healing your past

Mistakes, Regrets & Moving On

10 Jan 2017 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, healing your past, self help, stress management Tags: learning from mistakes

I was listening to Oprah Winfrey saying that “there are no mistakes because you have a supreme destiny.. There is a supreme moment of destiny, of calling on your life. Your job is to feel that, to hear that, to know that ….Sometimes when you are not listening you get off track…but it’s all leading to the same path. There are no wrong paths.…you learn as much from your losses as you do from your victories.”

When you are overwhelmed with a challenge,

“get still and ask what is the next right move, and from that space, ask what is the next right move, and the next right move…You are not defined by what someone says is a failure for you. Failure is just there to point you in a different direction.” iu-2

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Personally, I have regrets made from being over confident or under confident.

I have made lots of mistakes, some really, really stupid, unwise, disastrous, painful, expensive mistakes. Sometimes overconfident of my abilities, I have thrust myself full into relationships, careers, relocations, obligations, purchases, financial matters without really understanding what it would mean–the ramifications of it and whether I was capable not just at that moment to handle it, but whether it would be sustainable and desirable long term.

On the other hand, sometimes reeling from the pain of previous mistakes or regrets, I might have been under confident, and did not take the leap of faith to track down and seize a new opportunity, relationship or experience. Sometimes I didn’t think I was good enough, worthy, capable, and so held back. Or that the carrot dangling in front of me was just a tease and would be snatched away at the last moment causing me more pain at rejection or failure. Sometimes I just needed time to lick my wounds before risking again.

BUT I have learned from all of my mistakes, although, unfortunately, not right away. Some I made over and over again until it became obvious that I needed to do something different, that it wasn’t a matter of trying harder or tweeking my approach.

The value of your mistakes

Mistakes, failures all teach you a lot. All of the wisdom I gained from my own has gone into helping others. They have caused me to be more empathetic to others, to understand what they are going through, and how they can move out of it. I can now provide the candle of hope for them that there is life on the other side of even major mistakes precisely because I have been there, done that. And so can you.

As a small child, I sat at the feet of my amazing and wise grandmothers and listened to their stories. By age 4, I decided that above all I wanted to achieve wisdom in my life. However, wisdom comes from experience, and that includes mistakes and failure, and sometimes regrets.

Learning and moving on

My new mantra is “I turn everything into a blessing”. Or sometimes, I just say “how can I turn this into a blessing?” I look for something I can learn regardless of how I feel or felt about what happened. This means that I get far less stressed or aggravated about new unpleasantries than before. I bounce back faster. As my outside ages, I get better on the inside. And so can you.

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14 Mar 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, healing your past, self help

movieposter A passage from the movie, Hope Floats, (see https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y48KWBR3YYA) with Sandra Bullock, Harry Connick Jr. and Gena Rowlands, has stuck in my mind over the years.

Sandra’s daughter in the film (Bernice Pruitt) says,

“My dad says that childhood is the happiest time of my life. But, I think he’s wrong. I think my mom’s right. She says that…”

[Bernice’s voice fades as Birdee (Sandra Bullock) takes over]

Birdee Pruitt: [laughing]

“Childhood is what you spend the rest of your life trying to overcome. That’s what momma always says.

She says that beginnings are scary, endings are usually sad, but it’s the middle that counts the most.

Try to remember that when you find yourself at a new beginning. Just give hope a chance to float up. And it will, too…”

Childhood is such a mixed bag of blessings and challenges. It is where you lay down the framework of beliefs including those about yourself, your world, and what you can expect to achieve and enjoy. Many of those beliefs are false and limiting in various degrees. It then becomes part of your work (as my late hypnotherapist friend, Michael Ellner would say) to “get out of the negative trance you are already in”.

That is why I learned self hypnosis, hypnotherapy, dowsing, EFT and a great many other modalities, first to help myself, and years later to help others.

Whatever self-help tool you use (hypnosis, EFT, meditation, pendulum work, Emotion Code, etc.), I think

it falls to all of us to work on healing our past. It is a goldmine that like horse shit can be transformed and then harvested as manure to make our garden grow a richer life, allowing us to find more joy, love and fulfillment.

Healing Through Time – Resolving Issues from This and Other Lifetimes

21 Aug 2015 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Dowsing, healing your past, Hypnosis, past life, problem solving, self help, The Infinite Intelligence Process Tags: emotional healing, hypnotic regression, stress management, unconscious healing modalities

Have you spent a lot of time to get over an upset just to have another similar thing happen again? Have you just extricated yourself from one lousy job or relationship only to realize that your new one is just as bad? Did you think that you got over some long past trauma only to realize that you’re just as angry, resentful, bitter as ever? Would you like to stop that and end the suffering?

Healing through time is designed to stop negative repeating patterns, issues, and pain. It intends to resolve the matter by addressing the root cause and any significant contributing causes. While you may remember what happened, it doesn’t trigger the same unpleasant emotional responses anymore, and similar events no longer occur.

From my perspective, this involves healing your soul’s journey in this lifetime and beyond, whatever that means to you. Believing that the soul may have existed beyond the current lifetime is not necessary to being able to direct your unconscious mind successfully to the root cause of issues and resolve old, intractable patterns below the level of conscious awareness. Consciousness seems to permeate time. Indeed according to some scientists, time may be more of a handy mental construct rather than scientific reality.

Healing through time involves also healing your family’s or clan’s issues that were internalized by you or inherited genetically. Regardless of your personal beliefs about such matters, holding an open-minded intention to address the origin of the problem wherever it is found is important.

Here are some techniques that help:

• Hypnotic unconscious healing modalities, particularly that taught by A.L. Ward, Art Winkler, or Walter Sichort.

• Hypnotic age regression to cause,

• Time Line Therapy (a Neural Linguistic Programming technique), (See book by same title by Tad James and Wyatt Woodsmall)

• The Infinite Intelligence Process by Roxanne Louise. (See Accessing More–Tapping Into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process)

• The Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson (See his book of same title)

• Pendulum dowsing for mental and emotional healing (See Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing by Roxanne Louise) 36d631736cfeb9bb3142bd858052fa6e

• Past Life Regression (see comments below)

• Life Between Lives Hypnotherapy as originated by Dr. Michael Newton

My preference is to include at least one technique that works on an unconscious level because all too often, maybe even most of the time, the true origin of a problem is unknown. You do not need to know what happened in order to heal. All you need is the clear intention to heal whatever it is.

Is the current upset, problem or issue part of a pattern?

Is it related to a larger or different issue? While it is fine to address the most recent incident first, a pattern will not stop repeating until all other similar incidents are resolved. Go through each one that you remember with the intention of finding the positive learning (wisdom) and then letting go of the upset. It is important to learn from each experience so that there is no need to go through it again.

Forgiveness is important.

Where appropriate, have the intention of forgiving yourself and forgiving others and deliberately draw on the spiritual dimension within for assistance. Tapping into your internal resources and the greater spiritual dimension is all part of The Infinite Intelligent Process written about here.

Once you clear the upsetting incidents that you remember, hold an intention to heal all other events of like kind from wherever they have occurred or will occur in time. This includes the future. Just as your present comes from thoughts, emotions, patterns, habits, and actions of the past, your future develops from how you are thinking, feeling, acting in the present.

Examine your family tree.

Do other family or clan members or society have similar issues? Have you accepted their negative beliefs, judgments, expectations, or emotions as your own? Have you taken on their burdens? Clear away the negative energy of your ancestors, family, friends, society that you are or may be carrying.

The new emerging science of Epigenetics suggests that the emotions of both parents and sets of grandparents are passed on to the baby in utero. The emotional climate in the home and perhaps the larger neighborhood is felt by the fetus and young child. Was your mother experiencing a lot of worry or upset while she was pregnant with you? What about the mental/emotional state of your father at your conception? What was the mental/emotional state of your grandparents during the in utero experience of your parents? Was the home peaceful, happy, welcoming or not?

What about Past Lives?

Those who believe in past life feel that unresolved issues and relationships are carried over to future lives to be healed. That does not mean that past life causes the problem directly (maybe yes, but maybe no). But it does make it trickier to heal. Here are some theories.

Because an issue was not resolved or handled well in a past life, the soul may set up a situation in this life as a second chance or opportunity to resolve or to do things better or at least differently than they were done before, and, thereby, for that soul to learn and grow. However, while two people may be destined to meet and hopefully to work things out this time, what they then do with that meeting is up to them.

Current life situations/relationships may open a file from past life. It may feel like a deja vu experience–that they have been somewhere, done this thing, been with this person, had this experience before. Or it may feel like someone just ripped the scabs off a wound not yet healed. The past life trauma file once opened adds to the burden of current life problems, and will need to be addressed.

What about past life regression?

While I personally believe in past lives, I do not interpret any material elicited from a hypnotic past life regression as literally true. Unless it can be verified through extensive research later with names, dates and places, it may be total fiction even if it is skillfully handled to have a therapeutic effect. Rather, I consider past life scenarios as I consider dreams — as a metaphor or message from the unconscious mind.

In forensic hypnosis, all statements elicited from a hypnotized criminal witness would have to be investigated for accuracy before being accepted in court as admissible. Because most past life hypnotically obtained material cannot be proved, and because clients can get stuck in the story line, I personally prefer to use other methods with clients.

Conclusion

Truly resolving issues will mean addressing the root cause and significant contributing events. This can go beyond one’s memory and current lifetime. It may include one’s ancestors. And it may include clearing the energetic patterns that one has been laying out to create future events.

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