recognize the signs. In fact, I mistook the initial symptoms as  something else. The rash began on my spine as a dime size spot in the center of my back that I could neither see nor examine. That caused a delay in getting necessary medical attention in the first couple of days when antibiotics might have worked. When I did feel some small rough spot, I was swamped with work. Then the weekend came, and I put off seeing a doctor until Monday instead of going to the emergency room. In just a few days, the blisters had spread around half of my body.

Logically, there were other explanations for the early symptoms of the severe back ache and malaise I was experiencing including indications over the past year that something was brewing. And because of medically caused deaths of family and friends, I typically reserve allopathic medicine for avenue of last resort. I do, however, respect it’s ability to diagnose and to handle emergency care.

Immediate Lead Up to the Illness

It is important to look at what was going on before the onset of any illness. For example, with cancer, you inquire from six months up to two years before. This reveals the stressors that were there and which may still need to be addressed.

For me, there were a number of things going on with my farm and hypnosis/dowsing business over the past year. I had to put down a dog that I had had for over 12 years. One sow on my farm had 8 piglets stillborn. Another sow had two live births only, but which died within 2 days. Another sow had 6 but only 4 survived. I find dealing with the death of animals very hard. Then I had changes and disappointment with farm helpers, one of whom stole some expensive equipment. I had changes and disappointments with tenants. I traveled and spoke at several conferences, and traveled to visit family several times during the year. There was a great deal of work and repairs going on while I was constantly writing and expanding upon the books already written.

Warning signs of the Shingles started with unexplainable electrical buzzing sensations in one spot in the center of my spine on and off for a year. I thought it was caused by something else. Then last fall I felt another buzzing spot just a few inches to the left of it in addition. This later proved to be the virus moving along the nerve pathway.

Things got worse in December. My live-in farm worker got sick and I had double duty of hard, physical work to cover. Then she suddenly decided to move on only 2 weeks notice, which caused me to frantically search and find someone quick to move in and take over her job. This threatened my ability to leave and spend Christmas holidays with my family out-of-state. Once she was back on the job, I was having symptoms that could have been a heart attack. So I went through a battery of tests, which cleared my heart, but interestingly found a vertebral wedge in the very spot where I was feeling the buzzing sensations.

Just two weeks later, and a few days after the January snow storm and the new tenant moved in, a very severe case of Shingles erupted. The new live-in worker wanted all of the furniture supplied in the two rooms she was to occupy removed. So there was major reshuffling of furniture everywhere in the house. Then as a major snowstorm was about to hit, I worked excessively hard to get massive amounts of firewood in beforehand. My new tenant moved in the morning after the storm, so I had heavy shoveling to do on my own including a good deal of the driveway, even walking up the very long, steep driveway ( .2 mile) several times to lay snow melt down because the moving van started sliding off the road and down the hill and had to be towed out. 

However, despite all of the above, what I think really put me over the edge was the intense hatred, anger, violence going on in the States post 2016 Presidential election, with all the indications of deliberate fanning of the flames by certain factions. This disrupted my sleep. I have heard from several other people who also got physically ill from the political turmoil.

Thinking through your own health history may give you clues as to your own vulnerabilities and, therefore, what needs to be addressed for long-term care.

Before an illness can take hold, there has to be vulnerability from one or more source–even from things that occurred many years ago.

This vulnerability can stem from a

• previous injury/weakness (In my case, a spinal vertebrae that was out of place and degenerating. This is the spot where herpes zoster virus first erupted. But I also had a number of falls especially on the farm, a car accident years ago, and lifelong back issues.)

• previous illness (chicken pox, but also other illnesses with resultant antibiotics and other pharmaceuticals.)

• physical stress or overuse of a part of the body (chronic heavy lifting)

• disturbance of gut flora (two rounds of antibiotics from infection stemming from wisdom tooth removal work in September, but also with a history of candida.)

• weakening of immune system ( gut disturbance)

• toxicity from food, water, air, skin contact

• parasites (in the past)

• man made electrical pollutants –Electrical Magnetic Frequency (EMF), stray electrical voltage, smart meters, cell phones, cell phone towers, microwaves

• radiation – X rays, natural & man made

• emotional/mental stress

• malaise or lack of meaning or purpose  

Healing has to address the underlying vulnerability, not just the disease.

Health History

It has come to my attention that it important to look at the entire health history in order to identify vulnerabilities. In my own case, I had a life-long history of a incessant sweet tooth, resulting in cavities leading to excessive amalgam fillings, root canals, crowns, bridges, and later extractions. Mercury plus high carbohydrate diet, plus antibiotics for various illnesses probably messed up the gut flora, seting up chronic candida, leading to leaky gut, which led to food allergies including one life-theatening one. Before I changed my diet many years ago, I was prone to severe hypoglycemic symptoms. 

I was like everyone subjected to toxicity from multiple sources including air (urban environment, fumes, mold and dust), water pollution (chloride, fluoride, lead and copper pipes, and other), vaccines and pharmaceuticals, dentistry and medicine, pesticides, herbicides.  Then there has been the stress of constant and rapid change, moving many times, keeping up with technology, being a caregiver, family responsibilities, financial issues, death of loved ones, relationship issues and divorce, job and career changes, and the constant overload of information, noise and stimulation of modern life. These are all common issues that wear down our ability to cope with disease.

I got dynsentery three times while teaching in India. While only there for a month, I continued to have issues with parasites for at least a few years afterwards that American doctors were unable to rectify.

On 9/11 I was just 5 miles away from the World Trade Center and I was breathing the dust was all over the streets and my car. One of my clients got killed, and another just escaped. This event was a major stressor that still effects me today because I still see on-going serious problems that were a direct result of that event, and because I see the groundwork for more occurring. While I have done massive emotional release work on it, I still am looking for the answers.

Both breathing the dust from 9/11 and the stress, I am sure, contributed to later incidence of pneumonia. Then I had multiple injuries, some on the farm or before. Mental and emotional stress was a major issue most of my life. Hence, I learned and continue to practice multiple ways to reduce it.

Here’s the point:

In thinking about my own health issues and that of others, I have come to the following conclusion that has relevance for everyone: 

HEALTH PROTOCOL:

• Toxicity has to be addressed. 

This should include not just diet, eliminating food additives/pesticides and GMO’s, but also getting rid of heavy metals and other poisons such as pesticides that may still be in the system. 

• The gut flora has to be repaired.

• Parasites have to be removed if present.

• The immune system has to be enhanced any way possible

• The enthusiasm and joy for life has to be increased that overcompensates for any stress.

• And mental and emotional stress has to be decreased.

In other words, you can’t just address the herpes zoster virus without addressing what made the body vulnerable to it in the first place. 

Dr. Joe Dispenza thinks that healing is possible with changing our thoughts and emotions alone. Certainly, it worked for him and some he has trained. Nonetheless, however important thoughts and emotions are, the other things above make good sense.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

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Disease, Language & Metaphysics

26 May 2017 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in blocks to healing, body language, Cause and Effect, Law of Attraction, metaphysical meaning of disease, mind-body healing, physical healing

Louise Hay & You Can Heal Your Life

Many years ago, Louise Hay wrote Heal Your Body, and then rewrote and expanded upon it  in 1984 with a new title, You Can Heal Your Life. These extremely popular books which are still in print after more than 30 years greatly popularized the belief that you create your own reality, including sickness or health through your thoughts, language and emotions, and that there is a metaphysical connection to problems of all kinds including ill health. By changing your thoughts, correcting your language, and healing your emotions, Hay claims that you can heal your life as well as your body. as she did from cancer.

My Agreement & Disagreement with Hay et al

As a Hypnotherapist, I am well aware of the mind-body connection, and the havoc caused by unresolved emotions and detrimental suggestion. And I know how information gets into the subconscious mind, which includes repetition, strong emotion, authority figures, subliminal messages, and going into a state of trance which occurs naturally many times a day to everyone. And so, I am in agreement with much of Hay’s philosophy, which stems from New Thought Christianity.

Language, emotions, beliefs and judgments form a powerful influence of  upon what happens to us in life. I have also noticed that some people with particular health conditions appear to share many similar traits and issues. And I have noticed that many times the body metaphors that we use in our specific language can have a negative effect upon us. Nonetheless, I argue that:

1. The root cause or contributors to any problem, including illness, are not always knowable or fixable.

However, it is still important to investigate and continue to work towards a resolution. There are many therapeutic interventions that can be done on a ‘can’t hurt’ basis. Even if they do not solve the problem or cure the illness, they can reduce stress, make a positive difference in quality of life and increase peace of mind.

2. While illness may stem from or be aggravated by internal factors of mind or emotion that can be changed by the individual, it may also come from external factors that are outside of their knowledge, influence or control.

3. Addressing emotional issues and cleaning up one’s self talk is always advisable, and is helpful in improving many, perhaps most situations, but it may not necessarily fix or cure any specific problem. 

4. It is arrogant and offensive to take these beliefs and push them onto someone else as if it is truth. And it is short-sighted to close the door on other possibilities even for yourself. Beliefs, no matter how treasured, should be considered as OPINIONS.

They may have some validity for some people, even many. They may even be the key in solving the problem for one or more persons, but necessarily all. Beliefs are theory, not universal law.

5. Explanations as to why things happen and what to do about them, no matter how widely shared, and regardless if they are claimed to come from a divine revelation, are not necessarily correct. 

There has been an age old search for meaning to explain life, why things happen, how we should live, how we fit into the world, and what man can do to survive and obtain health, wealth and other good fortune since the beginning of history. All such explanations change over time. Bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people all the time. 

The Importance of Language

“In the beginning was the Word.” Genesis

Words are powerful. As the quote from the first book of the Old Testament above, creation starts with language. If you desire to have greater dominion over your life, to create more of what you want, and dismantle what you do not such as illness, it is critical to pay attention to your

  • language
  • thoughts especially the unspoken ones
  • feelings
  • beliefs and judgments

Thoughts, feelings, beliefs and judgments are revealed through language.

Listen to yourself

Be scrupulous with statements that start with “I”. The “I” takes ownership of whatever comes afterwards.  “I am ___,” affirms your identity.  “I can’t ___”  strengthens that inability. “I have ___“, owns it. Listen carefully to yourself, even your inner dialog. If you don’t want to reinforce it, don’t say it. Change the words. For example, Hay suggests changing “I should ___” (self judgment/criticism) to “If I really wanted to, I could ___”  (awareness of choice).

Likewise, stop putting anything negative (especially a disease) after the word “my”, such as “my cancer/arthritis/diabetes.” The word ‘my’ takes ownership, holding it close to you. Think of a  little kid clutching a toy and yelling “that’s mine! Don’t you take it away from me!” 

A way to tell the truth about a problem without making things worse is to change from using present tense to past or past progressive tense. For example, I advise clients to switch from  saying “I can’t___”, to “I had or I’ve been having a problem with ___. And what I really want now is to be able to ___” [your positive objective].  Put problems in past tense, and goals in present tense.

Continual repetition of anything becomes part of your subconscious programming. It has a cumulative effect upon your life, positive, negative or mixed. Watch out for body metaphors, figures of speech, expressions in your language that if accepted literally by your unconscious mind could possibly create an undesirable outcome.

Your unconscious is literal and will try to deliver to you according to your words. It doesn’t have a sense of humor or appreciation for colorful language. So it doesn’t understand that you really didn’t mean it when you said that “my head is exploding”,'”I ate so much I could just burst”, or “my time is up”. Likewise, it is unhelpful to say “it takes a long time to heal,” “I just have to live with it,” “there’s nothing I can do.” 

Better to switch to curiosity or possibility. “I wonder if ___,” or “If there was something I could do that would help me ___, what might it be?” “If I could___ (heal/get better/do ___), how would be helpful?”

Always task your unconscious with finding a solution, answers, or help in any area of concern. But it must be done without being frantic or desperate about it. Maintain a relaxed attitude of mind.

Delegate to the wisdom within and let go of it.

Body Metaphors

Consider what effect the following expressions (thought or vocalized) might have with prolonged use on your health:

  • he/she/it is a real pain in the neck,
  • I can’t stomach it,
  • I could just die for__,
  • this job is giving me a real headache.\
  • I can’t live with ___ (or I can’t live without ___).

If a that thought or judgment is highly emotionally charged, it can, especially if negative, have an immediate and lasting impact. Repetition is not necessary if it is internalized.

Metaphysical Meaning of Illness

Hay has done a valuable service in cataloging the metaphysical connections to many health conditions. However, such catalog should be read only as a partial, not definitive list, and as a possibility. Explore it as something to be ruled out on a “can’t hurt” basis, not to be taken as necessarily the true and only cause of the problem. It might apply to you, but then again, it might not. Or it might be partially applicable, but there might be another or much bigger issue or cause/s behind the condition.

Recently, a client of mine was told by her doctor that her breast cancer represented a fear of mothering. This client had been a mother, but that was decades ago. How could it have caused cancer now at 80 years old? 

I find this type of pronouncement problematical. For a start, you cannot find “fear of mothering” on any X-ray or lab test. It’s not like a broken bone sticking out of the skin, but rather a very subjective interpretation. Subjective interpretations or opinions are often wrong. That’s why patients are advised to “get a second or third medical opinion”.

Now, in referring to Hay’s listing of the metaphysical meanings of disease, it would make sense for this client or me as her therapist to use the references listed regarding to both breast and cancer AS A STARTING POINT FOR INVESTIGATION OR DISCUSSION– NOT A PRONOUNCEMENT OF TRUTH OR DIAGNOSIS. Determine if there is any relevance or truth to it and rule it out.

Her doctor might better have said, “sometimes breast cancer relates to issues with mothering, such as to how a woman felt that she was mothered, or about how she felt about taking care of herself or others.” He may have then asked:

  • How do you feel about how you were you mothered? 
  • How did you feel about being a mother and raising your children?
  • How do you feel you did as a mother? 
  • How do you feel about your children now?
  • How do you mother yourself? Do you feel you nurture yourself well? 
  • What feeds your spirit and are you doing it now?”

Then if any unresolved issues were uncovered in the discussion, various techniques could be employed to address them on a “can’t hurt basis”. I teach all of my clients the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) because it is both easy and effective for self-use. 

Any stress that is released (even if it does not refer to the main issue) frees up energy for the body to heal.

In this client’s case, I started teaching her EFT and will on her next visit make a point to clear any possible links Hay lists. For a start, it can’t hurt and it helps to be thorough. But I also told her that the breast refers also to nourishing or feeding anything that she is/has/or could give birth to. This could be her creativity, her writing, or some other very personal expression of the self. So if she, as a writer, made a point of writing on a daily basis, even for just 30 minutes, it could be a part of her healing journey. This could be done just because it makes her feel good.

Anything that feeds the spirit brings in energy that helps the body to heal or to stay healthy if already well.

Detective Work–Looking for a Possible Motive

It is important to consider that Hay’s catalog, or indeed, anyone else’s, is only helpful as a beginning guide in searching for clues as a medical detective. Just as a police detective might want to look to see if anyone had a motive for the crime, who could benefit from it, you could ask if the illness or condition is doing anything for the patient. In hypnosis, we call that benefit secondary gain. Secondary gain can include love, sympathy and attention, an excuse to get out of what you don’t want, or to get permission to do what you want,  and a way to atone for wrongs –real or imagined, etc. For more information on this see another of my blog articles entitled Secondary Gain – a Gain from Pain. 

In my experience both personally and professionally as a Hypnotherapist, the contributor to any problem can be THIS AND THAT, and THAT, and THAT TOO. So I have a problem with anyone telling someone else with authoritarian conviction WHY they are sick, or have any particular problem based upon their own (not the sick person’s) personal belief system. The client’s beliefs about their own life are very relevant to explore. Your beliefs about their problems are not.

A friend is having pain in her foot and heel, and assumes that anything with the feet is related to be”fear of moving forward in life”. While this belief can be traced right back to Louise Hay’s book, and even if she is right in her own case, there are many other things related to the feet and heel. For example, we have expressions like “crushed under foot, ground underfoot, feel like a heel, feel like kicking myself, feel like someone just kicked me, grinding in my heels”. 

For example, years ago I went to a rental house that I owned in order to get it ready to re-rent. As soon as I walked into the kitchen I banged my toe on the kitchen table leg. It really hurt and I had to sit down, and wanted then to just go home. My experience had nothing to do with fear of moving forward, rather my thought was “I could just kick myself for buying this stinking house with all of it’s problems.” So I tapped a few minutes on my resentment, and did what I needed to do.

Hay’s Background

Hay was a trained as a minister in the Church of Religious Science. Religious Science like Unity School of Christianity developed out of the teachings of Mary Baker Eddy, founder of Christian Science. And Mary Baker Eddy in turn was influenced and healed by Phineas Quinby, a Mesmerist (an early form of hypnosis after the work of Franz Mesmer). As such, the power of the mind, and of suggestion to heal or hurt are taken seriously. There is a lot of cross over between New Thought and hypnosis. For example, New Thought works a lot with positive affirmations. Hypnosis implants positive suggestions directly into the unconscious mind, and removes negative ones.

Hay says that we create our own reality, including disease, through our thoughts. Certainly, hypnotists would agree that our thoughts have a huge impact both upon what and how we experience in our life. And mental and emotional stress plays a part in almost all diseases. But I disagree that our thoughts are the only or even the cause necessarily.

Freud talked about cigars being a phallic symbol. But he also said that sometimes a cigar was just a cigar. Well, sometimes it appears that shit just happens! The oft repeated New Age statements that “things happen for a reason,” “you create your own reality,” “you’re 100% responsible for everything that happens to you,” and “there are no accidents” are all unprovable philosophical beliefs. 

Can we ever really know WHY?

Even if there is a reason, we may not know or cannot discover what it might be. The reason made have been caused by someone or something else, not you. Otherwise, everyone and everything would be at your mercy. They would be powerless to take action or make choices or decisions independent of your thoughts and creative power.

However, it is true that you do create much of your life through your mental, emotional and physical habits. You do effect how you experience your life by how you interpret your experiences as good or bad, as punishment or blessing, etc. You do make things easier or harder for yourself by your attitude. 

Illness as a Learning Opportunity or Gift

In an earlier blog post entitled What the Law of Attraction Misses or “Why Shit Happens (or doesn’t), I quoted Tom Campbell, author of My Big Toe. Campbell says we attract our experiences this way: 

“If a particular occurrence is determined to be an effective learning opportunity for someone or everyone, the probability of it happening is increased. The system is designed to automatically deliver timely custom-fit individual learning opportunities — the presentation of such opportunities to individuals or groups is part of the feedback one receives relative to the choices one makes. Because the point of the system is to overcome fear …and replace it with love…, if you have fear, the feedback system will manifest that fear in PMR [physical reality] to force you to deal with it (learn) or suffer the consequences.”

Overcoming fear and increasing love, which according to Campbell is the point of the experience, would then, according to my understanding, reduce or eliminate the need for that ‘learning opportunity’ (unpleasant experience), but not necessarily stop it, heal the disease, etc. It may bring healing, or just improve the situation. It may allow the person  to live with it with equilibrium but without improvement. Or it may bring closure, allowing the person to die with peace of mind.

Over the years, I have heard various people say that their disease or health issue was a gift. Indeed, it is helpful for all problems or challenges to be viewed as such. Doing so instantly reduces some of the stress, refocuses the mind on problem solving and taking constructive action. Ask yourself:

  • What can I learn from this?
  • How can this experience help me grow, get better?
  • Is there a message here for me? 

Agreement Between Campbell, Hay and EFT 

Hay thinks that thoughts of being not good enough, self-hatred or criticism, resentment and guilt are the most destructive to our health. In her current edition of You Can Heal Your Life, she references the channeled work Course in Miracles that claims that all disease comes from lack of forgiveness. And that if a person is ill, they need to look at who or what they need to forgive, focusing on forgiving whatever is the hardest to forgive. Whether or not forgiveness is the key or just one of the keys to healing, certainly it plays a major role.

To forgiveness, Hay adds self-acceptance, love and releasing the past as the most healing. Perhaps this is part of the power of the Emotional Freedom Technique wording, “Even though I [feel]____, I deeply love and accept myself.”

Unforgiveness can be considered a form of ‘stuck’ energy. The philosophy behind many forms of Oriental medicine such as acupuncture, acupressure, is to remove blockages and allow the energy to flow easily throughout all parts of the body system thereby enhancing health. The Emotional Freedom Technique combines tapping or rubbing specific acupressure points, while admitting our darkest thoughts and feelings, and ending with affirming self acceptance and love.

Agreement Between Campbell, Hay and the Infinite Intelligence Process

I like the Introduction to Hay’s seminal work in which she says:

“In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete. I believe in a power far greater than I am that flows through me every moment of every day. I open myself to the wisdom within, knowing that there is only One Intelligence in this Universe. Out of this One Intelligence comes all the answers, all the solutions, all the healing, all the new creations. I trust this Power and Intelligence, knowing that whatever I need to know is revealed to me, and that whatever I need comes to me in the right time, space, and sequence. All is well in my world.”

This paragraph sums up a good deal of the philosophy behind the Infinite Intelligence Process that I teach and write about in my own book, Accessing More–Tapping Into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process. available through my website www.RoxanneLouise.com and link above. 20170516_AccessingMoreCover

The moment you trust that you have access to a greater wisdom and resources within you and can rely upon to solve any problem, there is a profound inner peace.

If you, like Campbell, believe that the core of your being exists outside of this body with all of its experiences, then you are More than any physical or other limitation. As Campbell says the real you exists beyond this computer simulation that we call life, and continues beyond whatever happens to the character that occupies your current body and has your current name.

I believe that there is a part of you that is always o.k.

This attitude gives me great comfort.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

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16 May 2017 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

20170516_AccessingMoreCover.jpgJust back from the printer, the new edition of Accessing MORE–Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process. Expanded 25% to 117 pages, yet held at the old price of $24.95 plus $5 for shipping.

Here is a powerful, yet simple 4-pronged healing modality designed to tap into your inner resources on the soul level to solve problems, heal issues, and relieve stress, all below the level of conscious awareness. This system can be done anytime, anyplace as well as with meditation, hypnosis or  dowsing. It includes instructions on grounding and centering, unconscious healing, clearing blocks in beliefs or emotions, tapping into the truth of your spiritual nature, clearing non-beneficial energies, healing physically, releasing guilt, shame and the need for self punishment. The Infinite Intelligence Process can be adapted to the Emotional Freedom Technique, the Law of Attraction, Emotion Code, Ho’oponopono, Hiring the Heavens, and Spirit Releasement. 

Whether it is suddenly being able to solve problems that had previously defied solution, having creative breakthroughs, superhuman strength to save the life of another, or responding protocol perfect to a never before encountered emergency, people have amazed themselves and others when they have spontaneously accessed this greater wisdom, intelligence, strength, ability or knowledge. Sometimes it has come as a result of a necessity or out of nowhere during an emergency, and sometimes it has come in quiet moments after working on it for a prolonged period of time through normal conscious means and then letting their mind relax.

Here is an earlier post Accessing MORE–Tapping into the Wisdom & Resources Within

Roxanne is known to be comprehensive in every topic covered. Here she emphasizes how important it is to extend your personal healing to all of your existences, as well as to your ancestors and progeny in each of those existences. Then she suggests that you offer that healing to the world in a can’t hurt, ethical way that is wanted and customized by the High Self of others.This creates a tsunami of healing around the world.

First written in 2013 with additions made in 2014, 2015 & 2017, it is a very powerful yet easy way of both releasing stress and solving problems below the level of conscious awareness. 

Remembering Those That Have Died

04 Apr 2017 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

 Today’s my sister’s birthday. She has been dead for almost 15 years. But because of the date, I am thinking about her and what she meant in my life.

Indeed, it is on certain days — holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, and the day they died –that we especially think of deceased family members and others who have had a deep impact upon our lives, for good or ill.

If we are still grieving, such dates will cause us pain.

But if we can focus on and honor all the good things that they gave us, taught us, of how they shaped the people we are today, that can ease our sorrow.  A part of them still lives within us and is passed down to our children. We are their living legacy. We stand on the shoulders of those that have gone before. And we honor them best by passing the gift they have given us to the next generation.

But what if you still have anger or resentment?

Such dates will be a reminder to work on forgiveness for yourself as well as for them, and to figure out how you can remember what happened without being triggered. What did you or can you yet learn from that person whether they intended to teach it to you or not? There is, in my opinion, always something to learn from every relationship and experience. When you find the blessing, it dissipates or transmutes the stuck ugly energy. So how can you look at things so that it doesn’t hurt as much? What do you need to do or let go of in order to stop kicking the dirt over their grave?
 
Somewhere I heard that there is an American Indian belief that there are three kinds of teachers:

The first teacher is someone who provides good, sound information and an example worthy of following.

These are the great religious figures, the heroes, those of great moral fiber, courage, wisdom and personal integrity that call forth your admiration and respect. If you are very lucky, this group may include your parents or other family members and mentors. In striving to be like them you are following a noble path. The memory of who they were and what they stood for can be a trusty guide to follow on how to live your own life.

The downside with having the positive teacher is that you may too blindly follow their path, the decisions they made in their own lives, their opinions of what is right and what you should do without going inside to collaborate that in consultation with your own internal guidance system.  

The life they choose may have suited them perfectly. The decisions they made may have been exemplary at their time and place. But such may not exactly fit or be right for who you are, your soul’s path, or the particular situation or circumstance you face today. Better than just copying their fine example, take the time for introspection to find that internal sense of rightness. 

That being said, it is still vitally important to have positive role models and to search them out if they are not apparent in your life.

The second kind of teacher is someone that teaches you how to be by providing an example of how not to be.

These teachers really hurt but may be an enormous help to you growing into an extraordinary person. For example, you may make an effort to be kinder because they were not. You may strive to be a better parent or spouse because they were not. You may pause to think before you speak instead of lashing out in anger precisely they did not. Such people are absolutely wonderful, effective teachers because in seeing so blatantly the natural consequences of their bad behavior, you can make the effort to learn from their mistakes and act differently. They are the clear warning sign that says “don’t go here.”

The downside to those that teach by negative example is that their students may be so locked into hurt and rage that they never see the positive learning.

Until someone is willing to let go of the pain long enough to consider that just maybe something good can be learned from this person, they will not find the blessing and move on to put it into place.

The third kind of teacher is one that provides both good and bad, positive and negative examples of how to be, how to live, and how to treat others.

In being presented with no clear direction either to follow or to reject, this type of teacher, which is also called the Coyote or Trickster, is an opportunity to dig deep inside of yourself for answers and guidance. The only way to surmount the confusion they present is to learn to think for yourself, to search for and independently evaluate various options or directions, to pick through the many opposing traits they exemplify. For example, I like this about them, and want to adapt it into my life, but I don’t like that and choose something else instead. As a result, you may learn more and end up wiser and even better off than if you had just blindly followed the good teacher without any reflection, or just rebelled against everything the “bad” teacher was and stood for.

The downside with this type of teacher is that they may generate a ‘love/hate’ response or just such confusion that the ‘student’ gives up and quits before ever gaining what was there to learn.

So in remembering those who have passed:
  • What did you or can you yet learn from them?
  • What are the lessons, the examples that they provided?
  • How can such knowledge bless you and others?
  • What are the positive aspects that you would like to follow?
  • And what are the positive opposites of their negative example that you would like to express?
In doing so, these people did not live in vain, but are helping not just you, but through you, those after you. Then you

Become the shoulders for others to stand upon.

 

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Understanding Illness from the Stress Connection

16 Mar 2017 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in aging, lifespan, health, mind-body healing, stress management

The Mental, Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Components of Disease

When people think of stress, they are normally only considering those things that they find aggravating or upsetting. They are not considering the cumulative impact of a host of other factors–even little things that over time add up and overwhelm the body’s ability to process, detoxify, rectify or cope.

A more accurate view of stress may be ANYTHING (physical, chemical, electrical/magnetic, spiritual as well as mental and emotional) that consumes more energy than it brings in. Consequently, even some foods and happy events are stress inducing.

When more energy goes out than comes in to more than compensate, illness occurs.

 

Things that stress or disrupt the body system includes pathogens, allergens, toxins in the food, air or water, and EMF (electrical magnetic frequency pollution). They include pharmaceuticals including antibiotics, vaccines, and even approved medical and dental procedures or treatments. Dry-cleaning or household chemicals, personal care products, microwaved foods, processed or GMO (genetically modified) foods, food additives, heavy metals, city water, chemicals such as chorine or fluoride all stress the body as does heavy physical exertion or workouts. Cell phones, cell phone towers,  and EMF (electrical magnetic frequency) pollution are a problem. Then there are the pesticides we might use ourselves or which have been sprayed on the foods we eat or the foods that the animals we eat have ingested. Amalgam dental fillings and root canals, x-rays, chemotherapy and radiation air pollution, chemtrails–all take a toll on the body. Eventually, it is too much to handle and the body breaks down.

 

Here are the key points:

√ Stress causes every illness, and every illness creates more stress.

It is both the chicken and the egg. It is a self-perpetuating loop.

√ Illness results from more stress coming in than the body can handle.

Think of it as a bounced energy check–more energy is being demanded from you and going out than you have the reserves to cover.

√ It takes more energy to heal than it does to stay healthy in the first place.

It is not as easy as putting back the amount that caused you to bounce. Just as with an overdrawn checking account, there are fines to pay, and time to clean up the mess.

√ Stress is neutral–it can be from something “good”

For example, getting married, having a baby, moving into your dream home or job, getting ready to go on vacation are all very demanding, hectic and therefore, ‘stressful’. Stress is not just from something “bad”, such as the loss of a job or relationship, or routine annoying as with the daily commute.

√ A ‘stressor’ is anything that demands energy to handle/process.

Like a checking account, there needs to be sufficient reserves. When the energy reserves go into the “red”, illness results.

√ The final stressor that pushes the body into illness can be just one more thing too many.

It can even something very minor that you used to handle with ease before–the “straw that broke the camel’s back.”

√ Stress can come from:

• poisons in the air: inside or outside pollution, “sick building” syndrome, smoke, dry cleaning chemicals, household cleaning chemicals, perfumes, synthetic pillows or mattress 
• poisons from what touches your skin–chemicals or dyes in hair, nail, skin products, cosmetics, clothing
• allergens
• foods that are difficult to digest or food combinations that make digestion more difficult
• poisons in the water--chloride, flouride, bacteria, chemicals, heavy metals
• poisons in food–sugar, additives, coloring, preservatives, pesticides, as well as medicines or genetically modified foods fed to the animals we eat
• medicines and medical/dental treatments or procedures
• time stress and multi-tasking
• frustration
• unhealed emotional issues
• worry, fear, anger, grief, and other upset
• negative beliefs and judgments, such as this shouldn’ t be happening, people should/shouldn’ t ___, or this is bad/wrong/awful.
• too much or too little of anything: sleep, food, water, silence, sunshine, time alone, recognition, money, responsibility, activity, play
• too little meaningful interaction with people or with use of your abilities
• lack of meaning or purpose in life
 • lack of connection to others and larger spiritual dimension                 • lack of balance between work, rest and play, being alone versus being with people, sound versus silence, mental versus physical, material versus spiritual, inside versus outside  

√ The body knows how to heal itself. When given what it needs, it always moves the body towards health.

The body needs energy to stay healthy and to heal if it is sick. 

√ Whatever you do to relieve stress frees up energy for the body to stay healthy or to heal.

√ Whatever adds to your stress makes it more likely that you will get sick and it will be harder to heal.

√ The body breaks down at it’s weakest link.

The weak link may be genetic, or from a prior illness, injury. It may stem from overuse or abuse of certain organs or muscles. But it may also be from emotional/ mental issues or personality/family patterns.

√ Hard work doesn’t kill you. Frustration does.

 Work that provides meaning, purpose, and an outlet for one’s gifts, talents and creativity energizes the body. Work that is just a paycheck without providing recognition, usage of one’s abilities or creativity, or a way of learning or developing further, drains energy.

√ Stress on one system helps to relax another.

If you are consistently working your muscles, do something mental as a hobby. For example, do crossword puzzles or quiz games, take a class, read a book. If your work is primarily mental, do something physical to relax–hike, garden, build cabinets, ride horses, ski, golf, etc.

√ You are not upset by what happens to you, but by what you think about what happens to you. It is the JUDGEMENT that is the problem.

There is the ACTIVATING EVENT– that which you think is stressful.
Then there are the BELIEFS ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED, which are the real cause for
the EMOTIONAL CONSEQUENCES.

 

BASIC RULE:

Emotions follow thought!

Change a belief, and you change the emotion.

Change how you look at things and be free!

 

The Three Stages of Stress 

Hans Selye, considered the ‘Father’ of Stress Management, said that there are three stages of stress leading to breakdown. He called it the General Adaptation Syndrome.

1. The Alarm Reaction:

At this stage, symptoms first appear–sweaty palms, perspiration, butterflies in the stomach, anxiety, rapid heart, etc. Next, a person enters 

2. The Stage of Resistance:

Here the stress symptoms may disappear and resistance rises above normal. The person appears to have control of the situation. He is “handling” things. The person is coping. Finally, the person enters

3. The Stage of Exhaustion:

Now, the original symptoms of the alarm reaction return irreversibly and exhaustion of the body and death may result. The person cannot get rid of the symptoms, but must wait to heal, and replenish himself as much as possible in the meantime. The breakdown may be caused by just one more thing, no matter how insignificant that one thing may be, it is too much to bear–”the straw that broke the camel’s back.” The person is unable to cope, and can only rest and wait to build up his reserves of energy again.

Basic Requirements for Healing

1. Find a way to bring more energy into the body.

This will include more and better sleep, good nutition, clean air, being in beautiful surroundings or nature, being with people you love and care about, doing what you love, happy music, fun, laughter, sunshine, exercise, Reiki or other energy work, prayer and a deep spiritual life.

2. Find a way to stop energy from leaking out

Eliminate as many of the multiple stressors as you can, heal your pain pile, and get rid or reduce the energy draining activiites or people in your life.

 

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Roxanne Louise is available for private consultation in person or by phone, or for traveling for sufficient students/clients anywhere. Call (434)263-4337 for information.

 

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Dowsing for Solutions

08 Mar 2017 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in blocks to healing, dealing with fear, Dowsing, Dowsing and Self-Help, goal setting, problem solving, secondary gain, self help

My father’s influence

I born into an engineering family. My father, who was a mechanical engineer, inventor of roller bearings for General Motors, and occasional instructor for Hyatt GM, taught me early on to work out my problems on paper. He told me to “think negatively towards a positive solution.” In other words, consider your design from all possible angles including things that could go wrong. And if things are already going wrong, redesign to counteract those non desired effects in order to get your desired outcome. 

Inventors like my late father are both highly analytical and highly creative—a perfect blend of left and right brain thinking, rational and psychic, logical and artistic, head and heart. This is true with dowsers as well. Dowsing is a balancing of both hemispheres of the brain. The analytical and logical left brain helps you to research the subject at hand—both to clarify exactly what is desired, and the elements that may be causing or sustaining a problem, and those that may lead to a possible solution. 

Resolving problems starts first with a recognition that there is a problem and knowing what that is.

My father’s way of thinking applies perfectly to dowsing for solutions to problems and for goal achievement of any kind. Although you may have a clear positive intent of what you want to create, you should also check for and eliminate whatever could sabotage or negatively impact upon that intent. To ignore or deny the negative factors is like putting ice cream (your affirmations and positive desires) on top of horse manure. 

Factors to be considered include among others, your gut level belief in yourself, and in your ability to learn and to solve each phase of the project, your belief in the viability of your project, and your allowance of it versus any doubt or fear. Other factors include conflicts, motivation, commitment, endurance, and anything that could be sap your strength, energy, or your ability to follow through.

Determine the likely causative factors to resolve or clear, and any challenges or conflicts that will need to be addressed. Dowse out your priorities and the order in which to tackle them. Set up a strategy for the best course of action to follow. Your analytical mind will assist you to fine tune your dowsing questions. In fact, you can dowse “is this question now worded correctly?”

For any problems you are likely to encounter again, develop dowsing charts and checklists. These are especially useful and time saving in future.

The real problem may not be apparent.

There can be a problem beneath the problem. For example, you may think that the problem is that you ___ (drink/smoke/eat too much). And while that may be true, there can be an unconscious need or wound that is driving it, for example, trauma, pain, boredom, feeling unloved/not good enough/angry/hurt, etc., unable to set healthy boundaries or express your needs to others, difficulty communicating with others, poor stress management skills, ad infinitum.

So the first task is to write out what you think the problem is. Then dowse out: 

Is this the real problem? If you get a ‘no’, brainstorm on paper until you find it.

Is there a problem underneath that is either creating or aggravating the problem of ___? If you get a ‘yes’, brainstorm what that might be. Always include the word ‘other’ on your list, and dowse out.

You may want to know when the problem first began, and if it originated with you in this or another lifetime, or if you inherited it from an ancestor. For example, author Dr. Bradley Nelson of The Emotion Code as well as others has found that we frequently carry issues that are passed down on our DNA. [Nelson, by the way, has a helpful chart of non-beneficial emotions that can be located with kinesiology. I use his chart with dowsing instead.]

With dowsing, you may ask if you need to research a particular issue. If you get a yes, it may be helpful to know what players are involved as this can help to refresh your memories and emotions and focus on forgiveness or understanding. You can make or purchase dowsing charts for this purpose. Here is mine, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing. 

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What do you want instead?

Hint—it is NOT to not have that problem on ____. Clarify the positive opposite of what that problem would look/feel like. How would it show up? How would anyone know without you telling them that you solved that problem?

How motivated are you on a subconscious level?

On a scale of 1-10 how much do you want to resolve that problem and achieve your objective on a subconscious level? Is that problem serving a need or secondary gain? Is it protecting you? To what degree will your subconscious mind permit you to solve the problem? I call this your level of allowance. To what degree will it resist? This is your level of resistance.

Dowse this one at a time and get the percentage for each. Ideally, you want to get the resistance (probably a fear) down to zero and the allowance up to 100%. The way to do this is ask your subconscious mind to review everything to do with that problem, and extract the positive learning first. Then ask if you can heal/transmute any fear or resistance. If you get a ‘yes’, then go and do so.

Secondary gain is a benefit that you get out of a problem that the unconscious mind considers of greater importance than the problem itself. For example, an illness can serve to protect you from something that is painful, upsetting or threatening. Or it can provide attention, acts of love and kindness that you crave. [See the article, “Secondary Gain – A Gain From Pain”]

You might also state “I release any belief, perception or judgement that _____” (belief causing the resistance). “I now choose to believe that ___ (positive opposite belief).” Check with the pendulum again on the levels of resistance, and of acceptance. 

Is anything else blocking you?

Dowse if you have any other blocks to resolving the problem or achieving your goal. Some people have multiple goals that require more time and energy than are possible to achieve all at the same time. Priorities should be dowsed out. Perhaps all goals can be met in some measure with one being the main focus and another as a hobby or a one time event. Again, you can dowse out the percentage of time to devote to each. Perhaps, all can be met in some measure over a lifetime, or achieved sequentially instead of together. Some people have goals that conflict and will need to set up a hierarchy of values, and do some deep soul searching. If you are consciously motivated, but have unconscious blocks, those blocks will have to be addressed first.

What needs to happen?

Next, determine what has to occur to solve that problem and achieve a real transformation. Once you have clarified what you want, identified the problem and elements to be addressed, and brainstormed possible solutions, it is time for action. This may be through dowsing alone as in mental or emotional healing, or through physical or other action. 

Manifesting

Manifesting is the act of creation through joining strong clarity of intent with strong emotion. Positive creation will require an elevated emotion such as love, joy, gratitude, bliss.

Quiet your mind, and drop down into the deepest part of your inner being with clear focused desire to connect with Source — that universal sea of consciousness behind all that is. This is the repository of information, ideas, wisdom and guidance linking all minds throughout time and space. This is the place of pure creation, healing and manifestation where it is possible to alter reality and create miracles. Stay there until you feel a sense of completion – this can be seconds or much longer.

Conclusion

Dowsing is phenomenally valuable in all aspects of problem solving: clarifying intent, aligning with that intent, removing any blocks to such alignment, raising one’s frequency, and connecting with universal consciousness and divine creation to bring about the results you want with greater ease, grace and speed. 

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Original copyright 3/17 by Roxanne Louise, and rewritten 6/18. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.  

The Relationship Between Fear and Depression, Breath and Posture

08 Mar 2017 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, dealing with fear, mind-body healing, mindfulness, self help, stress management

How You Breathe Can Lessen Fear 

A recent study by Christina Zelano at Northwestern University indicates that breathing in through the nose as opposed to the mouth helps a person to respond more quickly to fear and knowing this can help you to deal with it. 

“We can potentially use this fact to our advantage. For example if you’re in a dangerous environment with fearful stimuli, our data indicates that you can respond more quickly if you are inhaling through your nose.” ~Christina Zelano

But, what I would add to this is that it is NOT ENOUGH to just breathe through the nose, but to BREATHE DEEPLY and FULLY. 

My understanding is that the first reaction of fear is to freeze the breathing mechanism – in other words, to hold the breath. This is the deer in the headlights syndrome while you are evaluating what to do (run/fight or stay in freeze). The fastest way I have found to discharge that fear is then to deliberately take a deep, big breath. Followed by other deep, regulated breaths, the mind quiets down.

Deep Breathing Lessens Depression & Fatigue Too!

As a former classical singer with NYC Opera and elsewhere, I noticed that deep breathing whether through the nose or mouth through the process of singing, dancing will process out the debilitating emotions of fear and depression as well as fatigue. While music also plays a significant part, I am sure this significant improvement has much to do with the increased oxygen reaching the brain. Classical singers while singing, for example, breathe four times as deeply as people at rest. Increased breathing and oxygen intake through any form of exercise will put you in a better frame of mind and in a more emotionally balanced state where you are able to think more clearly and make more rational decisions. 

Posture is Important 

Deep breathing is aided by an erect posture that allows the rib cage to expand. Then a person must train themselves to keep the chest still while breathing  deeper down that fully engages the diaphragm. This means that the belly moves in and out with each breath.

Good posture makes better breathing possible, and greater oxygenation of the brain allows a better processing of emotions. But posture is by itself relevant to mood and energy levels. Multiple studies indicate that good posture, holding the head erect and eyes looking forward rather than down [downward facing eyes puts a person into their emotions] lessens depression and fatigue! There are multiple such articles cited on the internet indicating that simply choosing to alter body posture to a more upright position is a quick shortcut to improve mood and energy levels. 

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Rearrange the Furniture to Rearrange Your Life

11 Jan 2017 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in clearing non-beneficial energies, self help Tags:

There is great value in moving things around.

I started early. My family moved next to the Seymours when I was three and Mrs. Seymour welcomed me onto her enclosed front porch to play with one or more of her four children. But what I found most fun was not the toys but rearranging the furniture and everything else there. I did this almost every day for several years. God rest her most tolerant soul.

What was I doing?

Rearranging the furniture is about seeing other options or possibilities, trying out new solutions, new relationships between you and the environment. It is not necessarily about making anything prettier, more functional, although it may do that. Beyond the benefits of feng shui or getting rid of clutter, simply moving the furniture and decorations makes you relate differently to the things in your space. And this possibly may support your desire to be different, to change, grow or relate differently to the larger world.

It calls upon and develops your spatial perception, which is the ability to be aware of your relationships with the environment around you and with yourself,  “to situate yourself, move around, orient yourself, make multiple decisions, analyze situations and representations of our surroundings and the relationship our body has with it.” ( CogniFit)

Changing things around helps to make (or when desiring to make) other changes.

For example, when working with smokers to break their habit, I advise that they change all their routines associated with the unwanted behavior because those routines act as a trigger. So, I suggest that they sit in a different chair than the one in which they used to smoke, eat and take their work breaks away from their smoking haunts, drive a different way to and from work, etc.

iu Citation: https://twitter.com/drjoedispenza

  Author, Joe Dispenza, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One says

“You associate your outer, familiar world with who you think you are, by remembering yourself in this dimension, this particular time and space.” Your routines and all your sensory reminders, which include your environment, keep you plugged into your old self that is tied to the conditions that you want to change. He says “we remain plugged into this past self by following a highly routine, unconscious set of automatic behaviors. For example, you probably wake up on the same side of the bed, slip into your robe the same way as always, look into the mirror to remember who you are, and shower following an automatic routine. Then you groom yourself to look like everyone expects you to look, and brush your teeth in your usual memorized fashion. You drink coffee out of your favorite mug,” etc.

However, what he doesn’t mention is that should you change where the bed is located, you automatically have to get up differently. Move your favorite chair, and you are now viewing the room from a different perspective. You are changing the flow of energy not just in your space, but in your life.

Change something to change something else.

When ending a relationship, I found getting a hair cut was an appropriate symbolic act to let go of the old. Getting new clothes, a new look was part of the new me, the me separate from being identified as part of a couple, that was going to venture out again. Likewise, moving, going someplace new, traveling to a different culture where people have their own ways of relating to life, helps you to reevaluate your own values, priorities, lifestyle, etc. It is helpful as a separation from the old way of life and what you hope to be the new one. Then there is an old Jewish folk saying:  “Change your location, change your luck.”

But for right now, for those unable or unwilling to move or travel in order to get a fresh perspective, a new take on their life, the immediate, easy solution is just to rearrange the furniture.

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Mistakes, Regrets & Moving On

10 Jan 2017 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, healing your past, self help, stress management Tags:

I was listening to Oprah Winfrey saying that “there are no mistakes because you have a supreme destiny.. There is a supreme moment of destiny, of calling on your life. Your job is to feel that, to hear that, to know that ….Sometimes when you are not listening you get off track…but it’s all leading to the same path. There are no wrong paths.…you learn as much from your losses as you do from your victories.”
 

When you are overwhelmed with a challenge,

 
“get still and ask what is the next right move, and from that space, ask what is the next right move, and the next right move…You are not defined by what someone says is a failure for you. Failure is just there to point you in a different direction.”iu-2
citation: http://i.huffpost.com/gen/1588759/images/o-OPRAH-facebook.jpg

 

Personally, I have regrets made from being over confident or under confident.

I have made lots of mistakes, some really, really stupid, unwise, disastrous, painful, expensive mistakes. Sometimes overconfident of my abilities, I have thrust myself full into relationships, careers, relocations, obligations, purchases, financial matters without really understanding what it would mean–the ramifications of it and whether I was capable not just at that moment to handle it, but whether it would be sustainable and desirable long term.

 
 
On the other hand, sometimes reeling from the pain of previous mistakes or regrets, I might have been under confident, and did not take the leap of faith to track down and seize a new opportunity, relationship or experience. Sometimes I didn’t think I was good enough, worthy, capable, and so held back. Or that the carrot dangling in front of me was just a tease and would be snatched away at the last moment causing me more pain at rejection or failure. Sometimes I just needed time to lick my wounds before risking again.
 
BUT I have learned from all of my mistakes, although, unfortunately, not right away. Some  I made over and over again until it became obvious that I needed to do something different, that it wasn’t a matter of trying harder or tweeking my approach.
 
 

The value of your mistakes

 

Mistakes, failures all teach you a lot. All of the wisdom I gained from my own has gone into helping others. They have caused me to be more empathetic to others, to understand what they are going through, and how they can move out of it. I can now provide the candle of hope for them that there is  life on the other side of even major mistakes precisely because I have been there, done that. And so can you.

 
 
As a small child, I sat at the feet of my amazing and wise grandmothers and listened to their stories. By age 4, I decided that above all I wanted to achieve wisdom in my life. However, wisdom comes from experience, and that includes mistakes and failure, and sometimes regrets.
 

 

Learning and moving on

 
My new mantra is “I turn everything into a blessing”. Or sometimes, I just say “how can I turn this into  a blessing?” I look for something I can learn regardless of how I feel or felt about what happened. This means that I get far less stressed or aggravated about new unpleasantries than before. I bounce back faster. As my outside ages, I get better on the inside. And so can you.
 
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