Harness your anger to get better!

  • Have you ever thought of anger as an OPPORTUNITY to learn and grow?
  • Have you thought that it can prod to do something different and potentially find a better way?
  • That it can push you to go after a better relationship, job, location, home or car?
  • That in getting fed up you make a decision – a decision to change, to do something about your drinking or smoking or other habits, your health, your weight, your lifestyle, or to do a thousand other things you already know you need to do?
  • That it can impress upon you that you need to set better boundaries, to learn to communicate more clearly, to think before you speak or act, to not settle for less, to stand up for yourself, to ask questions instead of making assumptions?
  • That it can alert you to what needs to heal within yourself, old buried wounds, things from childhood, things you thought you got over long ago but didn’t, and motivate you to do something about it now?
  • And that it can cause you to take a good look at yourself and see what other people see in how you effect people, how you ignore, or upset them, how you take them for granted or give them the impression that they can take you for granted?
  • Have you considered that anger can be your TEACHER, your COACH?  
  • That it can nudge you off the couch and motivate you into taking much needed and long overdue action to create a life that is meaningful and satisfying? 

And have you considered that by using anger in this way, your life will get better?

Learn to harness your anger to help you to become a better person and improve your life.

Over a lifetime, both personally and professionally, I have had the ‘opportunity’ that pushed me to learn about the unconscious forces driving emotional reactions, choices, behavior, issues, and interpersonal problems. And because I like to sleep at night and did not like experiencing negative repeating patterns myself, I was motivated to learn, change and grow.

“Necessity is the Mother of invention.” 
 

What I did learn in order to help myself, helped others as well, and some profoundly so. I compiled much of it in a 154 page content rich manual, Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone, to assist in facilitating clear communication, resolving internal and external conflicts, enhancing personal growth, and improving relationships of all kinds. Using this material, I have gained greater perspective and maturity. I am seldom triggered, and if I am, I immediately work to heal the causative factors. My sleep is greatly improved, and I have developed inner resources, resiliency and peace of mind. My clients and students also report positive results.

 

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While you can learn and teach much of this information right out of the books, you  also have the opportunity of spending time with me in person at the upcoming 
Heartland Hypnosis Conference in St. Louis, Missouri, Sunday, April 28 from 9-11 AM. See link here:
Or, come to the HypnoExpo on Friday, 5 PM, May 17 in Daytona Beach, Florida. See link here:
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This would allow you to have all of your questions answered on how to apply it to various situations, do lots of practical exercises, and learn new skills and therapeutic interventions.

This is some of what the book covers and that will be dealt with in the workshop as time allows.

 

 

 

  • ReleasingAngerCoverpngBecome aware of underlying beliefs, judgments, faulty assumptions or perceptions that cause anger!
  • Learn more effective communication skills to both avoid unnecessary problems and to address the ones you have!
  • Learn to maintain and regain balance and perspective quickly!
  • Set better boundaries!
  • Learn to fight clean and stop conversations from spiraling downwards!
  • Learn more effective coping skills!
  • Take effective action without the baggage of the past!
  • Use anger to grow in maturity and cast off leftovers of childhood!
  • Allow anger to locate and address your own unhealed wounds!
  • Understand the underlying dynamics of anger!
  • Learn to deal with what is instead of wasting precious energy in resistance!
  • Notice negative patterns and screw them up!
  • Understand and dissolve triggers!
  • Nip anger in the bud by noticing and taking action at the first warning signs!
  • Understand physical reasons for anger so you can address them!
  • Use anger as motivation for much needed healing and change!
  • Make your adversaries help you!
  • Learn the benefits of anger
      TEACH RIGHT OUT OF THE BOOK!

Central Virginia Dowsers Newsletter 3/5/19

image  Not just local news, but national teleconferences and live dowsing conferences! 

Newsletter Contents:

  1. CVD Meeting at the Senior Center in Charlottesville, Sunday, March 10 at 1:15 PM – 4 PM. “Dowsing on Habits” with Roxanne Louise. Free and open to all.
  2. Blog Article: “Dowsing to Dump Bad Habits” by Roxanne Louise.  See here
  3. American Society of Dowsers Conference, Plymouth State University, Plymouth, New Hampshire, June 26-30. Registration now open. See hereRoxanne will leading the daily, morning meditation, and also presenting “Heal Yourself and Heal the World”.
  4. American Society of Dowsers Teleconferences: See full write up on each plus call-in information here. Live calls are free and anyone can listen. They are recorded, however, only ASD members can access. Good reason to join.

 Tuesday, March 12 at 8 PM Eastern, “Dowsing on Business Matters”. Roxanne Louise will be joined by Dick Tippett. 

Tuesday, March 19 at 8 PM Eastern, “Intro to a Gold Dowser – Pat Delafield”

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Central Virginia Dowsers Meeting:

Free. Senior Center, 1180 Pepsi Place, Charlottesville, VA 22901. RSVP to RoxanneLouise2@gmail.com or call 434-263-4337 .

20180616_awardASD:me“Dowsing on Habits” with Roxanne Louise

Have you been frustrated and annoyed that you haven’t been able to get rid of a bad habit – smoking, over-eating when you are not hungry, spending too much time on social media or television, procrastinating, etc? Although you know that you are an intelligent, capable person, are you, nonetheless, sometimes your own worst enemy because of silly habits? Have these habits in any way contributed to slowing your progress down and interfering with you achieving your dreams? Then come Sunday for a free meeting where Roxanne will help you brainstorm, and show how dowsing can help you to be more successful. (photo is Roxanne holding the “Educator of the Year Award” that she received at last year’s American Society of Dowsers Conference.)

 

“Dowsing to Dump Bad Habits – Part 1”

I have been a creative problem solver all of my life. But since becoming a hypnotherapist in 1989, I have been helping people professionally to get rid of smoking, overeating, procrastination, and a host of bad habits as well as detrimental mental and emotional patterns. In 1990, I added dowsing to my hypnosis, counseling and other skills for a comprehensive approach to dumping bad habits. 

Because I understood the dynamics of smoking and addiction in general, I created dowsing charts for typical conscious reasons why people started smoking as well as both the conscious and unconscious reasons that keep the habit/addiction alive. I then created charts and checklists on interventions, visualizations, modalities, and strategies that would most likely work with any individual client. I made dowsing charts on secondary gain (a benefit obtained from a problem), defense mechanisms, coping skills, emotions, beliefs, judgments, and much more. These charts eventually became the book, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing.

dowsing cover frontAs I studied all the reasons for overweight and what to do about them, I created dowsing charts for the physical reasons for weight gain and difficulties in losing. I had other charts for the emotional and psychological reasons for weight including the reasons why people binge or eat when they are not hungry. And I had many charts on various traumas, issues, and typical life events as well as the people and ages at which they may have originated.

 

 

The most important parts of getting rid of any problem behavior are:

  • A decision and commitment

Nothing happens until you do this.

  • Having a big enough reason—your why. 

What’s the downside if you don’t change? Be very clear about this. Then you can dowse the key issue/s. 

What’s the upside if you do? Clarify this as well. Dowse out the most important.

What do you want more than ___ (the cigarette, ice cream/potato chips, beer, etc.)?This is all part of your clarity of purpose. 

Anthony Robbins says that all motivation is carrot and stick. A donkey can be motivated to move forward if he wants to get the carrot held in front of him, or he can move because someone is hitting him on the rump with a stick and it hurts enough. 

Do you go to work because you love your job and can’t wait to get there? Or do you grudgingly get out of a warm, comfortable bed because you don’t want to be fired and end up homeless?

Increase the appeal of moving forward to make the change, as well as increasing the distaste for the negative ramifications of not doing so.

  • Clearing, healing, resolving any resistance to change

Dowse out the percentage of resistance to getting rid of the bad habit. Perhaps your unconscious mind thinks it is helping you in some way by maintaining it. If so, use dowsing, EFT, or hypnosis to re-educate the unconscious of a constructive way to achieve the higher intention, and to agree to release the negative habit.

  • Increasing the allowance, even excitement for change

Dowse out this percentage as well. Then ask if you can increase it to the highest level possible at this time, and do so.

  • Knowledge of the issue at hand

Do some research on the habit you want to change. Then you can design your own dowsing checklists/charts. For example, overeating can be triggered by food cravings stemming from allergies, metabolic issues, fungal overgrowth, as well as psychological or emotional issues, particularly anger and guilt. If physical causes elicit a positive dowsing response, it would make sense to consult a physician. 

Smoking can start as a desire to be grown-up, rebel against authority, seek acceptance by the ‘in crowd’. Unconsciously the person is still the kid trying to fulfill those original desires. List the possible reasons and dowse out what is relevant to you.

Knowing that addictions are filling a void will help you to look for what it is that is trying to be filled and address that. Is there an emotional or psychological wound that has to be healed? Dowse.

  • Substitution of a positive or constructive alternative

What are you going to do instead? 

Understanding that overeating, taking drugs or alcohol, and smoking are coping strategies for many emotional states (boredom, loneliness, upset, depression), will make you aware of the need to learn healthy ways of coping with stress and emotional lows. 

  • A well designed strategy. 

Again by doing research on what has helped others will allow you to design your own program. List the possibilities and dowse out what will work for you. Having a buddy or someone to whom you place yourself accountable is helpful. Do a 30 day challenge with a friend.

  • Focus

This is needed to stay on track as it takes time of consciously doing things in the new way until it becomes routine and comfortable. But be aware that if you slouch off, the old behavior will resurface. Ask any person who despite years of not smoking picked up one cigarette as to just how quickly they reverted to full scale smoking habit again. Any habit that is also an addiction (smoking, drinking, gambling, etc) must be totally permanently eliminated.

  • Consistent action

The desired habit must be maintained through frequent, repeated action or it will not become internalized and automatic. The more you repeat the behavior, the stronger it becomes. The less you repeat it, the weaker.

So if I want set a new habit of cleaning the kitchen every night before bed, I have to make a point to do it, tired or not. I tell myself how little time it will take, and how good it will feel to wake up to a clean kitchen. It also helps to check it off on a calendar. I write down my goals and accomplishments for each day. Noting what I have done, even if many things on my list did not get done, is a reward in itself. Noting what I didn’t do creates greater urgency to do it the next day. I focus on making progress to avoid getting discouraged.

  • A positive attitude and belief in one’s ability to succeed. 

If you don’t think it is possible, you won’t even try. This is what stops more smokers from quitting – they tell themselves they ‘can’t quit’. You will also need a positive attitude to deal with setbacks, challenges, delays, etc.

If you find yourself with a negative mindset, you can dowse, do EFT, or hypnosis to counter it. Hold a strong intention to let the negative belief go, and the belief you want to hold instead. “I release any belief, perception or judgment that ___ (negative belief). I now choose to believe that ___ (list at least 3 strong beliefs).”

WANT MORE INFORMATION?

Central Virginia Dowsers Meeting, Sunday, March 10 at 1:15 PM.

At our next CVD Meeting in Charlottesville, Virginia, Roxanne Louise will teach you how to use dowsing to succeed in dumping bad habits and installing good ones instead. Contact us for further information at 434-263-4337 or email at roxannelouise2@gmail.com.

American Society of Dowsers is holding a free teleconference, on Tuesday, April 9, at 8 PM Eastern (US). Roxanne Louise will be discussing this topic of Dowsing on Habits with Margaret VanLaanMartin

Want to Learn Pendulum Dowsing?

I will be teaching an all day Pendulum Workshop for Hypnotherapists, Monday, April 29. at the HEARTLAND HYPNOSIS CONFERENCE in St. Louis, MO See here :  Therapeutic Dowsing & Telepathic Healing  

Copyright 2/28/19 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.  

Central Virginia Dowsers Newsletter 2/7/19

Not just local news!

1. MEETING, this Sunday, February 10 in Charlottesville at 1:15 PM – 4 PM, “Dowsing on Goals – Big and Small” with Roxanne Louise”.

Whether you are making New Year’s Resolutions, goals for the day, month, year or lifetime, dowsing can really help! Determine priorities. Assess your unconscious acceptance or resistance to your plans. Resolve internal blocks.
Meetings are free and open to all but we ask you to advise us that you are coming in case of weather or other cancellation. We meet on the second Sunday of the month, January-June, but NO meetings in July, August or December.
 
Location: Senior Center, 491 Hillsdale Dr. off Greenbriar (which is off Rt. 29 northbound side), Charlottesville, VA 22901

2. American Society of Dowsers: TWO free MONTHLY Dowsing Support Teleconferences, 8 PM Eastern

Roxanne is HOSTING a Monthly Free Teleconference “Dowsers Support & Continuing Education” through the American Society of Dowsers. Every second Tuesday at 8 PM Eastern Time (US),

Mark HurwichComing Up: Tuesday, 2/12: “Goal Setting and Aligning with Your Higher Purpose” with Mark Hurwich and Roxanne Louise.

Dowsing is extremely helpful in setting all sorts of goals – from the daily ‘to do’ lists, determining priorities, to lining up the weekly, monthly, yearly, New Year’s Resolutions, and your overall path in life. It can assess your acceptance or resistance to realizing these goals, and it can resolve self sabotage, doubt, and self-esteem issues related to them. 

Big goals require big energy and invariably confront big challenges. To muster that energy and get through those difficulties, it is important to have a good reason to do so. This is why Mark and I also look at finding your core intention – your why. 

At last year’s ASD Convention, Mark Hurwich addressed this in a talk “Supercharge Your Why: Dowsing for Core Intention. ” This is available for sale through the ASD Bookstore. See here.

Mark uses body dowsing and Core Intention in a niched business coaching healers, entrepreneurs and others who are “stuck.” He has over 34 years of coaching and consulting experiences in strategy and strategy implementation at multinational firms. Mark lives with his wife, dowser Gale West, in Evanston, Illinois. His website is concentratedcoaching.net. 

See Mark’s Article: A Radically Different View of Purpose…Wisdom from Colombia’s Kogi

As a hypnotherapist, as well as a dowser, stress management expert, and Reiki Master, Roxanne Louise works with finding and clearing the root cause of mental and emotional issues including the mind-body aspect of various physical issues, and then teaches multiple self-help tools to empower her clients including teaching goal setting and manifestation. She is the author of several books, a presenter at multiple national conferences yearly, a Trustee for ASD, and is the founder and organizer for Central Virginia Dowsers. She has received 6 national awards in hypnosis including two Lifetime Achievement Awards, and was named “Educator of the Year” from ASD this past summer. Her website is www.RoxanneLouise.com, blog: UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com, and Facebook page: Central Virginia Dowsers. Her email is roxannelouise2@gmail.com, and phone is 434-263-4337.

As Roxanne Louise has already written many articles on this topic, she is going to give the bulk of the call time to Mark. But to have the background of what would otherwise take a couple of hours in itself, see Roxanne’s articles on Goal Setting & Manifestation can be seen here:

Mark Your Calendar: 3/12, 4/9, 5/14, 6/11, 7/9, 8/13, 9/10, 10/8, 11/12, 12/10.
Dial (646) 876-9923, enter Participant Code# 443-333-280, & press # at next prompt.

0Coming Up: 2/19, “Spiritual Interference Patterns” with Robert W. Alcorn, MD.

See here for more information.
Mark Your Calendar: 3/19, 4/16, 5/21, 6/18, 7/16, 8/20, 9/17, 10/15, 11/19, 12/17.
Dial (646) 876-9923, enter Participant Code# 126-360-394, & press # at next prompt.
Robert W. Alcorn, MD, is a psychiatrist and a member of the American Society of Dowsers. He uses dowsing in the Soul Detective aspect of his practice. In his many years of psychiatric work, he has come to recognize that many of the psychiatric symptoms his patient endure are the result of intrusion by spiritual beings into the energies of the patient. He is particularly interested in this phenomenon as it appears in intuitive people, such as psychics, medical intuitives, and, of course, dowsers. He believes that people who are intuitive, who have High Sense Perception, are often very reluctant to seek help in the psychiatric world because they (rightly) fear their subtle perceptions will be treated as symptomatic of significant psychiatric pathology. He believes that it is normal for human beings to perceive invisible beings of all kinds, but that skill is trained out of us at a very early age.
 
He will discuss the range of spirit beings who can cause trouble for us, how to recognize that this is what has happened to oneself, and how to release these beings in a harmonious and compassionate way, even the nasty ones!
Dr. Alcorn is in practice in Ohio. He has incorporated shamanic methods and energetic healing in his approach to patients’ suffering. He is the author of Healing Stories: My Journey from Mainstream Psychiatry toward Spiritual Healing. His website is www.dralcorn.us.
For a link to two of his talks at the American Society of Dowsers Conference available for purchase click here:  He is married to Barbara Stone, PhD, originator of Soul Detective work. Here is a video of them talking about how they work together.

3. American Society of Dowsers Annual Conference, June 26 – Sunday, June 30

Plymouth State University, Plymouth, New Hampshire. Don’t miss it! See www.dowsers.org for more information later.

Making Your Dreams Come True

Mitch Horowitz on Goals and Manifestation 

mitch-horowitzRecently I have been listening to a lot of Mitch Horowitz, speaker, author of The Miracle Club and many other books on New Thought, positive thinking, and the occult. He references many of the authors I have read over decades, reiterating what I have been practicing and teaching on goal setting and achievement including creating miracles in your life. But he says it so well, that I am going to summarize his bullet points here with my own commentary.

Basically, in order to manifest your goals and create miracles in your life:

  • You must have a very NARROWLY DEFINED CHIEF AIM.

This chief aim may be expressed multiple ways with smaller goals as part of the overall direction.

For example, my chief aim is to use my voice to uplift, inspire and facilitate mental and emotional healing. I do this through organizing and running teleconferences, teaching, speaking, writing, and making products. I also belong to professional organizations where I can share, develop and express my chief aim. Years ago, I followed this same chief aim through being a professional classical singer.

  • Your goal needs to be PASSIONATE. You need to want it MORE than other distractions. 

It is this passion that will mobilize your energies to do the work and overcome challenges.

  • In addition to being very SPECIFIC, this goal needs to be held with SINGLE MINDED FOCUS. This will give you greater energy and stamina to push through to do what is needed. 

One way to keep your focus is through visualization. Imagine any scene that would imply achievement of your goal.

  • You need to make a DECISION to pursue this goal now. It is not a ‘someday’.
  • For a goal to be authentic, it must be ACTIONABLE. You have to be able to take concrete steps in the direction of it’s achievement. It is cannot be a daydream for which you can do nothing to promote.
  • Your goal must be ETHICAL and in keeping with your CORE VALUES. Furthermore, if you have any partners and collaborators, everyone needs to be in alignment both with your goal and values.

If your goal is in conflict with your values and ethics, you will experience problems in achieving them or will achieve them at a price such as in health or relationships.

  • You need to INTELLEGENTLY PERSERVERE.

See my earlier blog “Under, Over, Around and Through” as an example of bulldog perserverence and yet also knowing when to shift direction.

  • PRAY for what you want. This can be a request, but it can also be a demand or even be waving your fist.

Jean Slatter calls this Hiring the Heavens and describes it in her book by same title. I write about this in my own book Accessing More – Tapping Into the Eternal Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process. The act of prayer summons both internal resources and the something to which we are all linked – that greater sea of consciousness and the Great Intelligence behind all that is.

  • Manifestation has a gestation period. This is the Sabbath, and a time of exercising PATIENCE and REST.

Do what work you can, and then do something to lift and renew your spirit in some way. This will give you fresh energy to bring to your goal later.

  • While you are waiting, STRIVE FOR EXCELLENCE.

This continual application and learning prepares you for whatever opportunities do come your way. It also keeps your goal in focus, adding more and more energy to attract what you want.

LIMITS to Mental Causality:

Mitch acknowledges that we live under many laws and forces that effect mental causality. Results are not guaranteed by just following the Law of Attraction. By thinking it so, by visualizing and feeling you can direct miracles into your life. But you cannot always make what you want happen the way you want, when or how. Nonetheless, these are things you can do to increase the odds in your favor.

Copyright 1/2019 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and links to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

Under, Over, Around and Through

Many people give up too easily on their dreams. Don’t!!!

If something is important to you, if you have a dream, if you have a talent that demands development, then you MUST PURSUE IT any way you can going under, over, around and through whatever obstacles or challenges are presented. Only in that way will you satisfy the deep, inner calling of your heart.

When I first entered college, I wanted to have a dual major of music and social science. These dual interests were apparent from early childhood. Like the “Lucy” Peanut cartoon strip character, I was giving out my two cents of advice to playmates starting at age 4. But at the same time I also fantasized musical numbers and would sing and dance for whoever came into the house. I was fantasizing Gene Kelly and Judy Garland song and dance routines. I was in church choir, school orchestra and band, every talent show, and later in All State Chorus. My vocal talent was recognized very early by professional classical singers including two former Metropolitan Opera soloists.

However, my college felt that music was too all encompassing and I needed to make it both my major and minor or not at all. I picked music with voice being my major. My mother was aghast thinking it would lead to couch auditions and an immoral lifestyle. I was told that I would be disowned and cast out of the family, Even after an interview with Metropolitan Opera star and head of the Voice Department who tried to intervene on my behalf was unable to dislodge my parents adamant refusal.

As I lacked the courage to venture completely out on my own, and more importantly, did not want to cut all ties with my family, I majored in social sciences instead. But both while in school, and after graduating, I took private lessons as money would allow, went to the library to check out opera recordings while following along with the score and librettos, went to concerts, and sang in churches that put on oratorios and even was Mezzo-Soprano soloist for Handel’s Messiah while in college.

The turning point came when as a young woman and living in Boston my husband went to speak with Re Koster, the head of the voice department at New England Conservatory of Music. He convinced her to listen to me and if satisfactory, accept me as a private student, something she had always refused before. However, she did take me, and within 6 months of this Dutch mezzo’s tutelage, I had learned all of the mezzo solos in the oratorio repertory, and most of the Bach cantatas as well. This I did while holding my infant son in my arms during my lessons. Soon after she retired and moved leaving me to go on to another teacher. I then also talked my way into being able to audit music theory classes at Boston University even though I was only enrolled for voice lessons. 

Not having a piano of my own, I rented time on a neighbor’s to learn my music. Again, I would hold my infant on my lap while playing the music with one hand. Then I talked my way into ushering for the Metropolitan Opera performances when they visited Boston. Such opportunity was only open to New England Conservatory students, but I signed up anyway. Then before each performance, I went up to the soloists and musicians and interviewed them, the famous bass Justino Diaz being one of them. I actually met the orchestra leaders that later hired me as Executive Secretary for the Met years later, and some of the musicians for whom I later worked. 

While living in Boston, I then auditioned for and was accepted into an all professional choir that put on Bach cantatas with professional orchestra every Sunday. While I was not good enough to be paid as were the others, they did pay for my babysitting. My son, now a toddler, was enrolled in the church nursery, and went with me to all the rehearsals where he crawled under the chairs of the musicians when he got away from the nursery. During one church service, the congregation was startled with the two gigantic wooded doors at the rear of the sanctuary banging open, and one little guy striding very triumphantly up the aisle to come visit me in the choir stalls up front.

When the family moved to Portland, Maine, I enrolled as a voice major at University of Maine, and joined a major choral society. Again, I ushered when Boston Opera came to town taking my young son with me to pass out programs in the balcony. I took him backstage with me to meet some of the singers. My voice teacher decided that I needed more professional training than he could provide and so we drove together from Portland down to Boston regularly for us both to study with a prominent voice teacher there. My voice lessons represented half of my food budget for the week. When I could not continue to afford to pay for membership in the choral society, an anonymous donor came along and paid it for me.

I auditioned for the professional choir in the episcopal cathedral Portland, and while not paid, was able to get free piano lessons from the Director.

When the family moved again, this time back to New Jersey, I was determined to get ANY job that I could at the Metropolitan Opera. I was willing to scrub toilets. So I made the rounds of all the employment agencies in Manhattan each time asking for a job at the Met. The answer was always the same – no openings. Finally, I took the bull by the reins and went to the stage door and inquired of the personnel department. The woman on the house phone asked if I took short hand. When I replied ‘no”, she hung up the phone.

So, I was determined to find a way to be able to take dictation. I found that my old high school was giving a summer course on ‘speed writing’. I took it, and soon after was hired as Executive Secretary to the Orchestra Manager at the Met!!! This gave me free rein to walk backstage, visit the various departments where they make and manage everything – wigs, costumes, sets, staging, and more. I was able to hear all the rehearsals over the loud speakers while working, and get free standing room passes to performances, and free dress rehearsal tickets for my family. This allowed me to educate my parents into the magical world of opera and give my son exposure to it as well.

I found a voice teacher across the street from Lincoln Center, and on lunch hours if there were no rehearsals taking place in house, and after work, I would sit and listen to other people’s voice lessons. This gave me a fantastic musical education. I also took yoga and exercise classes, language classes, acting lessons, and speed reading. 

I then auditioned for and was accepted into Aspen Music Festival Chamber Choir. As the Met orchestra was off in the summer and the house operated on skeleton crew, it was possible for me to do this. Aspen provided housing for singles or money for housing for me since the dorms would not take my son. So my son from 8 to 10 years old, traveled with me and was enrolled in day camp while I rehearsed. Then he came with me to all performances. During one year, I wrote to all the churches in town inquiring about a cheap place to stay in this very expensive resort town. We got a room in exchange for me cleaning. Another year, we drove out and lived in a VW bus. Again, as being able to find a place to park legally at night was a hassle, I asked the churches around, and found one that would allow me to do so. I sang there for 3 seasons.

49897687_782012838813911_6915629389375864832_nWith this background, I was able to secure work as a professional singer in Manhattan, join the union, and work not just as now a church and temple soloist, and privately sing for weddings and funerals, but singing with recognized national and international groups such as Joffrey Ballet, NYC Ballet, American Ballet Theatre, Netherlands Ballet, NJ Opera, Ars Musica,  Clarion Musical Society, Friends of French Opera, and more. This also meant that I had to quit my secretarial job at the Met, but then got into NYC Opera Chorus, first part-time, then full-time, then part-time again for a total of ten years. I taught private voice students as well and wrote a small primer on vocal technique. I also started and ran a weekly Women in the Arts support group at my alma mater at Montclair State University.

Reality sets in

I had worked very hard against tremendous odds and had achieved a lot in a very difficult field. But I also had a son that I needed to support. NYC Opera went on strike three times in ten years and I scrambled to make the rent with temporary work as a secretary. I was consistently stressed for money – not just for the rent, etc., but to pay for the necessity of continual voice lessons and coaching lessons if I was going to make it as a soloist and not just remain as a union chorister. I had problems with high notes, problems in memorizing, problems with foreign languages, and problems with the politics of music.

The icing on the cake was tearing the cartilage connecting my sternum to my ribs. This happened within two weeks of starting to date someone new. This man represented the choice between potentially having a happy, ‘normal’ family life or living on the road as a singer after dropping my son off with my parents. The injury indicated that I was literally torn in two between two conflicting goals. My subconscious had cast the die and chose marriage and family. 

Even after I was sufficiently healed to be able to get in and out of bed on my own, and get up and off the floor onstage, I was nolonger able to breathe as I once was, and this not only ended my ambitions for a solo career but any likelihood in being hired as a permanent chorister in the only classical singing job in the nation that provided financial stability – the Metropolitan Opera. 

So unwilling to only be a part-time chorister with the precariousness that that entailed, and during a music union strike in 1989, I trained in hypnosis, a second interest. And I immediately started lecturing, teaching self-hypnosis, and seeing clients as time allowed between my singing jobs. 

But then I came to a point of decision.

Eventually, the schedule became too difficult to straddle both fields, and I had to choose.  Considering the real limits I now faced in music in addition to family responsibilities, I decided to venture out on my own as a hypnotherapist and be in charge of my schedule without a limit on what I could accomplish in using my voice to uplift, inspire and heal (my chief aim that was underneath both desires to work in music and hypnosis). Again, I went after my new profession just as vigorously as I had with music.

Since that time I have been a regular presenter at many hypnosis and dowsing conventions yearly, have written ten books, received six national hypnosis awards including two lifetime achievement awards, and one in dowsing. I host two national teleconferences for the American Society of Dowsers, I sit on the Board of Directors for two national organizations, and have been on the Board of others, founded and run a local dowsing group,  founded and used to run a local professional hypnotherapy organization for many years, set up speakers and wrote a newsletter for another hypnosis chapter, and have trained many people – professional and layman alike – in hypnosis, stress management, dowsing, and Reiki.

Do I regret all the time and energy pursuing a field that I later left? Absolutely not! 

I had amazing experiences that few others have had. I have been part of creating glorious moments in musical history that transported those in the audience as well as the performers to spiritual heights that only heavenly music can do. I went after my dreams and tested my limits in a very challenging field, achieving a certain level of success that was profoundly satisfying. 

So what is my point?

  • If something is important to you, if you have a passion to do something or a big enough why, you can overcome tremendous odds and achieve a significant amount of success. 
  • Regardless of the outward worldly recognition you are able to achieve, relentlessly going after the inner calling of your heart will bring enormous satisfaction to your soul. You would have answered your calling.
  • If you can’t go through normal channels to reach your goal, you have to get creative and find another way. 
  • If one door is closed to you, you find a window. You go

OVER, UNDER, AROUND or THROUGH!

Copyright 2/3/19 by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.      

 

The LIMITS OF MIND TO CREATE YOUR REALITY

dolores-3-e1355459003189-219x300[1]Yesterday, as I was fighting off some ‘bug’ and just trying to rest,  I listened to a video of Dolores Cannon yesterday saying that “ILLNESS IS SOMETHING YOU BRING ON YOURSELF”.
 
While Dolores made absolutely no mention of the many factors you can control that do effect your health, I certainly believe that stress, bad habits, unresolved issues, and sometimes secondary gain, all play a major part in weakening the body’s system and even can determine where and when person gets ill (see work of Dr. Ryke Geerd Hamer, M.D.,German New Medicine). This means that an individual has a lot they can do to be and remain healthy. I have written many blog articles of this at length. (Particularly, see “What if illness was sometimes a choice?”)
However, she makes no mention of the multitude of factors over which you have no control: your dna, the health and nutrition of your ancestors, your mother’s nutrition during her pregnancy with you, how well you were fed as a child, the economics and the political instability of the times. What about the cleanliness of the food, water, air, or whether or not your home had lead paint, or whether you were exposed to multiple toxins, high stress levels in the home and larger community?  
Dolores like Dr. Michael Newton, author of Life Between Lives, also believes that you pick your parents in pre-birth planning session. But if that theory is true, (and I think you should consider that it is just that–a theory not fact), I don’t think you can take that to mean that you signed up for every inherited body weakness, potential disease, and possible element that could impinge upon your health over your lifetime. 
 
I am picking on my hypnosis colleague Dolores whom I both knew and heard speak live many times at conferences, because she like many in the New Age community that are enamored of the Law of Attraction, and the power of our mind and emotion to create your reality, gives the impression of ignoring those limits and forces beyond our control. Just because she has justly received acknowledgement for her work in hypnotizing hundreds of people and therefore, we should consider her conclusions drawn as a result, does not mean that we cannot point out holes in her theories. In fact, the more prominent a leader in the field, the more their ideas should be scrutinized lest we give away any power of discernment and slavishly bow to hero worship.

Difficulty in making definitive conclusions from client work

Here lies some potential reasons for skewing of results that can falsify conclusions arising from client work.
I have noticed that those people that come to me for client work do so because on some level, consciously or unconsciously, they believe that I can help them. In other words, the client self-selects their therapist.

 

A client with a very different background, belief system or model of reality from the therapist would probably go to someone else, and that therapist would probably reach different conclusions. If at any time that therapist’s model of reality is revealed and is in conflict with that of the client, rapport is lost and the client probably would stop going to that therapist.

The expectations of the hypnotist are more likely to affect the material revealed by the client precisely because in the hypnotized state they are in rapport with the therapist and highly suggestible. 

Limits to mental causation of reality

We cannot ignore the ultimate parameter of existence here on earth, which is that death comes to us all – even to the ones that take vitamins, think positive, meditate, and work on their issues. I do not mean to be harsh to point out that Dolores is now dead. So are Dr. Hamer, saints, monks, athletes, healers, health food advocates, and the most prominent of positive thinkers: Wayne Dwyer, Norman Vincent Peale,  and Robert H. Schuller. 
Yes, I most certainly believe that is important to take responsibility for what happens to us by acknowledging any possible role we may have played in it’s creation, and in whatever choices we make to take appropriate action accordingly. It moves us away from being a victim. 
What has repeatedly annoyed me with Dolores (and others) despite her doing a voluminous body of interesting and otherwise good work, is going into the opposite extreme in the orthodoxy of New Thought . It is not just uncharitable, it is false.

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