Aging and Cultural Beliefs

20 May 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in aging, lifespan, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

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How Culture Influences Aging

I came across Dr. Mario Martinez, Neuropsychologist, founder of Biocognitive Science, and author of the book The Mind Body Code, http://www.biocognitive.com, both on his website and also in a Hay House interview.
He talks about how our cultural beliefs influence aging and lifespan. After studying about 400 people that were 100+ years old (Centenarians), he noted that only about 35% of them reached old age because of good genetics. However, they all had things in common with each other.
  • All felt that they were loved.
  • 99% had a feeling of connection to something spiritual beyond themselves, thereby avoiding narcissism. This could be God, but it could be nature or something else. They were not necessarily religious or church goers, but were definitely spiritual.
  • If they believed in God, it was a God of love, not one of fear. Fear puts the nervous system on hyper alarm.
  • Some smoked, some drank, but in moderation out of pure enjoyment, not need. Eating also was out of enjoyment, not need.
  • Slightly overweight people lived longer, but there were no centenarians that were obese.
  • In general, they did not go to doctors, and had actually outlived them all. Martinez feels that medicine has helped longevity principally in fighting infections (also healing fractures).
  • Meaning and purpose in life was crucial. Martinez says that death comes for most people within 6 years after retirement because of loss of meaning or purpose. Mentoring others is a good way to keep yourself going.
  • People who look younger than they are believe that middle age starts later than those who identify with the cultural beliefs of aging. He recommends not telling people your age, but rather identify yourself as 15 years younger at a happy time of your life.
  • Organizational culture makes people sick. One factor is having responsibility without authority, or a job without meaning. Another health risk is working through mealtimes because it does not allow the body to digest the food. 75% of corporate leaders have gastro intestinal problems because they take their technology to lunch with them.

Beliefs about aging in our culture are not only disempowering, but are making us look/feel/act a lot older and die younger.

Repeat after me “My body remembers what ___ (20, 30, 40–any age at which you were healthy, vibrantly alive and happy) is.” 

Then vividly picture yourself as that age. Stand and walk as if you were that age now. Your body is only energy–it can shift.

NOTE: In assisting George Bien, my primary hypnosis mentor, who was conducting fire walks, we were told to have a reason to walk on the hot coals. I repeated “my body remembers what 20 is.” When I got done walking, I noticed that I did indeed look younger, and that held for about 2 weeks.

You may notice that anytime you are in love or fired up in a good way about life, people, events, your body springs alive. You bounce, your face no longer sags, the energy returns to your step and your voice. You feel better and you are healthier. You have to have something that inspires you, that gets the blood flowing through your soul to stay healthy.

The goal should not be to live to be 100 years old, but to live a fulfilled, rich life and then to leave a legacy.

It takes time to do that. By the time you attain significant skills, wisdom and maturity, you are already middle aged or older. Live long enough to give that knowledge and wisdom back so that the next generation progresses and benefits from what you/we have learned. Live long enough to do those things that are important to you, to learn, to grow, to heal this time around so that you don’t drag your baggage into the next incarnation.

I look forward to your comments.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

Hypnosis for Cancer (and other) Patients

19 May 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, medical voodoo, mind-body healing, National Guild of Hypnotists, nocebo response, physical healing, placebo response, problem solving, secondary gain, stress management Tags: , , , , , ,

Make a Powerful Healing Difference!

Most major diseases such as cancer, diabetes, heart disease, come about after a long period of stress, bad habits, unbalanced lifestyle, overall abuse or neglect of one’s health or needs. Fixing it then is not as simple as undergoing surgery, a particular medical treatment or drug protocol even if those are indicated. It also requires addressing what weakened or overloaded the system in the first place. 

Dealing with stress, both current stressors and past unresolved issues, is always indicated because it is stress that robs vital energy needed for the body’s defense and healthy cell regeneration and repair. 

Hypnotherapists are ideal in helping cancer as well as many other types of patients because we already are experts in many of the factors important for a well rounded treatment protocol.

  • We create hypnoanesthesia for childbirth, surgery, dentistry as well as trauma situations
  • We reduce stress that interferes with the body’s natural defenses.
  • We help heal emotional trauma that may have weakened the system.
  • We enhance relaxation that eases all types of pain (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual), and brings about much needed rest.
  • We utilize positive suggestions to maximize the Placebo Effect.
  • We create and then collapse negative anchors to undo the Nocebo Effect and negative self-fulfilling prophesy.
  • We utilize healing visualizations to assist the body to heal.
  • We empower the client by teaching him multiple self-help tools such as self-hypnosis, stress and anger management, pain management, self-guided visualizations.
  • We install desired, helpful habits, and increase a client’s motivation for practicing them: healthy eating, detoxification, regular exercise, work and sleep habits.
  • We help the client to eliminate unwanted, detrimental behaviors such as smoking or bad eating habits.
  • We help to improve attitude.
  • We help heal relationships.
  • We improve sleep.
  • We teach goal setting and staying focused on any helpful routine including treatment protocols.
  • We assist in problem solving for anything that comes up.
  • We assist the client contacting and working with the healer within that may already know what has to happen in order to heal.

But most importantly, hypnotherapists help clients to 

  • get in touch with their inner core to find the part of their life that is out of balance and draining their life force, and then addressing it, 
  • and to find and fulfill the unmet needs the soul requires to demonstrate good health.
  • If you fire up the spirit, the soul of the person, it can mobilize the system and fire up the body to do what it already knows to do to heal.

In addition to any indicated medical treatment, for healing to occur

  • there has to be a big enough reason to heal, 
  • the energy drains on the system (toxins, overwork, stress and internal conflicts) have to be cleared away,
  • and more energy needs to come in not just with sleep, good nutrition, but also through loving relationships, meaning, purpose and joy.

During a workshop on this topic at the National Guild of Hypnotists, I taught hypnotherapists multiple ways of becoming a powerful asset in their client’s healing journey whether with cancer patients or those with other serious health issues.

TRADITIONAL USE OF HYPNOTHERAPY FOR CANCER, etc.

Hypnosis has traditionally been used as adjunctive therapy to allopathic medicine. As such, it did the following:

  • reduction of symptoms caused by the illness directly
  • reduction of symptoms caused by the treatment, such as hair loss, nausea from chemotherapy/radiation, and by any medication
  • fear of diagnostic tests, surgery and/or treatment
  • motivation to follow the medical treatment protocol
  • motivation to follow any other physician recommendations, such as follow thru with dietary changes, physical therapy, etc.
  • hypnosis for anesthesia, and speedy post-operative recovery
  • visualization for healing
  • elimination of health destructive habits such as smoking (cancer), or anger outbursts (as in high blood pressure)

EXPANDED USE OF HYPNOTHERAPY

The expanded use of hypnosis includes all of the above plus a very wholistic look at the entire life of the patient to bring harmony and balance conducive to good health. This includes:

  • undoing the Nocebo Effect—the impact that fear, hopelessness and self-fulfilling prophecy has had or could still have from hearing the diagnosis of their condition and the likely prognosis that the illness will take. The negative suggestions/expectations may have come from the medical staff, but also support groups, friends/family or even online.
  • locating and resolving the major drivers for the disease — the main mental/emotional stressors that have weakened the system.

This understands that while anything that stops energy leaking out of the body’s system, and reduces stress, including long buried issues, frees up energy for the body to heal, there needs to be a deliberate search for and healing of those specifically related events, beliefs, judgments and decisions.

  • addressing the energy equation.

Illness results when more energy demands are placed on a body than it has the reserves to cover.

Anything that  stops energy from leaking out maintains critical energy reserves. 

Anything that brings more energy into the system makes more energy available for the body to do what it already knows how to do in order to heal.

  • motivating the client to investigate, inaugurate on a can’t hurt basis, and maintain a common sense approach to good self-care in addition to what was advocated by the client’s team of medical advisors.

This relates to improving the energy equation, and can include:

  • improving diet, sleep and exercise
  • adding supplements, herbs, homeopathic, aromatherapy, or other
  • various healing modalities for overall wellness not directly tied to healing the specific illness (massage and other bodywork, energy work, chiropractics, etc.)
  • eliminating counter productive habits that go beyond smoking or overeating, but include non-beneficial mental and emotional habits as well
  • reducing toxicity
  • addressing the spiritual dimension

This will include connecting to that something More beyond the body and the self. It could include a connection to what people call God, but could also be a connection to family, community, nature, humanity as a whole.

It also looks to whether the client has a sense of meaning, value and purpose in his life. If, for example,  the client perceives life as meaningless and unfulfilling, why heal? This relates to strengthening the “life urge”, the will to live. But it goes beyond just the ego’s drive to survive to something more, to fulfilling some important purpose or goal, such as raising a child.

  • accessing internal wisdom to locate and heal what’s out of balance in the person’s life

This may include visualizations that personify and work with the “healer within”, Gestalt dialog, or just internal questioning and affirmations as with the Infinite Intelligence Process (“There is a part of me that knows ___ and is ___ so now”).

  • looking for the message/lesson/opportunity/blessing hidden within the disease

Because physical illness is sometimes driven by the soul to heal a soul issue, the faster the learning occurs, the quicker the need for that illness is resolved. Physical healing can then (but not always) follow. Carolyn Myss talks about this.

  • amplifying the client’s inner wisdom in making the right decisions for himself
  • increasing joy and overall fulfillment in life

If a person loses his will or desire to live, the body soon follows. In order to heal, there has to be a reason or desire to do so that goes beyond just get out of unpleasant symptoms or physical pain. This may mean helping the client to find and follow his life’s purpose. It may mean making radical changes in his life. Why get better if it means going back to a life or situation that is intolerable?

  • improving primary relationships
  • improving balance in life
  • dealing with any other stressors including the stress caused from being sick, the financial worries, the practical problems of not being as capable and self-sufficient as before.
  • teaching any self-help skills, particularly stress management tools (self-hypnosis, EFT, Emotion Code, Infinite Intelligence Process, etc.) , that you know and which might well help the client whether or not they are strictly ‘hypnosis’
  • utilizing any other modalities that you know (such as energy healing) and which might well help the client whether or not they are strictly ‘hypnosis’ as long as the client approves.
  • changing both the internal and external environment of the cells – this includes the mental and emotional environment as well as physical and spiritual. For Hypnotherapists, changing the environment starts with helping the client to change his perception of the environment because as Biologist Dr. Bruce Lipton says, perception creates chemistry. 

This may be as basic as healing one’s perception that they are living in a hostile environment. Fear is the big issue to address. Fear mobilizes the body for fight or flight. Only love, feeling safe, being at peace enables the body to move into growth and healing.

Physicians may offer drugs to change the cells chemistry, and diet, herbs, supplements, aromatherapy and homeopathic remedies also do so. But thoughts and emotions also change internal chemistry, and sometimes faster.

  • empowering the client to make informed decisions about his own treatment.

Hypnotherapist and long time Director of Health, Education, AIDS Liason, Michael Ellner says that patients who are actively involved in making their own decisions about their treatment do better. This may be motivating the client to investigate other treatment options for the disease, whether still within the allopathic model or not. These other treatment options may be in addition to or instead of traditional allopathic treatment.

  • restoring hope and eliminating the feeling of powerlessness and being a victim of disease
  • making the client aware of his resources and his ability to respond constructively to the health challenge

The goal is to empower the client to bring his body, mind, spirit and his life back into balance and harmony that will support good heath.   

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          

How Not to Let Non-Beneficial Energies Stick

05 Apr 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in clearing non-beneficial energies, exorcism, ghost busting, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, psychic healing, self help, spirit releasemlent

Energetic Self Defense:

A Common Sense Approach

Non-beneficial, uncomfortable energies are around us in the sea of consciousness just like beneficial, comfortable ones all the time. The point is not to let them stick to you. Non-beneficial energies cannot stick if your energy field is strong and healthy and if you have no receptor sites. Your energy field is affected by your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual state.

  •  Non-beneficial energies cannot stick if you are in a good physical state.

Therefore, take care of your health, and get adequate nutrition, sleep, etc. Also, do something that forces you to breathe deeply and preferably combine it with connecting with others. Exercise strengthens your energy field, dumps a great deal of stress, and oxygenates your brain so that you can think better. But rather than work out in isolation on machines, sign up for a dance class, chorus, drumming circle, hiking group where you will socialize at the same time and get additional benefits.  Even hard, physical work that gives you a sense of accomplishment is helpful, but is even better if you do it with a friend.

  •  Non-beneficial energies cannot stick if you are in good mental and emotional state.

This means that in order to keep your energy clear, it is important to

  1. Deal adequately with everyday stress.
  2. Deal also with your old hurts, anger, resentment, trauma, drama, etc. 
  3. Stay connected to others.
  4. Have fun.

All of us need to learn basic stress management techniques to dump stuck energies. In today’s highly stressed world, it is easy to become overwhelmed. There are a great many techniques, but the Emotional Freedom Technique is a good place to start because it is simple to learn, highly adaptable to anything, and powerful. There are many videos online making it easy to learn this process. I teach this to everyone. Another good technique and another that I teach all my clients is the Infinite Intelligence Process that I wrote about in my book Accessing More.

Your mental and emotional issues, your unhealed wounds, fears, prejudices, limiting beliefs and addictions act as velcro that attracts similar, compatible energies. This makes your own situation worse. Like attracts like. But each time you heal some of your own issues, you remove the receptor site and prevent these non-beneficial energies and the entities that like them from sticking to you.

  •  Non-beneficial energies cannot stick if you are happy, surrounded by people you love, and having fun.

One major contributor to severe depression and even suicide is isolation. Wholesome laughter, get togethers with people you love and care about and who care about you is vital to keep your health and energy field strong.

For example, I notice a real difference in how I feel when I am around my son and grandchildren. Giving piggy back rides and engaging in vigorous games just doesn’t hurt my body the same way as it would it I were doing hard, physical work or lifting heavy things at home. And I am much more resilient to intrusive energies.

  • Laugh.

When I was going through a divorce, I would deliberately stop in the offices of other people in my building and ask them to tell me a joke. I was not denying what was going on in my life or my upset about it. Rather, I realized that sometimes things are so bad that all you can do is laugh. I knew that the laughter would help to break up all the congested feelings of sadness, anger, grief, overwhelm, depression, etc. Then as  I retold the joke quickly to several other people, I laughed again. I developed a significant repertoire. Despite the severe stress from my personal situation, and despite the frustrations of my work associates, the jokes helped to restore balance for us all. It made a positive shift in the energy, both in me and the workplace.

  •  Non-beneficial energies cannot stick if you are in a high vibrational or good spiritual state.

By spiritual, I mean that you feel deeply connected to something beyond yourself. Perhaps you feel a real sense of belonging and service to your family, the larger community, to humanity as a whole. You may feel deeply rooted to the earth, to nature, to some over arching intelligence behind the cosmos. This has nothing to do with specific religious beliefs, but with having a strong connection to or relationship with something More. This sense of belonging to something beyond yourself provides you some immunity against intrusive, uncomfortable energies.

If you consider that as consciousness you are connected to the Source of consciousness, that connection provides a link to greater resources of knowledge, wisdom and power you can harness to meet any challenge. I consider that each person is a powerful, spiritual being somehow intrinsically connected to the greater whole. Instead of being a powerless victim without influence, I consider that what makes you — you –that special spark that is your vibratory signature–was created by design, by intention, on purpose.

When you feel connected to something More, and also when you are aligned with a sense of purpose and feel you are making a meaningful contribution, this contributes to spiritual strength as well.

You are psychically linked to others that love you, believe in you, and are there to help you. Whether you are physically with your friends or family members or alone when you are feeling low, just by thinking of your loved ones, by thinking of your love for them and their love for you, you instantly are enveloped in a protected bubble.

You do not have to be religious to gain spiritual strength.

You can put out a mental call to and connect with that something More in the universe for help. You can also deliberately imagine your loved ones, guardian angels, ancestors watching your back. Imagine taking them with you when you are going into a tough situation, like having your own personal army standing alongside and behind you when faced with the school yard bully.

If you have trouble going to sleep, put your angels or ancestors at the head and foot of the bed to watch over you throughout the night and only awaken you if it is important to do so.

 Gratitude helps to strengthen your energy field.

When you think of all the things for which you are grateful, you realize that you do have resources to bring to any challenge. The old rituals of praying before bed and before meals with thanksgiving are energetically protective.

 Forgiveness helps too.

When you hold onto negative emotions, you bind those you hold responsible to you. Why drag them around? This prolongs your suffering and weakens your energy field making you more susceptible to other non-beneficial energies. Your anger, hurt, resentment or disapproval does not change what happened, and cannot resolve it. Constructive action is the only thing that can rectify anything.

The reason to forgive is simply because you do not want to hurt anymore, and you realize that you need to free your vital energy to be able to create a better future for yourself.

  • Turn those that offended you over to their destiny under God.
  • Ask for forgiveness from those you have harmed whether knowingly or unknowingly–even if that harm was only in the perception of those other people.
  • Pray to heal any karma between you.
  • Practice Ho ‘oponopono. This exercise as popularized by Dr. Hew Len and Joe Vitale in their book, Zero Limits, is very helpful.

Forgive yourself.

If you don’t find a way to forgive yourself, your unconscious mind will find a way to sabotage or punish yourself, which you don’t want to happen. Learn what you can from your experiences. Learn what you need to say or do, or not say or do next time. Mentally rehearse handling the situation in a better way at least 5 times. Perhaps think of how someone else might have handled it better, and learn from them.

Perhaps make a symbolic act of contrition as a way of saying you are sorry. For example, you can light a candle in church, do some act of charity or kindness for someone else.

Do not take on or identify with the emotional issues or problems of others.

This is especially important if you are sensitive, empathetic and feel other people’s emotions. Assist others as appropriate, but do not assume their burdens and pain. Keep one foot always planted in a world without such problems so that you know that things can be different. Vividly imagine a better world, and then ask yourself if there is something you can do to move in that direction. If you identify with problems, whether your own or that of others, it will drain your energy and ability to be effective in changing it.

Are these distressing emotions and thoughts really yours?

They may not be. You may be just telepathically picking up those belonging to someone else, or those left over in the environment by others. Are these thoughts true? Is your mother, your kid brother, that old school teacher still in your head and telling you it’ll never work, that you’re no good at, etc.? Can you regain your composure by challenging discordant thoughts? Do they reflect something you saw in the media, a movie, or read in a novel? Is the nightly news getting you down because you do not have enough good news to balance it?

Are you picking unsettling emotions up on the psychic airways? If they are not yours, say a prayer for the owner of those feelings even if you are not sure where they came from. Think of each person as really a powerful, spiritual being, guided and protected as well as you are. Imagine the person/s involved as  healthy, happy, confident.

But if the feelings are yours, or you resonate with them, then do something to resolve or heal them. Again, the Emotional Freedom Technique or the Infinite Intelligence Process that I teach can help.

Do not accept emotional abuse.

Let someone’s verbal bombardment pass right on by like the wind. You would not be upset if a lion in the zoo roared at you. The lion is just being itself. So is your boss, your ex, your ____.

While it is good to be aware of what is going on in the world and how people feel about it or about you, their feelings, their judgments are their perceptions, their opinions, their reality.  However, information is useful. It is feedback. Information informs you of action that might be appropriate, needed and timely. It may inform you on how you might be helpful or better. It may make you aware that you need to communicate more clearly, set boundaries, adjust your own behavior. It may make you aware of what issues are resonating within yourself that might need to be healed.

Ask yourself

  • How can this be turned into a blessing?
  • Is it necessary or appropriate for me to take any action? What?
  • What can I learn from this?

Non-beneficial energies that do seem to stick whether from people or annoying entities that are around always have something to teach you. If you pay attention and take action, they can actually bless you.  There is a saying

“Man made it for evil, but God meant it for good.”

Remember to have an attitude that any energies that bother you are a temporary annoyance. My belief is that you are a powerful, spiritual being–a chip off the Old Block, which is the ultimate Source of all that is that people call God. Therefore, you have a right to dominion within your own energy field, your own home and environment, and a right to command the benevolent forces of the heavens to come to your aid and assist you.

Finding BALANCE

Remember to keep a healthy energy field starts with good basic care of yourself with adequate sleep, and nutrition. Then it means dealing with stress and old issues, by being around loving, supportive people, having fun, laughing, singing and dancing, doing anything that brings a smile to your face, and gives you a sense of meaning and purpose in life. Breathing deeply will instantly release fear, raise your vibration and strengthen your energy field. And happy or sacred music will assist you to stay in a good place and permeate the walls of wherever you play it.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

 

What the Law of Attraction Misses

17 Mar 2016 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, Cause and Effect, Dowsing, Hypnosis, Law of Attraction, problem solving, self help

This is a reworked article originally written in March 17, 2015 that was formerly called: 

“Why Shit Happens (or doesn’t)”

Much talk has been made on the Law of Attraction–that you create your own reality through the predominant content of your thoughts, and that by dwelling on positive or negative thoughts, you will draw positive or negative experiences into your life. Popularized by New Thought authors (see list of authors here), the New Age Movement, channelers such as Esther Hicks, and promoted in movies such as The Secret, it has been so hyped up that it takes on the trappings of religious dogma (Science of Mind, Unity, Christian Science, etc.) or cultish in it’s uncritical, narrow minded philosophy. Followers seem to fall into the category of ‘true believers’.

As a hypnotherapist, I agree that the Law of Attraction does seem to operate. It is my job to help a client identify the self-sabotaging thoughts, emotions and expectations that may underlie any unwanted habit, pattern or experience. And it is my job to help them resolve their issues, healing trauma and other blockages, and shifting limiting beliefs and negative expectations so that the person is able to be more hopeful, take appropriate action, and move on with their life less burdened by the stress of the past in order to create a more rewarding future.

That being said, the Law of Attraction is only a possible cause (not the only possibility) and even where found, may be only a partial cause of why particular things happen to you. While important, it is, nonetheless, simplistic and very incomplete. And in it’s claim that it is the only causative factor, it lacks compassion for self and others, and it neglects the other things that may be responsible totally apart from LOA, or in addition be at cause. In other words, the possibilities are:

  • Law of Attraction.
  • Law of Attraction AND ___.
  • Something else.

If you are blind to other factors that are or may be involved, you cannot, you will not take corrective action on them. That is a disservice.

Furthermore, ideas, beliefs, theories, models of reality change over time. They sometimes are more like the fad of the moment. They come and they go. Consequently, it is a mistake to get too attached or you will miss new insights. If you maintain an open-minded attitude, you may come to a greater understanding of how the mind works in creating our world. And as you examine other points in history or other cultures, other areas of the world where people have a vastly different beliefs, ideas, and experience of life than we do in our more privileged Western society, you may have a more expansive understanding in both our freedom and our limitations in what we can and cannot effect. 

But even within the Law of Attraction what is not usually talked about are the thoughts that are the most powerful aspect and the hardest to remedy are those that are so much a part of you that they taken for granted, unspoken, unverbalized, and, therefore, invisible. While your life gives you clues, yet other dynamics beyond your predominant thoughts can be responsible for drawing experiences to you. Hence, the beauty of hypnosis to uncover and release them.

In my first edition of Your Unlimited Potential, a complete self-hypnosis course book first published in 1992 [available through my website], I wrote about this New Thought principle and the others listed below in an entire chapter entitled Laws of Mind. While I am now embarrassed at how much the New Age Movement and New Thought permeates that chapter, New Thought only goes back about a 100 years since  Phineas Quimby. Quimby was a Mesmerist (follower of Franz Mesmer and the early hypnotists) in the early 19th century that healed Mary Baker Eddy, founder of Christian Science. Eddy in turn influenced Ernest Holmes who founded Religious Science (of which Fenwick Holmes, Raymond Charles Barker, Stuart Grayson, Louise Hay, Michael Beckwith, Joseph Murphy, Jean Houston, Terry Cole-Whittaker, and William Hornaday are notable ministers). Eddy also influenced Charles and Ethel Fillmore, founder of Unity Church.

  • Overall Law of Cause and Effect
  • Law of Knowing
  • Law of Love
  • Law of Gratitude
  • Law of Forgiveness
  • Law of Nonresistance
  • Law of Substitution
  • Law  of Belief (Expectancy)
  • Law of Faith
  • Law of Justification (Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
  • Law of Judgment
  • Law of Declaration
  • Law of Feeling (Emotion)
  • Law of Dominant Effect
  • Law of Identification
  • Law of Imagination
  • Law of Practice (Repetition)
  • Law of Neutrality
  • Law of No Limitations
  • Law of Association
  • Law of Compatibility
  • Law of Reaping and Sowing (Karma)
  • Law of Compensation (Giving and Receiving)
  • Law of Relaxation (Allowing)
  • Law of Release
  • Law of Vacuum
  • Law of Opposites
  • Law of Reverse Effect
  • Law of Pharsing
  • Law of the Now
  • Law of Permanence
  • Law of Connection
  • Law of One

But here’s another take on how we may be creating our reality:

While I believe that all of the above influence what happens to us, I noted that physicist, Tom Campbell has another take on why we draw things to us. He says that

We draw experiences to us as learning opportunities, both individually and collectively.

Tom Campbell on Creating Our Future           tom-atom.png

Campbell, author of My Big Toe, consciousness researcher, out-of-body experiencer, and former associate of Robert Monroe (founder of the Monroe Institute),  says that physical existence is a virtual reality. The future is a yet unrealized array of multiple possibilities of everything that could happen. As to what does happen or is most likely, he says:

“If a particular occurrence is determined to be an effective learning opportunity for someone or everyone, the probability of it happening is increased. The system is designed to automatically deliver timely custom-fit individual learning opportunities — the presentation of such opportunities to individuals or groups is part of the feedback one receives relative to the choices one makes. Because the point of the system is to overcome fear (about you – high entropy) and replace it with love (about others – low entropy), if you have fear, the feedback system will manifest that fear in PMR [physical reality] to force you to deal with it (learn) or suffer the consequences.”

If it is your soul’s intention, or the intention of the virtual reality system of which you are a part, to learn and to grow, well then, you will be provided with experiences to do just that. That does not mean that you will learn, but the opportunity is there to do so.

For example, years ago I realized that I was much too naive, and, consequently, trusted untrustworthy people. So I made a clear intention to learn the true, underlying nature of others, their motivations and personal, hidden agendas. Immediately after I made that my intention  I came across one pathological lier, manipulative, self-serving or conniving person (all with smiling faces and pleasant exterior personalities) after another. How could someone be outwardly nice and inwardly, not nice? Think of white collar criminals, con men, snake oil salesmen. But did I learn? Yes, I am more discerning today.

Even if you are a good, positive person, you can draw painful experiences in order for you (or someone else) to learn. Have you ever wondered why bad things happen to good people?

Here’s another example. About a decade ago, I found that a ‘friend’ and colleague had plagiarized a full eight pages of my stop smoking book. Now I have never plagiarized anyone so I did not deserve this on the basis of karma. In fact, I go out of my way to acknowledge sources. Nor was I focused on fear that someone might steal from me. In fact, I trusted this person as well as my other colleagues to behave differently. So I did not draw this experience on the level of my predominant thoughts (aka Law of Attraction).  I worked hard to do the research myself and the hard work of writing the book, and here comes someone who above all should not mistreat a friend, and a colleague and fellow presenter who above all should set a shining professional standard of behavior. Furthermore, we had just roomed together at a conference where we were both teaching, so this betrayal was a shock.

Yet in meditation, I was informed that it was a soul agreement–that if she did this (not predestined to happen), that I would be the one to confront her and help her to learn not to steal someone else’s intellectual property. But there was also something in it for me–I could learn to more powerfully to stand up for myself and establish better boundaries instead of letting things slide. This understanding enabled me to let go of the anger and to proceed to taking prompt, effective legal and other countermeasures even though it was very time-consuming to do so.

Pain is a great motivator

My original push to study psychology, dowsing and many self-help modalities  was precisely to deal with and stop the stream of unpleasant ‘learning opportunities’ that life dished out. Of course, at the time, I did not perceive such events as an opportunity. But over time, I decided to use them as such. After all, I might as well get something good out of the experience. Why not salvage something out of the debris, right? As a result, that decision, repeated over and over again as new events showed up, was a powerful part of allowing me to mature and move with greater grace and ease through life. It also stopped some of those types of experiences happening again, or slowing me down in an emotional quagmire if they did.

Although only one factor among many, thoughts and emotions absolutely do impact upon what experiences show up and how they affect you. It is not always obvious, nor necessarily a direct correlation, nor necessarily immediate. But sooner or later, they build sufficient momentum to bring a harvest.

The collective mindset

Scientists are more and more talking about the morphogenetic field, and entanglement of consciousness.  This theory says that the consciousness of each of us is tied psychically to the larger whole of humanity. Your thoughts and emotions are added to my own and that this is what can attract a collective (common) experience.

While the humans may not appear to have the same kind of hive mind of a school of fish or swarming ants, it appears that collective human consciousness exists. My mindset is entangled with yours and yours is entangled with mine. Even where they are disagree, even when antithetical, on some level, they are felt, and that will influence our sense of ease or dis-ease, our individual mood, and our choices (congruent or reactive). The most powerful  effect will be felt with those with whom we are in rapport (friends and family), then with those in close association (neighbors, work associates), those with whom we identify, but ultimately with the larger humanity. The commonly held thoughts and emotions in any group, neighborhood, region, even nation can sometimes be felt. Think of any place where a tragedy has taken place like 9/11 or a mass celebration like Christmas, New Year’s Eve or the end of a war.

Applying the Law of Attraction to the Collective

Perhaps this newer scientific understanding of the morphogenetic field and entanglement can be joined with age-old spiritual awareness that you and your brother are one, that what you do to another, you also do to yourself. If we apply Campbell’s idea that we draw experiences collectively as well as individually to learn, and to move from fear to love, let’s learn as fast as we can to jointly experience a nicer, kinder world.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

 

 

 

 

Healing Your Past

14 Mar 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, healing your past, self help

movieposter A passage from the movie, Hope Floats, (see  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y48KWBR3YYA) with Sandra Bullock, Harry Connick Jr. and Gena Rowlands, has stuck in my mind over the years.

Sandra’s daughter in the film (Bernice Pruitt) says,

“My dad says that childhood is the happiest time of my life. But, I think he’s wrong. I think my mom’s right. She says that…”

[Bernice’s voice fades as Birdee (Sandra Bullock) takes over]

Birdee Pruitt: [laughing]
“Childhood is what you spend the rest of your life trying to overcome. That’s what momma always says.
She says that beginnings are scary, endings are usually sad, but it’s the middle that counts the most.
Try to remember that when you find yourself at a new beginning. Just give hope a chance to float up. And it will, too…”
 
 
Childhood is such a mixed bag of blessings and challenges. It is where you lay down the framework of beliefs including those about yourself, your world, and what you can expect to achieve and enjoy. Many of those beliefs are false and limiting in various degrees.  It then becomes part of your work (as my late hypnotherapist friend, Michael Ellner would say) to “get out of the negative trance you are already in”.
That is why I learned self hypnosis, hypnotherapy, dowsing, EFT and a great many other modalities, first to help myself, and years later to help others.
 
 
Whatever self-help tool you use (hypnosis, EFT, meditation, pendulum work, Emotion Code, etc.), I think
it falls to all of us to work on healing our past. It is a goldmine that like horse shit can be transformed and then harvested as manure to make our garden grow a richer life, allowing us to find more joy, love and fulfillment.

Thoughts Carry a Train

11 Mar 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, self help Tags: , , , ,

And how to derail that train when you don’t like where it is going!

Today, I heard about the death of a friend’s family member, and also of a hypnosis colleague giving a workshop on how to deal with grief and loss. This brought up some thoughts and memories of my own of how thoughts connect to similar thoughts taking us to a predictable emotional conclusion.

One of my clients was setting up a meeting at Windows on the World restaurant on top of the World Trade Center on 9/11. Located on the 107th floor of the north tower with a conference facility on the 106th floor, with commanding views of the city, it was a popular destination with building occupants, tourists, and city residents (the restaurant served about 800 dinners nightly).

When the first hijacked plane crashed into the north tower at 8:46 am, the restaurant had regular breakfast patrons on the 107th floor and a conference for the Risk Water Group on the 106th floor. About 73 employees and an unidentified number of patrons died in the fire and building collapse. One of my clients, Luke Dudek, was among those killed.

The last time I saw Luke was at a mutual friend’s funeral, that of Rodney DeMichael. Rodney had been on the Board of Advisors for my business, Unlimited Potential. As a dear friend, social worker, counselor, founder and head of the Center for Eating Disorders in Livingston, NJ, Rodney had served  as most valued guide and mentor when I had questions about or needed help with a client, especially where I suspected that such client or prospective client had mental or emotional issues that required specialized professional treatment beyond my expertise as a hypnotherapist.

Rodney had been brought in also to lecture on psychopathology to my advanced, professional hypnotherapy students. When he got ill, he came weekly to the Reiki Sharing Clinic I ran. Over the years, many of my students and graduates worked on him, some even traveling to the hospital during his final stay.

So Luke’s death brought up memories of Rodney’s death, Rodney’s funeral and the silly hat I wore just for his benefit, thoughts about his life, my association with him, my student’s associations with him, and his friends and family. It also brought up times I myself had been at Windows on the World, the magnificent crystals there that were the size of small elephants, the woman (another client) that sold those crystals to the restaurant from her mine in South America, and her crystal shop in Montclair, NJ. Further, Luke’s and Rodney’s deaths also brought up memories of my father’s death, that of other family members, and on and on.

Thoughts hitch to other thoughts that carry you to a predictable emotional destination!

Carolyn Myss once was explaining how to understand someone’s conversation, you have to dig down into your own memory banks for similar associations. So if someone is talking about cupcakes, you have to do an internal search for anything to do with cupcakes yourself just to understand what is being said, let alone to respond.

The outcome is that if you have any emotions tied to any of your cupcake associations, it brings up those old emotions, memories, and all related associations as well.  Anything yet unresolved that is related to the issue or topic at hand as well as to any of the free associations that resurface is added to what is going on now, and it happens in lightning speed much as Alice plunging down the rabbit hole.

Early on in my hypnosis practice, I had a client that taught me how thoughts hitch to other thoughts that carry you to a predictable destination much as coupling train cars together on a pre-determined track. You can clearly foretell the expected emotional outcome from the content of the thoughts if you catch them fast enough. If such thought associations happen often enough, it runs a groove that turns it into a habit.

‘Sarah’ (not her real name) came to me because she was sick, worried and depressed. She had multiple issues: Epstein Barr, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, etc. Not surprisingly when she woke up in the morning, her first thought was “I feel sick.” This connected to another thought, “If I’m sick, then I can’t go to work.” From there, the next thought was “If I can’t go to work, I’ll lose my job.” Next came, “if I lose my job, I’m going to lose my apartment.” Next was, “if I lose my apartment, I’m going to lose custody of my son.” Finally, the thought came, “if I lose my son, I might as well kill myself.” So from the first thought, “I feel sick”, she was rapidly in suicidal depression.

Because this thought pattern happened so frequently, I had to teach her how to derail her train of thoughts to take her to, hopefully, another emotional destination. So for the usual “I feel sick”, therefore, “I can’t go to work”, I taught her to say “at what I usually do. So what can I do?  What can I do from home to earn an income? Oh, I used to be an Editor. Maybe I could call up some of my old contacts and do something with them on the side. Maybe I could do phone solicitation, or stuff envelopes. Maybe I could make arrangements with my current boss to do some of my work from home.” 

If Sarah could deliberately change her thought pattern, decouple the usual connections, she would derail her train of thought that was guaranteed to take her into depression to possibly end up somewhere else. And maybe over time she would get ideas that would help her to solve her problems.

What’s my point?

  • As quickly as possible, to the greatest extent possible, clean up your own issues so that they do not add to the burden of dealing with future ones.
  • When old stuff comes up, make a mental note of it, or even better, write it down and deal with it at your earliest convenience, hopefully, that day. Use whatever tools you know: Emotional Freedom Technique, Tapas Acupressure, Emotion Code, Time Line Therapy, self-hypnosis, the Infinite Intelligence Process (my own technique), dowsing, etc. Where you are stuck, hypnotherapists and NLP (Neural Linguistic Programming) practitioners are skilled in helping you change and resolve non-beneficial mental and emotional patterns and limiting beliefs.
  • Deliberately ask a question that sets you off in another direction: “What if ___? How can I ___? If ___ could work, how would it work? Who could help me ___. “
  • Make a statement that while believable, changes the train tracks to another emotional destination For example,  “I’m so grateful for ___. I got through/survived ___ before. I turn this into a blessing. There’s a part of me that knows how to deal with this. I stay focused on the bigger picture. I take it one step at a time.”
  • Make a habit to challenge your assumptions, beliefs and judgments where they have been shown to be non-productive.

It is possible to change your self-talk to help yourself. And while it takes diligence and repetition to run new mental train tracks, it is profoundly worth the effort!

Resolving mental and emotional issues is my specialty. If you need extra help, I am available in person, by phone, and soon, by Skype. Call for an appointment. Free initial phone consultation: 434-263-4337.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

 

 

 

Picking Up Vibes

09 Mar 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in clearing non-beneficial energies, exorcism, ghost busting, psychic healing, spirit releasemlent Tags: , , ,

Sensing Energy

You walk into a building, a room, or down a street, and for some reason, start feeling peaceful, happy, warm, safe. Or, sometimes you might start getting agitated, scared, creeped out, or simply uncomfortable. There may not appear to be any rational reason for it, but you can’t deny that you are sensing or reacting to something. What?

I remember visiting the home of Philosopher, Jidda Krishnamurti (long since dead) in Ojai, California and I COULD NOT HELP SMILING. While I respected this sage, I certainly was not a follower. Yet, the happy energy in that space was palpable, and forcibly changed my usual overly serious continence to happy as long as I stayed in his house and immediate grounds.

I have walked into some empty churches, and immediately felt a sense of peace. And while the architecture and sheer beauty of the place may have been lovely in all of them, the peace appeared to be unrelated to aesthetics. Some of the most beautiful left me empty, and some of the plainest churches felt the best. One place where I particularly and consistently felt at ease was at the Lake Shrine of the Self Realization Fellowship in Pacific Palisades, California. It is a small, simple place in a beautiful garden with a small lake, that was dedicated by Yogi Paramahansa Yogananda (also long deceased). His followers have regularly practiced meditation there over the years.

Just what is the cause of our reactions?

  • Are we sensing energy vortexes?

Some vortexes are especially palpable as are those in Sedona. Other beneficial yet invisible earth energies and ley lines were harnessed in the placement of the world’s oldest cathedrals. Dowsers are skilled in locating them.

  • Are we picking up on chi?

Chi is the movable positive or negative life force which plays an essential role in the Chinese study of feng shui? This can take into consideration the lay of the land and a building’s placement on it, the shape of spaces and angles inside, colors, the function of the rooms and furniture placement, and much more. Feng shui has been shown to effect energy and mood.

  • Are we sensing the emotions, frame of mind, and possibly even the intentions of the current or even long past inhabitants?

For example, was I feeling the left-over residues of years of peaceful meditation, or the personality imprint of saints such as Krishnamurti or Yogananda, and of good people who had peace in their hearts who had spent a lot of time at those locations? I think so.

  • Are we feeling the residue of activities and events that occurred there?

Yes, if they are powerful enough even for a single event as in an accident, murder, battle, or if repeated over time if less in intensity in daily life.

  • Are we feeling the good will and harmony or the irritation and dislike within a household or company?

Don’t we have the expression that ‘you could cut the atmosphere with a knife’ ?

  • Are we even picking up on the emotions and thoughts of others that are directed at us?

Energy directed at us can be perceived whether the sender is physically present with us or not. For example, am I feeling good because someone who loves me is thinking of me even though miles away? Conversely, if I am uncomfortable, is it because someone is angry with me and focusing on me at that moment? Am I picking up on their disapproval, rejection, negative judgment?

The reverse of things that make us feel good can also saturate a place and be sensed as well.

This can include bad feng shui, geopathic zones, the residue of traumatic, unhappy, stressful events, or the imprint of upset, angry, fearful or depressed people.  I, personally, am very uncomfortable in or around hospitals, prisons, certain neighborhoods (whether or not obvious from the buildings), the World Trade Center, or anywhere near old battlefields, factory farms or animal feedlots.

Years ago, I was awoken in the middle of the night while camping in New Jersey by a British soldier and American Indian in hand to hand combat outside my motorhome. Dream? No. Ghosts? Again, I think not. It seemed more like a frozen piece of time being replayed like a broken record because of the emotional intensity in that spot.

Another night, I was compelled to follow the energy I felt in my parent’s house some time after my father’s death. Dowsing my way, much as one might follow breadcrumbs from one end of the house to the other, it lead me down to the basement to my father’s ham radio room where he spent countless, happy hours talking to people all over the world. Was this my father’s ghost? No, I felt sure that wasn’t it. It felt like the leftover residue of his concentrated energy over the years. That room and the activities there played a big part in his life.

Referring to my father, there was an intense holy and loving presence in the house after he died that lasted for some months. It extended even into the yard. Was this energy my father that was continuing to love us? Maybe. Was it the love of our deceased ancestors to comfort us? Maybe. But it felt like much, much more than either of those possibilities. Was it the spiritual energy that my father attracted by his goodness and religious devotion? It felt like the latter.

As I think about the uncomfortable energies that I have encountered over the years, especially the ones that seem to be in my own space or follow me around, I am convinced that a great deal of it falls within my own lap.

The problem is not in that I perceive uncomfortable energies, but that such non-beneficial energies sometimes seems to stick and are difficult to shake because of me being in a weakened state, whether physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually.

This weakened state might come from both current issues as well as past issues that I have not yet resolved. The cumulative effect makes it harder to gain perspective, and deal with those issues. It also makes me vulnerable to other stressors as well as to outside energies that drain my energy further and feed off and aggravate the very non-beneficial thoughts and emotions I am trying to heal.

Such weakening agents include:

  • Fatigue, exhaustion, lack of sufficient sleep and pushing beyond my limits.
  • Other health issues including illness, toxicity, inflammation, lowered immunity, diet.
  • Overwhelm, worry and stress in my personal life. Concern for loved ones.
  • Worry, grief, fear, anger, depression or upset about the suffering, cruelty, corruption, ignorance, injustice, and evil that I perceive or hear about in local, national, world conditions and events.
  • My own unhealed emotional wounds, limiting beliefs and judgments.

Like attracts like.

For example, if I am sensitive to the jealousy/anger of others, it may be because I have not healed either my own jealousy or anger, or the pain/upset from previous experiences with jealous/angry people.

I have found that anything that depresses my spirit or challenges my health makes me vulnerable to being impacted by bad vibes.  But the reverse is also true.

Anything that lifts my spirits and enhances my health can strengthen my energy field and make me more resilient to non-beneficial energies, stress, and able to deal, in general, with problems or challenges of any kind.

Energy Enhancers

This includes all the usual, common sense things like quality nutrition, sleep, detoxification, gratitude, forgiveness, love, joy, happy music and dance, loving friends and family nearby, a supportive network and community, recreation, nature, sunshine, wholesome laughter, exercise, and more.

Even if bad vibes are directed at me personally as when someone is jealous, angry or resentful or if they reject, judge or disapprove of me, if I exercise healthy diet and lifestyle habits, if I work to resolve my own personal issues, and if I challenge my own limiting beliefs and judgments, and if I have supportive, loving people around me, it makes a substantial, positive difference in being able to maintain a healthy boundaries,  equilibrium, and resiliency. Then I am less impacted by whatever disharmony, bad vibes or energy pollution is out there from any source.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

Things That Go Bump In The Night

29 Feb 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in clearing non-beneficial energies, Dowsing and Self-Help, exorcism, ghost busting, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, spirit releasemlent

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Weird or uncomfortable energies and what to do about them!

After a long hiatus, my book on spirit releasement–clearing yucky emotional residues, ghosts, entities, curses, psychic attack, and more –is finally scheduled to be out this summer. Much of the book was originally written as part of the 1994, 1997, 1998 and 1999 editions of another book, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing , but removed from the 2007 edition to be greatly expanded for this separate book with it’s title Things That Go Bump In The Night announced at that time. However, as sometimes happens, other responsibilities took over and this project was sitting on the shelf until now. Look for more information in later posts.

CALL FOR CONTRIBUTIONS:

However, while the book is mostly written, I still have time to include your personal stories. If you have anything you think of interest on any of the topics listed below–

  • your experiences
  • things that worked for you or made a positive difference in dealing with it
  • things you did try but which did not help, or only marginally so,

Please contact me at roxannelouise@verizon.net or by phone at 434-263-4337.

  • ghosts
  • angry/unhappy nature spirits
  • aliens
  • entities
  • curses, hexes, psychic attacks, black magic
  • thought forms
  • uncomfortable world/regional energies (energies that saturate a large area, not necessarily world wide)
  • geopathic zones, detrimental earth energies
  • effects from EMF (electro-magnetic frequency), cell phone towers, electrical devices, computers, etc.
  • unpleasant emotional residue left behind in a place (former battlefield, hospital, prison, building)
  • unusually aggressive animals, insects
  • unrelenting problems with a house, equipment, business, or some other area of your life
  • repeating negative patterns that have gone for past generations
  • sudden and unexplainable draining of your mental, emotional, physical energies
  • thoughts, inclinations that are not “you”
  • suspicious inner messages, voices
  • sudden personality change
  • unexplainable depression, hostility, fear, etc.

 

 

 

Establishing a Dowsing Protocol

17 Feb 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Dowsing, Dowsing and Self-Help, Hypnosis

Why create a dowsing protocol?

Dowsing with accuracy requires that you be centered, calm, able to focus, detached from the answers, etc.. Consequently, it is helpful to establish a regular procedure that you do before dowsing that becomes fast, even automatic over time. A shortcut yet effective aid is to write out and then install a dowsing program for that purpose. You may wish to make your own or personalize one that someone else has written. But before installing it, review and write out any corrections, deletions, additions first.

The point of a dowsing program, just like a computer program, is that the entire written out contents will activate and function in it’s entirety anytime that you give the short-cut verbal command. The command should be one that is clear in it’s meaning to you and not to be confused with something else. As my preparation to dowse program is called the Master Program, my shortcut command is  ‘Commence Master Program’. The command functions much as hitting any command on your computer with a specific keystroke. If you feel you need extra help beyond just issuing your shortcut command,  you can reread through the program. Alternatively, you could dowse over the entire page/s to locate the specific area that needs to be addressed with conscious awareness.

What is a dowsing program?

A program is one that will serve any regularly recurring need, whether it be for dowsing or any other activity. I suggest that you have one to prepare for the best frame of mind for dowsing accurately. At bare minimum, a preparation to dowse program should include instructions to center, let go of ego, let go of worries and extraneous concerns, align with whatever you consider Universal Consciousness and your true spiritual guidance.

Some of my dowsing colleagues also have programs to find water, clear non-beneficial energies, provide protection, etc. But if, for example, you are a salesman, or an athlete, performer, public speaker, etc., you could create a dowsing program to put you be in the right frame of mind for each of those activities as well.

Who else uses programs with short-cut commands?

Dowsers are not the only ones employing programs with short cut commands or triggers to activate them. Hypnotherapists and Neural Linguistic Programmers also install them and teach their clients how to use them for their own benefit. The activation of such programs (sometimes called an anchor) could be verbal, auditory, visual, olfactory, or include a gesture or movement.

For example, I give all my hypnosis clients a command to re-induce the hypnotic state with a combination of the word “sleep” with a gesture of thumb to forefinger. I can then fire such command on their succeeding visits, and they can use it on their own to induce self-hypnosis. I create another program for feeling confident and capable of meeting challenges with making a fist and the command “yes!”, or sometimes the longer suggestion “I can do whatever I make up my mind to do.” Other programs might be for healthy eating habits, exercising, or to help someone stop smoking.

After I write out the program that includes my short-cut command, how do I install it?

Start out just as you would before any dowsing: take a few deep breaths with the intention of releasing extraneous worries, concerns and other thoughts. Drop the identification with your ego and instead focus on the spiritual core of your being that many call your soul or High Self—that part of you that is goes beyond your limits of your physical being, and is very wise, resourceful, creative, master problem solver, eternal and intrinsically connected to the Source of All That Is that most people call God. Do whatever works to raise your vibration. This may include aromatherapy, prayer, meditation, chanting, thinking of what makes you happy, those you love and of the things for which you are grateful.

Hold the clear intention that your program be installed into your unconscious mind to operate upon your command anytime you choose. Holding the pendulum, read your program out loud focusing intently on what you are saying.

When you are done, say

“End of program. Thank you.” 

Then ask “Is this now accepted by my unconscious mind?
Do I need to make any corrections, additions or deletions at this time?”

If the answer is ‘no’, you are done. Start using and see how it works. If you need reinforcement, there is no harm in re-reading your entire program.

Dowsing Ethics —“Above all, do no harm” 

02 Feb 2016 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Dowsing, Dowsing and Self-Help, Ethics, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, psychic healing Tags: , ,

 

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NOTE: Everything in the article below could just as easily be applied to ethical behavior involving any form of psychic or spiritual healing, energy work such as long distance Reiki, or remote viewing.

Dowsing About Others & Your Deepest Fears

You’ve just taken your first dowsing class and you’re all excited about the vast possibilities of finding information hidden from your conscious mind that can be elicited through dowsing. And, you or an enthusiastic friend are curious, nosy, angry, fearful, or otherwise emotional, and want to dowse on it, including dowsing for or about other people. For example, “Is my boyfriend cheating on me?” or “Do I (or does) ___ have __ disease?” 

Or you or a friend have to make important decisions with serious ramifications: “Should I get a divorce/ get married/ quit my job/ move to __?” Or you or that friend are wondering why you dislike, or are having a problem with a specific person.

Dowsing is a fantastic tool that in the hands of an ethical, grounded person who exercises common sense, and then has good training and extensive experience to recognize and avoid the pitfalls. It can lead to valuable knowledge, discovery, healing, etc.

But if entered into carelessly, or as entertainment, it can, like the Ouija board, lead to ethical violations, delusion, making serious mistakes in judgment and bad decisions, ruining relationships, reputation, and possibly harming someone else as well. Without quieting the mind and adopting a neutral attitude to the dowsing response, letting go of personal agenda and any desire to ‘fix’, control or manipulate others, you could be on a merry chase along the ego’s hopes, fears and prejudices.

Because of all these reasons, most dowsing schools teach their students to ask three basic questions listed below.

The Three Question Test

  1. May I? Do I have permission to ask questions or to do work in this area?
  2. Can I?  Do I have the ability to successfully dowse in this area? Am I ready?
  3. Should I? Is it my business to know? Is it advisable, appropriate, and the right time to do it? Am I properly prepared?

You may also want to ask: “Is this the appropriate time?” 

Having a legitimate right to know the answer is critical.

Dowsing for personal information about someone else who has not asked you for help, and about which is outside of your rightful business to know, is snooping. It is an invasion of privacy, a kind of psychic spying, and wrong. For example, inquiring about your neighbor’s sexual habits, or relationship with his spouse is none of your business.

However, if you are considering hiring someone, or giving him the keys to your house to feed the animals if you are away, if you have children, and you are considering entrusting the care of your child in this person’s babysitting care, you do have a need to know about them in the areas that are relevant to those rightful concerns – is he or she honest, trustworthy, capable, does he exercise good common sense, is he respectful of you, your family and your property, etc.

Having good intentions is not by itself enough.

While wanting to be of service and dowse to help someone who is having problems is laudable, in general, dowsers feel that you should not dowse for someone else unless they have specifically asked for your help.  There are some exceptions to this, such as dowsing on behalf of a child under your custody, and perhaps, a person in a coma.

But first apply the three question test. Is it is ethical and appropriate for you to seek information on another? Is it right for you to request specific action be taken on their behalf or are you meddling in their affairs and unwittingly trying to control or manipulate them? Unsolicited attempts to control and manipulate is black magic.

Only dowse in a way that you are sure would please them if they knew both the nature and content of your questions and your requests for healing.

Here’s the test

If the person about whom you were dowsing heard every word you said, would this person be happy about it, or be annoyed that you were poking your nose into their business? Are you being presumptuous to think that you know what’s best for them and what they want? Better to ask the person directly for permission to dowse, and precisely how they would like your help.

Don’t presume anything.

As long as you do not specify what you think their highest good might be, no permission is required to pray or dowse for someone’s highest good, or to dowse to bless them in a general way.

For example, asking Spirit to surround a person in a cocoon of love or healing energy, or to connect an individual to his own true spiritual guidance so that he makes the right decisions for himself is a blessing. However, asking Spirit to help him to ___ (leave or stay in their relationship/ stop smoking/ become a vegan/ quit or stay in his job) is serious meddling unless he has specifically asked for that help.

Just as you do not have permission to walk into your neighbor’s house and look around because you are curious, or start to redecorate it because you think it needs it, you need permission before checking on others and to change things that have no relationship to you. They are entitled to live their own life as they please even if you disagree with it or think it is wrong.

However, if you perceive that someone is suffering from non-beneficial energy such as a psychic attack or other interference, I don’t feel that you need permission from that individual to dowse to request spiritual intervention on their behalf to remove it. I consider that similar to calling the cops to tell them that thieves or trespassers are in your neighbor’s house. But ask the three questions anyway. Besides the ethical question, you could be getting in over your head. In addition, you do not willy nilly remove energy that is non-beneficial to humans as it is good for other life forms such as termites, ants and cats. Ask first what you can or should do.

  • Does the individual want your help? AND

  • Are you clear on precisely what he wants?

Just because you mean well doesn’t entitle you to remove what you consider negative thoughts, habits, or personality quirks in others. Just because you think you know what they want, doesn’t mean that you do. Lots of people say that they want something, when in their heart of hearts, they do not. Just because you think that they should not die if they are sick, does not mean that it is what the soul wants especially if it means remaining in tremendous physical pain or a vegetative state. 

While using the wording “in accordance with your Highest Good” is a helpful safety clause for dowsing, prayer or energy work such as Reiki, it is not sufficient to avoid manipulation and to prevent violation of another’s free will. Take care not to assume karmic debt by meddling with someone else. Hence again the advisability of asking

“Can I? May I? Should I?” 

No permission is required to inquire about someone else if they have requested your  help, or if you are asking questions to better understand your relationship with them, but only in the areas of inquiry that are relevant. As mentioned before, it is appropriate for you to inquire about someone’s character if you are considering doing business with them, entering into a relationship, or entrusting them with some important aspect of your life, home, business or family. But stick to only what is relevant and your/their legitimate right to know, and nothing more.

Clarify the answers you receive

When dowsing, with or without charts or checklists, know that the answers indicated may not be literally true, but metaphorically or only partially so. The charts or checklists may not provide you with the correct answer but point you in the right direction. The Greater Intelligence that is providing you with dowsed information can only work with the words you have listed on the page, or the specific questions you have asked, your vocabulary and understanding at the time. That is why you should repeat the question in different wordings to make sure of the interpretation. “Are you telling me that _______?”

It is helpful for every chart/checklist to include the word “other”. Also helpful is to write “somewhat” or “maybe”. I have seven specific pendulum code movements that help me gain greater accuracy: “yes”, “no”, “maybe”, “somewhat”, “working mode” (doing what I have asked it to do), “balancing” (or putting in good energy), and “don’t know, don’t want to answer”. Finally, pay attention to your gut feelings when dowsing to come to know what is a clear ‘yes’ and ‘no’ or ‘sort of’ response.

Be sensitive in how you report what you find and to whom.

Any dowsing answers about others should be revealed to them with only the greatest of gentleness and tact and must never elicit fear, anger or despair. 

As a hypnotherapist, I am well aware of the power of suggestion to heal or to do great harm. Remember that your dowsing can be inaccurate or you may not be interpreting it correctly. Better to use the information you obtain through dowsing to ask your client questions to elicit more information:

  • What is your objective?
  • Tell me more about ____?
  • How do you feel about ____?
  • What’ s going on with you?
  • How is that effecting you?
  • Are you telling me that you would like ___?” 

I find that I can usually help a person more by teaching them how to apply dowsing to reduce their own stress, and to heal mentally and emotionally rather than just dowsing for them myself. Teaching my clients or encouraging them to learn other self-help methods is usually indicated. I find that my other training in counseling, hypnosis, stress management, and just my observations and life experience, are just as valuable in assisting other as dowsing. Employ multiple tools in helping both yourself and others.

Here are some additional, basic guidelines:

  • Keep confidentiality.
  • Respect someone else’s reputation–it is a precious thing.
  • Remember that your dowsing or interpretation of it can be faulty.
  • Consider carefully what you report and the maturity and understanding of those to whom you report whatever you find.
  • Power misused is taken away. 

Misused power, especially where it violates the free will of others, invites dark energy and karmic debt. If you want high level spiritual energy to work with you, then you need to operate with the highest ethics and use it responsibly to be of service in the world, starting with a commitment to heal yourself.

  • Like attracts like

When you dowse, you are working with spiritual forces in resonance with your intention and frequency. Gossip attracts tricksters in the spiritual realm. Dowsing when you are intoxicated, angry, jealous, resentful, fearful, greedy, egotistical, or feeling like a victim, will attract those in the spiritual realm that feel comfortable with that and even encourage you to be more so. 

So before you dowse

    • take time to center and ground your energy
    • raise your vibration by thinking of gratitude, unconditional love, compassion for others
    • hold a desire to be of service.
    • ask:  Can I, May I, Should I. 

Above all, do no harm!

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