Releasing Anger – example

A Practical Application

The bad news is that when you write a book on Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone, the focus required to write a book may bring about an experience to apply what you know (or think you do). The good news is that you do know something to harness that energy constructively and then move it out of your system more quickly than you did in the past. Think of it as an exam. Do you know what you are talking about or not? Is it just an intellectual or a practical knowing? Is there more yet to learn?

So one week ago a tenant, as she was moving out of my house, left water running. Gallons of water poured down from the second floor bathroom to the first floor living room, and down to the basement below. Rugs, a mattress, books, furniture and other things got wet. Now almost half of the living room ceiling has to be replaced, drywall dust is everywhere. And as much as possible things were boxed up and moved out of the living room along with the furniture. Likewise, two basement rooms were disrupted in order to mop up the water, and get things out of harm’s way. So not only is my living room unusable but so is the dining room and hall, and those two basement rooms as well. 

Immediately taking a long view of the problem, I knew that regardless of how much time, energy, work and out-of pocket expense would be involved, regardless of the bad timing and other demands upon me both health wise and financially, the problem would be eventually fixed, and the house would be restored to it’s former beauty. In other words, the problem was temporary. That tenant is now fully gone from my house, and I have a new, wonderful person living here and other workmen helping me clean up the mess.

I knew that I needed to harness the anger into constructive action. So I called people to get the help and advice I needed, and start or supervise the work. I did a lot of the Infinite Intelligence Process to both dump stress and access the wisdom within. I did EFT tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique), dowsing for emotional healing, and meditation because I did not want the anger to poison me or cause me to get more sick. I wanted any possible contributory factors healed. And I also did not want to project my anger back to my former tenant as it would then be a curse on her head. And because I believe that we are all connected, what I send out comes back to me.

I focused on what I had to be grateful for. I asked myself what I could learn and grow from this experience, how I could prevent something like this happening in the future, and what I might have done differently that could have (but not necessarily would have) prevented the damage occurring. In other words, I was actively looking to pull a blessing out of the experience. 

Then I wrote a letter to my tenant to get everything off of my chest because she took no responsibility for her actions and was instead blaming me. I felt it necessary that she understand the ramifications of her negligence so she is more careful elsewhere. This stopped the conversations looping in my head.

I hired someone to repair the damage and then paint the entire living room ceiling. I found someone to clean when the construction and painting are done. And I am getting a record of expenses in case I go to court to collect damages. In other words, I did everything I could. Now, it is just a matter of getting the work completed. 

I learned long ago that groaning over damage done is a waste of precious energy that you need to stay healthy and address the problem. Complaining to people who cannot help you is one thing as an immediate, very short vent, but counterproductive otherwise. Best to talk only to those that can offer some good information and advice. Blaming her or blaming myself wasn’t going to be helpful. Using the problem as an excuse for not doing something else would also be counterproductive.

I would have loved to had someone just hold me. But since I don’t have a partner, I grabbed a cat and snuggled with him. I sat with my piggies. I hugged my dogs. I looked up at the sky. I picked up and talked to the toads. I noticed some of the abundant sweetness that is on my farm. I remembered that I am loved, that I have meaning and purpose in this world, that this is a beautiful place, and I am choosing to be alive and present. 

At other times and places, I may have made love, watched funny movies, gone dancing or done something nice with friends just to discharge energy and regroup. But what is important is that you actively do something. There is always something still left to enjoy and appreciate—even a memory to lift your spirit. 

Did I pass? I think so. Will I do things differently in future? Yes. Will I forget the lessons? No. Can what I learned help someone else? Yes, I think so.

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Releasing Anger Without Killing Anyone!

by Roxanne Louise

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√ Turn anger into a blessing! 

√ Shift anger into constructive action! 

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    • Change how you look at things so that they don’t bother you nearly as much! 
    • Make your enemies & problems help you! 
    • Harness anger as motivation to heal & make much needed change! 
    • Communicate more effectively! 
    • Fight clean! 
    • Stop conversations from spiraling downwards! 
    • Notice negative patterns & screw them up! 
    • Take effective action without the baggage!
    • Enjoy your life despite the crap!

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In addition to covering this information with clients over the years, I have taught this material at numerous hypnosis conventions including workshops at the National Guild of Hypnotists Convention and the National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists.

 

Dowsing for Solutions

My father’s influence

I born into an engineering family. My father, who was a mechanical engineer, inventor of roller bearings for General Motors, and occasional instructor for Hyatt GM, taught me early on to work out my problems on paper. He told me to “think negatively towards a positive solution.” In other words, consider your design from all possible angles including things that could go wrong. And if things are already going wrong, redesign to counteract those non desired effects in order to get your desired outcome. 

Inventors like my late father are both highly analytical and highly creative—a perfect blend of left and right brain thinking, rational and psychic, logical and artistic, head and heart. This is true with dowsers as well. Dowsing is a balancing of both hemispheres of the brain. The analytical and logical left brain helps you to research the subject at hand—both to clarify exactly what is desired, and the elements that may be causing or sustaining a problem, and those that may lead to a possible solution. 

Resolving problems starts first with a recognition that there is a problem and knowing what that is.

My father’s way of thinking applies perfectly to dowsing for solutions to problems and for goal achievement of any kind. Although you may have a clear positive intent of what you want to create, you should also check for and eliminate whatever could sabotage or negatively impact upon that intent. To ignore or deny the negative factors is like putting ice cream (your affirmations and positive desires) on top of horse manure. 

Factors to be considered include among others, your gut level belief in yourself, and in your ability to learn and to solve each phase of the project, your belief in the viability of your project, and your allowance of it versus any doubt or fear. Other factors include conflicts, motivation, commitment, endurance, and anything that could be sap your strength, energy, or your ability to follow through.

Determine the likely causative factors to resolve or clear, and any challenges or conflicts that will need to be addressed. Dowse out your priorities and the order in which to tackle them. Set up a strategy for the best course of action to follow. Your analytical mind will assist you to fine tune your dowsing questions. In fact, you can dowse “is this question now worded correctly?”

For any problems you are likely to encounter again, develop dowsing charts and checklists. These are especially useful and time saving in future.

The real problem may not be apparent.

There can be a problem beneath the problem. For example, you may think that the problem is that you ___ (drink/smoke/eat too much). And while that may be true, there can be an unconscious need or wound that is driving it, for example, trauma, pain, boredom, feeling unloved/not good enough/angry/hurt, etc., unable to set healthy boundaries or express your needs to others, difficulty communicating with others, poor stress management skills, ad infinitum.

So the first task is to write out what you think the problem is. Then dowse out: 

Is this the real problem? If you get a ‘no’, brainstorm on paper until you find it.

Is there a problem underneath that is either creating or aggravating the problem of ___? If you get a ‘yes’, brainstorm what that might be. Always include the word ‘other’ on your list, and dowse out.

You may want to know when the problem first began, and if it originated with you in this or another lifetime, or if you inherited it from an ancestor. For example, author Dr. Bradley Nelson of The Emotion Code as well as others has found that we frequently carry issues that are passed down on our DNA. [Nelson, by the way, has a helpful chart of non-beneficial emotions that can be located with kinesiology. I use his chart with dowsing instead.]

With dowsing, you may ask if you need to research a particular issue. If you get a yes, it may be helpful to know what players are involved as this can help to refresh your memories and emotions and focus on forgiveness or understanding. You can make or purchase dowsing charts for this purpose. Here is mine, Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing. 

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What do you want instead?

Hint—it is NOT to not have that problem on ____. Clarify the positive opposite of what that problem would look/feel like. How would it show up? How would anyone know without you telling them that you solved that problem?

How motivated are you on a subconscious level?

On a scale of 1-10 how much do you want to resolve that problem and achieve your objective on a subconscious level? Is that problem serving a need or secondary gain? Is it protecting you? To what degree will your subconscious mind permit you to solve the problem? I call this your level of allowance. To what degree will it resist? This is your level of resistance.

Dowse this one at a time and get the percentage for each. Ideally, you want to get the resistance (probably a fear) down to zero and the allowance up to 100%. The way to do this is ask your subconscious mind to review everything to do with that problem, and extract the positive learning first. Then ask if you can heal/transmute any fear or resistance. If you get a ‘yes’, then go and do so.

Secondary gain is a benefit that you get out of a problem that the unconscious mind considers of greater importance than the problem itself. For example, an illness can serve to protect you from something that is painful, upsetting or threatening. Or it can provide attention, acts of love and kindness that you crave. [See the article, “Secondary Gain – A Gain From Pain”]

You might also state “I release any belief, perception or judgement that _____” (belief causing the resistance). “I now choose to believe that ___ (positive opposite belief).” Check with the pendulum again on the levels of resistance, and of acceptance. 

Is anything else blocking you?

Dowse if you have any other blocks to resolving the problem or achieving your goal. Some people have multiple goals that require more time and energy than are possible to achieve all at the same time. Priorities should be dowsed out. Perhaps all goals can be met in some measure with one being the main focus and another as a hobby or a one time event. Again, you can dowse out the percentage of time to devote to each. Perhaps, all can be met in some measure over a lifetime, or achieved sequentially instead of together. Some people have goals that conflict and will need to set up a hierarchy of values, and do some deep soul searching. If you are consciously motivated, but have unconscious blocks, those blocks will have to be addressed first.

What needs to happen?

Next, determine what has to occur to solve that problem and achieve a real transformation. Once you have clarified what you want, identified the problem and elements to be addressed, and brainstormed possible solutions, it is time for action. This may be through dowsing alone as in mental or emotional healing, or through physical or other action. 

Manifesting

Manifesting is the act of creation through joining strong clarity of intent with strong emotion. Positive creation will require an elevated emotion such as love, joy, gratitude, bliss.

Quiet your mind, and drop down into the deepest part of your inner being with clear focused desire to connect with Source — that universal sea of consciousness behind all that is. This is the repository of information, ideas, wisdom and guidance linking all minds throughout time and space. This is the place of pure creation, healing and manifestation where it is possible to alter reality and create miracles. Stay there until you feel a sense of completion – this can be seconds or much longer.

Conclusion

Dowsing is phenomenally valuable in all aspects of problem solving: clarifying intent, aligning with that intent, removing any blocks to such alignment, raising one’s frequency, and connecting with universal consciousness and divine creation to bring about the results you want with greater ease, grace and speed. 

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The Relationship Between Fear and Depression, Breath and Posture

How You Breathe Can Lessen Fear 

A recent study by Christina Zelano at Northwestern University indicates that breathing in through the nose as opposed to the mouth helps a person to respond more quickly to fear and knowing this can help you to deal with it. 

“We can potentially use this fact to our advantage. For example if you’re in a dangerous environment with fearful stimuli, our data indicates that you can respond more quickly if you are inhaling through your nose.” ~Christina Zelano

But, what I would add to this is that it is NOT ENOUGH to just breathe through the nose, but to BREATHE DEEPLY and FULLY. 

My understanding is that the first reaction of fear is to freeze the breathing mechanism – in other words, to hold the breath. This is the deer in the headlights syndrome while you are evaluating what to do (run/fight or stay in freeze). The fastest way I have found to discharge that fear is then to deliberately take a deep, big breath. Followed by other deep, regulated breaths, the mind quiets down.

Deep Breathing Lessens Depression & Fatigue Too!

As a former classical singer with NYC Opera and elsewhere, I noticed that deep breathing whether through the nose or mouth through the process of singing, dancing will process out the debilitating emotions of fear and depression as well as fatigue. While music also plays a significant part, I am sure this significant improvement has much to do with the increased oxygen reaching the brain. Classical singers while singing, for example, breathe four times as deeply as people at rest. Increased breathing and oxygen intake through any form of exercise will put you in a better frame of mind and in a more emotionally balanced state where you are able to think more clearly and make more rational decisions. 

Posture is Important 

Deep breathing is aided by an erect posture that allows the rib cage to expand. Then a person must train themselves to keep the chest still while breathing  deeper down that fully engages the diaphragm. This means that the belly moves in and out with each breath.

Good posture makes better breathing possible, and greater oxygenation of the brain allows a better processing of emotions. But posture is by itself relevant to mood and energy levels. Multiple studies indicate that good posture, holding the head erect and eyes looking forward rather than down [downward facing eyes puts a person into their emotions] lessens depression and fatigue! There are multiple such articles cited on the internet indicating that simply choosing to alter body posture to a more upright position is a quick shortcut to improve mood and energy levels. 

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Rearrange the Furniture to Rearrange Your Life

There is great value in moving things around.

I started early. My family moved next to the Seymours when I was three and Mrs. Seymour welcomed me onto her enclosed front porch to play with one or more of her four children. But what I found most fun was not the toys but rearranging the furniture and everything else there. I did this almost every day for several years. God rest her most tolerant soul.

What was I doing?

Rearranging the furniture is about seeing other options or possibilities, trying out new solutions, new relationships between you and the environment. It is not necessarily about making anything prettier, more functional, although it may do that. Beyond the benefits of feng shui or getting rid of clutter, simply moving the furniture and decorations makes you relate differently to the things in your space. And this possibly may support your desire to be different, to change, grow or relate differently to the larger world.

It calls upon and develops your spatial perception, which is the ability to be aware of your relationships with the environment around you and with yourself,  “to situate yourself, move around, orient yourself, make multiple decisions, analyze situations and representations of our surroundings and the relationship our body has with it.” CogniFit)

Changing things around helps to make (or when desiring to make) other changes.

For example, when working with smokers to break their habit, I advise that they change all their routines associated with the unwanted behavior because those routines act as a trigger. So, I suggest that they sit in a different chair than the one in which they used to smoke, eat and take their work breaks away from their smoking haunts, drive a different way to and from work, etc.

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  Author, Joe DispenzaBreaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One says

“You associate your outer, familiar world with who you think you are, by remembering yourself in this dimension, this particular time and space.” Your routines and all your sensory reminders, which include your environment, keep you plugged into your old self that is tied to the conditions that you want to change. He says “we remain plugged into this past self by following a highly routine, unconscious set of automatic behaviors. For example, you probably wake up on the same side of the bed, slip into your robe the same way as always, look into the mirror to remember who you are, and shower following an automatic routine. Then you groom yourself to look like everyone expects you to look, and brush your teeth in your usual memorized fashion. You drink coffee out of your favorite mug,” etc.

However, what he doesn’t mention is that should you change where the bed is located, you automatically have to get up differently. Move your favorite chair, and you are now viewing the room from a different perspective. You are changing the flow of energy not just in your space, but in your life.

Change something to change something else.

When ending a relationship, I found getting a hair cut was an appropriate symbolic act to let go of the old. Getting new clothes, a new look was part of the new me, the me separate from being identified as part of a couple, that was going to venture out again. Likewise, moving, going someplace new, traveling to a different culture where people have their own ways of relating to life, helps you to reevaluate your own values, priorities, lifestyle, etc. It is helpful as a separation from the old way of life and what you hope to be the new one. Then there is an old Jewish folk saying:  “Change your location, change your luck.”

But for right now, for those unable or unwilling to move or travel in order to get a fresh perspective, a new take on their life, the immediate, easy solution is just to rearrange the furniture.

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Mistakes, Regrets & Moving On

I was listening to Oprah Winfrey saying that “there are no mistakes because you have a supreme destiny.. There is a supreme moment of destiny, of calling on your life. Your job is to feel that, to hear that, to know that ….Sometimes when you are not listening you get off track…but it’s all leading to the same path. There are no wrong paths.…you learn as much from your losses as you do from your victories.”
 

When you are overwhelmed with a challenge,

 
“get still and ask what is the next right move, and from that space, ask what is the next right move, and the next right move…You are not defined by what someone says is a failure for you. Failure is just there to point you in a different direction.”iu-2
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Personally, I have regrets made from being over confident or under confident.

I have made lots of mistakes, some really, really stupid, unwise, disastrous, painful, expensive mistakes. Sometimes overconfident of my abilities, I have thrust myself full into relationships, careers, relocations, obligations, purchases, financial matters without really understanding what it would mean–the ramifications of it and whether I was capable not just at that moment to handle it, but whether it would be sustainable and desirable long term.

 
 
On the other hand, sometimes reeling from the pain of previous mistakes or regrets, I might have been under confident, and did not take the leap of faith to track down and seize a new opportunity, relationship or experience. Sometimes I didn’t think I was good enough, worthy, capable, and so held back. Or that the carrot dangling in front of me was just a tease and would be snatched away at the last moment causing me more pain at rejection or failure. Sometimes I just needed time to lick my wounds before risking again.
 
BUT I have learned from all of my mistakes, although, unfortunately, not right away. Some  I made over and over again until it became obvious that I needed to do something different, that it wasn’t a matter of trying harder or tweeking my approach.
 
 

The value of your mistakes

 

Mistakes, failures all teach you a lot. All of the wisdom I gained from my own has gone into helping others. They have caused me to be more empathetic to others, to understand what they are going through, and how they can move out of it. I can now provide the candle of hope for them that there is  life on the other side of even major mistakes precisely because I have been there, done that. And so can you.

 
 
As a small child, I sat at the feet of my amazing and wise grandmothers and listened to their stories. By age 4, I decided that above all I wanted to achieve wisdom in my life. However, wisdom comes from experience, and that includes mistakes and failure, and sometimes regrets.
 

 

Learning and moving on

 
My new mantra is “I turn everything into a blessing”. Or sometimes, I just say “how can I turn this into  a blessing?” I look for something I can learn regardless of how I feel or felt about what happened. This means that I get far less stressed or aggravated about new unpleasantries than before. I bounce back faster. As my outside ages, I get better on the inside. And so can you.
 
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How to Avoid Burnout

As an Entrepreneur, I am aware of the stress caused by wearing all the hats in a business. The extensive range of information and skills needed for each, the time required, and the stress of the learning curve are DAUNTING! As a result, work hours can interfere with what should be time for rest and renewal leading to burnout and illness.

But it is not hard work or long hours per se that cause burnout. If you are passionate about what you do, that passion feeds your spirit and energizes you even when working long hours. Burnout is caused when more energy is being withdrawn from your energy reserves by multiple stressors than is coming in through rest and renewal. Those stressors include anything that consume energy—bad food, bad habits, too little sleep, toxicity, not just the frustrations, overwhelm, and other mental and emotional issues. 

Burnout is simply going into the red with a bounced energy account. And as with a checking account, it only takes one cent to do that. Furthermore, once you overdraw, it is not a simple matter of just putting the penny back. There are fines to pay. So it takes more money to undo the overdraft. And it takes more energy to undo the damage of an energy overdraft.

While it is important to have multiple ways of reducing stress so that you are not leaking energy, stress management is not the whole answer. Putting  together a well-rounded life that feeds your spirit and enhances

  • overall health, 
  • provides happiness,
  • connection with others,
  • fulfillment, meaning and purpose,

will give you the internal resources and increased life force to deal with the ups and downs in life as they come. And from that place examine and challenge your beliefs, thoughts, judgments, assumptions that underlie so much stress, and commit to a regular stress management practice. All together, this will give you the energy reserves to not just cope but to thrive.

What is stress?

Stress is a demand upon your system for energy. A stressor is whatever is requiring energy from you to process or deal with mentally, emotionally, physically, or even spiritually. This includes preparing for even happy events (holidays, vacations, weddings), doing your usual routine as well as having to cope with extra, unexpected additional expenses, problems, malfunction, delays, toxicity, poisons in food, water, air, cleaning or personal care products, allergens, EMF (electro magnetic frequency), geopathic zones, noise, and overstimulation.

Interestingly, we need a certain amount of stress to challenge us to learn, grow, and to explore new dimensions of both ourselves and our world. Insufficient stress creates stagnation, boredom, depression, and mental/ emotional/ spiritual rot–yes, rot! Growth requires a stimulus, a reason to get off the couch.  It is all about finding the proper balance. See my previous blog entitled “Stress Can Be Good for You?”.

Understanding the Stress Equation

As with the previous analogy of a bank account, there have to be energy reserves to cover all of the demands placed upon you.

  • Demands upon your energy have to be adequately met by both your reserves and new energy being regenerated.
  • What comes in has to cover what goes out or a bounced check situation arises causing breakdown in physical or mental health.

The 3 Stages of Stress

  1. Alarm Reaction – In this initial stage, you experience symptoms such as sweaty palms, tension or tightness in muscles, holding your breath, rapid pulse, indigestion, insomnia. 
  2. Stage of Resistance – Whereas in this stage, the stress symptoms go away, and you appear to be doing fine. You seem to have adapted, and have a ‘handle’ on it. There is a danger during this adaptive phase because you may become cocky and stop doing those things you need to do to take good care of yourself and to resolve your issues on a regular basis. Consequently, as things build up, you tap too heavily into your energy reserves.
  3. Stage of Exhaustion – this stage is where you actually break down. It can be caused by something minor–just one more thing too many (the ‘straw that broke the camel’s back’). All the stress symptoms come back but are not easily dismissed, and illness or even death results.

What to do about it?

The basic strategy as outlined below is as follows:

  1. find ways to get energy into your system 
  2. stop energy leaking out
  3. establish regular routines to do the above.

How to get energy into your system 

You get energy into your system by:

  1. improving your overall physical health
  2. improving your overall happiness and connectedness
  3. creating or focusing upon the meaning and purpose in your life
  4. connecting to your spiritual and internal resources

First, Improve your overall physical health

  • Sleep
  • Relaxation
  • Nourishing, balanced nutrition
  • Healthy Gut allows you to digest and assimilate what you eat
    • ingest: probiotics, yogurt, kefir, naturally fermented foods such as naturally (not commercial) sauerkraut and kimchee, kombucha, and fermentable fibers (yam, sweet potatoes, yucca, and whole oranges (with fiber), Jerusalem artichokes, lentils) butter, garlic, dark chocolate with 70% cacao or more
    • eliminate as much as possible: sugar and processed foods; grains unless non-GMO, pesticide free and specially prepared; wheat and industrial seed oils that cause leaky gut; pesticide ingestion from any food or drink; antibiotics and other medications such as birth control, steroids, antacids and NSAIDS (see http://www.nsaidslist.com) such as aspirin that are taken as anti-inflammatory/pain relief medications; and parasites
  • Deep breathing, singing
  • Exercise including dancing, yoga, and anything to balance energy flow, and any movement or physical labor
  • Bodywork
  • Energy medicine -there are many modalities, but here are a few more: Reiki, Source Energy Medicine, Donna Eden’s Daily Energy Routine (see Resources at the end)

What can you do today to take of your physical health?

Second, Improve your overall happiness and connectedness

  • Laughter
  • Love, hugs and emotional support
  • Community/network
  • Prayer
  • Anything inspirational
  • Anything that feeds your spirit or makes you happy
  • Having fun
  • Nature
  • Healing music – sacred, calming, hemisync, happy

What can you do today to connect and enjoy life?

Third, Create or focus upon the meaning and purpose in your life.

  • Do you have a reason to bound out of bed in the morning with excitement to get started? 
    • This could be your job, a volunteer activity, or a hobby.
  • Can you see how something you are doing now is or could be doing now could help someone else?
  • How can you be of service?  
    • This could be any act of kindness or compassion to a person or animal, a phone call to someone you care about, just affirming your love and belief in another, or perhaps just listening or being there.

What can you do today help someone? How can your work serve?

Fourth, Connecting to your spiritual and internal resources

  • Prayer, meditation.
  • The Infinite Intelligence Process – tapping into the part of you that knows more than you do consciously. 
    • “There is a part of me that knows ___ and is assisting me now to ___ with grace and ease.”

When is a good time for you to check inside with your inner guidance?

How to stop energy leaking out

  • Detoxification
  • Resolving emotional issues – current and past
  • Restoring gut flora
  • Daily stress management–EFT, self hypnosis, Infinite Intelligence Process, etc.
  • Meditation
  • Journaling
  • Goal setting
  • Setting and and focusing on priorities
  • Shifting beliefs,
    • play devil’s advocate – look for the positive evidence, the positive ‘whys or why nots’
    • “What if __ could work?”
    • “What if I could ___?”
    • “What if ___ (the negative authority figure/person) was wrong?”
    • “What is the worst that could happen?”
  • Turn a challenge/problem into an opportunity or object of curiosity
    • “Where is the opportunity in this?”
    • “How can I turn this into a blessing?”
    • “What positive thing/s can I learn from this to be ___ (better/healthier/stronger/more successful)?”
  • Focus on helpful thoughts to shift your attitude
  • Gratitude
  • Notice what is with detachment – Adopt an attitude of curiosity
    • “That’s interesting.”
  • Notice what is , without taking it personally
    • It’s probably not about you.
  • Notice what is without jumping to judgment or unproven, upsetting interpretations of events
    • “How can I look at this in a way that doesn’t bother me nearly as much?”
  • Pick your battles
  • Focus your energy where it is going to do some good
  • Know your limits and make peace with that
    • “I do what I can. I let go of the rest.”
  • Get help
  • Look for resources
    • “Who do I know that could deal with this better/differently and how would they approach/handle it?”
    • “Who do I know that can help me with this?”
    • “What help/resources do I need to resolve this and how to I get them?”
  • Balance – between work, rest and recreation, between being inside and being outside, being with people and being alone, between having silence or quiet time and sensory stimulation

What is something you can do to stop leaking energy physically? What can you do to stop leaking energy mentally and emotionally? What can help you today?

Basic Guideline:

Upsetting emotions leak energy. Happy or peaceful emotions add. 

While some emotions can come from physical conditions, most emotions come from thoughts such as how we interpret what is going on. What are we thinking in our own mind about the people or events in our lives? Are we saying that they are wrong, bad, awful?  Interpretations can be wrong. They can be based on incomplete or faulty evidence. Thoughts and the fixed beliefs that form around them can be challenged and changed.

Learn from the Past

If you have experienced burnout before, take precautionary measures now to avoid it happening again by addressing your areas of vulnerability. 

What are the things you have done that have caused you to burn out in the past?

What are the things you have not done that have caused you to burn out?

If you think about the things you must have or do to avoid burnout, and if you know the things that do or have made a positive difference in your energy level and functioning in the past, then make a commitment to do them now on a regular basis. 

What are those key things for you?

But don’t try to go from doing nothing, to trying to make massive changes all at once. But do do something. Take a step, and keep it going. Then do something else that makes sense. This is a process of creating a new lifestyle, a new way of living on a daily basis, not something that you do once in a while and forget about it.

Establish Routines for a Healthy Lifestyle

Start slow, but start somewhere

  • Set up a morning routine or ritual that starts the day off focusing on the most important use of your time and energy—the priorities of the day. 

What might be a helpful, doable, morning routine?

  • Create an after work routine that brings balance, fun, meaning and fulfillment
    • connect with people you care about (dinner with friends or family, reading a bedtime story to your kids) 
    • do something for fun or a change of pace

What might be a helpful, doable, afternoon or early evening routine?

  • Create a routine or ritual before sleep
    • do something to help you to relax (hot shower, a slow bath, listening to soothing music)
    • do something to gain perspective from any stress of the day or anything upsetting on the news (meditating, journaling, reflection)
    • acknowledge your achievements
    • take a moment to focus on gratitude and the blessings of your life. 

What might be a helpful, doable, evening routine before bed?

What helps me is a system I call the Infinite Intelligence Process. You can read about it here. on my blog: Accessing More—Tapping Into the Wisdom and Resources Within.

Additional Resources

For my story, see “Self Hypnosis Saved My Life” and  “Lessons Learned from Almost Dying”

See the many blog entries at unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com

Experience/learn these powerful healing modalities:

  • Reiki (Unlimited Potential will resume Reiki Clinic once a month in Faber, just 20 minutes south of Charlottesville. 1st visit is free, donation after that unless you are sharing your healing work (Reiki/ other energy healing or feet or hand massage skills). RSVP required. Fall dates are Tuesdays from 2-4 PM: October 18, November 15, and December 13.)
  • Source Energy Medicine – Stephen Joseph Pollitt (come to Central Virginia Dowser’s Meeting at Northside Library, Charlottesville, Saturday, October 8 at 2 PM. RSVP required.) See article here.
  • Donna Eden’s Daily Energy Routine (come to Central Virginia Dowser’s Meeting at Northside Library, Charlottesville, Saturday, November 19 at 2 PM, RSVP required.) 
  • Emotional Freedom Technique —class at Piedmont Valley Community College, Thursdays, October 13, 20 and 27 from 6-8 PM. 
  • Self-Hypnosis Class at PVCC, Saturday, September 24 and October 1 from 9-12.

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Source Energy Medicine

10422248_328327904010993_3462995313165762810_n I just returned from New York after studying with Stephen Joseph Pollitt, originator of Source Energy Medicine, for 2 + days. It intrigues me to consider that you might be able to imprint water with a strong, clear intention, and turn it into ‘medicine’ for the healing of specific health issues as well as for general physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well being. To check out Stephen’s work, see here.

While I have read his book and took a weekend training, that may not be enough to accurately explain his work. So please keep this in mind while reading this article, and visit his own site for direct information.

Pollitt refers to the work of Masaru Emoto, who demonstrated that the crystalline structure of water can be powerfully effected through both spoken and written words, music, videos, photos and prayer. masaru_emoto (pix taken from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masaru_Emoto)

iu Emoto took a word such as love, peace, joy, or hate, anger and placed it on a bottle of water, then froze it, and looked at the structure under a microscope. Positive words created beautiful snowflake-like hexagonal shapes, whereas negative words created blobs. Emoto’s book, The Hidden Messages in Water, is fascinating, widely available on Amazon, and he also was featured in the movie, What the Bleep Do We Know

For a video showing the process Emoto used in collecting water samples, preparing and later examining them, plus many photos of the beautiful shapes seen in the water crystals, see What is the Photograph of Frozen Water Crystals. Also see the documentary on Emoto’s work. Here is a short video of more examples of the water samples exposed to various words. 

12744014_551158805061234_8314712491893192159_n As our bodies are mostly water, Stephen Pollitt’s premise as written in his book, Heal Thyself, is that it is possible to positively affect health and well-being by drinking water that is imprinted with strong positive intention for that end. However, unlike Emoto, who was writing a single word or phrase on a water bottle, Pollitt writes out very detailed description of what he wants to occur, and  assigns such intention with an 8-digit number sequence derived through dowsing. The number assigned becomes the “word” for the formula. He then creates a label with this number, adds the infinity symbol, plus a symbol for Om that he believes calibrates with very high frequency, and finally pastes this label onto a water bottle. As with Masaru Emoto, the water “reads” the label, which imprints the intent upon the water. Pollitt then recommends that you drink the water over a period of time until you see the desired results. Results vary from immediate, to days, to weeks or months up to a year. In general, the results are designed to be gradual and gentle without adverse ‘healing crises’. However, the remedies can be speeded up for an emergency situation.

Pollitt believes that everything has frequency. In this, he is in agreement with other dowsers and those who practice radionics, those who believe that you can determine the frequency of both health and disease, and make adjustment in those frequencies to get the results you want. For example, a person practicing radionics would determine the frequency of a pathogen, parasite, agricultural pest, or the frequency of ideal life force of the person, animal or plant, and then broadcast that frequency.

Like those practicing biodynamic gardening or holistic health, Pollitt believes that if you raise the overall frequency or vibration of the targeted organism (animal or human), that that organism will be able to fend off disease. However, Pollitt seems to distinguish between a person’s overall frequency calibration and his frequency in various areas of functioning. For example, he described one highly spiritually evolved Yogi who nonetheless had multiple health challenges because his frequency in those areas where he was experiencing dis-ease was low. Pollitt believes that if you raise the frequency high enough in all areas of your life, you will become incompatible to dis-ease.

In calibrating frequency, Pollitt has accepted the logarithmic scale of Dr. David Hawkins, author of Power vs. Force.  However, Hawkins is himself a controversial figure as you will see in this article  and this oneHawkins is an American psychiatrist, author and spiritual teacher. Hawkins uses arm muscle testing technique, borrowed from Applied Kinesiology (a form of body dowsing) “to absolutely and objectively test the truth of any statement, calibrating it on an arbitrary logarithmic scale of 0 to 1000 (and sometimes higher), with different states of consciousness — shame (20), apathy (50), fear (100), anger (150), courage (200), reason (400), love (500), peace (600), enlightenment (700-1000) — located on different points on this scale, forming a linear and fixed one-dimensional “map of consciousness”. This model of consciousness has metaphorical parallels to science’s map of the electromagnetic spectrum, and it is not dissimilar to Ron Hubbard’s Scientology emotional tone scale and The Sedona Method’s hierarchy of emotions formulated by Lester Levenson, whom Hawkins worked with quite closely for a while (although he now classifies Levenson as a “fallen teacher” – link.)”

So while I as a Dowser believe that dowsing is very helpful as a diagnostic tool, and a tool for profound mental and emotional healing, it cannot be used as an infallible method to determine absolute truth.  And this is the argument against Dr. David Hawkins and others placing too much authority on the dowsing response. Responses vary with energy level, mood, allergens, atmosphere, and many other variables. Hence, determining supplements, medications, treatments, remedies through dowsing alone should fall into the category of “can’t hurt”. One benefit to Source Energy Medicine is that there are no negative side effects. As Pollitt himself says, the worst that can happen is nothing. Furthermore, each remedy in Source Energy Medicine has a description so you can use that to determine what you would like to take. But there is also a recommended protocol. Dowsing is not necessary.

A major contribution of Pollitt’s work is his emphasis upon decreasing subconscious mind resistance to healing, and on increasing allowance for healing to occur. As a hypnotherapist focusing on unconscious healing modalities, I feel that this is critical. While clients consciously want to obtain positive results, many times they are sabotaging themselves through secondary gain, as well as non-beneficial beliefs or judgements. Such negative beliefs include “nothing can help me, nothing works, I just have to live with it (pain/disease), all the people in my family get ___,” etc. There are many ways to shift beliefs, both consciously and on a subconscious level. Pollitt claims that Source Energy Medicine assists in transmuting unconscious resistance and increasing allowance of healing.

Pollitt comes across as a highly principled man dedicated to help his fellow man to heal in a simple, inexpensive, graceful way. He feels healing should be accessible by everyone throughout the world regardless of their finances. So while I do not agree with some of his strong spiritual bias (Course in Miracles, Conversations with God, Ester Hicks’ Abraham, many New Thought teachings, David Hawkins), I respect and trust him as a man of good will. 

Source Energy Medicine has testimonials of positive healing benefits. And because it is free to both download the book, labels and instructions in using them, I consider it easy and safe to test it out for yourself. Just preparing and drinking the formulated water will activate your Placebo Response (see also here), which is helpful in it’s own right. But drinking it is also opening your acceptance of the positive intention or ‘prayer’ behind it. Consequently, I have made a commitment to myself to do it for up to a year to see if it has any benefit for me. If nothing else, it is a good excuse to drink more water.

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How Self Hypnosis Saved My Life!

And more than once too!!!

I was having a bad day in November, but then it was really just one more of many such days in a bad year in general.

I had gone into a lawyer’s office to give testimony as to how my mother had slipped in their building, tumbling head over her walker and down their dark stairway as she was led into their office by the receptionist. Recounting that day’s events and the consequences of her broken bones, called up painful memories of my mother screaming in pain for weeks. As a result of her accident, I was pushed into being her round-the-clock caregiver because instead of transitioning from the hospital to rehab, she signed herself out telling the doctors that “my daughter will take care of me.”

It was an ordeal that left me only a few hours sleep per night for the duration of six full weeks. I was doing the work of 6 nurses–3 each on 8 hour shifts Monday through Friday, and another three on the weekend. I had no help, and she was ineligible because she had signed herself out. As a result, my business was on hold, and my own life force was completely drained. Even after she was able to get around on her walker or wheelchair again, there was no joy, no social life, no business life, no privacy or moments for myself. Unconsciously, I suspect that I didn’t want to live anymore.

To add injury to the testimony, one of the lawyer’s accused me of lying. That’s what really brought up the memories in full color and intensity. He had no idea of what my mother went through and what I also sacrificed to take care of her.

So I came home and made what I thought would be a healthy lunch of a shrimp omelet.

It was just after Thanksgiving, 2001. My mother had wanted to serve shrimp for my son (Mark) who was visiting us in New Jersey from California. We ate it then, and again the day after. Mark had wanted me to go with him to visit the ruins of the World Trade Center, which we did over the weekend. There we saw all the letters, memorials placed around the fencing, and workers still digging through the rubble. Then I put my son on the plane to go back to the West Coast–always an emotional event for a mother to say goodbye to her offspring.

I had been at the Hudson River just 5 miles away on that fateful day of 9/11. And while I didn’t see the buildings fall, I did walk through all the dust, which also covered my car. I had gone to the Medical Center to await victims in order to offer my hypnosis services to burn patients. (If you get to a burn patient quickly, hypnosis can mitigate the severity of those burns.) However, only six patients arrived because the others were dead, and I was sent home.

One of my clients, Luke, had died at Windows of the World Restaurant after just returning from vacation the day before. He was there to set up a business meeting. Luke got a call out to his lover before he died. The last time I had seen him was at a funeral of a close mutual friend, Rodney, who was also on the Board of Directors for my business. So Luke’s death brought up thoughts of Rodney’s death, which brought up thoughts of my Dad’s death, which is why I was living with my mother to begin with–to assist her in her grieving process.

Another friend, Nelson, also worked at the World Trade Center. On the previous Friday, Nelson was told to take his department of 40 people out to lunch and to tell them that their department was being liquidated by their new Japanese owners. On Friday, they were despondent about losing their jobs. However, a few days later, all those not let go, were dead because they were on the very floor where the plane flew in. Losing their job turned into a blessing for them and their families.

Anyway, still upset after seeing the lawyer, I made my omelet. Within 30 minutes I went into anaphylactic shock. My throat was swollen up, I was beet red, it was difficult to breathe, and I knew I was in big trouble. I paused before calling for help –did I want to live or not? After all, life held no satisfaction anymore. I had given up my office and business in preparation for a move to be near my son on the west coast, only to be side railed by my mother’s health issues and having to give up those plans to become her full-time caregiver instead. It would have been so easy to slip away, and no one would have thought that it was suicide, just an ‘unfortunate’ accident.

But I did finally choose to live, and in my by this time confused mental state, called a doctor, not 911. In my last moment’s of clarity, I walked out to the drive to await the ambulance. As I was already very weak, I laid down in the cop’s car. The police officer had arrived first. My vision was soon gone, but I overheard the cop tell the medics that I was in and out of consciousness. I don’t know if I had truly passed out or was just in trance. Luckily, I lived just 10 minutes away from a major medical center, and they sent a doctor, not just a medic, to my house. He gave me a shot that brought my vision back.

The emergency doc was (get this) Dr. Lamorte (translated from Italian as “the death”). The doc told me his patients thought his name was funny. In my condition, I didn’t think it was funny!

Doctor Lamorte wanted to admit me. But I told him that as I was a hypnotherapist, I just wanted him to leave me in the Emergency Room, and come back and check on me. A hour or two later he discharged me. He said “you did this yourself. My drugs wouldn’t have worked for 8 hours.” 

What was I doing to be discharged so soon? Well, I couldn’t do the Emotional Freedom Technique since my arms were hooked up to intravenous tubes. And I couldn’t do Reiki for the same reason. But what I did do from the moment I knew I was dying, was to drop down into deep hypnosis to stay calm, focus on my breathing, and then over and over again to imagine my throat and bronchial tubes relaxing and opening up. As a former classical singer, I knew how to relax my throat muscles, and so that was what I imagined for the entire time from the driveway at home until I was discharged from the hospital. And so even while I’m grateful for the injection, I may not have made it to the hospital without doing what I did.

But this wasn’t the first time that self-hypnosis saved my life. There was another time that I was caught in a rip-tide and pulled rapidly out to sea. I flipped over on my back once I knew no one could see me, hear me, and that I couldn’t out swim the current, and I was getting full of water from the waves. I just went into that calm place of alpha to float on my back while breathing before each wave that washed over me. Eventually, I must have floated out of the current because several men were dragging out of the surf to what was a much closer distance to shore.

Then there were other challenges that I won’t go into here that could have gone badly if I did not know how to quickly slip into that place we call open-eye hypnosis to stay completely calm, fully present, and deal most effectively with a potentially dangerous situation.

Consequently, I ADVISE EVERYONE TO LEARN HOW TO ACCESS THAT STATE quickly, dependably with SELF HYPNOSIS.

  • It may save your life as it did mine.
  • It may well reduce the severity of any problems you do face.
  • It will allow you to instantly reduce stress.
  • It will allow you to become calm and focused so that you can think clearly to an effective response and solution.

20170928_YUPcoverI teach it to all my clients in person, or over the phone (434)263-4337/ or (540)470-8218. And I have an entire self-hypnosis book written called Your Unlimited Potential.

Be sure to read the follow-up article:

“What I learned from almost dying!”

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Why Hypnotherapists (and others) Should Learn Pendulum Dowsing

 

My first introduction to a pendulum came with my initial hypnosis training with Dick Harte in 1989. He called it Chevreul’s Pendulum, and said that it was a way to elicit ideomotor response. Hypnotist, Gerry Kein used a pendulum (instead of the old watch on a chain method) as a method of inducing trance (“as you stare at the pendulum going round and round, your eyes are getting sleepier and sleepier”).

Dowsing is an ancient art that uses a light, open-eyed altered state, with focused attention and intent, to ask questions of the subconscious mind and what we call the superconscious. The underlying premise is that dowsers believe that all minds are connected within a sea of the consciousness which is accessible through clear intent. This allows us to tap into greater knowledge, wisdom and problem solving ability beyond our conscious functioning. Dowsing through intention can, like hypnotic suggestions, also issue commands to the subconscious mind for things to be done. For example, I use dowsing to resolve emotional issues. I use it to find the lesson or positive learning in any upset, release non-beneficial beliefs, relieve stress and heal emotional baggage.

Dowsers use various devices such as L rods, Y rods, or a pendulum as a form of ideomotor response for feedback. Because it can be done anywhere, any place, quickly without requiring depth of trance, and because it can be done by the person himself without requiring the assistance of an outside professional, dowsing is very practical for everyday use for the ordinary person. For professional hypnotherapists, mental health practitioners of all kinds, and healers, it is a profoundly important, additional tool to know and to use on yourself, to use on behalf of your clients, and to teach your clients to use for themselves.

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Not just for water, but for practical problems of all kinds!

While you may have heard of people dowsing for water or minerals or even for missing persons or unexploded bombs, did you know that you can also dowse to get help on solving practical problems on almost anything? It is a very powerful self-help tool.

I got really excited when I learned that I could use pendulum work on every part of my personal life and business and quickly wrote out pages of charts and checklists that would locate the root causes of issues–the what, when, why. I also wrote out charts and checklists on possible ways of clearing those issues. For example, I wrote out pages listing emotions, issues, defense mechanisms, blocks, limiting beliefs and decisions, addictive thinking, relationships, ages, therapies, techniques and healing modalities. When I noticed the immediate and powerful results on myself, and then when I noticed that it sped up results for my clients, I was hooked!

Dowsing for therapy on yourself and others

As the first rule of therapy is “physician, heal thyself”, dowsing is a powerful and efficient way to uncover and address your own issues and shadow. By cleaning up your own emotional baggage, you can avoid projecting onto your client, and instead approach him without bias.

The charts and checklists that you use for yourself can also be utilized to elicit what is going with your client even before they come in for their appointment. For example, I can go over a list of typical reasons why a person may smoke. I can then discover the dynamics in my client’s smoking, the degree or percentage to which those issues or dynamics are involved, and what techniques or scripts that I should use when he comes in for his appointment.

For example, dowsing may indicate that they started smoking at age fourteen as a way to be part of the ‘in’ group, or that they are smoking today as a way to irritate their spouse, or that smoking is the only perceived “safe” way for them to rebel against all of the other rules and restrictions under which they are currently living. That information can then guide me in preparing the most appropriate therapeutic interventions and suggestions to use. It also guide me in the interview process.

Pendulum work not only clarifies underlying dynamics beneath problems, it helps to heal them as well. For example, once you find the root cause of a problem, you can then give instructions to the subconscious mind via dowsing to find the positive learning from that problem. After the pendulum indicates that that is done, you then with dowsing ask the unconscious mind to clear all the reasons that maintain that problem. You can use dowsing to clear all the secondary gain, all of the blocks, and then all of the negative emotional charge associated with it. You can locate and clear the root cause and all of the subsequent events right up to the present moment. While hypnotherapists and NLP practitioners use Timeline and other techniques to do the same thing, dowsing is a another way to do it. The beauty of it is that an individual can do it for himself! You can also work on the client without the client even being present providing you have permission!

When I hypnotize a client, I can set up an ideomotor finger responses to elicit answers from a deeper unconscious level. But I can that also just use a pendulum and without depth of trance. I can use the pendulum to pace my hypnotic suggestions and any processing that I have asked them to do.  I can use the pendulum to determine if I should continue the same line of questioning or digging to make sure I am getting everything related to the issue being addressed in the session. And I can find out through dowsing what I need to address in the next session.

Dowsing can also be used on practical aspects of your business.

For example, you can ask “what is the most profitable location for my business? What is the best use of my time or advertising dollar? What is the best use of my energy and resources? How should I position myself? Who are my best clients? Where are my best clients? Of the opportunities I have, which are most likely to offer the best results?”

I used dowsing to write up a criteria for my ideal office and later for my ideal home. Then I dowsed over the list to zero in on what I must have, and must not have. As I looked at various places, I referred to my list and dowsed out what they offered. This was helpful because many times issues that will cause you problems or bring you good luck are not readily seen. Through dowsing, I found the most wonderful office that I used for many years, and the home I am living in now–two great choices.

Dowsing is a helpful tool.

While dowsing can be extremely helpful, it should never replace your own conscious decision making process and common sense. However, it can infinitely speed up the information gathering and problem solving process. It greatly augments your gut level instincts and inner knowing about things. It goes infinitely beyond the limitations of your own conscious awareness. And it can penetrate the veil of your own delusions and blind spots.

Want to learn more?

I have a entire pendulum course manual entitled Therapeutic Dowsing and Telepathic Healing available for sale on my website, www.roxannelouise.com. For those going to the upcoming National Guild of Hypnotists Convention next week in Marlborough, Massachusetts, I will have it at my vending booth along with my many other books.

 

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