Dowsing for Mind-Body Healing

When a person is ill, they typically go to a doctor for a diagnosis. But the diagnosis, even if accurate, is not the root cause of the problem. The disease may only manifest after years of the body being abused, of other things being unbalanced or neglected, of the mind or body being overworked, overwhelmed, stressed out, of the spirit disconnected from joy, purpose, fulfillment or loving relationships. The cause may stem from years of unresolved upsets and issues, detrimental beliefs, habits or lifestyle.

In this way, disease is an opportunist taking advantage of some weak spot. And while a person may be good about taking good care of himself in certain ways, he may ignore or even abuse himself in others. For example, he may eat right or exercise but still smoke. It is in the neglected or abused area where the body and health will break down. At the time, he may think he is invincible, that his body will always bounce back, or that for any reason that he has to push himself beyond sensible limits. He may think that his ego, sense of self image, job or family responsibilities or finances depend upon it. He may feel that life is about having fun but then interpret ‘fun’ in some self-destructive way. He may think that he has plenty of time to get serious about his health in some far distant tomorrow. Then tomorrow comes and the piper wants to be paid.

Think of it this way: a house may be burglarized because it was easy— by all appearances, no one was home, the door was unlocked, or a window was left open. And while there was an alarm system, it may not have been turned on. Closing the window now does not bring back what was stolen, but it is still important to do so anyway because it can stop another burglary.

So if you are dealing with a poor health condition, what window of opportunity did you leave open that made it possible? What important nutritional supplements did you have in the house but were not taking? What stress management tools do you know that you were not practicing? What common sense principles or practices or habits that you already know about were you ignoring?

Even when the health problem is obvious as with a broken bone from an accident, that accident may have only occurred because the person was not centered, paying attention or distracted, perhaps because of worries, or lack of sleep. Maybe he was partying late, burning the candles at both ends, or upset about something.

In short, health can never be separated from the other aspects of a person’s life. And healing always needs to consider the bigger picture, not only regarding good basic self care but also mental, emotional and spiritual issues as well.

Dowsing can help locate what is out of balance, what habit, diet or lifestyle changes need to be made. It can pinpoint what mental and emotional issues need to be addressed, and where, when and with whom they arose. Dowsing can set up a priority list of where to start, and which actions/modalities will have the most beneficial effect. It can through intention remove blocks to healing including detrimental beliefs and judgments. It can indicate the degree of progress in resolving problems and stuck energies. 

In short, dowsing has phenomenal potential in identifying underlying issues and tracking their resolution. It uncovers what is hidden and infinitely speeds up the process leading to faster healing time.

Free Teleconference Call, Tuesday, October 17 at 8 PM, Eastern.

On October 17 at 8PM EST, Roxanne Louise will discussDowsing for Mind-Body Healing” in a free teleconference call that is part of the American Society of Dowsers Discover Dowsing Series. Call in instructions are : 1-712-775-7035, followed by the code at the prompt, 436564#. Call will be recorded and can be heard the following day at ASD’s website, www.dowsers.org

Roxanne is a Dowser, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, and Stress Management Expert specializing in mental/emotional issues. She has been a frequent presenter both at ASD as well as regional conferences and chapter meetings, and multiple national hypnosis conventions. She has received 5 national awards in hypnosis including a Lifetime Achievement Award. She founded and runs Central Virginia Dowsers in Charlottesville, and is author of several books on self hypnosis, therapeutic dowsing, Reiki (including mind-body healing), stop smoking, healing anger, and the Infinite Intelligence Process. In addition to her blog, UnlimitedPotentialHealingCenter.com, see her website at www.RoxanneLouise.com or call 434-263-4337.

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How to Deal with Overload

Start by reading Dealing with Overload if you haven’t done so first.

Where do you start?

The short answer is —ANYWHERE YOU CAN!

I like to start with deep breathing because it is instant stress relief. Taking deep breaths will start to release fear, paralysis, and clear the mind. To think straight on how to solve a problem, you have first to get oxygen to the brain. Even a few, slow, deep breaths will help. Any physical exercise, singing, dancing, heavy duty housework, chopping wood, laughing– all make you breathe.

Add music as it will instantly change your mood. If you need to accomplish physical work, combine it with energizing/happy music. Whereas, if you need to accomplish mental work, then combine it with soothing, relaxing music.

My top picks are to 

  • meditate for a few minutes to clear my mind and affirm that I have access to internal resources to do what is needed
  • do some needed task, no matter how small

Sometimes I need to get totally away from things, and just do something relaxing or fun. This is the point of vacations — rest and renewal. This clears out the paralysis and gives me energy that I can then harness to address important issues. Make sure that any ‘fun’ item is not just mindless, time wasting like t.v./internet, but something like being with people you love and care about, or singing, dancing, laughing, sports, etc. that makes you breathe, releases stuck energy out of the body, and shifts your mood. Give yourself a time limit.

Then move to the current problem. Write down various things that have to be done to resolve whatever is overwhelming you, and do whatever you can that you can tackle it immediately. This might as simple as making some phone calls, setting an appointment, scheduling for some help. You do not have to know everything you need to do, just the next step. Do that!

If you don’t know what to do to resolve the issue that is overwhelming you, do other tasks that will be then out of the way for when you do know what to do with the area of concern. This could be your everyday needed tasks like washing the dishes, doing the laundry, food shopping, cooking, etc. I have found that getting your energy moving in any direction, relieves the paralysis in other areas. 

Get help

Find someone who likes solving your type of problem and is good at it. For example, if your house is a mess and that is draining your energy just to look at it, find someone to come in and help you. If you can afford it, hire someone and delegate it. If not, barter, trade with a friend. In other words, I’ll trade you two hours with you coming to my house and helping me do ____ on Saturday, and I’ll come to help you do whatever you want help with for two hours the following week.

Just as two heads are better than one in solving a problem, four hands make the work go faster. When I hire someone to clean, I normally work with them doing those things that are best left to me. This might mean cleaning out a drawer or closet. If you work along with someone else, not only are you doubling the progress, but the other person will keep you on track, and the socialization while you work can even be fun. 

Again, if money is an issue, find some other way to make it work. For example, I had some extra bedrooms in my house and at one time used the rent to pay for needed help. At other times, I traded a room for their labor in my house or farm. I bartered hypnosis for massage. I registered with a local Time Bank to use my skills to get help I needed. Many years ago, I traded babysitting with a couple of other mothers. Ask yourself, how can I get the help I need with ____? What do I have to sell/barter/share? Who can help me with ___? 

Goal Setting 

Lessening overload will always entail goal setting and ordinary problem solving. As mentioned, get the energy moving any way you can by doing something. Then do the next easiest task, and the next. For example, when I have to clean house, I start with the smallest, easiest room. This is usually the bathroom. Then I move on to the next easiest room, and so on. By the time, I get to the hardest room, I am already feeling better by seeing so much of the house looking good that I am in a more hopeful, better mood to take on the bigger job whether that day or the next.

However, some people like to tackle the hardest thing that they are avoiding first. What works for me in tacking whatever I find overwhelming is to get someone to work with me. It bypasses procrastination and generates tremendous energy that persists even after they leave. Having someone work with you is tremendously helpful because they are not emotionally invested in your problem. They may also have the skills you need and enjoy using them. They see solution where you just see problem. They are energized by your challenge, and you are drained. Their approach and possibility thinking can be positively contagious.

Be accountable to someone for taking action.

A client wanted help in getting rid of procrastination so that she could complete a writing project. So besides doing hypnosis, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) on procrastination and non-beneficial beliefs, I made a contract with her. She made a commitment to do  x_ pages and/or _x_  time writing, and I would rewrite/edit one chapter of a book I was working on. At the end of each day we were to email each other on what we had done. She submitted her short stories for a competition, and I completed a rewrite of my self-hypnosis book. It helped us both. You can make a similar contract with a friend.

Develop a do-able strategy or plan of attack.

Make lists and prioritize. Put it on the calendar. Then start checking off as you accomplish each thing. Make a note each night on what you have accomplished. Seeing progress as things are crossed off will make you feel better. If you don’t know how to set up a strategy, ask someone else. There are many forums, meet-ups, business organizations that offer help.

Can you make it fun?

Perhaps you can listen to something interesting as you work. For example, I used to put the Saturday Matinee broadcast of the Metropolitan Opera on while I was working in the kitchen. During that broadcast, not only did the kitchen get cleaned, but I did my major food preparation/ cooking for the week. That cooking made sure that I was going to eat right –important if you are to maintain a high level of energy. Because I was so mesmerized by the heavenly music, I was not caught up in “woe is me,” or “I hate doing this”, etc. I follow the same strategy with other mundane tasks.

If you have to go out and do something you have been avoiding, can you go with a friend or meet up afterwards? For example, I have friends who take a friend to their doctor visits. I know others who join a gym together, or go for a regularly scheduled walk. They get their exercise done and socialize at the same time. Make a commitment, and you will get it done. 

Pay attention to basic self-care

Sleep, good nutrition, contact with others that care about you, fun and humor all provide the energy you need to solve problems and get out from under. Positive energy has to be coming in both to the physical body and to the spirit so that burnout does not occur. Find a way to get more coming in than is going out. 

Pay attention to your self-talk

Your thoughts will help or hinder you. They will make it easier or harder. Become aware and shift from the negative ones quickly. Here are some: “Sooner or later, I figure it out.” “I find a way that works for me.” “I get the help I need to do this.” “I take it one step at a time.”

More Ways of How to Deal With Overload 

There are a thousand ways to get rid of being overwhelmed. My favorite way is my own Infinite Intelligence Process. See Accessing More–Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process . Another book, Your Unlimited Potential will teach you self-hypnosis, stress management, Walking Mantras, and goal setting. The Emotional Freedom Technique is also very helpful, and I teach it to ALL my students and clients. 

Questions? 

Call me: Roxanne Louise at 434-263-4337 or email me at RoxanneLouise2@gmail.com. 

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Dealing with Overload

How Overload Occurs

Overload occurs because stressors are piled on top of stressors before there is an inclination or understanding of the importance of clearing it, or the time, skill and resources to do so. Other matters may take priority especially if there is a crises.

Furthermore, it is difficult, not impossible, to heal what you don’t know about. Therefore, you should be grateful (“thank you for sharing”) when a upsetting memory arises, even one of minor importance, because it indicates that it requires resolution regardless of what action you took previously. What is unfinished and unhealed acts as a powerful magnet for more of the same. It consumes your vital life force, robbing you of the energy needed for health, happiness, goal achievement, and solving problems.

Triggers

Such memories can arise when there is a recent, similar event, or by anything present or associated (triggers) with the original event. Being in the same place at the same time, with the same people, doing the same thing are all triggers. Anniversaries trigger memories–pleasant and unpleasant. Focusing on a problem also attracts–one of the liabilities of anyone writing or speaking on an issue.

For example, when I speak, teach or write about how to work with smokers, I have a huge intake of people wanting to stop smoking. When I was teaching another class on secondary gain and the shadow, it was no surprise that I soon after attracted someone with these very issues. It was a reminder to practice what I preach, and just to witness rather than take an attack personally.

Memories are Linked

Imagine that you see a friend on the street, and that greeting is initially happy. However, if the last time that you saw that friend was at the funeral of a loved one, the current meeting will be tinged with the sadness of the previous event. The memory of that loss may trigger memories of all the other people you have known that have died.

Also, a thought, belief or judgment made at the first event will be triggered, whether conscious or not, and affect mood. The earlier judgement that “people are there to support me emotionally in time of need”, or “I am loved”, “I was so blessed to know this person (now deceased)”, will in the present create a very different mood than if the judgment was “life is cruel and unfair”.

Witnessing Instead of Judging

Why don’t you just notice a person’s character or behavior without emotional reaction? Just be a witness. If you go the zoo, do you get upset with the animals? Do you become fearful hearing a lion roar? If you are out in the wild, that roar might indicate that you are vulnerable and in danger. But, from the safety of the opposite side of the zoo bars, you can notice, and even enjoy it without feeling threatened. The lion is being itself perfectly. Same is true of the rats, snakes and skunks. No need to be upset because they are who they are. Their nature has nothing to do with who you are. Learn to respond with detachment, interest, or curiosity as to what made them that way.

Questions to Ask Yourself:

  • Am I threatened by this person’ s behavior?
  • Is it threatening my own sense of self, my confidence, my ability to earn a living or to obtain anything else that I want or need?
  • What is the truth of who I am and my ability?
  • Does what this person think of me invalidate my essential worth?
  • Does my happiness and the meaning of my life depend upon pleasing this person and receiving his approval, his permission in that I am on this planet, being and doing as I am?
  • Is this behavior/experience reminding me of other unpleasant experiences? If so, then know that they have surfaced in order to be healed. Jot them all down, and work on them as quickly as you can before they fade once again into the abyss of the unconscious.
  • What are the thoughts, beliefs and judgements behind my emotional reaction? Are they serving or limiting me? Do I need to change them? What beliefs or judgments do I now choose to hold?
  • What can I learn from this?
  • Were there any signs, any intuitive prompting that I was not acknowledging that would have safely negotiated around this problem or avoided it completely?”

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Releasing Anger – example

A Practical Application

The bad news is that when you write a book on Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone, the focus required to write a book may bring about an experience to apply what you know (or think you do). The good news is that you do know something to harness that energy constructively and then move it out of your system more quickly than you did in the past. Think of it as an exam. Do you know what you are talking about or not? Is it just an intellectual or a practical knowing? Is there more yet to learn?

So one week ago a tenant, as she was moving out of my house, left water running. Gallons of water poured down from the second floor bathroom to the first floor living room, and down to the basement below. Rugs, a mattress, books, furniture and other things got wet. Now almost half of the living room ceiling has to be replaced, drywall dust is everywhere. And as much as possible things were boxed up and moved out of the living room along with the furniture. Likewise, two basement rooms were disrupted in order to mop up the water, and get things out of harm’s way. So not only is my living room unusable but so is the dining room and hall, and those two basement rooms as well. 

Immediately taking a long view of the problem, I knew that regardless of how much time, energy, work and out-of pocket expense would be involved, regardless of the bad timing and other demands upon me both health wise and financially, the problem would be eventually fixed, and the house would be restored to it’s former beauty. In other words, the problem was temporary. That tenant is now fully gone from my house, and I have a new, wonderful person living here and other workmen helping me clean up the mess.

I knew that I needed to harness the anger into constructive action. So I called people to get the help and advice I needed, and start or supervise the work. I did a lot of the Infinite Intelligence Process to both dump stress and access the wisdom within. I did EFT tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique), dowsing for emotional healing, and meditation because I did not want the anger to poison me or cause me to get more sick. I wanted any possible contributory factors healed. And I also did not want to project my anger back to my former tenant as it would then be a curse on her head. And because I believe that we are all connected, what I send out comes back to me.

I focused on what I had to be grateful for. I asked myself what I could learn and grow from this experience, how I could prevent something like this happening in the future, and what I might have done differently that could have (but not necessarily would have) prevented the damage occurring. In other words, I was actively looking to pull a blessing out of the experience. 

Then I wrote a letter to my tenant to get everything off of my chest because she took no responsibility for her actions and was instead blaming me. I felt it necessary that she understand the ramifications of her negligence so she is more careful elsewhere. This stopped the conversations looping in my head.

I hired someone to repair the damage and then paint the entire living room ceiling. I found someone to clean when the construction and painting are done. And I am getting a record of expenses in case I go to court to collect damages. In other words, I did everything I could. Now, it is just a matter of getting the work completed. 

I learned long ago that groaning over damage done is a waste of precious energy that you need to stay healthy and address the problem. Complaining to people who cannot help you is one thing as an immediate, very short vent, but counterproductive otherwise. Best to talk only to those that can offer some good information and advice. Blaming her or blaming myself wasn’t going to be helpful. Using the problem as an excuse for not doing something else would also be counterproductive.

I would have loved to had someone just hold me. But since I don’t have a partner, I grabbed a cat and snuggled with him. I sat with my piggies. I hugged my dogs. I looked up at the sky. I picked up and talked to the toads. I noticed some of the abundant sweetness that is on my farm. I remembered that I am loved, that I have meaning and purpose in this world, that this is a beautiful place, and I am choosing to be alive and present. 

At other times and places, I may have made love, watched funny movies, gone dancing or done something nice with friends just to discharge energy and regroup. But what is important is that you actively do something. There is always something still left to enjoy and appreciate—even a memory to lift your spirit. 

Did I pass? I think so. Will I do things differently in future? Yes. Will I forget the lessons? No. Can what I learned help someone else? Yes, I think so.

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Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone!

by Roxanne Louise

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√ Turn anger into a blessing! 

√ Shift anger into constructive action! 

√ Use your challenges to improve yourself, your business, relationships & your life!

    • Understand the underlying dynamics! 
    • Change how you look at things so that they don’t bother you nearly as much! 
    • Make your enemies & problems help you! 
    • Harness anger as motivation to heal & make much needed change! 
    • Communicate more effectively! 
    • Fight clean! 
    • Stop conversations from spiraling downwards! 
    • Notice negative patterns & screw them up! 
    • Take effective action without the baggage!
    • Enjoy your life despite the crap!

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In addition to covering this information with clients over the years, I have taught this material at numerous hypnosis conventions including workshops at the National Guild of Hypnotists Convention and the National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists.

 

Understanding Illness from the Stress Connection

The Mental, Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Components of Disease

When people think of stress, they are normally only considering those things that they find aggravating or upsetting. They are not considering the cumulative impact of a host of other factors–even little things that over time add up and overwhelm the body’s ability to process, detoxify, rectify or cope.

A more accurate view of stress may be ANYTHING (physical, chemical, electrical/magnetic, spiritual as well as mental and emotional) that consumes more energy than it brings in. Consequently, even some foods and happy events are stress inducing.

When more energy goes out than comes in to more than compensate, illness occurs.

 

Things that stress or disrupt the body system includes pathogens, allergens, toxins in the food, air or water, and EMF (electrical magnetic frequency pollution). They include pharmaceuticals including antibiotics, vaccines, and even approved medical and dental procedures or treatments. Dry-cleaning or household chemicals, personal care products, microwaved foods, processed or GMO (genetically modified) foods, food additives, heavy metals, city water, chemicals such as chorine or fluoride all stress the body as does heavy physical exertion or workouts. Cell phones, cell phone towers,  and EMF (electrical magnetic frequency) pollution are a problem. Then there are the pesticides we might use ourselves or which have been sprayed on the foods we eat or the foods that the animals we eat have ingested. Amalgam dental fillings and root canals, x-rays, chemotherapy and radiation air pollution, chemtrails–all take a toll on the body. Eventually, it is too much to handle and the body breaks down.

 

Here are the key points:

Stress causes every illness, and every illness creates more stress.

It is both the chicken and the egg. It is a self-perpetuating loop.

Illness results from more stress coming in than the body can handle.

Think of it as a bounced energy check–more energy is being demanded from you and going out than you have the reserves to cover.

It takes more energy to heal than it does to stay healthy in the first place.

It is not as easy as putting back the amount that caused you to bounce. Just as with an overdrawn checking account, there are fines to pay, and time to clean up the mess.

Stress is neutral–it can be from something “good”

For example, getting married, having a baby, moving into your dream home or job, getting ready to go on vacation are all very demanding, hectic and therefore, ‘stressful’. Stress is not just from something “bad”, such as the loss of a job or relationship, or routine annoying as with the daily commute.

A ‘stressor’ is anything that demands energy to handle/process.

Like a checking account, there needs to be sufficient reserves. When the energy reserves go into the “red”, illness results.

The final stressor that pushes the body into illness can be just one more thing too many.

It can even something very minor that you used to handle with ease before–the “straw that broke the camel’s back.”

Stress can come from:

• poisons in the air: inside or outside pollution, “sick building” syndrome, smoke, dry cleaning chemicals, household cleaning chemicals, perfumes, synthetic pillows or mattress 
• poisons from what touches your skin–chemicals or dyes in hair, nail, skin products, cosmetics, clothing
• allergens
• foods that are difficult to digest or food combinations that make digestion more difficult
• poisons in the water--chloride, flouride, bacteria, chemicals, heavy metals
• poisons in food–sugar, additives, coloring, preservatives, pesticides, as well as medicines or genetically modified foods fed to the animals we eat
• medicines and medical/dental treatments or procedures
• time stress and multi-tasking
• frustration
• unhealed emotional issues
• worry, fear, anger, grief, and other upset
• negative beliefs and judgments, such as this shouldn’ t be happening, people should/shouldn’ t ___, or this is bad/wrong/awful.
• too much or too little of anything: sleep, food, water, silence, sunshine, time alone, recognition, money, responsibility, activity, play
• too little meaningful interaction with people or with use of your abilities
• lack of meaning or purpose in life
 • lack of connection to others and larger spiritual dimension                 • lack of balance between work, rest and play, being alone versus being with people, sound versus silence, mental versus physical, material versus spiritual, inside versus outside  

√ The body knows how to heal itself. When given what it needs, it always moves the body towards health.

The body needs energy to stay healthy and to heal if it is sick. 

Whatever you do to relieve stress frees up energy for the body to stay healthy or to heal.

Whatever adds to your stress makes it more likely that you will get sick and it will be harder to heal.

The body breaks down at it’s weakest link.

The weak link may be genetic, or from a prior illness, injury. It may stem from overuse or abuse of certain organs or muscles. But it may also be from emotional/ mental issues or personality/family patterns.

Hard work doesn’t kill you. Frustration does.

 Work that provides meaning, purpose, and an outlet for one’s gifts, talents and creativity energizes the body. Work that is just a paycheck without providing recognition, usage of one’s abilities or creativity, or a way of learning or developing further, drains energy.

Stress on one system helps to relax another.

If you are consistently working your muscles, do something mental as a hobby. For example, do crossword puzzles or quiz games, take a class, read a book. If your work is primarily mental, do something physical to relax–hike, garden, build cabinets, ride horses, ski, golf, etc.

√ You are not upset by what happens to you, but by what you think about what happens to you. It is the JUDGEMENT that is the problem.

There is the ACTIVATING EVENT– that which you think is stressful.
Then there are the BELIEFS ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED, which are the real cause for
the EMOTIONAL CONSEQUENCES.

 

BASIC RULE:

Emotions follow thought!

Change a belief, and you change the emotion.

Change how you look at things and be free!

 

The Three Stages of Stress 

Hans Selye, considered the ‘Father’ of Stress Management, said that there are three stages of stress leading to breakdown. He called it the General Adaptation Syndrome.

1. The Alarm Reaction:

At this stage, symptoms first appear–sweaty palms, perspiration, butterflies in the stomach, anxiety, rapid heart, etc. Next, a person enters 

2. The Stage of Resistance:

Here the stress symptoms may disappear and resistance rises above normal. The person appears to have control of the situation. He is “handling” things. The person is coping. Finally, the person enters

3. The Stage of Exhaustion:

Now, the original symptoms of the alarm reaction return irreversibly and exhaustion of the body and death may result. The person cannot get rid of the symptoms, but must wait to heal, and replenish himself as much as possible in the meantime. The breakdown may be caused by just one more thing, no matter how insignificant that one thing may be, it is too much to bear–”the straw that broke the camel’s back.” The person is unable to cope, and can only rest and wait to build up his reserves of energy again.

Basic Requirements for Healing

1. Find a way to bring more energy into the body.

This will include more and better sleep, good nutition, clean air, being in beautiful surroundings or nature, being with people you love and care about, doing what you love, happy music, fun, laughter, sunshine, exercise, Reiki or other energy work, prayer and a deep spiritual life.

2. Find a way to stop energy from leaking out

Eliminate as many of the multiple stressors as you can, heal your pain pile, and get rid or reduce the energy draining activiites or people in your life.

 

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The Relationship Between Fear and Depression, Breath and Posture

How You Breathe Can Lessen Fear 

A recent study by Christina Zelano at Northwestern University indicates that breathing in through the nose as opposed to the mouth helps a person to respond more quickly to fear and knowing this can help you to deal with it. 

“We can potentially use this fact to our advantage. For example if you’re in a dangerous environment with fearful stimuli, our data indicates that you can respond more quickly if you are inhaling through your nose.” ~Christina Zelano

But, what I would add to this is that it is NOT ENOUGH to just breathe through the nose, but to BREATHE DEEPLY and FULLY. 

My understanding is that the first reaction of fear is to freeze the breathing mechanism – in other words, to hold the breath. This is the deer in the headlights syndrome while you are evaluating what to do (run/fight or stay in freeze). The fastest way I have found to discharge that fear is then to deliberately take a deep, big breath. Followed by other deep, regulated breaths, the mind quiets down.

Deep Breathing Lessens Depression & Fatigue Too!

As a former classical singer with NYC Opera and elsewhere, I noticed that deep breathing whether through the nose or mouth through the process of singing, dancing will process out the debilitating emotions of fear and depression as well as fatigue. While music also plays a significant part, I am sure this significant improvement has much to do with the increased oxygen reaching the brain. Classical singers while singing, for example, breathe four times as deeply as people at rest. Increased breathing and oxygen intake through any form of exercise will put you in a better frame of mind and in a more emotionally balanced state where you are able to think more clearly and make more rational decisions. 

Posture is Important 

Deep breathing is aided by an erect posture that allows the rib cage to expand. Then a person must train themselves to keep the chest still while breathing  deeper down that fully engages the diaphragm. This means that the belly moves in and out with each breath.

Good posture makes better breathing possible, and greater oxygenation of the brain allows a better processing of emotions. But posture is by itself relevant to mood and energy levels. Multiple studies indicate that good posture, holding the head erect and eyes looking forward rather than down [downward facing eyes puts a person into their emotions] lessens depression and fatigue! There are multiple such articles cited on the internet indicating that simply choosing to alter body posture to a more upright position is a quick shortcut to improve mood and energy levels. 

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Mistakes, Regrets & Moving On

I was listening to Oprah Winfrey saying that “there are no mistakes because you have a supreme destiny.. There is a supreme moment of destiny, of calling on your life. Your job is to feel that, to hear that, to know that ….Sometimes when you are not listening you get off track…but it’s all leading to the same path. There are no wrong paths.…you learn as much from your losses as you do from your victories.”
 

When you are overwhelmed with a challenge,

 
“get still and ask what is the next right move, and from that space, ask what is the next right move, and the next right move…You are not defined by what someone says is a failure for you. Failure is just there to point you in a different direction.”iu-2
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Personally, I have regrets made from being over confident or under confident.

I have made lots of mistakes, some really, really stupid, unwise, disastrous, painful, expensive mistakes. Sometimes overconfident of my abilities, I have thrust myself full into relationships, careers, relocations, obligations, purchases, financial matters without really understanding what it would mean–the ramifications of it and whether I was capable not just at that moment to handle it, but whether it would be sustainable and desirable long term.

 
 
On the other hand, sometimes reeling from the pain of previous mistakes or regrets, I might have been under confident, and did not take the leap of faith to track down and seize a new opportunity, relationship or experience. Sometimes I didn’t think I was good enough, worthy, capable, and so held back. Or that the carrot dangling in front of me was just a tease and would be snatched away at the last moment causing me more pain at rejection or failure. Sometimes I just needed time to lick my wounds before risking again.
 
BUT I have learned from all of my mistakes, although, unfortunately, not right away. Some  I made over and over again until it became obvious that I needed to do something different, that it wasn’t a matter of trying harder or tweeking my approach.
 
 

The value of your mistakes

 

Mistakes, failures all teach you a lot. All of the wisdom I gained from my own has gone into helping others. They have caused me to be more empathetic to others, to understand what they are going through, and how they can move out of it. I can now provide the candle of hope for them that there is  life on the other side of even major mistakes precisely because I have been there, done that. And so can you.

 
 
As a small child, I sat at the feet of my amazing and wise grandmothers and listened to their stories. By age 4, I decided that above all I wanted to achieve wisdom in my life. However, wisdom comes from experience, and that includes mistakes and failure, and sometimes regrets.
 

 

Learning and moving on

 
My new mantra is “I turn everything into a blessing”. Or sometimes, I just say “how can I turn this into  a blessing?” I look for something I can learn regardless of how I feel or felt about what happened. This means that I get far less stressed or aggravated about new unpleasantries than before. I bounce back faster. As my outside ages, I get better on the inside. And so can you.
 
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Staying Balanced in Midst of Chaos & Conflict

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Getting Sucked Down the Rabbit Hole

Realizing that I was definitely off center with the intense emotions before and after the 2016 US Presidential Election, I had to regain my equilibrium. I had gotten lost in a litany of distressing events and obsessed with surfing the internet for news to try to understand what was happening and why. As a result, I was vacillating in the emotional sea of worry, upset, depression and gloom.

Reconnecting with My Core

I needed to practice what I preach as a stress management expert. While I think it is imperative to be informed about current events, the forces that are guiding those events, and the big picture of overall trends, there has to be a balance between awareness with detachment and then action if appropriate. A long view of history shows continuous conflicts. Yet mankind has continued and some progress has been made. While there are global and national issues to be addressed, there are also local and personal issues as well. One still has to carry water and chop wood, but being aware of myself as a soul, as a spiritual being and consciousness beyond time and space, helps me immensely. 

Basic Self Care

Balancing the mind and emotions has to start with adequate sleep as the foundation along with wholesome food and exercise. I practice Donna Eden’s 5 minute exercise routine, which helps balance the brain and body so I can think better, raises vitality and gets the body’s energy to flow properly. I also drink Source Energy Medicine (energized water). Besides hydrating the system, it is intended to raise your vibration while it deals with health issues. 

Stress Management

40580f831cc2f1219357730c661ae625 I have many tools for this , but the first thing I do to dump stress and clear my mind so that I can see things more clearly is to use the Infinite Intelligence Process that I have written about in Accessing More — Tapping Into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process. One part of this three-pronged modality is to set up a hypnotic or dowsing program (several paragraphs long) that is run by a shortcut command consisting of 2 trigger words. I use the words “process” and “go” to run the program. For example,

“From the perspective of my High Self, process and resolve everything I have read and heard on the news and internet today. Keep only what is true, relevant and important, and discard the rest. Release any unnecessary fear or worry so that I can sleep peacefully through the night. Go.”

What is mine to do?

If I am going to pick a battle to fight, an issue to address, and a way of making a difference, I need to prioritize. What is my job to do? Where can I make a difference? Perhaps all that I can do quickly is to make others aware of what is going on. Perhaps I can sign a petition, send an email to appropriate parties. A colleague advocates getting involved in town meetings. And I agree that locally is where most of our power lies. But it comes back to asking where I want to focus my energy.

To help me make better choices, I use another part of the Infinite Intelligence Process, which is to affirm that I already have an inner wisdom that is resourceful and capable of meeting any challenge and making decisions. I start out with “there is a part of me that knows____ and that part is ___.” I let the words sink in without having to consciously know the answers. Rather, I trust that by just saying/thinking it with assurance that some divine wisdom is accessible to me, something is initiated to make it true. In the best sense of the word, it is a statement of faith that activates change on an unconscious level. For example,

“There is a part of my being that knows the best use of my time, energy and resources today. And that part is making that information conscious now in a way that ever more efficiently guides my actions. I am surrounded with whatever I need to use those resources wisely and effectively. I know what to do and how to proceed.”

The Importance of Setting Meaningful Goals

Goal setting is not about having a ‘to do’ list, although specific action designed to move you closer to achieving major goals will be on that list. I am talking about setting goals as objectives that inspire you to achieve things truly meaningful to you. Having meaningful goals helps me to focus my energies in a positive direction and to use my time and energy wisely. However, in between projects, I can get sidetracked just as I was recently. So I need to set new goals as I just finished with my classes and conferences for the year. Without clear objectives and meaningful goals, I can wallow in non-productive rumination and activities. I am reminded of the folk saying

“Idleness is the devil’s playground.”

Looking for the Good

Keeping a keen awareness of all the good, the beautiful and the love that is the world creates balance. I need to hear some good news, and physically connect with people and hug them. This helps me to maintain hope and keep my concern about the bad things happening and worry about the future in check.

Years ago when I was going through separation and a divorce, I would ask people to tell me a joke. I really needed to laugh. And as they rattled through a joke or two, I did laugh. Then as I retold that joke to the next person, I laughed again. They laughed, and we all built up a repertoire that kept our spirits bouncing despite whatever challenges any of us were facing.

Random Acts of Kindness

Probably the fastest way to feel better and get out of your own head and put your problems aside for a while is to do something for someone else. It always helps me and just feels good to help others. I think I am sometimes the guardian angel for all those turtles trying to cross the road. So on my list of things to regularly do to keep myself grounded and centered, I am going to deliberately look for more ways to help somebody else.

Count Your Blessings

While I periodically count my blessings, I now commit to make it an essential part of my daily routine. Some people already do this as part of their evening prayers, or when offering a prayer before a meal. When stressed, it helps to remember that regardless of what is upsetting me or might happen in the future, for today I have a roof over my head, food to eat, running water and electricity. For today, I have many blessings. Then I just do what I can for that day. Planning helps. Action helps. Worry doesn’t.

Write a Letter of Appreciation

Recently, I came across the name of Martin Seligman, psychologist, former president of the American Psychological Association, author of the classic books Learned Optimism and Authentic Happiness, and founder of the Positive Psychology movement. He advocates writing a letter of appreciation to someone who has touched your life. This is not a new idea, but a very powerful one. I can tell you for myself, that receiving a sincere compliment or heartfelt thank you totally makes your day. And especially if it is written down where you can reread it, the message touches your heart again and again. Such a letter blesses the author as well as the receiver.

Gratitude

Seligman also recommends that you practice daily remembering  Three Good Things, also called the Three Blessings. Basically, in the evening, you write down three good things that happened that day. But this is more than a simple inventory of things for which you are grateful. He asks you to think of why that happened, or what traits about yourself allowed you to appreciate or enjoy those things. Thinking of good things increases your well-being and lifts depression. But thinking of what you did, or what it was that allowed you to notice or appreciate those things, makes you will recognize that you have the ability to bring happiness to yourself and others.  

“Go to where the problem isn’t.” 

I remember the quote above by Deepak Chopra. Deliberately move yourself physically or at least mentally to a place devoid of the problem. This is the point of a vacation. But at home, you might take yourself for a walk. Or just look around and focus on any good thing you see. It might a squirrel going after nuts, or a pair of them chasing one another up a tree. It could be the mist coming up off the low ground, or a brilliance of the fall leaves, or playing with your pets or children. I know someone who regularly buys flowers. Staring at a bouquet can be a meditation in itself. For me, I might just hang out with the piggies or the new born bunnies.

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Spend a moment of ABSOLUTE ATTENTION on something/anything else.

Break the pattern. Distract the mind. Do something fun or interesting.

Maybe you visit a friend or loved one or do something fun. Comedies help as does reading an interesting book, doing meditation, having a hot bath, or getting bodywork. I know someone who bounces on a trampoline. My son surfs. Skiing, mountain climbing, tennis and other sports force you to be totally focused in the moment. 

But wherever you are, day or night, there is some place you can go to at least in your mind. Think of any place or anyone that makes you feel good. Do you have photos handy? Are they hung up where you see them regularly? Take a moment to stare at the photo, and get in touch with the love that is there, the happy memory as if it is happening all over again.

 Use Music

Music is an instant state changer so keep handy both calming music and happy, upbeat ones to help you. The power of this is that when you go back to addressing issues, you are re-energized, able to make better decisions, and more effective action.

Celebrate

Lastly, life is about celebration and sharing of life with one another. Sing, dance, have a party. Or as a Yiddish toast goes, L’Chaim, which means:

TO LIFE! 

If you think I can help you, here is my offer of  a free 30 minute phone session during the Months of December and January on any question relevant to hypnosis, stress management, mind-body healing, Reiki or dowsing. Call 434-263-4337.

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How to Avoid Burnout

As an Entrepreneur, I am aware of the stress caused by wearing all the hats in a business. The extensive range of information and skills needed for each, the time required, and the stress of the learning curve are DAUNTING! As a result, work hours can interfere with what should be time for rest and renewal leading to burnout and illness.

But it is not hard work or long hours per se that cause burnout. If you are passionate about what you do, that passion feeds your spirit and energizes you even when working long hours. Burnout is caused when more energy is being withdrawn from your energy reserves by multiple stressors than is coming in through rest and renewal. Those stressors include anything that consume energy—bad food, bad habits, too little sleep, toxicity, not just the frustrations, overwhelm, and other mental and emotional issues. 

Burnout is simply going into the red with a bounced energy account. And as with a checking account, it only takes one cent to do that. Furthermore, once you overdraw, it is not a simple matter of just putting the penny back. There are fines to pay. So it takes more money to undo the overdraft. And it takes more energy to undo the damage of an energy overdraft.

While it is important to have multiple ways of reducing stress so that you are not leaking energy, stress management is not the whole answer. Putting  together a well-rounded life that feeds your spirit and enhances

  • overall health, 
  • provides happiness,
  • connection with others,
  • fulfillment, meaning and purpose,

will give you the internal resources and increased life force to deal with the ups and downs in life as they come. And from that place examine and challenge your beliefs, thoughts, judgments, assumptions that underlie so much stress, and commit to a regular stress management practice. All together, this will give you the energy reserves to not just cope but to thrive.

What is stress?

Stress is a demand upon your system for energy. A stressor is whatever is requiring energy from you to process or deal with mentally, emotionally, physically, or even spiritually. This includes preparing for even happy events (holidays, vacations, weddings), doing your usual routine as well as having to cope with extra, unexpected additional expenses, problems, malfunction, delays, toxicity, poisons in food, water, air, cleaning or personal care products, allergens, EMF (electro magnetic frequency), geopathic zones, noise, and overstimulation.

Interestingly, we need a certain amount of stress to challenge us to learn, grow, and to explore new dimensions of both ourselves and our world. Insufficient stress creates stagnation, boredom, depression, and mental/ emotional/ spiritual rot–yes, rot! Growth requires a stimulus, a reason to get off the couch.  It is all about finding the proper balance. See my previous blog entitled “Stress Can Be Good for You?”.

Understanding the Stress Equation

As with the previous analogy of a bank account, there have to be energy reserves to cover all of the demands placed upon you.

  • Demands upon your energy have to be adequately met by both your reserves and new energy being regenerated.
  • What comes in has to cover what goes out or a bounced check situation arises causing breakdown in physical or mental health.

The 3 Stages of Stress

  1. Alarm Reaction – In this initial stage, you experience symptoms such as sweaty palms, tension or tightness in muscles, holding your breath, rapid pulse, indigestion, insomnia. 
  2. Stage of Resistance – Whereas in this stage, the stress symptoms go away, and you appear to be doing fine. You seem to have adapted, and have a ‘handle’ on it. There is a danger during this adaptive phase because you may become cocky and stop doing those things you need to do to take good care of yourself and to resolve your issues on a regular basis. Consequently, as things build up, you tap too heavily into your energy reserves.
  3. Stage of Exhaustion – this stage is where you actually break down. It can be caused by something minor–just one more thing too many (the ‘straw that broke the camel’s back’). All the stress symptoms come back but are not easily dismissed, and illness or even death results.

What to do about it?

The basic strategy as outlined below is as follows:

  1. find ways to get energy into your system 
  2. stop energy leaking out
  3. establish regular routines to do the above.

How to get energy into your system 

You get energy into your system by:

  1. improving your overall physical health
  2. improving your overall happiness and connectedness
  3. creating or focusing upon the meaning and purpose in your life
  4. connecting to your spiritual and internal resources

First, Improve your overall physical health

  • Sleep
  • Relaxation
  • Nourishing, balanced nutrition
  • Healthy Gut allows you to digest and assimilate what you eat
    • ingest: probiotics, yogurt, kefir, naturally fermented foods such as naturally (not commercial) sauerkraut and kimchee, kombucha, and fermentable fibers (yam, sweet potatoes, yucca, and whole oranges (with fiber), Jerusalem artichokes, lentils) butter, garlic, dark chocolate with 70% cacao or more
    • eliminate as much as possible: sugar and processed foods; grains unless non-GMO, pesticide free and specially prepared; wheat and industrial seed oils that cause leaky gut; pesticide ingestion from any food or drink; antibiotics and other medications such as birth control, steroids, antacids and NSAIDS (see http://www.nsaidslist.com) such as aspirin that are taken as anti-inflammatory/pain relief medications; and parasites
  • Deep breathing, singing
  • Exercise including dancing, yoga, and anything to balance energy flow, and any movement or physical labor
  • Bodywork
  • Energy medicine -there are many modalities, but here are a few more: Reiki, Source Energy Medicine, Donna Eden’s Daily Energy Routine (see Resources at the end)

What can you do today to take of your physical health?

Second, Improve your overall happiness and connectedness

  • Laughter
  • Love, hugs and emotional support
  • Community/network
  • Prayer
  • Anything inspirational
  • Anything that feeds your spirit or makes you happy
  • Having fun
  • Nature
  • Healing music – sacred, calming, hemisync, happy

What can you do today to connect and enjoy life?

Third, Create or focus upon the meaning and purpose in your life.

  • Do you have a reason to bound out of bed in the morning with excitement to get started? 
    • This could be your job, a volunteer activity, or a hobby.
  • Can you see how something you are doing now is or could be doing now could help someone else?
  • How can you be of service?  
    • This could be any act of kindness or compassion to a person or animal, a phone call to someone you care about, just affirming your love and belief in another, or perhaps just listening or being there.

What can you do today help someone? How can your work serve?

Fourth, Connecting to your spiritual and internal resources

  • Prayer, meditation.
  • The Infinite Intelligence Process – tapping into the part of you that knows more than you do consciously. 
    • “There is a part of me that knows ___ and is assisting me now to ___ with grace and ease.”

When is a good time for you to check inside with your inner guidance?

How to stop energy leaking out

  • Detoxification
  • Resolving emotional issues – current and past
  • Restoring gut flora
  • Daily stress management–EFT, self hypnosis, Infinite Intelligence Process, etc.
  • Meditation
  • Journaling
  • Goal setting
  • Setting and and focusing on priorities
  • Shifting beliefs,
    • play devil’s advocate – look for the positive evidence, the positive ‘whys or why nots’
    • “What if __ could work?”
    • “What if I could ___?”
    • “What if ___ (the negative authority figure/person) was wrong?”
    • “What is the worst that could happen?”
  • Turn a challenge/problem into an opportunity or object of curiosity
    • “Where is the opportunity in this?”
    • “How can I turn this into a blessing?”
    • “What positive thing/s can I learn from this to be ___ (better/healthier/stronger/more successful)?”
  • Focus on helpful thoughts to shift your attitude
  • Gratitude
  • Notice what is with detachment – Adopt an attitude of curiosity
    • “That’s interesting.”
  • Notice what is , without taking it personally
    • It’s probably not about you.
  • Notice what is without jumping to judgment or unproven, upsetting interpretations of events
    • “How can I look at this in a way that doesn’t bother me nearly as much?”
  • Pick your battles
  • Focus your energy where it is going to do some good
  • Know your limits and make peace with that
    • “I do what I can. I let go of the rest.”
  • Get help
  • Look for resources
    • “Who do I know that could deal with this better/differently and how would they approach/handle it?”
    • “Who do I know that can help me with this?”
    • “What help/resources do I need to resolve this and how to I get them?”
  • Balance – between work, rest and recreation, between being inside and being outside, being with people and being alone, between having silence or quiet time and sensory stimulation

What is something you can do to stop leaking energy physically? What can you do to stop leaking energy mentally and emotionally? What can help you today?

Basic Guideline:

Upsetting emotions leak energy. Happy or peaceful emotions add. 

While some emotions can come from physical conditions, most emotions come from thoughts such as how we interpret what is going on. What are we thinking in our own mind about the people or events in our lives? Are we saying that they are wrong, bad, awful?  Interpretations can be wrong. They can be based on incomplete or faulty evidence. Thoughts and the fixed beliefs that form around them can be challenged and changed.

Learn from the Past

If you have experienced burnout before, take precautionary measures now to avoid it happening again by addressing your areas of vulnerability. 

What are the things you have done that have caused you to burn out in the past?

What are the things you have not done that have caused you to burn out?

If you think about the things you must have or do to avoid burnout, and if you know the things that do or have made a positive difference in your energy level and functioning in the past, then make a commitment to do them now on a regular basis. 

What are those key things for you?

But don’t try to go from doing nothing, to trying to make massive changes all at once. But do do something. Take a step, and keep it going. Then do something else that makes sense. This is a process of creating a new lifestyle, a new way of living on a daily basis, not something that you do once in a while and forget about it.

Establish Routines for a Healthy Lifestyle

Start slow, but start somewhere

  • Set up a morning routine or ritual that starts the day off focusing on the most important use of your time and energy—the priorities of the day. 

What might be a helpful, doable, morning routine?

  • Create an after work routine that brings balance, fun, meaning and fulfillment
    • connect with people you care about (dinner with friends or family, reading a bedtime story to your kids) 
    • do something for fun or a change of pace

What might be a helpful, doable, afternoon or early evening routine?

  • Create a routine or ritual before sleep
    • do something to help you to relax (hot shower, a slow bath, listening to soothing music)
    • do something to gain perspective from any stress of the day or anything upsetting on the news (meditating, journaling, reflection)
    • acknowledge your achievements
    • take a moment to focus on gratitude and the blessings of your life. 

What might be a helpful, doable, evening routine before bed?

What helps me is a system I call the Infinite Intelligence Process. You can read about it here. on my blog: Accessing More—Tapping Into the Wisdom and Resources Within.

Additional Resources

For my story, see “Self Hypnosis Saved My Life” and  “Lessons Learned from Almost Dying”

See the many blog entries at unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com

Experience/learn these powerful healing modalities:

  • Reiki (Unlimited Potential will resume Reiki Clinic once a month in Faber, just 20 minutes south of Charlottesville. 1st visit is free, donation after that unless you are sharing your healing work (Reiki/ other energy healing or feet or hand massage skills). RSVP required. Fall dates are Tuesdays from 2-4 PM: October 18, November 15, and December 13.)
  • Source Energy Medicine – Stephen Joseph Pollitt (come to Central Virginia Dowser’s Meeting at Northside Library, Charlottesville, Saturday, October 8 at 2 PM. RSVP required.) See article here.
  • Donna Eden’s Daily Energy Routine (come to Central Virginia Dowser’s Meeting at Northside Library, Charlottesville, Saturday, November 19 at 2 PM, RSVP required.) 
  • Emotional Freedom Technique —class at Piedmont Valley Community College, Thursdays, October 13, 20 and 27 from 6-8 PM. 
  • Self-Hypnosis Class at PVCC, Saturday, September 24 and October 1 from 9-12.

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