NOTE: Everything in the article below could just as easily be applied to ethical behavior involving any form of psychic or spiritual healing, energy work such as long distance Reiki, or remote viewing.
Dowsing About Others & Your Deepest Fears
You’ve just taken your first dowsing class and you’re all excited about the vast possibilities of finding information hidden from your conscious mind that can be elicited through dowsing. And, you or an enthusiastic friend are curious, nosy, angry, fearful, or otherwise emotional, and want to dowse on it, including dowsing for or about other people. For example, “Is my boyfriend cheating on me?” or “Do I (or does) ___ have __ disease?”
Or you or a friend have to make important decisions with serious ramifications: “Should I get a divorce/ get married/ quit my job/ move to __?” Or you or that friend are wondering why you dislike, or are having a problem with a specific person.
Dowsing is a fantastic tool that in the hands of an ethical, grounded person who exercises common sense, and then has good training and extensive experience to recognize and avoid the pitfalls. It can lead to valuable knowledge, discovery, healing, etc.
But if entered into carelessly, or as entertainment, it can, like the Ouija board, lead to ethical violations, delusion, making serious mistakes in judgment and bad decisions, ruining relationships, reputation, and possibly harming someone else as well. Without quieting the mind and adopting a neutral attitude to the dowsing response, letting go of personal agenda and any desire to ‘fix’, control or manipulate others, you could be on a merry chase along the ego’s hopes, fears and prejudices.
Because of all these reasons, most dowsing schools teach their students to ask three basic questions listed below.
The Three Question Test
- May I? Do I have permission to ask questions or to do work in this area?
- Can I? Do I have the ability to successfully dowse in this area? Am I ready?
- Should I? Is it my business to know? Is it advisable, appropriate, and the right time to do it? Am I properly prepared?
You may also want to ask: “Is this the appropriate time?”
Having a legitimate right to know the answer is critical.
Dowsing for personal information about someone else who has not asked you for help, and about which is outside of your rightful business to know, is snooping. It is an invasion of privacy, a kind of psychic spying, and wrong. For example, inquiring about your neighbor’s sexual habits, or relationship with his spouse is none of your business.
However, if you are considering hiring someone, or giving him the keys to your house to feed the animals if you are away, if you have children, and you are considering entrusting the care of your child in this person’s babysitting care, you do have a need to know about them in the areas that are relevant to those rightful concerns – is he or she honest, trustworthy, capable, does he exercise good common sense, is he respectful of you, your family and your property, etc.
Having good intentions is not by itself enough.
While wanting to be of service and dowse to help someone who is having problems is laudable, in general, dowsers feel that you should not dowse for someone else unless they have specifically asked for your help. There are some exceptions to this, such as dowsing on behalf of a child under your custody, and perhaps, a person in a coma.
But first apply the three question test. Is it is ethical and appropriate for you to seek information on another? Is it right for you to request specific action be taken on their behalf or are you meddling in their affairs and unwittingly trying to control or manipulate them? Unsolicited attempts to control and manipulate is black magic.
Only dowse in a way that you are sure would please them if they knew both the nature and content of your questions and your requests for healing.
Here’s the test
If the person about whom you were dowsing heard every word you said, would this person be happy about it, or be annoyed that you were poking your nose into their business? Are you being presumptuous to think that you know what’s best for them and what they want? Better to ask the person directly for permission to dowse, and precisely how they would like your help.
Don’t presume anything.
As long as you do not specify what you think their highest good might be, no permission is required to pray or dowse for someone’s highest good, or to dowse to bless them in a general way.
For example, asking Spirit to surround a person in a cocoon of love or healing energy, or to connect an individual to his own true spiritual guidance so that he makes the right decisions for himself is a blessing. However, asking Spirit to help him to ___ (leave or stay in their relationship/ stop smoking/ become a vegan/ quit or stay in his job) is serious meddling unless he has specifically asked for that help.
Just as you do not have permission to walk into your neighbor’s house and look around because you are curious, or start to redecorate it because you think it needs it, you need permission before checking on others and to change things that have no relationship to you. They are entitled to live their own life as they please even if you disagree with it or think it is wrong.
However, if you perceive that someone is suffering from non-beneficial energy such as a psychic attack or other interference, I don’t feel that you need permission from that individual to dowse to request spiritual intervention on their behalf to remove it. I consider that similar to calling the cops to tell them that thieves or trespassers are in your neighbor’s house. But ask the three questions anyway. Besides the ethical question, you could be getting in over your head. In addition, you do not willy nilly remove energy that is non-beneficial to humans as it is good for other life forms such as termites, ants and cats. Ask first what you can or should do.
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Does the individual want your help? AND
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Are you clear on precisely what he wants?
Just because you mean well doesn’t entitle you to remove what you consider negative thoughts, habits, or personality quirks in others. Just because you think you know what they want, doesn’t mean that you do. Lots of people say that they want something, when in their heart of hearts, they do not. Just because you think that they should not die if they are sick, does not mean that it is what the soul wants especially if it means remaining in tremendous physical pain or a vegetative state.
While using the wording “in accordance with your Highest Good” is a helpful safety clause for dowsing, prayer or energy work such as Reiki, it is not sufficient to avoid manipulation and to prevent violation of another’s free will. Take care not to assume karmic debt by meddling with someone else. Hence again the advisability of asking
“Can I? May I? Should I?”
No permission is required to inquire about someone else if they have requested your help, or if you are asking questions to better understand your relationship with them, but only in the areas of inquiry that are relevant. As mentioned before, it is appropriate for you to inquire about someone’s character if you are considering doing business with them, entering into a relationship, or entrusting them with some important aspect of your life, home, business or family. But stick to only what is relevant and your/their legitimate right to know, and nothing more.
Clarify the answers you receive
When dowsing, with or without charts or checklists, know that the answers indicated may not be literally true, but metaphorically or only partially so. The charts or checklists may not provide you with the correct answer but point you in the right direction. The Greater Intelligence that is providing you with dowsed information can only work with the words you have listed on the page, or the specific questions you have asked, your vocabulary and understanding at the time. That is why you should repeat the question in different wordings to make sure of the interpretation. “Are you telling me that _______?”
It is helpful for every chart/checklist to include the word “other”. Also helpful is to write “somewhat” or “maybe”. I have seven specific pendulum code movements that help me gain greater accuracy: “yes”, “no”, “maybe”, “somewhat”, “working mode” (doing what I have asked it to do), “balancing” (or putting in good energy), and “don’t know, don’t want to answer”. Finally, pay attention to your gut feelings when dowsing to come to know what is a clear ‘yes’ and ‘no’ or ‘sort of’ response.
Be sensitive in how you report what you find and to whom.
Any dowsing answers about others should be revealed to them with only the greatest of gentleness and tact and must never elicit fear, anger or despair.
As a hypnotherapist, I am well aware of the power of suggestion to heal or to do great harm. Remember that your dowsing can be inaccurate or you may not be interpreting it correctly. Better to use the information you obtain through dowsing to ask your client questions to elicit more information:
- What is your objective?
- Tell me more about ____?
- How do you feel about ____?
- What’ s going on with you?
- How is that effecting you?
- Are you telling me that you would like ___?”
I find that I can usually help a person more by teaching them how to apply dowsing to reduce their own stress, and to heal mentally and emotionally rather than just dowsing for them myself. Teaching my clients or encouraging them to learn other self-help methods is usually indicated. I find that my other training in counseling, hypnosis, stress management, and just my observations and life experience, are just as valuable in assisting other as dowsing. Employ multiple tools in helping both yourself and others.
Here are some additional, basic guidelines:
- Keep confidentiality.
- Respect someone else’s reputation–it is a precious thing.
- Remember that your dowsing or interpretation of it can be faulty.
- Consider carefully what you report and the maturity and understanding of those to whom you report whatever you find.
- Power misused is taken away.
Misused power, especially where it violates the free will of others, invites dark energy and karmic debt. If you want high level spiritual energy to work with you, then you need to operate with the highest ethics and use it responsibly to be of service in the world, starting with a commitment to heal yourself.
- Like attracts like
When you dowse, you are working with spiritual forces in resonance with your intention and frequency. Gossip attracts tricksters in the spiritual realm. Dowsing when you are intoxicated, angry, jealous, resentful, fearful, greedy, egotistical, or feeling like a victim, will attract those in the spiritual realm that feel comfortable with that and even encourage you to be more so.
So before you dowse
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- take time to center and ground your energy
- raise your vibration by thinking of gratitude, unconditional love, compassion for others
- hold a desire to be of service.
- ask: Can I, May I, Should I.
Above all, do no harm!
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