Life Provides Three Kinds of Teachers

Somewhere I heard that a tribe of the American Indians consider that we can have three kinds of teachers.

The Positive Example

The first is one that teaches us by their words and life how to be, how to live, and what is important. They provide answers to the questions of life. Not only is their teaching true and helpful, but they walk their talk. You are truly blessed if you have this shining example in your life as a guide.

However, the downside is that their teaching is taken on faith without examination. Their lessons may be learned by rote. With unquestioning acceptance of what is said, their student may not learn how to learn, how to find the answers to what was not provided, how to evaluate information, or to obtain continuing wisdom on their own. They may not learn how to handle or adapt changing times or situations not encountered by your teacher.

If you are accustomed to simply accepting what you are told and later meet an imperfect teacher, or imperfect followers of the perfect teacher, or if your teacher who had previously been a shining example gets caught up in ego and deviates from the path, you may not have developed your power of discernment to prevent you from also being led astray. Or you may chuck the whole teaching, throwing out what was good and valuable as well as what was not.

Another possibility is that although the teacher of the positive example found answers that were right for their own life and faithfully reported them to you, what was right for them may not be right for you or right at this point in time. You still have to process what you are being taught and told through the still small voice within you.

The Negative Example

The second type of teacher is someone who teaches you how to be and how to live by providing a strong contrast of how not to be or how not to live. Those who present the negative path are very powerful teachers also and can actually help you to set a better course for yourself.

For example, if a parent abandons his children, you, as one of those children, may make a commitment to never abandon your own children because you experienced first hand the pain of that experience. As a result, your children are blessed. If you had been around someone who taunted, humiliated, or verbally degraded you, you may learn to always think before you speak and to respect the feelings of others. This makes you nicer to be around. However,

learning is optional and never guaranteed.

The downside to the negative example is that you may simply judge and condemn this kind of teacher without ever finding the positive lesson. You may dwell in anger, bitterness or resentment, and may, unwittingly become like the very person you detest.

The Coyote

The third type is the coyote teacher. This type does not provide all of the answers or provides answers that are confusing. They may give you only part of what you need and want to know. They sometimes tell you things that are true and helpful, but they may also tell you things that are false or hurtful, providing both positive and negative examples. The bottom line is that the Coyote forces you to dig down deep inside of yourself to find the answers for yourself . They push you to find your own truth and wisdom.

All types of teachers have value.

Indeed, as you think of your parents and other family members, your school teachers, friends and associates, you may have had all kinds in your life already. The point is:


The moment you learn, the moment you find the blessing, it takes the sting out of painful experiences and relationships, and removes confusion and discord. It also leads to greater understanding, acceptance and tolerance.

So, the questions are:

Is what I am hearing true? Is it always true? Can I still trust this message?

Is this example trustworthy, something that I want to emulate?

What can I learn from this person, this relationship, this interchange, positive or negative?

What is good that I admire and respect?

What is the positive opposite of what I am witnessing that I do not admire or respect, or dislike?

How can I use the words, message, example, positive or negative, of this person to be a better person myself?

What is the message others are getting from my life, my words and actions, my example?

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cropped-bio-pic2.png1. Saturday, September 12 at 1 PM, Afton Mountain, VA. One Heart Homecoming.

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Topic: Accessing More — the Infinite Intelligence Process. Vendor all day 9/12 and 9/13. See 8/17 blog entry.  

2. Sunday, September 27 from 2-4 PM, Manhattan at the National Guild of Hypnotists Chapter Meeting, TRS Suite, 3rd Floor, 40 Exchange Place (Wall St. area) NY, NY  10005.

For information, contact Jacob Bimblich, 718-338-8191.

Topic: Accessing More — the Infinite Intelligence Process.  Open to all, $10.

3. Tuesday, September 29, 8 PM,  at the Manhattan Chapter of the American Society of Dowsers, Studios 353 at 353 West 48th Street. 2nd Floor, between Eighth and Ninth Avenue, 10036. (Subway C & E to 50th Street Station)

Meeting schedule• Welcome & Registration – 6:30-7:00pm • Dowsing Class – 7:00-7:30pm • Meeting – 7:30-8:00pm • Guest Speaker – 8:00-9:30pm • Meet and Greet – 9:30-10:00pm. For more information, contact Rochelle at 212-472-8668 or

Roxanne’s presentation is Healing Through Time–Resolving Issues from This and Other Lifetimes. For details see separate blog post.


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National Guild of Hypnotists Convention, August 7-9

10352395_817109968379998_8072222321633381639_nOnce again, I am presenting at the National Guild of Hypnotists Convention–the largest hypnosis convention in the world–this August. It takes place in Marlboro, Massachusetts. For information, see 

I have been asked to teach there every year since 1992, and have attended since 1989. People come from around the world to share their knowledge. It is an exciting event.

This year on Friday, 8/7 at 1 PM, I will be teaching Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone! — Make All Your Emotions Work for You! I will discuss how anger is a choice in response based on perception. Because perception can be changed, this means that anger can dissolve instantly as it does. I will teach attendees how to harness anger to grow, heal, and move powerfully ahead, and then how to discharge it safely. Simple techniques and visualizations can really help.

On Saturday, 8/8 at 9 AM, I will be teaching What To Do When Stress Is Over the Top! — Strategies and Techniques That Work! I will go over the Emotional Freedom Technique, Tapas, Infinite Intelligence Process, and many techniques as well as strategies and attitudes that make a difference.

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