Dealing With Challenge? Find the Blessing or the Opportunity

27 Jan 2016 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, self help Tags: anger, dealing with stress, emotional healing, stress management

“NECESSITY IS THE MOTHER OF INVENTION”

(English-language proverb)

Need is the primary driving force.

When I have a problem, I found that if I can turn my attitude from despair into curiosity, everything changes. Instead of feeling irritation, frustration, stuck or hopeless, the thought “I wonder if ___” immediately sets me on a path to discovery and creativity that can even be fun. Once the mental wheels are turning, the energy is flowing again, and I know that it is only a matter of time before I find some answers that lead to improvement, progress and, hopefully, solution. If I become stuck along the way, I might ask:

“I wonder who could help me with this?”

“I wonder how ___ would go about this?”

“I wonder if ___ could work, how would it work?”

The key for the attitude shift is to turn it from a problem into just a puzzle to be solved.

For some of us and for some problems, it is easier to adopt this attitude of curiosity that leads to creativity than for other challenges. So, for example, I get turned on with excitement when a client brings me an emotional problem because I know how to deal with it. While they may feel hopeless, I am not because I have ideas of how to resolve it, and I find that fun and immensely satisfying. However, if my car breaks down, I am better off going to a car mechanic who likes those kinds of challenges that I find very frustrating and for which I have neither the talent, skill or inclination to try to sort out myself.

Look for the opportunity

More than inventions come from solving problems–so do livelihoods, businesses, trade, books, speaking engagements, social programs and progress of all kinds. I am not implying that you can turn your problem into profit, but if you could …?

“When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”

Can you do something with the problem that is presented to you?

Can you turn it into something useful?

For example, I have a small homestead and have found a way to use or recycle almost everything. If I find broken eggs, I feed them to the animals. Old vegetables go to the pigs. Egg shells get ground up and fed back to the chickens. I compost the poop, dirty bedding, feed bags. Dirty egg cartons go into the wood stove. Moldy hay gets spread on bare dirt to make it less slippery in the rain or used as mulch. A friend uses broken china and pottery and makes incredible mosaics. The old folks took old clothes and made patchwork quilts or rag rugs. You get the idea. Ask

“How can I use this?” or “How can I make this work for me?”

Look for the Blessing

Sometimes this process can be started with a question such as “what can I learn from this to be better?” The moment I take note and apply it, I have extracted value from the experience. If I am not consciously aware of the blessing, I say

“there is a part of me that can use this experience to make me better or wiser in some way. And that part is doing so now in a way in which I am really pleased.”

Think of your challenges as education. They are helping you to build important life experience and expertise (knowledge and skill that comes from dealing with experiences). They are part of your path to wisdom. Accept it. Transmute and transform it into a blessing both for you and the world. A sense of humor helps.

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How You Talk (or think) About Your Problems Can Make Things Worse!

12 Dec 2015 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help, self help Tags: 12 Step programs, self esteem, self identity, support group issues, The Infinite Intelligence Process

As you already know, it is important to recognize a problem honestly before you can fix it. No matter how offensive to your self-esteem, it has to be admitted first. The key issues around it, the causative factors can then be examined and rectified. Identify what you are getting that you don’t want, and what you are not getting that you do want. Then come up with a strategy, action plan, and resources to deal with it.

However, in both thinking about the problem and hashing it out with others, you can sometimes make matters worse. Why?

The Law of Attraction

This postulates that whatever you think about increases. If you focus on problems and the obstacles to deal with them, they grow bigger in size. This tends to drain your energy, making you depressed and feeling powerless or insufficient to deal with it. This can lead to procrastination and less likely to deal with it effectively, if at all.

But this principle also gives us the cure

Focus instead on solution or at least on a step in that direction. If you don’t know, ask

“How can I ___?”

“If it could work, how would it work?”

Dwell on your desired end result with a belief or a decision that one way or another you are going to solve it.

If you don’t know what the solution is or what you want instead, remind yourself of your resources which includes the incredible wisdom within and problem solving ability that lies within each of us. I wrote a whole book on this called Accessing More–Tapping Into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process.

fullsizeoutput_2c For example, “There is a part of me knows how I can address this ___ (situation/problem), and that part is doing so now in a way in which I am really pleased.”

Do NOT identify with the problem

Whatever you say after the words “I am ___,” reinforces your identify with the problem. It is a message to your unconscious mind to continue to have it.

Here I take issue with Alcoholics Anonymous and similar groups that starts off with a speaker giving his name and then saying “I’m an alcoholic.” It would be much better to say “I am clean and sober”(or “becoming”, “learning to be”, “committed to being”, “committed to staying clean and sober”) .

While it is vital to cut through the denial by admitting that you have a problem, it is also vital to detach your ego from it. Identify with your spiritual core, your positive strengths and essential worthiness. This is important because

You tend to act congruent with your identify.

Mantras and affirmations can help. My favorite one is

“I’m a powerful, spiritual being endowed with dignity, direction and purpose. I have something of value to offer.”

Do NOT associate or identify with other people who still have the same problem or are worse than you.

Another principle is the Law of Association. This states that you tend to become like the people with whom you associate. This happens on an unconscious level. You tend to perceive yourself similarly as them, and talk in ways that reinforce that image. Again, you will tend to act congruent with your identity.

In the therapy field, this then becomes tricky because you want people who understand what you are dealing with, and you want the advice/guidance/encouragement of those that have worked through those problems.

But the key here is how much of your time is with people still stuck as opposed to being with positive role models — people that you admire and respect that either never had that problem or no longer have it.

If you are in a support group, identify with people that have overcome the problem or at least way further ahead than you are.

Also identify with those who do not need a support group because they do not have and never did have the problem and are living in a way that you admire and want for yourself. Always maintain a foothold in the world free of that issue. You are unconsciously affected by your associates.

After college, my first job was as a Caseworker with the City of New York. I felt that caseworkers should live among their clients so as to better understand/relate to them. So I moved to the edge of ‘my beat’–the slum in which my clients lived. However, after only a few months, I noticed that I had stopped seeing the ugliness around me. I was beginning to accept and expect to see the distortions from healthy living/thinking/being that were all around me. Because I saw that I was becoming negatively impacted, I had to move back to the suburbs where there was the beauty of nature and wholesome friends. It was from this place of balance that I could best help others.

Your unconscious mind will tap into whatever your close associates know: how they think, feel and act that makes them that way. This will help or hurt you depending upon who they are, their values, habits, etc. Identifying with others on your same or worse level of struggle will reinforce more of your same issues and a sense of being stuck as a victim, as someone never quite making it.

This is tricky if your primary friends and associates are all in a 12-Step program or support group. Truly healing and growing out of the need for such support then threatens you with loss of social network. While staying inside the group has the advantage of keeping you vigilant of traps, and it offers an valuable opportunity to help others, it can also keep some of the struggle alive by continuously focusing on struggle. In my opinion, there comes a time when people should move on.

Do NOT state the problem in the present tense

Problems have to be stated in past tense, not present, or they reinforce the problem. Then the desired positive opposite must be verbalized in present tense.

For example, “I’ve had or been having a problem with____. And what I want now is ___ .”(the positive thing).

For example, a client may tell me that he is tense. If I ask him what he wants instead, he usually will reply that he wants to be not tense. Unfortunately, that still calls up an mental image of being tense and struggling against it. I then have to clarify that what he really wants is to be calm and relaxed and ask him to imagine that instead.

The mighty ‘yet’

When I have a client tell me “I can’t ___”, I reply with the word ‘yet.’ This implies that while they haven’t been able to do ___, it is only a matter of time before they figure it out. This is a very important point to remember. Think of all the things that you couldn’t do once upon a time –walk, talk, read, write, drive a bike and later a car, operate a computer — the list is endless. Some things you learned were easier than others. Some were hard, but you learned, perhaps even mastering the problem, nonetheless. All it takes is a decision–making it a priority to do it.

LEARN MORE!

If you want to know how the unconscious mind works and the many “laws of mind”, or you want to learn how to say things in a way that can only be helpful and only helpful both for yourself and others, read Your Unlimited Potential, a complete self-hypnosis book and introduction to professional hypnotherapy. This is critically important information for everyone. Learn to use your mind and the power of suggestion to make life go smoother!

Copyright 2015, but updated 6/2018 by Roxanne Louise. This article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com are included with the content.

Imagery and Healing

08 Dec 2015 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Law of Attraction, mind-body healing, physical healing, Reiki, visualization Tags: healing, self help, visualizations

Visualizations are powerful ways to communicate internally with the inner mind. They act as instructions or blueprint for the subconscious mind (that part responsible for our habits, emotions, memories, and all of our body functions) to follow. Images of health or the healing process can assist the body to heal. They communicate “do whatever you need to do to make this happen.”

However, imagining the problem especially with all the upset related to that problem, acts in reverse to what is desired. Also, because we are telepathically connected to others, especially to our friends and family, even our unspoken thoughts and feelings about them can negatively effect them as well.

How can you visualize to only get the desired result?

Create mental pictures showing how to rectify the perceived malfunction or problem.

The images can be symbolic. For example, if there is a broken bone, you might imagine knitting the broken parts together. If there is blockage somewhere, imagine a clean up crew going in and scrubbing the walls of any debris and hosing it safely away, or perhaps imagine a road crew removing the obstruction. If a stroke has occurred, imagine linemen running new electrical lines to get the service through, or policemen redirecting traffic around the flooded area.

Imagery can be broken down to two types: process and end-result.

Any time you think of your illness or condition immediately imagine yourself as either in process of healing or as already healed at some time in the future.

Visual images and emotion are the language of the inner mind. Your inner or subconscious mind controls all of your body functions including your immune response and healing abilities, your habits, memory, creativity, automatic pilot, psychic abilities, and emotions. Imaging is very important in healing. The emotions amplify and drive the image deep into the unconscious mind.

Gerald Epstein, M.D. points out in his book Healing Visualizations, Creating Health Through Imagery, that visualizations have been used for healing in Tibet, India, Africa, Eskimos, American Indians, and ancient Egypt. It was “an essential technique and sometimes the essential medical treatment for physical ailments, until approximately 1650, when natural science and modern medical thinking began to assume dominance.”

Visualizations for healing purposes should be done frequently (minimally three times daily) until results are obtained. Epstein recommends once before breakfast, once after work, and once before bed. He further recommends doing it for 21 days, resting for seven days, then repeating cycles.

What about doubt?

Healing imagery must be free of doubt. Hypnotists have a saying “doubt cancels out.” If you don’t really know if you can heal or solve that problem, ask yourself:

What it would look like if I could heal or solve that problem?

And if I did, how would I feel about it?

Adopt an attitude of wonder. I like the question I adopted from urban redeveloper, James Rouse:

If it could work, how would it work?

Process Imaging

This creates a picture in the mind of the next phase of the healing process. This is particularly appropriate if you are suffering from a gradual, debilitating illness, or an accident that will go through various healing stages.

For example, a person with a broken leg, ankle sprain, or knee or hip replacement, may visualize being able to stand and place his weight on both feet. After that is accomplished, the patient may visualize being able to walk a few steps with a walker, then a cane, being able to walk unaided, and finally running, dancing, playing tennis–any activity the patient enjoyed before the problem.

A person with slow, debilitating condition may imagine the illness reversing itself. What was the last thing he could do? Have him imagine that. Later imagine the step before that one, etc. This may well be more believable than going for the end result imagery.

End Result Imaging

Image yourself (or the patient) being totally healed and doing those things with comfort and joy that was once enjoyed. To do end result imaging, the patient must believe that it is possible. If not, do the next step in healing that you or the patient can imagine comfortably.

Best Time for Healing Visualizations and Prayer

The best time to do this for your own healing is as the last thought before sleep. This thought will dominate the mind until morning. Repeat upon arising because it will set the tone for the entire day.

According to Larry Dossey in his book Healing Words, the best window of opportunity to effect physical change through imagery and prayer is before medical viewing or tests such as X-rays, cat-scans, etc.

Physicists have found that the investigator cannot be removed from the experiment, and that sub-atomic particles (the real origin of disease) can show up either as a particle (mass) or a wave (energy) before viewing. They tend to show up according to the beliefs/ expectations of the investigator.

Before the test, there is malleability.

After the test, the looking, observing and interpreting fixes the event.

20170928 R3cover.jpg This information was taken from Reiki–Path to Transformation, Volume 3, Mind-Body Healing by Roxanne Louise. See http://www.roxannelouise.com for further information.

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CBS News Investigative Journalist Explains How Mainstream Media Brainwashes The Masses

04 Dec 2015 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, Reiki, Dowsing and Self-Help

PERCEPTION IS EVERYTHING!

Your perception of the facts or truth about anything dictates your actions (or inaction). It determines not just the governmental policies you support and vote for and finance (or not), but it also has huge ramifications on you, your diet, health and life in general and that of your offspring. That perception is heavily influenced by the media, marketing, and so-called ‘experts’. If you are old enough, you might have noticed how the ‘facts’ seem to run more in 10 year cycles or fads even if touted by those very ‘experts’ we are told to trust.

Years ago we believed in ‘spare the rod, spoil the child’. Now we are told that spanking is child abuse. Regarding diet, we were told that margarine was better than butter, that high fat foods such as eggs were bad and that low fat diets were better, that diet sodas, sugar substitutes and diet foods were a healthy alternatives. Turns out this is untrue. Just look at all the conflicting ‘facts’ by weight loss doctors and you will be hopelessly confused.

On medical treatments, we are still being told that chemotherapy and radiation saves the lives of cancer victims even though there are now also studies that both treatments cause a reoccurrence of a more virulent cancer and shorten lifespan. Child vaccinations are still touted as safe and necessary despite growing evidence of dangers. Fluoride is still in the drinking water, toothpaste, and recommended in dental treatments despite being banned in other countries as a carcinogen.

How do you separate what is true from what is spin, propaganda, or marketing under the disguise of science or medicine?

FOLLOW THE MONEY

One way to uncover spin is to look at who is financially behind the research. Does the expert have something to gain from the touted opinion? Does the expert have an agenda separate from your own true wellbeing?

Another is to look to see if the ‘experts’ are willing to examine opposing evidence or not, or just quick to attack it.

WARNING SIGNS OF SPIN

As you will hear in this valuable 10 minute TED Talk are warning signs that the information you hear is brainwashing or “astroturf” (spin by special interests):

Use of inflammatory language such as ‘prank, quack, nutty, lies, pseudo, conspiracy’
Claim to debunk myths that aren’t myths at all
Attacking an issue instead of addressing the facts
Focusing on those exposing wrongdoing instead of examining the wrongdoers themselves
Question those who question authority instead of questioning the authority

Prayer and Healing

24 Nov 2015 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in energy work, health, Hypnosis, physical healing, prayer, psychic healing, Reiki

While this is an excerpt from my book, Reiki Path to Transformation, Volume 3, it applies to prayer in general, hypnosis, dowsing, energy healing, telepathic healing, etc.

Larry Dossey, M.D. in his best selling book Healing Words, The Power of Prayer and The Practice of Medicine, carefully documents the scientific studies that prove that prayer works. According to his research, prayer works regardless of the distance between the person praying and the one being prayed for, or any electromagnetic influences. “Nothing seemed capable of stopping or blocking prayer. Even when an ‘object’ was placed in a lead-lined room or in a cage that shielded it from all known forms of electromagnetic energy, the effect still got through.”

He classifies prayer that works falls into two categories, non-directed and directed prayer. Both work, but some work better for different personality types.

Non-Directed Prayer

This is prayer on behalf of someone without attachment to a specific outcome. One might simply pray “Thy will be done” while being confident that on some level they are always safe and loved regardless of what happens. Non-directed prayer takes the long view of eternity rather than dwelling on the immediate crises. Yet praying for healing with “Thy will be done” does bring healing to those in immediate crises. Dossey prays “May the best possible outcome prevail.” You might also say “into God’s hands and keeping I place this ___ (person/situation).”

Directed Prayer

This type of prayer very specifically asks for and visualizes specific outcomes. Directed Prayer is combined with clear visual images of what you want plus a positive, confident feeling that it is possible. For example, if a person has a broken leg, you might imagine him at some time in the future running, playing tennis, dancing again with a smile on his face. If you use suggestions like any of those below, be sure to also include mental pictures that indicate that there has been a successful outcome.

“Guide the physician’ s knife to completely remove all cancerous growth.” Follow with image of smiling patient living his life in the future and saying “feeling better than ever”
“Dissolve and remove all tumor.” Follow with image of popping balloon, and body now vibrantly alive and healthy
“Make new neural pathways to carry messages from the brain to the muscles.” Follow with image of smoothe, easy movements.
“Reattach the pieces of bone so that it is strong and better than ever.” Follow with image of that happening and person doing whatever fun activity would assume that full healing has taken place.

Prayerfulness

Dossey relates that “a simple attitude of prayerfulness–an all-pervading sense of holiness and a feeling of empathy, caring, and compassion for the entity in need” sets the stage for healing to occur. Countless other spiritual healers agree.

Centering, letting go of other thoughts or distractions and being totally focused are also important. Some healers prepare for healing work by first focusing on their connection with the Divine, on the interrelationship of all living things, and finally, on the perfected state of being they want for their client/ patient in an unconditional loving, compassionate way. Reiki practitioners like other spiritual healers understand that they are only the conduit for the healing energy, but that the source comes from the Source of All That Is.

It is recommended that in addition to the specific concern, that you pray for healing on all levels for that individual. Love those for whom you pray without attachment. In other words, you want what is in their best interest, not yours. You may not know what is best. And especially, pray without any fear. Call in spiritual assistance.

While healing work is done with slow preparation, prayer, in general, can be as fast as a thought and a flash of the healing image. Anytime you think of the sick or challenged person or situation simply imagine a positive outcome with the words, “the best possible outcome prevails.”

Why is it that saints frequently die of awful diseases?

Holiness, empathy and compassion are abundant in saints who are noted for healing others, and yet they themselves may later suffer from the very diseases they have helped alieviate. Dossey says:

“there is no invariable, linear, one-to-one relationship between one’s level of spiritual attainment and the degree of one’s physical health.”

Some people may knowingly or not take on the sufferings of others. Empaths may focus on the problem and identify with the suffering, feeling it in their own bodies.

At the end your day, disconnect from preoccupation with both your own problems and that of others. Imagine that on some level everyone is fine and in perfect health. Break all psychic links with the sick and troubles in the world. Go to sleep feeling gratitude, thinking of someone or some thing that makes you happy. These uplifting thoughts will stay with you through the night, assisting your sleep so that you have the energy to be of service tomorrow.

Aligning Prayer with Self-Hypnosis Principles

Prayer follows the same steps as does self-hypnosis: you must ask for the positive thing that you want in the present tense (not some future time), and believe that it is possible to receive that for which you are praying. Prayer is a focused call for help and an expectation of receiving that help. State your request as follows:

Word your request in the present tense, i.e., “My body is healing now” (don’t say ‘will’ heal because your inner mind does not act on future tense). Or use the good for all suggestion, “Everyday in every way I get better and better.”
Use only positive words of what you want to happen, not what you don’t want to happen. For example, instead of praying to be less tense or fearful, pray to be calm and relaxed.
Word your prayer only in a way that is believable. If you pray for something and at the same time doubt that it can happen, your doubt will cancel out your request. If you cannot believe in or imagine a cure, imagine the next step that you do believe can happen. For example, if a person is in a hospital bed with a broken leg in a cast, imagine him home on crutches, using a walker, or walking with a cane. Make a picture of the best outcome you can imagine. Later, go beyond that as your belief enlarges.
If you are doing directed prayer, be specific about that for which you are praying without being inflexible. Some people finish their prayer with “this or something better” or “according to my/his/their highest good.”
Engage your positive emotions and faith in your request being granted. Believe that it is possible.
Turn your request over to God (release it) with confidence that you are heard and that your request (quite small in comparison to creating the universe) is infinitely within the Creator’s power.

COMMON STEPS FOR PRAYER HEALING WORK

• Purification

Cleanse the body with fasting, prayer, sweat lodges, juicing, bathing. Cleanse the thoughts and emotions. Be silent. Wait with patience. Isolate the self in meditation or retreat, nature, vision quests, away from distractions or ordinary life. Take corrective action for any wrong action. Ask forgiveness of others. Make restitution.

• Holding a Willingness to Heal, Change or Release

Come into alignment with thoughts or actions that lead to health. Ask Spirit to remove any blocks known or unknown to your full healing now. Be willing to surrender your pet negative judgments, resentments, anger and fears. Be also willing to clean up your relationships, examine yourself honestly, eliminate your delusions, addictions and self-destructive habits.

Healing always requires change.

Chinese medicine believes that illness is synonymous with blockages of flow, with resistance to change.Remember that it was patterns, habits of mind or body repeated over time that created the problem. There is also a relationship between real or imagined unscrupulous behavior with its resulting guilt and call for self-punishment, and with illness. “The body doesn’t lie.” Ask for guidance to know what to do, change or release.

• Knowing

Know with certainty that the help you seek is present, that answers or solutions already exist, that the thing you pray for already exists. This becomes self-fulfilling prophecy.

• Union

Become one with what you are praying for. Become one with the power, wisdom, love of whom you are praying. Become one with whom you are praying.

• Making the request

Ask and listen for spiritual guidance, divine intervention, healing and help. You can also ask for a clear sign what is right and when it is right.

• Giving thanks

Give thanks that the request is already granted before the results are seen. Giving thanks sets up an attitude of gratitude which is always a blessing to us. It also gives us hope and encourages us to continue to take positive action. It strengthens our belief and faith.

• Taking appropriate action

Do your part of whatever seems needed or appropriate increases faith. It is acting as if it is going to happen.

• Illumination, or receiving the answer

Rollo May in his book, The Courage to Create, said that mental breakthroughs or creative insight come after a period of intense concentration and then mental rest.

• Charging

Charging means lending an emotional charge to your intention. For this you need

an idea,
an image representing that idea, and
emotional energy to carry that idea to fruition. I recommend you use love, gratitude, joy.

• Connect to the Source of healing energy

Send this energy to the person or situation you want to receive it. Imagine the person/s connected directly to this energy source.

• Break psychic contact with the person for whom you are praying and the problem

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Volume 1 is Hands on Healing and Reiki I Class Manual. 167 pages.

Volume II: Distant, Emotional & Mental Healing, 106 pages. It includes how to start talking with a client in ways that can only be helpful, multiple ways of doing distant healing, and how to create instant trance to implant helpful suggestions for powerful synergistic effect.

Volume III: Becoming a Full Mind/ Body/ Spiritual Healer a course manual for advanced Reiki practitioners integrating Reiki with visualizations and hypnotic interventions for a powerful synergistic effect.

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Prayer and curses work on the same principles?

24 Nov 2015 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in anger management, curses, dealing with fear, Law of Attraction, prayer Tags: prayer

Really? Why would anyone say that?

Let me explain. I am a Hypnotherapist trained to understand the power of suggestions, the principles of the unconscious mind, and how the unconscious mind and emotions help to create reality and impact upon our lives. I am also a Reiki Master Teacher trained in energy work, and a Dowser trained in the power of intent to effect change and healing.

Prayer and curses are related.

Both work on similar principles. They are simply

Clear intention + strong emotion + belief projected outwards to someone or something.

What differentiates them is

the intention behind it, not just the Being to whom you pray,
the image you hold in your mind,
your belief/faith that it is possible or not, and
the emotional energy that goes along with it.

Please don’t pray with fear in your heart!

Even if your intention is to help but you are visualizing a negative outcome with a lot of emotional energy, your prayers can hurt.

While probably most people think that prayer works simply by appealing to an outside source (God) regardless of how they pray, the outcome of prayer, in my opinion, depends on you as well. The words, images and feelings you hold while praying can work in alignment with or against what you want.

INTENTION – what do you want?

IMAGE – what image are you holding in your mind? Are you imagining what you want or what you don’t want?

TARGET – who or what is the focus of your attention?

BELIEF – do you really think that your prayer can be answered or not? Is it possible?

EMOTIONAL ENERGY – what is the nature of the emotion that is energizing your prayer and driving it forward to the target (the person or situation that you want to help)?

THE PROBLEMS WITH PRAYER

People usually think to pray when there is a crises and when they are in fear. If they are feeling powerless, they sabotage their own ability as co-creator to make changes to manifest a better condition. A fearful person is inclined to run or freeze, not take positive action.

During the American Revolution, there was a Springfield, New Jersey minister who used to say “Praise the Lord and pass the ammunition.” In other words, don’t just pray, do something.

And as the Dalai Lama has said after the recent Paris shootings, it is “not for God to fix this. Humans created it, and humans must fix it themselves.”

If the person praying doesn’t believe the prayer will be answered, that the help will come, it is like saying to God, ‘forget about it.’ Doubt cancels out.
If the person praying is so focused on what they don’t want to happen, they are unwittingly broadcasting more of that into the world. This can happen when they are consumed with worry, anger, fear or upset. Take the time to quiet your mind first, gain some perspective, and get into alignment with your spiritual source. In my perspective, this means getting into the frequency of love. Go to that quiet place within.

Hypnosis can help you find this quiet place and then anchor it. We hypnotherapists usually call this our “safe place.” From that place ask,

What is mine to do?

How can I be of service?

While anger is powerful energizer to carry intention to the target, it is the same as cursing or black magic if directed at anyone or anything. If you curse your enemies, don’t expect them to act any better. Whereas Dr. Hew Len in the modernized version of Ho’oponopono has demonstrated convincingly that love and forgiveness can heal even the criminally insane.

Using your anger in a positive way

If you have difficulty getting out of the energy of anger, you can harness it constructively to focus of the positive opposite that you would like to see in the world, and to powerfully project that outwards. Use your anger to get off the couch and do something to make the world a better place. Then you can turn this tragedy into a blessing. Hold the thought,

How can I turn this into a blessing?

While bad behavior has to be stopped, you cannot stop violence by creating more of it. The experiences of Northern Ireland and elsewhere has clearly proven that violent retaliations against violence create more violence that seems never to stop.

In the meantime, in your prayers hold the intention of what you want to see in the world, in your country and neighborhood, and pray for guidance and assistance to do what is yours to do. Believe it is possible to effect positive change. Gather others around to do the same. Keep the image front and center. As Transidential Meditators have proven, group meditation for peace does make a difference. Then follow it with action.

Life Provides Three Kinds of Teachers

02 Oct 2015 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, self help Tags: anger, Coyote teachers, dealing with stress, emotional healing, gaining perspective, healing, National Guild of Hypnotists, stress management

Somewhere I heard that a tribe of the American Indians consider that we can have three kinds of teachers.

The Positive Teacher

The first kind of teacher is one that teaches us by their positive example. Their words and life demonstrate in a most wonderful way how to be, how to live, and what is really important. They provide answers to the big questions of life. Not only is their teaching true and helpful, but they walk their talk. You are truly blessed if you have this shining example in your life as a guide.

However, the downside is that their teaching can be taken on faith without examination. Their lessons may be learned by rote. With unquestioning acceptance of what is said, their student may not learn how to learn, how to find the answers to what was not provided, how to discern and evaluate information. They may not learn how to handle or adapt to changing times or situations not encountered by their teacher. There is also a potential danger of remaining dependent on the teacher instead of growing in maturity and going beyond to develop a strong connection to the Source of all wisdom and truth on their own.

If you are accustomed to simply accepting what you are told and later meet an imperfect teacher, or imperfect followers of the perfect teacher, or if your teacher who had previously been a shining example gets caught up in ego and deviates from the path, you may not have developed your power of discernment to prevent you from also being led astray. Or you may chuck the whole teaching, throwing out what was good and valuable as well as what was not.

Another possibility is that although the teacher of the positive example found answers that were right for their own life and faithfully reported them to you, what was right for them may not be right for you or right at this point in time. You still have to process what you are being taught and told through the still small voice within you.

The Negative Teacher

The second type of teacher is someone who teaches you how to be and how to live by providing a strong example of how not to be or how not to live. Those who present the negative path are also very powerful teachers and can push you to self-reliance. By alienating you, they have freed you from dependency and having to conform to their ideas in order to please them. In so doing, you may learn to listen to your own heart and set a better course for yourself.

For example, if a parent abandons his children, you, as one of those children, may make a commitment to never abandon your own children because you experienced first hand the pain of that experience. As a result, your own children are blessed with the security that you will never leave them. If you had been around someone who taunted, humiliated, or verbally degraded you, you may learn to always think before you speak and to respect the feelings of others. This makes you nicer to be around. However, just because you may be gifted with a painful experience that has the potential to teach you much,

learning is optional and never guaranteed.

The downside to the negative example is that you may simply judge and condemn this kind of teacher without ever finding the positive lesson. You may dwell in anger, bitterness or resentment, and may, unwittingly become like the very person you detest.

The Coyote Teacher

The third type is the coyote teacher that provides conflicting and confusing messages. They give you both good and bad. They may say one thing but do another, or adhere to certain principles in one area while living/acting differently in another. Consequently, their message is confusing. They may give you only part of what you need and want to know. They sometimes tell you things that are true and helpful, but they may also tell you things that are false or hurtful, providing both positive and negative examples. The bottom line is that the Coyote forces you to dig down deep inside of yourself to find the answers for yourself. The gift that can potentially come out of this is for you sort through the mess to find your own truth and wisdom.

All types of teachers have value.

As you think of your parents, family members, school teachers, friends and associates, you may have witnessed examples all three kinds of teachers in your life already. The point is:

LEARN FROM ALL OF THEM!

The moment you learn, the moment you find the blessing, it takes the sting out of painful experiences and relationships, and removes confusion and discord. It also leads to greater understanding, acceptance and tolerance.

Ask yourself:

Is what I am hearing true? Is it always true? Can I still trust this message?

Is this example trustworthy, something that I want to emulate?

What can I learn from this person, this relationship, this interchange, positive or negative?

What is good that I admire and respect?

What is the positive opposite of what I am witnessing that I do not admire or respect, or dislike?

How can I use the words, message, example, positive or negative, of this person to be a better person myself?

What is the message others are getting from my life, my words and actions, my example?

Copyright by Roxanne Louise. However, this article may be shared in other free online sources only if this copyright notice and link to the following:

http://www.roxannelouise.com and http://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com

Derailing the Train to Negative Emotions

29 Sep 2015 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis, self help Tags: anger, dealing with stress, emotional healing, fear release, stress management

How to Recognize and Interrupt the Downward Spiral!

Emotions follow thought. As you notice your thoughts, you can predict their emotional outcome, and deliberately shift them to get to a more desirable emotional end result. Thought substitution is an easy way to do this because you cannot think of two things at once.

Thought substitution is NOT to deny your ‘negative’ thoughts or feelings. It is not being a Pollyanna or sticking your head in the sand. But it is a shift in focus to what you can do, to what you do want to create, and on the priorities of the moment. It is a shift to possibility thinking. And it can start off as simply holding a question or statement in mind.

WHY DO THIS?
1. Some, perhaps many, of your thoughts, beliefs, judgments as well as those of others can be unsubstantiated, unchallenged, and quite possibly untrue. So why stress yourself out if you don’t know for sure?

2. You may not really know your true limits. Your beliefs and the beliefs of others that you listen to can be stopping you before you really test those limits.

3. You may not be harnessing your inner resources without which you can never know what can or cannot be achieved.

4. The negative opinion of others (even that of experts) can be wrong. Remember that people thought that the earth was flat, and that you would drop off if you sailed too far. Remember also that it was thought that it was impossible to run a mile under 4 minutes. Then Roger Bannister came along.

5. Finally, you understand the precious quality of your mind to create reality, and choose not to squander it’s energy, but to work to create only a life, world that you want, instead of what you don’t want.

The Measure of a Life

28 Sep 2015 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Hypnosis

This past week I attended the funeral of my sweet brother-in-law. Such events call to mind not only the life of the person involved, but other persons we have known that have died especially those related to or connected to the most recently deceased.

Being a witness to a person’s life can teach you a lot especially where you are aware of the choices they made–the road taken and the roads not taken. As you think about what you admired, and respected or didn’t about the person, on how they expressed their own uniqueness, their talents, or not, and how they handled their challenges, it is a real life example you might want to follow or to avoid.

In any event, the death of another can trigger you to evaluate how you are living yourself. If death were to come soon, are you pleased with how you have lived? Would you have done anything differently? Did you accomplish what you wanted in the time you have had so far? What are you taking with you in terms of knowledge, experience, personal growth and soul development, in terms of the lives you have touched? Did your life make a difference to anyone or anything in the world? What is the legacy you leave behind?

I know of, listened to and have read many near death testimonies. Several experiencers who went through the Life-Review were not asked what they accomplished in worldly terms, but

What did you learn?
How did you express love?

Many years ago I had a lucid dream in which I was in the ‘beyond’ with my guides and spiritual group (those team mates that stay behind while one goes in (incarnates). In this dream I was jumping up and down shouting “we did it, we did it. I had a wonderful life!” The part of me that was aware that I was sleeping was aghast. “What do you mean I had a wonderful life?” As I was going through a divorce at the time, life was not definitely not fun and had not been for a very, long time. Then the dream continued, “and I’ve learned so much!” And indeed, I had to agree that I had learned a great deal as a result of my many, painful experiences–pain usually experienced because I was naive, suffering from low self-esteem, or just plain stupid. Unfortunately, it seemed that all too often I had to learn the hard way. But I did learn something even though I had to repeat some lessons multiple times.

I have often said that it was important to live without regret, to make choices you could live with so you could sleep at night. For myself, I have had to do a lot of work years after upsetting events because either I didn’t know how or neglected to deal effectively in the moment. Hence, the importance to “Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him;.” (Bible: Matthew 5:25)

Regrets are both what we did and what we didn’t do, what we said or didn’t say. For example, when my grandmother told me she was dying, I poo-pooed her concern rather let her talk about her fears of facing the end of her life. I regret that. I didn’t spend nearly enough time with people that mattered to me, but rather wasted my time on less important matters. I spent time building my own career or pursuing romance instead of paying more attention to raising my own son and giving him more opportunities. I didn’t streamline my life to be able to handle both my responsibilities and important relationships. I missed out on a lot of rich experiences. All too often I shied away from activities or arenas that would have stretched me beyond my comfort zone. I have been haunted by a few, poorly chosen words. No doubt you have your own list as do, I am sure, the very people you admire and respect.

It is difficult to evaluate the life of another. We see only from our own perspective, our other experiences, our relationship to the person and interaction with them. We may never see how they are with others. Those bosses or employees that cause us grief may be devoted partners and loving parents. They may be loyal friends and good neighbors.

For example, to my sister and I, my mother was a hard taskmaster who through a few careless remarks cut us to the core. To the neighborhood children, however, she was the sweet, old lady that showed real interest in them and fed them milk and cookies. To my son, she was his best friend. To my father, she was the beautiful woman he married.

On the other hand, we may never know how we affect others for good or ill. I have had people angry at me without any idea why. I have also had people tell me how much I meant to them, and how I helped them. Again, I had no idea that what I had taken for granted, some small, forgotten act or few words had made such positive impact upon someone else.

So what is the measure of a life, my life, your life?

For my brother-in-law, it seemed to be about expressing love – love to God, love to his wife and children, love and caring to others in general. That is a legacy worth copying.

Please add your comments.

Accessing More — Tapping Into the Wisdom & Resources Within

24 Sep 2015 Leave a comment

by unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter in Dowsing and Self-Help, Hypnosis, self help Tags: accessing internal resources, Accessing More, American Society of Dowsers, problem solving, The Infinite Intelligence Process

The Infinite Intelligence Process

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Have you personally experienced tapping into MORE – more information, abilities, know-how than you otherwise have?

Somehow knowing precisely what you needed to do and how without ever knowing where that information came from?
Being able to do something that seemed totally outside your experience or skills?
Having superhuman strength to save someone in an emergency?
Having the ability to accomplish the difficult with ease and grace, and sometimes even to achieve the ‘impossible’?

Whether it is suddenly being able to solve problems that had previously defied solution, having creative breakthroughs, superhuman strength to save the life of another, or responding protocol perfect to a never before encountered emergency, people have amazed themselves and others when they have spontaneously accessed this greater wisdom, intelligence, strength, ability or knowledge. Sometimes it has come as a result of a necessity or out of nowhere during an emergency, and sometimes it has come in quiet moments after working on it for a prolonged period of time through normal conscious means and then letting their mind relax.

For example, I was awakened one morning with noise coming from my master bathroom. I found my five cats surrounding a copperhead snake that had gotten up into the ventilation system from the crawl space and pushed up the floor grate to get into the room. The snake was coiled up ready to attack, and kept rotating its head to watch each of the cats. What could I do? I had to protect my cats, prevent the snake from getting back down the floor grate and having access from the ventilation system to other parts of the house. I had to be sure to get it, dead or alive, completely out of the house without myself or my animals getting hurt. The way I responded turned out to be protocol perfect even though I had never been trained. How did I just naturally do everything right?

Another time, I found myself caught in a rip tide and rapidly pulled out to sea. I tried swimming to shore, but it didn’t work and I quickly got exhausted. I tried yelling and waving my arms for help, but those on shore didn’t notice and couldn’t hear me over the surf. I was getting wiped out with the waves and getting water in my mouth. Again, it seemed that I tapped into that something More to stay calm and focused on what I could do to stay alive.

Like a cat with nine lives, I have had many experiences starting from childhood that could have been dangerous, even fatal. I have also had many overwhelming responsibilities or pressures through which I sailed calmly. I have accomplished some amazing things with ease. You probably have done or know others who have done the same. [For examples just of superhuman strength, see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hysterical_strength%5D

While necessity does motivate us to look deeper for ideas and strength, it certainly does not guarantee being able to do so as so many people blank or numb out, freeze or just panic. The questions for all of us are:

How do we tap into that greater knowing, wisdom, ability or resources without it having to be an emergency, life or death situation?
How can we tune into whatever it is that allows us to handle life with greater ease and grace on a regular basis?
How can we routinely tune in and save ourselves a lot of time and energy, worry and frustration, fear and anger on or about upsetting events as well as ordinary everyday things–our job, relationships, daily life and responsibilities?

While some people may automatically jump to religious causation for all beneficial outcomes, even ‘miracles’, my personal opinion is that believing that all help comes from outside of us can actually limit the natural flow and development of what may inherently be an inside but undeveloped part of us. Believing that we are more than we think we are allows us to connect to the More that we truly are. I do not know or need to know where the demarcation ends of what is ‘Me’ at my highest and best and what is not ‘Me’ at the ultimate best.

I think that accessing More starts by adopting the open minded attitude that it is possible–that you are able to harness greater resources, wisdom and ability that go beyond the limitations of the ego and conscious mind, beyond the subconscious, to the spiritual dimension of the self that is further linked to an even greater consciousness. Start with a positive attitude and set an intention to do so.

I teach people how to access More on a routine basis through a modality I have developed called ‘The Infinite Intelligence Process’.

Accessing More of both internal and external resources is done below the level of conscious awareness. Simply quiet your mind, and go inside to the peaceful part of you. Affirm that a part of you knows how to do what you want to do and is doing so now with grace and ease. Then simply let go, and allow that inner something to do its work. Alternately, turn over the processing and resolution of any problem with a program installed with hypnosis, dowsing, or meditation that runs the entire program when activated with trigger words below the level of conscious interference.

While dowsers routinely access the greater field of consciousness for answers to questions, here the information obtained is downloaded directly into the subconscious mind, and resolution of issues is done rapidly without knowing how it is being done. Just as you can digest your food without knowing how, your unconscious and superconscious mind knows how to solve problems once given a clear go-ahead by you.

This approach circumvents the ego, the mind games, circuitous thinking, internal and external blocks, and inhibiting energies that have prevented previous solution to the issue of concern. The process works to solve practical problems, relieve stress, and heal from long-standing issues–even sometimes those that have previously defied resolution. All aspects of your life can be addressed–mental, emotional, relationship, physical, financial, business, and spiritual.

The Infinite Intelligence Process can be used anytime, anyplace as a self-help tool by the ordinary person to help himself in real life situations. It can also be used for meditation, constructive self-programming, and in conjunction with other modalities. But professionals of many types (hypnotherapists, dowsers, teachers, counselors, life coaches, energy healers, mental health practitioners, and others) can also employ it as a full-fledged therapy. It draws upon the principles and practices of hypnosis, Neural Linguistic Programming, dowsing, meditation, prayer and many energy healing methods.

So what exactly is this More?

While it includes your subconscious mind that regulates all of your body functions, automatic behavior, physical, mental and emotional habits, directives and injunctions, beliefs, judgments, and memory, it goes beyond that. I believe that this More is primarily the eternal, infinite intelligence within you that is intrinsically linked to the ultimate consciousness behind all that is as in“The Kingdom of God is within.” (Luke 17:20-21) Using this system increases your awareness that you are More than your ego, More than your body and local mind, More than the individual, spiritual self that people call the soul, to something beyond.

Traditional religious circles say that this More is God, and exists totally outside and apart from the self, and is reachable through prayer or petition. Unfortunately, all too often prayers beg, whine, or plead in fear without really believing that help will come, and by such, sometimes nullifying such help.

Labeling or identifying this More is not important to access the benefits.

In fact, it can get you stuck and mired in mankind’s perpetual argument over who or what the subconscious mind is, what the soul is, “God” is, etc.–all philosophical and religious discussions that are, in the final analysis, unprovable and come down to a matter of beliefs. However, as beliefs and the attitudes behind them impact the results you get, it is most helpful to adopt a curious, open mind to try out this approach.

Having a helpful attitude when you desire to solve a problem or achieve a goal is crucial to your success.

Whether right or wrong, true or false, your attitude does affect you. It can make things easier or harder. Beliefs that make things more difficult can be changed. So if you think you can do something, that it lies within the realm of possibility, then you might try to do it. You’ll keep on looking for solutions when challenges come, which they always will. If you maintain an attitude of curiosity, such as “If it could work, how would it work?”, that too will keep your mind open to possible solutions. [Look up James Rouse, pioneering real estate developer of planned communities, urban planner]

Whereas, if you think that you can’t, that it is impossible, or if you don’t know that you already have that ability, you probably won’t exert yourself to even try, you won’t see solutions or ideas or opportunities right in front of you, and you won’t push through the blocks that always come, no matter how worthy the goal, or how exciting the possibility. And yet, all goals have challenges and require that continual effort to break through.

I am proposing that you try adopting an attitude of possibility thinking, what if ____.

What if I did have resources to deal with this problem?
What if I do have resources already to address this?
What if I could achieve this goal?
What if I can take action, no matter how small, right now to go after what I want?
What if I could resolve this ____ (issue, condition, relationship, or upset)?
What if I can do something to resolve this _____ (issue, condition, relationship, or upset) right now?

Finally,

If it could work, how would it work?

You might start by allowing the first part to roll around in your mind, “What if I could”, and then proceed with the present tense, “What if I can.”. Make an assumption that something in you does know how to do it, and claim it. Until you push your limits, you’ll underperform.

What I practice and teach are specific question or statement formats that assist in tapping into internal resources. It is a three pronged approach and subject of my latest book, Accessing More — Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process.

1. “There is a part of me that knows ___ and is ____ now.”

Examples:
“There is a part of me that knows how to handle this situation in the most effective way, and is doing so now.
There is a part of me that knows how to accomplish all that I have to do today with grace and ease and is doing so now.
There is a part of me that knows the best use of my time and energy today and is guiding me now to make most effective use of all my resources.”

2. “From the perspective of my High Self, process and ___ (resolve/heal/clear) ___ so that I can ____. Go.”

This works by first installing a hypnotic or dowsing program, and then triggering the running of such mental program with the key words “process” and “go”.

Example:
“From the perspective of my High Self, process all the events, and all that I have seen, heard, and thought about today so that I can keep what is useful and true, let go of the rest, and so enjoy a good night’s sleep. Go.”

“From the perspective of my High Self, process and heal all my upset regarding ___ so that I can learn and move on. Go.”

3. Claim dominion of your own mind and declare what is to be in your own life.

Example:
“I release all blocks known and unknown to my full healing now.”

WANT MORE INFORMATION?

I am teaching this entire program in Manhattan on Saturday, October 19, 2019. But if you cannot come, consider purchasing the course book below. For a full description of the dowsing classes in Manhattan, October 18-19, 2019 see Fabulous Dowsing Weekend here.

If you want to learn this amazing yet simple process you can use every day of your life, order the New Edition, 117 page manual, Accessing More — Tapping into the Eternal, Unlimited Self with the Infinite Intelligence Process (just $24.95) to learn the whole process, call 434-263-4337 or order online at my website. www.RoxanneLouise.com
Or if you want training on how to use the Infinite Intelligence for your own personal concerns, or if you would like to organize a live or on-line class, call us to discuss.

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