Dowsing on Mental & Emotional Issues

02 Mar 2024 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

STRESS CAUSES PROBLEMS & PROBLEMS CAUSE STRESS. Stress is a causative factor in every illness, and every illness creates more stress.

Like the age old question “which came first – the chicken or the egg?”, the answer is both, & it is a self-perpetuating loop. Of the kinds of stress, the most problematic is probably mental & emotional because so much of it is unconscious. Without getting at the root cause/s when you don’t know what that is how can you stop negative repeating patterns & heal? That’s where dowsing comes in.

Anyone who has put time & effort to resolve a problem only to have a similar one pop up knows that they are missing something. While you may know what recent events or relationships in your life are bothering you & why, the origin of your upset is usually older, lying below the level of your conscious awareness. It may have been forgotten, perhaps stemming from your childhood, or from even a past life or multiple lives. Your sensitivities or issues may have been absorbed from your associates, culture or tribe, from your mother’s emotions while you were in the womb, passed down on your dna from your ancestors, or ingrained from humanity’s long struggle for survival. It is precisely because the origin of your problem is largely unconscious that dowsing is supremely helpful.

Just as dowsing can locate other things that are consciously unknown such as where to find underground water or minerals, missing persons or objects, it can be adapted to find the root cause of mental & emotional factors associated with a current problem and then resolve it by following a particular protocol.

“Getting the Hook Out!”

Dowsing on Mental & Emotional Issues with Roxanne Louise

A Presentation sponsored by the Mile High Dowsers (Lakewood, Colorado) being held both LIVE & ZOOM on Saturday, March 9

Meeting Time: from 3-6 PM (Eastern), 2-5 PM (Central), 1-4 PM (Mountain Time), 12-3 PM (Pacific),

NOTE the presentation will start about 30 minutes later & will last for about 1 1/2 hours that includes Q & A.

Meeting Location:  Clements Community Center, 1580 Yarrow Street, Lakewood, CO. 80214

Free to Members, Guests – $5.00, Zoom  Members – FREE.

To get the Zoom log-in information write to  dowsersmilehigh@gmail.com & the link will be sent out in the morning of the presentation.

For Mile High Dowser chapter information, please go to:Website:  www.milehighdowsers.org. Email:  dowsersmilehigh@gmail.com. Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/milehighdowse

Roxanne is a former President & Board Member of the American Society of Dowsers. Roxanne is a hypnotherapist, stress management expert and dowser with 35 years experience specializing in mental & emotional issues.

More information can be found at http://www.RoxanneLouise.com, Dowsing-Online.com & at Roxanne’s blog with over 170+ articles is UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com. In particular, see this one:
https://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com/category/healing-your-past/

Healing Through Time –  

09 Feb 2024 3 Comments

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

A Unique Approach to Dowsing On Mental & Emotional Issues

A Live Zoom Workshop with Roxanne Louise,  

Sunday, February 25 from 2-5 PM EST

At some point, getting what you want in life entails dealing with addressing whatever is blocking you from getting what you want.  Perhaps you think that you have resolved a problem only to have another pop up. What did you miss? Is there some stuck energy related to a problematic relationship, a judgment, a belief or fear that is not ready to let go – something  stemming from another time and place? Is karma involved? Is it an issue or pattern  that has been passed down the ancestral line? Can dowsing help to get at the root cause & make an impact even when you consciously don’t know all the details?

To find out what is going on dowsing charts & checklists are a big help (& Roxanne has made many). But beyond this, she has developed a unique method of working with your High Self below the level of  conscious awareness to locate and address the root cause of any problem, review the factors involved, extract the positive learning, shift any detrimental judgments made, and do a sweep through time of all other related events as well as future projections. Part of this approach to dealing with the root cause of issues was influenced by various hypnosis & NLP mentors, and then expanded upon & adapted to dowsing. Roxanne is unique in the dowsing world to teach this powerful technique, and you will learn it here.

Your investment is just $40 that includes handouts. To enroll for the live event and get the Zoom link, you must register in advance either with the Chapter that referred you, or  the form below. Enrollment needs to be made by 2/24.

BIO: Roxanne Louise is a Hypnotherapist, Dowser, Stress Management Expert & Reiki Master, who divides her time between private practice, teaching classes both locally, on the internet, & at multiple national hypnosis & dowsing conferences yearly. She has received several awards for her work in hypnosis (including 2 for Lifetime Achievement) & 2 in dowsing including Educator of the Year Award in 2018, & Special Recognitions Award in 2019 from the American Society of Dowsers. Roxanne is a Past Board Member & later President of the American Society of Dowsers, conducted 47 informative ASD teleconferences for more than 2 years. She is known for her ability to integrate multiple modalities that enables profound healing not possible with one modality alone, & in a way not previously done by others. She specializes in mental & emotional healing, stress management, mind-body healing, & creative problem. A full bio is here: https://www.roxannelouise.com/about.html 

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“Healing Through Time” with Roxanne Louise, Sunday, February 25, 2024 at 2 -5 PM EST

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DEADLINE FOR signing up online or phone is  Saturday, 2/24/24. Call us if you have not received your Zoom link within 24 hours after registering: 434-263-4337 (US – Virginia)

SIGNING UP ONLINE: Go to www.RoxanneLouise.com, click on the DONATE button in the middle of the page, fill out for either Pay Pal or Visa/Credit Card with the amount of $40. 

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Do you live in or around Syracuse, New York?

07 Feb 2024 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

On Thursday, February 15 Roxanne Louise will be speaking at the Finger Lakes Dowsers Chapter Meeting of the American Society of Dowsers. The topic is “To Be or Not To Be — Thorough!” Anyone can attend this meeting being held at the North Syracuse Community Center, 700 SOUTH BAY ROAD, NORTH SYRACUSE, NY 13212. The doors will open by 6 PM.  There will be a short business meeting at 6:30, followed by myself on Zoom at 6:45.  A $5 donation is requested.

The failure to be thorough in your dowsing work is a big reason why
     • Negative patterns & issues persist,
     • You don’t get the results you want,
     • Manifestation doesn’t seem to work so
     • Frustration builds & people give up on dowsing.

HERE’S WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!
So many factors enter into dowsing before you can obtain accurate, maximally helpful information. Besides being careful about the literal interpretation of the words you use & asking clear, specific questions that leave no room for misunderstanding, you have also to ask sufficient questions that cover everything involved on the subject of your inquiry.

Whether you are working on goal setting & achievement, have important decisions to make, or big problems to resolve, incomplete or disappointing results are frequently caused by what you forgot or didn’t know how or enough to address or address thoroughly. Also, dowsing questions and techniques have to be tailored to the specific task at hand. What is good enough to successfully handle one dowsing project may not be good enough for all types of work.

Roxanne’s books will be available at the meeting.

To sign up for Finger Lakes Newsletter on upcoming events:
Text or call Jini Cerio at 315-450-6990
Manuals & Laminated Charts on Hypnosis, Anger Management, Accessing the Wisdom Within, Reiki & Dowsing by Roxanne Louise

Quick & Easy Ways to Reduce Stress

11 Dec 2023 2 Comments

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, mind-control, self help, stress management

In an earlier blog post entitled “Regaining Your Sanity When You Start Freaking Out“, I outlined many things that are simple, do-able and fast to harness runaway fears, center, put things into perspective, etc. Here is a short summary of that article with a couple of additional things that you can do to head emotional upheaval off when you feel it coming or do once it happens.

  • PUTTING THINGS INTO PERSPECTIVE 

Is this a life & death situation? 

How serious is it really? 

What’s the worst thing that can happen?

  • BREATHE DEEPLY – EXERCISE OR DO SOMETHING PHYSICAL – Any physical activity will get oxygen to your brain so you think clearer at the same time that you discharge stress out of your muscles. Some activities such as singing, dancing, lovemaking, gardening, cleaning out the garage, have additional benefits such as fun, satisfaction, connection to Nature, enhance your relationship, or provide satisfaction and relief to get a needed project done.
  • CHANGE THE FOCUS OF YOUR ATTENTION – turn your head, look out at the horizon, nature, photos of loved ones, happy times, kids, animals, etc.
  • CONNECT WITH & HUG SOMEONE YOU LOVE – even your pets! Call a friend, get together.
  • COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS 

What do you have to be grateful for today – a roof over your head, running water, food, hot shower, a car that runs, eyesight, the ability to walk? Regardless of what is missing, what remains? 

What do you have to work with?

  • INVENTORY YOUR STRENGTHS, YOUR ABILITY TO LEARN, SURVIVE & ACHIEVE 

What things you have already learned to do and problems you already have overcome? 

  • USE AFFIRMATIONS – Note that affirmations only work if you can believe what you are saying. If you don’t, they will backfire! My favorite is 

“I AM THAT I AM A POWERFUL, SPIRITUAL BEING. I HAVE SOMETHING OF VALUE TO OFFER.”  

Others I use are: 

“On some level, I’m always okay.”

“I can do this. I can do anything I make up my mind to do.”

  • SWITCH FROM FOCUSING ON THE PROBLEM TO THE SOLUTION

“If it could work, how would it work”

“Who do I know that could help me resolve this and create ___  instead?” 

“Who has experience successfully dealing with this before?”

“Who is able to create ____ easily?  What do they know or what do they do to be successful?” 

  • TURN THE  PROBLEM INTO A GAME, CHALLENGE, OR A POSITIVE GROWTH EXPERIENCE

“What can I learn from this?” 

“How can this experience help me to grow, to be better in some way?” 

“Who do I need to be, and what do I need to think or do to experience ___ instead?”

  • MAKE A DECISION, A FIRM DECLARATION THAT YOU ARE GOING TO TURN YOUR PROBLEM INTO A BLESSING.
    • Question: “How can I turn this into a blessing?” 
    • Affirmation: “I turn this into a blessing!” 
    • Demand from the Universe: “Turn this into a blessing!”
  • DISTRACT YOURSELF, TAKE A BREAK, GET YOUR MIND ON SOMETHING OTHER THAN YOUR WORRY

“What can you do to take your mind off your problems so you can get off the gerbil wheel?” 

  • GO TO WHERE THE PROBLEM ISN’T

If the problem is in your house, go outside. If it is in the city, get out to nature. If it is with work, go to lunch with friends, or do something nice after work. Take a vacation. After you regroup, then go back and tackle whatever you need to do. 

  • LAUGH

Yes, listen to comics, watch funny things online, and laugh at yourself for getting so stressed out. 

  • ASK QUESTIONS 
  • ASK FOR HELP Extra hands don’t just add to your productivity, they multiply it many times over.  They build energy.
  • PRAY & GIVE THANKS – Note that it is important to only pray for what you want, not what you don’t. Pray for guidance, understanding, clarification, insight, strength, personal character traits, skills, ideas, wisdom, healing, the right kind of assistance for anything. See the problem either moving towards resolution or being already resolved. Give thanks for it already being completed. 

MORE QUICK & EASY STRESS REDUCERS

  • WALKING MANTRAS – This is my personal shortcut using regular movement and sound to create self-hypnosis and reprogram the mind that I have been teaching for over 30 years. My self-hypnosis book, Your Unlimited Potential has many more listed. Take any short, affirmation that can be spoken in a sing-song rhythm and match it to steady movement like walking, cycling, or using a treadmill. Repeat the phrase over and over for a few minutes to shift your thinking in a positive direction. Some affirmations that work are below. The dots represent switching what you say to the next foot.

“Sooner …. or later… I figure it ….out.”
“I learn …and …move on..…”

“I do what I can. I let go of the rest.”

“I find…a way…that works…for me.”

“Every…day….in every….way….I get….better…and better…Yes!!!”

  • ACCESS ADDITIONAL INNER RESOURCES

You have infinite resources of wisdom, creative problem solving ability, and knowledge that you can tap into. It starts with a recognition that you do. My book ACCESSING MORE – Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process explains the whole thing. 

Repeat: “There is a part of me that knows ____, and that part is helping me now to ____ in a way in which I am really pleased.”

Or say “I access, download and activate whatever I need to _____(resolve this problem, be able to ___, heal from) ____.” Hold that thought without needing to know the answer right away.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise, 2023. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

Ho’Oponopono for the Suffering in the World Today

09 Oct 2023 3 Comments

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

“I’m sorry for whatever is within me, my relatives or ancestors in this or any lifetime that attracted, allowed, caused, contributed to or resonated in any way with the suffering in the world today. I am sorry for the pain and suffering being experienced by people everywhere whether from natural disasters to all forms of manmade causes such as _____ [add any of specific concern, ie. genocide, wars, riots, crime, hatred, rage, hunger, homelessness, fear, trauma, grief, human trafficking], and more.

Please forgive me. Please forgive all of us. Please correct any erroneous thoughts in my consciousness and/or our shared consciousness that is responsible in any way.

I love you. I love you as I recognize that we are each part of the human family despite any differences.

Thank you for bringing to my attention what needs to heal within myself. Thank you, Infinite Source of All That Is, for bringing love, healing, harmony and balance into this situation for the Highest Good of all. Thank you for healing any resonance with the problem within me, and correcting any errors in my consciousness and humanity’s shared consciousness. Thank you for bringing us all into alignment with the Source of unconditional love, our divine guidance so that we exercise right use of power. Turn this suffering into a blessing. Amen.”

DOWSING FOR POSITIVE CHANGE

27 Sep 2023 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

Dowsers recognize 

  • that we can tap into a vast sea of information, a cosmic library not known to us on a conscious level but accessible to us nonetheless, 
  • that unseen energies can have a profound effect upon the health and well-being of living things for good or ill, 
  • that we can shift/heal/clear detrimental energies through clear, focused, energized intention, and, in addition, 
  • that it is possible to influence or create a desired outcome through intention alone,
  • that such outcome has a greater likelihood of happening when done in a group. Groups of people meditating or dowsing together multiplies the effectiveness.

Dowsers find things – water, minerals, lost objects or people, information, etc. Historically, dowsers have also been able to use intention to transmute energy, and change or heal things, to direct water veins, clear geopathic zones, ghosts and other entities, and to clear intense emotional residues of homes, land or battlefields where severe trauma occurred. I use it to find the root cause of mental and emotional issues and heal them. 
I teach how to use dowsing to 

  1. resolve some of our own issues because as we heal, we not only make it easier for others to do so, but we lift up the consciousness of the whole. We will start with reducing the mass consciousness of fear, shame, hopelessness, grief, trauma, apathy, victim mentality, powerlessness – all of which drain energy that then inhibit us from taking action to remedy situations related to such emotions.
  2. send healing energy to the consciousness underlying criminal behavior, greed, violence, lack of compassion, etc.

Dowsing for Positive Change starts with the understanding, belief or at least the possibility that focused intention creates change and that energy is greatly enhanced when done in a group . All dowsing starts with clear thought & focused intention driven by energy – the power to project that intention. Such understanding is evidenced by or related to the

“I regard consciousness as fundamental. I regard matter as derivative from consciousness. We cannot get behind consciousness. Everything that we talk about, everything that we regard as existing, postulates consciousness.” – Max Planck

For more information see: 8 Studies That Show How Consciousness Affects Reality (powerofpositivity.com)

FLAGSTAFF DOWSING CONFERENCE STARTS NEXT WEEK!

25 Sep 2023 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

Thursday, October 5 – Tuesday, October 10

All talks will be recorded and available for purchase. For information see https://dowserssouthwest.com

It is so important to keep learning, networking with others in your area of interest as it inspires you to keep growing. It fires you up with new ideas, expands your consciousness, and leads to wonderful friendships & collaborations that last a lifetime.

Here is another great dowsing conference you can attend in person. But if not possible, scroll through the presenters & talks that will be available for purchase after the event.

I will be giving the following presentations:

Dowsing for Positive Change,

Part 1: “Heal Yourself to Heal Your World”,

Part 2: “The Power of Group Consciousness”

and a workshop: “Dowsing on Mental/Emotional Issues – the Root Cause of Problems”

Regaining Your Sanity When You Start Freaking Out!

05 Apr 2023 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, dealing with fear, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, mind-control, self help

In times when you are already experiencing trauma or prolonged stress, it is not unusual for one more small thing (the ‘straw that broke the camel’s back’ ) to come along and cause you to cross over the line from ‘dealing with it’ in some fashion to going into full melt-down, panic, collapse or just giving up. As the Universe has offered me many challenges in my life, I have had to dig down deep within myself to find a way to dig myself out of the hole in which I found myself. It was the stimulus that had me study psychology, hypnosis, dowsing, EFT, and a wide variety of other modalities. In the process, I found ways that helped me and helped my clients. I use as many techniques as relevant or necessary.  

What can you do to head it off when you feel it coming? What can you do once it happens?

I asked this question of a combat veteran, “what do you do when you get really stressed out?” His way of putting things into perspective was “if they’re not shooting at you, it’s not serious.”  And then he said that he does something physical to work off the energy.  

So the first remedy to regain your balance is 

1. DO SOMETHING PHYSICAL, EXERCISE, or DO DEEP BREATHING

Anything that makes you breathe deeply (working in the garden, shoveling snow, raking leaves, scrubbing the tub, cleaning out the garage, going on a brisk walk or run, singing, dancing, shooting baskets or a golf ball) flushes the stress out of your body, brings oxygen to your brain so that you can think more clearly, and gets your energy moving to offset paralysis and depression. If you choose an activity that brings you joy or a sense of accomplishment, that is a double bonus.

The second remedy is to 

2. CHANGE THE FOCUS OF YOUR ATTENTION.

Turn your head, or look up in a different direction. Look up at the sky or out to the horizon.  Look for something beautiful, awe inspiring, funny, cute – flowers, pets, animals, children, a sunrise or sunset.

“I will lift up my eyes to the hills from whence cometh my help. 

My help comes from the Lord which made heaven and earth….”  Psalm 121

What do you have in your life that warms your heart or makes you smile or laugh or feel peaceful, safe or protected? You may have photos of loved ones or a place that you visited that was wonderful, or filled with peace and joy. Look at those photos and feel the love of these others, and happy memories. 

The third remedy is to 

3. CONNECT WITH & HUG SOMEONE YOU LOVE – even your pets!

If you can’t physically hold them, call them. And if they are deceased, close your eyes and imagine them with you, holding you, lifting you up, loving you. I firmly believe we are always connected to those we love.

Years ago, I was performing in Manhattan and getting off the bus in Jersey around midnight. I was so exhausted that I literally had to think “Put one foot in front of another.”  Yet I still had a 90 pound dog that had to be walked when I got home or there would be a pile of mess on the carpet. So I imagined my two deceased grandmothers  as my guardian angels holding me up under each arm pit helping me to walk. That prayer and image indeed gave me strength to do what I had to do. 

The fourth remedy is to

4. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS 

What do you have to be grateful for today? Do you have a roof over your head, do you have food in the pantry, running water, a hot shower, clothes to wear today? Is the sun shining? Are you breathing, able to walk, able to see? Regardless of what may be happening tomorrow, for today you have life, you have or have had people and things and conditions for which you can be grateful. 

The fifth remedy is to

5. INVENTORY YOUR STRENGTHS – YOUR ABILITY TO LEARN, SURVIVE, & ACHIEVE

Think about all the things you have already learned and overcome – learning to walk/talk/read & write & do arithmetic/ride a bike/drive a car, etc. Think about your talents, your ability to learn, experiment and improve, teach yourself things, and start something totally new and get good at it in time. Or think about how you may have moved into a new neighborhood, new job and learned your way around and made new friends, etc.

The sixth remedy is to

6. SWITCH FROM A NEGATIVE THOUGHT TO ONE THAT WILL HELP YOU

Affirmations only work if you can believe what you are saying. If you don’t, they will backfire! Memorize some positive suggestions that resonate with you  and repeat them over and over until you calm down. I have a standard affirmation that I use when discouraged:

“I AM THAT I AM A POWERFUL, SPIRITUAL BEING ENDOWED WITH WISDOM, DIRECTION & PURPOSE. 

I HAVE SOMETHING OF VALUE TO OFFER.”

Another affirmation that I frequently use because I believe in reincarnation and have what I believe are memories of many past lives, some of which ended horribly, is

“ON SOME LEVEL, I’M ALWAYS OKAY.”

In other words, whether I am a little Jewish girl living in Munich in early 1940’s, or the best prepubescent teen in a Mayan village during the times of human sacrifice to the gods, or a victim of jealousy or hatred by the priest training me in ancient Egypt, my soul will survive even if they kill my body, and I will be reborn in another one.

 Others affirmations that help me are:

  • “Sooner or later I figure it out.
  • “I learn and move on.”
  • “I can do this. I can do anything I make up my mind to do.”
  • “There is a part of me that knows ____, and that part is helping me now to ____ in a way in which I am really pleased.”
  • “Breathe. Just breathe.”
  • “I do what I can. I let go of the rest.”

In other words, whether I am a little Jewish girl living in Munich in early 1940’s, or the best prepubescent teen in a Mayan village during the times of human sacrifice to the gods, or a victim of jealousy or hatred by the priest training me in ancient Egypt, my soul will survive even if they kill my body, and I will be reborn in another one.

The seventh remedy is to

7. SWITCH FROM FOCUSING ON THE PROBLEM TO THE SOLUTION

Go from “I can’t” or “it’ll never work” to “If it could work, how would it work”, or “Who do I know that could help me with solving this so that I can create ___  instead?” , or “Who has experience dealing with this before?” Or “who is able to create ____ easily?  What do they know or what do they do to be successful?” 

The eighth remedy is to

8. TURN THE  PROBLEM INTO A GAME, CHALLENGE, OR A POSITIVE GROWTH EXPERIENCE

“What can I learn from this?” “How can this experience help me to grow?” “Who do I need to be, and what do I need to think or do to experience ___ instead?”

The ninth remedy is to

9. MAKE A DECISION, A FIRM DECLARATION THAT YOU ARE GOING TO TURN YOUR PROBLEM ISSUE, SITUATION or CONDITION  INTO A BLESSING.

Ask the question: “How can I turn this into a blessing?” Or  make a declaration: “I turn this into a blessing!” Or demand it of Universe or the cosmic forces: “Turn this into a blessing!”

The tenth remedy is to

10. DISTRACT YOURSELF 

What can you do to totally take your mind off your problems? Make love? Watch a good movie, or comedian, or something else that captures your full attention? Preferably, it should be something that doesn’t just distract you, but which actually makes you feel better, calmer, happier, more resourceful or energized.

The eleventh remedy is to

11. GO TO WHERE THE PROBLEM ISN’T

If the problem is in your house, go outside. If it is in the city, get out to nature. If it is with work, go to lunch with friends, or visit friends after work. Take a vacation or travel to a place with good memories. After you regroup, then go back and tackle whatever you need to do. 

The twelfth remedy is to

12. LAUGH

Yes, listen to comics, watch funny things online, and laugh at yourself for getting so stressed out. I sometimes imagine a fat, clown balloon character that flops down at the waist and says:

“Ha, ha, ha, ha, I’ve created more drama. It’s part of the karma I now choose to heal.” (Repeat until you start laughing yourself.)

Years ago I was going through the tremendous stress of a divorce. Unable to function in my office, I went next door to a neighbor on my floor and said “tell me a joke.” He then told me one. I laughed, and with that went to another office on our floor and said “I have a joke for you.” I repeated the new joke, and we both laughed, and then he told me one as well, and I laughed again. I did this over and over again developing a repertoire of jokes that kept me laughing as I couldn’t repeat one without doing so. It got me through.

And thirteenth and fourteenth remedies are related, and so bunched together

13. ASK QUESTIONS & 14. ASK FOR HELP

You don’t have to do anything all alone. Perhaps you know someone, or you know someone who knows someone, or you know how to get physical help, advice, or information online or in a library or from a company or an agency. When I am stuck, I start asking questions. If relevant and if my budget allows, I hire someone. 

For example, I have a list of people that can help with various things on a task or an hourly basis whether housework, farm chores, repairs, handyman stuff, strong back lifting, bookkeeping, internet, etc. And what I found is that I get a ton of work done both setting up for my helper, working while they are there, and continuing after they leave. Extra hands don’t just add to your productivity, they multiply it many times over.  They build energy.

Short of funds? Perhaps consider a high school student or barter or a mentoring program. What can you give in exchange? My area has a TIMEBANK program where people donate their services and in receive services on an hour for hour basis. This is a organized form of “I scratch your back, and you scratch mine.”

NOTE: Getting help in ANY area of your life will free up time for you to work in ANOTHER AREA especially those that only you can do.

Finally, the fifteenth remedy is to

15. PRAY & GIVE THANKS

This is the spiritual side of Ask for Help. But only pray for what you want, not what you don’t. Pray for help in dealing with or resolving a problem. Pray for guidance, understanding, clarification, insight, strength, personal character traits, skills, ideas, wisdom, healing, the right kind of assistance for anything. Focus not on the problem as if it is huge as this will manifest more of the same and delay forward movement. Focus instead on that problem either moving towards resolution or being already resolved. Give thanks for it already being completed. 

One time when I felt completely betrayed by a neighboring store that was openly attempting to take over my business, I prayed “how can I look at this in a way that doesn’t hurt quite so much?” And I received an analogy that immediately shifted me from grieving to taking appropriate action. I then prayed for another office in a location closer to home, with many things that would make it much better than the office I had. And that happened. 

Another time I was again betrayed by a ‘friend’ and colleague who plagiarized a significant portion of one of my books without giving me any credit for the pages of word for word heist. I prayed for understanding, and received a message that it was a pre-birth agreement that would teach each of us something important. This immediately dissolved both my anger and grief over what she had done and allowed me to sever the relationship and take action to notify the professional organizations of which we were both members of this ethical breach.

When my husband told me he didn’t know if he wanted to remain married to me or not, I was so devastated that I prayed to die. Spirit said “not now, later you will have a chance.” So with that I asked, “does that mean that I have to get up off the floor?”  With death now closed as an option, I said that I needed to feel that I was still loved if I was to have the strength to continue living. And love from Spirit did flow into my being and I healed.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise, 2023. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

What I Learned From One Year of Hell

18 Feb 2023 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help Tags: , , , ,

One of three presentations I will be giving at this year’s National Guild of Hypnotists Convention taking place in August in Marlborough, Massachusetts is “What I Learned From One Year Of Hell – Undoing the Trauma Caused By Those With Narcissistic Personality Disorder”. Consequently, I am reposting a revision of an earlier blog “Why Shit Happens – Part 2” that provides some background and food for thought.

Now, I have been writing about THE WHY behind problems and suffering for a long time, such as this blog post, “When Manifestation Doesn’t Work: https://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com/ 2016/03/17/why-shit-happens-or-doesnt/ . (See many more relevant blog posts listed in the links at the end.)

Yet, here I was forced to revisit this topic once more because during most of 2021 – 2022, not only was I (like all of us) dealing with the stress of covid, but I had to deal with a potentially dangerous, personal situation that went on with tenants living on my farm.

Initially, I thought that this couple was an answer to my prayers for tenants that would be “better than the best I could possibly imagine” . I was praying to manifest renters that would have a variety of useful skills to help me on the farm, and a desire to support each other if needed in these highly unstable times.

Yet, instead of a dream come true, it turned into nightmare as their facade, their voiced intentions, their background turned out to be a total sham. While I suspect that they may have been conducting some criminal enterprise on my property, they acted crazy, and seemed emotionally unstable, unpredictable, and as I said, potentially dangerous.

Very quickly this couple tried to usurp my authority as landlord, violating multiple terms of the lease and pre-established policies. Through continuous harassment, they tried to prevent myself, workmen or other tenants from walking or driving down my own farm road that bordered on their rental space. They tried to insist upon a buffer zone that would allow them privacy from even eyesight of their cabin. They wanted to control when and why I could use my rear access road – a road that was already specified in their lease was not part of their rental space but in fact was shared in part with other property owners.

Reason, logic, and respectful dialog with them was impossible, and I was completely baffled by their behavior. They refused to accept my wishes or attempts to explain the lease and policies. I was confused, frustrated about being unable to get through to them, and they were causing chaos, increasing tension and division on the farm.

Things came to a head when only six months in, they built a wooden ‘glass blowing’ shed onto the 1880’s log cabin they were renting – a shed in which they would be using an open flame torch. This was an insurance risk, fire code violation, and in direct opposition to my instructions. A month later, they started erecting a two-story addition onto the home – without permission, permit, and in violation of building codes and insurance. They incessantly lied that I had given them permission to erect both buildings.

When I objected to what they had done, myself and my workmen were subjected to intense intimidation and threats that required the intervention of the Sheriff. When I served them with an eviction notice, they countersued me in court for thousands of dollars based completely on lies. That is when I discovered that both of them had a police record.

Things got increasingly ugly to where the Sheriff had to be called again because another workman and myself were threatened with physical violence. This very tense situation went on for about 18 months, 8? court appearances, and 1 full year after serving them the eviction order. They are finally gone, and it is over, but not before the man threatened to sue me for defamation of character for writing the earlier edition of this very blog post. My lawyer, however, says that freedom of speech is still part of the Constitution, and that truth is the best defense.

So how or why did this happen and most importantly,

WHAT CAN I LEARN FROM THIS?
What made my manifestation efforts go so horribly wrong?

  • Was I too gullible?
  • Was I too confident in my own instincts to know a good person from one who is not?
  • Was I still carrying left over baggage from previous tenants that had not worked out?
  • Was my mind so focused on other bad experiences and what I didn’t want that I attracted more negative?
  • Was I so smitten because they said everything I wanted to hear, that I did not take sufficient time to find out who they actually were?
  • Was my ability to see the good in everyone (something that helps me to help my therapy clients) working against me in the arena of their landlord and employer?
  • Was I vulnerable because I had never met malicious narcissists before and did not recognize the signs?
  • Was I too much in a hurry to re-rent the place and get much needed income?
  • Was my lease current and hole proof?
  • Was this part of a soul contract to hold them accountable?
  • Was this part of a soul lesson for me as a way to grow?
  • Was it scripted into my life plan as an opportunity to heal from something unresolved ?
  • Did I have bad karma?
  • Did I have a karmic past life relationship with one or both of these people?
  • Did I fail to do due diligence by not getting a background check?
  • And why did not dowsing not work to protect me?

While there is some merit to the Law of Attraction and “you create your own reality”, to reduce all causation to what you were or were not thinking or feeling is not only blaming, but massively simplistic. It misses the bigger picture. And all the positive thoughts in the world do not eliminate many other factors a few of which include your inexperience, ignorance or naiveté, your ability to accurately discern the will, agenda and true character of others, the free will of others, the higher intention of Divine Spirit, and the problem of evil.

Spiritual leader Panache Desai and author of YOU ARE ENOUGH says that

“everything you’ve gone through you’ve gone through to help another human being, to be of service to the world ….it is not personal.”

While I don’t believe that service to others is the reason why shit happens,
deliberately turning your personal misfortune into helping someone else either avoid a similar problem, or to help him deal with it in an easier, faster way is a powerful way of healing your own pain.

Turn the trauma of drama into a blessing for someone else, and it will bless you as well.

Wring some good out of it. My skill as a hypnotherapist and dowser specializing in mental/emotional healing is a direct result of what I have learned of value from my own painful or stressful experiences.

In a scene from the movie, Gone With The Wind, Scarlett O’Hara frantically goes out to the garden to find something, anything to eat. She finds a carrot and rips it out of the ground, and then shakes her fist at Heaven to declare that she will never be hungry again. She uses her hunger to declare what she wants to experience and fuels it with forceful energy, thus fulfilling the basics of manifestation:

clear thought + strong emotion.

Make a decision that a blessing or gift is going to come out of your problem.
IT IS A DECISION! IT IS NOT HOPE or WISH or WOULD BE NICE IF….

You then will be looking for it or deliberately create one. Or as the saying goes,

“when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”

Painful experiences push us to seek help, to learn and to grow.

Universe may provide them to us as an answer to a prayer for wisdom, or for discernment. They can be meant to be a GIFT from God, not a punishment. Never think of yourself as a victim as it drains your personal power and ability to respond effectively.

So if your problems are the result of inexperience, ignorance or sheer stupidity, accept it and learn. Now you know. And if it was painful, it will help you to remember that lesson. But problems are not always that. They may be precisely what you need to change course in life – to stop what you are doing, or to start what you are not doing (get off the couch).

The 12-Step Programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous, say that is in ‘hitting bottom’ that the road out of addiction begins. And it precisely those who struggled with addiction and became clean and sober that can be the most help to others wanting to do the same.

Pain is a powerful motivator to heal.

But the personal growth that occurs as a result goes way beyond the resolution of a particular problem, but spills over into many other areas as well.

Recently, I was listening to a sermon by Dean Wolfe, Rector of St. Bartholomew’s Church in Manhattan on the topic of suffering. Rev. Wolfe quotes St. Paul as saying that

“suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope. And hope does not disappoint us because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit.”

According to St. Paul, God does not test us, or allow us to be tested beyond our endurance, but provides a way out for us. St. Peter even says that

“persecution is a kind of testing to develop a deeper belief in Christ, to strengthen character, and to deepen commitment to God.”

My opinion is that hardship can destroy you, but to survive it, you will be required to dig deep into your core and grow stronger.

Over one two week period in my own saga, I was so stressed out that I felt that I was at my breaking point. I have NEVER been brought so low. Besides being threatened again by my tenants, they initiated an emergency hearing for a Court Injunction based totally on lies in an effort to ban me off my own road, and extract significant financial damages from me. But out of it, I dug down much deeper within myself to anchor firmly on the truth of who I am (“a powerful, spiritual Being endowed with dignity, direction and purpose”). This is along the lines of the hymn ‘My Hope is Built on Nothing Less’, (https:// my.hymnary.org/song/dynamic/36/my_hope_is_built_on_nothing_less?toolkit=veroviostatic :

“On Christ the solid rock I stand. All other ground is sinking sand.”

This saying is not just for Christians, but for all people to find the rock, the truths, the things of substance upon which they can rely and which support them to weather severe emotional storms. As Canadian psychologist, author, and media commentator, Jordan Peterson asks “where do you derive your values?” Peterson also says:

The predator is calling the prey to be a better version of itself. What must you become?

He says that you should and can be more than you are.

In my own case, I was called to reclaim my power, establish clear and firm boundaries, assert my authority as landlord, and forcefully to declare ownership of what was rightfully mine. I was also being called to be a prayer warrior. In the process, I dug deep into my own past life history, as well as possible ancestral wounds or common traumas shared by all of humanity that were being triggered and acerbating the stress.

Courtney Brown, Director of the Farsight Institute in their Farsight Intelligence Briefing March 2022: How to REALLY Create Your Own Reality TRAILER ( https://www.youtube.com/watch? v=8IUTzRS2eNk ) points out yet another value to shit happening. He says that is is only by clearly seeing the negative that you can know what you want to create instead.

“You have to know what you don’t want to know what you do want.”

He claims that just ignoring the negative and thinking only positive thoughts keeps you a slave to those who are doing bad things. You can only navigate through life when you clearly see reality – the good and the bad. It is the contrast between them that is essential to creating the reality you want.

Indeed, it is the awareness of things that could go wrong that leads engineers to design better, safer, more reliable products, that has parents teaching their children to look both ways before they cross the street, and that requires training for people wanting to drive a vehicle or fly a plane. And it was precisely because of experiencing the abuses of power that our Founding Fathers built certain protections and limitations on government when they constructed our own Constitution and Bill of Rights.

Awareness of problems that have happened in the past and the potential for where and how they might happen again is not being negative but a vital part of wisdom and experience for which we pay people big bucks. When joined with alertness and prudent care and action, it is good common sense and protective.

Wisdom is what you learn through experience.

While we each may wish to avoid problems and just have a pleasant life with everything ‘coming of roses’, such a life will never push us to reach our full potential, develop our character, and grow in wisdom and strength, or to be a beacon of hope and a role model for our children.

So should we be grateful for our problems? Well…..

Well…. in the beginning it is hard to see how some good can come out of it. But once we earnestly work to resolve the matter, we may notice how much we were being called to grow, heal old wounds, get rid of our inner demons, deal with an addiction or other self-sabotaging behavior, destructive relationship, life sucking job, or dead end situation of any kind. Many people in reflecting back have found that such event did indeed turn out to be precisely what they needed to get their life on track, make peace with the past, reconnect to those that love them or make new meaningful relationships.

Regardless of knowing in advance how things will turn out and if they will be in the way you want, resolve to grow stronger and wiser as a result. Let your war cry be:

TURN IT INTO A BLESSING!

See these other related blog articles also:

https://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com/2017/09/14/the-tangled-web-of-choices-that-create- our-reality/

https://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com/2020/05/04/man-meant-it-for-evil-but-god-meant-it- for-good/

https://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com/2018/06/07/blessings-in-disguise/ https://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com/2019/06/16/on-grief-and-suffering/ https://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com/2015/10/02/the-good-the-bad-the-confusing/

https://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com/2016/01/27/dealing-with-challenge-find-the-blessing- or-the-opportunity/

Honor the Negative – it has something important to tell you!

12 Feb 2023 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in anger management, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, mind-control Tags: , , , ,

It helps to think of the so-called ‘negative’ emotions like anger, hatred, jealousy, etc. and the thoughts behind them as simply communication from your inner self. This is more productive than instantly judging them and sinking into self condemnation for thinking and feeling as you do, or to quickly deny them and stuff them in the closet of your subconscious mind where they remain hidden as part of the Shadow Self, but act out in passive-aggressive and destructive ways.

Before you can do anything about the underpinning of your uncomfortable feelings, you have first to honestly acknowledge your emotions and then uncover the thoughts or judgments behind them no matter how repugnant they are to admit and how damaging to your self opinion as a good, evolved, or spiritual person. Growth and healing starts with self-honesty, self-forgiveness and then self-examination. From there you can challenge those thoughts as all is not as it sometimes seems. For example, your anger can arise because of limited or inaccurate information. As Byron Katie, creator of ‘The Work‘ says

  • Is it true?
  • Can you absolutely know that it’s true?

The Emotional Freedom Technique

“Even though I ____” [feel, think, did, didn’t____], “I deeply love and accept myself.”

One of the reasons for the tremendous healing results from practicing the Emotional Freedom Technique as taught by Gary Craig (https://emofree.com/) is this above set-up phrase. Admitting our ‘faults’, negative judgments, pain, wrong action, problem, etc, and then forgiving and choosing to love ourself anyway, not only reduces enormous stress, but helps to forgive and love others as well thereby improving our relationships.

Let’s start with some examples of the shoulds and should nots as they are frequently a part in creating the Shadow Self.

Thou Should Not!

  • I shouldn’t get angry!
  • I shouldn’t want to strangle ____ (my children/cat/husband, etc)!
  • I shouldn’t hate my ___ (mother-in-law, my boss, co-worker, neighbor, etc.)!

Thou Should!

  • I should love everyone all the time!
  • I should forgive everyone for everything!
  • I should be always calm, peaceful, patient, & willing to help!
  • I should put other people’s needs always ahead of my own!
  • I should be grateful for everything!

Whatever injunction you place on yourself can be put onto others as in They Should or Shouldn’t____ and this will translate negatively on to your relationships.

I have often joked that the people that most needed to be in church or temple were already there. That is because when someone so needs to think of themself as a good, God fearing person worthy to be a part of that religious community, they often deny their own hateful thoughts and are acting from their Shadow – the dark underbelly of the unconscious mind. What is denied cannot be healed.

IN SUMMARY

Don’t rush into denying or trying to quickly erase your ‘negative’ thoughts and feelings. Rather take a moment to go deeper without condemning yourself or trying to cover it over with ‘positive’ thinking, affirmations, etc. Your emotions are valuable communication from your subconscious mind. Honor them as stemming from something deeper within yourself. Look at it. Perhaps challenge it. And then work to resolve what needs to be resolved, heal what needs to be healed, learn what needs to be learnt, and clear what needs to be cleared in a way that leads to real emotional growth and wisdom.

Copyright 2/12/23 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

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