Thoughts Carry a Train

And how to derail that train when you don’t like where it is going!

Today, I heard about the death of a friend’s family member, and also of a hypnosis colleague giving a workshop on how to deal with grief and loss. This brought up some thoughts and memories of my own of how thoughts connect to similar thoughts taking us to a predictable emotional conclusion.

One of my clients was setting up a meeting at Windows on the World restaurant on top of the World Trade Center on 9/11. Located on the 107th floor of the north tower with a conference facility on the 106th floor, with commanding views of the city, it was a popular destination with building occupants, tourists, and city residents (the restaurant served about 800 dinners nightly).

When the first hijacked plane crashed into the north tower at 8:46 am, the restaurant had regular breakfast patrons on the 107th floor and a conference for the Risk Water Group on the 106th floor. About 73 employees and an unidentified number of patrons died in the fire and building collapse. One of my clients, Luke Dudek, was among those killed.

The last time I saw Luke was at a mutual friend’s funeral, that of Rodney DeMichael. Rodney had been on the Board of Advisors for my business, Unlimited Potential. As a dear friend, social worker, counselor, founder and head of the Center for Eating Disorders in Livingston, NJ, Rodney had served  as most valued guide and mentor when I had questions about or needed help with a client, especially where I suspected that such client or prospective client had mental or emotional issues that required specialized professional treatment beyond my expertise as a hypnotherapist.

Rodney had been brought in also to lecture on psychopathology to my advanced, professional hypnotherapy students. When he got ill, he came weekly to the Reiki Sharing Clinic I ran. Over the years, many of my students and graduates worked on him, some even traveling to the hospital during his final stay.

So Luke’s death brought up memories of Rodney’s death, Rodney’s funeral and the silly hat I wore just for his benefit, thoughts about his life, my association with him, my student’s associations with him, and his friends and family. It also brought up times I myself had been at Windows on the World, the magnificent crystals there that were the size of small elephants, the woman (another client) that sold those crystals to the restaurant from her mine in South America, and her crystal shop in Montclair, NJ. Further, Luke’s and Rodney’s deaths also brought up memories of my father’s death, that of other family members, and on and on.

Thoughts hitch to other thoughts that carry you to a predictable emotional destination!

Carolyn Myss once was explaining how to understand someone’s conversation, you have to dig down into your own memory banks for similar associations. So if someone is talking about cupcakes, you have to do an internal search for anything to do with cupcakes yourself just to understand what is being said, let alone to respond.

The outcome is that if you have any emotions tied to any of your cupcake associations, it brings up those old emotions, memories, and all related associations as well.  Anything yet unresolved that is related to the issue or topic at hand as well as to any of the free associations that resurface is added to what is going on now, and it happens in lightning speed much as Alice plunging down the rabbit hole.

Early on in my hypnosis practice, I had a client that taught me how thoughts hitch to other thoughts that carry you to a predictable destination much as coupling train cars together on a pre-determined track. You can clearly foretell the expected emotional outcome from the content of the thoughts if you catch them fast enough. If such thought associations happen often enough, it runs a groove that turns it into a habit.

‘Sarah’ (not her real name) came to me because she was sick, worried and depressed. She had multiple issues: Epstein Barr, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, etc. Not surprisingly when she woke up in the morning, her first thought was “I feel sick.” This connected to another thought, “If I’m sick, then I can’t go to work.” From there, the next thought was “If I can’t go to work, I’ll lose my job.” Next came, “if I lose my job, I’m going to lose my apartment.” Next was, “if I lose my apartment, I’m going to lose custody of my son.” Finally, the thought came, “if I lose my son, I might as well kill myself.” So from the first thought, “I feel sick”, she was rapidly in suicidal depression.

Because this thought pattern happened so frequently, I had to teach her how to derail her train of thoughts to take her to, hopefully, another emotional destination. So for the usual “I feel sick”, therefore, “I can’t go to work”, I taught her to say “at what I usually do. So what can I do?  What can I do from home to earn an income? Oh, I used to be an Editor. Maybe I could call up some of my old contacts and do something with them on the side. Maybe I could do phone solicitation, or stuff envelopes. Maybe I could make arrangements with my current boss to do some of my work from home.” 

If Sarah could deliberately change her thought pattern, decouple the usual connections, she would derail her train of thought that was guaranteed to take her into depression to possibly end up somewhere else. And maybe over time she would get ideas that would help her to solve her problems.

What’s my point?

  • As quickly as possible, to the greatest extent possible, clean up your own issues so that they do not add to the burden of dealing with future ones.
  • When old stuff comes up, make a mental note of it, or even better, write it down and deal with it at your earliest convenience, hopefully, that day. Use whatever tools you know: Emotional Freedom Technique, Tapas Acupressure, Emotion Code, Time Line Therapy, self-hypnosis, the Infinite Intelligence Process (my own technique), dowsing, etc. Where you are stuck, hypnotherapists and NLP (Neural Linguistic Programming) practitioners are skilled in helping you change and resolve non-beneficial mental and emotional patterns and limiting beliefs.
  • Deliberately ask a question that sets you off in another direction: “What if ___? How can I ___? If ___ could work, how would it work? Who could help me ___. “
  • Make a statement that while believable, changes the train tracks to another emotional destination For example,  “I’m so grateful for ___. I got through/survived ___ before. I turn this into a blessing. There’s a part of me that knows how to deal with this. I stay focused on the bigger picture. I take it one step at a time.”
  • Make a habit to challenge your assumptions, beliefs and judgments where they have been shown to be non-productive.

It is possible to change your self-talk to help yourself. And while it takes diligence and repetition to run new mental train tracks, it is profoundly worth the effort!

Resolving mental and emotional issues is my specialty. If you need extra help, I am available in person, by phone, and soon, by Skype. Call for an appointment. Free initial phone consultation: 434-263-4337.

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Picking Up Vibes

Sensing Energy

You walk into a building, a room, or down a street, and for some reason, start feeling peaceful, happy, warm, safe. Or, sometimes you might start getting agitated, scared, creeped out, or simply uncomfortable. There may not appear to be any rational reason for it, but you can’t deny that you are sensing or reacting to something. What?

I remember visiting the home of Philosopher, Jidda Krishnamurti (long since dead) in Ojai, California and I COULD NOT HELP SMILING. While I respected this sage, I certainly was not a follower. Yet, the happy energy in that space was palpable, and forcibly changed my usual overly serious continence to happy as long as I stayed in his house and immediate grounds.

I have walked into some empty churches, and immediately felt a sense of peace. And while the architecture and sheer beauty of the place may have been lovely in all of them, the peace appeared to be unrelated to aesthetics. Some of the most beautiful left me empty, and some of the plainest churches felt the best. One place where I particularly and consistently felt at ease was at the Lake Shrine of the Self Realization Fellowship in Pacific Palisades, California. It is a small, simple place in a beautiful garden with a small lake, that was dedicated by Yogi Paramahansa Yogananda (also long deceased). His followers have regularly practiced meditation there over the years.

Just what is the cause of our reactions?

  • Are we sensing energy vortexes?

Some vortexes are especially palpable as are those in Sedona. Other beneficial yet invisible earth energies and ley lines were harnessed in the placement of the world’s oldest cathedrals. Dowsers are skilled in locating them.

  • Are we picking up on chi?

Chi is the movable positive or negative life force which plays an essential role in the Chinese study of feng shui? This can take into consideration the lay of the land and a building’s placement on it, the shape of spaces and angles inside, colors, the function of the rooms and furniture placement, and much more. Feng shui has been shown to effect energy and mood.

  • Are we sensing the emotions, frame of mind, and possibly even the intentions of the current or even long past inhabitants?

For example, was I feeling the left-over residues of years of peaceful meditation, or the personality imprint of saints such as Krishnamurti or Yogananda, and of good people who had peace in their hearts who had spent a lot of time at those locations? I think so.

  • Are we feeling the residue of activities and events that occurred there?

Yes, if they are powerful enough even for a single event as in an accident, murder, battle, or if repeated over time if less in intensity in daily life.

  • Are we feeling the good will and harmony or the irritation and dislike within a household or company?

Don’t we have the expression that ‘you could cut the atmosphere with a knife’ ?

  • Are we even picking up on the emotions and thoughts of others that are directed at us?

Energy directed at us can be perceived whether the sender is physically present with us or not. For example, am I feeling good because someone who loves me is thinking of me even though miles away? Conversely, if I am uncomfortable, is it because someone is angry with me and focusing on me at that moment? Am I picking up on their disapproval, rejection, negative judgment?

The reverse of things that make us feel good can also saturate a place and be sensed as well.

This can include bad feng shui, geopathic zones, the residue of traumatic, unhappy, stressful events, or the imprint of upset, angry, fearful or depressed people.  I, personally, am very uncomfortable in or around hospitals, prisons, certain neighborhoods (whether or not obvious from the buildings), the World Trade Center, or anywhere near old battlefields, factory farms or animal feedlots.

Years ago, I was awoken in the middle of the night while camping in New Jersey by a British soldier and American Indian in hand to hand combat outside my motorhome. Dream? No. Ghosts? Again, I think not. It seemed more like a frozen piece of time being replayed like a broken record because of the emotional intensity in that spot.

Another night, I was compelled to follow the energy I felt in my parent’s house some time after my father’s death. Dowsing my way, much as one might follow breadcrumbs from one end of the house to the other, it lead me down to the basement to my father’s ham radio room where he spent countless, happy hours talking to people all over the world. Was this my father’s ghost? No, I felt sure that wasn’t it. It felt like the leftover residue of his concentrated energy over the years. That room and the activities there played a big part in his life.

Referring to my father, there was an intense holy and loving presence in the house after he died that lasted for some months. It extended even into the yard. Was this energy my father that was continuing to love us? Maybe. Was it the love of our deceased ancestors to comfort us? Maybe. But it felt like much, much more than either of those possibilities. Was it the spiritual energy that my father attracted by his goodness and religious devotion? It felt like the latter.

As I think about the uncomfortable energies that I have encountered over the years, especially the ones that seem to be in my own space or follow me around, I am convinced that a great deal of it falls within my own lap.

The problem is not in that I perceive uncomfortable energies, but that such non-beneficial energies sometimes seems to stick and are difficult to shake because of me being in a weakened state, whether physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually.

This weakened state might come from both current issues as well as past issues that I have not yet resolved. The cumulative effect makes it harder to gain perspective, and deal with those issues. It also makes me vulnerable to other stressors as well as to outside energies that drain my energy further and feed off and aggravate the very non-beneficial thoughts and emotions I am trying to heal.

Such weakening agents include:

  • Fatigue, exhaustion, lack of sufficient sleep and pushing beyond my limits.
  • Other health issues including illness, toxicity, inflammation, lowered immunity, diet.
  • Overwhelm, worry and stress in my personal life. Concern for loved ones.
  • Worry, grief, fear, anger, depression or upset about the suffering, cruelty, corruption, ignorance, injustice, and evil that I perceive or hear about in local, national, world conditions and events.
  • My own unhealed emotional wounds, limiting beliefs and judgments.

Like attracts like.

For example, if I am sensitive to the jealousy/anger of others, it may be because I have not healed either my own jealousy or anger, or the pain/upset from previous experiences with jealous/angry people.

I have found that anything that depresses my spirit or challenges my health makes me vulnerable to being impacted by bad vibes.  But the reverse is also true.

Anything that lifts my spirits and enhances my health can strengthen my energy field and make me more resilient to non-beneficial energies, stress, and able to deal, in general, with problems or challenges of any kind.

Energy Enhancers

This includes all the usual, common sense things like quality nutrition, sleep, detoxification, gratitude, forgiveness, love, joy, happy music and dance, loving friends and family nearby, a supportive network and community, recreation, nature, sunshine, wholesome laughter, exercise, and more.

Even if bad vibes are directed at me personally as when someone is jealous, angry or resentful or if they reject, judge or disapprove of me, if I exercise healthy diet and lifestyle habits, if I work to resolve my own personal issues, and if I challenge my own limiting beliefs and judgments, and if I have supportive, loving people around me, it makes a substantial, positive difference in being able to maintain a healthy boundaries,  equilibrium, and resiliency. Then I am less impacted by whatever disharmony, bad vibes or energy pollution is out there from any source.

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Imagery and Healing

Visualizations are powerful ways to communicate internally with the inner mind.  They act as instructions or blueprint for the subconscious mind (that part responsible for our habits, emotions, memories, and all of our body functions) to follow. Images of health or the healing process can assist the body to heal. They communicate “do whatever you need to do to make this happen.”

However, imagining the problem especially with all the upset related to that problem, acts in reverse to what is desired. Also, because we are telepathically connected to others, especially to our friends and family, even our unspoken thoughts and feelings about them can negatively effect them as well.

How can you visualize to only get the desired result?

Create mental pictures showing how to rectify the perceived malfunction or problem.

The images can be symbolic. For example, if there is a broken bone, you might imagine knitting the broken parts together. If there is blockage somewhere, imagine a clean up crew going in and scrubbing the walls of any debris and hosing it safely away, or perhaps imagine a road crew removing the obstruction. If a stroke has occurred, imagine linemen running new electrical lines to get the service through, or policemen redirecting traffic around the flooded area.

Imagery can be broken down to two types: process and end-result.

Any time you think of your illness or condition immediately imagine yourself as either in process of healing or as already healed at some time in the future.

Visual images and emotion are the language of the inner mind. Your inner or subconscious mind controls all of your body functions including your immune response and healing abilities, your habits, memory, creativity, automatic pilot, psychic abilities, and emotions. Imaging is very important in healing. The emotions amplify and drive the image deep into the unconscious mind.

Gerald Epstein, M.D. points out in his book Healing Visualizations, Creating Health Through Imagery, that visualizations have been used for healing in Tibet, India, Africa, Eskimos, American Indians, and ancient Egypt. It was “an essential technique and sometimes the essential medical treatment for physical ailments, until approximately 1650, when natural science and modern medical thinking began to assume dominance.”

Visualizations for healing purposes should be done frequently (minimally three times daily) until results are obtained. Epstein recommends once before breakfast, once after work, and once before bed. He further recommends doing it for 21 days, resting for seven days, then repeating cycles.

What about doubt?

Healing imagery must be free of doubt. Hypnotists have a saying “doubt cancels out.” If you don’t really know if you can heal or solve that problem, ask yourself:

What it would look like if I could heal or solve that problem?

And if I did, how would I feel about it?

Adopt an attitude of wonder. I like the question I adopted from urban redeveloper, James Rouse:

If it could work, how would it work?

Process Imaging

This creates a picture in the mind of the next phase of the healing process. This is particularly appropriate if you are suffering from a gradual, debilitating illness, or an accident that will go through various healing stages.

For example, a person with a broken leg, ankle sprain, or knee or hip replacement, may visualize being able to stand and place his weight on both feet. After that is accomplished, the patient may visualize being able to walk a few steps with a walker, then a cane, being able to walk unaided, and finally running, dancing, playing tennis–any activity the patient enjoyed before the problem.

A person with slow, debilitating condition may imagine the illness reversing itself. What was the last thing he could do? Have him imagine that. Later imagine the step before that one, etc. This may well be more believable than going for the end result imagery.

End Result Imaging

Image yourself (or the patient) being totally healed and doing those things with comfort and joy that was once enjoyed. To do end result imaging, the patient must believe that it is possible. If not, do the next step in healing that you or the patient can imagine comfortably.

Best Time for Healing Visualizations and Prayer

The best time to do this for your own healing is as the last thought before sleep. This thought will dominate the mind until morning. Repeat upon arising because it will set the tone for the entire day.

According to Larry Dossey in his book Healing Words, the best window of opportunity to effect physical change through imagery and prayer is before medical viewing or tests such as X-rays, cat-scans, etc.

Physicists have found that the investigator cannot be removed from the experiment, and that sub-atomic particles (the real origin of disease) can show up either as a particle (mass) or a wave (energy) before viewing. They tend to show up according to the beliefs/ expectations of the investigator.

Before the test, there is malleability.

After the test, the looking, observing and interpreting fixes the event.

20170928 R3cover.jpg      This information was taken from Reiki–Path to Transformation, Volume 3, Mind-Body Healing  by Roxanne Louise. See http://www.roxannelouise.com for further information.

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3 Classes in Virginia Beach, VA at the National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists Convention

Roxanne Louise will be teaching an all-day

  1. TRANSPERSONAL DOWSING CERTIFICATION COURSE on Friday, November 6 from 9-5 at the National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotists Convention to be held at the Barlay Towers Hotel, 8th and Atlantic, Virginia Beach, Virginia. Class is absolutely the best program on dowsing for mental and emotional healing as well as the best dowsing course for hypnotherapists!
  • Quickly locate and clear stuck energies that drain vitality, health, and the ability to live life with passion and effectiveness.
  • Determine the underlying reasons for any self defeating behavior or repeating pattern, and clear it.
  • Locate the root cause and relevant sensitizing events or issues.
  • Identify negative judgments, core beliefs or emtions.
  • Clear negative programs that are projected into the future.
  • Identify needed or helpful beliefs, behaviors or therapies.
  • Greatly add to your efficiency and effectiveness with your clients.
  • Research your client’s issues in advance.
  • Know in advance what techniques, inductions, visualizations or therapeutic interventions to use.
  • Infinitely increase your self awareness and healing.
  • Incorporate telepathic healing into your work.
  • Apply it to practical business matters and problem solving for anything.

No prior knowledge of dowsing is required. Bring a pendulum or borrow/buy one in class. Handouts included, but instructor’s book, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing is strongly recommended.

Class is only $99. Contact NATH at 800-2996-MIND or email Dee@holistictree.com. To view the entire conference, see http://www.holistictree.com/index.php/nath-annual-convention

Hotel rooms are only $65/night, ocean view, that includes breakfast!!!

Roxanne is also teaching

2. RELEASING ANGER WITHOUT KILLING ANYONE on Saturday, November 7 at 1:30-2:30 PM, and the

3. The INFINITE INTELLIGENCE PROCESS at 4-5 PM.

Using Questions & Statements as Part of Your Daily Ritual

cropped-bio-pic2.pngRituals (regularly repeated acts done in a set precise manner) are markers in our day, week and life. These can be as simple as the morning coffee, the evening paper, the bath before bed. While not instantly life changing as the ritual of marriage, the impact of little daily rituals, nonetheless, adds up over time to powerfully effect your life. Why not use them to focus on what really matters?

The Power of Asking the Right Question

I suggest making a ritual of asking yourself specifically worded questions. Take your time to write out that question or questions that will direct your mind to your intended destination, one which will guide your actions in a way in which you are really pleased. The moment you ask a question, your mind must go in the direction of answering that question. So why not deliberately ask questions that lead you find the very answers you want, ones that not only take care of an immediate problem, but which sit well with long-term self-esteem, integrity, and soul satisfying achievement?

Questions to Stay on Track

I started reading Judith Wright’s book, There Must Be More Than This. She talks about soft addictions, which are basically time wasters and avoidance strategies, and how to eliminate them and focus instead on what will bring greater satisfaction to your life. On page 15-16, she recommends asking yourself some questions at the end of the day:

Did I move toward my goals and vision today?

Did I make a positive difference in other people’s lives?

How did I stand up for what matters most to me?

What did I do that was emotionally or spiritually nourishing?

How did I grow as an individual?

How did I experience love in my interactions and activities?”

These are great questions and you might want to use them yourself. What I would also recommend is to ask yourself questions in the “how can I” format at the start of the day. This would set the tone and intention. For example

How can I move towards my goals (or goal of ____) today?

You could also ask

What is the best use of my time, energy and resources today?

What can I do today to move my business forward by serving the needs of my customers?

How can I be of service in a win-win way?

How can I create a viable business while serving the needs of my customers?

How can I create a financially successful business that makes a positive difference in the world?

Using Statements/Affirmations

Affirmations (a positive statement made repeatedly in mind) are a common method of self-programming, and they work providing they are believable. If you disagree with the statement, it will backfire. In which case, the statement must be reworded in a way that is believable. For example, you can temper the strength of the affirmation, but still move yourself forward as you say,

“I get better at ___,” or

I am learning how to ____,”

I learn whatever I need to ___.”

What I have been teaching as part of the Infinite Intelligence Process is to make statements that imply that you already know the answer to the information, that you already have the resources to handle the challenge, and that you do have the ability to heal/resolve the problem uppermost in your mind. Think of yourself as intrinsically connected to a larger, spiritual dimension and all of that inner wisdom and healing power. Think of yourself as More than your ego and personal history. You might consider that you are made in the image and likeness of your Creator–a ‘chip off the old block’ so to speak. Intend to deliberately connect to and harness that larger, spiritual self or your soul to the task at hand. For example

“There is a part of me that knows how I can move towards my goal of ____, and is guiding and assisting me in every way possible to do so with grace and ease.”

“There is a part of me that knows how I can make a positive difference in other people’s lives, and is guiding and assisting me to do that effectively in a way that blesses all concerned.” or

“There is a part of me that knows how to significantly increase my business while make a positive difference in the world.”

When you speak this way, understand that you do not need to know the information consciously. Indeed, it may be impossible to know. Rather, you are affirming an inner or unconscious knowing. Allow yourself to imagine that you are (or just might be) more intelligent, more capable, more resourceful than you are currently showing up. Let statement or question sit in your mind quietly or repeat it until it permeates your unconscious mind. Once internalized, it will effect your automatic behavior, set up coincidences, make you alert to opportunities, etc.

Deliberately take control of your life by directing your thoughts in the direction you want life to take you. If you do this as a morning and evening ritual, it will make a big impact with minimum effort. As Tolly Burkan in his book “Let It Be Easy — 12 Actions To Create An Extraordinary Life” said, “let it be easy”.

For more information on the Infinite Intelligence Process, see Roxanne’s latest book, Accessing More–Tapping Into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process available through her directly at 434-263-4337.

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