Strategies to Stop Smoking

16 Jul 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

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To succeed at anything, you need a plan and consistent action.

In any endeavor, a good strategy makes the difference between success and failure. Smoking cessation is no different. Yet, all too often someone wanting to quit neglects to think about or make one, and then gives up at the slightest difficulty when trying to stop. Why do they give up?

  • First, smoking is a coping device for a wide variety of things.

Bored? Smoke. Upset, irritated, angry? Smoke. Slightly nervous in social settings? Smoke. Bonding with friends who smoke? Alone, lonely, awkward, waiting for someone/something, just passing the time? Smoke. Smokers therefore need to find constructive ways to deal with all of the situations that smoking was used to handle.

  • Second, stress is the major cause of relapse. 

So it is best to learn new, additional stress management tools and practice them daily (even multiple times daily as needed) while quitting.

  • Third, smokers tend to forget their inner strengths and stick-to-it-ness that allowed them to succeed in other endeavors, and have unrealistic ideas of what succeeding in staying off cigarettes will take . 

It is important, therefore, to recall your previous achievements. Remind yourself what you did to accomplish other things that were worth doing. If you could do that, you can stop smoking too.

Anything worth doing, including things you have already accomplished, take applied effort over time.

For example, no one gave you a diploma because you signed up for school, or just because you may have been cute or a nice person. You had to earn your degree by attending class on a regular basis, writing your term papers, studying for and passing your exams. To get a paycheck you also had to earn it–showing up to work on time, learning the job and then completing whatever needed to be done every day. Same thing with raising a child. No infant survives to reach adulthood without someone feeding, washing, clothing, housing, training that child every day, year after year.

Remember what you already did that enabled you to accomplish anything important.

Then apply that same determination and application now to be and remain a fresh-air breather. After all, there is no way for you to really enjoy and get the most out of life without your health and abundant energy. You can protect your health, vitality and lifespan becoming and remaining a nonsmoker right now. Isn’t that reason enough to make it a priority and apply yourself?

Learning and practicing new stress management tools is an essential part of long-term success.

One of two reasons that a smoker will revert back to smoking is as a coping device for stress. So I teach all of my smoking cessation clients self-hypnosis, the Emotional Freedom Technique, Walking Mantras, Glass of Water Technique, and NLP techniques such as anchoring successes, connecting cigarettes/tobacco to something disgusting, and hypnotic interventions such as Parts Therapy. Put together, they make a powerful program. If interested, you can check out my stop smoking books listed at the end and also here http://www.roxannelouise.com/store-books.html

It is only by facing a challenge that a person finds his internal strength and personal power. Becoming a non-smoker will teach you that you have the power to do anything you make up your mind to do.

Remember that if any goal is or ever has been important to you, whether learning to read and write, ride a bicycle, drive a car, use the computer, get a degree, you applied yourself and practiced. That’s no different than learning how to be and remain a nonsmoker now.

Smoking is both a habit and an addiction.

The addictive substance, nicotine, is out of the body within the first week of no longer smoking. However, the psychological addiction to dopamine, the ‘feel good’ neurotransmitter in your brain released by nicotine, is a hook to relapse unless you find other ways to get those good feelings, for example, through exercise and fun activities like sports, singing, dancing, laughter, love and lovemaking, and recognition of achievements.

Make mini goals that are believable.

Dopamine is also a vital part of motivation as well, and people with low levels of dopamine are less likely to work for things. So setting up mini goals whether related to smoking cessation or not, and then acknowledging each achievement releases dopamine into your system.

Some people who quit smoking on their own have succeeded by cutting back by 5 cigarettes per week until they just stop. Because my clients get the super bonus of hypnosis, I have them program themselves before their first appointment, and then quit at their first session. You can focus on the short term goal of getting through the morning as a nonsmoker, then getting through to dinner, then to bedtime, then to morning, etc.

Eat foods rich in tyrosine and are antioxidants. 

Almonds, avocados, bananas, fish, dairy, meat, etc.) enable your body to make dopamine. Antioxidants help reduce free radical damage to the brain that produce dopamine. You can get antioxidants through Beta-carotene and carotenoids from greens, orange fruits and vegetables, asparagus, broccoli and beets, Vitamin C (citrus fruit, strawberries, peppers, cauliflower, brussels sprouts, and Vitamin E from nuts, sunflower seeds, greens, broccoli and carrots. Adequate sleep is also very important.

Breaking the habit

As to the habit portion of smoking, the automatic hand to mouth reflexes, for example, and the associations with when, where, how you smoked, it takes about 21 times of doing it as a nonsmoker before it no longer seems awkward. For example, if you used to smoke first thing in the morning, now practice waking up and having a glass of water instead, or jump right into the shower for 21 days. If you used to smoke in the car, now practice driving 21 times as a nonsmoker. Within the month, doing the same things without a cigarette will seem more natural.

Do things differently.

It helps to do the things you will continue to do now without the smoke in a different way. For example, sit in a different chair or location from where you used to smoke. Have your coffee with both hands around your cup. Place a glass of water where the ashtray once was. Avoid your usual smoking places if possible. Change your routine.

Know why you are dumping the habit, and write it down. What do you want MORE than a smoke?

  • What do you hate about smoking?
  • Do you want to get rid of or to avoid something by quitting?

Is it the smell on yourself, your clothes, home and car, the taste in your mouth, your kiss? Is it the ashes, the holes in the carpet, getting burnt? How about the money you could better spend on something really fun or satisfying? Have you ever figured out what smoking costs you in terms of the tobacco plus dry cleaning plus sick days, doctor visits, etc.? How about the loss of energy, health problems or fear of them? Do you hate being controlled, having to go out in the snow, rain, cold or heat just to buy a pack, and worrying about running out, having to carry them everywhere? Do you feel like a social outcast or that people are judging you? Do you hate knowing that you will die 4-8 years sooner and suffer more illnesses (some really painful and totally unnecessary) all because of smoking?

The truth is that smokers spend good money to feel bad!

And that’s just plain stupid like a lot of things you probably did when you were young and didn’t know any better. Smoking is totally inappropriate for someone who loves and respects himself (or wants to), who considers himself as intelligent, as doing what is best for him which includes taking reasonable care of their health, and who wants to live life with joy and energy. So I am not surprised you want to get rid of the filty, dirty habit once and for all. It’s one of the most important things you can do for yourself, and one which will teach you that you can have the power, the inner resources to succeed at other things as well.

  • What positive things do you hope to gain by becoming a nonsmoker?

Write your reasons down and post them where you can see them. Carry around a card or little notepad with “Why I am doing this” or “Why I am becoming a nonsmoker now.” Read and reread it multiple times daily to stay focused, not just to psychologically gear you up to quit, or sustain you through the initial days, but anytime that a craving hits, six months or ten years from now. There will be pop quizzes along the way to see if you really mean to remain a nonsmoker. The card in your wallet can keep you on track.

  • I choose to become a nonsmoker because___________.

Did you ever have to break up with someone who might have been gorgeous, but was ‘bad news’, someone who treated you as an after thought, or even rotten? When you are breaking up a relationship, it is not the time to think about what you liked about your lover or how sexually compelling they might have been. You need to have your wits about you and remember why the relationship was wrong for you, what you hated about it, and know that you are breaking up because you deserve better.

Dwell on your reasons to quit.

Remind yourself that “I deserve better health, I deserve abundant energy, I deserve to feel good in my own skin,” and go out after it by becoming a fresh-air breather NOW!

Cigarettes are poison.

There are over 4000 chemicals including arsenic, formaldehyde, cesium, nicotine, nicotinic acid, strontium, titanium, pesticides and much more. So it is no surprise that smoking hurts people and can, or already has, hurt you. For a start, smoking decreases your life span by about 8 years, and 4 years if you are a very light smoker, but increases your illness potential multiple times for the duration of that life.

Cigarettes are not your friend.

 They stink, they drain your energy, make you huff and puff going up a silly staircase or smallest hill. They set up fear that you might have cancer every time you cough. They run your life, preoccupy your mind, and make you worry that you will run out of them. And if you do run out of them, you have to go out in the rain, the snow, the cold, the heat, when you are tired, when you would rather be doing something else or nothing at all, all just to buy another pack! That is stupid! And why do you do that? It is because you enjoy them so much? Probably not so much! You buy them because you don’t like the uncomfortable feeling from not smoking and you don’t trust that you have the power to quit! However, you are now about to find out that you have the power to get them out of your life for good right now!

Becoming a nonsmoker is a decision, not something that you “try.” 

Once you make the decision to stop, and then a thought comes up to smoke, remind yourself

“It’s important that I honor this commitment to myself to be and remain a nonsmoker.”

“This is the most important thing I can do for my health right now, and I am so proud of myself.” 

Eliminate internal conflict with both the Emotional Freedom Technique and refocusing on why you are doing this.

What will sabotage you for sure is thinking “I want to smoke, but I shouldn’t.”  It is fine to admit any cravings, frustration, difficulties and tap them away. Look up the Emotional Freedom Technique online. There are lots of free training. Once you watch the procedure, you can say:

  • Even though I want a cigarette right now, I deeply love and accept myself.
  • Even though I want a cigarette when I ___ (eat/ drive/ talk on the phone/ after dinner/ get stressed or bored/ wake up, etc.), I deeply love and accept myself.
  • Even though a part of me doesn’t want to quit, I deeply love and accept myself. 

Identify yourself as a nonsmoker, and with people who have successfully quit.

You will automatically behave as if it is true. Remember, if other people could do this, why not you? Make your dominant thought one of being a nonsmoker.

Visualize succeeding. See it, feel it, make it real!

Vividly imagine going through your daily routines as a nonsmoker. Imagine going out into the future 30 days, 60, 90, holidays right up to a year from now all as a nonsmoker. Imagine people noticing how good you look, how you have more energy, better health, and you saying, “yes, I am a nonsmoker now and that has made all the difference!”

Breathe deeply.

Three slow, deep breaths anytime you need to relax, relieve stress, or clear away counterproductive thoughts or emotions. Exercise is even better, but not always possible in the moment, but deep breathing always is.

Practice thought stopping and switching.

Watch your thoughts. Thoughts precede emotion, and emotion precede action. Deliberately think thoughts that cause you to feel good and you will instant improve your brain chemistry. The moment you catch yourself with a sabotaging thought, switch to one that helps you.

If at any time you should you think “this is too hard”, focus on one of these:

  • “sooner or later I figure it out.”
  • “if ___ could do it, so can I.” 
  • “this is the most important thing I can do for my health, and I am so proud of myself.” 
  • “there’s a part of me that knows how to do this with grace and ease, and that part is helping me now.”

And finally, don’t get cocky. Never have just one.

Having even one cigarette, even a puff will trigger the chemical addiction, and you will have to redo everything all over again. Don’t do it to yourself.

There are so many more tips I have of how you can help yourself become and remain a fresh-air breather. For further information and quitting on your own without outside help, have a look at my book Yes, You Can Stop Smoking. d71e288f2c7b306368f39241f67a9898 It includes a hypnotic script, vital stress management tools including self-hypnosis and Emotional Freedom Technique instructions, and much more. 181 pages Just $29.95 to possibly save your life.

If you are a hypnotherapist, you can learn my entire professional program through my 194 page manual, Everything You Need to Help Others Quit! 53de181d7dc6790402835c35794fcc95 

See http://www.roxannelouise.com/store-books.html

Farming and Being Present

02 Jun 2016 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in farming, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, mindfulness

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As many of you know, in addition to my professional life, I have a small farm (68 acres) in central Virginia. With upwards of 120 chickens and ducks, then another 17 chicks and 10 ducklings, 21 rabbits, 5 pigs, 3 piglets, dozen guinea hens, 7 cats and 3 dogs, a greenhouse, orchard, berry bushes, pastures, woods, gardens filled with weeds now 2 1/2 feet tall, I can easily get overwhelmed and discouraged. I can wallow in despair of ever getting everything done. I see projects everywhere. More likely I will see the glass as half empty rather than as half full. I see what has yet to be done versus what amazing things that I have already accomplished.

I can berate myself for taking on this huge task as my son will remind me “at my age.” While many people ‘my age’ have downsized, have made ‘sensible decisions’ to move into senior living communities (horrible thought) or an apartment in town (also horrible), I have this much larger house, huge property, out of town in the country, rental properties, and stuff up the ying yang. Some days I can feel really stuck and not know how to get out of the monster project I have created for myself.

The end result is that my energy is frequently drained just to the breaking point to manage every aspect of the farm in addition to everything else, including overseeing any workers that I may engage. This has caused me to sometimes get sick especially in the despair of death. The cost of running the operation far exceeds the proceeds from egg or animal sales. Yet, I still want to do it. But what is it really that I am trying to achieve? Why am I doing this?

When my son came to visit recently, he commented that I have so many animals that I don’t really get to enjoy them. And I realized that I was sorting for and noticing what needed attention, what work needed to be done by whom and in what order, and what was not getting done and what would most likely not be done if ever.

My son’s comment struck a cord in me and I made a decision to shift. Even though I have long standing ads to sell some of my animals, the sales have been all too infrequent, and I have not gotten rid of as many as I would like. I did, however, make a deliberate shift in my attention. Instead of sorting for problems, for tasks yet to be done, I have started to deliberately sort for beauty, for pleasure, for noticing the uniqueness of the critters that I have.

If, for example, a cat or dog comes up to me for attention, I am making it a point to  take time to bend down and pet it, not absentmindedly, not out of obligation, but to really notice it instead of walking on by to get the next task done.

I have always been able to unwind with bottle feeding my piggies (or lamb). I caress them as they drink and pay full attention to their cuteness, the big eyelashes, the curl in the tail, the solid, muscular body of each one. Oh, how I love my piggies! Pippies5onMommy1

I picked some flowers, something that I haven’t done for a long time, and put them where I see them on my work table. As I spend a few seconds to admire them, I breathe. I pay attention. I am slowing down to more fully notice my birds, to listen to the ducks laughing raucously, just to watch them.

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All the time my animals and land were capable of giving me energy, but I had been so focused on doing the work, that I had not been open to receive from them because I was not paying attention. And in not doing so, I was not appreciating their presence. I used to do this, but stopped in all my busyness.

For example, years ago as a college student I read Jean Paul Sartre’s Being and Nothingness, and afterwards started really looking at and feeling and enjoying the living presence of the tall trees on my walks to and from school. I could do that again. Yet, as I have been looking at the trees, I have just been thinking of which ones to cut some down to better see the mountains, and how many I needed of what kind of wood for heating in winter. In other words, I was thinking of how they were in the way, or of their utility, instead of appreciating them as a living consciousness, as a community. So instead of a source of pleasure, many of my trees have been a source of something I have wanted to get rid of or use.

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One of the things that drove me to start a farm was that I have always taken such delight in living things–plants, trees, animals of all kinds. I have always found the sound of a rooster thrilling. I was so amused to watch my goats dance on the roofs of the chicken house. I enjoy picking up the fat, soft toads on the walkway at night. The taste of fresh tomatoes or greens from my greenhouse, or freshly picked eggs from my free range, GMO free fed hens is delicious. The aroma of fresh mint or rosemary is incredible. The joy of picking fresh blackberries or blueberries not devoured by the deer is also wonderful.

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Then my joy of bottle feeding a baby lamb (until it grew up and knocked me down on my face), or watching birth whether of piglets, chicks, ducklings, keets, or bunnies is precious. Oh, the supreme joy of newborns! Each new baby is thrilling. But each death (and farmers see a lot of death) is also heart breaking.

Going through farmland or even to a farmer’s market or fair holds more pleasure for me than any amusement park, restaurant, or most entertainment avenues. Yet, here I was with my own farm, selling at farmer’s markets, and all I thought about was how hard the work was, how much work needed yet to be done, wasn’t getting done, and how much my body ached. Why couldn’t it be easy, or, at least, easier? Why couldn’t I break even financially? The reality was very different than the vision.

Yet, in my heart, I know there can be an energy exchange, a partnership between me and the land, of me and the animals that can give more than it takes. And I know that at least part of that answer lies in me paying attention, sorting for joy, sorting for beauty, sorting for noticing the living presence of these creatures, and being in communion with nature. All this can bring incredible satisfaction and richness in life if only I am mindful.

I look forward to your comments.

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Why be interested in dowsing?

01 Jun 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Dowsing and Self-Help, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help Tags: ,

What is Dowsing?

Dowsing is a highly specialized and ancient psychic art of using a device in a light altered state of consciousness to find vast amounts of useful, accurate information by paranormal means, in other words, beyond your ordinary knowledge, training, or senses of sight, hearing, smell, etc. A dowser (the person using the device) is very specific on what he wants to know. He asks continual questions, one at a time, each question ever more precise until all facets of the subject of his inquiry have been covered and he has all the information he needs before taking action and testing out what information he has gained. In fact, dowsing greatly helps develop analytical skills by formulating good questions and evaluating the results.

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Applications

Dowsing, also called divining, rhabdomancy, doodlebugging, and water witching, has has been done for thousands of years throughout the world, as it contributed to both the survival of mankind and his physical well-being by helping to find water, food supplies, and other basic needs. Historically, it’s most common use has been for water and for mining operations. However, it has strong military, business, and mental, emotional, and physical health applications as well.

It can also be used to locate lost objects, missing persons, unexploded mines. It can be applied to problem solving and decision making in every field of human endeavor, and all aspects of business and personal life to meet your basic needs, improve your career, finances, success, health, mental and emotional well-being, relationships, and your connection to the divine.

You can (and I have) dowse for the most profitable location for your home or business, the best use of your time or your advertising dollar, the reasons for mechanical car or house problems. You can take it into the supermarket to find the most nutritious and ripe produce. You can take it into the bookstore to pick out the best book for you. You can dowse over a class catalog to determine the percentage of value of any class for you at this time. You can analyze the various pluses and minuses of vehicles, prospective houses or business properties or opportunities, or service providers listed in the yellow pages before you even see them.

Dowsing is profoundly helpful for mental and emotional problems. It helps you find and then clear the relevant key issues or blocks, negative beliefs or judgments, emotions, and stuck energies.  Dowsing can help to understand others including yourself, your friends and family, clients or customers, their needs and how to best help or relate to them. It can help you to resolve your own issues thereby improving all of your relationships.

Therapists like myself can incorporate dowsing into their practice to locate a client’s issues and blocks before that client comes in, and develop a treatment strategy, saving time and greatly increasing their efficiency and effectiveness.

Have you ever had a vague uncomfortable feeling without understanding why or what it meant? Dowsing has helped me to understand myself much better, and to tune into my deep inner feelings. Dowsing has helped me also to interpret my dreams, to clarify my meditations and my needs, to refine my goals, and achieve greater peace of mind.

When I was trying to decide on a new office location, I used a pendulum to work over a map. I asked to find those communities with people that would be most receptive to my hypnosis services and willing to pay for them. I then dowsed to locate those communities that would be a central, convenient and attractive hub of the clients and students I already had, and the communities to which current and potential clients were willing to travel to see me. I wrote up a list of all my criteria in the decision making process, and through dowsing I ranked those criteria in order of importance, my ‘must have’. I also wrote up a list of what I didn’t want, and dowsed out which were ‘must not have’. Then I applied dowsing to determine and rank how each possible office measured up, and discounted any that had any items on the ‘must not have’ list. This was immeasurably helpful. This procedure enabled me to obtain a most wonderful office suite, much newer, more beautiful, closer to home, with plentiful free, safe parking, and with easy major highway access. I used this new space for many years.

I again used map dowsing to move out of state, to locate possible areas that would fit into my criteria. I have used the same procedure to buy real estate. This really helped to narrow down my search and make decisions.

Dowsing can applied to all sorts of health issues, veterinary care and animal communication. Some combine dowsing with agriculture, animal husbandry, and gardening. Some incorporate it into feng shui consultations. Others locate and clear non-beneficial energies. The uses are endless.

dowsing cover frontMy dowsing specialty is finding the root cause, key issues, blocks, limiting decisions, addictive thinking or fears behind any problem or negative repeating pattern. Dowsing can identify the main drivers behind habits or behavior such as why a person smokes, overeats, or is stuck in a rut. I locate the negatively charged time frame and events that need to be addressed. My dowsing book, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing, is a direct result of writing chart after chart for my hypnotherapy practice as well as for my self-use.

Dowsing is both a skill and an art that like anything worth doing takes years of continuous application, trial and error, common sense, and the wisdom and guidance of mentors to perfect into a reliable, high quality tool. But because of its broad applications and the many all-around benefits to development of the self that occur, it is well worth the effort.

Dowsing also greatly increases your gut level instincts, intuitive abilities and psychic perceptions because you are working in an altered state of consciousness and tapping into that realm of one consciousness in which all minds are connected and all information accessible. The result is that you develop both hemispheres of the brain and bring all faculties of mind into use and cooperation.

For more information, contact Roxanne Louise at 434-263-4337, or roxannelouise@verizon.net. See her  website or other articles on her blog.

I look forward to your comments.

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Adventures in the Afterlife

29 May 2016 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help Tags: , , ,

W_Buhlman 01   I just finished reading William Buhlman’s book, Adventures in the Afterlife, inspired after Buhlman faced his own mortality through cancer. Having explored out-of-body states for more than 40 years, his experiences and insights are fascinating. He is passionate about training others to have out-of-body experiences, believing that they can provide us direct experience of our deeper spiritual nature and answer our questions about the nature of reality and the afterlife. For his keynote presentation at the Monroe Institute in 2014, see his website at http://www.astralinfo.org, or  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c2j8Vh3UzJI.

Death does not fix ignorance!

Buhlman says that we are powerful, immortal, multi-dimensional, spiritual beings who have had many lifetimes, all with the goal of spiritual evolution. But after death we have no sudden expansion of wisdom and knowledge. Instead, we are the same personality with the same addictions, unhealed wounds, issues, fears, prejudices even bigotry as before. Where we end up in the afterlife is a direct vibratory correlation to our state of consciousness, our open or closed mindedness, and beliefs. As Jesus said, “In my Father’s house are many mansions,” (John 14:2). Buhlman says that there are multiple ‘heavens’ to accommodate every faith and version of same that has ever existed on earth including those to his surprise still preaching ‘hell fire and damnation’.

Souls use thought to create an after life ‘reality’ that is comfortable to them.

They do this either individually or through collective consciousness with other like minded souls. This consensus reality appears as real to them as ‘real’ life does to us.

Wherever you go, there you are!

Buhlman found that people seemed to continue to live in the afterlife much as they did when alive. They dwelt in the same sort of buildings, landscape, even eating the same ‘food’, following their interests, and leading the same, even mundane existence as before. There were even bars where alcoholics congregated, and also gambling casinos. Is seems that wherever you go, you take yourself with you including after death. If that idea is not appealing to you, than do something about that now because it is now that you are creating your future experience.

Whether in neat little houses with white picket fences, or high rise apartment buildings, souls create or are drawn to what they knew while alive, perhaps what they expected to find, but, fundamentally, what resonates with them. One deceased soul was spending some of his eternity in a replica of his easy chair with sports playing on the television, and a can of beer in his hand. All of these ‘heavens’  were on the lower, astral realms.

Yet, Buhlman says that there is so much more to explore and experience! The upper spiritual realms require a more open mind, more loving, less judgmental, more curious mind, a soul that has learned detachment. Getting there means a broadening of our mind by dropping or loosening of our fixed beliefs, and dropping our identification with our physical body, even our identification as ‘human’ and the world of form and things. Attachment, as Buddha warned, is a trap.

What about the near-death experience?

The near-death experience is also an out-of-body experience, but one caused by physical trauma. It can and has made people more spiritually minded because they find a continuation of consciousness beyond death.

Near Death Experience versus Out of Body

While personally I listen to the reports of near-death experiencers with great interest, I am also skeptical. No matter how profound and life altering, a near death experience is usually just a single event, and very brief. Especially am I suspicious if such an experiencer draws global conclusions or intones religious implications of the nature of heaven, God, and the after-life based purely upon their highly subjective single event. Also suspect is turning their brief experience into books and a vocation through the lecture/media circuit to tell others what is, or claiming to have met “Jesus” or “God” when coming across a loving presence.

While reading the reports of many near death experiencers is better than just listening to one or a few, if those people were from a similar culture with the similar beliefs and expectations, that is still not as good as hearing about those from vastly different cultures from very different periods of time to rule out the effect of culture/religion/beliefs/time frame upon the experience.

If Buhlman is correct in that you go to the reality (heaven) that most matches your own particular vibration, then any one experiencer does not see the whole picture, the vast variety of realities that Buhlman has found to exist. You will be drawn to what reflects your beliefs and experience, perhaps your fears, or, as Tom Campbell says, what is comfortable to you. Campbell is a remote viewer, long-time out-of-body experiencer trained by Bob Monroe of the Monroe Institute. He is also a NASA physicist and author of My Big Toe, the Theory of Everything. 

Campbell also says that other beings will adjust their body or form to match one that will help you to relax. This idea was presented in the movie Contact. Here the actress Jodie Foster was met by an alien being who has taken the physical form of her father by scanning her memory banks. He did this because his group thought this familiar form would make her feel comfortable. So much for meeting Jesus. See https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7pfOFCUjmEU

I give more credence to the reports of those doing out-of-body explorations versus near-death experiencers because the former can return again and again, and over time get a better idea of what may be true. Still, their experience is their experience and their interpretation of it. Buhlman urges us to have our own direct spiritual experience rather than relying on any book. And Campbell urges us to be continuously skeptical and open-minded about what we find.

What’s the point of doing out of body experiences?

Buhlman says that all of us are tasked with growing spiritually. For spiritual evolution to occur, regardless of how much time and incarnations it takes, mental and emotional healing has to occur. He urges us to start right here and now with addressing our fears. He claims that learning and practicing out-of-body states will jumpstart the growth process. We will also learn the full extent to which we create our reality because ‘reality’ quickly responds to thought in the out-of-body state.

Furthermore, when we are at the point of death, by focusing on going to our Higher Self, we may bypass the lower worlds of the astral plane to move into the higher realms. While the Tibetan Buddhists have developed a practice of priests chanting directions to assist those on their deathbed, our loved ones can provide the similar instructions to assist us on the ultimate journey as well. Or, if we are conscious, we can focus our intention on “Higher Self now!” 

I look forward to your comments.

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Dowsing on Health

26 May 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in American Society of Dowsers, clearing non-beneficial energies, Dowsing, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

Why Dowse on Health?

Dowsing is a powerful tool for problem solving of all kinds. In making your own charts and checklists, it uses your knowledge, training, and analytical mind to brainstorm possible sources of a problem, and to list possible solutions. Then as you enter an alpha state of consciousness, you can tap into your inner guidance system and the greater consciousness system as Physicist Tom Campbell calls it, to zero in on those items most likely to yield the greatest results.

Use dowsing to

  • outline a comprehensive health care program and
  • set priorities of what to do or not do to stay healthy or to heal if sick

Dowsing in this way makes sense and can save a heap of time.

Healing from any condition is almost never as simple as take this pill, undergo this surgery. Ill health usually comes from years of poor diet and exercise, bad habits or lifestyle, toxicity and stress. It may also stem from years of unresolved issues, negative beliefs and judgments, emotions and conflicts. No physician in the world can remedy all of the factors involved. No matter how good or how necessary their expertise, physicians specialize in one narrow band of the problem. Committing yourself to address the larger and other issues is your responsibility.

As the nursery says: (credit to bio-pic.png)

Humpty dumpty falling of the wall

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall.

Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. 

All the king’s horses, and all the king’s men

Couldn’t put Humpty Dumpty together again.

Illness represents an imbalance and severe energy drain taking place usually on multiple levels that prevents the body from doing what it already knows how to do. Medicine focuses on only one part of the equation. It ignores vital other areas that effect health: energy, stress, nutrition, toxicity, relationships, meaning and purpose in life, joy and fulfillment, rest and recreation, and the spiritual dimension. In my opinion, the best approach to healing is to integrate a multi prong approach that includes traditional medical care with attention to these other areas as well.

Dowsing is a profound help in working with the healer within, getting more energy in, locating and plugging energy drains, brainstorming strategies that support health overall, and restoring balance to one’s life.

MORE INFORMATION: For a longer description of how you can dowse for health issues, see related blog articles here: Dowsing for Health. There are many other blog articles on health such as Illness as Choice and Secondary Gain.

RECORDINGS AVAILABLE. My presentation for the American Society of Dowsers Teleconference, October 17, 2017 “Dowsing & Mind-Body Healing” can be heard here: 

I also taught “Dowsing on Health”  at the American Society of Dowsers Convention held in June 15-20, 2015 at Skidmore College in Saratoga Springs, New York. A recording of this presentation can be purchased now through ASD. For full details, see http://dowsers.org.

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Aging and Cultural Beliefs

20 May 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in aging, lifespan, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

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How Culture Influences Aging

I came across Dr. Mario Martinez, Neuropsychologist, founder of Biocognitive Science, and author of the book The Mind Body Code, http://www.biocognitive.com, both on his website and also in a Hay House interview.
He talks about how our cultural beliefs influence aging and lifespan. After studying about 400 people that were 100+ years old (Centenarians), he noted that only about 35% of them reached old age because of good genetics. However, they all had things in common with each other.
  • All felt that they were loved.
  • 99% had a feeling of connection to something spiritual beyond themselves, thereby avoiding narcissism. This could be God, but it could be nature or something else. They were not necessarily religious or church goers, but were definitely spiritual.
  • If they believed in God, it was a God of love, not one of fear. Fear puts the nervous system on hyper alarm.
  • Some smoked, some drank, but in moderation out of pure enjoyment, not need. Eating also was out of enjoyment, not need.
  • Slightly overweight people lived longer, but there were no centenarians that were obese.
  • In general, they did not go to doctors, and had actually outlived them all. Martinez feels that medicine has helped longevity principally in fighting infections (also healing fractures).
  • Meaning and purpose in life was crucial. Martinez says that death comes for most people within 6 years after retirement because of loss of meaning or purpose. Mentoring others is a good way to keep yourself going.
  • People who look younger than they are believe that middle age starts later than those who identify with the cultural beliefs of aging. He recommends not telling people your age, but rather identify yourself as 15 years younger at a happy time of your life.
  • Organizational culture makes people sick. One factor is having responsibility without authority, or a job without meaning. Another health risk is working through mealtimes because it does not allow the body to digest the food. 75% of corporate leaders have gastro intestinal problems because they take their technology to lunch with them.

Beliefs about aging in our culture are not only disempowering, but are making us look/feel/act a lot older and die younger.

Repeat after me “My body remembers what ___ (20, 30, 40–any age at which you were healthy, vibrantly alive and happy) is.” 

Then vividly picture yourself as that age. Stand and walk as if you were that age now. Your body is only energy–it can shift.

NOTE: In assisting George Bien, my primary hypnosis mentor, who was conducting fire walks, we were told to have a reason to walk on the hot coals. I repeated “my body remembers what 20 is.” When I got done walking, I noticed that I did indeed look younger, and that held for about 2 weeks.

You may notice that anytime you are in love or fired up in a good way about life, people, events, your body springs alive. You bounce, your face no longer sags, the energy returns to your step and your voice. You feel better and you are healthier. You have to have something that inspires you, that gets the blood flowing through your soul to stay healthy.

The goal should not be to live to be 100 years old, but to live a fulfilled, rich life and then to leave a legacy.

It takes time to do that. By the time you attain significant skills, wisdom and maturity, you are already middle aged or older. Live long enough to give that knowledge and wisdom back so that the next generation progresses and benefits from what you/we have learned. Live long enough to do those things that are important to you, to learn, to grow, to heal this time around so that you don’t drag your baggage into the next incarnation.

I look forward to your comments.

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Hypnosis for Cancer (and other) Patients

19 May 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, medical voodoo, mind-body healing, National Guild of Hypnotists, nocebo response, physical healing, placebo response, problem solving, secondary gain, stress management Tags: , , , , , ,

Make a Powerful Healing Difference!

Most major diseases such as cancer, diabetes, heart disease, come about after a long period of stress, bad habits, unbalanced lifestyle, overall abuse or neglect of one’s health or needs. Fixing it then is not as simple as undergoing surgery, a particular medical treatment or drug protocol even if those are indicated. It also requires addressing what weakened or overloaded the system in the first place. 

Dealing with stress, both current stressors and past unresolved issues, is always indicated because it is stress that robs vital energy needed for the body’s defense and healthy cell regeneration and repair. 

Hypnotherapists are ideal in helping cancer as well as many other types of patients because we already are experts in many of the factors important for a well rounded treatment protocol.

  • We create hypnoanesthesia for childbirth, surgery, dentistry as well as trauma situations
  • We reduce stress that interferes with the body’s natural defenses.
  • We help heal emotional trauma that may have weakened the system.
  • We enhance relaxation that eases all types of pain (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual), and brings about much needed rest.
  • We utilize positive suggestions to maximize the Placebo Effect.
  • We create and then collapse negative anchors to undo the Nocebo Effect and negative self-fulfilling prophesy.
  • We utilize healing visualizations to assist the body to heal.
  • We empower the client by teaching him multiple self-help tools such as self-hypnosis, stress and anger management, pain management, self-guided visualizations.
  • We install desired, helpful habits, and increase a client’s motivation for practicing them: healthy eating, detoxification, regular exercise, work and sleep habits.
  • We help the client to eliminate unwanted, detrimental behaviors such as smoking or bad eating habits.
  • We help to improve attitude.
  • We help heal relationships.
  • We improve sleep.
  • We teach goal setting and staying focused on any helpful routine including treatment protocols.
  • We assist in problem solving for anything that comes up.
  • We assist the client contacting and working with the healer within that may already know what has to happen in order to heal.

But most importantly, hypnotherapists help clients to 

  • get in touch with their inner core to find the part of their life that is out of balance and draining their life force, and then addressing it, 
  • and to find and fulfill the unmet needs the soul requires to demonstrate good health.
  • If you fire up the spirit, the soul of the person, it can mobilize the system and fire up the body to do what it already knows to do to heal.

In addition to any indicated medical treatment, for healing to occur

  • there has to be a big enough reason to heal, 
  • the energy drains on the system (toxins, overwork, stress and internal conflicts) have to be cleared away,
  • and more energy needs to come in not just with sleep, good nutrition, but also through loving relationships, meaning, purpose and joy.

During a workshop on this topic at the National Guild of Hypnotists, I taught hypnotherapists multiple ways of becoming a powerful asset in their client’s healing journey whether with cancer patients or those with other serious health issues.

TRADITIONAL USE OF HYPNOTHERAPY FOR CANCER, etc.

Hypnosis has traditionally been used as adjunctive therapy to allopathic medicine. As such, it did the following:

  • reduction of symptoms caused by the illness directly
  • reduction of symptoms caused by the treatment, such as hair loss, nausea from chemotherapy/radiation, and by any medication
  • fear of diagnostic tests, surgery and/or treatment
  • motivation to follow the medical treatment protocol
  • motivation to follow any other physician recommendations, such as follow thru with dietary changes, physical therapy, etc.
  • hypnosis for anesthesia, and speedy post-operative recovery
  • visualization for healing
  • elimination of health destructive habits such as smoking (cancer), or anger outbursts (as in high blood pressure)

EXPANDED USE OF HYPNOTHERAPY

The expanded use of hypnosis includes all of the above plus a very wholistic look at the entire life of the patient to bring harmony and balance conducive to good health. This includes:

  • undoing the Nocebo Effect—the impact that fear, hopelessness and self-fulfilling prophecy has had or could still have from hearing the diagnosis of their condition and the likely prognosis that the illness will take. The negative suggestions/expectations may have come from the medical staff, but also support groups, friends/family or even online.
  • locating and resolving the major drivers for the disease — the main mental/emotional stressors that have weakened the system.

This understands that while anything that stops energy leaking out of the body’s system, and reduces stress, including long buried issues, frees up energy for the body to heal, there needs to be a deliberate search for and healing of those specifically related events, beliefs, judgments and decisions.

  • addressing the energy equation.

Illness results when more energy demands are placed on a body than it has the reserves to cover.

Anything that  stops energy from leaking out maintains critical energy reserves. 

Anything that brings more energy into the system makes more energy available for the body to do what it already knows how to do in order to heal.

  • motivating the client to investigate, inaugurate on a can’t hurt basis, and maintain a common sense approach to good self-care in addition to what was advocated by the client’s team of medical advisors.

This relates to improving the energy equation, and can include:

  • improving diet, sleep and exercise
  • adding supplements, herbs, homeopathic, aromatherapy, or other
  • various healing modalities for overall wellness not directly tied to healing the specific illness (massage and other bodywork, energy work, chiropractics, etc.)
  • eliminating counter productive habits that go beyond smoking or overeating, but include non-beneficial mental and emotional habits as well
  • reducing toxicity
  • addressing the spiritual dimension

This will include connecting to that something More beyond the body and the self. It could include a connection to what people call God, but could also be a connection to family, community, nature, humanity as a whole.

It also looks to whether the client has a sense of meaning, value and purpose in his life. If, for example,  the client perceives life as meaningless and unfulfilling, why heal? This relates to strengthening the “life urge”, the will to live. But it goes beyond just the ego’s drive to survive to something more, to fulfilling some important purpose or goal, such as raising a child.

  • accessing internal wisdom to locate and heal what’s out of balance in the person’s life

This may include visualizations that personify and work with the “healer within”, Gestalt dialog, or just internal questioning and affirmations as with the Infinite Intelligence Process (“There is a part of me that knows ___ and is ___ so now”).

  • looking for the message/lesson/opportunity/blessing hidden within the disease

Because physical illness is sometimes driven by the soul to heal a soul issue, the faster the learning occurs, the quicker the need for that illness is resolved. Physical healing can then (but not always) follow. Carolyn Myss talks about this.

  • amplifying the client’s inner wisdom in making the right decisions for himself
  • increasing joy and overall fulfillment in life

If a person loses his will or desire to live, the body soon follows. In order to heal, there has to be a reason or desire to do so that goes beyond just get out of unpleasant symptoms or physical pain. This may mean helping the client to find and follow his life’s purpose. It may mean making radical changes in his life. Why get better if it means going back to a life or situation that is intolerable?

  • improving primary relationships
  • improving balance in life
  • dealing with any other stressors including the stress caused from being sick, the financial worries, the practical problems of not being as capable and self-sufficient as before.
  • teaching any self-help skills, particularly stress management tools (self-hypnosis, EFT, Emotion Code, Infinite Intelligence Process, etc.) , that you know and which might well help the client whether or not they are strictly ‘hypnosis’
  • utilizing any other modalities that you know (such as energy healing) and which might well help the client whether or not they are strictly ‘hypnosis’ as long as the client approves.
  • changing both the internal and external environment of the cells – this includes the mental and emotional environment as well as physical and spiritual. For Hypnotherapists, changing the environment starts with helping the client to change his perception of the environment because as Biologist Dr. Bruce Lipton says, perception creates chemistry. 

This may be as basic as healing one’s perception that they are living in a hostile environment. Fear is the big issue to address. Fear mobilizes the body for fight or flight. Only love, feeling safe, being at peace enables the body to move into growth and healing.

Physicians may offer drugs to change the cells chemistry, and diet, herbs, supplements, aromatherapy and homeopathic remedies also do so. But thoughts and emotions also change internal chemistry, and sometimes faster.

  • empowering the client to make informed decisions about his own treatment.

Hypnotherapist and long time Director of Health, Education, AIDS Liason, Michael Ellner says that patients who are actively involved in making their own decisions about their treatment do better. This may be motivating the client to investigate other treatment options for the disease, whether still within the allopathic model or not. These other treatment options may be in addition to or instead of traditional allopathic treatment.

  • restoring hope and eliminating the feeling of powerlessness and being a victim of disease
  • making the client aware of his resources and his ability to respond constructively to the health challenge

The goal is to empower the client to bring his body, mind, spirit and his life back into balance and harmony that will support good heath.   

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How Not to Let Non-Beneficial Energies Stick

05 Apr 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in clearing non-beneficial energies, exorcism, ghost busting, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, psychic healing, self help, spirit releasemlent

Energetic Self Defense:

A Common Sense Approach

Non-beneficial, uncomfortable energies are around us in the sea of consciousness just like beneficial, comfortable ones all the time. The point is not to let them stick to you. Non-beneficial energies cannot stick if your energy field is strong and healthy and if you have no receptor sites. Your energy field is affected by your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual state.

  •  Non-beneficial energies cannot stick if you are in a good physical state.

Therefore, take care of your health, and get adequate nutrition, sleep, etc. Also, do something that forces you to breathe deeply and preferably combine it with connecting with others. Exercise strengthens your energy field, dumps a great deal of stress, and oxygenates your brain so that you can think better. But rather than work out in isolation on machines, sign up for a dance class, chorus, drumming circle, hiking group where you will socialize at the same time and get additional benefits.  Even hard, physical work that gives you a sense of accomplishment is helpful, but is even better if you do it with a friend.

  •  Non-beneficial energies cannot stick if you are in good mental and emotional state.

This means that in order to keep your energy clear, it is important to

  1. Deal adequately with everyday stress.
  2. Deal also with your old hurts, anger, resentment, trauma, drama, etc. 
  3. Stay connected to others.
  4. Have fun.

All of us need to learn basic stress management techniques to dump stuck energies. In today’s highly stressed world, it is easy to become overwhelmed. There are a great many techniques, but the Emotional Freedom Technique is a good place to start because it is simple to learn, highly adaptable to anything, and powerful. There are many videos online making it easy to learn this process. I teach this to everyone. Another good technique and another that I teach all my clients is the Infinite Intelligence Process that I wrote about in my book Accessing More.

Your mental and emotional issues, your unhealed wounds, fears, prejudices, limiting beliefs and addictions act as velcro that attracts similar, compatible energies. This makes your own situation worse. Like attracts like. But each time you heal some of your own issues, you remove the receptor site and prevent these non-beneficial energies and the entities that like them from sticking to you.

  •  Non-beneficial energies cannot stick if you are happy, surrounded by people you love, and having fun.

One major contributor to severe depression and even suicide is isolation. Wholesome laughter, get togethers with people you love and care about and who care about you is vital to keep your health and energy field strong.

For example, I notice a real difference in how I feel when I am around my son and grandchildren. Giving piggy back rides and engaging in vigorous games just doesn’t hurt my body the same way as it would it I were doing hard, physical work or lifting heavy things at home. And I am much more resilient to intrusive energies.

  • Laugh.

When I was going through a divorce, I would deliberately stop in the offices of other people in my building and ask them to tell me a joke. I was not denying what was going on in my life or my upset about it. Rather, I realized that sometimes things are so bad that all you can do is laugh. I knew that the laughter would help to break up all the congested feelings of sadness, anger, grief, overwhelm, depression, etc. Then as  I retold the joke quickly to several other people, I laughed again. I developed a significant repertoire. Despite the severe stress from my personal situation, and despite the frustrations of my work associates, the jokes helped to restore balance for us all. It made a positive shift in the energy, both in me and the workplace.

  •  Non-beneficial energies cannot stick if you are in a high vibrational or good spiritual state.

By spiritual, I mean that you feel deeply connected to something beyond yourself. Perhaps you feel a real sense of belonging and service to your family, the larger community, to humanity as a whole. You may feel deeply rooted to the earth, to nature, to some over arching intelligence behind the cosmos. This has nothing to do with specific religious beliefs, but with having a strong connection to or relationship with something More. This sense of belonging to something beyond yourself provides you some immunity against intrusive, uncomfortable energies.

If you consider that as consciousness you are connected to the Source of consciousness, that connection provides a link to greater resources of knowledge, wisdom and power you can harness to meet any challenge. I consider that each person is a powerful, spiritual being somehow intrinsically connected to the greater whole. Instead of being a powerless victim without influence, I consider that what makes you — you –that special spark that is your vibratory signature–was created by design, by intention, on purpose.

When you feel connected to something More, and also when you are aligned with a sense of purpose and feel you are making a meaningful contribution, this contributes to spiritual strength as well.

You are psychically linked to others that love you, believe in you, and are there to help you. Whether you are physically with your friends or family members or alone when you are feeling low, just by thinking of your loved ones, by thinking of your love for them and their love for you, you instantly are enveloped in a protected bubble.

You do not have to be religious to gain spiritual strength.

You can put out a mental call to and connect with that something More in the universe for help. You can also deliberately imagine your loved ones, guardian angels, ancestors watching your back. Imagine taking them with you when you are going into a tough situation, like having your own personal army standing alongside and behind you when faced with the school yard bully.

If you have trouble going to sleep, put your angels or ancestors at the head and foot of the bed to watch over you throughout the night and only awaken you if it is important to do so.

 Gratitude helps to strengthen your energy field.

When you think of all the things for which you are grateful, you realize that you do have resources to bring to any challenge. The old rituals of praying before bed and before meals with thanksgiving are energetically protective.

 Forgiveness helps too.

When you hold onto negative emotions, you bind those you hold responsible to you. Why drag them around? This prolongs your suffering and weakens your energy field making you more susceptible to other non-beneficial energies. Your anger, hurt, resentment or disapproval does not change what happened, and cannot resolve it. Constructive action is the only thing that can rectify anything.

The reason to forgive is simply because you do not want to hurt anymore, and you realize that you need to free your vital energy to be able to create a better future for yourself.

  • Turn those that offended you over to their destiny under God.
  • Ask for forgiveness from those you have harmed whether knowingly or unknowingly–even if that harm was only in the perception of those other people.
  • Pray to heal any karma between you.
  • Practice Ho ‘oponopono. This exercise as popularized by Dr. Hew Len and Joe Vitale in their book, Zero Limits, is very helpful.

Forgive yourself.

If you don’t find a way to forgive yourself, your unconscious mind will find a way to sabotage or punish yourself, which you don’t want to happen. Learn what you can from your experiences. Learn what you need to say or do, or not say or do next time. Mentally rehearse handling the situation in a better way at least 5 times. Perhaps think of how someone else might have handled it better, and learn from them.

Perhaps make a symbolic act of contrition as a way of saying you are sorry. For example, you can light a candle in church, do some act of charity or kindness for someone else.

Do not take on or identify with the emotional issues or problems of others.

This is especially important if you are sensitive, empathetic and feel other people’s emotions. Assist others as appropriate, but do not assume their burdens and pain. Keep one foot always planted in a world without such problems so that you know that things can be different. Vividly imagine a better world, and then ask yourself if there is something you can do to move in that direction. If you identify with problems, whether your own or that of others, it will drain your energy and ability to be effective in changing it.

Are these distressing emotions and thoughts really yours?

They may not be. You may be just telepathically picking up those belonging to someone else, or those left over in the environment by others. Are these thoughts true? Is your mother, your kid brother, that old school teacher still in your head and telling you it’ll never work, that you’re no good at, etc.? Can you regain your composure by challenging discordant thoughts? Do they reflect something you saw in the media, a movie, or read in a novel? Is the nightly news getting you down because you do not have enough good news to balance it?

Are you picking unsettling emotions up on the psychic airways? If they are not yours, say a prayer for the owner of those feelings even if you are not sure where they came from. Think of each person as really a powerful, spiritual being, guided and protected as well as you are. Imagine the person/s involved as  healthy, happy, confident.

But if the feelings are yours, or you resonate with them, then do something to resolve or heal them. Again, the Emotional Freedom Technique or the Infinite Intelligence Process that I teach can help.

Do not accept emotional abuse.

Let someone’s verbal bombardment pass right on by like the wind. You would not be upset if a lion in the zoo roared at you. The lion is just being itself. So is your boss, your ex, your ____.

While it is good to be aware of what is going on in the world and how people feel about it or about you, their feelings, their judgments are their perceptions, their opinions, their reality.  However, information is useful. It is feedback. Information informs you of action that might be appropriate, needed and timely. It may inform you on how you might be helpful or better. It may make you aware that you need to communicate more clearly, set boundaries, adjust your own behavior. It may make you aware of what issues are resonating within yourself that might need to be healed.

Ask yourself

  • How can this be turned into a blessing?
  • Is it necessary or appropriate for me to take any action? What?
  • What can I learn from this?

Non-beneficial energies that do seem to stick whether from people or annoying entities that are around always have something to teach you. If you pay attention and take action, they can actually bless you.  There is a saying

“Man made it for evil, but God meant it for good.”

Remember to have an attitude that any energies that bother you are a temporary annoyance. My belief is that you are a powerful, spiritual being–a chip off the Old Block, which is the ultimate Source of all that is that people call God. Therefore, you have a right to dominion within your own energy field, your own home and environment, and a right to command the benevolent forces of the heavens to come to your aid and assist you.

Finding BALANCE

Remember to keep a healthy energy field starts with good basic care of yourself with adequate sleep, and nutrition. Then it means dealing with stress and old issues, by being around loving, supportive people, having fun, laughing, singing and dancing, doing anything that brings a smile to your face, and gives you a sense of meaning and purpose in life. Breathing deeply will instantly release fear, raise your vibration and strengthen your energy field. And happy or sacred music will assist you to stay in a good place and permeate the walls of wherever you play it.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

 

What the Law of Attraction Misses

17 Mar 2016 1 Comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in attitude, Cause and Effect, Dowsing, Hypnosis, Law of Attraction, problem solving, self help

This is a reworked article originally written in March 17, 2015 that was formerly called: 

“Why Shit Happens (or doesn’t)”

Much talk has been made on the Law of Attraction–that you create your own reality through the predominant content of your thoughts, and that by dwelling on positive or negative thoughts, you will draw positive or negative experiences into your life. Popularized by New Thought authors (see list of authors here), the New Age Movement, channelers such as Esther Hicks, and promoted in movies such as The Secret, it has been so hyped up that it takes on the trappings of religious dogma (Science of Mind, Unity, Christian Science, etc.) or cultish in it’s uncritical, narrow minded philosophy. Followers seem to fall into the category of ‘true believers’.

As a hypnotherapist, I agree that the Law of Attraction does seem to operate. It is my job to help a client identify the self-sabotaging thoughts, emotions and expectations that may underlie any unwanted habit, pattern or experience. And it is my job to help them resolve their issues, healing trauma and other blockages, and shifting limiting beliefs and negative expectations so that the person is able to be more hopeful, take appropriate action, and move on with their life less burdened by the stress of the past in order to create a more rewarding future.

That being said, the Law of Attraction is only a possible cause (not the only possibility) and even where found, may be only a partial cause of why particular things happen to you. While important, it is, nonetheless, simplistic and very incomplete. And in it’s claim that it is the only causative factor, it lacks compassion for self and others, and it neglects the other things that may be responsible totally apart from LOA, or in addition be at cause. In other words, the possibilities are:

  • Law of Attraction.
  • Law of Attraction AND ___.
  • Something else.

If you are blind to other factors that are or may be involved, you cannot, you will not take corrective action on them. That is a disservice.

Furthermore, ideas, beliefs, theories, models of reality change over time. They sometimes are more like the fad of the moment. They come and they go. Consequently, it is a mistake to get too attached or you will miss new insights. If you maintain an open-minded attitude, you may come to a greater understanding of how the mind works in creating our world. And as you examine other points in history or other cultures, other areas of the world where people have a vastly different beliefs, ideas, and experience of life than we do in our more privileged Western society, you may have a more expansive understanding in both our freedom and our limitations in what we can and cannot effect. 

But even within the Law of Attraction what is not usually talked about are the thoughts that are the most powerful aspect and the hardest to remedy are those that are so much a part of you that they taken for granted, unspoken, unverbalized, and, therefore, invisible. While your life gives you clues, yet other dynamics beyond your predominant thoughts can be responsible for drawing experiences to you. Hence, the beauty of hypnosis to uncover and release them.

In my first edition of Your Unlimited Potential, a complete self-hypnosis course book first published in 1992 [available through my website], I wrote about this New Thought principle and the others listed below in an entire chapter entitled Laws of Mind. While I am now embarrassed at how much the New Age Movement and New Thought permeates that chapter, New Thought only goes back about a 100 years since  Phineas Quimby. Quimby was a Mesmerist (follower of Franz Mesmer and the early hypnotists) in the early 19th century that healed Mary Baker Eddy, founder of Christian Science. Eddy in turn influenced Ernest Holmes who founded Religious Science (of which Fenwick Holmes, Raymond Charles Barker, Stuart Grayson, Louise Hay, Michael Beckwith, Joseph Murphy, Jean Houston, Terry Cole-Whittaker, and William Hornaday are notable ministers). Eddy also influenced Charles and Ethel Fillmore, founder of Unity Church.

  • Overall Law of Cause and Effect
  • Law of Knowing
  • Law of Love
  • Law of Gratitude
  • Law of Forgiveness
  • Law of Nonresistance
  • Law of Substitution
  • Law  of Belief (Expectancy)
  • Law of Faith
  • Law of Justification (Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
  • Law of Judgment
  • Law of Declaration
  • Law of Feeling (Emotion)
  • Law of Dominant Effect
  • Law of Identification
  • Law of Imagination
  • Law of Practice (Repetition)
  • Law of Neutrality
  • Law of No Limitations
  • Law of Association
  • Law of Compatibility
  • Law of Reaping and Sowing (Karma)
  • Law of Compensation (Giving and Receiving)
  • Law of Relaxation (Allowing)
  • Law of Release
  • Law of Vacuum
  • Law of Opposites
  • Law of Reverse Effect
  • Law of Pharsing
  • Law of the Now
  • Law of Permanence
  • Law of Connection
  • Law of One

But here’s another take on how we may be creating our reality:

While I believe that all of the above influence what happens to us, I noted that physicist, Tom Campbell has another take on why we draw things to us. He says that

We draw experiences to us as learning opportunities, both individually and collectively.

Tom Campbell on Creating Our Future           tom-atom.png

Campbell, author of My Big Toe, consciousness researcher, out-of-body experiencer, and former associate of Robert Monroe (founder of the Monroe Institute),  says that physical existence is a virtual reality. The future is a yet unrealized array of multiple possibilities of everything that could happen. As to what does happen or is most likely, he says:

“If a particular occurrence is determined to be an effective learning opportunity for someone or everyone, the probability of it happening is increased. The system is designed to automatically deliver timely custom-fit individual learning opportunities — the presentation of such opportunities to individuals or groups is part of the feedback one receives relative to the choices one makes. Because the point of the system is to overcome fear (about you – high entropy) and replace it with love (about others – low entropy), if you have fear, the feedback system will manifest that fear in PMR [physical reality] to force you to deal with it (learn) or suffer the consequences.”

If it is your soul’s intention, or the intention of the virtual reality system of which you are a part, to learn and to grow, well then, you will be provided with experiences to do just that. That does not mean that you will learn, but the opportunity is there to do so.

For example, years ago I realized that I was much too naive, and, consequently, trusted untrustworthy people. So I made a clear intention to learn the true, underlying nature of others, their motivations and personal, hidden agendas. Immediately after I made that my intention  I came across one pathological lier, manipulative, self-serving or conniving person (all with smiling faces and pleasant exterior personalities) after another. How could someone be outwardly nice and inwardly, not nice? Think of white collar criminals, con men, snake oil salesmen. But did I learn? Yes, I am more discerning today.

Even if you are a good, positive person, you can draw painful experiences in order for you (or someone else) to learn. Have you ever wondered why bad things happen to good people?

Here’s another example. About a decade ago, I found that a ‘friend’ and colleague had plagiarized a full eight pages of my stop smoking book. Now I have never plagiarized anyone so I did not deserve this on the basis of karma. In fact, I go out of my way to acknowledge sources. Nor was I focused on fear that someone might steal from me. In fact, I trusted this person as well as my other colleagues to behave differently. So I did not draw this experience on the level of my predominant thoughts (aka Law of Attraction).  I worked hard to do the research myself and the hard work of writing the book, and here comes someone who above all should not mistreat a friend, and a colleague and fellow presenter who above all should set a shining professional standard of behavior. Furthermore, we had just roomed together at a conference where we were both teaching, so this betrayal was a shock.

Yet in meditation, I was informed that it was a soul agreement–that if she did this (not predestined to happen), that I would be the one to confront her and help her to learn not to steal someone else’s intellectual property. But there was also something in it for me–I could learn to more powerfully to stand up for myself and establish better boundaries instead of letting things slide. This understanding enabled me to let go of the anger and to proceed to taking prompt, effective legal and other countermeasures even though it was very time-consuming to do so.

Pain is a great motivator

My original push to study psychology, dowsing and many self-help modalities  was precisely to deal with and stop the stream of unpleasant ‘learning opportunities’ that life dished out. Of course, at the time, I did not perceive such events as an opportunity. But over time, I decided to use them as such. After all, I might as well get something good out of the experience. Why not salvage something out of the debris, right? As a result, that decision, repeated over and over again as new events showed up, was a powerful part of allowing me to mature and move with greater grace and ease through life. It also stopped some of those types of experiences happening again, or slowing me down in an emotional quagmire if they did.

Although only one factor among many, thoughts and emotions absolutely do impact upon what experiences show up and how they affect you. It is not always obvious, nor necessarily a direct correlation, nor necessarily immediate. But sooner or later, they build sufficient momentum to bring a harvest.

The collective mindset

Scientists are more and more talking about the morphogenetic field, and entanglement of consciousness.  This theory says that the consciousness of each of us is tied psychically to the larger whole of humanity. Your thoughts and emotions are added to my own and that this is what can attract a collective (common) experience.

While the humans may not appear to have the same kind of hive mind of a school of fish or swarming ants, it appears that collective human consciousness exists. My mindset is entangled with yours and yours is entangled with mine. Even where they are disagree, even when antithetical, on some level, they are felt, and that will influence our sense of ease or dis-ease, our individual mood, and our choices (congruent or reactive). The most powerful  effect will be felt with those with whom we are in rapport (friends and family), then with those in close association (neighbors, work associates), those with whom we identify, but ultimately with the larger humanity. The commonly held thoughts and emotions in any group, neighborhood, region, even nation can sometimes be felt. Think of any place where a tragedy has taken place like 9/11 or a mass celebration like Christmas, New Year’s Eve or the end of a war.

Applying the Law of Attraction to the Collective

Perhaps this newer scientific understanding of the morphogenetic field and entanglement can be joined with age-old spiritual awareness that you and your brother are one, that what you do to another, you also do to yourself. If we apply Campbell’s idea that we draw experiences collectively as well as individually to learn, and to move from fear to love, let’s learn as fast as we can to jointly experience a nicer, kinder world.

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com  are included with the content.

 

 

 

 

Thoughts Carry a Train

11 Mar 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, self help Tags: , , , ,

And how to derail that train when you don’t like where it is going!

Today, I heard about the death of a friend’s family member, and also of a hypnosis colleague giving a workshop on how to deal with grief and loss. This brought up some thoughts and memories of my own of how thoughts connect to similar thoughts taking us to a predictable emotional conclusion.

One of my clients was setting up a meeting at Windows on the World restaurant on top of the World Trade Center on 9/11. Located on the 107th floor of the north tower with a conference facility on the 106th floor, with commanding views of the city, it was a popular destination with building occupants, tourists, and city residents (the restaurant served about 800 dinners nightly).

When the first hijacked plane crashed into the north tower at 8:46 am, the restaurant had regular breakfast patrons on the 107th floor and a conference for the Risk Water Group on the 106th floor. About 73 employees and an unidentified number of patrons died in the fire and building collapse. One of my clients, Luke Dudek, was among those killed.

The last time I saw Luke was at a mutual friend’s funeral, that of Rodney DeMichael. Rodney had been on the Board of Advisors for my business, Unlimited Potential. As a dear friend, social worker, counselor, founder and head of the Center for Eating Disorders in Livingston, NJ, Rodney had served  as most valued guide and mentor when I had questions about or needed help with a client, especially where I suspected that such client or prospective client had mental or emotional issues that required specialized professional treatment beyond my expertise as a hypnotherapist.

Rodney had been brought in also to lecture on psychopathology to my advanced, professional hypnotherapy students. When he got ill, he came weekly to the Reiki Sharing Clinic I ran. Over the years, many of my students and graduates worked on him, some even traveling to the hospital during his final stay.

So Luke’s death brought up memories of Rodney’s death, Rodney’s funeral and the silly hat I wore just for his benefit, thoughts about his life, my association with him, my student’s associations with him, and his friends and family. It also brought up times I myself had been at Windows on the World, the magnificent crystals there that were the size of small elephants, the woman (another client) that sold those crystals to the restaurant from her mine in South America, and her crystal shop in Montclair, NJ. Further, Luke’s and Rodney’s deaths also brought up memories of my father’s death, that of other family members, and on and on.

Thoughts hitch to other thoughts that carry you to a predictable emotional destination!

Carolyn Myss once was explaining how to understand someone’s conversation, you have to dig down into your own memory banks for similar associations. So if someone is talking about cupcakes, you have to do an internal search for anything to do with cupcakes yourself just to understand what is being said, let alone to respond.

The outcome is that if you have any emotions tied to any of your cupcake associations, it brings up those old emotions, memories, and all related associations as well.  Anything yet unresolved that is related to the issue or topic at hand as well as to any of the free associations that resurface is added to what is going on now, and it happens in lightning speed much as Alice plunging down the rabbit hole.

Early on in my hypnosis practice, I had a client that taught me how thoughts hitch to other thoughts that carry you to a predictable destination much as coupling train cars together on a pre-determined track. You can clearly foretell the expected emotional outcome from the content of the thoughts if you catch them fast enough. If such thought associations happen often enough, it runs a groove that turns it into a habit.

‘Sarah’ (not her real name) came to me because she was sick, worried and depressed. She had multiple issues: Epstein Barr, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, etc. Not surprisingly when she woke up in the morning, her first thought was “I feel sick.” This connected to another thought, “If I’m sick, then I can’t go to work.” From there, the next thought was “If I can’t go to work, I’ll lose my job.” Next came, “if I lose my job, I’m going to lose my apartment.” Next was, “if I lose my apartment, I’m going to lose custody of my son.” Finally, the thought came, “if I lose my son, I might as well kill myself.” So from the first thought, “I feel sick”, she was rapidly in suicidal depression.

Because this thought pattern happened so frequently, I had to teach her how to derail her train of thoughts to take her to, hopefully, another emotional destination. So for the usual “I feel sick”, therefore, “I can’t go to work”, I taught her to say “at what I usually do. So what can I do?  What can I do from home to earn an income? Oh, I used to be an Editor. Maybe I could call up some of my old contacts and do something with them on the side. Maybe I could do phone solicitation, or stuff envelopes. Maybe I could make arrangements with my current boss to do some of my work from home.” 

If Sarah could deliberately change her thought pattern, decouple the usual connections, she would derail her train of thought that was guaranteed to take her into depression to possibly end up somewhere else. And maybe over time she would get ideas that would help her to solve her problems.

What’s my point?

  • As quickly as possible, to the greatest extent possible, clean up your own issues so that they do not add to the burden of dealing with future ones.
  • When old stuff comes up, make a mental note of it, or even better, write it down and deal with it at your earliest convenience, hopefully, that day. Use whatever tools you know: Emotional Freedom Technique, Tapas Acupressure, Emotion Code, Time Line Therapy, self-hypnosis, the Infinite Intelligence Process (my own technique), dowsing, etc. Where you are stuck, hypnotherapists and NLP (Neural Linguistic Programming) practitioners are skilled in helping you change and resolve non-beneficial mental and emotional patterns and limiting beliefs.
  • Deliberately ask a question that sets you off in another direction: “What if ___? How can I ___? If ___ could work, how would it work? Who could help me ___. “
  • Make a statement that while believable, changes the train tracks to another emotional destination For example,  “I’m so grateful for ___. I got through/survived ___ before. I turn this into a blessing. There’s a part of me that knows how to deal with this. I stay focused on the bigger picture. I take it one step at a time.”
  • Make a habit to challenge your assumptions, beliefs and judgments where they have been shown to be non-productive.

It is possible to change your self-talk to help yourself. And while it takes diligence and repetition to run new mental train tracks, it is profoundly worth the effort!

Resolving mental and emotional issues is my specialty. If you need extra help, I am available in person, by phone, and soon, by Skype. Call for an appointment. Free initial phone consultation: 434-263-4337.

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